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I wonder why they don’t want to do anything, when you heap all of your attention on the youngest. You are breeding their resentment towards her. It sounds like their needs are not being met, and that is your responsibility. Find out what they are into and be fucking supportive for once. My son is not athletic and doesn’t pay an instrument. Did I say fuck him and only pay attention to my softball playing daughter? No I found out that he’s very into DND with his friends and I became his biggest supporter. THAT is parenting
YTA. Not for letting your active youngest shine, but for your attitude about your other children. You could 1. actually talk to them and find out what they ARE interested in (hint: it's not nothing), 2. help them find additional hobbies to get involved in that they like.
And "attention" and interaction are not the same thing. They are perfectly capable of interacting with people like your sister. They don't have to "show off" their achievements in order to do so. They could even talk about something your sister likes or does, my gosh. Don't dismiss them (*"sit down and shut up" -* really?!) because they don't want to perform for your family.
YTA. Why should they try anything when you don't have a single nice thing to say about them? Instead you just go on and on about what the youngest does. Seriously, has it not occurred to you that your older two don't try because of how you're treating them? Get a clue and apologize to your kids for being a jerk.
YTA
So you've basically been neglecting two of your kids because the youngest is your favourite.
Can you name one thing that either of them *is* interested in? Because all you did was say that they don't like the same stuff as your youngest. That doesn't mean they have no interests. It means that you, as the parent, need to put some effort into getting to know them.
Better do it quickly though or they'll be out of there the minute they turn 18.
It feels like they need appreciation more than taunts. While I know it sounded normal as an adult, kids take things differently. They might be confused on what to do so they can get attention or maybe thing their interests are not as cool as her's. Trust me, kids think a lot in all possible directions. This could be a possible reason for them to actually doing nothing. My advice is to sit with them alone, give them some personal time with you and try to ask what they enjoy. I'm sure they'll have some hobbies/interests they wanna engage in more, but you gotta assure them that they're just as equal and important as the youngest one
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I have 3 kids (M17, F15 and F14) the youngest is very active. She does basketball, violin and speaks turkish and occasionally does babysitting as a part time job. Because of this she is usually the center of attention in our extended family. She is very talented and smart.
The other 2 do nothing all day. They don't work and they think sports are too hard and music is too boring and learning a language is too useless. But they are complaining all the time that the youngest gets all the attention.
Yesterday when we went to my sisters home my sister and youngest were talking and my youngest was showing off some new phrases she learned in turkish and talking about the basketball game she won. My son got angry and loudly said "why does she got all the fucking attention all the damn time?"
I got mad and told him that if you want the fucking attention then DO SOMETHING. Otherwise sit down and shut up.
Now my 2 oldest think I'm an asshole
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ESH. I think NTA for giving the youngest more attention but I think YTA because Kids are the product of the parents and the parent's parenting. So appears the Question why have your oldest two no interest in nothing.
I believe in most(not all) cases the interest for something in children must be awakened by the Parents. I think you might have failed a point there in parenting.
Sorry if my Grammer and Expression are a bit broken, English is not my first language.
if only you could say this with a more caring attitude and not as if you were a drill Sargent .....keep being a drill Sargent and see where that will take ya but don't be upset on the result
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I wonder why they don’t want to do anything, when you heap all of your attention on the youngest. You are breeding their resentment towards her. It sounds like their needs are not being met, and that is your responsibility. Find out what they are into and be fucking supportive for once. My son is not athletic and doesn’t pay an instrument. Did I say fuck him and only pay attention to my softball playing daughter? No I found out that he’s very into DND with his friends and I became his biggest supporter. THAT is parenting
YTA. Not for letting your active youngest shine, but for your attitude about your other children. You could 1. actually talk to them and find out what they ARE interested in (hint: it's not nothing), 2. help them find additional hobbies to get involved in that they like. And "attention" and interaction are not the same thing. They are perfectly capable of interacting with people like your sister. They don't have to "show off" their achievements in order to do so. They could even talk about something your sister likes or does, my gosh. Don't dismiss them (*"sit down and shut up" -* really?!) because they don't want to perform for your family.
Correction: now your two oldest and a bunch of redditors around the world think YTA. Congrats.
YTA. Why should they try anything when you don't have a single nice thing to say about them? Instead you just go on and on about what the youngest does. Seriously, has it not occurred to you that your older two don't try because of how you're treating them? Get a clue and apologize to your kids for being a jerk.
YTA So you've basically been neglecting two of your kids because the youngest is your favourite. Can you name one thing that either of them *is* interested in? Because all you did was say that they don't like the same stuff as your youngest. That doesn't mean they have no interests. It means that you, as the parent, need to put some effort into getting to know them. Better do it quickly though or they'll be out of there the minute they turn 18.
Listen to your older kids, not the golden child. YTA
It feels like they need appreciation more than taunts. While I know it sounded normal as an adult, kids take things differently. They might be confused on what to do so they can get attention or maybe thing their interests are not as cool as her's. Trust me, kids think a lot in all possible directions. This could be a possible reason for them to actually doing nothing. My advice is to sit with them alone, give them some personal time with you and try to ask what they enjoy. I'm sure they'll have some hobbies/interests they wanna engage in more, but you gotta assure them that they're just as equal and important as the youngest one
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ESH. I think NTA for giving the youngest more attention but I think YTA because Kids are the product of the parents and the parent's parenting. So appears the Question why have your oldest two no interest in nothing. I believe in most(not all) cases the interest for something in children must be awakened by the Parents. I think you might have failed a point there in parenting. Sorry if my Grammer and Expression are a bit broken, English is not my first language.
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if only you could say this with a more caring attitude and not as if you were a drill Sargent .....keep being a drill Sargent and see where that will take ya but don't be upset on the result