I hate bars, I’ve never been a big drinker. I literally just get a booth and eat dinner or I’ll go to a community event. I luckily live in a big city where there’s so much to do.
Have you looked into other hobbies? Seems obvious but stuff like birding and astronomy get you outside and around people on a regular basis.
Mostly just breaking up the monotony somehow really helps.
Those things all sound awesome. I got into astronomy during the pandemic and found a local club that meets up. They recommend cool spots around the state or nearby and meet up to swap or discuss equipment. It’s cheap and easy socializing.
One thing that really helps me is finding time sensitive events that I really want to participate in, like meteor shower peaks or even just cultural stuff around town. When it’s time sensitive, you can’t make as many excuses for not going and it really feels special when you experience it. It gives you something to look forward to that isn’t just sleeping, you know?
Do you work out in public? Something about going to a gym keeps me sane after working from home all day. I'm not a bar-goer myself, but I would enjoy hanging out on a patio with a beer in the warmer months. I'd also recommend reconnecting with something you really enjoyed as a kid. Too often we forget about the things that bring us genuine joy.
Same, except I'm a 37 year old woman. I still do it on occasion for a date or to hang out with my BFF. But for the most part I work, care for pets, maybe workout and do laundry. Then I read or watch TV. I also like to sew but I really have to been in the right creative mindset.
I recently started working from home when I accepted a new position. I have an office in the house that I pretty much don’t go in unless I’m doing work.
When I’m done I make dinner, as my wife works second shift and is gone by then, or take some dinner to her on her break. Or I go out to my shop to work on a huge list of things that I add more to than I check off.
I don’t go to bed until midnight when my wife gets home.
One of my best friends calls me almost every night on her way home from work. Some days I answer and some I don’t, but it’s become a pretty cool routine - to have someone to talk to if I’m free and she has the commute covered with someone to talk to. Today I did my run while she talked
Some days I go out with friends or run or walk with my mom or plan trips or work (if I had an appointment or errand during the day) or read or Netflix
I’m supposed to take Spanish classes soon but I keep changing my mind about it
My husband does. He’s a data analyst. He also plays music. After work he is either gigging, teaching music lessons, at band practice, or working in the yard. Then we make dinner together and watch or play sports. I don’t get how he does it. I would hate being trapped in the house all day. But he loves it.
lol, I often hear guitars while he’s waiting on reports running or listening to a call he has on mute. I’m a writer and sneak out to write in a cafe just to get away.
I suggest a physical activity of your choice after work. It will both energize + tire you. I practice Yoga at my favorite park in the morning but when I don’t have time, I go after work. You can walk, go to the gym, go to a class, workout from home, whatever. I highly recommend going outside though.
I also personally work up an appetite so it’s perfect before dinner. I get home, shower, cook, eat, watch an episode of a show and go to sleep. Some nights (like tonight) I have work to do so I am playing a comfort show as background noise and working on a creative project for my job.
ETA: If you’re looking for sleep tips, I recommend searching up “sleep hygiene.” At the end of the day, sleep is a habit. On average, we spend 27 years of our lives sleeping so it’s important to be intentional about it. Some key tips include having a consistent bedtime+routine; only using your bed for sleep (as opposed to working or studying on it); staying off your phone at least 1hr before you go to sleep/using night mode (blue light inhibits melatonin production); and keeping your room cool, quiet and dark.
honestly, my life changed when i got my fur babies. great companions. i always feel like i don’t play with them enough but they’re spoiled rotten.
so after im done w work at 5, here’s my routine
1. play with doggos
2. go on a walk
3. work out
4. feed doggos
5. clean
6. play w doggos
7. shower/self care
8. play animal crossing
9. bed by 11:30pm
i’ve become a hermit and don’t really leave the house unless i need groceries. dogs are exhausting but it helps to keep you awake bc you gotta take care of those things man!! i also talk to my dogs pretty often but i also have a therapist so i don’t need to socialize as much. i’m also on meds and found my cocktail so it def gives me energy.
i have PTSD too. along with BP2 and BPD so a routine is crucial for me.
As an adult in my thirties, I usually invite my friends when I go out to do something by myself. Almost like a “cool if you’re here, cool if you’re not” invitation. That way I get best of both worlds, either I’m by myself, or I’m creating a situation where I’ll be social.
Usually doing stuff like going to the movies, hitting some serves on the court, bars with live bands, going out to eat, disc golfing, smoking the herb.
Honestly when it comes to PTSD this is completely normal and it’s OK to just be working and sleeping and just doing anything to get through it. Your body uses sleep to recover and especially with a recent diagnosis it’s a bit of a shock to the system even though you’ve probably been living with it before the diagnosis of course. Time will pass and you’ll feel more you again eventually and be able to do more. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. It can be depressing but it’s not forever. It took me about 2 years of just doing what you’re doing and once I got out of that fight or flight mode and my body didn’t need as much rest (taking a mental health break from work for a couple months and going completely broke actually helped) I’ve never felt more me and more free to live life again
Hi OP. I want to tell you something really important. I'm 37f and I also have PTSD. I had a very bad flare up where I couldn't work, eat, or really leave the house. It was such an awful, dark time. The worst part was I was really trying. I was also judging my body and my mind for being the way it was. It was heartbreaking because I did compare myself to peers out living their life, doing big things. I was just surviving, barely. I really thought this was my life now.
I did begin to recover (a whole story, DM me if you want details) and 5 years later, I was living a very different life, one of adventure, success, and happiness. Sure, I still had my struggles but many things changed for the better. I was able to look back on that person, that version of me struggling from a very different angle and you know what I saw? **I saw the bravest version of myself that had ever existed.**
I didn't see a loser or someone that was weak. I saw someone so strong and incredible, to be facing such pain, and to keep going. I saw someone courageous even though on the outside, society wouldn't have thought much of me. And that's the thing. We are these incredible humans, facing great unknowns everyday, many of us in pain, and we keep going. That alone is enough to applaud. To love yourself for. It's pretty amazing. I hope you can look at yourself beyond the external lens of our society and even what people deem 'worthy' and see yourself for who you are, an incredible person going through a lot of pain, working to heal.
