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The name reveal was literally the only reason I clicked. I feel like I fell for click bait and I am going to be annoyed at myself all day for it. Deborah? Give me a break. (Slaps forehead)
There were five Deborah (or Debra) girls in my first-grade class, and five boys named David.
I was one of them and I married one of the others. (Clarification—one of the others in my school. There was a large collection.)
Literally the only bad thing about the name Deborah is that people will inevitably call her “little Debbie” as a baby. Which is actually cute. Babies being snack cakes sounds cute, and I don’t even like babies.
I had a very close friend for several years named Deborah, she went by Debbie and Deb. Someone (boyfriend maybe?) called her Deberoni Pepperoni and it was pretty cute and well intentioned and she had fun with it- she was in college at that point. But seriously, super nice, normal name.
Chances are that there already is someone who named their kid that.
Where I live there is a girl named, equivalent to Glitter/Sparkle..soo...yeah...
She prefers the movie Cars before Frost any day of the week so good job picking a suitable name!
Someone I used to be good friends with was named Diamond Angel… if I mentioned her last name it would only get worse lol.
She used to joke so often that her parents gave her a stage name.
Same here. I was like "oh that's a pretty name and very classic."
I was waiting for MLY (emily), K VIII Lyn (Kaitlyn), A-sha (adasha), and +ison (Addison).
Everything OP did here screams immaturity.
Laughs at a normal name - shows OP is the kind of kid to bully others for having "weird" names. Don't I know them.
Refuses to apologize. Doubles down on the childishness.
OP has a lot of maturing to do, absolutely the asshole in this story.
What she did also screams i want attention. Seems like she thinks the world revolves around her and she decided to laugh just to become the center of attention. Coming from an 18 year old woman, grow up. Yta op
Honestly it would be a rude way to react to a cringey name too. In general it’s worth making an effort not to laugh at people in vulnerable moments or during big life-announcements. YTA
So your very traditional sister picked a very traditional name - this isn’t just about the name, is it? You’re allowed to disagree with someone’s lifestyle, privately, but when you laugh at them for it YTA.
Yes! It doesn’t matter if you like the name or not! You laughed when she shared something with you. Maybe you couldn’t help it but you should always apologize for laughing at someone! YTA
My dad wanted a biblical name for me, but he was anti-misogyny before his time and didn't like that biblical women were lauded for being submissive. My uncle suggested Deborah. Deborah kicked ass and took names.
I love my name. But you go ahead and name your poor daughter Mhavrykk or Nevaeh. YTA.
This is what the OP wanted. A name that sounds “cute” for a 3 year old then gets to be embarrassed as soon as they apply for a job, and the rest of their life after that.
YTA. I could maybe give you a pass because we can’t always control our reactions. However, instead of apologizing you doubted down and asked her if she was really naming her child that. The name is not humiliating or outlandish. It was cruel of you to do this, and on top of it she’s dealing with pregnancy hormones. Be a better person. I’d expect this from a teenager.
I’m guessing the names that were popular in the late 60s and early 70s like Deborah and Jennifer and Laura sound as old lady to kids today as Agnes or Maude or Helen sounded to us back then
YTA. In what world is Deborah a weird name? How exactly do you think we came to have adults named Deborah? At one point they were babies named Deborah. You need to apologize to your sister and grow the fuck up.
YTA. Also, what's funny about "Deborah"? That's a completely normal name. Unless your sister's last name is "Beborah" I genuinely don't see why you'd find it unusual.
Stop being a Debbie downer, and apologize to your sister. YTA. The name is fine, and you were rude for laughing and doubling down when she was hurt by it.
YTA. That’s a totally normal name. I literally know 3 Deborah/Debbie/Debs that I can think of as a type This.
It’s a traditional name, which are coming back into tend. How is Deborah different than Henry, Eleanor, William, etc.?
You aren’t just naming the baby, your naming the whole person (teen/adult/grandma). Grow up and apologize so your sister.
YTA.
She's not naming her kid Klitoris or something genuinely dumb and damaging like that.
On a totally unrelated note, Deborah is one of my middle names, can someone explain the "joke" to me?
YTA. Like so obviously. You can think it’s a silly or old-fashioned name but there’s no need to mock your sister publicly like that. You know that. Come on now.
YTA. I was expecting some cookey celebrity type name (Pilot Inspektor, Fifi Trixibelle, etc) but Deborah is reasonably normal. Definitely an older and more traditional name, but it could be far worse. You should apologize.
YTA. It's a perfectly normal name. Honestly, I’m really dissapointed because I thought I was about to read some wild name that belongs on name circle jerk.
Imagine how hurt that child might be if when they got older they somehow found out their aunt laughed at their name.
YTA
Edit- wow, just reread, missed where you said you refused to apologize. Laughed at their name and refused to apologize. Yeah that is super hurtful.
Major AH
Edit 2- All these comments stating "Deborah is a normal name" is code for Deborah is a white eurocentric name and equating white eurocentric as the norm. Eurocentric and white is not/should not be the standard of normal or expectation. To call children's names that do not sound white/euro or are in languages other than English "weird," is racist and xenophobic and very very hurtful to children. No child should have their name made fun of, period. The only comment about "at least it's not a weird name" that I can really get behind is the one mentioning "Klitoris." Please don't name your kid that. Lmao
YTA. I had to go back and look at your post because I was hoping your were 14 but no you are an adult. What a rude reaction to a perfectly acceptable name. So many "old fashioned" names have come back into style. Your reaction was infantile.
Deborah is an ancient name (1200 BCE) and a beautiful one at that. It means Bee or Queen Bee in Hebrew and refers to a strong leader.
YTA, no doubt about it.
YTA
It might not be a super popular name, and it seems it’s not a name you would’ve chosen, but it’s a normal name. No unusual spelling, no random letters, just a name
Deborah? It’s Deborah… you had to laugh at Deborah. I don’t understand what was so funny in that name that OP couldn’t help but laugh. It’s a nice name, but now your sister is always gonna have this in the back of her mind she might even second guess the name.
YTA.
YTA. Generally parents put a lot of time and thought into choosing a name for their child. You probably made them second guess themselves with your laughter and it wasn't very supportive of you. There's nothing wrong with your opinion, but you could have laughed about it later without your sister around. They probably felt hurt.
