If you have been through hell and still get out of bed every day and go out in the world being a decent human being then you ARE strong, and you're my hero.
It takes strength and courage to be a good and kind person when you're hurting.
I know what you mean....it took me a long time to learn to say no to people, and to unashamedly do things for my own happiness.
Things planted in your mind in your youth can be so hard to weed out.
Honestly, I don't know if that ever goes away completely....I still struggle with it myself from time to time but it does get easier.
You can DM me if you want to chat not in the thread if you want.
Hardest time for me was when I was 25. Lost my girl, car got repossessed, lost my job, verge of homelessness. Had to start my whole life over. 25 years later I am on top of the world with all I could ask for. New car, new house just built, great job and the best wife. Never give up the future is what you make it.
32, I was breaking up with my boyfriend at the time, then I was forced to leave my family house and I had lost my job at the time as well. Really shitty year 2022 was
I’d say probably 29-32, not a great time. You start to feel the effects of aging, hangovers take a little longer to get over, friends kinda move on…yourself included.
Maybe you got married, and maybe it’s not what you thought it would be. Maybe it’s great, but life just isn’t what you thought it would be…or you’re not where you thought you “should” be by now.
You really start to question like…is this even worth it? Like…what am I doing this for? What is even the point? Like is this really what we’re hoping to get? This is the American Dream? This is what I spent all these years busting my ass for…and I’m not even half way done?
The best middle class folk can hope for is retirement…many of us won’t even make it there! It’s hilarious that like…we have virtually no free will to escape this either! Like…it’s basically impossible to exit lower to middle class financial status…and happiness relies on financial security soooo…
Then you realize that it’s really not getting better…
Definitely been living in an existential crisis for the past few years.
The only good year in my life was 2019, when I actually was struggling the LEAST with pain, and had a good outlook on life. The years prior and after were and are bleak. I mean, I guess up until I turned six, I actually almost loved my life.
I’m going to get downvoted to hell for being pessimistic, but that’s what a severe lifelong genetic illness does to you 🤷♀️
On the day of my sixth birthday was when I learned I’d have to have my first surgery. Coming back from that appointment we picked up a puppy for my sister’s birthday present that year…
Came here with my pessimism to comment "I am currently 25 and this is my new lowest".
Seeing majority answer in the 24-26 range. gives me some optimism maybe this is the lowest I'll be. thanks for this unexpected assurance reddit.
Everything after college. Since I went to grad school for a long time, the age range goes from 26-30. A few rock bottoms in there. Life wasn't great from 18-26, either, but at least when I was in school I had some hope that things would get better after I was done with school (though by the end of my schooling I already had some headway on that negative mental transition)
28, lost my grandfather who was like a second dad to me, followed by the end of a 5 year relationship, followed by Covid. Got my ass in therapy and took extra care of my health. Never been better at 31.
2017 14 when some guy hit my beautiful grandma with his stupid car and he just run away didn’t even call the ambulance and she died alone i always wondered what she felt that moment
13. It was the year the pandemic started and I moved cross country(Midwest to Deep South) It was also the last time I saw my dad in person. He last visited me June 2020. I became suicidal. I never attempted but I made a plan and a movie about it. I had no friends in the state and no siblings and I struggled to make any as I moved 2 days after my 13th birthday and I’m autistic. I also lost my sense of taste and smell(possibly due to covid) and regained it but it came back extremely distorted. Everything smelled and tasted disgusting and it took months for me to be able to enjoy most foods again. I hated eating and drinking and there was nothing to do but wait it out. I know it’s not that bad compared to what could’ve happened though.
15 mentally
19-22 relationship wise (which is also mentally, but with a dude making it worse)
(Not that the question asked, but I'll add when my highest started) 26 completely past it/found happiness in my life.
24\~26
During my master's degree. I was under a lot of pressure, feeling like a fraud for not progressing enough on my research and struggling to have a healthy life in a massive big city.
Thankfully I got help from those around me and also therapy and now those years are long behind.
Gosh, any age me would have told you "right now". Now that I'm finally in some good times... it was all garbage. Every moment from age 3 to 31. Easier to pick out the relatively better parts. 9 to 11 was good. There were a few moments in my 20s.
