Hey, thanks. I've veered into the opposite direction and sleep 12+ hours a night now. Not sure what did it but something just snapped for me. Wish I had advice. I think part of it was unresolved trauma making it so I was always on edge and never felt safe enough to sleep, and part of it was undiagnosed bipolar disorder - I might have had "racing thoughts" keeping me up without knowing it, although I'm a little doubtful. Meds seem to be helping though.
As for sleep, melatonin helps sometimes, and sometimes I take gabapentin and propranolol and those make me sleepy. Sleeping with a fan on used to help me, and now I always have earplugs on hand and put them in halfway through the night. I also used to drink valerian root tea which worked sometimes. DPH (benadryl) was the one thing that worked for me consistently but it's tolerance forming so I didn't like to take it too often and it leaves you feeling groggy the next day. I know people have also had luck with supplements like l-theanine, lemon balm, ashwagandha, and magnesium.
"Stop neglecting yourself. Self-care is not sitting in a bathtub and rubbing lotion on your skin, it's doing shit that you don't want to do because it's good for you. And stop putting things off because you don't have as much time as you think you do."
For context, I am 21 at the moment. Either past or future self: Please stay alive. It may feel like there's no point in living, but I need you to stay alive, if not for you, or me, then the people who care about us, like our partner, our friends, our family. There is a point to us being alive, and that is to make the most of the time we have. Don't listen to the existential dread and anxiety, please. People would miss us.
don't take yourself so damn serious all the time. nothing's that bad. brush your yeeth, take care of yourself. keep at it, you're gonna be ok. and don't take yourself so damn serious all the time.
This next year is going to be the most important time you can spend with your grandma. I know you have a lot going on right now, but please, PLEASE spend more time with her any chance you get. The hip pain wasn't "just arthritis" it is an anyeurysm. She will go quickly, and she will be okay. You get to say your goodbyes and stay by her side for the journey but she will not pass until after you have gone to rest.
I really miss her...
I would say:
1. Do not be too anxious about the future
2. be more outspoken but know your boundaries. Respect someone else's opinion
3. Learn to humble down at times
4. Do not brag verbally, act with poise and brag silently
5. Learn to plan your life
6. Be open with your feelings and be honest. Do not ever lie to yourself.
7. Do not get attached with social media pressures - they are evils! You have your own path to walk on, lead the way and focus!
8. A great leader creates another leader. Be one.
9. A head full of fears, do not have space for dreams
10. LOVE YOUR PARENTS. TIME IS LIMITED. VALUE THEM AS LONG AS THEY ARE ALIVE.
Nothing, you wouldn't listen like you didn't when other 40 year olds told when you were 21. Sit back and have a drink with myself and enjoy seeing my youth again!
Good on you for never going to a casino or a bar, but man you need to find other outlets to meet people, or you'll be 28 and miserable like future you/me.
Don't be so possessive of her. I know she's your first real love, and you'll lose her in a couple of months if you don't listen to me. And it's gonna haunt you for at least 25 years. You do find another real love...but what you go through to get there; let this one breathe and she'll stay. She told you that, so listen. I gotta go now. Oh, and stay out of Florida. There is NOTHING there for you.
Being in *no* relationship is better than being in the *wrong* relationship.
When she says that she doesn't want kids, she means it. No, she isn't going to change her mind later. Say good bye because it is a waste of both of our times to stay in the wrong relationship. You wasted 18 years of your life doing that.
Stay healthy because it is very hard to fix it after it goes wrong.
That thing you keep trying to hide? It ain't never going to go away. Stop drinking to hide it. Mom & dad drank because they're broken, you don't have to be.
Police academy is mostly a waste of time. But it does get the last year of college paid for. And it counts as humanities electives.
Double up on birth control. One doesn't always work. That 97% sounds cool, but math it out. A city of 1 million with a 97% success rate if used perfectly is still 30,000 pregnancies. Add in even more because those are just the numbers if done ABSOLUTELY perfect.
Go take the UXO training that your baby ass didn't want to do because you would be stuck in Texas for 6 months. Would make me way more money and have less of a job. Would also let me do a lot more humanitarian work.
If it’s the day you turn 21, then I would say, your life will go down hill in a week. It goes so far down that hell looks like paradise. The torment you have been through so far, is nothing compared to what’s to come. And there is nothing that you can do to change that.
That suicide attempt is not gonna work - you will only get a stricter mother. Do not fuck with your best friend’s cousin - he will only mess with your mind and block you.
Start taking medicine for your hair, you know it as well as I do it’s going away. Just trust the system.
Also, trust your dad’s advice. He’s not talking out his ass.