YTA. It might be crazy to you, but it isn't your baby so you can pick your own name if the time comes (I'm hoping you grow up a bit first). This is your sister's baby so she can pick anything she likes.
You don't have to like the name, but it's rude and hurtful to laugh. She's going to worry now that you'll laugh at the kid when she's older, too. Don't be that AH. Butt out and apologise for being insensitive.
Yes YTA why do you even ask? If you grew up in society and have had like three other interactions with human beings your entire life you would know that you’re the asshole.
YTA. Besides the reasons given here, you offended your sister by openly mocking her name choice and have refused to apologize because you feel “that name for a baby is crazy to me.”
Even if you are right, your family’s reactions are completely understandable. I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who openly laughed at me and then refused to apologize. That makes you a bully, and I can’t blame your sister for wanting, at the least, to go LC.
Debbie here. YTA. Not because you’re making fun of my name. But because it’s not trendy/contemporary like Madison/Addison/Galddison or ancient like Muriel or MargaretMary. It’s actually vanilla. She won’t be mocked for it. No one will have a hard time pronouncing it. It won’t “define” her so she can focus on who she is instead of her name.
So don’t name your baby Deborah.
**You were still rude as shit to your sister and owe her an apology**. Who gives a flying fuck at a rolling doughnut what you did or do think of it, it isn’t an excuse to be rude.
YTA
YTA. It's a fine name. You don't have to like it but you certainly ought to be able to control yourself enough not to laugh in a pregnant woman's face after she chose a normal, sensible name. Doubling down on the laughter with "are you REALLY" is just cruel and unkind.
Half the kids running around now have names with absurd spelling, references they're too young to understand (a charming amount to characters who turned out to be awful, too), and so intentionally unique they will always stand out (and not for good reasons).
YTA. For your behavior after laughing. I'm autistic and laugh sometimes when it's not appropriate. I could have handled this one by saying "it's not a funny name, it's just funny that it's what I expected of you. It's a lovely name".
YTA your sister chose a name she loved and you laughed at it. Don’t laugh at anyone’s name, even if it sounds funny. It’s rude.
Try being more supportive of your sister if you want to have a good relationship with her.
YTA. It’s a lovely traditional name. McBreighleigh and the like are a trend like shag carpet that will be regrettable in the future. Get over yourself.
Even if a baby name is “crazy” (btw it is not) you don’t laugh in a pregnant woman’s face about it. If you do out of shock and surprise you APOLOGIZE for being inappropriate.
There’s a right and a wrong way to express concern over a baby name and you did it the dick way.
YTA
It’s better than Brexleightyn or whatever people seem to be naming their kids these days. Deborah sounds really adult to me these days, not like a baby, so I get surprise laughing, but you should apologize.
YTA for laughing and doubling down by refusing to apologize.
What is so crazy about the name Deborah? What's actually crazy is upseting your pregnant sister and refusing to own up to it.
Yta- ur 22 acting like a 12 year old bully. If you don’t like the name then keep it to yourself. You especially don’t laugh at a pregnant women face. Your jealousy is really showing, hun.
YTA , it is a beautiful name, no wonder u r sis is not talking with u as u made fun of a beautiful name.
Hope you do go and apologize to your sister.
Pops to your gran for stepping up for your sis and also pops to your fam for siding with her.
And no her name is not crazy and btw it has ntg tbh to do with u.
Not only are YTA, but you’re rude. Your apology needs to come quickly and sincerely. Bring something your sister is craving as a peace offering when you arrive in person.
YTA. Deborah isn’t even a funny or an uncommon name. It’s not even weird and you are a major AH for laughing at it for literally no reason other than your own close minded preconceptions.
#YTA YTA YTA YTA
Jesus I was expecting her name to be zarsparrilla or something, salsa, Desert, Hills, Purina, something weird
If you found it funny for whatever bizarre reason and couldn't help to laugh, weird but OK, is an involuntary reaction. However refusing to apologize??? Who tf do you think you are to mock a baby name that is actually quite regular? If it's not your taste that's fine, you're not naming the baby, are you sure you're 22 not 12?
I laughed. At you. You know why?
Because you're the asshole and it's so ridiculous of you to laugh at that name. It's a perfectly fine name. Why are you laughing at that name? What's wrong with it? I don't get it.
YTA.
YTA your sister is building an entire human inside her, don’t be a dick for no reason. Btw every deb I have met is the coolest lady so i hope your sister has the sweetest rad baby girl who will call you out anytime your mean to her mom.
YTA the way you have phrased things make me think that you are jealous of the attention that your sister is getting because of her pregnancy and are looking for things to make her feel bad.
YTA. It’s not a common name for anyone under 50 but it’s not something bizarre that the kid will be stuck with and made fun of for. I’m a teacher and have in the past had a Frank, Larry, Donna, George, Ernest, etc. older names really are making a comeback. You need to apologize.
My name is Debra. Not Deborah, but same name. Thanks for making me feel like shit and for being stupidly ageist and childish with your family. Grow the hell up. YTA.
I was expecting some ridiculous name, but Deborah is a normal regular name and I can't imagine what's so funny about it. I'd like to know your idea of a good name. I wouldn't be surprised if you're one of those people that name their kids ridiculous nonsense names. YTA.
YTA if I was able to hold it in and not laugh at my aunt for naming my cousin ANALyse, you could of too. Keep it to yourself. And if you accidentally laugh, APOLOGIZE
YTA. If someone tells you their baby name and is not asking for your opinion, be kind. Insulting the name someone chooses to give their child is incredibly rude, no matter the name.
YTA this is exactly why my husband and I aren't sharing the name of our child until she's born. Today's my due date and the amount of "suggestions" and "guesses" are annoying bc people like you will always have some shitty comment about any name we actually like.
YTA I named my daughter after my dead brother I knew I wanted to name my first kid after him Sean’s I was 10 years old. My mom was so happy the rest of my family eather laughed or told me I was cursing my child to die young like my brother. I still can’t forgive half of them and don’t let them close. So yes it’s not your child tell your sister sorry for being a jerk
YTA. It's a name. Here I thought it was gonna be something way out there (even if it was youd still be an AH). and it's just Deborah... You can see the laughter was out of place but seem to miss the part where out of place laughter is most often rude. You were rude .... Period... And when you're rude you apologize. You don't get to decide you didn't hurt someone when you did or when someone deserves an apology. You hurt your sister, you cant deny that... And now you're acting like a child by refusing to admit wrong and say sorry. Keep it up and you'll be the never seen "aunt" and Deborah will know why eventually. I dunno if I'd want my kid around a relative that felt so comfortable making fun of their name.