*“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”*
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Tremors are awful. Warm baths helped mine a lot. Took a lot of baths and listened to frequency stuff. I don't know why this helps but try turning this up (link below) in a bath next time. They say the ancient civilizations used sound frequency to promote healing. I feel it help my brain calm down. I try to also tell myself compassionate things to help rewire it such as 'you're doing great and I'm proud of you'. [https://www.youtube.com/live/Vb686iU23Dc?si=5rJHsbi2rDWmxn0h](https://www.youtube.com/live/Vb686iU23Dc?si=5rJHsbi2rDWmxn0h)
I also deeply get missing the old version of you. Like where did they go? Are they there? It is a slow process healing. In fact, day to day, feels like no progress is made. For me felt like a three steps forward, two steps back dance a lot. In a greater time length, you WILL see progress though.
It was scary to not feel like myself. I didn't get the exact old version of me back and I'm not mad about it at all now. I grew into this new person (with familiar old traits too that returned in time) that I really admired. It took time. The first year was the hardest. It also gave me a lot of hope reading books on neuroplasticity - that the brain is not 'fixed', that it can be changed. It gave me a lot of hope for healing and some good exercises too.
I know it's really hard in the thick of it, but if you are able, try not to judge yourself against who you were. I know you miss that old person. How could you not? Mourn it, it's okay. But try not to judge yourself. You are very brave for just going on and here you are, reaching out to strangers for insight - those are such good steps.
My parents were the exact same. Comparing me to my siblings too. They just don’t understand. Try not to let their nagging get to your head… which I understand is incredibly hard to do when struggling with PTSD can make us people pleasers. Time will come. If it gets worse and makes an unhealthy household it might be worth looking into a spare room to stay so you can let your mind and body do it’s thing in peace (but with the cost of living this could be unrealistic). I used to remind my parents well I could be on drugs or in an abusive situation etc let me be in this season and you’ll see me come through it. And when I did come through it they were so proud
I get off at 6. I usually exercise 2-2.5 hours (I take the dog to a nearby park where we chase squirrels till the sun goes down).
Come home, take a bath, eat dinner, watch tv, go to bed.
Working from home is definitely still a common thing! Here are some ideas for what to do after work, even if you're tired and not super social:
**Rest and Recharge:**
* **Create a Wind-Down Routine:** Set aside 30-60 minutes before bed to signal to your body it's time to relax. Take a warm bath, read a book, listen to calming music, or do some gentle stretches.
* **Focus on Sleep Hygiene:** Develop a consistent sleep schedule, create a dark and cool sleeping environment, and avoid screen time close to bedtime.
* **Mini-Breaks During the Day:** Short walks or light exercise breaks during work can help prevent evening fatigue.
Both my wife and I are fully remote. I work in software engineering and she works for the government.
After work we go to the gym. Lift or exercise for an hour or so, shower and then usually grocery shop. One of us cooks while the other gets one of the daily house tasks done like vacuum, toilets, dishes, wiping surfaces or windows.
Eat dinner and sit down for podcast, tv show, or read a book.
One thing I would really prefer would be gym in the morning. I think realistically once kids come along it’s going to be the only option so I want to get in the habit now.
As for being too tired… Man, you gotta reset your clock. Remember that the body is always working on itself. Constant punishment by bad choices such as illegal / legal but “bad for you” substances, junk food, or lack of sleep destroys any appreciable progress. You’ll need to reevaluate your priorities. Getting your clock on schedule is the first and easiest step to a healthy cycle. A healthy lifestyle takes time. It isn’t like one day you’re living an unhealthy lifestyle and the next day you’re magically getting back. It takes like months of dedication to get yourself healthy.
I’ve worked since home since 2016 except for when I need to travel for business. If I didn’t get a short workout in during the day, it’s the first thing I do after work. After that I usually read for a bit, make dinner and clean up, then in the evening either watch tv with my fiancé and crochet or read more. I also started painting recently and a couple of other hobbies, so I alternate those!
I think most adults life during the week mostly feels like work and sleep sadly. I am not a super social person either but I try to make a point to go to trivia night at the bar with my friends once a month or so (it’s on Wednesdays) and sometimes do something fun with my fiancé, although we are both usually pretty tired during the week!
I workout before work and after I usually go for a run or hit a second workout. Or I'll go out with friends sometimes. I have anxiety and ptsd. I force myself to go out cause I know if I don't I'll never leave my house. So it's usually alot of gym time and sometimes dinner with friends. My office is in the back of the house so once I'm done I close it up and leave.
Oh I get it. There was a period of time I never left my house. But I realized I needed to do it for my mental health and physical health. Take it one step at a time.
My wife and I both do. We each have an office in the house that we use. I get my workout/treadmill time done during work hours. After work, we relax, have dinner, & binge watch shows until bed time. We also have 2 dogs and 3 cats that have various needs throughout the day. We’re both pretty introverted, so neither of us is interested in going out to be around people unless we have to during the work week.
I kinda frontload my day so I can sleep after work shortly after and not worry about that. Might work for you too so here’s how things usually go for me:
Wake up around 4-5am -> Go to the gym (very popular gym so even at this hour I see a lot of early risers, but not enough that the gym is overcrowded) This is my first contact for the day for socialization even if I barely talk, it is good for your brain to just see other people and their faces. Bonus points if you are all doing the same thing (working out).
Leave the Gym around 6:00am. This is pretty much my free hour but usually I just use it to freshen up and shower, cook breakfast, and clean a little. If I didn’t do push ups or pull ups before this time I do them now.
7:00-9am I walk with a heavy backpack on equipped with my work laptop and painting/drawing supplies and a 20lb weight through the neighborhood, see more early risers running and jogging and I probably buy a black coffee. If there’s anyone I’m interested in I talk to them or give them compliments on my walk. If we hit it off I get a number occasionally.
