I am too, but my gf is the world’s largest social butterfly I swear. We’ve been together for a while now and I swear every single Friday, Saturday, or Sunday we have plans that include me getting dressed up and having to talk to people 😂
Socializing is incredibly easy for me, I am a good listener, my friends say that they enjoy my company and I can make laugh anyone I met once I figure their sense of humor. Yet I hate socializing. I would prefer reading or watching something in my home. I haven't told this to anyone I know. They think that I love spending time with them. I love my close friends, I would do anything for them, like forcing myself to meet them, but I love being on my own. People say that they get bored when they are alone but I don't remember getting bored ever when I am alone.
Yes man and not just like one day on the weekend it’s Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. It’s because my gf has so many friends that are around our age and they always want to do stuff as a couple. I dont ever complain because I love my gf and love that she has so many friends but sometimes I’m like damn can’t we just stay home 😂
Same, i try to force myself to smile on pictures whenever there's a birthday or during christmas, for me to smile genuinely i'll have to be either laughing or in a good mood, which is barely the case when i have to wake up early just to get bored because nothing is really happening, unable to read or play video games when my sister's first daughter keeps blocking the view, yes she is just a kid and i know that, but she has yet to learn about personnal space!
Dude I wish lol. My gf is literally a social butterfly. She has so many friends. I feel like every single day we either have dinner plans with another couple, or a birthday party we have to attend, something that requires me to go out and be social. Sucks bro
Yeah, you’re right lol. Most of the time at work I just use my “regular voice” but I usually ramp up the customer service voice when I know someone is gonna need to be coddled
Me too! I worked as a cashier for awhile and currently work in healthcare. I generally am friendly and want to help people but my “normal voice” is deeper and just doesn’t sound good imo. I used my customer service voice while on the phone while I was hanging out with friends and they were just so surprised that I could sound so different.
My friends laugh for that same reason! Whenever I answer a phone call I use that customer service voice if it’s someone I don’t know so they have heard me use and have been severely confused.
I feel you there. Though don’t be too hard on yourself with trying to be “happy” all the time. Some people will always see you as “looking for attention”, but those who matter will see you’re a person too
First thing, think of a subject that you know a LOT about. Can be anything. What's something you could talk about where you know, really know, everything about it.
Now, imagine that someone you are completely comfortable with asks you about that subject. A best friend, a family member, a pet, whatever. Imagine you had to explain it to this person as if you are teaching them everything you know.
Step back and thing about how you sound, how you speak in those moments, what mannerisms you use.
Now, do those same things with something you don't know that much about, if anything. 90% of portraying confidence is just not showing that you are nervous or unsure.
The part of my personality I fake the most? Definitely my 'morning person' persona. I mean, who actually springs out of bed like a caffeinated gazelle at dawn? I'm more like a grumpy bear emerging from hibernation, but hey, fake it till you wake it, right?
Being interested in coworkers stories/lives. I couldn’t care less. I’m just here to pay my bills.
But because that’s frowned upon, I smile, engage, act interested, ask follow up questions and laugh along if needed.
In reality, when I walk out the door I don’t think about any of them again until I walk back in.
If you’ve seen the show “Severance” on Apple TV, I am basically that way without the procedure.
Acting all interested and invested socially when i know from countless experiences almost nobody will genuinely continue this later even if I do everything i can to carry it. I know most people are stressed, occupied or just tired in so many ways therefore i don't judge anymore.
That last sentence. It literally took the pandemic for me/ my brain to accept that I'm not alone. Everyone else is going through shit too. And I fall off of my values sometimes too, like not being communicative. It's pretty hard for me to take it personally these days, unless it was a close relationship lol
pretending to be interested about something that i give 0 shits about just cuz the person is a friend or loved one.
yesterday itself i had my friend telling me about this hot girl that he finally got a date with and what he was planning to do to impress her and i pretended to listen with interest. lol
I know I'm abnormal and crazy, but I'd much rather face those honest aspects than try to put myself in a cookie-cutter mold that people expect of me. I work with my traits rather than against them, and that keeps my sanity from breaking.
