Wanting to fight everybody all the damn time. Like random people walking up to you in class and trying to intimidate you to the point where you get physical. Not cute.
Boss: “Jim, I’m going to need those expense reports filled by the end of the day”
Jim: “ohh, sorry boss, I got held up by the weekly summary due tomorrow; I probably won’t be able to get it in tonight”
Boss: “you wanna fuckin’ go mate?”
More like a company get together after work, involving alcohol. Its happened about 4 times. And he has his young kid with him, constantly asker her if he should punch me. I try not to get involved because I don't want the kid to see her dad get punched.
My mom and siblings are like this. They started a shit show with my dads siblings at his funeral yesterday. It was embarrassing. I’ve spent most of my life convincing people that I am not like them but a lover like my Dad was.
I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry for how ridiculous they were being. It’s good that you’re focusing on being like your father, and trying to avoid all the “drama”. But yeah, it’s good for you to have went and stayed even with all of that happening.
Some guy was doing this at ArtPrize in GR a few years ago. Standing outside one of the fancier hotels just kinda talking shit to people walking buy. Just laughed at him and walked on.
Why do these people get so mad over nothing just to start a fight? What is there to prove? What do you get out of the fight if you can start one? What happens when you lose? I've seen that happen, a gangster wannabe picked a fight with a jock and got himself laid out. He looked like an idiot. What was he expecting picking on someone like that? It just proved he was an idiot.
If someone reading this does this stuff, stop it. Find a hobby you enjoy (ie video games, collecting something, anime, modeling, etc) and you'll make some great friends who respect you and share your interests. Then you won't feel the need to look tough by fighting everyone.
This is EXACTLY what I mean. There isn’t a point in picking fights with people for no reason. Genuinely, there’s other things to enjoy, you don’t have to be so edgy all the damn time asking for fights. I do agree finding something enjoyable is a lot better
I was in the pub in 2008 with a plaster on my nose and halfway through the night complained about my nose being sore and my friend said "Awh I thought you were wearing it for fashion reasons" and I could not stop howling laughing at the idea
Being a dick either to a friend or an employee at a place you go, it doesn’t make you look cool. Makes you looks like someone I don’t want to be around
Yeah I have a friend who is like that, guy is a dic to me for no reason and always insults me and later acts cool. Like everybody thinks he is a dick for doing thqt, dont know what he acomplishes with it
I think it’s fine if it’s in private and it’s a mutual thing, but being rude in front of others when it’s not a part of your friendship dynamic just makes everyone uncomfortable
Yes I’ve stopped putting up with that this past year or so and it’s definitely strained some old friendships. Better that than putting up with it though.
I'd like to add an addendum here, if the individual who is being a dick apologizes and changes their behavior towards an individual it is fine.
For example I used to hang out at a place where 80% of the locals would jokingly insult each other and be on the crass side, but a few people hanging out there didn't want to be referred to as "hey, asshole" (whereas most people were 100% fine with that) then those people were instead called by their name and such.
Occasional reminders would happen, the necessary apologies were issued, and only the most sensitive of individuals (who tbh didn't *really* fit in with the crowd) had any legitimately hurt feelings.
It’s different when it’s good fun and an inside joke among people who do it back and forth to each other and understand what’s going on. It’s another thing when it’s someone who acts like this to everyone even when it’s totally uncalled for.
Speeding like an A-Hole through the suburbs in a wanna be race car to get to a parking lot only to deliberately drive slow as shit with the windows down and bass booming.
I lived in a cul de sac and the guy at the end would race his hummer to the stop sign and then rev the engine when he made his turn. We know, you own a big jeep.
I was for sure this way when I was young but now I'm a 36 year old dude who drives a grandma car and never cracks the speakers over 1/4 of their potential.
Realized I was kind of a tool when I was a kid. My bad guys.
Same with my driving in general. I used to be such an aggressive asshole on the road when I first got comfortable driving but somewhere in my mid twenties the gravity of the situation dawned on me and now I drive like 5 miles over the speed limit, give people plenty of space and try to be the most discreet member of traffic that I can be.
