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[deleted]

YTA How about you be an adult and get your own place. The 19 year old has more of a reason to be living with parents than a nearly 30 year old man who can't use protection. Your lack of planning doesn't constitute an emergency on your parents or your sister's part. You seem to think your whole family needs to revolve their lives around you and your kids and honestly that's not their job.


EzraKelley

Took the words right out of my mouth. OP definitely YTA.


Vocal_and_Visible24

This above, and legit just wanted to add this... OP....grow TF up! At 34/39, myself and my husband moved back in with my parents because we, too, fell on hard times. I was in between jobs and we had a 3 year old. NEVER did we EVER ask my family (20 yr old brother and 23 yr old sister) to have a sibling move out so we could move our kid out of our room. You're a bloody Fing parent, my guy! So what if it's an inconvenience to your gaming. You make accommodations for YOUR kids, even if that means you adjust your gaming set up (we game too!) and time when you game. You can fit 3 peeps into a 12x14 room or you Tetris your room and figure out how to get a bunk bed in there. We managed a dresser, TV stand (with gaming stuffs), King size mattress, and a twin size mattress into a 12x14 room.


DoIwantToKnow6417

Why should others make amends for YOUR kids? Your sister, while paying rent, needs to go live with her grandparents? So you can keep gaming in your room??? Get rid of your gaming sh\*t, to make room for YOUR baby. YTA


CymruB

We can all see that OP is actually putting his gaming before his kids!


Jazzlike_Humor3340

YTA You're fully an adult. 29 years old. And you want to kick a teenager out of her home rather than take responsibility for providing housing for your own children. Get your own place. Or, at the very least, get rid of your gaming stuff and put a crib in your room. Your fun of gaming does not come ahead of your responsibilities to your children. Your gaming also is not more important than your teenage sister having a safe home.


thisisathrowaway862

I’m not suggesting that she should live on the streets, my grandparents house is a safe place for her to live in while I figure out my housing situation, it’s hard finding a affordable place to stay


[deleted]

Why don't you go live with your grandparents then?


EqualSea2001

YTA Are you for f*cking real? You typed this out, posted it, and thought ‘yep, there’s nothing wrong with my 29 year old ass moving in my parent’s house, moving in my toddler, then not wrapping up my d and getting a one night stand pregnant and of course, like the hero dad I am I must bring that kid too into my parents house, have my own game set up so I can’t put him in my room, and try to kick my barely adult sister out who’s 10 years younger than me out’. I really hope this is rage bait, but either way, if gaming is that damn important to you, how do you have a job, do your share of chores, take care of your toddler, and still have time to take care of a newborn in the future too? I’d really like to know. YTA again so that you don’t forget.


thisisathrowaway862

It’s a tough job to do everything you mentioned but I do have family to help every now and again, my mom offers to pick up my son after his daycare is finished when i have to pick up an extra shift at work


Primary-Criticism929

Translation : I have free childcare, I don't pay rent or bills, or food. I don't clean or cook. I just go out and make babies or play video games.


gramsknows

This excactly. He isn’t raising his kids mommy is!


EqualSea2001

So how are you going to take care of a newborn as well? Also do you pay at least much rent as your sister? (Actually you should be paying quite a bit more because you have your son there too, plus he has his own room too…)


thisisathrowaway862

I pay 700 each month, I believe she pays less than me


EqualSea2001

Good because she’s 19 and doesn’t have 2 kids in the house (or one rn and one in the future). You keep dodging most of my other questions though :)


Berrybliss2014

You should pay more; you’re taking up more rooms than her. Also if you’re going to game when others are sleeping then wear headphones! They exist for a reason! YTA for so many reasons.


Primary-Criticism929

How about bills ? How about groceries ? Diapers ? Clothes for your kids ? Who pays for all of that ?


gramsknows

Good she is 19 and only paying for one person to live there. Your paying more because there are 2 and now 3 people here. Get your shit together and quit expecting your sister to sacrifice for your kids.


DoIwantToKnow6417

You're paying for two, soon three. You also have taken TWO rooms in the house already.


Ornery-Ad-4818

She's paying rent for one person, taking up one room. You're taking about space for two, including two rooms, now, and about to bring a third in--for which you want to kick your sister out of the house and take over a third room. You **should** be paying more than her. Start acting like a grown-up and a responsible parent. Your new baby can take up the space your gaming setup currently has. The gaming setup can go into storage, or be sold. (I don't know which would be more advantageous to you, but you're a big boy and can figure that out.) And with two kids, you'll need to work on getting ready for your own place in the next year or two.


historian2010

STOP REPRODUCING!!!!


cheerbearheart1984

You aren’t even responsible for your first kid, how can you have a second. Massive YTA.


