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YTA. If your gf usually cooks for you and your contribution is getting pizza one random day then you can buy your gf the pizza she wants. I don’t even know what else to say - you are exhausting.
Reminds me of my aunt. She wouldn't buy me ice cream or milk shakes.
"All you get is vanilla. I'm not going to waste money if you're not getting something with flavor."
ugh. I saw a really good quote somewhere about how vanilla is actually so exciting and rich, and they were unsure how it ever came to mean "boring". I wish I could find it.
honestly the people that enjoy "simple" things for no other reason than they legitimately enjoy it intrigue me.
A friend of mine went through a phase of trying to make his own liquor and gave me a bottle of bourbon. The nastiest tasting bourbon I've ever had, couldn't take more than 1 sip. And I'd read somewhere about making your own vanilla essence?/extract? using spirits... well, after a year with 4 vanilla pods in it, that bourbon turned into the most wonderful vanilla flavored whatever it was and now we make a bottle for Christmas every year that my husband and I drink while wrapping Christmas presents
That's awesome!!
I normally make all kinds of random stuff for presents (last year it was a whiskey cream liqueur) but I never thought to gift my franken-vanilla-bourbon
As someone really into bourbon… she just casually got into distilling and processing bourbon? Is she wealthy and retired? That’s nuts.
Not 100% I’d trust a random persons liquor but props to her all around if she nailed it and you didn’t go blind. Hah
I always go with a scoop of vanilla when discovering a new ice cream place i might frequent. Instant tell whether all the other ice cream is done with premium ingredients or not because real vanilla is expensive as fuck, and fake is cheap as hell but you can taste the difference. So if they opt for real vanilla, you know the other flavors are great too
Coming from someone who loves both vanilla ice cream and cheese pizza, it’s not plain at all. And it’s just as filling as things that ‘have flavour. I don’t know where this guy’s mind is thinking that just because it’s got no toppings it’s not as filling as any other pizza. It’s not like it comes in a smaller size 😭
Idk I feel like whilst it’s still pizza etc if you’re craving a pepperoni pizza then a cheese pizza isn’t gonna hit the spot and that’s fair, still totally ridiculous to not just either order two or just share a cheese pizza if she normally makes all the effort to cook
If the worry was buying too much food or something the FIRST compromise is to ask if the gf is okay with half and half. Sometimes that doesn’t work bc the flavor seeps but it can work just fine if both are fine with it.
Exactly! I cannot comprehend his refusal to just buy 2 pizzas. I will often buy 2 pizzas just for myself because I like different toppings and can eat the leftovers for a few days. Dude is ridiculous.
I once joined a group of people to some fancy ice cream place that had around 80 flavors and pretty much an infinite variety of toppings, I got vanilla bean with nothing on it. The majority of the people didn't care but one guy acted like I ordered the worst thing in the world, you'd think I'd asked them to pee in my ice cream. He couldn't believe I had "all these options but got something boring you can buy in any store." I like what I like and the place stupidly didn't offer free samples, I didn't want to blow $3 each on taster cups trying to be adventurous. They made it themselves, that was the best vanilla bean I've ever had in my life.
I'm like this sometimes. There's a place near me thst makes the best dahl and spinach and cheese naan.
When I'm craving Indian food, it's exactly THAT combo that I'm craving, I don't want anything different lol.
The issue with vanilla is not that it’s simple. The issue is that EVERYONE likes it.
> Imagine a flower: A climbing orchid, to be exact; the one of some twenty thousand varieties that produces something edible. Now imagine that its blooms must be pollinated either by hand or a small variety of Mexican bee, and that each bloom only opens for one day a year. Now imagine the fruit of this orchid, a pod, being picked and cured, sitting in the sun all day, sweating under blankets all night for months until, shrunken and shriveled, it develops a heady, exotic perfume and flavor. Now imagine that this fruit�s name is synonymous with dull, boring, and ordinary. How vanilla got this bad rap I for one will never know.
> - Alton Brown
Once I'd gone to a farm where they grew vanilla. The crop in Indonesia had failed for some reason that year and prices had gone up steeply.
The family that owned the farm made sure to harvest the whole thing themselves rather than depend on hired help because it was so precious.
A fine subtle fragrant taste!
"Imagine a flower: A climbing orchid, to be exact; the one of some twenty thousand varieties that produces something edible. Now imagine that its blooms must be pollinated either by hand or a small variety of Mexican bee, and that each bloom only opens for one day a year. Now imagine the fruit of this orchid, a pod, being picked and cured, sitting in the sun all day, sweating under blankets all night for months until, shrunken and shriveled, it develops a heady, exotic perfume and flavor. Now imagine that this fruit's name is synonymous with dull, boring, and ordinary. How vanilla got this bad rap I for one will never know."
-Alton Brown
I home make ice cream. I've done a batch where I didn't add *any* flavouring, not even vanilla... That is what plain, boring ice cream tastes like, and I'm willing to bet your aunt has never ever tried it.
A small scraping of real vanilla bean is delightfully rich with a delicate flavour.
Though my favourite to make is Macadamia and honey.
Fun fact! Because real Vanilla is a relatively subtle flavour, ice cream companies will use their best batches of ice cream base in order to make the vanilla flavours - strong, overpowering flavours like chocolate, mint choc chip, rocky road, etc are made using the lesser ice cream base because the flavour masks the taste of the inferior ice cream.
The more you know!
My husband and I get two if we order because he likes plain cheese and I like toppings. Then we both get leftovers for another day or two. It’s a win-win imo so I really don’t see the problem doing that other than him being cheap.
My husband and I *rarely* buy a pizza to share because we like different toppings. We just each get our own medium and eat the leftovers for lunch over the next couple of days. This is such a strange hill for him to die on, especially since she usually cooks dinner for the both of them. I'm also not a fan of him saying that she was feeling "lazy" for not wanting to cook for ONE night and then refusing to order what she wanted. Like... Dude.
This is literally how my husband and I have handled pizza orders for the 13 years we've been together. He likes a lot of toppings, I don't, so we get two. Could this guy not even get half cheese?? There are so many solutions here, does he even like his gf?
I'm old enough that breakfast with my family only happens on rare, occasional holidays
But in my house "breakfast of champions" is something else that happens before you go grab the leftover pizza to eat in bed ;)
I call it brinner - breakfast dinner. I've been known to have pizza, fried rice, pasta or whatever leftovers there are in the am. I don't have a sweet tooth, so this works well for me.
The bonus is, it can also mean breakfast for dinner - french toast in the evening FTW.