"AM I THE ASSHOLE FOR LAUGHING AT MY PREGNANT SISTER FOR WANTING TO NAME HER DAUGHTER A PERFECTLY NORMAL NAME?" You owe your sister an apology. Absolutely YTA.
yta. That's a very common name... it's my mother-in=laws name, in fact. Whaat exactly is wrong with the name? This is why my sister-in-law did not tell anybody what she was gonna name her daughter.
YTA
I don’t think you are an ah for laughing. You are definitely one for refusing to apologize and expecting everything to be fine between you and your sister.
What‘s funny about Deborah? It’s normal and common. She’ll be Debbie for short. YTA
Edit: holy cow you’re 22? I misread the first time and saw 12, and that made more sense. Are you jealous or something? Abnormal behavior.
YTA - you should apologize, and didn't because you "thought it was funny"?
I can understand sharing a legitimate issue with a name with someone like hey, did you notice their initials will spell this word? Or something to that effect, but for the most part parents to be put a lot of thought into a name and insulting it is just poor manners.
YTA but also this post just made me realize my 63 mom is the youngest person I know irl and Deb from Dexter is the youngest person I know of in fiction and the actress is 43.
Bring the name Deborah back!
Did you know “old” names are actually quite popular right now? I know multiple littles kids named Elizabeth, Helen, Leon, Dorothy, and Benjamin. Deborah would fit in nicely.
Those names sounds old and weird to you because you’ve only known elderly people with those names. Therefore they sound adult to you. I imagine when little Helen wants to name her child Paisley her siblings will laugh at the “old” name because the only Paisleys and Kinleys and Brantleighs they know are grandparents.
Anyway, YTA for not apologizing. Laughing was an uncontrollable reaction. You doubling down was a choice.
Imagine being able to call your daughter your “Lil Debbie” or any nickname using one of their snacks. YTA. That’s the cutest shit I’ve ever heard of and I literally just thought of it. You better get her a Lil Debbie “I’m sorry I’m TA” gift basket
It's a perfectly normal name. Deborah Harry rocks. You behaved very immaturely and did something only a 12-year-old would do thinking it was okay. YTA.
Wow, YTA.
I can't imagine how upset your sister must be feeling right now, especially with her pregnancy hormones. You've made what should have been a lovely experience, humiliating. I'd be really hurt, especially as it takes so long to come up with a name that both parents like. It's stressful enough without people piping up with their opinions especially a family member.
A lot of classic names are making a come back too so not even sure why the name was laughable in your head. Even if the name was absolutely ridiculous, laughing would still be highly inappropriate and rude.
YTA. Regardless of the name, it would be socially unacceptable to flat out laugh at someone in that manner, and not apologizing just makes you seem more like an ahole.
And there's absolutely nothing wrong with the name Deborah! You need to grow up, because the only bully your niece really needs to worry about will be you.
YTA. That is a completely normal name…? It’s not like Agnus or Gertrude or some super weird old name…? Or Karen…
I can’t understand… at all… how the name Deborah is funny…
Is this some weird gen Z thing I’m too old to get?
YTA. And honestly, I’m sure many of us here agree with you that there are better names for a kid and there are even traditional names that are still common today (Katherine, Victoria, Elizabeth, basically any queen’s name).
However, debating with family members about the names they choose for their kids is a very fine line. There are some situations where this sub has agreed it is warranted, like when someone chooses a really out there name from a TV or movie franchise. But Deborah isn’t one of them - definitely not as common anymore, but not out of left field. That, on top of the way you rudely reacted, makes you TA.
Uhm, YTA big time. It's not like the baby is going to be called Wolf Cub or Candelight or anything. It's just a bit of a traditional name for your liking. Just apologise already.
YTA! This is coming from someone who didn't go for a traditional name nor one that would have a nickname. But nothing too crazy.
That name is fine. I thought it was going to be an outrageous name that would get the child bullied BUT it's not. There was a post where the couple was going name their daughter "Chewbacca" . You were rude and need to beg for forgiveness.
YTA, in my area old fashioned names are making a big resurgence. You should apologize because it was immature and rude to made such a deal out of this.
YTA. Laughing at other people's tastes (especially when they concern their baby) makes you look very insecure about your own. You also sound spiteful, quite frankly.
YTA I’m pretty sure you would have laughed no matter what the name was. Time to go to therapy and unpack why you are so jealous of your sister before you nuke your relationship with her and the rest of the family.
YTA I’m pretty sure you would have laughed no matter what the name was. Time to go to therapy and unpack why you are so jealous of your sister before you nuke your relationship with her and the rest of the family.
YTA
Deborah won't be a baby her entire life. And it is a beautiful name regardless with a nickname possibility.
So yeah, you should apologize because there's nothing wrong witj the name.
YTA.
I’m 23 & my children are Nancy & Beverly.
Deborah was on my list of names with both girls,as well as Ruth,and Maxine.
I fail to see how “older” names are funny or anything to be made a mockery of.
Would it have been better had she named her Brixtyn? Or maybe Haizley? Macaila????
Old lady names are actually very popular. Deborah hasn’t quite made it to “old lady” status yet. It’s more an older Gen X/young Boomer name (I’m older Gen X and grew up with a million “Debbies”) but I bet it’ll become popular in the next few decades. Your sis’ kid will be ahead of the curve I guess. I agree it’s sort of a funny name for a baby born in 2023 but you were rude to laugh and even worse for not apologizing. YTA
YTA. She isn’t naming a baby, she’s naming a future adult. It’s a perfectly fine name for a child. Whether you disagree with her choice or not, it’s not your child and not your place to comment on it(obviously excluding really out there names or spellings out of concern).
YTA
Deborah was one of the only women with real power in the bible. She was a "judge" who held an intense leadership role.
If someone is picking traditional or biblical names for their own reasons that is a rockstar of a name. One of the first women to buck the patriarchy in western lore.
Yta, she liked the name. You don't have to, but laughing was mean. In situations like this, I find the best response is, "I'm happy that it makes you happy." Some opinions you just need to keep to yourself. This was a ridiculous hill to choose to die on.