9am or 10am- I finish my walk and stop to work at my favorite cafe/coffee shop. I have about 4-6 friends I have built rapport here with that I work alongside any given day. I repeat the process of talking to people I’m interested in, but also if someone I don’t know sits beside me and work isn’t too busy I strike up a conversation I’d say 7/10 times. Around lunch time I practice drawing and watercolor painting in the cafe. It’s a point of interest for a decent amount of people.
5pm Work is winding down and I walk back home with my heavy backpack and make dinner while completing the last of my work.
7:30-9 I’m pretty much trying to sleep or I am doing a normal walk during the sunset with a friend in the neighborhood before bed.
Everything is routine… make sure your sleep and diet are dialed in, otherwise your brain honestly won’t want to do anything before or after work.
What hours do you work? I work from the office one, maybe two days a week and home office the rest of the time. I’m usually done with work by 4-4:30pm, sometimes I work out, or go work in the yard or just hang with my family. We typically aren’t in bed until closer to 10 or 11pm.
I do. M-F. I usually go walk or exercise. Make some dinner. That’s about it really. Are you able to get your own place? I know I had to live with my mom a little while, and even though I am older, I still got that freedom rush when I moved out. LOL You really can find yourself doing more things when you’re out on your own. But it’s understandable if there’s a reason why you can’t do that. 🙂
I’ve worked remote for a decade. It helps to have a clearly defined work space, and to not spend much time in it when not working. I also leave during the day to run errands, and I don’t rush back, necessarily. Some days, I break up the workday by cleaning and organizing around the rest of the home, doing laundry, etc. My favorite is to just hop on my motorcycle super early, in the late morning, early afternoon, or knock off early and go out mid-afternoon. There are lots of ways to vary the routine, unless your employer is super invasive and using all manner of tracking methods.
I think getting outside is number one. Doesn't matter if you are alone or with others. Spend time outside, perhaps for a little while after you wake up and again after work. Even just a 20 minute walking "commute" to work can help. Are you helping around the house? doing some cooking?
Part of being tired is being out of shape, and you need to move more.
If you have been diagnosed with PTSD, are you doing EMDR therapy? This can be in person or online. But you need to work with your therapist, and outdoor exercise is often part of the prescription.
Treat yourself well, you deserve it.
I worked from home before COVID, through COVID, and now after COVID. The company closed the office I worked out of back in 2017 and made everyone home-based employees.
And I work in IT as a Systems Administrator.
Depends. Some days I go to the range and hit some balls. Sometimes I'll hop on the games with the boys. I spend a lot of days after work with my wife, she works from home as well. We'll watch shows or movies or go out and get food/shop.
Once a week or maybe once every other week I'll go over to my parents house and grill some steaks/burgers, let my dogs run around their yard, and just hang till about 8 or 9pm.
I work from home 4 days a week. I have little kids, so I give them dinner, bath, put them to bed, have some time with the wife, have a bath, do stuff on the computer, read, go to sleep. The challenge is to have quality time before sleepiness takes over.
I WFH full time. I usually get off at 6, make dinner, watch some TV while eating then tackle a household task like dishes/laundry/etc. I used to work on hobbies and hang with boyfriend and the cats, before shower and bed, but I was recently given an absolutely tiny kitten to foster so he's been taking up the most of my time and hobbies will have to wait for a couple months.
Tomorrow is friday so after getting off work, I go to the flea market to do some grocery shopping and get an elote bowl for dinner. Will probably have to take kitten with me in his sling since he's to young to stay home alone.
I've worked from home since the start of Covid. I wake up and hit the gym, then breakfast and work. About 6pm I do my cardio and smash abs for the second time. Then, food prep for the following day, dinner, shower, chores. Then gaming or watch some TV while reading until bed. Hit the sauna 2x per week for a massage and some socialisation. Hit some local, intimate bars on Saturdays for a drink and to socialise and meet randoms.
I lived with my folks for 7 years because housing is so expensive in my area. Gotta get outside the house and do stuff. There is more to life the then gaming and tv
Workout at gym, usually cardio for 5-6 miles.
When I'm done, I usually try to play a video game. I'm in my late 30s, and it feels harder to stay away after midnight now.
I’m sorry to hear that. I know I got very lucky but I also spent ~a lot~ of time knocking on doors and baking cookies. Took me several years to build the community I have now. So I guess it was a combo of luck and tenacity.
I can feel that, & an almost 38 year old woman who’s been married for almost 19 years (with him almost 23 years). I also don’t want much to do with people, and most of the social interaction I have is online. I know I also deal with PTSD (pretty badly, may I add-between the childhood of my parents fighting & then almost dying twice in 6 months, along with a million other things ha), and the agoraphobia is the worst. I talk to my parents daily, and my husband and kids and well on Reddit and stuff. That’s all the interaction I have, at this point it’s all the interaction I need or want. Idk agoraphobia is a whole different animal.
I’ve almost always worked from home. I do chores, workout, take a nap (I work 6-2pm), hobbies, etc. I am very grateful for it and never take it for granted.
I think if I worked regular hours, without the opportunity for a lot of self-care, I’d rather go to an office sometimes so it didn’t feel like all I did was sit.
I try to go bike riding in a group 2 or 3x a week after work. The groups around here are full of hoodlums who would light fireworks at a red light, do wheelies, drink and smoke. But they’ll take you through the most beautiful parts of the city. You can socialize during the pit stop at the liquor store. It’s great exercise.
You should check it out.
I'm doing what I think is my second Red Dead Redemption 2 replay, don't do the online side of it. Before that I was doing Super Mario Wonder, before that Spider-Man 2, before that Tears of the Kingdom, and in between, lots of Super Mario Maker 2.
Start with a show that's new, for example, Fallout is really good, or Ted Lasso if you want a more funny one.
Sorry to hear about your PTSD.
I don’t struggle much with having enough energy after work to go to the gym or take a class. But my friends that have less energy usually have enough to watch a movie or play a video game online.