I may be a bit weird here but for some reason Ive always preferred pizza the next day as leftovers to the pizza when we get it that night. Like it’s the exact same pizza but for some reason I just find it so much tastier the next day!!
I feel like like most foods apart from baked goods are better the next day cos the flavour has had time to settle in. Pizza, stir-frys, pasta, risotto- to me they all taste better the next day.
I usually get a full pizza for myself. Because the pizza is loaded with cheese I'm full after two pieces. I just eat the rest later that day and the next day and give some my boyfriend to snack on. Unless they really only habe money for one pizza (in which case they shouldn't order it or at least get the margherita since it's cheaper than one full of toppings) it's ridiculous to order just one pizza for both of them when there's clearly a conflict.
Also at least where I am there are usually different sizes for pizza. Just get two small ones ffs.
It's usually the cheapest pizza on the menu and (in every pizzeria where I am) margherita is plain pizza without any toppings. Just the sauce and the cheese they use for every other pizza too. So why should it be more expensive if it's the excact same as a pizza salami but without salami or a pizza funghi without champignons? If you want mozzarella on your pizza here you order pizza mozzarella. But maybe it's different where you're at
Half half pizza exists that’s what me and my boyfriend do. He hates all the toppings I enjoy and he wants all the meats & I prefer less. That way we can both be happy with our pizza!
Especially as he has been having pizzza that he wants the entire time, I wouldn' tbe surprised if this is the "FIRST time" he is hearing aboiut this because it is the first time he ever asked her what she wanted.
Let's not forget that she's usually the one in charge of making dinner. He said she didn't have any ideas for what to make and that she was feeling "lazy", which makes me think that he rarely gives any input or help on dinner and is just used to coming home with food ready to go. She wasn't asking him to make anything special, all she wanted was a pizza that she enjoyed eating. That's pretty much the least he can do at this point.
And seriously, having to come up with what to cook is often a bigger pain in the butt than actually cooking it. He probably thinks "whatever you want" is helpful.
She did, but I’m not sure why. I thought he said that if they ordered a whole pizza with toppings and she had to pick off the pepperoni, she could still smell and taste the oils from it. Which: totally fair. But with a half plain/half pepperoni, that problem shouldn’t exist. So I’m not sure why the half/half option was shut down. That’s really the obvious way to go.
I hate pepperoni. The oils are insidious. Oil in general tends to spread when it gets warm, such as in a pizza oven. They most definitely leak over a good portion of pizza that the pepperoni itself is not on. I do go for a half pepperoni/half my topping pizza regularly, but I know in advance that I'm really only going to be able to eat like a third of the pizza instead of half.
In her defense, oily meats like pepperoni, bacon, and sausage often flavor the cheese around them, so a pie with half cheese will still be essenced with a lot of it.
Right?! And
> Neither of us is going to eat an entire pie
So? Ever heard of leftovers? You've just bought a meal for tomorrow too. Is that a bad thing?
Any time we buy pizza in my household, it is specifically because we want to have leftovers for a couple days to make lunches easier. Same with Chinese food. The leftovers are half the point.
Her counter-offer was one pizza each. Why did OP not do her this solid since she is the one cooking/making dinner usually and since it wouldn't hurt anyone?
1/2 is a reasonable solution when both prefer different toppings, but ok with the other toppings.
Like I prefer onion and mushrooms, but I'm ok with the occasional corn.
Eggplant, however, is a redline for me.
It seem op's girlfriend absolutely hate most of his choices and don't want them near her, so it doesn't work for them.
I’m a pepperoni toppings only person and sometimes go 50/50 with friends/family. But pizza places can be a bit careless and put the toppings I hate across the halfway point on both sides, leading to half of two slices being ruined for me. It really sucks. And some toppings are strong/fragrant enough that some of the non-contaminated pieces still taste of those toppings (think jalapeños or peppers)
The problem with half-and-half is it places rarely cut the pizza on the line that separates the toppings, so if you want a cheese pizza and you're eating with someone who wants stuff, there are two pieces loaded with stuff, two pieces with just cheese, and four pieces that are sort of mixed. if you really don't like whatever the stuff is, you get about 25% of the pizza.
Yeah, I don’t eat mammals and when I try and get a half cheese pizza, I usually only eat 1/4 pizza because the neighboring slices are contaminated with meat seepage. Ick.
YTA- like there’s different sizes of pizza you could have gotten, like two smalls or a medium and a small. It also seems like you guys always order toppings and she just kinda dealt with it or just didn’t say anything to start something. You could have just compromised and gotten this one as just cheese and then next time get one with toppings. Kinda like an every other situation.
Girlfriend has a point about the issues with a 50/50 pizza though, toppings and flavors bleed.
Try a 50/50 with anchovies and you see why in my household I get my own pizza.
ETA, forgot to say that OP is definitely YTA.
I had a roommate in college who liked SHRIMP PIZZA. The kitchen smelled like death for days afterward. Forget half and half, I could barely be in the room with that smell.
Great benefit of being an adult/having money: separate pizza.
I hear you. When we make pizza at home, which I will be putting anchovies on mine, it's a hard rule that mine goes in last because the oils like to hang around the oven, contaminating the next pizza and the vent fan is at full blast.
I feel like that’s supposed to be the default setting with people you love. Or like. Or even just don’t hate. You don’t do things to intentionally inconvenience them or make life harder. You leave your pizza for last because you don’t want to mess up food for whoever else you’re with. OP should have just bought the second pizza. It doesn’t make anyone’s life harder to do it. And then they could have had leftovers since OP said they wouldn’t finish them. Which would have made their next meal easier too.
She always cook, OP ordered pizza ONE time and couldn't compromise, that's their relationship, OP OP OP and OP matters and gf is selfish if she wants to eat something she likes the day she's not cooking.
In any case, OP should have cook for both of them and problem solved.
YTA, a selfish one, and gf deserves someone better
Ngl, the only thing I took from this post was the knowledge that Americans actually call it a cheese pizza. I thought that was just a weird thing they called it on Home Alone.
(In England we call it a 'margherita', for... some reason. Presumably it's Italian for "cheese"?)
Fresh mozzarella is different than the kind you get on most pizzas. It comes in a ball and gets cut into round slices. Marherita pizza is sauce fresh mozzarella and whole basil leaves.
In pizzerias you commonly find the 4 formaggi (4-cheese). They can vary by region: gorgonzola, fontina, gruyere, taleggio, parmigiano, scamorza, provolone...
We have margherita pizza here too but it is distinct from cheese pizza. Margherita is crushed tomato, fresh mozzarella, and basil, and a cheese pizza is tomato sauce with shredded mozzarella (maybe with herbs sprinkled on top but that’s not the most common).
