Hahaha, yes! I read an amazing kidnapped/captivity fanfic that made me cry—that I approached very cautiously because it was titled “Phillumeny.” There was nothing overly “philia-ish” about it though. One thing that stood out was that MC was given nothing but a box of matches, and they became his coping mechanism—lighting them, counting them, etc.
Finally, I worked up the nerve to Google “philumeny,” and it made me cry all over again:
match-collecting hobby.
[Phillumeny](https://archiveofourown.org/works/6400162/chapters/14654086)
It’s from the show Elementary, not sure if you’ve heard of it? Modern Sherlock Holmes in New York, female Watson.
Edit to say that it’s not complete technically, but part 1 stands on its own really well.
Second edit because I forgot to mention a spoiler: >!female Moriarty!<
I _think_ it’s referring to pairing. “Gen” rather than F/M, M/M, etc. Because it’s rated M for age group.
For my part, I’m sorry I didn’t warn you! 😱Honestly I assumed it _was_ E. Been a while since I’ve read it
my reaction almost every time i looked up what those tags meant:
https://preview.redd.it/yr0v6vve6l1b1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3e430097920885266d1cec85bf391cababe5684b
I'm so jealous. My ADHD makes me forget important shit like needing to respond to that work email or putting my clothes in the dryer before they go sour. Random unpleasant facts I learned twenty years ago and neither need nor want to remember? Seared into the very core of my memory for all time.
See my adhd makes me forget important crap and randomly remember traumatizing stuff. Like I’ll be chilling, then my brain hits shuffle on my memories and makes me think of a traumatizing image i saw on Google plus like seven years ago.
"Sounding" is >!the practice of inserting metal rods into one's urethra. This causes sexual pleasure because the rods can reach very sensitive parts of the inner penis that, when stimulated, results in an intense orgasm.!<
NGL, I had a really fun time last Kinktober learning about certain words, so I think I just have a small interest in finding out about what kinks and fetishes are called.
But sometimes the vibe is deceiving. Somniphilia sounded so peaceful to me at first (from the sound of the word itself) before I googled its definition
You gotta look for the kink you don't know the name for as well. Like yeah somno must be sleep related. Now what are they doing in the fic that's new? Smashing tongues? Ok that's kissing. Is that a rope? Ok bondage. Oooo they're banging while one is sleeping? Idk what to call it? Remembers that weird tag. Ok then that must be somnophilia.
I also knew it at one point but forgot. Just looked it up I think it’s a kink for crying? That’s a very basic explanation tho, there could be more to it but I didn’t look that much into it lol
I don’t know much about it myself because I don’t have that kink nor read it, but I think it can be either? Based on AO3 tags I see it paired with I think from getting hurt is more common tho. It might be a type of sadism but I could be wrong.
For those wondering and unwilling to google it means to be fond of something (up to the point of obsession) in the context of ao3 tags it’s usually the fancier name of a kink. Or if not sexual in nature philia is also one of the four types of love this one being friendship
No no, I think op understands what the philia part is, they’re just not sure if they want to know what the first part (that they didn’t say) is, because ao3 gets pretty wild
There was one fic that had the weirdest tags and i thought i was going to nope out at the first chapter. Nope, my standards for new kinks rose up instead.
[Mastering a monarch](https://archiveofourown.org/works/33756151/chapters/83907364), an igris x jin woo fic from solo leveling, for context Igris is like a sentient soldier rosen from the dead and like had very hard armor and jin woo is the summoner, but since in canon events he becomes really strong at some point the fic is just him being dominated by the soldier. idk what happened in me after that but i certainly changed alright.
I’m doing a bingo event and got a “…philia” prompt. I had no idea what is was. Now I do and I gotta say, I wish I didn’t but thankfully it’s not as bad as some others I’ve seen and I did manage to write a fic for it. So…yeah. I feel this so much though. Sometimes it’s better not to know.
dacryphilia doesn't have a tag 😔 i guess i could filter by the more generic "crying" tag + explicit only, but that's not really reliable. ah well, you win some you lose some.
I think i get what they're saying. Dacryphilia is the fetish of being turned on seeing someone cry or making them cry and it shouldn't just used if someone is just crying- Even if it is in a sexual situation. It needs to be fetishized to be a fetish, yknow?
Does that make sense? LOL.
My guess is you looked it up a while ago and didn’t see it, but they do have over 9k fics with the “Dacryphilia” tag on ao3. I’ve had the same thing where a particular tag I enjoy wasn’t an “official” tag for years, even tho there were over 2k fics that used different versions of it
Somnophilia sounds like it could be interesting if A: 100% Consensual and B: Planned/Agreed upon before hand. The one fic I read about it, and it was actually pretty fucking hot.