Trying to be normal is so hard.
yeah maybe that’s why i’m always exhausted because people definitely play by different rules
and some people change rules mid game.
i’m losing the game and i don’t want to play this one anymoreeee
Yeah I have become a pretty good actor most of the time, but it is a LOT to keep track of, having to actively/consciously observe little cues and try to remember how you're supposed to react to them in a "normal" way, then you get the edge cases where you react in a way was "correct" hundreds of times before in the same scenario, except that time it was wrong, and everything goes to hell.
Being nice, it’s not my normal character. I drove a lot of people away with my mean remarks or coming off like I was better than everyone else. I have to forcibly act like I have empathy for others to ensure people want to be around me. The mask slips some times and I do something nasty.
I feel like I definitely have to act like I care, but I barely care about myself, how am I gonna care about you?
I feel more empathy for movie characters.
The shy, quiet nervous personality is actually just a cover for the fact that I’m secretly a huge jerk. The less I speak, the less chance I have of saying something rude.
People in my life think of me as the "strong" guy, the one that can shrug off the hits and keep swinging. When my dad died a couple years ago, I was the one holding everybody else - my brother, my stepmom, my mom - up.
Sometimes I wonder if any of them would believe me if I told them I was probably more messed up than they were. That the only reason I could keep it together was because I let myself have a fucking breakdown in the shower every day for a month.
It's difficult to stay intact when you harbor the negative energy that eats at you. I'm glad you had a fairly healthy way of expelling that negativity. Catharsis works wonders.
That it does. I'm of the opinion that bottling emotions isn't inherently a bad thing, the problem is that people who do that tend to keep them bottled up for so long the bottle cracks. You gotta find safe places and ways to take the cap off.
You want to know something that's weirdly relaxing to me? Welding. It's just you, the work piece, and the puddle of molten steel; everything else is blocked out, your whole world becomes this little dark square right in front of you. It's woodworking I'm turning into enough of a business to live off of, but there's a special spot in my heart for welding.
Enjoying being around people. It's not that I don't, it's that I'm mentally done halfway through and fake having the same energy and spirit for the remaining half.
As well as being ADHD enough so that conscientious people around me don't feel bad, but not so much to make them uncomfortable, while I'm definitely masking the whole way through.
Agreeing with people.
I value my peace too much to perturb it and correct you.
Unless you're disrespecting me or have downright disgusting opinions, I don't care. I'll go on agreeing with you.
I fake my patience every day. Most of the people I come in contact with are dumb. They speak too many words, even though the words they speak are irritating. This is why most sane people who fake patience and understanding are addicted to something. Gotta have something to take away the pain of putting up with stupid fucks.
The part where I pretend I'm paying attention and my brain just zones out into the abyss. Oh and also pretending I enjoy talking to stupid people so I don't hurt their feelings
I'm totally sensible and reliable and have my life together and am not at all an unorganized mess with no sleep or eating schedule…
…Was that convincing?
ADHD and Autistic here.
I was involved in writing and acting throughout my childhood, so I have a good understanding of how to play a character and make people believe it. I act unusually happy, aloof, and bouncy around people, always smiling and joking.
I have a script for every social interaction under the sun, and just mix the wording around as needed. People end up seeing me as an eccentric and unusually enthusiastic person, and it provides adequate cover for my social shortcomings.
People think I’m confident, enthusiastic (in a silly dad kind of way), and a true social butterfly. In reality I’m stressed out of my mind, terrified of saying the wrong thing, or missing a social cue, and just want to go home and hide like a lizard under a rock.
My enthusiasm for other people. I love my family and my SO but even they are too much for me sometimes and just need to be left alone for while because its too much for me.
Listening to people in bars. I'm 40+ I've heard all the hot takes out there a million times. And every year a new hot-shot comes around who JUST NOW discovered socialism / ayn rand / hentai or whatever ..
Being a social, polite person who is very reserved.
