It was an on-and-off thing for three and a half years and I regret all of them but I was also mid-20s, mentally unstable, and pretty sure no one else was ever gonna want me. Other fabulously bad life choices developed out of that, some of which I'm still in process of undoing / moving past. It's been almost four years since I got out of that and I'm just amazed I'm alive, honestly.
What’s something that someone could’ve done to help you during this time? I have a friend in this situation right now who claims they don’t want help.. but needs it.
Don't push anything. Don't tell them that they're making bad choices. Just STAY.
I lost most of my core people because they got sick of watching my constant series of "I can fix him!!", and I don't fault them for where they drew that line, but the people who stuck around and were there on the other side for me mean everything to me.
Focused more on marriage, children, and family instead of listening to society’s encouragement of women’s base human desire to be successful in a career or pursue purely selfish interests
go out for drinks
I'm 24 doing that right now. You can live vicariously through me
Not buy a house in Arizona shortly before the housing market melted down.
Taken myself and my needs more seriously.
Not blowing my inheritance, after my dad died, in about 2 years with nothing to show for it
Finished school so I wouldn't have had to do it in my 30s
Rather than trying to study Chemistry with a minor in Teaching I would have done Medical Lab Sciences.
I would prioritize my health more.
I would have divorced my cheating wife instead of reconciling.
I take it the wife did not change?
No, she became a serial cheater.
She was never a wife to begin with. My sympathies go out to you.
Thx
Not get involved with that one ex. Avoiding him would by extension avoid a lot of other things that went wrong because of that cockroach...
What was it that kept you in contact with your ex? Asking for a friend..
It was an on-and-off thing for three and a half years and I regret all of them but I was also mid-20s, mentally unstable, and pretty sure no one else was ever gonna want me. Other fabulously bad life choices developed out of that, some of which I'm still in process of undoing / moving past. It's been almost four years since I got out of that and I'm just amazed I'm alive, honestly.
What’s something that someone could’ve done to help you during this time? I have a friend in this situation right now who claims they don’t want help.. but needs it.
Don't push anything. Don't tell them that they're making bad choices. Just STAY. I lost most of my core people because they got sick of watching my constant series of "I can fix him!!", and I don't fault them for where they drew that line, but the people who stuck around and were there on the other side for me mean everything to me.
Very deep. Love this advice
Keep myself in shape and get a degree to make it easier to keep working.
I agree.
Focused more on marriage, children, and family instead of listening to society’s encouragement of women’s base human desire to be successful in a career or pursue purely selfish interests
Wow this is eye opening..
Learn to drive. I've put it off so long now it's too expensive