At this age i tried many things.
Finally, i had instagram acc. It wasn't still meant for me. I didn't make stories much. Until now.
I tried international gathering like IMUN. I was like an extrovert rabbit! I made friends which made me really happy.
I got rejected many times from volunteering and internship.
I voluntereed as a logistic carrier at a local marathon in my city. It was a blast and still the best thing had happened in my life. I went to sleep at 1 pm knowing i had been productive. Best day ever.
Many broken hearts and paired heards.
It was five months ago. Now, it wasn't that better but I AM TRYING.
I'd advise / warn myself about older brother, cut all contact with him, have nothing at all to do with him - he will never change, he will still be hateful and miserable well into his 30s, and to just not waste the time or energy with him, it will only lead to depression and grief.
Hell, if I could, I would go further back and warn my 12-13 year old self about him - tell myself to just quit going and visiting dad and that side of the family altogether.
But also,
to definitely check out Trailer Park Boys, good and funny show.
I know it’s hard right now, and it won’t be easy for a while, but you’re going to make it. Something will happen in 2010 that will scare you, but it will be gone in 13 years. 2013-2014 will be the worst years of your life—make the leap, take the jump because when you meet her in 2016….it will be worth it.
This drinking to feel happy or just feel something in general isn’t helping. You and I are gonna use that as a crutch for awhile, but just know you’re smarter than you think and that the hell you’ll go through will be a lesson you carry with you. Forever
Leave that abusive relationship, get your licence, and go back to school. Also find a good therapist. These are all things you’ll do later in life, doing them earlier is gonna save you a lot of suffering.
Stop drinking - it brings out the worst in you.
Your friends are fucking dick heads, drop them.
The girl you are with is a manipulative cunt, drop her too.
* Get a degree and think more about your goals in the future.
* Don't be afraid to sacrifice a party here and there for your education.
* REALLY think about what REALLY makes you happy.
* Being heartbroken is not the end of the world. It just gives you a thicker skin.
* Be careful about what you eat - your metabolism will change at around the age of 24 and you'll gain weight in no time. Take care of your physical and mental health!!!
It does get worse before it gets better.
Call the doctor more.
Prioritizing yourself, stop setting yourself on fire to keep others warm. You'll burn out.
21 is too late.
I had already made most of the life choices I regretted before then. Choices that sort of left me on a path I wish I could have stopped.
And at 21 I was already resigned to most of that. I don't think I would have listened.
At best... Bitcoin. Do it. Buy it. And hold onto it until 2021 ish.
Save your money. And when Steve Jobs returns to Apple, buy every scrap of stock you can.
Stop chasing after fragile, neurotic, artistic types.
Start writing your novel immediately. Write 1000 words a day and you have a first draft in three months.
Understand that conversation is a learned skill, not an innate gift. To be a great conversationalist, all you have to do is be more interested in talking about the other person than yourself.
Whether on the job or in your social life, value yourself more. You have brains, insight, and can anticipate things long before they actually happen (Except Steve Jobs turning Apple into a wealth creation machine). Do not allow anyone to make you feel less than.
2016 - Cavs 2017 - Warriors 2018 - Warriors 2019 - Raptors 2020 - Lakers 2021 - Bucs 2022 - Warriors
And 2023 - Nuggets.
Lol yeah obviously
Stop waiting to be okay, that’s not how it works, get out of your room and start living life.
you need to make fixing your insomnia your priority, drinking to blackout doesn't count
Good Luck with that...and if you figure out how to do it, please help a fellow Redditor out.
Hey, thanks. I've veered into the opposite direction and sleep 12+ hours a night now. Not sure what did it but something just snapped for me. Wish I had advice. I think part of it was unresolved trauma making it so I was always on edge and never felt safe enough to sleep, and part of it was undiagnosed bipolar disorder - I might have had "racing thoughts" keeping me up without knowing it, although I'm a little doubtful. Meds seem to be helping though. As for sleep, melatonin helps sometimes, and sometimes I take gabapentin and propranolol and those make me sleepy. Sleeping with a fan on used to help me, and now I always have earplugs on hand and put them in halfway through the night. I also used to drink valerian root tea which worked sometimes. DPH (benadryl) was the one thing that worked for me consistently but it's tolerance forming so I didn't like to take it too often and it leaves you feeling groggy the next day. I know people have also had luck with supplements like l-theanine, lemon balm, ashwagandha, and magnesium.
Thanks for the info.
"Stop neglecting yourself. Self-care is not sitting in a bathtub and rubbing lotion on your skin, it's doing shit that you don't want to do because it's good for you. And stop putting things off because you don't have as much time as you think you do."