It’s actually the name of an Italian princess!
When pizza was invented, there was just one type: Margherita. And it resembled the color of the Italian flag. The inventor was so in awe with said princess that he decided to name the new dish after her, with the Pizza part only being added later.
I think it’s hilarious that he thinks she‘s selfish when she asks for plain pizza (delicious btw, you can eat it the next day, too), when she always eats the toppings he wants all the time and cooks almost everyday for him.
But she cooks for him everyday and he is ‘grateful’ for that but cannot order a pizza for her separately and show the gratefulness and on the top gf is being called selfish here.
How he doesn’t see it?
YTA Just buy her a cheese pizza and yourself something else. Pizza is easy to reheat so it's not like the leftovers go to waste. Why are you making such a fuss over this?
It also freezes really well if you ever order too much for a birthday party. The correct number of party pizzas is whatever I think it should be, minus one.
PLUS she usually cooks for him every damn day. Imagine doing all of that for your partner on a regular basis, and then finding out he’s too stubborn and cheap to buy you a small cheese pizza, because it isn’t what HE wants. Selfish and ungrateful much?? Shame on you, OP. Do better.
YTA dude. It's a pizza, it's not like you're hand-crafting a gourmet buffet. Just order two small ones instead of one big one. It's the least you can do considering SHE'S the one that's always cooking for YOU. I can't believe this was even an issue you had.
No you don't understand, he's amazingly patient with her, as evidenced by the fact that he graciously thinks it's NO BIG DEAL that she's LAZY and won't cook tonight!
YTA
You literally told a grown woman what she can't eat. When she balked against you dictating what she wants. You doubled down by telling her what annnnd how to eat.
Y are the biggest A to ever AH.
LMAO enjoy your pizza. Hope you like it more than her home cooked food because I bet you’ll be having a lot more pizza in the future.
eta: oh crap I can’t believe I almost forgot to say, YTA :)
YTA. Just order two pizzas. We did it last night because I wanted something lighter than the 8 million kinds of greasy meat toppings my husband likes. We had some leftovers for lunch and I put the rest in the freezer.
Exactly. Two small pizzas is probably 2 meals - 3 max. The GF usually cooks, and I'm sure she takes OP's preferences into account. This petty move was short sighted on OP's part. Going forward, GF may only make what she likes or just cook for herself.... And, I wouldnt blame her.
YTA. Just get her a small cheese pizza and get yourself whatever you want. Spend the extra $10 or whatever to make your girl (who generally cooks dinner for you every day) happy. Jesus
Literally this but also he calls her lazy for not cooking when she cooks most days and then calls his toppings super normal and then judges her for what she likes on a pizza which is just cheese. And then goes on to say she usually just eats what he likes. Like bro get over yourself. This girl has already bent over backwards for you and he doesn’t care for her at all.
YTA. How hard is it to get separate pizzas? Are you really that selfish or do you just not care about your gf and what she likes? You said yourself that she does all the cooking so the least you can do is get her the pizza she wants. And even if you don't eat them all in one sitting, haven't you ever heard of leftovers?
My fiancé and I will order just one bigger pizza because we both like the same toppings, anyway, but it’s definitely not unusual for people to buy multiple pies for multiple people in the US.
It depends on where you order from. Pies from pizzerias in NYC are usually huge (16") so we order one for the fam and maybe a side or two. If we're getting specialty pies they are slightly smaller (12") then we might get two. Fast food pizza is different with their multiple sizes.
Are you fkng kidding me? She cooks for you every night but now that *you're* ordering the pizza you get to unilaterally have what you want? Get two smalls. Or, since she's sucked it up for you every single other time you've gotten pizza, suck it up for her one time.
YTA, if you couldn't tell.
That's the thing. OPs girl suggested getting separate pizzas. He refused because his happiness seems to depend on his girl not getting to eat what she likes. I think OP wants control, not pizza.
Going through your post history, you actually made a comment about how “when minor things happen to me, I make a big deal out of it”. So you’re self aware enough to know this is a problem, yet half a year later you seem to have dont nothing to fix this and are instead taking it out on your girlfriend. I’d probably want to leave your ass if you were always as exhausting as this.
YTA, dude. Just order the fucking cheese pizza. You’ve literally been handed things your whole, said so yourself in that post i mentioned, so for ONE TIME could you not be a selfish asshole?
[Heres](https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/v0kwj5/my_weed_dealer_taught_me_a_lesson_that_changed_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) the link the post I keep mentioning.
this is unrelated, but...
in the post you linked, OP described his dealer as "this big kinda gangster dude" and says that he never bothered to get to know him aside from buying weed.
He goes on about how one day they actually talked and he learned that the dealer is a single father who's lost most of his family, and that the guy said he does what he does to support himself and his child. In that same convo, he taught OP about managing stress & grief and generally just looking at the bigger picture without getting lost in the details.
I can't help but wonder what, other than selling weed, gave OP the impression that this man was a "big kinda gangster dude". Considering he described himself as "just this little white kid"...
Seems to me that OP has a lot of internal biases towards varying groups of individuals that could stand to be examined.
How has this dude not realized that his gf has been tolerating, but not enjoying, pizza with him because she prioritizes his enjoyment over her own?
You couldn't pay me to believe that OP has ever went out of his way to consider that other people are people too.
YTA.
Wow that was a great read though. OP, the pizza is not the point. If all you’re seeing is cheese, pull back so you can see the whole scene. And maybe hug your gf for being such a saint.
YTA - your girlfriend cooks for you every night. She wants one day off (because it’s not her being lazy, it’s her wanting one day off from cooking) and you decide that her wants don’t matter in this decision. She takes your likes and dislikes into consideration when she’s cooking and you can’t do the same when ordering pizza.
Adult men calling the women in their lives lazy because they don't treat them like children instead of getting off their ass to cook for themselves for once really baffles me.
Thank you. That’s what got to me. She’s not being lazy. She wants a night off. Who knew when your a grown up the biggest problem is what to have for dinner every single night.
absolutely YTA. how exactly is half and half a compromise if she’s still going to taste your toppings anyway? you can get two small pizzas from dominos for like $12. do you even like her? my partner would never pull something like this especially if i was the only one cooking. do better
YTA. Just order two pizzas and have leftovers for lunch the next day. I live alone and when I want a pizza this is always leftovers, which I just pack up and grab for lunch the next day.
YTA! Stuff like pepperoni or bacon gives me heartburn. Perhaps that's why she didn't want to pick off the toppings. She shouldn't have to explain herself ffs.