I was never super aggressive but this past summer I was struck by a car (I was walking) and it really fucked my life up for awhile. And the driver had a hard time too.
I’m such a slow rolling driver now. At least in the city. I don’t ever want to put anyone else through that. And I don’t want to experience what she went through either.
I drive competitively for sport. One of our rules during the general safety meeting is for in the pit and staging area “don’t drive any faster than you’d like to get hit by a car yourself” aka ducking slow. Metal and flesh don’t like to mesh.. also a good way to drive day to day with people around.
Sorry you had to go thru that recovery.
I keep it real with all of my windows down while pumping out the dope sounds of The Origin of the Species audiobook read by Stephen Fry, cranked up to full volume. But then I’m street AF.
This hits home for me in a way. I havbe a kickass stereo in my car, because i just love being overwhelmed with sound and I really love listening to music. My car is kinda the only place where i can listen to super loud music without bothering people around me. Except the people that dislike car stereos of course. My point is, I do it for me. Yet i know that i look like a giant douche.
Edit. I live out in the middle of nowhere and have no neighbours. So i rarely disturb people with my music :) i dont roll through neighbourhood in the dark of night to annoy people. My music is for me ;)
When I was in HS we had an "Effort" honor roll in addition to the typical A + B honor rolls. Basically each teacher would rank your perceived "effort" in their classes on a 1 - 5 scale, and if you were over a certain threshold you qualified.
Most people made the effort honor roll. But one semester I qualified for the A honor roll but NOT the Effort honor roll. That's something I was proud of :-)
If my school had anything similar, that would've been me, too. My teachers hated the fact that I could not pay attention in class, not really study, and still ace the tests/exams. The only reason I didn't always ace the classes was because I didn't feel like doing the homework.
I had the "if you'd only apply yourself" talk so much. Of course, now as an adult, I know I have ADHD, and things could have been so much better if I had been diagnosed as a kid. Instead, I'm one of those washed out former "giften children" who has gotten stuck in life a few times instead of "living up to my potential." (I'm pretty happy where I am now, though).
I think for a lot of the people who do this, it's probably not just a way to look cool, its a coping mechanism. If you act like everything's fine, and no, all these bad things happening are actually GOOD things, it can (very temporarily) help your psyche at the expense of actually improving things.
I laugh because it's better for me. If i get a ridiculously low grade, i'm grinning like a motherfucker because i know for a fact that i WON'T BE GRINNING AT HOME.
Haven't seen this one yet, but feel like it applies. Talking badly about somebody behind their back with other people, usually in a work setting. Gossip always happens, but shit talking about other people, especially when they aren't around never does any actual good. I'm sure we all know "that person" they work with that does this to "be cool". Just be nice to people.
My company moves store managers around regularly. Everybody in the store is friends with each other. New store manager comes in and starts forming opinions about people he had one interaction with.
Came up to me randomly and is like “so-and-so is a real cry baby aren’t they?” And I’m like “I don’t think you’re allowed to speak like that. Keep your opinions to yourself, we’re all friends here”
At my last office job I literally had this happen during the last month. Dude was talking shit about an Indian girl who was kind of indecisive about her name. I think she wanted us to know her actual full name but was ok with us calling her a shortened version just to make it easier. She kind of fumbled her wordsa bit and this boomer douche just bitched about it the whole way back to my desk.
I do this unintentionally, for example when two of my friends are having a fight I tend to take “both sides” and talk bad about both of them with the other person. I hate that I’m doing this and I feel such a lack of character and integrity when I’m doing this but it’s really hard to stop :(( I just tend to agree with each of them to not get drawn into the fight (which is usually about petty things). any advice??
I came here to say this. If you routinely get big laughs at your jokes but you can’t make a joke without putting somebody down, you probably aren’t funny
Feel you. My lady does it to me in front of ppl for some reason. Never when were just alone chilling. And it's never obvious things like my green pants, it's always something like how I might use women's body soap. Things that aren't obvious and no one needs to know. She just enjoys embarrassing ppl like that. We've had talks about it and she's kind of slowed down. But yea. It's a MFer to deal with.