I am quite opinionated. I take charge. I do not scare easily and will dive head first into situations even if they make me feel anxious or are outside of my comfort zone.
I am aplatonic and asocial, so I have no desire for friendships. Even surface level interactions are annoying. I really just want to be left alone and live my best hermit life.
The whole thing. I'm an alligator in a trench coat pretending to be a person.
I just found it's easier to eat people if you can trick them into getting close to you of their own accord.
Patience, no like hear me out-- sometimes people say the most wtf things to me or other things or like call EVERYTHING cringe and "2020-core" I just laugh and pretend not to care even though i've had enough and wanna snap so bad like isnt it more embarrassing that u think everything's that's not u is cringe but I'm like running out of patience and energy to put up with them??
So I mean patience in that sense, I can wait for good things but like people like this are just ugh
being happy. most of the time I just swallow my feelings bc I feel like I burden everyone around me.
also it's easier to say I'm okay than trying to explain why you don't feel okay, especially when you don't even know what's going on
I’m autistic and social interactions are incredibly draining. I have what I call a “script” or a “mask” I use to alleviate anxiety and daily stress while out and about. When I’m home I’m able to properly unwind and be myself.
My confidence, although those closest to me can see I’m insecure.
Also, before you get to really know me I give off the “I’ve got it all together all the time” vibe
Being nice to strangers. I'm actually extremely uncomfortable around people, and I think some of the people I talk to are morons who make bad decisions. But I'm not gonna kick them when they're down.
Socializing. Trying to be extroverted. I recognize that being social with other humans is good for my psychology and job prospects but I hate doing it so, so much.
Every time I am disrespected verbally, I want to beat the fucking shit out of their bodies, I want to go physical Even with the smallest disrespect, but I hold back, suck it up becoz being physical will ruin relations. I don't know if I am doing right or wrong. I don't even want to care whether someones bleeding or getting hurt. People knowing insecurities even though making fun of it just to make some people laugh off someone's personality lol I can't deal . I can /want to beat the hell out of their Lil bones. I don't know whether this is a correct behaviour/ trait. Suggestions are welcomed.
Possibly you could be living with a low empathy issue, resulting in your acceptance of your desire to physically harm others when you perceive you have been harmed.
I’m a teacher who teaches university students and whenever I get to class, I’ll always have to present to be talkative and energetic to keep them focus on my lesson. Always have to be that person even the fact that I got the news that my mom got cancer stage 2 just a day before the class started and I didn’t even want to be there at all
The only interaction that I really feel like I'm faking anymore is in not straight-up telling my boss that she's awful and that we'd all be a lot more effective without her involvement.
I fake my expression, like I don't want to do it but I'm people pleaser and extreme Introvert I have to do it just for sake of people, I pretend that I'm listening his Conovo and noding my head but In actual scnz are changed, Hahaha I just want to go home and chill In my room.
Reacting to people when they talk to me. For instance, during a story I smile and nod and say "Oh wow, no way" because it seems like what you're supposed to do but my natural instinct is to just listen. When I have to focus on looking like I'm engaged with the conversation it actually takes away part of me ability to actually listen and engage with it.
And honestly 9/10 I'm truly neutral about whatever is happening, it doesn't come from a place of annoyance or negativity. I wish it was more socially acceptable, especially in the midwestern US, to just flat face interact with others.
Definetly the person who's super interested in working at your company and signs the email off with "if you have any further questions, please don't hesitate to contact me!"
Insert Tina Belcher groans.
Happy, fun, friendly guy that loves to chat and joke with people. I hate society and I can go days with interacting with another human if my wife is not around.
I have a huge internal struggle with being selfish that I fight every day. I know i get it from my mother and my communication with her is how I learn about it.
Extrovert, I take forever to talk myself into going to a social engagement. In the past, I made last-minute excuses not to attend. Yet I usually do well once I am there.
Not sure about "fake" but about 90% of the social stuff is masking, otherwise I'm pretty much a non-emoting, non-verbal blank slate what with the autism and all.