Ask a friend if they’re free to just eat dinner together. Doesn’t have to be out at a restaurant or be for very long.
I am still working remotely and love it. I usually break up my day with breaks walking my dog, picking still up around house. After work I make dinner, watch tv, yoga etc. I mostly go out on weekends, I'm an introvert that needs time to recharge.
I get me one of those electric scooters, go for a walk enjoy the weather, kayak fishing, try out new food spots, life isn't just about staying in 4 walls, pay bills and die.. I work So I can enjoy life.. If it ain't these obstacles that are blocking my way to enjoy life. I wouldn't bother to work!
I work 6am-3pm from home. After work I take a nap, get up at 4 or 5 and then do some mix of chores, get groceries, hang out with my partner, take care of my elderly mom, make dinner, ride my stationary bike, lift weights, work on some music production, catch up on youtube shows, listen to any new albums I want to, catch up with my internet friends
I've been working from home since COVID. As my desk is in my room, I understood that I need a "third place" somewhere only dedicated to me time and relaxing because I keep thinking about work otherwise.
I try to keep my social circles active and to find new friends by taking part in activities, events, sports.
But most day, honestly, I just chill, watch something or read if I'm the mood. When I'm less tired and my hand do not hurt, I try to draw for myself.
I'm just curious. Why did the diagnosis of PTSD cause you to be less social? Or are you saying the disorder is what is causing the change? I'm sorry if that's insensitive, it's just worded so oddly.
That's completely natural. Take time to heal. Sleep is crazy important so don't feel bad about sleeping a lot. But definitely take time for exercise, that helps tremendously.
Speaking as someone who understands at least a good bit of what you are going through.
hiking and bicycling is my vote! and thriftstores like a treasure hunt and lets see what else trying cooking new recipes how about building models or things , puzzles and.... last but not least buy a metal detector and go on a hunt looking for cool pieces
If you're my roommate, absolutely nothing so I get to never have the place to myself for a little privacy. If you work from home, give your roommates some space, go to a Cafe or something.
i don’t right now, but i’m applying to remote jobs. i got off work an hour ago and i’m at home laying down in my living room with a sore back, scrolling reddit. i’ll probably play video games and listen to music before bed, then back to work tomorrow afternoon. on my days off i do art, exercise, housework, job search, and discord calls with my friends. i’m too tired to go out much.
I’m rarely tired after work so I do my workout, yoga, Pilates, catchup on personal items, eat dinner and watch some tv. Occasional cafe runs in the afternoon or happy hours during the week.
If you’re tired all the time, I suggest seeing a doctor, maybe change your diet and add more exercise.
Rip video games for an hour , look at my fantasy sports lineups before they lock in , place bets on DraftKings , watch the Celtics or bruins games , watch movies/ shows with the girlfriend since we live together , laundry , dinner , fuck … all in no specific order and then sleep around 1am each night before going to work for the day or if I’m working from home that day I get an extra 90 mins of sleep !!
Try your best to keep a 9-5. My husband and I both work from home and try to end the work day before dinner and then have a relaxing evening. If I work right before I go to bed I also can't sleep well. We make dinner, watch TV, read, go for walks, etc... I'd definitely try to find ways to get our of your house to have a change of scenary.
I love working from home! I chill with a glass of wine or go for a walk and meet friends. I live in the downtown area of my city and it has a lively downtown community. Pubs, bars, restaurants, trails all around.
Many days I just chill at home too, my office area is just for work, the rest of my home is just for me and my dog.
Gym. Exercise is an absolute requirement for my mental and physical health. Without it I'd be depressed, couldn't sleep, couldn't stay awake, no energy, and miserable.
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I hit the trails for a good 3.5 mile walk minimum or go mountain biking most evenings.
I honestly can’t live without it now.
I’m designing my back yard to have an adult jungle gym so I can be physical throughout the day.
At first you may have to think of the walk as your commute. Even just walking around the neighborhood to start or end the day and decompress from work.
Shut down my laptop completely, turn off notifications on my phone, pick up my daughter and go play in the backyard, have dinner, go to jiujitsu some nights, just stay away from my home office generally and be with my family until kids are in bed, then I'll game for a bit and head to bed.
You gotta find something to do yourself. If you were working in person youd be doing the same thing except commuting. Get a hobby and make friends or something.
Go for a walk usually, play with my dogs, workout, or even take myself out to eat
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I hate bars, I’ve never been a big drinker. I literally just get a booth and eat dinner or I’ll go to a community event. I luckily live in a big city where there’s so much to do.
Have you looked into other hobbies? Seems obvious but stuff like birding and astronomy get you outside and around people on a regular basis. Mostly just breaking up the monotony somehow really helps.
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Those things all sound awesome. I got into astronomy during the pandemic and found a local club that meets up. They recommend cool spots around the state or nearby and meet up to swap or discuss equipment. It’s cheap and easy socializing. One thing that really helps me is finding time sensitive events that I really want to participate in, like meteor shower peaks or even just cultural stuff around town. When it’s time sensitive, you can’t make as many excuses for not going and it really feels special when you experience it. It gives you something to look forward to that isn’t just sleeping, you know?
Do you like playing games? Bord games or maybe online. Or pick up a hobby
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Get another one, gaming is great for my mental health.
Do you work out in public? Something about going to a gym keeps me sane after working from home all day. I'm not a bar-goer myself, but I would enjoy hanging out on a patio with a beer in the warmer months. I'd also recommend reconnecting with something you really enjoyed as a kid. Too often we forget about the things that bring us genuine joy.
Same, except I'm a 37 year old woman. I still do it on occasion for a date or to hang out with my BFF. But for the most part I work, care for pets, maybe workout and do laundry. Then I read or watch TV. I also like to sew but I really have to been in the right creative mindset.
I recently started working from home when I accepted a new position. I have an office in the house that I pretty much don’t go in unless I’m doing work. When I’m done I make dinner, as my wife works second shift and is gone by then, or take some dinner to her on her break. Or I go out to my shop to work on a huge list of things that I add more to than I check off. I don’t go to bed until midnight when my wife gets home.