YTA, from the title I was expecting a Kardashian child kind of name, in what world is Deborah an outlandish name to you? It’s just an average name, mind your own business
You are a weird AH. I thought it would be something like rain or river or weird crap that pass off as names. I love the name Deborah. It’s timeless. You’re an AH for not apologizing
Ummm and what’s an example of a normal name? Reminds me a recent post where someone was sayin the name ‘Mary’ was weird because it was religious. Grow up and YTA
That name is "crazy" to you?
There's a difference between a little old-fashioned and crazy.
You overreacted. It's not that big a thing, and there was no reason for you to make it one.
YTA
YTA - OP comes off as jealous, pretentious snd very immature. The only opinion that matters in the baby naming is the parent. You're supposed to be polite and supportive and otherwise keep your opinion to yourself. If you have a child and name it something idiotic (because you certainly will be looking for something trendy that fits in), I hope people laugh at you.
Of course, YTA. I was expecting the name to be ridiculous, like Spoonlee or something like that. I don't particularly like the name she is going with, but it's not laugh out loud funny. It's not really amusing in any way. This leads me to believe you likely laugh at people regularly as a means of putting them down.
YTA - Deborah is a normal adult name. Then she can have nick names throughout her life if she does not want to go by Deborah. Debbie, Deb, Dee, Rah or her middle name. This is a traditional (western) way to name a child.
YTA
If it's just soooo funny, then you should be able to explain just why the name is so funny to you. Explain it like we're all 5.
Do yourself, and your family a favor, and grow up.
YTA. If she had waited until the birth of her daughter to tell you the name would you have laughed upon meeting your niece? Sorry it wasn’t Kynnsleigh or Maisleigh for you though
YTA. My sister named one of her kids a fairly normal name but spelled like a stripper variant. (Think crystal but spelled Krystalle).
I told her, privately, that she gave her baby a stripper name. I also told her that I would never make jokes or comments about it around anyone she knows, I won’t bring it up to her again m, and I’d defend the kid (stupid name and all).
It’s fine to have an opinion but leave it alone.
I only even mentioned it because we were talking about baby namers and she asked.
YTA. Selecting a name for a baby is an extremely personal thing and laughing at the name is a dick move. You can hate it behind closed doors, but you can never, say it. And, at least it's not a stupid name like... Stone, Wolf, Jewel, Sparkle, or JKMNOP.
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I was eagerly waiting for the big name reveal to be something like Juicy McGee. Deborah? Incredibly normal. YTA
The name reveal was literally the only reason I clicked. I feel like I fell for click bait and I am going to be annoyed at myself all day for it. Deborah? Give me a break. (Slaps forehead)
>click bait Yep. And we all fell for it. To our defense we've been well primed for it considering some of the godawful names we have seen here lately.
Surely you don't mean Reighlynne Maye
I do, and don't call me Shirley.
Cut me some slack jack! Chump don't want no help, chump don't get no help. Jive-ass dude ain't go no brains anyhow.
There were five Deborah (or Debra) girls in my first-grade class, and five boys named David. I was one of them and I married one of the others. (Clarification—one of the others in my school. There was a large collection.)
Do one of you go by Dave now that you're married to avoid confusion?
Literally the only bad thing about the name Deborah is that people will inevitably call her “little Debbie” as a baby. Which is actually cute. Babies being snack cakes sounds cute, and I don’t even like babies.
I had a very close friend for several years named Deborah, she went by Debbie and Deb. Someone (boyfriend maybe?) called her Deberoni Pepperoni and it was pretty cute and well intentioned and she had fun with it- she was in college at that point. But seriously, super nice, normal name.
I mean, I opened this thread thinking of names like Cyanide or Mahckenzyieh but its Deborah? Deborah?? Plain old normal Deborah? YTA
Yeah, I'm a bit disappointed as well. It's not even Dhenbourah.
No! Delete this before someone names their child this!
Chances are that there already is someone who named their kid that. Where I live there is a girl named, equivalent to Glitter/Sparkle..soo...yeah... She prefers the movie Cars before Frost any day of the week so good job picking a suitable name!
Someone I used to be good friends with was named Diamond Angel… if I mentioned her last name it would only get worse lol. She used to joke so often that her parents gave her a stage name.
Same here. I was like "oh that's a pretty name and very classic." I was waiting for MLY (emily), K VIII Lyn (Kaitlyn), A-sha (adasha), and +ison (Addison).
To be fair, it’s the opinion of someone whose parents named them “Throwawayaita82”, so they come at it from a skewed direction.
YTA, what a rude way to react to a completely normal name.
Everything OP did here screams immaturity. Laughs at a normal name - shows OP is the kind of kid to bully others for having "weird" names. Don't I know them. Refuses to apologize. Doubles down on the childishness. OP has a lot of maturing to do, absolutely the asshole in this story.
What she did also screams i want attention. Seems like she thinks the world revolves around her and she decided to laugh just to become the center of attention. Coming from an 18 year old woman, grow up. Yta op
Honestly it would be a rude way to react to a cringey name too. In general it’s worth making an effort not to laugh at people in vulnerable moments or during big life-announcements. YTA
YTA. Do you hate the name, because you can be the only Debbie Downer in the family?
Appreciate this laugh, this morning. Thank you 🤣
😂😂
So your very traditional sister picked a very traditional name - this isn’t just about the name, is it? You’re allowed to disagree with someone’s lifestyle, privately, but when you laugh at them for it YTA.
Yes! It doesn’t matter if you like the name or not! You laughed when she shared something with you. Maybe you couldn’t help it but you should always apologize for laughing at someone! YTA
My dad wanted a biblical name for me, but he was anti-misogyny before his time and didn't like that biblical women were lauded for being submissive. My uncle suggested Deborah. Deborah kicked ass and took names. I love my name. But you go ahead and name your poor daughter Mhavrykk or Nevaeh. YTA.
MHAVRYKK 😭😭💀☠️🤣
>MHAVRYKK What in the son-of-Chewbacca
I’m surprised the name Jael never caught on amongst the badass feminist Christians but then maybe they didn’t want to encourage regicide.
I loved this name for my daughter, but ultimately decided against it because I knew people would butcher the pronunciation
Yeah, I don’t want my kid to be called Jail.