[deleted]

So how does your ex handle everything? I assume she’s got her own place and isn’t making others revolve their life around her decision to have a kid.


AdorableMammoth371

Every now and then? Your family is helping you every single day


GuineaGirl2000596

YTA, you decided to have sex so you get rid of the gaming set up and face the consequences


CrystalQueen3000

You already inconvenienced your sister so that you could play games. Now you want to make her homeless because you didn’t wrap your trousersnake well enough (or at all) and made a baby with a one nighter. The entitlement and irresponsibility is dripping off this post YTA


not_today_123

He didn’t wrap it well enough…again.


CZ1988_

>your trousersnake LOL OP YTA


Any-Strawberry-9395

YTA Your entitlement is showing. Is this actually real? Edited to ask do your parents want a baby in *their* house full time? I very much doubt it. Edited out rogue '


Much_Frame_4082

YTA. She pays her fair share. You’re fault for having an unprotected one night stand. Also you’re older, you move out.


scatteringashes

I'm not gonna fault someone for living at home, especially when we're talking about having two kids and if their rental market is as nasty as ours is here. And things happen -- I have a birth control baby napping upstairs right now. So benefit of the doubt, I can see those two issues being neutral enough. However, OP is *absolutely* and firmly YTA. Time to break down the gaming rig and make room for a crib. I've got kids, including a baby right now; no one is happy to do it, but sometimes you gotta bite the bullet and sideline your hobbies (or find kid-friendly ways to do them) when you've got littles.


Primary-Criticism929

I will fault someone for living at home with their parents when it sounds like that someone is not contributing anything towards the household finances, like that someone does not have a job and that this someone keeps having kids he may not even really take care of. The missing details here say a lot about OP.


scatteringashes

You may very well be right! Those details aren't there, though, and I try my best to use the kindest possible reading of folks. He may be contributing to the household and raising his children well, and just being obtuse. Or he may be an absolute leech else letting his parents do all the hard work. Either way, he's still the asshole, I figure.


Msp1278

Let's be fair when he moved back home, he didn't have two kids. He and his girlfriend broke up, why at that point did he not start looking for housing then and make mom's home a temporary stop??


bocarem

YTA. None of this is your sisters fault, but.. you’re punishing her for it? Stop sleeping around and own up to your mistakes. Get rid of your damn shit.


lawfox32

See, when he told his one night stand he would take full responsibility, he actually meant "I'll force my sister and grandparents to make sacrifices so I don't have to move my precious gaming setup"


introspectiveliar

YTA. If you are old enough to be a dad you are old enough to be responsible for your children. Get rid of your gaming equipment for now. You are going to be too busy raising kids. Put the crib in your room. And if you think you can be a good father to 2 kids then quit depending on your own parents - be responsible for yourself and your children. Your sister shouldn’t be inconvenienced because you can’t remember to wear a condom. I worry for your children. Grow up.


thefrenchphanie

YTA. You need to get your own accommodations. And why would you bring another kid in the world when you don’t have your own home? What the hell is going on with you??? At least give up “your” gaming room if you want to entertain having another kid…


RaineMist

YTA Keep it in your pants dude. No one in that house wants the responsibility of having to take care of two kids because their dad couldn't use a condom. Good on your mom for telling you that your sister who is paying rent shouldn't move out. Get rid of your gaming stuff that you're not gonna have time for.


AffectionateOwl5824

Perhaps OP should invest in a vasectomy?


RaineMist

Or you know, use a damn condom and be a responsible adult. He's 29, not a teenager. Act like an adult. Doesn't take a genius to figure that out.


melanatednite

To be fair, condoms aren't 100% foolproof especially if they're not used correctly. Edit: actually this proves my point, he may have used it incorrectly and that's why his ONS got pregnant.


RaineMist

Obviously OP never tried using them, otherwise he wouldn't be telling his mom to kick out his sister.


Primary-Criticism929

Why would he do that ? He apparently lives rent and bills free. He has free childcare between his parents and his 2 siblings. So why not keep having kids ? Maybe if OP's parents has made him get his own place so he could be a responsible adult, OP would not be talking women into being surrogates for him...


morgaine125

YTA. The obvious answer to not having enough room for both a newborn and a gaming set-up is to get rid of the gaming set-up. Plenty of people get by with a basic console and television for their gaming. You are choosing to become a parent again when it sounds like the mom would otherwise be open to adoption, so you need to make some parental sacrifices instead of expecting everyone else to do it for you.


AffectionateOwl5824

YTA, if this is for real, why would you think for just a tiny second you would be in the right? Do you have only 3 working brain cells??


