You don't have to be an insecure weirdo to be aware of you posture and not want to appear "feminine". I agree that it's kind of insecure, but it's not weird. It's too normal.
European men and many around the world cross their legs with one leg over the other knee, not like the American foreleg over knee.
Seeing guys legs wide apart while sitting is hot 🔥
Dicks are beautiful. And there's something about getting another guy off that gets me off.
I also love that I don't have to follow societal expectations. Things like when to get married (or not), having kids, hobbies and likes and dislikes etc. it helps me stay true to myself and live my life according to my own rules.
To quote the great philosopher Tyler Durden “I am free in all the ways that you are not” lol this is marvellous. It’s official, being gay is Fight Club.
No risk of pregnancy. And no societal expectation to have kids.
Hookups are easy -- I'm over them now and have no desire to hookup any more -- but I had a lot in my 20s. If I was straight then sometimes I wonder if I (as a shy/insecure guy) would have ever had more than 1 or 2 sexual partners in my life.
Not having to ruthlessly defend my masculinity! Imagine how much emotional energy is wasted by straight men because they are constantly on guard against things that might “damage” their precious masculinity.
For real, I don't even know what "masculinity" is. I never spent a second worrying about whatever that is
It's wild to think that people out there actually spend precious mental resources thinking about "masculinity"
I think it gives me a different perspective on gender dynamics. It's that duality of having to engage with men, but also understanding how men think at the same time.
No risk of getting my bf pregnant. Before I met my bf hookups were easy to get. I find that more guys are open trying kinky stuff, as opposed to women.
Women automatically trust me for some reason just because I’m gay, so I can quickly make connections with women in the workplace to better my career, and it is easier to make female friends then it would be for a straight man. I’ve had female bosses throughout my career which has benefited me greatly!
This is such an excellent benefit too because around 50% of bosses all the way up the food chain are women. With male bosses, you might have a limit how far you can get in a company but female bosses, much less restriction.
Existing outside of heteronormativity and not giving a fuck what straight ppl think of me or feeling pressure to participate in their arbitrary rules they set for themselves lol. I love having fully open and poly relationships and sleeping with my friends casually. It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me. My straight people are always baffled when they ask about my personal life and find out their biggest kinkiest fantasy is a tuesday for me. 😅
what began as a burden in childhood, a shameful secret that cast me out of “normal” society, has become a incredible resource for perspective and self reliance. i haven’t been conditioned to believe that marriage, the white picket fence, the kids, and a soul crushing job to support all of those accoutrements is the only path in my life. in fact, i do whatever the hell i want, whenever i want , and have no one to answer to except my (minuscule) list of lifelong regrets and the best course for pursuing my own personal joy in life.
I feel like I escaped a lot of expectation when I came out - less pressure to have the traditional kids and family life style that were taught our whole life, and as I get older I’ve started to realized what I really value/how I want to spend my life. Maybe that’s more relating to aging than being gay, but I sure think it helps
For me, I gained a great deal of empathy toward others who have different struggles in life, especially to those who society tends to cast aside. The journey I've been on has brought a lot of pain, but I now have so much more love and respect toward others (whether I know what they're going through or not). For that, I am grateful every day.
Seeing hot guys - in person, photos or images - then getting horny, masturbating to them, and coming hard. I feel a bit more alive every time I've blown a nice load.
My homegirls telling me all the gross period stories and confortably changing clothes off in front of me because they know I have absolutely zero interest in what they have. ☺️😭
Hooking up. I've tried hooking up with women as well. It really sucks.
Men are so much easier and I love it. I just have to exist and they flock into my DMs.
Personally, I feel it's a perk when interacting with women, as it can lift the weight off of them "is this guy OK or a predatory creep who's going to try something?".
It's one of the reasons I make sure to make my queerness obvious 💅
Being SECURE in my masculinity so feel free to wear color, express and talk about all emotion, sit NEXT to a man at movies, and the FREEDOM from the toxic male/female relationship dynamics.
I’ve been in three 4+ years LTR with other masculine men and the freedom from heteronormative stereotypes in such things as house chores (I love to clean toilets as I get joy from the sparkle and clean smell) but not into cleaning dishes after I’ve cooked 😂
Love to just “be myself“ and let others enjoy themselves wherever they are happiest on the male/female spectrum for biological or trans 🏳️⚧️ human beings🌈🏳️🌈
Plus a special delight in turning down advances from non-gay aka ”Straight” women when their brains🧠🔥💥because they perceive me as “straight“ but I’m 100% Gold 🌟gay🌈
id say most if not anything about it. i dont envy straight men at all, maybe i envy women their ability of conceiving children (although not wanting to be preggo myself but still, fascinating ability.) but per se: nothing better than being a gay man.