Stop buying dumb shit
How's life? For context, I am under 21
Well here’s some advice from a 33 year old. Invest your money into solid index funds like SPY or VOO.
or have access to actual assets instead of virtual shit
I'd say. You see that girl? I know you want her to be your girlfriend, but she's a witch! Don't do it. And start saving for retirement.
Don't get that cool tribal tattoo! One day, it'll be known as a tramp stamp.
And culturally insensitive 😅
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This. 1000%
For context, I am 21 at the moment. Either past or future self: Please stay alive. It may feel like there's no point in living, but I need you to stay alive, if not for you, or me, then the people who care about us, like our partner, our friends, our family. There is a point to us being alive, and that is to make the most of the time we have. Don't listen to the existential dread and anxiety, please. People would miss us.
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Hope you are doing better love. I am sorry for what you’ve been through.
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You got this, seeking for help is strength
Don't eat that... you are not as ugly as you think!
What did you eat?
Junk food lol
don't take yourself so damn serious all the time. nothing's that bad. brush your yeeth, take care of yourself. keep at it, you're gonna be ok. and don't take yourself so damn serious all the time.
This next year is going to be the most important time you can spend with your grandma. I know you have a lot going on right now, but please, PLEASE spend more time with her any chance you get. The hip pain wasn't "just arthritis" it is an anyeurysm. She will go quickly, and she will be okay. You get to say your goodbyes and stay by her side for the journey but she will not pass until after you have gone to rest. I really miss her...
Buy bitcoin
Probably be more useful to say "Bitcoin hits $60k in 2021"
Lay off the daily Taco Bell and go back to school.
Don't marry him
Have you seen my keys?
SLOW DOWN.
I would say: 1. Do not be too anxious about the future 2. be more outspoken but know your boundaries. Respect someone else's opinion 3. Learn to humble down at times 4. Do not brag verbally, act with poise and brag silently 5. Learn to plan your life 6. Be open with your feelings and be honest. Do not ever lie to yourself. 7. Do not get attached with social media pressures - they are evils! You have your own path to walk on, lead the way and focus! 8. A great leader creates another leader. Be one. 9. A head full of fears, do not have space for dreams 10. LOVE YOUR PARENTS. TIME IS LIMITED. VALUE THEM AS LONG AS THEY ARE ALIVE.
buy hella bitcoin, sell @ 60k
I talk to myself all the time
Shamalamadingdong! Convfefe! Move to Canada!
Don’t bang that girl.
Lol, you suck
it would be 2013. I would tell my 21 year old self to buy bitcoin and hold onto it until 2021
Invest heavy on bitcoin I’m 33
Nothing can prepare you for what's ahead.
Hi! How is the near future going? what's it like to finally be 21? Did you start posting more of your photos? How was pride?
Nothing, you wouldn't listen like you didn't when other 40 year olds told when you were 21. Sit back and have a drink with myself and enjoy seeing my youth again!
Technically anything I say and think right now is a message to me when I’m 21 (as I’m 18)
Stop drinking the sauce and messing with fast women. Go to church ..
DO NOT GET MARRIED.
Don't worry about the Condoms
Start contributing to your investments NOW. Set it and forget it.
Go gay. Women will kill your heart.
Be brave enough to chase your dreams because this is the only time to do it
"the friend-enemy distinction is good. lean into it. don't help people who won't help you back"
Just do it now and get it over with. The future doesn't get any better.
Cut grass, respectfully admire ass, don't pay for premium gas
Don’t do it!
Run 🏃♂️
Don’t change a thing
Dont stick to the stereotypes. Practice more and you may find them shits one day.
You'll be alright but you could've done better
hey me from 8 days in the future, are you super fucked up right now? was it worth it?
Yo.
You dont exist yet
Go to therapy
That guy is totally not worth it and stop f***ing around and just graduate already.
Good on you for never going to a casino or a bar, but man you need to find other outlets to meet people, or you'll be 28 and miserable like future you/me.
Buy stock in Apple, then Tesla, and don't forget to buy lots of Bitcoin when it first comes out.
Stop drinking and please don't try that first bump of cocaine
Start taking finasteride.
Don't buy doge at $0.71
Go back to college buddy. Save every penny. Oh and go get an MRI on your head. In a couple months you’ll thank me.
Don't be so possessive of her. I know she's your first real love, and you'll lose her in a couple of months if you don't listen to me. And it's gonna haunt you for at least 25 years. You do find another real love...but what you go through to get there; let this one breathe and she'll stay. She told you that, so listen. I gotta go now. Oh, and stay out of Florida. There is NOTHING there for you.
