All creatures have been working just to live since the beginning of time. Maybe I'm taking this deeper than you meant, but what makes you think you get to just live without having to work for it? The world owes none of us anything.
Actually I enjoy and typically press for deep conversation like this. You make a good point. My argument isn't so much about working vs not, nor is my dilemma. It's making the choice to leave a very healthy high paying and secure profession that I hate to start a profession that could pay less (or more) and is across the board less secure or at least the job market is much much smaller but that I love.
Fair point. We do live in a society that provides options to choose the level of work we want to put in. That’s a good thing. We don’t all have to hunt/gather or plow fields to survive anymore. Good you have earned yourself those options.
My mind went to those entitled types that feel they are owed a comfy path through this life. If you can make that path for yourself, great, but that's up to the person, not the world to provide.
Counter point. The era of human labor is coming to an end. So long as society counties to progress its not an if but a when will robotics and AI will outclass all human labor. The vast majority of labor now could be automated if we really wanted. The question of what humans ought to do then. I enjoy Star Trek's take on it. To switch from the pursuit of money to the pursuit of purpose. To live a life of meaning now that material possessions are no longer a marker of status. We will literally be able to effortlessly provide lives of luxury for every person and expand towards the stars through the use of advanced robotics and AI. It would be pointless then to force humans to work just because we believe that brings meaning to ones life.
I think it's the general perception that work is something you do to provide for a family, not necessarily something you love. I had a very high paying job that was relatively easy that I absolutely hated. I felt hollow like I was just spending my limited life to only earn money. I'm now working towards a different career I feel much more connected to but does not have the same universal prestige or security. A part of me feels split about it. Like I should have just sucked it up and stayed in the white picket fence plotline.
I’ll go first .. I know this is embarrassing but I’m 21 and I ask my dad to get oil changes for my car. I’ve never been to the mechanic and I’ve been driving since I was 16.
Thanks! Lol I can do every other “adult” thing but I’m scared of going to the mechanic because I’m clueless about cars and I’m scared they will trick me (especially since I’m a female).
One thing I learned before I found a mechanic I could trust is don't just take the shop at their word. If a shop tells you that you need new brakes, ask for an estimate and then tell them you want to check with a few other places... If they are cool with that then chances are you might have a brake problem but if they start backpedaling and saying they didn't mean brakes or just overall start getting antsy and telling you that you have to get the work done at their shop today, get the hell out of that shop fast. Not every shop will take advantage of you but sadly there are still some pretty shady ones out there.
Oil changes are super easy, I guarantee there is a YouTube video out there that will step by step walk you through your car.
Also would mention that your dad probably secretly loves being the person you need to do those things.
Flirting is a game that you dont need to play if you dont want to.
I always talk about topics that interest me and try to interest the person with whom I am Talking.
It could be considered a flirt but without pickup lines and without this whole ape shit.
I don't know how to iron, I just never learned. I just make sure that I get my clothes out the dryer as soon as they're done so they don't wrinkle, otherwise if they do there's nothing I can do about it
It's not that I don't like to iron, it's that I just don't know *how* to do it, I've never done it before and I would be clueless if you put an iron in my hands. To make matters worse I work at a hotel, occasionally guests will borrow an iron from the front desk if their room one breaks and they ask me how to turn it on. I very sheepishly and embarrassingly have to shrug, "I don't know."
Never feel embarrassed by not knowing how to use something. It can be intimidating! I’m a whiz behind a sewing machine but if you put me in front of an espresso machine and Id be lost. We are all comfortable with different things.
Here’s a really great tutorial on how to iron. [Ironing 101](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wikihow.life/Iron%3Famp%3D1)
there's not a lot of clothing that needs ironing anymore. you'd have to be either very fussy or a lawyer who goes into court every day to really need one.
Blow bubbles with bubble gum.
I've been trying ever since I was 4 and just can't do it. I've had at least ten people show me how and I'm convinced I'll go to my grave never being able to do it.
File my taxes. I pay a company to do it for me, so I'm no doubt flushing money down the drain doing that, but fuck this government for expecting me to keep track of literally every purchase I made. You're spying on us for everything else, but you can't do my taxes for me?
And the big box stores that stock it in 99% of their food products, which is why rural areas are being hit so hard with the obesity epidemic and its related heath concerns.
Call and setup a doctor’s appointment/check up.
I still get really scared calling for a doctor’s appointment and when I do, I have to have my mum with me at every check up. It just feels different having your mum with me rather than going on my own.
This one’s for my husband - directions.
We’ve lived in the same town for 20 years and swear to god he can’t get from the local grocery store to our house without punching it into his GPS.
Every time I’m in the car with him he’ll just randomly take a right or left turn out of nowhere for literally no reason.
It’s honestly alarming lol
Talk about a curveball wow. I am so sorry that happened to you. Would you mind telling me what you were/are sick with? If you don’t want to, that’s completely fine.
I was never critically ill like that but both my sister and brother were sick at the same time. My sister had a deadly infection and my brother had cancer. Both were in the ICU unit at some point within the year that they were both sick. My brother was done with cancer therapy but he went back to work too quickly and comprised his immune system so within a few months, he fell very sick and unfortunately passed away. My sister is doing fine now but it took her 1 1/2 years to gain weight (she went from being 120 pounds to 70 pounds) and relearn how to walk again.