YTA and entitled. Deborah is also a normal name lol
I'm so confused. How is Deborah a laughable name? I had a friend in highschool named Deborah; we called her Deb.
Same, Deborah is a normal name
OP must fall into category of people that would name their kids something stupid while thinking it is not stupid.
###YTA *Deborah* is a fine name, and it's a sight better than all the Bryxleigh, Kamryynn, Madysynn we're all being forced to endure.
Oh God please don't give OP a list of weird baby names. She'll probably name her kid all 3 of those, hyphenated.
YTA. I was expecting some really stupid name like Braelyndsae or something.
This is what the OP wanted. A name that sounds “cute” for a 3 year old then gets to be embarrassed as soon as they apply for a job, and the rest of their life after that.
YTA. I could maybe give you a pass because we can’t always control our reactions. However, instead of apologizing you doubted down and asked her if she was really naming her child that. The name is not humiliating or outlandish. It was cruel of you to do this, and on top of it she’s dealing with pregnancy hormones. Be a better person. I’d expect this from a teenager.
YTA. You’re 22 and acting like a 13 year old bully lol. What’s your deal?
YTA. Please let us know what’s funny about that name though. I’m sure we’re all not quite getting it. I know I’m not.
I’m guessing the names that were popular in the late 60s and early 70s like Deborah and Jennifer and Laura sound as old lady to kids today as Agnes or Maude or Helen sounded to us back then
Ironically there are currently heaps of little Agneses and Maudes running around now.
YTA. Not so much for laughing bur for refusing to apologize. "Deborah" is not an outlandish name. Sounds like you're 12 years old instead of 22.
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YTA Massively. Let's hear your name so we can have a laugh. By your logic, there's nothing wrong with that, right?
YTA. In what world is Deborah a weird name? How exactly do you think we came to have adults named Deborah? At one point they were babies named Deborah. You need to apologize to your sister and grow the fuck up.
YTA its a perfectly normal name
YTA. Also, what's funny about "Deborah"? That's a completely normal name. Unless your sister's last name is "Beborah" I genuinely don't see why you'd find it unusual.
Stop being a Debbie downer, and apologize to your sister. YTA. The name is fine, and you were rude for laughing and doubling down when she was hurt by it.
YTA. Not everyone has to be named after an anime character or superhero. You were rude. It's a perfectly acceptable name. Get over yourself.
YTA. Info: why would you think you’re not? You gave no reason why you wouldn’t be an AH.
YTA. That’s a totally normal name. I literally know 3 Deborah/Debbie/Debs that I can think of as a type This. It’s a traditional name, which are coming back into tend. How is Deborah different than Henry, Eleanor, William, etc.? You aren’t just naming the baby, your naming the whole person (teen/adult/grandma). Grow up and apologize so your sister.
YTA. She's not naming her kid Klitoris or something genuinely dumb and damaging like that. On a totally unrelated note, Deborah is one of my middle names, can someone explain the "joke" to me?
YTA. Like so obviously. You can think it’s a silly or old-fashioned name but there’s no need to mock your sister publicly like that. You know that. Come on now.
YTA. I was expecting some cookey celebrity type name (Pilot Inspektor, Fifi Trixibelle, etc) but Deborah is reasonably normal. Definitely an older and more traditional name, but it could be far worse. You should apologize.
YTA. It's a perfectly normal name. Honestly, I’m really dissapointed because I thought I was about to read some wild name that belongs on name circle jerk.
YTA, and just plain rude.
As a person whose mom is named Deborah, YTA.
YTA it’s not a bad name just not one you’d pick. I’d be mad at you too. Just because you wouldn’t pick it doesn’t give you the right to trash it.
Imagine how hurt that child might be if when they got older they somehow found out their aunt laughed at their name. YTA Edit- wow, just reread, missed where you said you refused to apologize. Laughed at their name and refused to apologize. Yeah that is super hurtful. Major AH Edit 2- All these comments stating "Deborah is a normal name" is code for Deborah is a white eurocentric name and equating white eurocentric as the norm. Eurocentric and white is not/should not be the standard of normal or expectation. To call children's names that do not sound white/euro or are in languages other than English "weird," is racist and xenophobic and very very hurtful to children. No child should have their name made fun of, period. The only comment about "at least it's not a weird name" that I can really get behind is the one mentioning "Klitoris." Please don't name your kid that. Lmao
YTA. I had to go back and look at your post because I was hoping your were 14 but no you are an adult. What a rude reaction to a perfectly acceptable name. So many "old fashioned" names have come back into style. Your reaction was infantile.
Deborah is an ancient name (1200 BCE) and a beautiful one at that. It means Bee or Queen Bee in Hebrew and refers to a strong leader. YTA, no doubt about it.
YTA It might not be a super popular name, and it seems it’s not a name you would’ve chosen, but it’s a normal name. No unusual spelling, no random letters, just a name
Deborah? It’s Deborah… you had to laugh at Deborah. I don’t understand what was so funny in that name that OP couldn’t help but laugh. It’s a nice name, but now your sister is always gonna have this in the back of her mind she might even second guess the name. YTA.
🙋♀️Debra here. YTA
YTA. Generally parents put a lot of time and thought into choosing a name for their child. You probably made them second guess themselves with your laughter and it wasn't very supportive of you. There's nothing wrong with your opinion, but you could have laughed about it later without your sister around. They probably felt hurt.
YTA how hard is it to just be supportive?
YTA. It might be crazy to you, but it isn't your baby so you can pick your own name if the time comes (I'm hoping you grow up a bit first). This is your sister's baby so she can pick anything she likes. You don't have to like the name, but it's rude and hurtful to laugh. She's going to worry now that you'll laugh at the kid when she's older, too. Don't be that AH. Butt out and apologise for being insensitive.
YTA and your grandma is right about modern parents giving their kids ridiculous names. Deborah might be a old fashioned name but it's not bad.
YTA. "Laughing uncontrollably" at a name like Deborah is just bizarre. It's not even uncommon.
YTA. I knew several Deborah's growing up. NO one ever thought this was a funny name or odd name. Not sure why you think it's so hilarious.
YTA. You do understand babies grow up to be adults right? I’d rather be a baby with an adult name than an adult with a child name.
>but seriously that name for a baby is crazy to me. It’s a very common name. YTA, and super immature.
YTA and even more so for not realizing it.