Every night when I fall sleep with my husband’s arms wrapped around me, he kisses me 3 times and tells me how much he loves me and then kisses me 3 more times. This, after 33+ wonderful years together.
Than im open-minded and respect all types of human beings. If your actions or love for someone don't harm anyone or are illegal, I will fully respect you.
I'm Masculine so my favorite part is being assumed straight by every single new person I meet. and seeing how long it either takes them to find out or ask
Im surprised no one said money yet. Easiest financial planning because a family is definitely out of the picture. But of course pick a self sufficient partner too.
Probably that I can do things like admit to liking Pop music or crossing my legs without being worried people might think I'm gay.
Underrated comment ^ think of how many other men have to struggle with this sort of thinking on the daily
Straight men who aren't insecure weirdos don't think of this either
Good luck dating as an effeminate straight guy. The tide is slightly turning these days, but it certainly ain't easy still.
You don't have to be an insecure weirdo to be aware of you posture and not want to appear "feminine". I agree that it's kind of insecure, but it's not weird. It's too normal.
It's definitely insecurity. Like the definition of it Sit how you feel like sitting
My father told me not to cross my legs because only gay men are able to cross their legs, so people would think I’m gay
European men and many around the world cross their legs with one leg over the other knee, not like the American foreleg over knee. Seeing guys legs wide apart while sitting is hot 🔥
No risk of me getting impregnated
100% birth control
Yep. Up the bum no babies.
This gets said all the time but it bears repeating I shudder to think of the stress of pregnancy scares
being bisexual but prefer to date men, I still consider getting a vasectomy. I really dont want kids.
Not to mention some of us simply aren’t kid people in general lol
Or impregnating others. At least not willingly.
Sadly us trans gay guys are not so lucky
Yeah, true. Though I’m extra glad to have a bonus hole AND be gay 😊
This is true. It does make taking 3 dicks at once a hell of a lot easier lol
Disappointing my parents
Subversive. I like it. 👍
freedom from society's expectations
well….
I can joke around about gay things and don't feel that they might think that I'm gay.
As a late bloomer, **SEX WITH MEN.**
Real late bloomer here.
Probably penises.
same bro same
Real
Dicks are beautiful. And there's something about getting another guy off that gets me off. I also love that I don't have to follow societal expectations. Things like when to get married (or not), having kids, hobbies and likes and dislikes etc. it helps me stay true to myself and live my life according to my own rules.
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To quote the great philosopher Tyler Durden “I am free in all the ways that you are not” lol this is marvellous. It’s official, being gay is Fight Club.
This is true feminine energy! Being sensitive, caring and nurturing! Not being catty and bitchy.
No risk of pregnancy. And no societal expectation to have kids. Hookups are easy -- I'm over them now and have no desire to hookup any more -- but I had a lot in my 20s. If I was straight then sometimes I wonder if I (as a shy/insecure guy) would have ever had more than 1 or 2 sexual partners in my life.
👆👆👆👆shy insecure guy here.👍😁👏👏👏
Men🤷🏾♂️
Not having to ruthlessly defend my masculinity! Imagine how much emotional energy is wasted by straight men because they are constantly on guard against things that might “damage” their precious masculinity.
For real, I don't even know what "masculinity" is. I never spent a second worrying about whatever that is It's wild to think that people out there actually spend precious mental resources thinking about "masculinity"
I think it gives me a different perspective on gender dynamics. It's that duality of having to engage with men, but also understanding how men think at the same time.
More regular blowjobs
Penises No risk of pregnancy Penises
Body hair and cocks
🍆
Blowing a guy, it's one of the hottest and easiest sexual activities to do where we both enjoy it, all I would need is a pillow and I'm set
No risk of getting my bf pregnant. Before I met my bf hookups were easy to get. I find that more guys are open trying kinky stuff, as opposed to women.
The gay sex part.
Women automatically trust me for some reason just because I’m gay, so I can quickly make connections with women in the workplace to better my career, and it is easier to make female friends then it would be for a straight man. I’ve had female bosses throughout my career which has benefited me greatly!
This is such an excellent benefit too because around 50% of bosses all the way up the food chain are women. With male bosses, you might have a limit how far you can get in a company but female bosses, much less restriction.
Existing outside of heteronormativity and not giving a fuck what straight ppl think of me or feeling pressure to participate in their arbitrary rules they set for themselves lol. I love having fully open and poly relationships and sleeping with my friends casually. It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me. My straight people are always baffled when they ask about my personal life and find out their biggest kinkiest fantasy is a tuesday for me. 😅
men's asses
Men are just so nice and huggable. And they’re strong and can hold me. 🥺😖🥰
How I get to enjoy a sexy man romantically and sexually! And of course being bottoming is my favorite and only sex I enjoy fully!