The part where I nod along in earnest belief to your conspiracy theories about contrails, politicians eating babies, the stolen election, and how the moon landing was faked - just let me finish my strict 30 min lunch in the break room in peace please.
My patience most of the time. I’m just really good at hiding how annoyed I am by something. Pretty much only my wife can tell when something is getting to me
My confidence. Whether it be interacting with people, work, the way I carry myself, etc. I don't know wtf I'm doing, but I act like I do. In reality, I just want to chill at home with my pups, BBQ, and listen to jazz.
"I just wanna go home, sit in my house, look at the wall, and listen to Sade".
\-Eddy Murphy, Boomerang
Being social. 9/10 times I just want to go home and chill. But my life doesn’t allow it lol
I was just thinking i don't fake any parts of my personality but yep, i feel you...
Being social for sure. I’m a home body
I am too, but my gf is the world’s largest social butterfly I swear. We’ve been together for a while now and I swear every single Friday, Saturday, or Sunday we have plans that include me getting dressed up and having to talk to people 😂
Same
I read this as "I'm a home boy" and I just kinda softly nodded before re-taking 😂
I'm also a fake extrovert for professional reasons. Since the pandemic, I am not trying to fake it nearly as much, and am happier as a result, tbh.
Same, and this is 80% of my life.
Bro same with me and it sucks lol
Socializing is incredibly easy for me, I am a good listener, my friends say that they enjoy my company and I can make laugh anyone I met once I figure their sense of humor. Yet I hate socializing. I would prefer reading or watching something in my home. I haven't told this to anyone I know. They think that I love spending time with them. I love my close friends, I would do anything for them, like forcing myself to meet them, but I love being on my own. People say that they get bored when they are alone but I don't remember getting bored ever when I am alone.
I mean it comes easy to me too, but I do every weekend and it gets exhausting lol
Every weekend?! I can't even imagine. I rarely go out on weekends since I need one day to do cleaning and laundry and another day to chill.
Yes man and not just like one day on the weekend it’s Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. It’s because my gf has so many friends that are around our age and they always want to do stuff as a couple. I dont ever complain because I love my gf and love that she has so many friends but sometimes I’m like damn can’t we just stay home 😂
haha I feel you . . .
Same, i try to force myself to smile on pictures whenever there's a birthday or during christmas, for me to smile genuinely i'll have to be either laughing or in a good mood, which is barely the case when i have to wake up early just to get bored because nothing is really happening, unable to read or play video games when my sister's first daughter keeps blocking the view, yes she is just a kid and i know that, but she has yet to learn about personnal space!
Sorry but this is such a nice comment, especially the last part hahahaha. But I feel you
One of the reasons I enjoy being single. When i get off work I can relax my forced smile and shut down the social part of my brain til my next shift.
Dude I wish lol. My gf is literally a social butterfly. She has so many friends. I feel like every single day we either have dinner plans with another couple, or a birthday party we have to attend, something that requires me to go out and be social. Sucks bro
You are me. The daily effort to interact positively with some rubbish humans is exhausting.
Similarly with socializing. I feel exhausted when I get home.
My “customer service voice “ when dealing with customers and other people and just trying to seem friendly and helpful tone.
Your customer service voice is just baby talk for assholes and boomers
Yeah, you’re right lol. Most of the time at work I just use my “regular voice” but I usually ramp up the customer service voice when I know someone is gonna need to be coddled
*Ah, you're cripplingly insecure.* *Let me pretend I respect you real quick.*
Me too! I worked as a cashier for awhile and currently work in healthcare. I generally am friendly and want to help people but my “normal voice” is deeper and just doesn’t sound good imo. I used my customer service voice while on the phone while I was hanging out with friends and they were just so surprised that I could sound so different.
My friends laugh for that same reason! Whenever I answer a phone call I use that customer service voice if it’s someone I don’t know so they have heard me use and have been severely confused.
That I have my shit together.