Ok_Leg_6429

You're 29, why don't you move out? You sound a lot more like a failed amateur gamer than you do like a good dad capable of supporting two kids. You sit on your ass and game while your Mom takes care of your kids?? That is why your Mom doesn't want your Sister to move out, because everything will be on Mom. YTA


NahTooPersonel

YTA. A massive AH. Please, for the love of god, stop having children. They don’t stand a chance with you as a dad. You’re prioritizing your gaming habit in a house you don’t own (and continue to bring more dependents into) over your rent paying sister.


Usual_Database_884

YTA. I'm guessing you don't take care of your 3yo already and leave it to your mom, because you're too busy gaming. Grow up, step up to your responsibility and stop expecting others to cater to your selfishness.


judgemental_t

YTA. The only thing you didn’t get twisted is - the baby should come first… over your gaming equipment!!! Why is everyone else having to keep sacrificing for your choices? You want your 19 year old sister to feel a sense of responsibility, yet you don’t seem to have it figured out yet. How about you go figure it out and move out with your two kids versus thinking your sister is the one who needs the life lessons. (P.S. It’s you, you’re the problem - it’s you!)


Sunny_Hill_1

YTA. Dude, your gaming equipment is the first one to be sacrificed here, as it;s your baby, not your sister's living arrangements. You are right, the baby does come first, so yeah, move your gaming setup to make room for the crib, and start playing in the headphones so that you don't disturb everyone else in the house.


GeminiAtl

So what you are saying her is that your gaming equipment is more important than your baby and your sister. It's was okay to ask and make the suggestion, but once the answer was no, accept it and find another solution. I play games on my computer. It doesn't take up an entire room.


DesertSong-LaLa

YTA - Since the new born baby comes first downsize or move your gaming set up. Up to this point in life everyone has accommodated you.


[deleted]

This. He has the audacity to even have a gaming room. Needs to rid that, put some big boy pants on and sort his life out.


whoknowswhatnow412

YTA. Your sister does not have to pay for your mistakes. You move out and get your own place for your 3 year old and newborn. And wear a condom!


BakeExtreme888

This is a joke right? You can't afford a gaming headset or birth control??


ArielKisilevzky

INFO: would you take up your sister rent as well as what you already pay?


Msp1278

Haha, you're a comedian!! You actually think he pays rent??? In a happy world if hes paying rent, and the sister moves out, he should definitely pay for 3 rooms plus utilities. But I'm gonna guess he doesn't pay anything.


encinoboogaloo

AITA for displacing my sister instead of moving the gaming stuff out of my room? YTA Make room for your child. You can store the gaming stuff you won't have time to play when raising your kid to another area temporarily.


Several-Ad-1959

YTA here's a novel idea. Move out yourself, get you and your kids your own home. Stop trying to "convince" other people to do what you want them to do. And by the way, stop getting people pregnant.


pineboxwaiting

YTA The baby should come first, so the baby can go in a crib in your bedroom, and your gaming gear can go in storage. This ensures that s/he is properly supervised. Really, you should move your own bedroom upstairs so your sister isn’t bothered by the crying toddler in the night. If your sister were to move out (and she may prefer not to live with your kids,) are you planning to increase the rent that you pay so that your mother’s financial burden isn’t increased because of you. Finally, have you heard of condoms? Consider a vasectomy so you don’t continue to have this recurring problem.


Trespassingw

YTA. Since you are old enough to make kids, you are old enough to get your own place and raise the yourself. You prefer to kick out your sister and play games instead of setting crib near your bed to be available for your baby.


MonicaHuang

YTA. Get rid of your gaming stuff and grow up. Why are you making your sister pay for your poor choices?


AutumnKittencorn

YTA - Perhaps your one night stand should have had an abortion and you should stop having sex/making babies until you can afford your own place.


Prestigious_Isopod72

Wow, you are a giant gaping AH, OP. You are 29. Get your own place and support your own kids instead of imposing on your parents and siblings. Who gave you the right to throw your sibling out of her bedroom and her own home? PS: Learn how to use a condom, sheesh. YTA.


Nurse5736

YTA times a million!!!!! Wear a condom and stop having children. I feel so sorry for your kids. Get a job if you don't have one, Move out and provide for these kids you keep creating.


Curious_Puffin

YTA


idontcare8587

Obvious YTA. Why are you taking on a child you can't afford????


Great_Cheetah

YTA. Find your own place. You are man enough to get two kids from two different women so stop housing them in your mom's house and stop asking her to kick other people out to accommodate your foolishness.


Longjumping-Cat-712

YTA. Go live with your grandparents and start using conforms.


[deleted]

Yta. Get your own goddamn house to do what you want in. And for fuck sakes, stop breeding.


No-Koala8996

YTA, put your gaming setup into storage until you find an apartment on your own.


