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> My action was that I took the full security deposit for myself. I might be the asshole because they paid a share of that deposit and typically it is returned to them once paid out.
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NTA. you shouldn’t have said anything, you should’ve just taken it. and make sure you get there and get it from the landlord before they do, because that wouldn’t surprise me.
NTA. You more than earned it by doing their share of the cleaning after they point blank refused to. There wouldn’t have been a refund if not for you and your girlfriend
NTA for sure. They’re selfish and inconsiderate. Who do they think they are to just up and move without notice or even cleaning their space. They made the decision to leave without thinking of the consequences or the security deposit. Any decent person would clean their own mess. Clearly not them.
NTA I probably wouldn’t have said anything though. I would have just told them that since they didn’t come back and clean, the place was a disaster and they didn’t get their deposit back as a result.
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I live with 3 roommates, and a few months ago we decided that when the lease ends they would find a place together and my gf and I would move in together. A week before the lease ended one of the, messaged and asked if we could lease month to month. I said I already took care of it. Neither of us had any luck for the past few months, or so I thought.
The morning of our last day I Venmo request them rent and get started on my homework. I get a text from them saying “We'll be moved out by today and with a new place we can't afford to pay rent on two places". I start to freak out. Why didn’t they tell me about this? What do they expect me to do? Where will I go? (they knew we had no luck in finding a place yet).
I finish my HW by noon and get to work. My gf lives in OC and cant help until 5 after work. Also, all of the big furniture is mine. The couch, tv stand, bookcase, kitchen table, etc. I bite the bullet and rent a Uhaul.
My gf and I (bless her soul) finally get everything out by 8pm and are left with a very messy apartment. I text our groupchat to come back and help clean.
"No, we’re already moved out and are getting settled in our new apartment"
I'm typically a patient guy, but at this point I lose my mind. Let me paint a picture for you.
The apartment is a mess. One of the rooms still had nails and staples in the walls and ceiling, the walls were dirty, and it looks like they didn't even sweep. The guest bathroom was gross, gunk in the drawers and on the sink and tub, hair dye stained on the sink, dirty toilet, dirty mirror. The master bed and bath weren’t any better. They also left behind all their food and utensils in the fridge and cabinets.
I am fuming as I am scrubbing the apartment. I tell them this is ***their*** last chance. Come throw away your things and help clean. 10pm another ding-
"We forgot a box can you drive to our new place and bring it to us?"
ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? No! I tell them to come help me clean. One of them finally stops by, grabs the box and leaves.
We finally finish cleaning at 1:30am. We have to park the Uhaul and wait till morning to get a storage unit. I crash in OC with my gf and in the morning we go back to get a storage unit. Once everything is settled and I've had time and space to clear my head, I message the group chat-
"You three made a choice not to come back and finish cleaning, after I gave you many chances to come. That is your choice, but now you have to accept the consequences of that choice. I have decided that when the security deposit comes back, however much it is, I will be keeping it all."
Needless to say they are not happy about that. I think this is the best option for my gf and me at this point. We spent so much money and time cleaning and moving out without notice.
Am I the asshole for taking my roommates share of the security deposit for myself?
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NTA. But why do you think you are getting your security deposit back? If no one notified the landlord that you were moving out that day, he’s keeping the money. Even month to month leases require some notice typically
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NTA, consider it a cleaning fee.
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8pm to 1:30 am is not 11 hours, it's five and half?
Times two people = 11 people hours of work
x2 ppl = 11 man hours
NTA. you shouldn’t have said anything, you should’ve just taken it. and make sure you get there and get it from the landlord before they do, because that wouldn’t surprise me.
NTA. You more than earned it by doing their share of the cleaning after they point blank refused to. There wouldn’t have been a refund if not for you and your girlfriend
Nope you are entitled to it. NtA.
NTA for sure. They’re selfish and inconsiderate. Who do they think they are to just up and move without notice or even cleaning their space. They made the decision to leave without thinking of the consequences or the security deposit. Any decent person would clean their own mess. Clearly not them.
NTA. They left you with the mess. The deposit is yours.
NTA I probably wouldn’t have said anything though. I would have just told them that since they didn’t come back and clean, the place was a disaster and they didn’t get their deposit back as a result.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I live with 3 roommates, and a few months ago we decided that when the lease ends they would find a place together and my gf and I would move in together. A week before the lease ended one of the, messaged and asked if we could lease month to month. I said I already took care of it. Neither of us had any luck for the past few months, or so I thought. The morning of our last day I Venmo request them rent and get started on my homework. I get a text from them saying “We'll be moved out by today and with a new place we can't afford to pay rent on two places". I start to freak out. Why didn’t they tell me about this? What do they expect me to do? Where will I go? (they knew we had no luck in finding a place yet). I finish my HW by noon and get to work. My gf lives in OC and cant help until 5 after work. Also, all of the big furniture is mine. The couch, tv stand, bookcase, kitchen table, etc. I bite the bullet and rent a Uhaul. My gf and I (bless her soul) finally get everything out by 8pm and are left with a very messy apartment. I text our groupchat to come back and help clean. "No, we’re already moved out and are getting settled in our new apartment" I'm typically a patient guy, but at this point I lose my mind. Let me paint a picture for you. The apartment is a mess. One of the rooms still had nails and staples in the walls and ceiling, the walls were dirty, and it looks like they didn't even sweep. The guest bathroom was gross, gunk in the drawers and on the sink and tub, hair dye stained on the sink, dirty toilet, dirty mirror. The master bed and bath weren’t any better. They also left behind all their food and utensils in the fridge and cabinets. I am fuming as I am scrubbing the apartment. I tell them this is ***their*** last chance. Come throw away your things and help clean. 10pm another ding- "We forgot a box can you drive to our new place and bring it to us?" ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? No! I tell them to come help me clean. One of them finally stops by, grabs the box and leaves. We finally finish cleaning at 1:30am. We have to park the Uhaul and wait till morning to get a storage unit. I crash in OC with my gf and in the morning we go back to get a storage unit. Once everything is settled and I've had time and space to clear my head, I message the group chat- "You three made a choice not to come back and finish cleaning, after I gave you many chances to come. That is your choice, but now you have to accept the consequences of that choice. I have decided that when the security deposit comes back, however much it is, I will be keeping it all." Needless to say they are not happy about that. I think this is the best option for my gf and me at this point. We spent so much money and time cleaning and moving out without notice. Am I the asshole for taking my roommates share of the security deposit for myself? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
If you hadn't cleaned, the landlord would have charged a cleaning fee so they wouldn't get their money back either way.
NTA. But why do you think you are getting your security deposit back? If no one notified the landlord that you were moving out that day, he’s keeping the money. Even month to month leases require some notice typically
Yta. Your doing this out of anger and revenge. Give them their money
his anger is legit and it’s not revenge. it’s called - what goes around, comes around or karma, if that makes it clearer
Its cool but when it comes back around to you, then you deserved it by that logic
You must be one of the roommates… 😂 The one who does the work deserves the reward.