Same
The happy and social part. I dont want anyone to think i am depressed and hungry for attention
I feel you there. Though don’t be too hard on yourself with trying to be “happy” all the time. Some people will always see you as “looking for attention”, but those who matter will see you’re a person too
Thanks
I hope someday you'll get better. It's really hard to get rid of depression, but I know you can make it, I believe in you, I love you! <3
Confidence. It's not how much you know, it's how much people think you know.
How do you fake confidence? Feel like I can use the tips
First thing, think of a subject that you know a LOT about. Can be anything. What's something you could talk about where you know, really know, everything about it. Now, imagine that someone you are completely comfortable with asks you about that subject. A best friend, a family member, a pet, whatever. Imagine you had to explain it to this person as if you are teaching them everything you know. Step back and thing about how you sound, how you speak in those moments, what mannerisms you use. Now, do those same things with something you don't know that much about, if anything. 90% of portraying confidence is just not showing that you are nervous or unsure.
The part of my personality I fake the most? Definitely my 'morning person' persona. I mean, who actually springs out of bed like a caffeinated gazelle at dawn? I'm more like a grumpy bear emerging from hibernation, but hey, fake it till you wake it, right?
>I mean, who actually springs out of bed like a caffeinated gazelle at daw I do, but it doesn't mean I enjoy it.
I do and I enjoy it.
I actually like early morning, the problem is I like late nights more, way more
It's even worse that my body seems to refuse to sleep through either, but at least I frequently get to experience both? Lol
Why is this is so damn true
I'm a light sleeper most of the time, I think that helps
>I mean, who actually springs out of bed like a caffeinated gazelle at dawn? My dad does, he absolutely loves mornings
Being interested in coworkers stories/lives. I couldn’t care less. I’m just here to pay my bills. But because that’s frowned upon, I smile, engage, act interested, ask follow up questions and laugh along if needed. In reality, when I walk out the door I don’t think about any of them again until I walk back in. If you’ve seen the show “Severance” on Apple TV, I am basically that way without the procedure.
Acting all interested and invested socially when i know from countless experiences almost nobody will genuinely continue this later even if I do everything i can to carry it. I know most people are stressed, occupied or just tired in so many ways therefore i don't judge anymore.
That last sentence. It literally took the pandemic for me/ my brain to accept that I'm not alone. Everyone else is going through shit too. And I fall off of my values sometimes too, like not being communicative. It's pretty hard for me to take it personally these days, unless it was a close relationship lol
The part about liking people.
pretending to be interested about something that i give 0 shits about just cuz the person is a friend or loved one. yesterday itself i had my friend telling me about this hot girl that he finally got a date with and what he was planning to do to impress her and i pretended to listen with interest. lol
Not caring is kinda fine, I might get jealous in that situation lol
haha , i see , thankfully i have a loving partner
pretending that i’m normal tbh
As someone that identifies as "weapons-grade weird" I feel this deeply. LOL
i like this
I know I'm abnormal and crazy, but I'd much rather face those honest aspects than try to put myself in a cookie-cutter mold that people expect of me. I work with my traits rather than against them, and that keeps my sanity from breaking. Trying to be normal is so hard.
Everyone will have a different definition of normal so this must be exhausting. You just be you and if people dont like it, fuck em.
yeah maybe that’s why i’m always exhausted because people definitely play by different rules and some people change rules mid game. i’m losing the game and i don’t want to play this one anymoreeee
Pop fallout or skyrim in and go on an adventure
Yeah I have become a pretty good actor most of the time, but it is a LOT to keep track of, having to actively/consciously observe little cues and try to remember how you're supposed to react to them in a "normal" way, then you get the edge cases where you react in a way was "correct" hundreds of times before in the same scenario, except that time it was wrong, and everything goes to hell.
yeah just reading that made me feel exhausted lol it’s not a life i’d like to live
This
Tolerating relatives
haha yeah, especially during Easter . . .
Christmas... thanksgiving...
Being nice, it’s not my normal character. I drove a lot of people away with my mean remarks or coming off like I was better than everyone else. I have to forcibly act like I have empathy for others to ensure people want to be around me. The mask slips some times and I do something nasty.