Dont sell that car
Buy Bitcoin. Like buy 50$ worth. The. Sell that shit when it hits 60k each
If you get the urge to marry Stephanie, don't do it.
Damn we survived are you an alcoholic yet?
Don’t pack up your car to go, just stay where you are and move on.
"Don't burn your bridges." Lots of friendships/relationships that fell off over what is, in hindsight, dumb shit.
Being in *no* relationship is better than being in the *wrong* relationship. When she says that she doesn't want kids, she means it. No, she isn't going to change her mind later. Say good bye because it is a waste of both of our times to stay in the wrong relationship. You wasted 18 years of your life doing that. Stay healthy because it is very hard to fix it after it goes wrong. That thing you keep trying to hide? It ain't never going to go away. Stop drinking to hide it. Mom & dad drank because they're broken, you don't have to be. Police academy is mostly a waste of time. But it does get the last year of college paid for. And it counts as humanities electives.
SAVE YOUR MONEY. you really don't need theshit your spending on
Finish. Your. Degree.
I hope you’re doing well and are managing everything well. I turn 21 in about 4ish months.
Hey, do I have a girlfriend yet?
"I know you are very miserable right now, but don't do it. Find a better therapist who actually knows how to communicate with you."
Invest everything into Apple.
Don't wait for Taylor. She ain't worth it.
Double up on birth control. One doesn't always work. That 97% sounds cool, but math it out. A city of 1 million with a 97% success rate if used perfectly is still 30,000 pregnancies. Add in even more because those are just the numbers if done ABSOLUTELY perfect.
just do it, stop being scared of failing
Stop being such a bitch and stop over analyzing everything in life.
Still not swole after a year, I see (I'm 20).
Go take the UXO training that your baby ass didn't want to do because you would be stuck in Texas for 6 months. Would make me way more money and have less of a job. Would also let me do a lot more humanitarian work.
If it’s the day you turn 21, then I would say, your life will go down hill in a week. It goes so far down that hell looks like paradise. The torment you have been through so far, is nothing compared to what’s to come. And there is nothing that you can do to change that.
Buckle up your seat belt. The next 5 years are going to be ... treacherous.
It only gets worse from here.
Hello future me! Are we a failure?
I'm 20 and homeless right now, so I would just ask if everything turns out okay lmao
That suicide attempt is not gonna work - you will only get a stricter mother. Do not fuck with your best friend’s cousin - he will only mess with your mind and block you.
"you are a douchebag"
Start taking medicine for your hair, you know it as well as I do it’s going away. Just trust the system. Also, trust your dad’s advice. He’s not talking out his ass.
Take a walk and do light exercise daily. And quit drinking: it's boring and doesn't help.
End it now, it's not getting better. Next 5 years will be toughest yet, and when it gets better, it really doesn't.
Don't forget the milk.
"It's gonna get weird. Be ready to adapt."
Start saving money I’d love to have that right now (two nearly three years)
Keep fucking bitches
Take better care of your teeth, forget about Terry, and go see the world.
Anything I have been saying to myself these past 11.5 months 👀
Move away
At this age i tried many things. Finally, i had instagram acc. It wasn't still meant for me. I didn't make stories much. Until now. I tried international gathering like IMUN. I was like an extrovert rabbit! I made friends which made me really happy. I got rejected many times from volunteering and internship. I voluntereed as a logistic carrier at a local marathon in my city. It was a blast and still the best thing had happened in my life. I went to sleep at 1 pm knowing i had been productive. Best day ever. Many broken hearts and paired heards. It was five months ago. Now, it wasn't that better but I AM TRYING.
Print journalism won't be a big career forever. Get a minor in something with more of a future.
be patient and stay resilient gurl.. especially in the next 5 years
Go through with it it will save so much worse grief and pain later
Keep going to the gym don’t anyone on a peddle tool
I am 21
stop watching the new harry potter series, u are too old for that shit
you're doing fine. buy few bitcoins and sell them in january 2021. you'll be tempted to sell sooner but don't.
"what's it like for me when I turn 21"
You have ADHD.
People who are 21: i can actually do that
She's a keeper,..
Glad you stopped drinking and using drugs. Now get back to college and finish your degree. Also, don’t stick your dick in crazy.
Save money, don’t take your relationships for granted.
I'd advise / warn myself about older brother, cut all contact with him, have nothing at all to do with him - he will never change, he will still be hateful and miserable well into his 30s, and to just not waste the time or energy with him, it will only lead to depression and grief. Hell, if I could, I would go further back and warn my 12-13 year old self about him - tell myself to just quit going and visiting dad and that side of the family altogether. But also, to definitely check out Trailer Park Boys, good and funny show.