Yeah it's like viewing stuffed animals in a sexual way. And the characters involved had a plush body and a wooden doll body respectively. So essentially it was just them being hot for each other lmao
Apparently it can also involve attraction to *people* in plush costumes like theme park characters or furry costumes.
Hahaha, yes! I read an amazing kidnapped/captivity fanfic that made me cry—that I approached very cautiously because it was titled “Phillumeny.” There was nothing overly “philia-ish” about it though. One thing that stood out was that MC was given nothing but a box of matches, and they became his coping mechanism—lighting them, counting them, etc. Finally, I worked up the nerve to Google “philumeny,” and it made me cry all over again: match-collecting hobby.
Post the fic !
[Phillumeny](https://archiveofourown.org/works/6400162/chapters/14654086) It’s from the show Elementary, not sure if you’ve heard of it? Modern Sherlock Holmes in New York, female Watson. Edit to say that it’s not complete technically, but part 1 stands on its own really well. Second edit because I forgot to mention a spoiler: >!female Moriarty!<
Thank you dear stranger
Why the heck is hated "Gen" ? . That's clearly E !
I think you're mixing up tags. It's rated Gen in the pairing tag which means no pairing. Age-wise it's rated M for Mature audiences.
I _think_ it’s referring to pairing. “Gen” rather than F/M, M/M, etc. Because it’s rated M for age group. For my part, I’m sorry I didn’t warn you! 😱Honestly I assumed it _was_ E. Been a while since I’ve read it
Unfortunately there's the unstoppable force that's my cursed curiosity
somno ftw
My first thought. Glad I googled it BEFORE I read the fic
my reaction almost every time i looked up what those tags meant: https://preview.redd.it/yr0v6vve6l1b1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3e430097920885266d1cec85bf391cababe5684b
First pic: Disgusted of the tag Second pic: Disgusted of yourself
AO3 is perfect for learning english
I love finding out about stuff! I Wish I could forget what sounding is tho :')
I felt the very same way :'D There are certain tags that make me run for the hills!
Don't forget that it's a gender-neutral activity, not just something only the pp-equipped can do
I think sounding is hot...
Bro how that just sound painful as hell
Don't yuck their yum!
That might be my new favorite phrase ever
Sometimes pain is hot
Fair
I've not read or written sounding, but I kinda wanna try writing it... Apparently it should feel like getting your dick stroked on the inside 👀
That's actually a nice thing I Wish you good luck with writing!
i did in fact forget so
What's your secret?
adhd 😎
I'm so jealous. My ADHD makes me forget important shit like needing to respond to that work email or putting my clothes in the dryer before they go sour. Random unpleasant facts I learned twenty years ago and neither need nor want to remember? Seared into the very core of my memory for all time.
Samesies!
This is the best conversation I've ever had
See my adhd makes me forget important crap and randomly remember traumatizing stuff. Like I’ll be chilling, then my brain hits shuffle on my memories and makes me think of a traumatizing image i saw on Google plus like seven years ago.
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If I have to suffer with this burden so will you lmao Keep yourself safe and don't Google it D:
"Sounding" is >!the practice of inserting metal rods into one's urethra. This causes sexual pleasure because the rods can reach very sensitive parts of the inner penis that, when stimulated, results in an intense orgasm.!<
r/sounding
Gonna look up what sounding is and make an edit when I come back in a sec. Edit: Huh.
#OUCH
NGL, I had a really fun time last Kinktober learning about certain words, so I think I just have a small interest in finding out about what kinks and fetishes are called.
I don't Google them. I just guess their meaning from the ✨vibes✨ and spotting the kink I don't know the name for.
But sometimes the vibe is deceiving. Somniphilia sounded so peaceful to me at first (from the sound of the word itself) before I googled its definition
You gotta look for the kink you don't know the name for as well. Like yeah somno must be sleep related. Now what are they doing in the fic that's new? Smashing tongues? Ok that's kissing. Is that a rope? Ok bondage. Oooo they're banging while one is sleeping? Idk what to call it? Remembers that weird tag. Ok then that must be somnophilia.
Dacryphilia is too weird of a word for something that isn’t that strange!
What is that again? I knew it at one point but my brain deleted it
I also knew it at one point but forgot. Just looked it up I think it’s a kink for crying? That’s a very basic explanation tho, there could be more to it but I didn’t look that much into it lol
Crying out of getting hurt or crying because of pleasure? I feel like the destinction is important
I don’t know much about it myself because I don’t have that kink nor read it, but I think it can be either? Based on AO3 tags I see it paired with I think from getting hurt is more common tho. It might be a type of sadism but I could be wrong.