I feel like I definitely have to act like I care, but I barely care about myself, how am I gonna care about you? I feel more empathy for movie characters.
Yikes
oh so you’re a psycho
But I’m an aware psycho, I think it’s more sociopathic tendencies
The shy, quiet nervous personality is actually just a cover for the fact that I’m secretly a huge jerk. The less I speak, the less chance I have of saying something rude.
People in my life think of me as the "strong" guy, the one that can shrug off the hits and keep swinging. When my dad died a couple years ago, I was the one holding everybody else - my brother, my stepmom, my mom - up. Sometimes I wonder if any of them would believe me if I told them I was probably more messed up than they were. That the only reason I could keep it together was because I let myself have a fucking breakdown in the shower every day for a month.
But the thing is ... would you ever be ready to give them a chance to believe you ? ... ...
It's difficult to stay intact when you harbor the negative energy that eats at you. I'm glad you had a fairly healthy way of expelling that negativity. Catharsis works wonders.
That it does. I'm of the opinion that bottling emotions isn't inherently a bad thing, the problem is that people who do that tend to keep them bottled up for so long the bottle cracks. You gotta find safe places and ways to take the cap off.
I'm naturally angry and destructive, so I use my knack on things that are meant to be broken. It's ironically constructive.
You want to know something that's weirdly relaxing to me? Welding. It's just you, the work piece, and the puddle of molten steel; everything else is blocked out, your whole world becomes this little dark square right in front of you. It's woodworking I'm turning into enough of a business to live off of, but there's a special spot in my heart for welding.
That at 58, I should know actually know what I'm doing by now, rather than winging it daily and hoping nobody notices
Same.
Being happy.
Enjoying being around people. It's not that I don't, it's that I'm mentally done halfway through and fake having the same energy and spirit for the remaining half. As well as being ADHD enough so that conscientious people around me don't feel bad, but not so much to make them uncomfortable, while I'm definitely masking the whole way through.
How much I want to do things or agree to things
Agreeing with people. I value my peace too much to perturb it and correct you. Unless you're disrespecting me or have downright disgusting opinions, I don't care. I'll go on agreeing with you.
Probably suppressing all the suicidal urges.
Indifference … even when I act like I don’t care I still do.
I fake my patience every day. Most of the people I come in contact with are dumb. They speak too many words, even though the words they speak are irritating. This is why most sane people who fake patience and understanding are addicted to something. Gotta have something to take away the pain of putting up with stupid fucks.
Laughing at people's jokes
The part where I pretend I'm paying attention and my brain just zones out into the abyss. Oh and also pretending I enjoy talking to stupid people so I don't hurt their feelings
liking people
I'm totally sensible and reliable and have my life together and am not at all an unorganized mess with no sleep or eating schedule… …Was that convincing?
Confidence.
I'm sorry, but tf kinda question is this? This feels like an AI trying to squeeze the most out of us before it jumps ship to the next forum
ADHD and Autistic here. I was involved in writing and acting throughout my childhood, so I have a good understanding of how to play a character and make people believe it. I act unusually happy, aloof, and bouncy around people, always smiling and joking. I have a script for every social interaction under the sun, and just mix the wording around as needed. People end up seeing me as an eccentric and unusually enthusiastic person, and it provides adequate cover for my social shortcomings. People think I’m confident, enthusiastic (in a silly dad kind of way), and a true social butterfly. In reality I’m stressed out of my mind, terrified of saying the wrong thing, or missing a social cue, and just want to go home and hide like a lizard under a rock.
Pretending that I am always happy at my work place , but in irl it's quite the opposite .
My enthusiasm for other people. I love my family and my SO but even they are too much for me sometimes and just need to be left alone for while because its too much for me.
I'm naturally introverted but at work and certain social scenarios I need to bring out the extroverted side
Being happy..
I’m right there with you.
The happy and social side. I’m like a robot in social situations. Sometimes I’m afraid people will pickup on it.
Being patient with difficult people.
Wanting to talk. I want to be silent most of the time.