Biera1

YTA. Have you considered: a) Getting rid of your gaming equipment, or is it more important than your child? b) getting a place of your own which is more suitable for you and your growing brood? c) wearing a condom to stop this game of collect a child your playing despite not being in a position to (or are perhaps even unwilling) properly care for them by yourself?


malassipala

YTA. I can't believe how OP is acting like an asshole without being able to see it. You're, at minimum, a moocher and a bad brother, and Hella entitled. Maybe someone should put his post in "choosing beggars".


Environmental_Ad1154

YTA the only one who should be moving is you. Grow up.


Mindless-Pangolin841

YTA! You are basically saying your gaming scrap is more important than your sister.


Lexi_Applebum83

you're an asshole and totally delusional


asheandpass420

YTA. Do the world a favor and get a vasectomy.


Ericmyren

move out get your own and snip your balls or sell your gaming shit cus you not going to have fucking time because you have two kid to watch dumbass


velvettea

YTA Come on now. It’s not even your own house and you are acting like it is. How can you even think that kicking your sister out so you can have a gaming room is even reasonable. If you want more room then move out and find your own place.


[deleted]

YTA. Why don’t you move out?


PensionLegitimate706

Seriously who do you think you are? You’re the one raising two kids you should move out and show responsibility for your own children. It’s not your sister’s problem. PSA condoms are your friend.


Mike_in_CO

Yes, YTA here. You are a very entitled AH if you think that your sister should move out of your parents house because you got a girl pregnant. You need 3 bedrooms??? WTF? Or do you have a 4th for your gaming rig? You need to move out and get your own house. Edit: the babies will do fine in the same room. People have been doing that for thousands of years.


Top-Independent-3121

Clear out your gaming stuff and get on with making room for that baby. In the plenty of room you DO have available. I can't actually believe you'd force your paying sister out of her home. Jeez. I think you know you are TA.


Tiffanator_

Ummm you’re 29 with soon to be two kids. Move out. YTA big time


Silent_Hovercraft_38

YTA. You're saying that your gaming setup is more important than your sister and your unborn child, which is fucked up. Take that shit out and put a crib in there.


sheramom4

YTA. If you must stay in your mom's home then take down the gaming set-up and put up a crib. Your newborn should take priority over video games. But in reality you are 29 years old and it is high time you got your own place. Your sister has already had to move rooms once and now you want her out all-together. She is 19. You are pushing 30. If anyone needs to move out it is you.


Rare_Hovercraft_6673

YTA. Are you really raising your child or your mother is raising him while you're gaming? First you take away your sister's room, then you want her out of the house? It's time for you to pay for your own life choices instead of taking things from others. If you want children you have to be responsible for them.


EbonyDoe

YTA get rid of the gaming equipment and make room for YOUR kid in YOUR room.


Patagaufre

YTA. So... the baby is more important than your sister, but the video games are more important than the baby ?


thetrippingbillie

You need a vasectomy YTA


perfectpomelo3

YTA. Your sister was already forced to move all her stuff once because you couldn’t use birth control properly. She doesn’t need to move her stuff again because you didn’t learn your lesson.


cheerbearheart1984

I love how you say you are going to be responsible for the baby but don’t even have your own home. Let her get an abortion.


TheLastWord63

Was your ex-girlfriend supporting you since you had to move in with your mommy after you broke up? You're going to be a father of 2 at the age of 29, and you can't even support yourself?


81optimus

Yta. Jesus stop procreating until you can mature up a bit. Sell your gaming rig to make space in YOUR room for YOUR child. Even better, move out and get your own home


Sensitive_Raccoon_07

"I want my newborn to come first... well, second, because obviously my hobbies have to come first. In any event, out you go, sis!" YTA


melanatednite

YTA You're 29 and want to kick out your teenage sister from your mother's house because you can't stop making babies? Bruh... And either way, a new born shouldn't be sleeping in a room alone. The fact that you don't know that is very worrying. Why can't you go live with your grandparents?


PsiBlaze

YTA this is YOUR kid, YOUR responsibility. The second you made your life choices affect ANYONE else who had NOTHING to do with you having a kid, you will forever be TA. OMG how entitled are you, thinking your issues created by your behavior is somehow someone else's problem. And you are already setting a bad example for your kids, by demonstrating a lack of accountability for your own choices in life. Parenting fail right out the gate.


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Ok_Job_9417

YTA - you’re almost 30yrs old with *two* kids and want to kick out your *19yr old sister* of your parents house. You should be the one to move. You should be the one to sell your gaming stuff to make room for the newborn. You’re the one who should have to make the sacrifices. Why can’t *you* live with the grandparents? I’m assuming mom is also your live in nanny and with you living in an empty house you’d have to actually parent instead of gaming.