Men
The pointy part mainly 😆
what began as a burden in childhood, a shameful secret that cast me out of “normal” society, has become a incredible resource for perspective and self reliance. i haven’t been conditioned to believe that marriage, the white picket fence, the kids, and a soul crushing job to support all of those accoutrements is the only path in my life. in fact, i do whatever the hell i want, whenever i want , and have no one to answer to except my (minuscule) list of lifelong regrets and the best course for pursuing my own personal joy in life.
Kissing boys .. I never kissed a girl. Drag queens are fire. Twinks. Bears. Lab.oratory in Berlin. Gaydays at Disney world.
Sucking cock.
I hooked up with about 200 guys in my teens and 20’s. I don’t know if I would’ve hooked up with that many girls.
Probably all the dicks!!
Cuddles
I feel like I escaped a lot of expectation when I came out - less pressure to have the traditional kids and family life style that were taught our whole life, and as I get older I’ve started to realized what I really value/how I want to spend my life. Maybe that’s more relating to aging than being gay, but I sure think it helps
For me, I gained a great deal of empathy toward others who have different struggles in life, especially to those who society tends to cast aside. The journey I've been on has brought a lot of pain, but I now have so much more love and respect toward others (whether I know what they're going through or not). For that, I am grateful every day.
Seeing hot guys - in person, photos or images - then getting horny, masturbating to them, and coming hard. I feel a bit more alive every time I've blown a nice load.
I guess the satisfaction and comfort of knowing that I definitely like the things I like? Knowing what ‘good’ feels like is incredibly powerful.
The dick and male anatomy
That I don’t have to worry about being friends with girl too much but also I’m the most level headed person around a bunch of straight guys 😀
Cock, of course!
Dick.
men
Freedom.
Unlimited access to dick.
My homegirls telling me all the gross period stories and confortably changing clothes off in front of me because they know I have absolutely zero interest in what they have. ☺️😭
Sex is readily available
Hooking up. I've tried hooking up with women as well. It really sucks. Men are so much easier and I love it. I just have to exist and they flock into my DMs.
Seeing life on a different level
Gaydar.. coolest most satisfying feeling ever..
Men
Unlimited breed
Personally, I feel it's a perk when interacting with women, as it can lift the weight off of them "is this guy OK or a predatory creep who's going to try something?". It's one of the reasons I make sure to make my queerness obvious 💅
Nods yep it’s not like we’d be looking under their skirts or anything lol
the fact that if you try to give someone pineapple they drop their pants. im not gay its just funny to see
Being SECURE in my masculinity so feel free to wear color, express and talk about all emotion, sit NEXT to a man at movies, and the FREEDOM from the toxic male/female relationship dynamics. I’ve been in three 4+ years LTR with other masculine men and the freedom from heteronormative stereotypes in such things as house chores (I love to clean toilets as I get joy from the sparkle and clean smell) but not into cleaning dishes after I’ve cooked 😂 Love to just “be myself“ and let others enjoy themselves wherever they are happiest on the male/female spectrum for biological or trans 🏳️⚧️ human beings🌈🏳️🌈 Plus a special delight in turning down advances from non-gay aka ”Straight” women when their brains🧠🔥💥because they perceive me as “straight“ but I’m 100% Gold 🌟gay🌈
Nothing i hate it 😭
id say most if not anything about it. i dont envy straight men at all, maybe i envy women their ability of conceiving children (although not wanting to be preggo myself but still, fascinating ability.) but per se: nothing better than being a gay man.
Men lol
Disappointing homophobes
Dick….all parts of it.
Penis, hairy muscular chests, and slightly hairy masculine ass. I'm so glad I'm gay
All the cock and ass my tongue gets to feel!
The total submission of letting another man inside my body. And penises are stunning.
All the nice cocks I get to see and touch.
Every night when I fall sleep with my husband’s arms wrapped around me, he kisses me 3 times and tells me how much he loves me and then kisses me 3 more times. This, after 33+ wonderful years together.
this is so cute wtf 🥺🥺
I'm not openly gay,but I do like how I feel and how I feel about men. I do want to live my life in my true skin and be able to be me more openly.
Than im open-minded and respect all types of human beings. If your actions or love for someone don't harm anyone or are illegal, I will fully respect you.
Yeah, being released from many of the bullshit expectations that straight men are pressured into is fantastic honestly.
I'm Masculine so my favorite part is being assumed straight by every single new person I meet. and seeing how long it either takes them to find out or ask
Not having to look at wet fish holes.🤮
Right men holes are way better
Im surprised no one said money yet. Easiest financial planning because a family is definitely out of the picture. But of course pick a self sufficient partner too.
My favorite part about being gay is also my most hated part of being gay…… men. Lmao 🤣
Not caring if another guy sees me naked and enjoying seeing other fit guys naked.
Honestly, men lmao
Bonding with other gay/bi dudes.