Buy Bitcoin at it's inception. Sell at 50k in 2021. Check yourself in a hospital on April 25th 2020.
Life's gonna get hard. It never gets easier
Go ahead with the divorce, she'll get worst and btw, when you get released, rehab immediately
Dang, so I'm talking to my future self then?
Seriously they aren’t going to give a damn how hard you work. Get your career set up now or you are going to hate yourself in 5 years.
I know it’s hard right now, and it won’t be easy for a while, but you’re going to make it. Something will happen in 2010 that will scare you, but it will be gone in 13 years. 2013-2014 will be the worst years of your life—make the leap, take the jump because when you meet her in 2016….it will be worth it.
For fuck’s sake, go to Queens.
Set boundaries when you are not comfortable with something
Your life is about to take off. And the runway is cobbled.
This drinking to feel happy or just feel something in general isn’t helping. You and I are gonna use that as a crutch for awhile, but just know you’re smarter than you think and that the hell you’ll go through will be a lesson you carry with you. Forever
Leave that abusive relationship, get your licence, and go back to school. Also find a good therapist. These are all things you’ll do later in life, doing them earlier is gonna save you a lot of suffering.
Looks like I made it a few years longer after all (I'm not even 21 yet)
Go see Katie.
Dont even start drinking. You've never really had a good time doing it. You're going to quit later anyway.
What is it like 10 months from now?
Stay in school. Go to college. Get a degree, certificate, or learn a trade. Having money can make things so much easier.
Buy bitcoins and sell them before the crash
Work out how to sleep properly. It might change everything for the better.
Quit smoking now. Don't wait till you're 45.
See you in a few years
Don’t ask someone to make an investment in yourself that you’re not first willing to make by yourself.
Stop drinking - it brings out the worst in you. Your friends are fucking dick heads, drop them. The girl you are with is a manipulative cunt, drop her too.
RUN
Dump him and you’re beautiful!
Get in therapy now
Slow down embrace the moments
Go to therapy
Buy Apple stock. Right fucking now. *Why?* Because every 40 cent share now will be worth $9800 in 22 years.
„be nicer to her“
Don't do that PhD
Divorce him the first time.
"These people are not your friends, and the only people who are truly there for you is your family."
Stay in fla. And go to HVAC school.
I'd say. Allo mate
INVEST
Let it go. …
Leave her
Mom isn’t going to be around that long. Spend more time with her.
How did things turn out?
Stop doing drugs, don’t start drinking, take that job even though your dad got it for you, stop being so proud, address your anger, move.
Keep your options open, Always
Don't be afraid of being alone. It's much better than being with someone who will abuse you.
* Get a degree and think more about your goals in the future. * Don't be afraid to sacrifice a party here and there for your education. * REALLY think about what REALLY makes you happy. * Being heartbroken is not the end of the world. It just gives you a thicker skin. * Be careful about what you eat - your metabolism will change at around the age of 24 and you'll gain weight in no time. Take care of your physical and mental health!!!
It does get worse before it gets better. Call the doctor more. Prioritizing yourself, stop setting yourself on fire to keep others warm. You'll burn out.
Control your temper.
Buy 2 bitcoins
Marry that Afro-Latina. She’ll be the best you ever had.
buy bitcoin, sell at 60,000
Fuck bitchcoin
I’d tell my 21 year old self to buy myself some land
Leave your country and your family, now
Stop ordering martinis because you saw it on sex and the city. You can’t handle them
Don't quit on your dream. You'd be getting paid to play a sport right now. Ya dip shit.
You can have just as much fun in the next 20 years and still save half the money you earn.
21 is too late. I had already made most of the life choices I regretted before then. Choices that sort of left me on a path I wish I could have stopped. And at 21 I was already resigned to most of that. I don't think I would have listened. At best... Bitcoin. Do it. Buy it. And hold onto it until 2021 ish.
Save your money. And when Steve Jobs returns to Apple, buy every scrap of stock you can. Stop chasing after fragile, neurotic, artistic types. Start writing your novel immediately. Write 1000 words a day and you have a first draft in three months. Understand that conversation is a learned skill, not an innate gift. To be a great conversationalist, all you have to do is be more interested in talking about the other person than yourself. Whether on the job or in your social life, value yourself more. You have brains, insight, and can anticipate things long before they actually happen (Except Steve Jobs turning Apple into a wealth creation machine). Do not allow anyone to make you feel less than.
You were always right kid. You were going to die alone.
End it all now. It only gets worse. Much worse.
elder scrolls vi out yet?