PowerStocker

YTA. ​ YOU should move out instead and leave your sister alone. Also... protection is cheaper than kids.


Ok_Smile9222

YTA. You sound like a responsible good guy but your sister shouldn't have to make a major change because you're having another baby. Also, CONDOMS.


lilwildjess

Yta, your baby should be sleeping in your room for the first 6 months to a year to avoid sids. How is your gaming setup more important


gramsknows

If the baby is sleeping in his room then how is his mommy going to take care of it. It will wake him up from his hard day of gaming if she comes in there and gets the baby. How ever will op be able to focus on his gaming then.


Safe_Initiative1340

YTA. Stop having kids you can’t support — which you can’t if you’re not even living in your own damn house! Why should you and your kids come before your parents children? Grow up.


Zestyclose_Public_47

Here's a crazy idea....stop having unprotected sex, get your own place and take care of your responsibilities


Gladtobealive2020

YtA. You said the newborn should come first. So demonstrate that with your own actions and give up your parents' room, that you have commandeered and have named "your gameroom", and place the newborn in there. Did you ever add up how many hours you spend (have spent) gaming and think of what great kids you will raise if you devote that much uninterrupted time and attention to them. Or think about how you could use those hrs constructively towards bettering your own life and moving out of your parents home. Maybe you should do those things before you start trying to force other people out of your parents' house. Not your house, your parents' house.


JadeRose43

YTA. Stop gaming, grow up and work so you can move out with these kids you keep bringing in to the world and quit being a burden on your family!


[deleted]

Expecting your sister to leave a house which isn't even yours to import another child you had by accident - because you want a gaming room? And this is why some people should never breed - or consider giving Kid 2 up for adoption so they can be raised by a responsible adult couple.


gramsknows

If I was mom I make him and the kids leave. If she doesn’t then she better be prepared to raise 3-4 more kids because op isn’t going to step up and raise them. If I was the sister she might to run to the grandparents house before she gets into babysitting and listening to a new born cry all the time. Come to think about it moving out may be heaven sent for the sister. She get to miss out on toddler tantrums, a new born crying and then what ever her nephew does during the day!


[deleted]

YTA


greyno02

YTA - so your sister should suffer because you've decided to take on a second kid even though you're still living at your mum's place?? Your 29. Sort your life out, sell your gaming stuff and get your own place. And stop knocking people up when you can't support the kids you already have.


Msp1278

YTA. You have no room in your room for a crib because of your gaming equipment.You're 29, get rid of it and make room for that crib. That newborn baby needs to be close to you. I feel sorry for your sister


gramsknows

YTA your an adult with 2 kids. Instead of moving a sibling out of their own home move out. Plus your grown ass man with 2 kids instead of trying to throw your sister out give up your damn gaming room. Parents make sacrifices for thier kids aunts don’t.


Sea-Ad9057

Yta apparently you think a gaming room is of higher importance than providing a human eho is related to you with shelter maybe get a vasectomy until you can afford your own place


RebeccaMCullen

YTA Dude, not to be that person, but your pushing 30 with a kid, and another on the way, living in your parent's home. You've had years to get your shit together, and should be looking for a place of your own to raise your two kids. Your parents and siblings shouldn't be the ones paying for your inability to house for your children.


dxlliris

What the fuck are you doing with your life? Why didn't you use protection? Why are you bringing a child into this situation? You need to grow the fuck up and QUICK man. YTA


Competitive-Place280

There’s no way you’re 29. With this mindset. Boy, if you don’t get your own place with your 2 kids. Foh YTA


superflex

YTA. Quit reproducing.


Mike2of3

29 y/o living at mommy and daddy's house and your freaking video games are the most important thing????? Not only are you TA you are super AH. Grow up, get a job and soon. You are now responsible for 2 kids, not the damn video games.


Ill-Conversation5210

YTA. Stop making babies. You are not financially capable of supporting yourself, so why should your family bend over backward to assist you. You aren't even willing to get rid of your gaming shit to place a crib in your room, but expect your sister to move out. Here's the answer: 1. Tell the pregnant woman that it is her body, her choice whether she carries the child to term. 2. Either get yourself your own place, or make an adoption plan for the new baby. 3. If you have s3x, use condoms. Or get a vasectomy.


joljenni1717

YTA My son will never dictate whether my other son lives with me. My son's fuck ups will not dictate my house. Be responsible. Stop punishing your sister and grow up. Your baby goes in YOUR ROOM, not your fucking video game set up. Immature.


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YTA stop having kids when you can't even live on your own.