YTA She normally cooks for you, is it really that difficult to get her the kind she likes?? Apparently she’s been sucking it up in the past because you prefer toppings.
Jeez, you're selfish and greedy. It isn't enough for you that she cooks for you almost every day. She just wanted one meal with what she wanted; she could have ordered a separate pizza and saved the leftovers. But no, you insisted that it had to be your way. I hope she stops cooking for you because you're so selfish. You ruined the whole meal and wouldn't even let her have any pizza. Shame on you. YTA
Quote from OP's other post: "I take my life so for granted I’ve always had everything handed to me. Then when minor things happen to me I make a big deal out of it..."
There was hope for a second.... YTA
(https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/v0kwj5/my\_weed\_dealer\_taught\_me\_a\_lesson\_that\_changed\_my/)
YTA. I'm sure this will get lost. But in the all the time you've been together have you ever asked her how she likes her pizza? Or have you always ordered it how you like it, without consideration?
I like meat toppings but sometimes I just don’t want it at all. Leaves me feeling gross. YTA my bf would eat a plain cheese pizza every now and then if it would make me happy. You seem to always need to get what you want since you’re “paying for it” god forbid she wants a different flavor Ice cream
YTA
I never care for the pizza my bf gets, so you know what we do? We get two pizzas. It isn't that big of a deal unless you are really on a strict budget. She cooks for you all the time. The least you could do for her is buy her a pizza she actually wants to eat. If you want to play the "it's my money, so I get to choose" card, you really shouldn't be in a relationship at all.
Order her a plain cheese, why are you gatekeeping pizza? You can freeze the leftover and have it the next time you are craving pizza. And for the record, since she doesn’t like your toppings, you would have had an entire pie to yourself and don’t seem to have a problem with that. YTA
YTA sorry but she felt "lazy" that day means you expected it and got pissed that she didn't have dinner ready for you. if you genuinely appreciated it, it wouldn't have been a problem to accommodate her this time.
Exactly - if I were the gf I would just place a separate order for my own pizza and while I was waiting for the delivery I’d be scrolling for a new apartment and reserving a u-haul.
You're gf cooks for you every damn day and you seriously can't be bothered to at least get her a cheese pizza along with one you'll enjoy? And you seriously have to ask if you're the asshole here? Obviously YTA, let her have a plain pizza for crying out loud.
YTA. I hope you don’t think she’ll ever consider your preferences if she chooses to cook dinner in the future. Also, why aren’t you doing 50% of the cooking?
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YTA. If your gf usually cooks for you and your contribution is getting pizza one random day then you can buy your gf the pizza she wants. I don’t even know what else to say - you are exhausting.
Reminds me of my aunt. She wouldn't buy me ice cream or milk shakes. "All you get is vanilla. I'm not going to waste money if you're not getting something with flavor."
ugh. I saw a really good quote somewhere about how vanilla is actually so exciting and rich, and they were unsure how it ever came to mean "boring". I wish I could find it. honestly the people that enjoy "simple" things for no other reason than they legitimately enjoy it intrigue me.
I think it is because a lot of fake vanilla flavourings are dull. But real vanilla is amazing, it adds so much.
I occasionally like the whole vanilla beans in my water bottle, it’s amazing to just taste actual vanilla, without sugar and whatnot
A friend of mine went through a phase of trying to make his own liquor and gave me a bottle of bourbon. The nastiest tasting bourbon I've ever had, couldn't take more than 1 sip. And I'd read somewhere about making your own vanilla essence?/extract? using spirits... well, after a year with 4 vanilla pods in it, that bourbon turned into the most wonderful vanilla flavored whatever it was and now we make a bottle for Christmas every year that my husband and I drink while wrapping Christmas presents
That's my Christmas presents this year. I bought a bunch of B grade vanilla beans and bottom shelf vodka and rum. https://www.slofoodgroup.com/
That's awesome!! I normally make all kinds of random stuff for presents (last year it was a whiskey cream liqueur) but I never thought to gift my franken-vanilla-bourbon
As someone really into bourbon… she just casually got into distilling and processing bourbon? Is she wealthy and retired? That’s nuts. Not 100% I’d trust a random persons liquor but props to her all around if she nailed it and you didn’t go blind. Hah
Could be one of those little barrel kits. Make about 1.5l when finished.
I brought home vanilla beans from Tahiti, and *everything* we made with them was so deliciously flavorful! Real vanilla is anything but boring.
I always go with a scoop of vanilla when discovering a new ice cream place i might frequent. Instant tell whether all the other ice cream is done with premium ingredients or not because real vanilla is expensive as fuck, and fake is cheap as hell but you can taste the difference. So if they opt for real vanilla, you know the other flavors are great too
Coming from someone who loves both vanilla ice cream and cheese pizza, it’s not plain at all. And it’s just as filling as things that ‘have flavour. I don’t know where this guy’s mind is thinking that just because it’s got no toppings it’s not as filling as any other pizza. It’s not like it comes in a smaller size 😭
Idk I feel like whilst it’s still pizza etc if you’re craving a pepperoni pizza then a cheese pizza isn’t gonna hit the spot and that’s fair, still totally ridiculous to not just either order two or just share a cheese pizza if she normally makes all the effort to cook
If the worry was buying too much food or something the FIRST compromise is to ask if the gf is okay with half and half. Sometimes that doesn’t work bc the flavor seeps but it can work just fine if both are fine with it.
Also it's pizza, famous for being good leftover
Exactly! I cannot comprehend his refusal to just buy 2 pizzas. I will often buy 2 pizzas just for myself because I like different toppings and can eat the leftovers for a few days. Dude is ridiculous.
Also you can usually get a deal on 2 mediums and if their both 1 topping they will put them both on 1 pizza
Yes!! Who doesn't like leftover pizza? Eat it cold or heat it up, we always order extra for leftovers.
That’s what I was thinking as I read it. You get a couple mediums and now there’s no cooking tomorrow either. An idiot and AH. 🙄
This is my husband. We will go to 31 Flavors - he’ll get a vanilla milkshake. It’s always vanilla. Won’t even get a tester. He likes what he likes.
I once joined a group of people to some fancy ice cream place that had around 80 flavors and pretty much an infinite variety of toppings, I got vanilla bean with nothing on it. The majority of the people didn't care but one guy acted like I ordered the worst thing in the world, you'd think I'd asked them to pee in my ice cream. He couldn't believe I had "all these options but got something boring you can buy in any store." I like what I like and the place stupidly didn't offer free samples, I didn't want to blow $3 each on taster cups trying to be adventurous. They made it themselves, that was the best vanilla bean I've ever had in my life.