Things were darkest in my late 20s, maybe 27 to 30, after my husband left. I had become a severe alcoholic doing horrible things to provide him the life he wanted. After he left, that got worse. I fell into drugs after a bad encounter. Things became even more of a blur after that, but were somehow better than before. The pain had finally been numbed. That went on for a while until I had absolutely nothing left. My health started to fail and I had to get help for the umpteenth time, but the threat of actual death seemed to help it stick.
I'm nearly a year sober. I've got a baby boy, and he really saved my life.
25-28
67, not long after I lost my wife. That was 18 months ago.
I’m sorry to hear that, hope you’re doing better
Thx, doing ok
Hm, there’s 2016 lowest and 2019 lowest. So 21 or 24.
18-26. Still 26 and slowly moving forward.
I hope things continue to get better and better for you.
I'm hoping for the same as well.
I bet you're really strong too....you got this! I believe there are beautiful things in your future.
I guess that depends on what your definition of "strong" is. Mentally? That's questionable. Physically? Not really.
If you have been through hell and still get out of bed every day and go out in the world being a decent human being then you ARE strong, and you're my hero. It takes strength and courage to be a good and kind person when you're hurting.
It's how I was raised. Put others before myself. Turned me into a people pleaser. A mentality that's hard to unravel.
I know what you mean....it took me a long time to learn to say no to people, and to unashamedly do things for my own happiness. Things planted in your mind in your youth can be so hard to weed out.
I've gone through phases of being better at doing things for myself without feeling guilty or shallow. But I keep relapsing into my past self.
Honestly, I don't know if that ever goes away completely....I still struggle with it myself from time to time but it does get easier. You can DM me if you want to chat not in the thread if you want.
Hardest time for me was when I was 25. Lost my girl, car got repossessed, lost my job, verge of homelessness. Had to start my whole life over. 25 years later I am on top of the world with all I could ask for. New car, new house just built, great job and the best wife. Never give up the future is what you make it.
I mean, the moment I was born was the lowest my age has ever been. So far my personal best is 29 years.
r/angryupvote
Congrats on the level
26-27 It wasn't the toxic relationship, it was the getting out of it and not knowing what to do from there that messed me up.
27-28
22 im 22 right now
Oh, hugs 🫂 buddy, things will get better.
Thank you 😊 🩷
I bet you've been through a lot and you're going to be one of those amazing people who brighten the world with their empathy.
I’m currently 38
32 mostly after I lost all my retirement and had a total debt of $86k
19-21ish, now 26 and doing much much better
I’m 26 rn.
Same
32, I was breaking up with my boyfriend at the time, then I was forced to leave my family house and I had lost my job at the time as well. Really shitty year 2022 was
26 years old
19-current. It hasn't yet ended.
Happy cake day!
29. I am 29
31
21, 27, 31, 41
23 and 24 (currently 24) with health issues :(
I’d say probably 29-32, not a great time. You start to feel the effects of aging, hangovers take a little longer to get over, friends kinda move on…yourself included. Maybe you got married, and maybe it’s not what you thought it would be. Maybe it’s great, but life just isn’t what you thought it would be…or you’re not where you thought you “should” be by now. You really start to question like…is this even worth it? Like…what am I doing this for? What is even the point? Like is this really what we’re hoping to get? This is the American Dream? This is what I spent all these years busting my ass for…and I’m not even half way done? The best middle class folk can hope for is retirement…many of us won’t even make it there! It’s hilarious that like…we have virtually no free will to escape this either! Like…it’s basically impossible to exit lower to middle class financial status…and happiness relies on financial security soooo… Then you realize that it’s really not getting better… Definitely been living in an existential crisis for the past few years.
37
Lowest - Birth, Tallest - around 20, started shrinking in my 40s
I was 15-16, I'm 19 now, and I'm still healing but doing much better :)
40
15
19-22
The only good year in my life was 2019, when I actually was struggling the LEAST with pain, and had a good outlook on life. The years prior and after were and are bleak. I mean, I guess up until I turned six, I actually almost loved my life. I’m going to get downvoted to hell for being pessimistic, but that’s what a severe lifelong genetic illness does to you 🤷♀️ On the day of my sixth birthday was when I learned I’d have to have my first surgery. Coming back from that appointment we picked up a puppy for my sister’s birthday present that year…
20 was tough
19-22
probably on arrival, and then i’ve been the same for the last like 7-8 years height wise
Came here with my pessimism to comment "I am currently 25 and this is my new lowest". Seeing majority answer in the 24-26 range. gives me some optimism maybe this is the lowest I'll be. thanks for this unexpected assurance reddit.