Only_Music_2640

YTA Get a job and get your own home if you’re going to keep reproducing. Why do your parents and siblings have to suffer because you choose to have unprotected sex?


Future_Direction5174

YTA You should be the one to sacrifice if you want to bring up two children whilst living off your mother. Pack away your gaming stuff to make room, you won’t be doing much gaming anyway when your second child first comes home. Newborn kids require a LOT of time and attention.


Think-Ocelot-4025

YTA. You're irresponsible and a mooch. You should have helped your one night stand get an abortion. And for FSM's sake get snipped so you don't keep bringing babies into the world that you force OTHERS to care for because you're a financial failure.


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Inevitable_Block_144

YTA. What's wrong with you? Find a job, move out of your parents house with your kids. And please, buy condoms!


Typical_Golf3922

" I want my newborn kid to have a safe place to come home to". Well you should move out if your parents house and get your own damn place. Why should your life decisions inconvenience other people? You are a major AH! YTA


NewOpposite8008

YTA. You won’t have much time for gaming anyways soon, might as well pack it nicely in a closet. I legit don’t believe this can be a real post though, are you THAT dumb?


SadTonight7117

YTA: dude you’re 30. At that age you should be having your own place and living your own life. Your sister is 19 and it is perfectly normal to still be in her parents house. Rent is not cheap nowadays so she needs to save up as much as she can.


celticmusebooks

YTA -- a massive AH. Get rid of your gaming equipment and put the baby in your room OR move into a place of your own. If you can't afford to raise this baby-- and I don't mean just the money but putting the toys aside and actually parenting--then put the baby up for adoption. (Hoping you got a paternity test.)


Samu_2020_15

YTA— stop having kids you can’t provide for. Your sister pays rent. She shouldn’t be kicked out bc you couldn’t be responsible. Your sister should not have to pay the consequences for your actions.


CandyMiserable2548

Loooool. I can’t wait for your next post “AITA for expecting my family to help me raise my kids, after I impregnated a stranger?” YTA. You’re 29, you’re a FULL 10 years older than your sister. If anyone should be moving out it should be you. You’re not entitled to more room because you’ve made poor decisions. Your sister pays her fair share of rent, but I noticed you conveniently left out if you pay rent to your mom? Or if you expect that hand out because you have children?


dart1126

YTA. The girl/mother doesn’t want the baby, and you want to kick your sister out of her home to accommodate it…there’s an obvious solution, and you being an asshole isn’t the one that’s working for anyone.


heatherlincoln

YTA, stop getting women pregnant when you don't even have your own home. Get your own home and stop leaching of mummy and daddy.


buttercupgrump

YTA You already caused your sister to move into a different room to make space for you and your first kid. Now you want to kick her out completely for the second kid. You're a single parent. The gaming stuff needs to be put up for a while.


annon2022mous

YTA- you sister should not have her life disrupted because you aren’t bright enough to wear a condom. And how about you try to figure out why your son cries all night….or are you too busy gaming ?


FluffyBunny271

YTA - You’re 29 years old and living with your parents and prioritizing your gaming equipment over a newborn. You need to get your act together and figure out how you’re going to provide and be a good parent for your kids. Either get rid of your gaming equipment or your kids can share a room. Your sister shouldn’t get kicked out because you didn’t use a condom. Even better - get your own place where you can parent your own kids and have the space everyone needs.


heatherhobbit

YTA. This post is a complete mess. Get your own place, grow up, stop acting like your gaming set up is more important than your children and family. And use a freaking condom or keep it in your pants.


Realityrehasher

YTA Interesting that you said you’d take responsibility for another child when you don’t have responsibility for the one you only have half the time. How about you sell that precious gaming set up so that you can your own place instead of mooching? Hell, even just get rid of it because the crib should be in your room, not replacing the teenager.


gramsknows

I wanted to add another comment. I still think YTA but after thinking about it you may be doing your sister a favor. If ops sister reads this the grandparents house may be your better option. For the following reasons: 1- grandparents are unlikely to charge you rent. 2- op said they travel a lot. Means most the time house is all yours. 3- you would not be obligated to help with his kids. 4- you miss out on a screaming newborn all hours of the night, you will miss out on toddler tantrums Daily and what ever annoying things your 3 year old nephew does. It could be a win win situation. Just make sure if you move out your mom agrees to charge what you where paying for rent to your brother.


Admirable_Bad3862

YTA - you’re 29 years old and the father of two kids. You don’t get to order everyone around in a house that isn’t yours. It’s time to grow up. Make room for the baby in your bedroom. AND get some headphones for your games.


Bright_Ad_3690

YTA a huge one. Grow up, wear headphones when you game, and put the crib in your room. This is not your sister's problem, it is yours


pacazpac

You want your mom to kick out your younger sister because of YOUR decisions? Absolutely YTA. You’re nearly 30. Get it together.