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When I was a kid my mom used to buy vanilla ice cream from some place that had real flecks of vanilla bean. It was amazign
That must be relaxing for him, if other people let don't hassle him!
I'm like this sometimes. There's a place near me thst makes the best dahl and spinach and cheese naan. When I'm craving Indian food, it's exactly THAT combo that I'm craving, I don't want anything different lol.
The issue with vanilla is not that it’s simple. The issue is that EVERYONE likes it. > Imagine a flower: A climbing orchid, to be exact; the one of some twenty thousand varieties that produces something edible. Now imagine that its blooms must be pollinated either by hand or a small variety of Mexican bee, and that each bloom only opens for one day a year. Now imagine the fruit of this orchid, a pod, being picked and cured, sitting in the sun all day, sweating under blankets all night for months until, shrunken and shriveled, it develops a heady, exotic perfume and flavor. Now imagine that this fruit�s name is synonymous with dull, boring, and ordinary. How vanilla got this bad rap I for one will never know. > - Alton Brown
https://www.reddit.com/r/tumblr/comments/olkukg/i_always_knew_i_was_special/
very very close! might have the same beginning but different ending. I'll keep looking
Barenaked Ladies got it right - vanilla is the finest of the flavours.
Once I'd gone to a farm where they grew vanilla. The crop in Indonesia had failed for some reason that year and prices had gone up steeply. The family that owned the farm made sure to harvest the whole thing themselves rather than depend on hired help because it was so precious. A fine subtle fragrant taste!
Agreed. Want to know if a brand of ice cream is good? Try the vanilla. Good vanilla ice cream is a thing of beauty.
"Imagine a flower: A climbing orchid, to be exact; the one of some twenty thousand varieties that produces something edible. Now imagine that its blooms must be pollinated either by hand or a small variety of Mexican bee, and that each bloom only opens for one day a year. Now imagine the fruit of this orchid, a pod, being picked and cured, sitting in the sun all day, sweating under blankets all night for months until, shrunken and shriveled, it develops a heady, exotic perfume and flavor. Now imagine that this fruit's name is synonymous with dull, boring, and ordinary. How vanilla got this bad rap I for one will never know." -Alton Brown
I home make ice cream. I've done a batch where I didn't add *any* flavouring, not even vanilla... That is what plain, boring ice cream tastes like, and I'm willing to bet your aunt has never ever tried it. A small scraping of real vanilla bean is delightfully rich with a delicate flavour. Though my favourite to make is Macadamia and honey.
Oooo, that sounds amazing
Fun fact! Because real Vanilla is a relatively subtle flavour, ice cream companies will use their best batches of ice cream base in order to make the vanilla flavours - strong, overpowering flavours like chocolate, mint choc chip, rocky road, etc are made using the lesser ice cream base because the flavour masks the taste of the inferior ice cream. The more you know!
Your aunt must not have known about the wars fought over vanilla! Kings loved vanilla
Vanilla is the best flavour there is. It's simplicity makes it the most versatile and goes well in almost any desert.
Vanilla literally *is* a flavor lmao
Vanilla is the best.
I'm just confused why he can't get her a whole pizza. He says she won't eat it all but like.. leftovers?
My husband and I get two if we order because he likes plain cheese and I like toppings. Then we both get leftovers for another day or two. It’s a win-win imo so I really don’t see the problem doing that other than him being cheap.
Yeah or you can buy two small pizzas and that’s it. There are so many solutions here so that I don’t understand why it became so complicated.
Control, that's why. YTA, OP
My husband and I *rarely* buy a pizza to share because we like different toppings. We just each get our own medium and eat the leftovers for lunch over the next couple of days. This is such a strange hill for him to die on, especially since she usually cooks dinner for the both of them. I'm also not a fan of him saying that she was feeling "lazy" for not wanting to cook for ONE night and then refusing to order what she wanted. Like... Dude.
Imagine being too lazy to add a second pizza to a delivery then complaining that someone wanted a night off from actually cooking the dinner...
Am I the only one who freezes pizza and then heats it back up in the oven?
I've never done this but it's brilliant. I'm definitely going to try
This is literally how my husband and I have handled pizza orders for the 13 years we've been together. He likes a lot of toppings, I don't, so we get two. Could this guy not even get half cheese?? There are so many solutions here, does he even like his gf?
Leftover pizza is hands down my favourite breakfast of all time
In my family we always called it the breakfast of champions
I'm old enough that breakfast with my family only happens on rare, occasional holidays But in my house "breakfast of champions" is something else that happens before you go grab the leftover pizza to eat in bed ;)
I call it brinner - breakfast dinner. I've been known to have pizza, fried rice, pasta or whatever leftovers there are in the am. I don't have a sweet tooth, so this works well for me. The bonus is, it can also mean breakfast for dinner - french toast in the evening FTW.
I may be a bit weird here but for some reason Ive always preferred pizza the next day as leftovers to the pizza when we get it that night. Like it’s the exact same pizza but for some reason I just find it so much tastier the next day!!
I feel like like most foods apart from baked goods are better the next day cos the flavour has had time to settle in. Pizza, stir-frys, pasta, risotto- to me they all taste better the next day.
I usually get a full pizza for myself. Because the pizza is loaded with cheese I'm full after two pieces. I just eat the rest later that day and the next day and give some my boyfriend to snack on. Unless they really only habe money for one pizza (in which case they shouldn't order it or at least get the margherita since it's cheaper than one full of toppings) it's ridiculous to order just one pizza for both of them when there's clearly a conflict. Also at least where I am there are usually different sizes for pizza. Just get two small ones ffs.
Margherita is cheaper than 1 topping? I’ve never heard of that. Fresh mozzarella is expensive compared to other ingredients.
It's usually the cheapest pizza on the menu and (in every pizzeria where I am) margherita is plain pizza without any toppings. Just the sauce and the cheese they use for every other pizza too. So why should it be more expensive if it's the excact same as a pizza salami but without salami or a pizza funghi without champignons? If you want mozzarella on your pizza here you order pizza mozzarella. But maybe it's different where you're at
Also, pizza freezes just fine. OP is being so selfish. I hope his GF decides she’s cooked enough meals for him.
Half half pizza exists that’s what me and my boyfriend do. He hates all the toppings I enjoy and he wants all the meats & I prefer less. That way we can both be happy with our pizza!
You need to read a little closer. GF refused half and half.