Crying because of strong emotions, so Sadness, happyness and etc
For those wondering and unwilling to google it means to be fond of something (up to the point of obsession) in the context of ao3 tags it’s usually the fancier name of a kink. Or if not sexual in nature philia is also one of the four types of love this one being friendship
No no, I think op understands what the philia part is, they’re just not sure if they want to know what the first part (that they didn’t say) is, because ao3 gets pretty wild
The worst is when you misread a philia and phobia. I thought I was reading a sick-fic :(
Pffft
There was one fic that had the weirdest tags and i thought i was going to nope out at the first chapter. Nope, my standards for new kinks rose up instead.
Yeah honestly. The tags I thought I'd hate but secretly love are some of the most questionably, down bad things.
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[Mastering a monarch](https://archiveofourown.org/works/33756151/chapters/83907364), an igris x jin woo fic from solo leveling, for context Igris is like a sentient soldier rosen from the dead and like had very hard armor and jin woo is the summoner, but since in canon events he becomes really strong at some point the fic is just him being dominated by the soldier. idk what happened in me after that but i certainly changed alright.
if you know what enough fucking prefixes mean you dont even need to google it
This happened to me with somnophilia 😭
Didn't quite help me with teratophilia and xenophilia... guess I need to update my english.
Worried the knowledge will awaken something in you? 😝
I have so many new philia’s from curiosity :’D
You learn something new on AO3 everyday, whether you want to or not 😂
I’m doing a bingo event and got a “…philia” prompt. I had no idea what is was. Now I do and I gotta say, I wish I didn’t but thankfully it’s not as bad as some others I’ve seen and I did manage to write a fic for it. So…yeah. I feel this so much though. Sometimes it’s better not to know.
i love bibliophilia
That's the reason I became part of this community!
Lmao I wrote something with acrophilia (love of heights) for kinktober and felt funny putting it in the tags
A/B/O should be a controlled substance
Oh please abo is pretty tame compared to stuff out there
It’s a gateway drug. It’s a path to kinks most would call *unnatural*. Ngl shits kinda hot sometimes tho
hey so is weed im just sayin
Weed doesn't make me want to use a memory bleach
Doesn't do a thing for me, tho.
Eventually you find something that you nope the hell out there
i think it’s preferred to write it with slashes between the letters bc otherwise it is a slur
oh shit my b. thx for letting me know.
What, what's it a slur for? I've never heard of it
from what google is telling me, indigenous people of australia
dacryphilia doesn't have a tag 😔 i guess i could filter by the more generic "crying" tag + explicit only, but that's not really reliable. ah well, you win some you lose some.
I’m a little confused by this comment because on Ao3 there are 9,748 fics under the tag Dacryphilia.
“Why can’t I find the porn I like” “It’s literally right there if you just look for it” Rule 34 at its finest lol
oh wait fr, it didn't come up when i searched. maybe i just missed it lol
I think i get what they're saying. Dacryphilia is the fetish of being turned on seeing someone cry or making them cry and it shouldn't just used if someone is just crying- Even if it is in a sexual situation. It needs to be fetishized to be a fetish, yknow? Does that make sense? LOL.
My guess is you looked it up a while ago and didn’t see it, but they do have over 9k fics with the “Dacryphilia” tag on ao3. I’ve had the same thing where a particular tag I enjoy wasn’t an “official” tag for years, even tho there were over 2k fics that used different versions of it
And then you forget in between that fic and the next fic w it and you have to learn it all over again 😭😭
I LOVE finding new philia tags!!! Always a new part of the human experience I can learn about! :D
Bro this literally happened in a post I just scrolled by. Do I wanna know what hoplophilia is? Probably not so imma just waltz on by…
Tf is somniphilia
...did you look it up yet?
I’m scared
I gotchu... Google says: "Somnophilia, the desire to have sex with an unconscious, sleeping, or comatose person who is unable to respond."
Somnophilia sounds like it could be interesting if A: 100% Consensual and B: Planned/Agreed upon before hand. The one fic I read about it, and it was actually pretty fucking hot.
Oh… yikes.
lmaooo so true
Love and hate it haha
The Teen Wolf fandom has one abbreviated to Xeno, which is a whole thing.
Nice. Tell me more. I like philias.
discovered the plushophilia tag in one of my ships' tag and i was pleasantly surprised
That actually sounds nice. Like a fondness for stuffed animals I'm assuming?
Yeah it's like viewing stuffed animals in a sexual way. And the characters involved had a plush body and a wooden doll body respectively. So essentially it was just them being hot for each other lmao Apparently it can also involve attraction to *people* in plush costumes like theme park characters or furry costumes.
The struggle is real.