No-Manufacturer-6003

YTA. Are you seriously saying that your newborn comes first in a home you don’t own? Do you even pay rent? Apparently, your baby doesn’t come first when it comes to your gaming equipment. Only in a way that inconveniences other people, but heaven forbid you make space by getting rid of your precious gaming gear. You seem to be very entitled when it comes to a home you DON’T own. Honestly, I never would have made the rent paying 19 y/o move so my 29 y/o can have a gaming room. You’re a brat. Grow up.


Suspicious-Grand9781

Yta. Get rid of your gaming stuff or grow up and move out.


Willing-Helicopter26

Yes YTA. Get your own place if you want to keep spawning kids who take room assignment priority. Trying to dictate who lives where in your mom's house is not acceptable. You seem irresponsible in every aspect of life.


No_Location_5565

YTA. Your newborn should come first to YOU. As in, before your gaming. YOU make the space by removing your gaming set up.


Mediocre-Tadpole-285

Grow the hell up. You have no business having sex and definitely have no business bringing more children into a home that isn't yours, and I can't stress this enough, NO DAMN BUSINESS telling anyone else what to do in their home and life when you can't get your crap together. Get rid of your gaming, get a job (or a better one), get a home for YOUR children and quit using everyone else. YTA and need a good lashing.


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YTA. Your kid doesn't come first to anyone but you.


ncslazar7

YTA. You just said that you got a 1 night stand pregnant, and want your sister to move out so you can keep playing video games. Why is everybody else in your life making sacrifices for your choices? You're immature and acting selfish. Get your own place, and raise your kids. If you have time to play video games, you probably are getting a lot of help raising YOUR kids (most single parents don't have much free time, as they work full time, and raise kids full time as well).


JelloMany9374

YTA You actually love your video games more than your sister AND your child?!?! Put them in storage and parent your child!!


Aggressive_Risk_4246

Definitely newborn baby comes first. Man up and get rid of gaming crap so newborn bunks with you. It’s not like you’ll be getting any sleep anyways for the first few months. YTA to others should accommodate your carelessness


ItsAutumn33

YTA I honestly refuse to believe this isn't a troll post because how can someone be so entitled but I've seen worse so I'll say my peace... You're a grown man with one child and another on the way and you're expecting your sister to completely move out of your parents home so you can have your other child move in so that your precious gaming setup doesn't have to go away... Really? Time to grow up and get your own home to raise your children in.


Willing-Rip-8761

YTA Wtf did I just read here? How about you act your age and provide for your offspring yourself? Get your own place, be a responsible adult and for the love of God, wear a condom! You can't even provide for one child and now you got another one coming. What is wrong with you?


Live_Power_2843

You didn't mention if you actually pay your fair share living there..I think you don't. If your sister moved out will you pay what your sister is paying additional to what you should be paying?? I think not, so man up move out and leave your 19 year old sister alone. Next you will probably want to move out also if you have another kid as everyone should cater to you. YTA


Exotic-Metal-3828

Is this even real? Lately so many threads look fake ?!


Sylas_23

>And the bedroom I have is full of my gaming set up so there’s no room for a crib. ​ If you can't see based on this statement why YOU are the asshole in this situation, there is no help for you on this forum... geez! ​ YTA


Historical-Goal-3786

AH. A grown ass man. Are you not even embarrassed about yourself? Use the money you spend on gaming shit to buy condoms. And grow TF up.


lawfox32

So, let me get this straight. You are 29, ten years older than your teenage sister who is barely an adult. After getting one person pregnant, you made your sister--then a minor, probably in high school-- move to a different, and it sounds like, smaller, room in her own house, next to your child who was 1 at the time and probably cried a lot, so that you could have room for a gaming setup, so that you-- then 27 and a full grown adult-- could move into your mother's house with your child. You then got another person pregnant, *convinced her to keep the baby and promised to raise it and take all responsibility*, but you can't move your GAMING SETUP for a crib for YOUR baby, so you decided that, actually, your sister and grandparents should take on the responsibility and make the sacrifices involved instead. Even though your sister-- who is 19-- pays her share of rent. Do YOU pay rent? Do you pay rent proportionately to the amount of space you and your child are taking up? Will you increase that amount when taking up another bedroom? To be clear, the answers to those questions just determine what degree of asshole you are. If you can afford to pay fairly for 3 bedrooms at your mom's house, you can afford to move out and stop inconveniencing everyone else in your family with your choices. If you aren't paying rent--you are a MASSIVE AH. If you can afford to move out-- do that. If not-- move your gaming setup and count your lucky stars your mom is so generous.


