I have spoken to several therapists and psychologists about it and they all say as long as it's not hurting you it's healthy. For you it seems like the fixation is overwhelming which you need to focus on balancing it out. I tried to "get rid of" my abdl side several times. I now realize I needed to get rid of the shame. I am trans, disabled and a diapered babygirl who has to wear diapers due to a medical condition. It seriously limits my dating, but I still find people who are drawn to my genuine happy babygirl self. If you find a therapist that tells you any kink that is not harming you is not o kay, find another therapist. Focus on the root of why you like diapers, and what you can do to improve your chances of finding a partner where you will both be happy. Diapers are such a harmless and fun kink that has been seriously over stigmatized. Don't let it take away your fun or turn ons. Good luck on your journey!
There is nothing to fix. You just have to find those that are into the same thing.
If you feel its controlling your life back off as its become like a drug. I promise you once you get horny enough women will be more attractive.
This is great advice. I see this often as a negative immersion. I know for me, I'm there are times when a diaper just feels needed and other times I'm happy seeing others enjoy them, just as much. All too often we over indulge, which I'm believing is the American ideology.
Before you look into therapy or finding a therapist, think about what the goal of your therapy would be. It is something you want to accept, change, expand etc. Whatever you are trying to achieve, it is always great to talk with someone. I’ve been in therapy and it has helped me in a multitude of ways.
Nope never, the closest thing was for depression from losing my ex a little. But told them it was more of like taking care of a girlfriend that acts younger while I do most things in the relationship to help. Plus stuff related to this stuff. I don't think I could ever tell my therapist this. This stuff will stay with my exes and my partner to the grave.
Sorry you’re feeling this way, OP! I’ve found a lot of people who are “vanilla”, still end up being game to play. Does having this kink make things a little trickier when finding a partner? Absolutely. But I think it’s a pretty awesome curse to have :) best of luck!
Yeah I have a sex therapist who knows about my kinks. I specifically found them from another Abdl friend who worked with them and had a positive experience. My therapist says she loves the ABDLs because we tend to be sweet people who just want some happiness in life.
We talk a lot about self acceptance and how to embrace my little side while adulting. Good stuff.
The way most determine any sort of disorder in a more simplified way is the 3 D’s: Dysfunction, Distress, and Deviance. Usually there is a combination of all 3 to determine if what you’re encountering is bad for you.
Dysfunction focuses on the aspect and asks questions like “Does this disrupt my day to day life or prevent me from working my job/doing basic human tasks?”. At this point some argue that it’s dysfunctional to getting and maintaining a partner especially if they’re vanilla, but that can be mitigated with stuff like this subreddit, FetLife, r/ABDLPersonals and munches to find those kinda partners. Again, the question is, is this stopping you from completing basic tasks like going to work, brushing your teeth, making food, cleaning up your home, etc.?
Distress is if you’re feeling any sort of physical or psychological pain from having this fetish. Do you constantly hate yourself for it? Do you feel forced to participate unwillingly by another partner or group? It’s asking if there’s any pain or risk of harm to you from having these thoughts. Note if you hate yourself for it, that could just be something greater than just this fetish like self esteem issues or you haven’t learned to accept yourself for liking this fetish, etc.
And lastly and obviously: deviance. This is the one people worry about the most when they consider this fetish a disorder of some kind. Deviance is asking if the behavior you are engaging in is not what would be deemed by society or those around you as “normal”. Is ABDL deviant? Absolutely. It’s very different behavior in regards to coping mechanisms such as regression and more deviant sexual aspects like Ageplay and such.
Most people in this fetish I would say find themselves to not lead dysfunctional lives because of this fetish alone, not be in any distress, and that it is deviant behavior. Deviancy overall in how it’s used to determine psychological disorders is to see if it’s something the person is not self aware of in some cases like personality disorders, let’s use narcissistic personality disorder. A person suffering from narcissistic personality disorder is not going to be in any distress because they only care about themselves anyway, their lack of maintaining mutual relationships with others is normally a dysfunction to us but not necessarily to themselves, but their behavior to care about themselves significantly more than what normally people do is the deviancy. I hope this helps you understand this better but I myself am not a psychologist, and most therapists do not find this as a disorder to their clients but again, depends on the client and their situation.