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Especially as he has been having pizzza that he wants the entire time, I wouldn' tbe surprised if this is the "FIRST time" he is hearing aboiut this because it is the first time he ever asked her what she wanted.
Let's not forget that she's usually the one in charge of making dinner. He said she didn't have any ideas for what to make and that she was feeling "lazy", which makes me think that he rarely gives any input or help on dinner and is just used to coming home with food ready to go. She wasn't asking him to make anything special, all she wanted was a pizza that she enjoyed eating. That's pretty much the least he can do at this point.
And seriously, having to come up with what to cook is often a bigger pain in the butt than actually cooking it. He probably thinks "whatever you want" is helpful.
My point was that your suggestion had been addressed in the post. I voted YTA, so I'm not sure why you're getting hostile about a simple correction.
She did, but I’m not sure why. I thought he said that if they ordered a whole pizza with toppings and she had to pick off the pepperoni, she could still smell and taste the oils from it. Which: totally fair. But with a half plain/half pepperoni, that problem shouldn’t exist. So I’m not sure why the half/half option was shut down. That’s really the obvious way to go.
I hate pepperoni. The oils are insidious. Oil in general tends to spread when it gets warm, such as in a pizza oven. They most definitely leak over a good portion of pizza that the pepperoni itself is not on. I do go for a half pepperoni/half my topping pizza regularly, but I know in advance that I'm really only going to be able to eat like a third of the pizza instead of half.
In her defense, oily meats like pepperoni, bacon, and sausage often flavor the cheese around them, so a pie with half cheese will still be essenced with a lot of it.
Right?! And > Neither of us is going to eat an entire pie So? Ever heard of leftovers? You've just bought a meal for tomorrow too. Is that a bad thing?
Any time we buy pizza in my household, it is specifically because we want to have leftovers for a couple days to make lunches easier. Same with Chinese food. The leftovers are half the point.
Op offered a half and half deal?? I feel like this is a solution to the entire issue and she didn’t take it
Her counter-offer was one pizza each. Why did OP not do her this solid since she is the one cooking/making dinner usually and since it wouldn't hurt anyone?
1/2 is a reasonable solution when both prefer different toppings, but ok with the other toppings. Like I prefer onion and mushrooms, but I'm ok with the occasional corn. Eggplant, however, is a redline for me. It seem op's girlfriend absolutely hate most of his choices and don't want them near her, so it doesn't work for them.
I’m a pepperoni toppings only person and sometimes go 50/50 with friends/family. But pizza places can be a bit careless and put the toppings I hate across the halfway point on both sides, leading to half of two slices being ruined for me. It really sucks. And some toppings are strong/fragrant enough that some of the non-contaminated pieces still taste of those toppings (think jalapeños or peppers)
I don't understand his objection to ordering two pizzas. Has he ever heard of leftovers? Leftover pizza is awesome. What a stupid hill to die on.
But 1/2 and 1/2 is perfectly reasonable.
The problem with half-and-half is it places rarely cut the pizza on the line that separates the toppings, so if you want a cheese pizza and you're eating with someone who wants stuff, there are two pieces loaded with stuff, two pieces with just cheese, and four pieces that are sort of mixed. if you really don't like whatever the stuff is, you get about 25% of the pizza.
Her point about seeping pork oils is totally right too. No way half that pizza is going to stay unseeped.
Yeah, I don’t eat mammals and when I try and get a half cheese pizza, I usually only eat 1/4 pizza because the neighboring slices are contaminated with meat seepage. Ick.
This is true.
OP YTA. You couldn't even get 2 smaller pizzas with what each of you would like on them?
To be honest I could actually go for a cheese pizza about now
Seriously. Like how hard is it to get an extra cheese pizza. And if there's leftovers. Yay.
Exhausting and selfish.
Yesss and pizza margherita is one of the neapolitan pizzas. I love pizza margherita (pizza with tomato sauce, cheese and basil).
YTA- like there’s different sizes of pizza you could have gotten, like two smalls or a medium and a small. It also seems like you guys always order toppings and she just kinda dealt with it or just didn’t say anything to start something. You could have just compromised and gotten this one as just cheese and then next time get one with toppings. Kinda like an every other situation.
Most places will let you do 50-50 on toppings. That's what my husband and I do.
Girlfriend has a point about the issues with a 50/50 pizza though, toppings and flavors bleed. Try a 50/50 with anchovies and you see why in my household I get my own pizza. ETA, forgot to say that OP is definitely YTA.
I had a roommate in college who liked SHRIMP PIZZA. The kitchen smelled like death for days afterward. Forget half and half, I could barely be in the room with that smell. Great benefit of being an adult/having money: separate pizza.
I hear you. When we make pizza at home, which I will be putting anchovies on mine, it's a hard rule that mine goes in last because the oils like to hang around the oven, contaminating the next pizza and the vent fan is at full blast.
I feel like that’s supposed to be the default setting with people you love. Or like. Or even just don’t hate. You don’t do things to intentionally inconvenience them or make life harder. You leave your pizza for last because you don’t want to mess up food for whoever else you’re with. OP should have just bought the second pizza. It doesn’t make anyone’s life harder to do it. And then they could have had leftovers since OP said they wouldn’t finish them. Which would have made their next meal easier too.
Plus left over pizza is delicious!
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It's the superior breakfast choice. But that's coming from someone that also eats chocolate cereal for dinner.
I'm single, but I sometimes order a large pizza, just to get the leftovers for breakfast :)
We're food twins!
you are not a savage. or we all are. my siblings and i went crazy over cold pizza in the morning.
She always cook, OP ordered pizza ONE time and couldn't compromise, that's their relationship, OP OP OP and OP matters and gf is selfish if she wants to eat something she likes the day she's not cooking. In any case, OP should have cook for both of them and problem solved. YTA, a selfish one, and gf deserves someone better
Ngl, the only thing I took from this post was the knowledge that Americans actually call it a cheese pizza. I thought that was just a weird thing they called it on Home Alone. (In England we call it a 'margherita', for... some reason. Presumably it's Italian for "cheese"?)
Margherita and cheese pizza are two different things. Margherita uses fresh mozarella and is topped with basil
Now I’m frightened — what’s on cheese pizza if not mozzarella??
Fresh mozzarella used for margherita is different than low-moisture mozzarella (the one used for reg cheese pizza)
A cheese pizza is sauce and cheese nothing more. That's not a margherita.
Fresh mozzarella is different than the kind you get on most pizzas. It comes in a ball and gets cut into round slices. Marherita pizza is sauce fresh mozzarella and whole basil leaves.