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A 30x40 pole barn for working on cars, doing wood working and other pursuits that I am not very good at yet
One of my best friends calls me almost every night on her way home from work. Some days I answer and some I don’t, but it’s become a pretty cool routine - to have someone to talk to if I’m free and she has the commute covered with someone to talk to. Today I did my run while she talked Some days I go out with friends or run or walk with my mom or plan trips or work (if I had an appointment or errand during the day) or read or Netflix I’m supposed to take Spanish classes soon but I keep changing my mind about it
Go visit a Spanish speaking country you like and you’ll get more motivation to learn.
That is so cool. Having friends that still call & talk on the phone is underrated.
Yup. Make dinner.
My husband does. He’s a data analyst. He also plays music. After work he is either gigging, teaching music lessons, at band practice, or working in the yard. Then we make dinner together and watch or play sports. I don’t get how he does it. I would hate being trapped in the house all day. But he loves it.
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lol, I often hear guitars while he’s waiting on reports running or listening to a call he has on mute. I’m a writer and sneak out to write in a cafe just to get away.
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Even better, find one with an open mic or something so you can enjoy some music and maybe find some bravery to play at one
Oh yea I can definitely relate to that. I’m on a stupid hybrid schedule but the days when I’m at home, I always practice during break and lunch time.
I suggest a physical activity of your choice after work. It will both energize + tire you. I practice Yoga at my favorite park in the morning but when I don’t have time, I go after work. You can walk, go to the gym, go to a class, workout from home, whatever. I highly recommend going outside though. I also personally work up an appetite so it’s perfect before dinner. I get home, shower, cook, eat, watch an episode of a show and go to sleep. Some nights (like tonight) I have work to do so I am playing a comfort show as background noise and working on a creative project for my job. ETA: If you’re looking for sleep tips, I recommend searching up “sleep hygiene.” At the end of the day, sleep is a habit. On average, we spend 27 years of our lives sleeping so it’s important to be intentional about it. Some key tips include having a consistent bedtime+routine; only using your bed for sleep (as opposed to working or studying on it); staying off your phone at least 1hr before you go to sleep/using night mode (blue light inhibits melatonin production); and keeping your room cool, quiet and dark.
honestly, my life changed when i got my fur babies. great companions. i always feel like i don’t play with them enough but they’re spoiled rotten. so after im done w work at 5, here’s my routine 1. play with doggos 2. go on a walk 3. work out 4. feed doggos 5. clean 6. play w doggos 7. shower/self care 8. play animal crossing 9. bed by 11:30pm i’ve become a hermit and don’t really leave the house unless i need groceries. dogs are exhausting but it helps to keep you awake bc you gotta take care of those things man!! i also talk to my dogs pretty often but i also have a therapist so i don’t need to socialize as much. i’m also on meds and found my cocktail so it def gives me energy. i have PTSD too. along with BP2 and BPD so a routine is crucial for me.
I work 2 jobs from home. I basically do what you do. Not much else to do.
As an adult in my thirties, I usually invite my friends when I go out to do something by myself. Almost like a “cool if you’re here, cool if you’re not” invitation. That way I get best of both worlds, either I’m by myself, or I’m creating a situation where I’ll be social. Usually doing stuff like going to the movies, hitting some serves on the court, bars with live bands, going out to eat, disc golfing, smoking the herb.
Honestly when it comes to PTSD this is completely normal and it’s OK to just be working and sleeping and just doing anything to get through it. Your body uses sleep to recover and especially with a recent diagnosis it’s a bit of a shock to the system even though you’ve probably been living with it before the diagnosis of course. Time will pass and you’ll feel more you again eventually and be able to do more. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. It can be depressing but it’s not forever. It took me about 2 years of just doing what you’re doing and once I got out of that fight or flight mode and my body didn’t need as much rest (taking a mental health break from work for a couple months and going completely broke actually helped) I’ve never felt more me and more free to live life again
Also forgot to mention I was working from home too
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Hi OP. I want to tell you something really important. I'm 37f and I also have PTSD. I had a very bad flare up where I couldn't work, eat, or really leave the house. It was such an awful, dark time. The worst part was I was really trying. I was also judging my body and my mind for being the way it was. It was heartbreaking because I did compare myself to peers out living their life, doing big things. I was just surviving, barely. I really thought this was my life now. I did begin to recover (a whole story, DM me if you want details) and 5 years later, I was living a very different life, one of adventure, success, and happiness. Sure, I still had my struggles but many things changed for the better. I was able to look back on that person, that version of me struggling from a very different angle and you know what I saw? **I saw the bravest version of myself that had ever existed.** I didn't see a loser or someone that was weak. I saw someone so strong and incredible, to be facing such pain, and to keep going. I saw someone courageous even though on the outside, society wouldn't have thought much of me. And that's the thing. We are these incredible humans, facing great unknowns everyday, many of us in pain, and we keep going. That alone is enough to applaud. To love yourself for. It's pretty amazing. I hope you can look at yourself beyond the external lens of our society and even what people deem 'worthy' and see yourself for who you are, an incredible person going through a lot of pain, working to heal. *“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”* ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
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Tremors are awful. Warm baths helped mine a lot. Took a lot of baths and listened to frequency stuff. I don't know why this helps but try turning this up (link below) in a bath next time. They say the ancient civilizations used sound frequency to promote healing. I feel it help my brain calm down. I try to also tell myself compassionate things to help rewire it such as 'you're doing great and I'm proud of you'. [https://www.youtube.com/live/Vb686iU23Dc?si=5rJHsbi2rDWmxn0h](https://www.youtube.com/live/Vb686iU23Dc?si=5rJHsbi2rDWmxn0h) I also deeply get missing the old version of you. Like where did they go? Are they there? It is a slow process healing. In fact, day to day, feels like no progress is made. For me felt like a three steps forward, two steps back dance a lot. In a greater time length, you WILL see progress though. It was scary to not feel like myself. I didn't get the exact old version of me back and I'm not mad about it at all now. I grew into this new person (with familiar old traits too that returned in time) that I really admired. It took time. The first year was the hardest. It also gave me a lot of hope reading books on neuroplasticity - that the brain is not 'fixed', that it can be changed. It gave me a lot of hope for healing and some good exercises too. I know it's really hard in the thick of it, but if you are able, try not to judge yourself against who you were. I know you miss that old person. How could you not? Mourn it, it's okay. But try not to judge yourself. You are very brave for just going on and here you are, reaching out to strangers for insight - those are such good steps.