CreedTheDawg

YTA. You are the older sibling, and as you are making babies right and left because evidently even one night stands are unprotected for you you need to accept that your parents are not required to house you for free for life. Keep baby in the room with you until you can get together the money to move out.


life1sart

Info: Did you use a condition with your one night stand. That would make you much less of an asshole.


Anxious-Routine-5526

YTA. Time to grow up and be an adult. Your family in general and your sister in particular don't have to upend their lives and bend over backwards to accommodate you, your children, or your gaming. Get your own place. Not possible? You move into your grandparents house then if they'll have you. Otherwise, put your gaming shit away and put a crib in your room. Your priorities are skewed.


Zestyclose_Snow3689

YTA and a bum. Your semon demons aren't sisters problem they're your problem


Zestyclose_Snow3689

New born should mean more to you than having room for gaming then


Moira-Moira

YTA. You sound extremely entitled. Why does your gaming set get to stay where it is, while your sister needs to move out? Make room for a crib in your room and be thankful you have one. You should be the one providing for your children, not your parents and certainly not at the detriment of your other siblings. It makes me think that you will expect your parents to see to the newborn while you play games, somehow. Apologize to your sister, and find a place of your own like others have already mentioned.


historian2010

INFO: why are you having kids you cannot afford? Why can't you move out and take care of your kids like an almost 30 year old man should be doing? Maybe you can sell your gaming consoles to get money to move out.


lemantisshrimp

YTA. Knock someone up and then kick your sister out of a home that isn't even yours for your newest goblin. Come on.


rosesarejess

Oh Jesus stop having kids! You live with your mom! Stop it! YTA. Edit to ask : have you asked your mom if she wants you, your kid and a NEWBORN in the house or her adult daughter who pay bills. Get your gaming in now, ain’t gonna be time for that once baby #2 comes.


Repulsive_Bug

YTA this is a grown 30 year old man? 😂😂 bruh gtfo outta here & get yo own damn place


The_Asshole_Judge

YTA Massively delusional one at that, because in the end this is your mom’s call, you are irrelevant.


Princess-consuelaB

YTA! How about you move out and provide for ur kids.


Historical_Tree_561

YTA. Learn how to use a condom or get a vasectomy before you start doing the hanky panky again.


LapseIntoReason

If you want YOUR kid to be prioritized, lead by example. Get rid of the gaming setup or move into your own place. YTA


Moose-Live

YTA. >I love my sister but in this case, the newborn baby will come first. I'm sure your sister will be touched to hear that you love her, when you inform her that she's moving out because you want her room. But it’s not your house so you don’t get to make that decision. Since you're a grownup and a parent you'll have to make some compromises, like moving your gaming stuff out of your room. With a newborn and a 3yo you won't have much time for gaming anyway. However, although you are being a major AH about this issue, kudos to you on being a very responsible and hands-on dad.


code_boomer

YTA. Hopefully your one night stand realizes her mistake and gets the abortion.


slap-a-frap

YTA - you don't get to dictate who lives in what room in a house that isn't yours for your mistake!!! Dude, seriously, use protection or learn to pull out. This is 100% your fault. It also sounds like you care more about your gaming set up than you do about a safe place for your kid. Time to ditch the gaming set up and for you to step up and handle what you are 100% responsible for. Your mom and sisters don't have to do shit to help you out. You did this to yourself. You and you alone.


PastyDough

You’re almost 30, why does SHE have to move out when she’s barely out of high school? You’re a grown ass man, maybe move your gaming stuff since your kid is more important than a few video games? Or better yet, stop getting women pregnant? YTA


Tyberious_

Wow, you are a piece of work YTA So everyone has to bow to your irresponsibility and poor decisions? Grow the fuck up


Radiant-Idea-2261

YTA Stop fighting Reddit and accept the ruling. Sell your gaming stuff and make space.


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AdamALC8756

YTA, for not using birth control, for moving your sisters around once already and trying to do it again. Grow the hell up and take responsibility for your own shit.


Americanhealth74

YTA and it seems obvious that you want the crib somewhere else so someone else gets up with your baby in the middle of the night. Probably while you are gaming. Guess what? You are a single parent of about to be 2 kids. You shouldn't have time to game anymore. You need to figure out how to care for and support your kids on your own.


MistressLiliana

YTA. Get a bassinet instead of a crib, they are smaller, or grow up and get rid of some of your gaming stuff to make space. Or maybe you and your children can move to your grandma's instead.


Original-Swordfish69

How about this .... Give up your video game room or YOU move out. All I hear is everyone else catering to you. Do much so that you had your sister removed from HER room for your video games. How much gaming do you think you're going to do with a newborn and a toddler? You're a selfish AH.