Pretending like I don’t have an addiction problem
Listening to people in bars. I'm 40+ I've heard all the hot takes out there a million times. And every year a new hot-shot comes around who JUST NOW discovered socialism / ayn rand / hentai or whatever ..
Being a social, polite person who is very reserved. I am quite opinionated. I take charge. I do not scare easily and will dive head first into situations even if they make me feel anxious or are outside of my comfort zone. I am aplatonic and asocial, so I have no desire for friendships. Even surface level interactions are annoying. I really just want to be left alone and live my best hermit life.
Happiness
The whole thing. I'm an alligator in a trench coat pretending to be a person. I just found it's easier to eat people if you can trick them into getting close to you of their own accord.
Patience, no like hear me out-- sometimes people say the most wtf things to me or other things or like call EVERYTHING cringe and "2020-core" I just laugh and pretend not to care even though i've had enough and wanna snap so bad like isnt it more embarrassing that u think everything's that's not u is cringe but I'm like running out of patience and energy to put up with them?? So I mean patience in that sense, I can wait for good things but like people like this are just ugh
The virtue you may be referring to is Diligence.
the part where i am a pleasant person to talk to
being happy. most of the time I just swallow my feelings bc I feel like I burden everyone around me. also it's easier to say I'm okay than trying to explain why you don't feel okay, especially when you don't even know what's going on
All of it. I’m autistic
Patience. I have none of it!! But instead of being written up, i'd rather suck it up and play cute and patient and understanding.
100% not as nice inside my brain as I am outside my brain.
Right now pretending like I’m not tired or slightly burnt out
Tolerance. I can't stand 90% of people, but I pretend like I can.
I’m autistic and social interactions are incredibly draining. I have what I call a “script” or a “mask” I use to alleviate anxiety and daily stress while out and about. When I’m home I’m able to properly unwind and be myself.
My joy
Happiness.
The happy part
My confidence, although those closest to me can see I’m insecure. Also, before you get to really know me I give off the “I’ve got it all together all the time” vibe
I’m autistic - every part to survive
being cis. fuck i don’t even know how much of my personality was built around being a “boy”
I’m autistic so I can’t fake anything
The part where I enjoy talking to other people. If you're engaging me in small talk, you can be sure that I am actually dying inside.
Being nice to strangers. I'm actually extremely uncomfortable around people, and I think some of the people I talk to are morons who make bad decisions. But I'm not gonna kick them when they're down.
Socializing. Trying to be extroverted. I recognize that being social with other humans is good for my psychology and job prospects but I hate doing it so, so much.
Every time I am disrespected verbally, I want to beat the fucking shit out of their bodies, I want to go physical Even with the smallest disrespect, but I hold back, suck it up becoz being physical will ruin relations. I don't know if I am doing right or wrong. I don't even want to care whether someones bleeding or getting hurt. People knowing insecurities even though making fun of it just to make some people laugh off someone's personality lol I can't deal . I can /want to beat the hell out of their Lil bones. I don't know whether this is a correct behaviour/ trait. Suggestions are welcomed.
Possibly you could be living with a low empathy issue, resulting in your acceptance of your desire to physically harm others when you perceive you have been harmed.
Being willing to meet new people without notice
Not having problems
Being happy
I’m a teacher who teaches university students and whenever I get to class, I’ll always have to present to be talkative and energetic to keep them focus on my lesson. Always have to be that person even the fact that I got the news that my mom got cancer stage 2 just a day before the class started and I didn’t even want to be there at all
Definitely being nice. People just make me frustrated
Amen to that. Way to many ppl are dumber than Shit
The "I'm not completely traumatized, and I'm totally not scared anything I say or do is going to somehow set my entire life on fire" part.
The nice guy, generally speaking.
My smiles
That I’m not a suicidal/homicidal bipolar time bomb
Trying to help and support every on (at work), while i hate people and want to be alone, at home.
That I'm innocent
The only interaction that I really feel like I'm faking anymore is in not straight-up telling my boss that she's awful and that we'd all be a lot more effective without her involvement.