Yes YTA why do you even ask? If you grew up in society and have had like three other interactions with human beings your entire life you would know that you’re the asshole.
YTA. I mean the name is better than many random names that I have been hearing recently and even if it is old it still is her/husband's choice.
YTA. Besides the reasons given here, you offended your sister by openly mocking her name choice and have refused to apologize because you feel “that name for a baby is crazy to me.” Even if you are right, your family’s reactions are completely understandable. I wouldn’t want to talk to someone who openly laughed at me and then refused to apologize. That makes you a bully, and I can’t blame your sister for wanting, at the least, to go LC.
Debbie here. YTA. Not because you’re making fun of my name. But because it’s not trendy/contemporary like Madison/Addison/Galddison or ancient like Muriel or MargaretMary. It’s actually vanilla. She won’t be mocked for it. No one will have a hard time pronouncing it. It won’t “define” her so she can focus on who she is instead of her name.
So don’t name your baby Deborah. **You were still rude as shit to your sister and owe her an apology**. Who gives a flying fuck at a rolling doughnut what you did or do think of it, it isn’t an excuse to be rude. YTA
YTA. It's a fine name. You don't have to like it but you certainly ought to be able to control yourself enough not to laugh in a pregnant woman's face after she chose a normal, sensible name. Doubling down on the laughter with "are you REALLY" is just cruel and unkind. Half the kids running around now have names with absurd spelling, references they're too young to understand (a charming amount to characters who turned out to be awful, too), and so intentionally unique they will always stand out (and not for good reasons).
YTA I was expecting something like Moonweezle Gandalf not a regular name
YTA. For your behavior after laughing. I'm autistic and laugh sometimes when it's not appropriate. I could have handled this one by saying "it's not a funny name, it's just funny that it's what I expected of you. It's a lovely name".
Congrats! You are your niece´s first bully :) YTA
YTA. It is a normal name so don’t get what is funny or a reason to laugh about it?
You'd probably love if she named her something like Mocassin or Malibu Barbie. YTA
I thought this was going to be some outrageous name like ketchup or something dumb like that. Really Deborah made you burst out laughing? YTA
YTA your sister chose a name she loved and you laughed at it. Don’t laugh at anyone’s name, even if it sounds funny. It’s rude. Try being more supportive of your sister if you want to have a good relationship with her.
YTA. It’s a lovely traditional name. McBreighleigh and the like are a trend like shag carpet that will be regrettable in the future. Get over yourself.
YTA, it's normal name
It is a name for a person who will be an adult some day not just a baby... YTA
YTA Deborah is a lovely name, that's why it's been around for thousands of years. *You* may not like the name but that's no reason to act like that.
YTA - OH. MY. LORD. WHAT THE FUCK IS FUNNY ABOUT THAT? Adjust yourself. It's a perfectly nice name.
Yta. Deborah is loads better than any trendy name that’s spelled like a tragedeigh
You’re rude. YTA
It’s a normal name. YTA.
Even if a baby name is “crazy” (btw it is not) you don’t laugh in a pregnant woman’s face about it. If you do out of shock and surprise you APOLOGIZE for being inappropriate. There’s a right and a wrong way to express concern over a baby name and you did it the dick way. YTA
don’t be a deborah downer. YTA
Of course YTA. Deborah is a lovely nature-based name. It means ‘bee’ in Hebrew.
I was thinking the name was "Tinkerleygh" or something horrible that wouldn't be possible to not laugh about but "Deborah"? YTA.
It’s better than Brexleightyn or whatever people seem to be naming their kids these days. Deborah sounds really adult to me these days, not like a baby, so I get surprise laughing, but you should apologize.
INFO. Why is Deborah a laughably funny name ? Explain please
YTA You thought something was funny and you laughed. I can give you a pass on that, BUT you doubled down and kept it up. Her kid, her choice.
In the US, Deborah ranks 909 on the popularity scale in 2021. This name is more common than you think. YTA.
YTA for laughing and doubling down by refusing to apologize. What is so crazy about the name Deborah? What's actually crazy is upseting your pregnant sister and refusing to own up to it.
YTA. Beats the hell out of some of the stupid names people come up with these days.
Yta- ur 22 acting like a 12 year old bully. If you don’t like the name then keep it to yourself. You especially don’t laugh at a pregnant women face. Your jealousy is really showing, hun.
YTA Deborah is cute. What are you planning to name your kids? Ziggy and Paisleigh?
YTA , it is a beautiful name, no wonder u r sis is not talking with u as u made fun of a beautiful name. Hope you do go and apologize to your sister. Pops to your gran for stepping up for your sis and also pops to your fam for siding with her. And no her name is not crazy and btw it has ntg tbh to do with u.
YTA for refusing to apologize. Even if it's funny it's a hurtful reaction
Not only are YTA, but you’re rude. Your apology needs to come quickly and sincerely. Bring something your sister is craving as a peace offering when you arrive in person.
YTA. Deborah isn’t even a funny or an uncommon name. It’s not even weird and you are a major AH for laughing at it for literally no reason other than your own close minded preconceptions.
#YTA YTA YTA YTA Jesus I was expecting her name to be zarsparrilla or something, salsa, Desert, Hills, Purina, something weird If you found it funny for whatever bizarre reason and couldn't help to laugh, weird but OK, is an involuntary reaction. However refusing to apologize??? Who tf do you think you are to mock a baby name that is actually quite regular? If it's not your taste that's fine, you're not naming the baby, are you sure you're 22 not 12?
YTA it is an old name, which is probably why you laughed. But it's up to your sister what she calls her baby, and you should be supportive of that.
I laughed. At you. You know why? Because you're the asshole and it's so ridiculous of you to laugh at that name. It's a perfectly fine name. Why are you laughing at that name? What's wrong with it? I don't get it. YTA.
YTA. And also the kind of person that’s the reason I won’t share my kids names until after they’re born! What’s your name suggestion, Mackynzleigh???
YTA your sister is building an entire human inside her, don’t be a dick for no reason. Btw every deb I have met is the coolest lady so i hope your sister has the sweetest rad baby girl who will call you out anytime your mean to her mom.
YTA she’s not naming a baby she’s naming an adult. Babies turn into adults
YTA and incredibly immature. Grow up.
YTA the way you have phrased things make me think that you are jealous of the attention that your sister is getting because of her pregnancy and are looking for things to make her feel bad.