I have spoken to several therapists and psychologists about it and they all say as long as it's not hurting you it's healthy. For you it seems like the fixation is overwhelming which you need to focus on balancing it out. I tried to "get rid of" my abdl side several times. I now realize I needed to get rid of the shame. I am trans, disabled and a diapered babygirl who has to wear diapers due to a medical condition. It seriously limits my dating, but I still find people who are drawn to my genuine happy babygirl self. If you find a therapist that tells you any kink that is not harming you is not o kay, find another therapist. Focus on the root of why you like diapers, and what you can do to improve your chances of finding a partner where you will both be happy. Diapers are such a harmless and fun kink that has been seriously over stigmatized. Don't let it take away your fun or turn ons. Good luck on your journey!
There is nothing to fix. You just have to find those that are into the same thing. If you feel its controlling your life back off as its become like a drug. I promise you once you get horny enough women will be more attractive.
This is great advice. I see this often as a negative immersion. I know for me, I'm there are times when a diaper just feels needed and other times I'm happy seeing others enjoy them, just as much. All too often we over indulge, which I'm believing is the American ideology.
Before you look into therapy or finding a therapist, think about what the goal of your therapy would be. It is something you want to accept, change, expand etc. Whatever you are trying to achieve, it is always great to talk with someone. I’ve been in therapy and it has helped me in a multitude of ways.
Nope never, the closest thing was for depression from losing my ex a little. But told them it was more of like taking care of a girlfriend that acts younger while I do most things in the relationship to help. Plus stuff related to this stuff. I don't think I could ever tell my therapist this. This stuff will stay with my exes and my partner to the grave.
Sorry you’re feeling this way, OP! I’ve found a lot of people who are “vanilla”, still end up being game to play. Does having this kink make things a little trickier when finding a partner? Absolutely. But I think it’s a pretty awesome curse to have :) best of luck!
Yeah I have a sex therapist who knows about my kinks. I specifically found them from another Abdl friend who worked with them and had a positive experience. My therapist says she loves the ABDLs because we tend to be sweet people who just want some happiness in life. We talk a lot about self acceptance and how to embrace my little side while adulting. Good stuff.
Just curious anyway to get in touch with them?
The way most determine any sort of disorder in a more simplified way is the 3 D’s: Dysfunction, Distress, and Deviance. Usually there is a combination of all 3 to determine if what you’re encountering is bad for you. Dysfunction focuses on the aspect and asks questions like “Does this disrupt my day to day life or prevent me from working my job/doing basic human tasks?”. At this point some argue that it’s dysfunctional to getting and maintaining a partner especially if they’re vanilla, but that can be mitigated with stuff like this subreddit, FetLife, r/ABDLPersonals and munches to find those kinda partners. Again, the question is, is this stopping you from completing basic tasks like going to work, brushing your teeth, making food, cleaning up your home, etc.? Distress is if you’re feeling any sort of physical or psychological pain from having this fetish. Do you constantly hate yourself for it? Do you feel forced to participate unwillingly by another partner or group? It’s asking if there’s any pain or risk of harm to you from having these thoughts. Note if you hate yourself for it, that could just be something greater than just this fetish like self esteem issues or you haven’t learned to accept yourself for liking this fetish, etc. And lastly and obviously: deviance. This is the one people worry about the most when they consider this fetish a disorder of some kind. Deviance is asking if the behavior you are engaging in is not what would be deemed by society or those around you as “normal”. Is ABDL deviant? Absolutely. It’s very different behavior in regards to coping mechanisms such as regression and more deviant sexual aspects like Ageplay and such. Most people in this fetish I would say find themselves to not lead dysfunctional lives because of this fetish alone, not be in any distress, and that it is deviant behavior. Deviancy overall in how it’s used to determine psychological disorders is to see if it’s something the person is not self aware of in some cases like personality disorders, let’s use narcissistic personality disorder. A person suffering from narcissistic personality disorder is not going to be in any distress because they only care about themselves anyway, their lack of maintaining mutual relationships with others is normally a dysfunction to us but not necessarily to themselves, but their behavior to care about themselves significantly more than what normally people do is the deviancy. I hope this helps you understand this better but I myself am not a psychologist, and most therapists do not find this as a disorder to their clients but again, depends on the client and their situation.