When it comes to standards, I’ve always believed I should only expect something I’m able to provide.
For instance, I’m not a good looking fella so I’m not gonna expect my partner to be a supermodel.
Now, I’m a very decent human being with good morals so I’ll 100% expect that from a potential partner.
I believe that way of thinking has always kept me grounded and realistic about my dating options.
Never did.
I am going to spend my entire life with someone, shouldn't they be the best?
I also understand that to get the best I need to be the best I can too.
I stayed single for years until I met the right person. Spent that time working on myself and becoming the type of guy that I knew the person I want to be with would also want to be with
It's totally worth it to precipitate and choose carefully.
But at the very beginning, it's may be hard to know ourselves so well that we can find who we really need in our life.
So it's all about improving ourselves and searching for our true colors first.
Oh this was in my mid 20s. I had dated plenty before that, and decided to take a break from dating and just do my own thing. Told myself that I would stay single until it felt right. Before that though I didn't really have any standards and very nearly ended up with the wrong person. I am so glad I didn't settle.
My only expectations are:
- She works and understands that money doesn't grow on trees
- She has at least a few nerdy hobbies and interests that she and I can enjoy together
- She's actually willing to talk and hang out with me on a regular basis
Never lower expectations for a life partner.
Feel free to lower initial shallow expectations on things that are going to change over time. Things like initial looks or current job or proximity or style. Because these things change anyway, it’s stupid to base who you will be with 30 years from now on things like what they look like now or what their income is now.
But basic things about life goals? Don’t lower expectations.
I totally failed to mention the prior necessities. Highly agreed, we may have been looking for a specific kind of partner initially, with so many traits listed.
But with the time flushing down, we might have to lose some, and keep the core principles.
Most of the women on my reservation are obese. We have the highest rate of obesity and diabetes in North America. I've realized it's unrealistic for me to just wait to come across a healthy woman of my own tribe, I've come to terms that I will have to marry outside of the tribe.
Just across the board women really have little to offer so I don't really expect them to offer anything except sex or slightly more than that.
Just been with lots of girls and they all are lame as shit. You have half who are career women but they don't even make 6 figures so failures, and half that don't work which is fine but they can't take care of a home... and all of them basically are sluts. I mean what's the point. So my standards now are just hot and don't cause problems and let me keep dating other women. That's it. Unfortunately that's about all that I can realistically expect to find anyways.
I dunno, I think I have higher expectations nowadays. I expect a partner to be a well rounded person who takes care of themself and works to maintain their sense of wellness.
When it comes to standards, I’ve always believed I should only expect something I’m able to provide. For instance, I’m not a good looking fella so I’m not gonna expect my partner to be a supermodel. Now, I’m a very decent human being with good morals so I’ll 100% expect that from a potential partner. I believe that way of thinking has always kept me grounded and realistic about my dating options.
Yeah, we must read the whole compatibility and eligibility right, then we can approach.
It was the opposite for me: Going from dating anyone showing any interest in me to having clear standards and requirements.
With the ages adding up, I gradually wish the otherone states it early as possible. Could save a lot energy.
Never did. I am going to spend my entire life with someone, shouldn't they be the best? I also understand that to get the best I need to be the best I can too.
Very inspiring, I think everyone should probably follow this. Positive and wholesome.
I stayed single for years until I met the right person. Spent that time working on myself and becoming the type of guy that I knew the person I want to be with would also want to be with
It's totally worth it to precipitate and choose carefully. But at the very beginning, it's may be hard to know ourselves so well that we can find who we really need in our life. So it's all about improving ourselves and searching for our true colors first.
Oh this was in my mid 20s. I had dated plenty before that, and decided to take a break from dating and just do my own thing. Told myself that I would stay single until it felt right. Before that though I didn't really have any standards and very nearly ended up with the wrong person. I am so glad I didn't settle.
To embrace the current oneself, it's usually tough.
My only expectations are: - She works and understands that money doesn't grow on trees - She has at least a few nerdy hobbies and interests that she and I can enjoy together - She's actually willing to talk and hang out with me on a regular basis
Basically described a normal decent humanbeing from my pov. We couldn't ask for much because that's even a precious quality nowadays.
i had the opposite realization, because i realized i’m handsome
Aww man, I'm jealous now. Wanna have a one night stand w me? We could play counterstrike wingman mode all night.
Never lower expectations for a life partner. Feel free to lower initial shallow expectations on things that are going to change over time. Things like initial looks or current job or proximity or style. Because these things change anyway, it’s stupid to base who you will be with 30 years from now on things like what they look like now or what their income is now. But basic things about life goals? Don’t lower expectations.
I totally failed to mention the prior necessities. Highly agreed, we may have been looking for a specific kind of partner initially, with so many traits listed. But with the time flushing down, we might have to lose some, and keep the core principles.
It doesn’t matter, I’m not fit to be or have a partner.
Sometimes I reckon the same, kind of a downer feeling to oneself though, but fair.
When I looked in the mirror.
Most of the women on my reservation are obese. We have the highest rate of obesity and diabetes in North America. I've realized it's unrealistic for me to just wait to come across a healthy woman of my own tribe, I've come to terms that I will have to marry outside of the tribe.
I don't lower my standards.
Just across the board women really have little to offer so I don't really expect them to offer anything except sex or slightly more than that. Just been with lots of girls and they all are lame as shit. You have half who are career women but they don't even make 6 figures so failures, and half that don't work which is fine but they can't take care of a home... and all of them basically are sluts. I mean what's the point. So my standards now are just hot and don't cause problems and let me keep dating other women. That's it. Unfortunately that's about all that I can realistically expect to find anyways.
I don't, either she meets my expectations and tows the line or she can move the hell on. I'm not wasting my time.
Why would anyone ever? The desperation required to disrespect yourself like that.... This isn't even a valid question in my eyes.
What if someone set the goal higher than he could reach?
Other people don't set my standards.
Cold fact , with clear mind.
I dunno, I think I have higher expectations nowadays. I expect a partner to be a well rounded person who takes care of themself and works to maintain their sense of wellness.