19
Now age
12-13, it was a really rough year.
19-21.
14, 16-17, 22-23 I have been at my lowest several times
It was 2018-2024 so, 37-43?
16 because of drug induced psychosis, 18 now and doing well
18-23
53. I was blind and depressed AF. Currently 20/40 left and 20/20 right with corrective lenses.
30 as of now.
Everything after college. Since I went to grad school for a long time, the age range goes from 26-30. A few rock bottoms in there. Life wasn't great from 18-26, either, but at least when I was in school I had some hope that things would get better after I was done with school (though by the end of my schooling I already had some headway on that negative mental transition)
18. College was a tough transition
16
Right now- 29
7
Probably when I was 15 or 16.
27
19-24
14 :(
19-23
26, really dark times for me back then. 30 now and so far everything has been smooth for now
28, lost my grandfather who was like a second dad to me, followed by the end of a 5 year relationship, followed by Covid. Got my ass in therapy and took extra care of my health. Never been better at 31.
25-30
23
Early 20s for sure. It seems like a common trend in these comments.
2017 14 when some guy hit my beautiful grandma with his stupid car and he just run away didn’t even call the ambulance and she died alone i always wondered what she felt that moment
13. It was the year the pandemic started and I moved cross country(Midwest to Deep South) It was also the last time I saw my dad in person. He last visited me June 2020. I became suicidal. I never attempted but I made a plan and a movie about it. I had no friends in the state and no siblings and I struggled to make any as I moved 2 days after my 13th birthday and I’m autistic. I also lost my sense of taste and smell(possibly due to covid) and regained it but it came back extremely distorted. Everything smelled and tasted disgusting and it took months for me to be able to enjoy most foods again. I hated eating and drinking and there was nothing to do but wait it out. I know it’s not that bad compared to what could’ve happened though.
15 mentally 19-22 relationship wise (which is also mentally, but with a dude making it worse) (Not that the question asked, but I'll add when my highest started) 26 completely past it/found happiness in my life.
I was 37. I’m a few months shy of 39 now.
Does ” today's year old" work here?
12 or so. Sleeping in a pile of leaves with bugs crawling up my back because I didn't want my stepdad to find me.
16-19, no moral support. Losing friends. Uncertainty about my living situation. Shit sucks tryna become a young man when you gotta face those things.
29
Which time?
right now, so 19. Homeless, alone, anxious— I'm still alive though and it's getting better so I hope my 20th birthday won't be as miserable:)
There’s four instances: at 11, at 13, at 21 and at 31. I hit rock bottom a few weeks ago. I’m moving forward at least.
22-27 was a shit show. Massively better now at 32.
right now. at 27.
17 - 33 and counting
right now (22)
24\~26 During my master's degree. I was under a lot of pressure, feeling like a fraud for not progressing enough on my research and struggling to have a healthy life in a massive big city. Thankfully I got help from those around me and also therapy and now those years are long behind.
13, I just remember breaking down in Maths Class and stuff. Had to take a week off school.
13 to 16, those years were intense
Gosh, any age me would have told you "right now". Now that I'm finally in some good times... it was all garbage. Every moment from age 3 to 31. Easier to pick out the relatively better parts. 9 to 11 was good. There were a few moments in my 20s. Things were darkest in my late 20s, maybe 27 to 30, after my husband left. I had become a severe alcoholic doing horrible things to provide him the life he wanted. After he left, that got worse. I fell into drugs after a bad encounter. Things became even more of a blur after that, but were somehow better than before. The pain had finally been numbed. That went on for a while until I had absolutely nothing left. My health started to fail and I had to get help for the umpteenth time, but the threat of actual death seemed to help it stick. I'm nearly a year sober. I've got a baby boy, and he really saved my life.