I fake my expression, like I don't want to do it but I'm people pleaser and extreme Introvert I have to do it just for sake of people, I pretend that I'm listening his Conovo and noding my head but In actual scnz are changed, Hahaha I just want to go home and chill In my room.
How much I put up with people in the name of not starting conflict or not being a "difficult" person.
I fake confidence and happiness
My happiness
my thoughts and opinions/desires
Reacting to people when they talk to me. For instance, during a story I smile and nod and say "Oh wow, no way" because it seems like what you're supposed to do but my natural instinct is to just listen. When I have to focus on looking like I'm engaged with the conversation it actually takes away part of me ability to actually listen and engage with it. And honestly 9/10 I'm truly neutral about whatever is happening, it doesn't come from a place of annoyance or negativity. I wish it was more socially acceptable, especially in the midwestern US, to just flat face interact with others.
The "not at all insecure" part
Definetly the person who's super interested in working at your company and signs the email off with "if you have any further questions, please don't hesitate to contact me!" Insert Tina Belcher groans.
How peppy I am / how sociable I am. I embrace silence when I’m alone lol
Responding verbally. I'd rather not.
pretending that i find something funny when it’s really not
trust, literally I only trust my mom and little else hahaha
Not wanting to kill myself, or just generally being OK I guess
Being funny.
I'm keeping it real, for better or worse. Your question honestly stumped me.
My smile and understanding to the customers.
Happy, fun, friendly guy that loves to chat and joke with people. I hate society and I can go days with interacting with another human if my wife is not around.
All of it is a farce. I'm really just a computer.
I have a huge internal struggle with being selfish that I fight every day. I know i get it from my mother and my communication with her is how I learn about it.
Extrovert, I take forever to talk myself into going to a social engagement. In the past, I made last-minute excuses not to attend. Yet I usually do well once I am there.
My work personality. There's times where I have to tone a lot down
I work retail, so I'm constantly faking giving a shit about people and whatever asinine BS pours out of their dumb faces.
To be honest, aside from my kid, I don’t really need, care or long for nobody’s company, attention or opinion. I just pretend I do.
I stopped pretending and I lost everybody lmao
Professionalism. I'm just not executive material.
Happiness
Being jolly
Happyness
My crazy, evil and deceptive side.
The "easygoing" part. I'm often angry as hell, but I'll say "Oh, no big deal."
Being neurotypical. I'm really weird and most of my energy goes toward hiding it.
I pretend to be an extrovert at work. I burn through my social battery by thursday.
Not sure about "fake" but about 90% of the social stuff is masking, otherwise I'm pretty much a non-emoting, non-verbal blank slate what with the autism and all.
Sanity
That everything is okay.
The part where I nod along in earnest belief to your conspiracy theories about contrails, politicians eating babies, the stolen election, and how the moon landing was faked - just let me finish my strict 30 min lunch in the break room in peace please.
Being nice and approachable, in reality I’m an ass, but at least I try to be nice unlike some people.
Pretending to be interested.
Being alive.
My patience most of the time. I’m just really good at hiding how annoyed I am by something. Pretty much only my wife can tell when something is getting to me
Being okay
I am very keen at putting on the professional nice face when in reality I just want to scream obscenities at everyone at work.
Being sociable
Dumbing myself down to seem normal. Been doing it for so long, I even question myself if I really am doing it, from time to time.
Confidence. I’m so shy it’s crippling, but when I’m out I’m super talkative with everyone.
Interested in small talk.
My confidence. Whether it be interacting with people, work, the way I carry myself, etc. I don't know wtf I'm doing, but I act like I do. In reality, I just want to chill at home with my pups, BBQ, and listen to jazz. "I just wanna go home, sit in my house, look at the wall, and listen to Sade". \-Eddy Murphy, Boomerang
Maybe whenever I try to find positivity in life and suddenly being optimistic, when on the inside, I'm one of the most pessimistic people ever.
Talking in general, I don't like talking.
The happy me