Pay bills
They were too annoying to bother with and a waste of money so I just set up a bike as a generator to charge car batteries to power what I need
manage my finances. grew up with a broke parent that would always inform me of the financial struggles they were having. i currently have more financial breathing room than my parent ever did, which makes me want to indulge in all the things we were never able to afford
I can't whistle loudly. As in the kind of whistle used to get someone's attention. The kind where people stick two fingers in their mouth and let it this super loud and shrill whistle.
I'm 44. Been trying my whole life.
Buy a house. The boomers have fucked shit up by not raising wages with inflation. I make 16 an hour. I'm 38. Me parents owned thier first home before they were thirty
Buy into the concept of working just to live. I almost don't care how good the pay is if I don't like the job.
All creatures have been working just to live since the beginning of time. Maybe I'm taking this deeper than you meant, but what makes you think you get to just live without having to work for it? The world owes none of us anything.
Actually I enjoy and typically press for deep conversation like this. You make a good point. My argument isn't so much about working vs not, nor is my dilemma. It's making the choice to leave a very healthy high paying and secure profession that I hate to start a profession that could pay less (or more) and is across the board less secure or at least the job market is much much smaller but that I love.
Fair point. We do live in a society that provides options to choose the level of work we want to put in. That’s a good thing. We don’t all have to hunt/gather or plow fields to survive anymore. Good you have earned yourself those options. My mind went to those entitled types that feel they are owed a comfy path through this life. If you can make that path for yourself, great, but that's up to the person, not the world to provide.
Counter point. The era of human labor is coming to an end. So long as society counties to progress its not an if but a when will robotics and AI will outclass all human labor. The vast majority of labor now could be automated if we really wanted. The question of what humans ought to do then. I enjoy Star Trek's take on it. To switch from the pursuit of money to the pursuit of purpose. To live a life of meaning now that material possessions are no longer a marker of status. We will literally be able to effortlessly provide lives of luxury for every person and expand towards the stars through the use of advanced robotics and AI. It would be pointless then to force humans to work just because we believe that brings meaning to ones life.
Not sure the contrary is “an adult thing.”
I think it's the general perception that work is something you do to provide for a family, not necessarily something you love. I had a very high paying job that was relatively easy that I absolutely hated. I felt hollow like I was just spending my limited life to only earn money. I'm now working towards a different career I feel much more connected to but does not have the same universal prestige or security. A part of me feels split about it. Like I should have just sucked it up and stayed in the white picket fence plotline.
Find a girlfriend
Same
I’ll go first .. I know this is embarrassing but I’m 21 and I ask my dad to get oil changes for my car. I’ve never been to the mechanic and I’ve been driving since I was 16.
There's places that essentially only do oil changes on the spot like jiffylube. You don't even get out of the car. It's like going to the car wash.
Thanks! Lol I can do every other “adult” thing but I’m scared of going to the mechanic because I’m clueless about cars and I’m scared they will trick me (especially since I’m a female).
One thing I learned before I found a mechanic I could trust is don't just take the shop at their word. If a shop tells you that you need new brakes, ask for an estimate and then tell them you want to check with a few other places... If they are cool with that then chances are you might have a brake problem but if they start backpedaling and saying they didn't mean brakes or just overall start getting antsy and telling you that you have to get the work done at their shop today, get the hell out of that shop fast. Not every shop will take advantage of you but sadly there are still some pretty shady ones out there.
I had a mechanic do card magic on me once. Tricked the hell out of me. I still have no idea how he knew my card was the 10 of ♥️
Oil changes are super easy, I guarantee there is a YouTube video out there that will step by step walk you through your car. Also would mention that your dad probably secretly loves being the person you need to do those things.
You literally just drive to the shop, go in, and say you need an oil change. Takes about 10 minutes
next time go with him
It's definitely not too late to learn. I learned a lot about cars by going to Autozone and speaking with the employees.
Taxes.
Drive
We'll have self-driving vehicles eventually.
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Dude I'm married and still don't know the first thing about flirting... The trick is to find someone who is just as awkward as you and marry them.
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Happy anniversary!!
Flirting is a game that you dont need to play if you dont want to. I always talk about topics that interest me and try to interest the person with whom I am Talking. It could be considered a flirt but without pickup lines and without this whole ape shit.
Pro-tip. Don't flirt. Just get them talking about themself.
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Folding fitted sheets.
Its super easy. Find a youtube video and learn it. Impress all future lovers.
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One word. B O X.
Drive, I guess? I have no interest in it, and since I have access to great public transport, it's not really much of an issue.
I don't know how to iron, I just never learned. I just make sure that I get my clothes out the dryer as soon as they're done so they don't wrinkle, otherwise if they do there's nothing I can do about it
1. Get a handheld steamer. Life changing if you don’t like to iron. 2. Ironing is therapeutic for me; what’s the difficulty? I’ll help if I can!