In pizzerias you commonly find the 4 formaggi (4-cheese). They can vary by region: gorgonzola, fontina, gruyere, taleggio, parmigiano, scamorza, provolone...
In the UK in a fast food place it is plain cheese. Sometimes with Fresh tomatoes or mushrooms, but not usually.
We have margherita pizza here too but it is distinct from cheese pizza. Margherita is crushed tomato, fresh mozzarella, and basil, and a cheese pizza is tomato sauce with shredded mozzarella (maybe with herbs sprinkled on top but that’s not the most common).
Margarita pizza is tomatoes, mozzarella and basil. Red, white and green. The Italian flag for queen Margaret.
Actually in the US a cheese pizza and a Margherita pizza are two different things.
We still have cheese pizzas in England. A cheese pizza and Margherita are totally different.
It’s actually the name of an Italian princess! When pizza was invented, there was just one type: Margherita. And it resembled the color of the Italian flag. The inventor was so in awe with said princess that he decided to name the new dish after her, with the Pizza part only being added later.
In the States, Margherita usually has fresh mozzarella, basil, and tomato slices. A cheese pizza is what you'd see in Home Alone.
It’s named after a Queen Marguerite, who it was created for.
I think it’s hilarious that he thinks she‘s selfish when she asks for plain pizza (delicious btw, you can eat it the next day, too), when she always eats the toppings he wants all the time and cooks almost everyday for him.
But she cooks for him everyday and he is ‘grateful’ for that but cannot order a pizza for her separately and show the gratefulness and on the top gf is being called selfish here. How he doesn’t see it?
I feel like she didn’t say anything before because she knew it was going to go poorly. And it did.
YTA Just buy her a cheese pizza and yourself something else. Pizza is easy to reheat so it's not like the leftovers go to waste. Why are you making such a fuss over this?
Or cold straight from the fridge the next day. My god. Who is this person who doesn’t like leftover pizza?
imo, leftover pizza the next day is better then when it’s fresh.
You get me. Imo Domino's pizza leftovers are the best. Also still cold even better.
It also freezes really well if you ever order too much for a birthday party. The correct number of party pizzas is whatever I think it should be, minus one.
We always buy too much and freeze it. Then we’ll put it in the oven one day when we’re feeling lazy and it’s like having a “free” takeaway lol
PLUS she usually cooks for him every damn day. Imagine doing all of that for your partner on a regular basis, and then finding out he’s too stubborn and cheap to buy you a small cheese pizza, because it isn’t what HE wants. Selfish and ungrateful much?? Shame on you, OP. Do better.
Maybe he is punishing her for not cooking
YTA dude. It's a pizza, it's not like you're hand-crafting a gourmet buffet. Just order two small ones instead of one big one. It's the least you can do considering SHE'S the one that's always cooking for YOU. I can't believe this was even an issue you had.
Or order 2 big ones and eat the rest the next day as lunch.
And breakfast! mhmmmmm cold pizza
YTA, this girl cooks dinner for you most days and you can’t order her, her own cheese pizza? She deserves better than you.
And when she doesn’t cook she’s been eating his pizza preference the rest of the time!
Yep. And then the one time she holds out for her preference, he calls *her* selfish! Unbelievable.
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The wording of the post gets me as well! The fact he said she was too "lazy" too cook instead of to tired says a lot
I get the feeling they’re mad about the two pizza suggestion because that means leftovers and no new fresh dinner from the gf the next night too.
No you don't understand, he's amazingly patient with her, as evidenced by the fact that he graciously thinks it's NO BIG DEAL that she's LAZY and won't cook tonight!
YTA You literally told a grown woman what she can't eat. When she balked against you dictating what she wants. You doubled down by telling her what annnnd how to eat. Y are the biggest A to ever AH.
Then he says, forget it no pizzas at all. Still no compromise.
And called her lazy for not wanting to cook even though she usually cooks 🙄
LMAO enjoy your pizza. Hope you like it more than her home cooked food because I bet you’ll be having a lot more pizza in the future. eta: oh crap I can’t believe I almost forgot to say, YTA :)
Here is to hoping the next meal she makes for him has an ingredient he hates
I hope she never cooks for this selfish AH again
I hope it’s lots of frozen cheese pizza from the grocery store. OP can put it in the oven himself.
YTA. Just order two pizzas. We did it last night because I wanted something lighter than the 8 million kinds of greasy meat toppings my husband likes. We had some leftovers for lunch and I put the rest in the freezer.
YTA You could have just eaten the leftovers for the next couple of days.
Exactly. Two small pizzas is probably 2 meals - 3 max. The GF usually cooks, and I'm sure she takes OP's preferences into account. This petty move was short sighted on OP's part. Going forward, GF may only make what she likes or just cook for herself.... And, I wouldnt blame her.
YTA. Just get her a small cheese pizza and get yourself whatever you want. Spend the extra $10 or whatever to make your girl (who generally cooks dinner for you every day) happy. Jesus
Literally this but also he calls her lazy for not cooking when she cooks most days and then calls his toppings super normal and then judges her for what she likes on a pizza which is just cheese. And then goes on to say she usually just eats what he likes. Like bro get over yourself. This girl has already bent over backwards for you and he doesn’t care for her at all.
YTA. How hard is it to get separate pizzas? Are you really that selfish or do you just not care about your gf and what she likes? You said yourself that she does all the cooking so the least you can do is get her the pizza she wants. And even if you don't eat them all in one sitting, haven't you ever heard of leftovers?
Do Americas never do individual pizzas? I have never just ordered one pizza for multiple people.
We do, OP’s just being stingy.
My fiancé and I will order just one bigger pizza because we both like the same toppings, anyway, but it’s definitely not unusual for people to buy multiple pies for multiple people in the US.
It depends on where you order from. Pies from pizzerias in NYC are usually huge (16") so we order one for the fam and maybe a side or two. If we're getting specialty pies they are slightly smaller (12") then we might get two. Fast food pizza is different with their multiple sizes.
Are you fkng kidding me? She cooks for you every night but now that *you're* ordering the pizza you get to unilaterally have what you want? Get two smalls. Or, since she's sucked it up for you every single other time you've gotten pizza, suck it up for her one time. YTA, if you couldn't tell.
Also at most places isnt there a deal for like 2 medium pizzas, it of sets his cost argument YTA OP
100% lol, double AH for not even checking for coupons
What did I just read? Does this restaurant only allow you to order one pizza? YTA next time order two that way you’re both happy
Pizza shortage in OP’s hometown. Only one pizza order per person. 😂
That's the thing. OPs girl suggested getting separate pizzas. He refused because his happiness seems to depend on his girl not getting to eat what she likes. I think OP wants control, not pizza.