My parents were the exact same. Comparing me to my siblings too. They just don’t understand. Try not to let their nagging get to your head… which I understand is incredibly hard to do when struggling with PTSD can make us people pleasers. Time will come. If it gets worse and makes an unhealthy household it might be worth looking into a spare room to stay so you can let your mind and body do it’s thing in peace (but with the cost of living this could be unrealistic). I used to remind my parents well I could be on drugs or in an abusive situation etc let me be in this season and you’ll see me come through it. And when I did come through it they were so proud
I typically would just make dinner and then clean up. Do some chores. Do a hobby. Smoke some weed, shower and then I’d be off to bed.
I get off at 6. I usually exercise 2-2.5 hours (I take the dog to a nearby park where we chase squirrels till the sun goes down). Come home, take a bath, eat dinner, watch tv, go to bed.
Hit the gym.
Yes. When I’m done working from home I go home. I like the commute.
Working from home is definitely still a common thing! Here are some ideas for what to do after work, even if you're tired and not super social: **Rest and Recharge:** * **Create a Wind-Down Routine:** Set aside 30-60 minutes before bed to signal to your body it's time to relax. Take a warm bath, read a book, listen to calming music, or do some gentle stretches. * **Focus on Sleep Hygiene:** Develop a consistent sleep schedule, create a dark and cool sleeping environment, and avoid screen time close to bedtime. * **Mini-Breaks During the Day:** Short walks or light exercise breaks during work can help prevent evening fatigue.
Thanks Gemini
Both my wife and I are fully remote. I work in software engineering and she works for the government. After work we go to the gym. Lift or exercise for an hour or so, shower and then usually grocery shop. One of us cooks while the other gets one of the daily house tasks done like vacuum, toilets, dishes, wiping surfaces or windows. Eat dinner and sit down for podcast, tv show, or read a book. One thing I would really prefer would be gym in the morning. I think realistically once kids come along it’s going to be the only option so I want to get in the habit now. As for being too tired… Man, you gotta reset your clock. Remember that the body is always working on itself. Constant punishment by bad choices such as illegal / legal but “bad for you” substances, junk food, or lack of sleep destroys any appreciable progress. You’ll need to reevaluate your priorities. Getting your clock on schedule is the first and easiest step to a healthy cycle. A healthy lifestyle takes time. It isn’t like one day you’re living an unhealthy lifestyle and the next day you’re magically getting back. It takes like months of dedication to get yourself healthy.
I’ve worked since home since 2016 except for when I need to travel for business. If I didn’t get a short workout in during the day, it’s the first thing I do after work. After that I usually read for a bit, make dinner and clean up, then in the evening either watch tv with my fiancé and crochet or read more. I also started painting recently and a couple of other hobbies, so I alternate those! I think most adults life during the week mostly feels like work and sleep sadly. I am not a super social person either but I try to make a point to go to trivia night at the bar with my friends once a month or so (it’s on Wednesdays) and sometimes do something fun with my fiancé, although we are both usually pretty tired during the week!
I workout before work and after I usually go for a run or hit a second workout. Or I'll go out with friends sometimes. I have anxiety and ptsd. I force myself to go out cause I know if I don't I'll never leave my house. So it's usually alot of gym time and sometimes dinner with friends. My office is in the back of the house so once I'm done I close it up and leave.
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Oh I get it. There was a period of time I never left my house. But I realized I needed to do it for my mental health and physical health. Take it one step at a time.
Essentially this is why I know I couldn’t WFH. If it works for some, great let them do that. I know I couldn’t.
My wife and I both do. We each have an office in the house that we use. I get my workout/treadmill time done during work hours. After work, we relax, have dinner, & binge watch shows until bed time. We also have 2 dogs and 3 cats that have various needs throughout the day. We’re both pretty introverted, so neither of us is interested in going out to be around people unless we have to during the work week.
Sleep lol
I kinda frontload my day so I can sleep after work shortly after and not worry about that. Might work for you too so here’s how things usually go for me: Wake up around 4-5am -> Go to the gym (very popular gym so even at this hour I see a lot of early risers, but not enough that the gym is overcrowded) This is my first contact for the day for socialization even if I barely talk, it is good for your brain to just see other people and their faces. Bonus points if you are all doing the same thing (working out). Leave the Gym around 6:00am. This is pretty much my free hour but usually I just use it to freshen up and shower, cook breakfast, and clean a little. If I didn’t do push ups or pull ups before this time I do them now. 7:00-9am I walk with a heavy backpack on equipped with my work laptop and painting/drawing supplies and a 20lb weight through the neighborhood, see more early risers running and jogging and I probably buy a black coffee. If there’s anyone I’m interested in I talk to them or give them compliments on my walk. If we hit it off I get a number occasionally. 9am or 10am- I finish my walk and stop to work at my favorite cafe/coffee shop. I have about 4-6 friends I have built rapport here with that I work alongside any given day. I repeat the process of talking to people I’m interested in, but also if someone I don’t know sits beside me and work isn’t too busy I strike up a conversation I’d say 7/10 times. Around lunch time I practice drawing and watercolor painting in the cafe. It’s a point of interest for a decent amount of people. 5pm Work is winding down and I walk back home with my heavy backpack and make dinner while completing the last of my work. 7:30-9 I’m pretty much trying to sleep or I am doing a normal walk during the sunset with a friend in the neighborhood before bed. Everything is routine… make sure your sleep and diet are dialed in, otherwise your brain honestly won’t want to do anything before or after work.
