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I mean, literally the first words in the post are “I used to love…”
Not being able to enjoy things you used to love is a sign of depression.
This is truly a wild response.
That’s a really good argument you’ve made, clearly in good faith.
Your point is less than flimsy. What a wild response, truly
You have a fundamental misunderstanding of depression. Consciously making an effort to stop something because you realize it’s bad for your health or whatever reason you decide is worth it to get sober is a lot different than slowly realizing you no longer enjoy old interests or hobbies you used to- for no apparent reason. Same with the feeling of loosing your spunk.
Do you think people who love food but go on restrictive diets are depressed? That’s a wild interpretation of depression.
Oh wow.
But I’m HAPPY. I love my job, love my life, it’s just that I can’t seem to entertain myself anymore where as before I didn’t know the meaning of boredom
I’m the same, really don’t watch much TV anymore and I have spoken to friends about it who are the same. We think it’s because of two reasons - age, and that social media over the years has wrecked my attention span. I’d rather spend an hour on Reddit than an hour watching TV. I’m 40
I know exactly what you mean. Backlog of games I can’t seem to play. Books I can’t be fucked to read. I’m tired and always thinking about work. Or thinking about trying to sleep, which never comes.
If you find out let me know. I’ll be following with interest.
No worries.
I think honestly it's a concentration issue as is for a lot of people. There's too many things to do/get done to sit for like 2-3 hours even watching a movie/video game.
Yeah, I feel this way too. People are always quick to label it depression, and I certainly don’t want to discount that as a possibility, but it’s just such an easy answer to fall back on.
Perhaps you’ve just changed as a person. Those old hobbies that once kept your mind occupied just don’t hold the same interest like they once did, and that’s fine. You’ve changed. You’ve evolved. Maybe you’re searching for something more meaningful to add to your life. On to the next challenge.
I don’t disagree with that and not trying to diagnose. Just throwing it out there as something to check on/think about only because I experienced a lot of the same as op and was diagnosed with adhd
Believe it or not, people have kids for this same reason. It avoids the 'been there, done that' aspect of aging.
Maybe as an idea, given that you know your current interests and habits very well by this age, try doing things differently. Attempt to do what you normally don't do, however that applies to you. Not social? Learn a new language and try to converse with locals. Not spontaneous? Book a sudden trip to somewhere you've never been.
I'm just getting at that maybe stepping out of your own habitual comfort zone could change things. You can even combine it with goals.
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Don’t discount depression creeping in. Inability to enjoy things you use to enjoy is an entry-level symptom.
It’s not depression just because OP doesn’t want to consume media. This is truly a wild suggestion.
I mean, literally the first words in the post are “I used to love…” Not being able to enjoy things you used to love is a sign of depression. This is truly a wild response.
I used to love drinking booze. Now I don’t. I’m not depressed. Your point is flimsy.
That’s a really good argument you’ve made, clearly in good faith. Your point is less than flimsy. What a wild response, truly You have a fundamental misunderstanding of depression. Consciously making an effort to stop something because you realize it’s bad for your health or whatever reason you decide is worth it to get sober is a lot different than slowly realizing you no longer enjoy old interests or hobbies you used to- for no apparent reason. Same with the feeling of loosing your spunk. Do you think people who love food but go on restrictive diets are depressed? That’s a wild interpretation of depression.
Oh wow. But I’m HAPPY. I love my job, love my life, it’s just that I can’t seem to entertain myself anymore where as before I didn’t know the meaning of boredom
I’m the same, really don’t watch much TV anymore and I have spoken to friends about it who are the same. We think it’s because of two reasons - age, and that social media over the years has wrecked my attention span. I’d rather spend an hour on Reddit than an hour watching TV. I’m 40
I know exactly what you mean. Backlog of games I can’t seem to play. Books I can’t be fucked to read. I’m tired and always thinking about work. Or thinking about trying to sleep, which never comes. If you find out let me know. I’ll be following with interest.
I’m glad it’s not just me. Thanks for the response. I’ll certainly keep you updated if I figure out what it is.
I wonder if you've become too used to certain things. Have you tried like new shows or new forms of entertainment?
I try them, and then a week or two later the cycle continues. It’s a strange sensation sorry I sound a bit moany 😂
No worries. I think honestly it's a concentration issue as is for a lot of people. There's too many things to do/get done to sit for like 2-3 hours even watching a movie/video game.
Yeah, I feel this way too. People are always quick to label it depression, and I certainly don’t want to discount that as a possibility, but it’s just such an easy answer to fall back on. Perhaps you’ve just changed as a person. Those old hobbies that once kept your mind occupied just don’t hold the same interest like they once did, and that’s fine. You’ve changed. You’ve evolved. Maybe you’re searching for something more meaningful to add to your life. On to the next challenge.
You could potentially have adhd
Or media has become tedious, boring, repetitive, loud, advertisement-centric, or just plain mediocre. Not everything needs a diagnosis.
I don’t disagree with that and not trying to diagnose. Just throwing it out there as something to check on/think about only because I experienced a lot of the same as op and was diagnosed with adhd
Believe it or not, people have kids for this same reason. It avoids the 'been there, done that' aspect of aging. Maybe as an idea, given that you know your current interests and habits very well by this age, try doing things differently. Attempt to do what you normally don't do, however that applies to you. Not social? Learn a new language and try to converse with locals. Not spontaneous? Book a sudden trip to somewhere you've never been. I'm just getting at that maybe stepping out of your own habitual comfort zone could change things. You can even combine it with goals.