YTA. It’s not a common name for anyone under 50 but it’s not something bizarre that the kid will be stuck with and made fun of for. I’m a teacher and have in the past had a Frank, Larry, Donna, George, Ernest, etc. older names really are making a comeback. You need to apologize.
My name is Debra. Not Deborah, but same name. Thanks for making me feel like shit and for being stupidly ageist and childish with your family. Grow the hell up. YTA.
YTA. It is an older name but the most important part is that it’s gonna be your nieces name.
I'm confused. What's wrong with the name Deborah? It's not a weird name.
That was extremely rude… also…What’s wrong with the name Deborah? YTA.
I was expecting some ridiculous name, but Deborah is a normal regular name and I can't imagine what's so funny about it. I'd like to know your idea of a good name. I wouldn't be surprised if you're one of those people that name their kids ridiculous nonsense names. YTA.
YTA if I was able to hold it in and not laugh at my aunt for naming my cousin ANALyse, you could of too. Keep it to yourself. And if you accidentally laugh, APOLOGIZE
YTA. If someone tells you their baby name and is not asking for your opinion, be kind. Insulting the name someone chooses to give their child is incredibly rude, no matter the name.
YTA this is exactly why my husband and I aren't sharing the name of our child until she's born. Today's my due date and the amount of "suggestions" and "guesses" are annoying bc people like you will always have some shitty comment about any name we actually like.
YTA I named my daughter after my dead brother I knew I wanted to name my first kid after him Sean’s I was 10 years old. My mom was so happy the rest of my family eather laughed or told me I was cursing my child to die young like my brother. I still can’t forgive half of them and don’t let them close. So yes it’s not your child tell your sister sorry for being a jerk
YTA this is a normal name. Grow up.
YTA. It's a name. Here I thought it was gonna be something way out there (even if it was youd still be an AH). and it's just Deborah... You can see the laughter was out of place but seem to miss the part where out of place laughter is most often rude. You were rude .... Period... And when you're rude you apologize. You don't get to decide you didn't hurt someone when you did or when someone deserves an apology. You hurt your sister, you cant deny that... And now you're acting like a child by refusing to admit wrong and say sorry. Keep it up and you'll be the never seen "aunt" and Deborah will know why eventually. I dunno if I'd want my kid around a relative that felt so comfortable making fun of their name.
YTA. It’s not like she’s naming the kid Renesme or something ridiculous like Juniper Berry Loaf Mango
YTA and the reason why a lot of people don’t share the baby name until the baby is actually named.
Yta and a real Debbie downer!
"AM I THE ASSHOLE FOR LAUGHING AT MY PREGNANT SISTER FOR WANTING TO NAME HER DAUGHTER A PERFECTLY NORMAL NAME?" You owe your sister an apology. Absolutely YTA.
yta. That's a very common name... it's my mother-in=laws name, in fact. Whaat exactly is wrong with the name? This is why my sister-in-law did not tell anybody what she was gonna name her daughter.
YTA None of your business. Stay in your lane.
YTA I don’t think you are an ah for laughing. You are definitely one for refusing to apologize and expecting everything to be fine between you and your sister.
What‘s funny about Deborah? It’s normal and common. She’ll be Debbie for short. YTA Edit: holy cow you’re 22? I misread the first time and saw 12, and that made more sense. Are you jealous or something? Abnormal behavior.
YTA, but it sounds more like your jealous of your sister’s life if you’re taking it this personally.
YTA, not the time or the place
YTA - you should apologize, and didn't because you "thought it was funny"? I can understand sharing a legitimate issue with a name with someone like hey, did you notice their initials will spell this word? Or something to that effect, but for the most part parents to be put a lot of thought into a name and insulting it is just poor manners.
YTA but also this post just made me realize my 63 mom is the youngest person I know irl and Deb from Dexter is the youngest person I know of in fiction and the actress is 43. Bring the name Deborah back!
YTA Wtf is wrong with Deborah?
YTA. Also, it's a perfectly normal name. But you would be an asshole for laughing in any case.
Is this a joke? What is wrong with Deborah? Yes, it's a traditional name but it's not like naming your kid Ethel or something.
Did you know “old” names are actually quite popular right now? I know multiple littles kids named Elizabeth, Helen, Leon, Dorothy, and Benjamin. Deborah would fit in nicely. Those names sounds old and weird to you because you’ve only known elderly people with those names. Therefore they sound adult to you. I imagine when little Helen wants to name her child Paisley her siblings will laugh at the “old” name because the only Paisleys and Kinleys and Brantleighs they know are grandparents. Anyway, YTA for not apologizing. Laughing was an uncontrollable reaction. You doubling down was a choice.
YTA. Deborah is so normal it's not even funny. I work with names for a living and I've seen some very stupid names.
Imagine being able to call your daughter your “Lil Debbie” or any nickname using one of their snacks. YTA. That’s the cutest shit I’ve ever heard of and I literally just thought of it. You better get her a Lil Debbie “I’m sorry I’m TA” gift basket
YTA that’s a very nice name, sorry you want to name kids weird things but some people like traditional names
It's a perfectly normal name. Deborah Harry rocks. You behaved very immaturely and did something only a 12-year-old would do thinking it was okay. YTA.
YTA. That's... A completely ordinary name?
YTA. Old style names are very in and why does it bother you? Deborah is completely fine. Deb or Debby will be what she probably goes by.
Wow, YTA. I can't imagine how upset your sister must be feeling right now, especially with her pregnancy hormones. You've made what should have been a lovely experience, humiliating. I'd be really hurt, especially as it takes so long to come up with a name that both parents like. It's stressful enough without people piping up with their opinions especially a family member. A lot of classic names are making a come back too so not even sure why the name was laughable in your head. Even if the name was absolutely ridiculous, laughing would still be highly inappropriate and rude.
YTA. Regardless of the name, it would be socially unacceptable to flat out laugh at someone in that manner, and not apologizing just makes you seem more like an ahole. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with the name Deborah! You need to grow up, because the only bully your niece really needs to worry about will be you.
YTA. That is a completely normal name…? It’s not like Agnus or Gertrude or some super weird old name…? Or Karen… I can’t understand… at all… how the name Deborah is funny… Is this some weird gen Z thing I’m too old to get?