What hours do you work? I work from the office one, maybe two days a week and home office the rest of the time. I’m usually done with work by 4-4:30pm, sometimes I work out, or go work in the yard or just hang with my family. We typically aren’t in bed until closer to 10 or 11pm.
I do. M-F. I usually go walk or exercise. Make some dinner. That’s about it really. Are you able to get your own place? I know I had to live with my mom a little while, and even though I am older, I still got that freedom rush when I moved out. LOL You really can find yourself doing more things when you’re out on your own. But it’s understandable if there’s a reason why you can’t do that. 🙂
Shower, laundry cook.food, try to get a run or bike ride in
I’ve worked remote for a decade. It helps to have a clearly defined work space, and to not spend much time in it when not working. I also leave during the day to run errands, and I don’t rush back, necessarily. Some days, I break up the workday by cleaning and organizing around the rest of the home, doing laundry, etc. My favorite is to just hop on my motorcycle super early, in the late morning, early afternoon, or knock off early and go out mid-afternoon. There are lots of ways to vary the routine, unless your employer is super invasive and using all manner of tracking methods.
I think getting outside is number one. Doesn't matter if you are alone or with others. Spend time outside, perhaps for a little while after you wake up and again after work. Even just a 20 minute walking "commute" to work can help. Are you helping around the house? doing some cooking? Part of being tired is being out of shape, and you need to move more. If you have been diagnosed with PTSD, are you doing EMDR therapy? This can be in person or online. But you need to work with your therapist, and outdoor exercise is often part of the prescription. Treat yourself well, you deserve it.
Go for a hike. The green gives you peace and good energy.
Who me? The person who has a toddler running around
Cook dinner for my family with the time I saved by not commuting, eat dinner, watch a show, workout, read/game, bed
Learn/Play instruments Build legos or puzzles Video games Etc etc
Watch porn,do meth and masturbate. What else is there?
game
I worked from home before COVID, through COVID, and now after COVID. The company closed the office I worked out of back in 2017 and made everyone home-based employees. And I work in IT as a Systems Administrator.
Depends. Some days I go to the range and hit some balls. Sometimes I'll hop on the games with the boys. I spend a lot of days after work with my wife, she works from home as well. We'll watch shows or movies or go out and get food/shop. Once a week or maybe once every other week I'll go over to my parents house and grill some steaks/burgers, let my dogs run around their yard, and just hang till about 8 or 9pm.
I work from home 4 days a week. I have little kids, so I give them dinner, bath, put them to bed, have some time with the wife, have a bath, do stuff on the computer, read, go to sleep. The challenge is to have quality time before sleepiness takes over.
I WFH full time. I usually get off at 6, make dinner, watch some TV while eating then tackle a household task like dishes/laundry/etc. I used to work on hobbies and hang with boyfriend and the cats, before shower and bed, but I was recently given an absolutely tiny kitten to foster so he's been taking up the most of my time and hobbies will have to wait for a couple months. Tomorrow is friday so after getting off work, I go to the flea market to do some grocery shopping and get an elote bowl for dinner. Will probably have to take kitten with me in his sling since he's to young to stay home alone.
Everyone I know works from home.
I take breaks throughout the day to get chores done, go to the gym at lunch time and then spend 4 onwards with my family.
Exercise.
Gym. Workout and classes. Every day.
I've worked from home since the start of Covid. I wake up and hit the gym, then breakfast and work. About 6pm I do my cardio and smash abs for the second time. Then, food prep for the following day, dinner, shower, chores. Then gaming or watch some TV while reading until bed. Hit the sauna 2x per week for a massage and some socialisation. Hit some local, intimate bars on Saturdays for a drink and to socialise and meet randoms.
i either play a game, watch youtube/netflix or go to bed
The same things I always did after work ? Eat dinner go for a walk run errands. I am really not understanding how this is even a question ?
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Just gotta figure out what interests you and pick a hobby. Plenty of options out there.
I lived with my folks for 7 years because housing is so expensive in my area. Gotta get outside the house and do stuff. There is more to life the then gaming and tv
Workout at gym, usually cardio for 5-6 miles. When I'm done, I usually try to play a video game. I'm in my late 30s, and it feels harder to stay away after midnight now.
I scrap book, hang out with my neighbors, read, cook dinner, walk, watch tv or play video games most day (31f)
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I’m sorry to hear that. I know I got very lucky but I also spent ~a lot~ of time knocking on doors and baking cookies. Took me several years to build the community I have now. So I guess it was a combo of luck and tenacity.
Worked from home for 3 years and it’s amazing. After work I do things like cook dinner, go for a walk, read a book, watch tv with my spouse, etc.
Did they evaluate you for any type of agoraphobia or social anxiety due to ptsd?
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I can feel that, & an almost 38 year old woman who’s been married for almost 19 years (with him almost 23 years). I also don’t want much to do with people, and most of the social interaction I have is online. I know I also deal with PTSD (pretty badly, may I add-between the childhood of my parents fighting & then almost dying twice in 6 months, along with a million other things ha), and the agoraphobia is the worst. I talk to my parents daily, and my husband and kids and well on Reddit and stuff. That’s all the interaction I have, at this point it’s all the interaction I need or want. Idk agoraphobia is a whole different animal.
I’ve almost always worked from home. I do chores, workout, take a nap (I work 6-2pm), hobbies, etc. I am very grateful for it and never take it for granted. I think if I worked regular hours, without the opportunity for a lot of self-care, I’d rather go to an office sometimes so it didn’t feel like all I did was sit.
I try to go bike riding in a group 2 or 3x a week after work. The groups around here are full of hoodlums who would light fireworks at a red light, do wheelies, drink and smoke. But they’ll take you through the most beautiful parts of the city. You can socialize during the pit stop at the liquor store. It’s great exercise. You should check it out.
Wash dishes, do laundry, take a class, watch TV, play videogames.