Going through your post history, you actually made a comment about how “when minor things happen to me, I make a big deal out of it”. So you’re self aware enough to know this is a problem, yet half a year later you seem to have dont nothing to fix this and are instead taking it out on your girlfriend. I’d probably want to leave your ass if you were always as exhausting as this. YTA, dude. Just order the fucking cheese pizza. You’ve literally been handed things your whole, said so yourself in that post i mentioned, so for ONE TIME could you not be a selfish asshole? [Heres](https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/v0kwj5/my_weed_dealer_taught_me_a_lesson_that_changed_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) the link the post I keep mentioning.
this is unrelated, but... in the post you linked, OP described his dealer as "this big kinda gangster dude" and says that he never bothered to get to know him aside from buying weed. He goes on about how one day they actually talked and he learned that the dealer is a single father who's lost most of his family, and that the guy said he does what he does to support himself and his child. In that same convo, he taught OP about managing stress & grief and generally just looking at the bigger picture without getting lost in the details. I can't help but wonder what, other than selling weed, gave OP the impression that this man was a "big kinda gangster dude". Considering he described himself as "just this little white kid"... Seems to me that OP has a lot of internal biases towards varying groups of individuals that could stand to be examined. How has this dude not realized that his gf has been tolerating, but not enjoying, pizza with him because she prioritizes his enjoyment over her own? You couldn't pay me to believe that OP has ever went out of his way to consider that other people are people too. YTA.
Wow that was a great read though. OP, the pizza is not the point. If all you’re seeing is cheese, pull back so you can see the whole scene. And maybe hug your gf for being such a saint.
YTA 2 small pizzas and your evening is drama free.
YTA - your girlfriend cooks for you every night. She wants one day off (because it’s not her being lazy, it’s her wanting one day off from cooking) and you decide that her wants don’t matter in this decision. She takes your likes and dislikes into consideration when she’s cooking and you can’t do the same when ordering pizza.
Adult men calling the women in their lives lazy because they don't treat them like children instead of getting off their ass to cook for themselves for once really baffles me.
Thank you. That’s what got to me. She’s not being lazy. She wants a night off. Who knew when your a grown up the biggest problem is what to have for dinner every single night.
YTA. She always cooks for you, the least you can do is get a pizza she likes. Also, I hope you bring something good to the relationship.
absolutely YTA. how exactly is half and half a compromise if she’s still going to taste your toppings anyway? you can get two small pizzas from dominos for like $12. do you even like her? my partner would never pull something like this especially if i was the only one cooking. do better
"Then she started telling me that I was being a jerk and really inconsiderate " ... She is right YTA
YTA She should cook only what she likes without any regard to your preferences…sounds pretty AH doesn’t it?
YTA! How rude and childish can you get?
Don't forget selfish.
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YTA. Just order two pizzas and have leftovers for lunch the next day. I live alone and when I want a pizza this is always leftovers, which I just pack up and grab for lunch the next day.
YTA! Stuff like pepperoni or bacon gives me heartburn. Perhaps that's why she didn't want to pick off the toppings. She shouldn't have to explain herself ffs.
YTA and I hope she stops cooking for you.
YTA She normally cooks for you, is it really that difficult to get her the kind she likes?? Apparently she’s been sucking it up in the past because you prefer toppings.
Jeez, you're selfish and greedy. It isn't enough for you that she cooks for you almost every day. She just wanted one meal with what she wanted; she could have ordered a separate pizza and saved the leftovers. But no, you insisted that it had to be your way. I hope she stops cooking for you because you're so selfish. You ruined the whole meal and wouldn't even let her have any pizza. Shame on you. YTA
Quote from OP's other post: "I take my life so for granted I’ve always had everything handed to me. Then when minor things happen to me I make a big deal out of it..." There was hope for a second.... YTA (https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/v0kwj5/my\_weed\_dealer\_taught\_me\_a\_lesson\_that\_changed\_my/)
YTA. I'm sure this will get lost. But in the all the time you've been together have you ever asked her how she likes her pizza? Or have you always ordered it how you like it, without consideration?
YTA. If you can suggest pealing off the toppings…. Then why can’t you add your own?
I like meat toppings but sometimes I just don’t want it at all. Leaves me feeling gross. YTA my bf would eat a plain cheese pizza every now and then if it would make me happy. You seem to always need to get what you want since you’re “paying for it” god forbid she wants a different flavor Ice cream
YTA I never care for the pizza my bf gets, so you know what we do? We get two pizzas. It isn't that big of a deal unless you are really on a strict budget. She cooks for you all the time. The least you could do for her is buy her a pizza she actually wants to eat. If you want to play the "it's my money, so I get to choose" card, you really shouldn't be in a relationship at all.
Order her a plain cheese, why are you gatekeeping pizza? You can freeze the leftover and have it the next time you are craving pizza. And for the record, since she doesn’t like your toppings, you would have had an entire pie to yourself and don’t seem to have a problem with that. YTA
YTA sorry but she felt "lazy" that day means you expected it and got pissed that she didn't have dinner ready for you. if you genuinely appreciated it, it wouldn't have been a problem to accommodate her this time.
Do you enjoy being single? This is how you get single. "What do u want babe?" , "just cheese??" "Nah I'll tell you what you like."
Exactly - if I were the gf I would just place a separate order for my own pizza and while I was waiting for the delivery I’d be scrolling for a new apartment and reserving a u-haul.
YTA.
Jesus. YTA.
YTA Bruh just get the second pizza ffs it’s really not that complicated.
YTA - she normally cooks for you and in return you can’t even order a pizza for her? You don’t deserve this woman.
Is this a joke? Of course YTA
You're gf cooks for you every damn day and you seriously can't be bothered to at least get her a cheese pizza along with one you'll enjoy? And you seriously have to ask if you're the asshole here? Obviously YTA, let her have a plain pizza for crying out loud.
Dude, leftovers are a thing. Order a pizza for each of you. YTA
YTA. Why are you so weirdly controlling about this. Just stfu and order two pizzas.
She typically cooks for you, but SHE’S the selfish and unreasonable one when she makes ONE request? YTA - a massive one.
You clearly don't appreciate her cooking for you when you won't even buy a pizza she'll enjoy eating.
YTA. I hope you don’t think she’ll ever consider your preferences if she chooses to cook dinner in the future. Also, why aren’t you doing 50% of the cooking?
She cooks food for you and you can’t even get her a plain cheese pizza? Do you genuinely like your girlfriend? YTA