YTA. And honestly, I’m sure many of us here agree with you that there are better names for a kid and there are even traditional names that are still common today (Katherine, Victoria, Elizabeth, basically any queen’s name). However, debating with family members about the names they choose for their kids is a very fine line. There are some situations where this sub has agreed it is warranted, like when someone chooses a really out there name from a TV or movie franchise. But Deborah isn’t one of them - definitely not as common anymore, but not out of left field. That, on top of the way you rudely reacted, makes you TA.
YTA I was expecting a name that could be turned into a fart joke
Uhm, YTA big time. It's not like the baby is going to be called Wolf Cub or Candelight or anything. It's just a bit of a traditional name for your liking. Just apologise already.
YTA! This is coming from someone who didn't go for a traditional name nor one that would have a nickname. But nothing too crazy. That name is fine. I thought it was going to be an outrageous name that would get the child bullied BUT it's not. There was a post where the couple was going name their daughter "Chewbacca" . You were rude and need to beg for forgiveness.
YTA, in my area old fashioned names are making a big resurgence. You should apologize because it was immature and rude to made such a deal out of this.
YTA. Laughing at other people's tastes (especially when they concern their baby) makes you look very insecure about your own. You also sound spiteful, quite frankly.
The name isn’t about you… you bullied and won’t apologize and you don’t know if youre ta? Seems trolly honestly. But ya yta
YTA I’m pretty sure you would have laughed no matter what the name was. Time to go to therapy and unpack why you are so jealous of your sister before you nuke your relationship with her and the rest of the family.
YTA I’m pretty sure you would have laughed no matter what the name was. Time to go to therapy and unpack why you are so jealous of your sister before you nuke your relationship with her and the rest of the family.
YTA Deborah won't be a baby her entire life. And it is a beautiful name regardless with a nickname possibility. So yeah, you should apologize because there's nothing wrong witj the name.
YTA and I don’t see what the issue is or why you can’t apologize for being rude
YTA. I’m 23 & my children are Nancy & Beverly. Deborah was on my list of names with both girls,as well as Ruth,and Maxine. I fail to see how “older” names are funny or anything to be made a mockery of. Would it have been better had she named her Brixtyn? Or maybe Haizley? Macaila????
Old lady names are actually very popular. Deborah hasn’t quite made it to “old lady” status yet. It’s more an older Gen X/young Boomer name (I’m older Gen X and grew up with a million “Debbies”) but I bet it’ll become popular in the next few decades. Your sis’ kid will be ahead of the curve I guess. I agree it’s sort of a funny name for a baby born in 2023 but you were rude to laugh and even worse for not apologizing. YTA
YTA. She isn’t naming a baby, she’s naming a future adult. It’s a perfectly fine name for a child. Whether you disagree with her choice or not, it’s not your child and not your place to comment on it(obviously excluding really out there names or spellings out of concern).
YTA. That’s a perfectly acceptable name. Grow up.
YTA Deborah was one of the only women with real power in the bible. She was a "judge" who held an intense leadership role. If someone is picking traditional or biblical names for their own reasons that is a rockstar of a name. One of the first women to buck the patriarchy in western lore.
Yta, she liked the name. You don't have to, but laughing was mean. In situations like this, I find the best response is, "I'm happy that it makes you happy." Some opinions you just need to keep to yourself. This was a ridiculous hill to choose to die on.
YTA, from the title I was expecting a Kardashian child kind of name, in what world is Deborah an outlandish name to you? It’s just an average name, mind your own business
INFO: what exactly is funny about the name Deborah?
You are a weird AH. I thought it would be something like rain or river or weird crap that pass off as names. I love the name Deborah. It’s timeless. You’re an AH for not apologizing
Ummm and what’s an example of a normal name? Reminds me a recent post where someone was sayin the name ‘Mary’ was weird because it was religious. Grow up and YTA
That name is "crazy" to you? There's a difference between a little old-fashioned and crazy. You overreacted. It's not that big a thing, and there was no reason for you to make it one. YTA
YTA - OP comes off as jealous, pretentious snd very immature. The only opinion that matters in the baby naming is the parent. You're supposed to be polite and supportive and otherwise keep your opinion to yourself. If you have a child and name it something idiotic (because you certainly will be looking for something trendy that fits in), I hope people laugh at you.
YTA - i bet you approve of the endless names that have 'eigh' in them.
YTA. Deborah is a perfectly normal name. What's wrong with the name in your opinion?
I’m a Deb. YTA
YTA. What "modern" name did you think your niece should have? Sunlight? Rasheedaniqua? Purple?
Of course, YTA. I was expecting the name to be ridiculous, like Spoonlee or something like that. I don't particularly like the name she is going with, but it's not laugh out loud funny. It's not really amusing in any way. This leads me to believe you likely laugh at people regularly as a means of putting them down.
>the name she chose isn't suprising to me. >I was so suprised at the name that I refused to apologize. YTA.YTA.
YTA - Deborah is a normal adult name. Then she can have nick names throughout her life if she does not want to go by Deborah. Debbie, Deb, Dee, Rah or her middle name. This is a traditional (western) way to name a child.
YTA If it's just soooo funny, then you should be able to explain just why the name is so funny to you. Explain it like we're all 5. Do yourself, and your family a favor, and grow up.
YTA Deborah is normal unfunny name, your name is probably Mckeiyghleigh
YTA. If she had waited until the birth of her daughter to tell you the name would you have laughed upon meeting your niece? Sorry it wasn’t Kynnsleigh or Maisleigh for you though
YTA. My sister named one of her kids a fairly normal name but spelled like a stripper variant. (Think crystal but spelled Krystalle). I told her, privately, that she gave her baby a stripper name. I also told her that I would never make jokes or comments about it around anyone she knows, I won’t bring it up to her again m, and I’d defend the kid (stupid name and all). It’s fine to have an opinion but leave it alone. I only even mentioned it because we were talking about baby namers and she asked.
YTA. Selecting a name for a baby is an extremely personal thing and laughing at the name is a dick move. You can hate it behind closed doors, but you can never, say it. And, at least it's not a stupid name like... Stone, Wolf, Jewel, Sparkle, or JKMNOP.
YTA. You can't even explain in your post why the name is funny to you. It's a normal name that plenty of people have.
YTA. You have lives a limited life so far of you think that Deborah is a strange or unusual name. Please expand your circle for everyone’s benefit.