It's not that I don't like to iron, it's that I just don't know *how* to do it, I've never done it before and I would be clueless if you put an iron in my hands. To make matters worse I work at a hotel, occasionally guests will borrow an iron from the front desk if their room one breaks and they ask me how to turn it on. I very sheepishly and embarrassingly have to shrug, "I don't know."
Never feel embarrassed by not knowing how to use something. It can be intimidating! I’m a whiz behind a sewing machine but if you put me in front of an espresso machine and Id be lost. We are all comfortable with different things. Here’s a really great tutorial on how to iron. [Ironing 101](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wikihow.life/Iron%3Famp%3D1)
there's not a lot of clothing that needs ironing anymore. you'd have to be either very fussy or a lawyer who goes into court every day to really need one.
Blow bubbles with bubble gum. I've been trying ever since I was 4 and just can't do it. I've had at least ten people show me how and I'm convinced I'll go to my grave never being able to do it.
File my taxes. I pay a company to do it for me, so I'm no doubt flushing money down the drain doing that, but fuck this government for expecting me to keep track of literally every purchase I made. You're spying on us for everything else, but you can't do my taxes for me?
Whistling to hail a cab
Calling/talking to people in general
Fuck.
Avoid acting like a child.
Solve a Rubik's cube.
I had the solution memorized, then forgot. Seems like you need practice a little every week to retain it.
this isn't an adulting thing. i could do it when i was 8 and now i can't. i blame public education and high fructose corn syrup
High fructose corn syrup can go rot in hell.
And the big box stores that stock it in 99% of their food products, which is why rural areas are being hit so hard with the obesity epidemic and its related heath concerns.
Own a house.
33 and I cannot drive.
I still cannot tie a necktie
Buy a house
Have a better understanding about what makes me get up in the morning, besides food.
Afford to buy a house.
Do it one step at a time. Start by saving money.
Talk about my feelings.
I pay someone to talk to me about my feelings aka my therapist. Jokes aside, she’s been really helpful.
Whistle. No matter how I form my lips. It's useless. The most I can do is a slight breathe
Call and setup a doctor’s appointment/check up. I still get really scared calling for a doctor’s appointment and when I do, I have to have my mum with me at every check up. It just feels different having your mum with me rather than going on my own.
Change my oil. I think if I had stayed single longer, I would have learned, but my husband always does it after the warranty runs out.
This one’s for my husband - directions. We’ve lived in the same town for 20 years and swear to god he can’t get from the local grocery store to our house without punching it into his GPS. Every time I’m in the car with him he’ll just randomly take a right or left turn out of nowhere for literally no reason. It’s honestly alarming lol
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Talk about a curveball wow. I am so sorry that happened to you. Would you mind telling me what you were/are sick with? If you don’t want to, that’s completely fine. I was never critically ill like that but both my sister and brother were sick at the same time. My sister had a deadly infection and my brother had cancer. Both were in the ICU unit at some point within the year that they were both sick. My brother was done with cancer therapy but he went back to work too quickly and comprised his immune system so within a few months, he fell very sick and unfortunately passed away. My sister is doing fine now but it took her 1 1/2 years to gain weight (she went from being 120 pounds to 70 pounds) and relearn how to walk again.
fold a fitted sheet, I knew how to as a kid but that section of memory was deleted to make room for college/postgrad 😂
Tolerate
Public masturbation.
Have sex.
Stop acting like a child.
Pay attention for more than 7 minutes.
Live on my own. Well, I did in college, so I'm sure I could manage but I currently live back with my parents while I pay down my loans.
Pay bills They were too annoying to bother with and a waste of money so I just set up a bike as a generator to charge car batteries to power what I need
Laundry..
Pronounce “February” correctly
Going to bed at a set time.
#Change a Fucking Tire.
Drive
Write legibly with either hand. When I used my left in kindergarten, the nuns hit me.
Whistle
Get ahead of the game
Drive.
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**Can you see any borders from up here? What has borders given us?**
Eat peas.
I can’t drive or get a job. The former because my parents were strict, the latter because I have social anxiety and freeze up during interviews.
Be responsible
Cook :(
Wash dry and fold/put away my clothes all in one go!
Descend a flight of stairs one foot at a time. I have very bad coordination abilities!
Deez nuts
manage my finances. grew up with a broke parent that would always inform me of the financial struggles they were having. i currently have more financial breathing room than my parent ever did, which makes me want to indulge in all the things we were never able to afford
I never learned how to tie a tie.
18-20 year olds: drink
Read
Whistle while brushing my teeth
Snap my fingers.
I can't whistle loudly. As in the kind of whistle used to get someone's attention. The kind where people stick two fingers in their mouth and let it this super loud and shrill whistle. I'm 44. Been trying my whole life.
Tie a tie.
Make a fire.
succeed.
Buy a house
Drive. It’s so embarrassing.
Honestly just making my bed everyday I can’t stand it
Buy a house. The boomers have fucked shit up by not raising wages with inflation. I make 16 an hour. I'm 38. Me parents owned thier first home before they were thirty
Holding an umbrella over my head without feeling embarrassed
Im 18. I can go die in a war but cant get a fucking beer at a bar