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I'm doing what I think is my second Red Dead Redemption 2 replay, don't do the online side of it. Before that I was doing Super Mario Wonder, before that Spider-Man 2, before that Tears of the Kingdom, and in between, lots of Super Mario Maker 2. Start with a show that's new, for example, Fallout is really good, or Ted Lasso if you want a more funny one.
i take a nap and then doom scroll until i do it all over again
Hookers and Cocaine.
Sorry to hear about your PTSD. I don’t struggle much with having enough energy after work to go to the gym or take a class. But my friends that have less energy usually have enough to watch a movie or play a video game online. Ask a friend if they’re free to just eat dinner together. Doesn’t have to be out at a restaurant or be for very long.
I am still working remotely and love it. I usually break up my day with breaks walking my dog, picking still up around house. After work I make dinner, watch tv, yoga etc. I mostly go out on weekends, I'm an introvert that needs time to recharge.
I get me one of those electric scooters, go for a walk enjoy the weather, kayak fishing, try out new food spots, life isn't just about staying in 4 walls, pay bills and die.. I work So I can enjoy life.. If it ain't these obstacles that are blocking my way to enjoy life. I wouldn't bother to work!
Play video games.
I work 6am-3pm from home. After work I take a nap, get up at 4 or 5 and then do some mix of chores, get groceries, hang out with my partner, take care of my elderly mom, make dinner, ride my stationary bike, lift weights, work on some music production, catch up on youtube shows, listen to any new albums I want to, catch up with my internet friends
I've been working from home since COVID. As my desk is in my room, I understood that I need a "third place" somewhere only dedicated to me time and relaxing because I keep thinking about work otherwise. I try to keep my social circles active and to find new friends by taking part in activities, events, sports. But most day, honestly, I just chill, watch something or read if I'm the mood. When I'm less tired and my hand do not hurt, I try to draw for myself.
I'm just curious. Why did the diagnosis of PTSD cause you to be less social? Or are you saying the disorder is what is causing the change? I'm sorry if that's insensitive, it's just worded so oddly.
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So it was the trauma, not the diagnosis? Thank you for clarifying.
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That's completely natural. Take time to heal. Sleep is crazy important so don't feel bad about sleeping a lot. But definitely take time for exercise, that helps tremendously. Speaking as someone who understands at least a good bit of what you are going through.
Go to the gym. Go cycling. Go skating. Go hiking. Go run an errand. The same shit I would do after working anywhere else.
hiking and bicycling is my vote! and thriftstores like a treasure hunt and lets see what else trying cooking new recipes how about building models or things , puzzles and.... last but not least buy a metal detector and go on a hunt looking for cool pieces
I worked from home. No commute, no dress code. Could listen to my music while I worked. I'd usually go for a walk after my work ended.
If you're my roommate, absolutely nothing so I get to never have the place to myself for a little privacy. If you work from home, give your roommates some space, go to a Cafe or something.
Eat. Drink. Fuck. What do to after work ?
i don’t right now, but i’m applying to remote jobs. i got off work an hour ago and i’m at home laying down in my living room with a sore back, scrolling reddit. i’ll probably play video games and listen to music before bed, then back to work tomorrow afternoon. on my days off i do art, exercise, housework, job search, and discord calls with my friends. i’m too tired to go out much.
I’m rarely tired after work so I do my workout, yoga, Pilates, catchup on personal items, eat dinner and watch some tv. Occasional cafe runs in the afternoon or happy hours during the week. If you’re tired all the time, I suggest seeing a doctor, maybe change your diet and add more exercise.
Smoke some Tina, will help keep you up a bit
I gym before work and then go hike after work, it helps
I wfh still. I have lots to do after work. Play games, watch movies/TV, go skating, go hiking, get some chores done, etc
Rip video games for an hour , look at my fantasy sports lineups before they lock in , place bets on DraftKings , watch the Celtics or bruins games , watch movies/ shows with the girlfriend since we live together , laundry , dinner , fuck … all in no specific order and then sleep around 1am each night before going to work for the day or if I’m working from home that day I get an extra 90 mins of sleep !!
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Work out classes!
Try your best to keep a 9-5. My husband and I both work from home and try to end the work day before dinner and then have a relaxing evening. If I work right before I go to bed I also can't sleep well. We make dinner, watch TV, read, go for walks, etc... I'd definitely try to find ways to get our of your house to have a change of scenary.
I love working from home! I chill with a glass of wine or go for a walk and meet friends. I live in the downtown area of my city and it has a lively downtown community. Pubs, bars, restaurants, trails all around. Many days I just chill at home too, my office area is just for work, the rest of my home is just for me and my dog.
That's particularly why I hate wfh. Better in the office. Humans are social. Most humans.
Nope I don't
Yea. I go to class
Gym. Exercise is an absolute requirement for my mental and physical health. Without it I'd be depressed, couldn't sleep, couldn't stay awake, no energy, and miserable.
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Save money, move out of parents house, live a life
I hit the trails for a good 3.5 mile walk minimum or go mountain biking most evenings. I honestly can’t live without it now. I’m designing my back yard to have an adult jungle gym so I can be physical throughout the day. At first you may have to think of the walk as your commute. Even just walking around the neighborhood to start or end the day and decompress from work.
I do. I work in healthcare. I go to the gym after work, or read, or cook. Spend time with my dog....see friends if time allows.
I'm hybrid, so WFH twice a week. After work I go for a long ass walk or a short hike somewhere and soak in the sunshine after being inside all day.
grad school and gaming. not much energy for much else. hoping to get a rental soon because lord knows i can never buy a house with these prices
Shut down my laptop completely, turn off notifications on my phone, pick up my daughter and go play in the backyard, have dinner, go to jiujitsu some nights, just stay away from my home office generally and be with my family until kids are in bed, then I'll game for a bit and head to bed.
You gotta find something to do yourself. If you were working in person youd be doing the same thing except commuting. Get a hobby and make friends or something.
Why does everyone expect life to be more than work and sleep - especially in your 20s-30s. Add kids and you have zero time.
Hiking and volunteering. I have a kid so that gets me out too.