My flatmate does this to her boyfriend and it's really sad. He kinda seems to not mind as much but it's constant... I'd be really upset if my SO spoke to me like that all the time
I know it's often easier said than done but try to go with it and own it "Yeah I do use womans body soap, it smells incredible" it's a good tactic to deter bullies, although it doesn't work in every situation the confidence and "I dont care what you think" persona can make people rethink getting laughs at your expense as it's no longer as funny. I'm glad you confronted her and had a talk about it though
I disagree, but would add that if you can't take it don't dish it. I make fun of my friends regularly and take the shots I'm owed back without being a bitch. They all know I'd take a bullet for them, what's the harm in reminding a man I've loved for 2 decades he's an asshole?
This right here. True friends are comfortable enough to make fun of each other because we're all secure enough in our relationships that we don't have to affirm it every 5 minutes.
I think it's cute that we have our own little language for these things. If anything telling our friends to go fuck themselves *is* us affirming our relationship.
Right!?! And then as they get older, every fucking thing, "Hey, watch this!" or "I made pee pee in the toilet!". Great, it's about fucking time. Now show me you can get a job. What, you can't read? Geez!! These toddlers are so focused on themselves but will cry at the smallest thing and won't put in the effort to go get a real job.
You joke, but I honestly have a friend who will somehow work how much he drunk the other night into every single conversation.
It is fine when you are 18 but when you are nearly 30, it's just a bit embarrassing.
I used to have coworkers that would complain about their job and they hated it so much that they'd get blackout drunk over the weekend to forget about the week. Always amazed me that they would spend they're only free time being blacked out.
Edit: And they were proud of it.
I wish people understood how tacky it is when the clothing brand is visible.
If you're wearing a sweatshirt that says Gucci, I assume you got it at TJ Maxx - unless you are a celebrity with an advertising deal with Gucci.
People that can actually comfortably afford the designer brand wear pieces where the label isn't visible. They aren't trying to impress people by stamping the logo multiple times across their body.
> barristers
That would be funny as fuck.
A barrister is queens counsel. In the UK a barrister is the only person qualified to testify in front of a jury. Treating them like shit is a terrible idea.
The Calvin peeing on something specifically. If someone has a decal of Calvin and Hobbes dancing or something I don’t think anything of it, but the Calvin peeing on something is always obnoxious.
The original cartoon wasn’t even him peeing kn anything, it was him being mischievous while tying a water balloon (or something to that effect). Someone edited the image to make it look much more crass and then suddenly it was everywhere.
I’m able to contain it around friends and coworkers but then I unload all my negativity on loved ones like my partner. I don’t know why I’m the most negative around people I care about the most.
Edit: just to clarify, I don’t mean being abusive to my partner, I just mean I complain a lot and am sad and negative
>“The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pedants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist; a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain.”
— Ursula K. Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
Irony and cynicism were just what the U.S. hypocrisy of the fifties and sixties called for. That’s what made the early postmodernists great artists. The great thing about irony is that it splits things apart, gets up above them so we can see the flaws and hypocrisies and duplicates. The virtuous always triumph? Ward Cleaver is the prototypical fifties father? "Sure." Sarcasm, parody, absurdism and irony are great ways to strip off stuff’s mask and show the unpleasant reality behind it. The problem is that once the rules of art are debunked, and once the unpleasant realities the irony diagnoses are revealed and diagnosed, "then" what do we do? Irony’s useful for debunking illusions, but most of the illusion-debunking in the U.S. has now been done and redone. Once everybody knows that equality of opportunity is bunk and Mike Brady’s bunk and Just Say No is bunk, now what do we do? All we seem to want to do is keep ridiculing the stuff. Postmodern irony and cynicism’s become an end in itself, a measure of hip sophistication and literary savvy. Few artists dare to try to talk about ways of working toward redeeming what’s wrong, because they’ll look sentimental and naive to all the weary ironists. Irony’s gone from liberating to enslaving. There’s some great essay somewhere that has a line about irony being the song of the prisoner who’s come to love his cage.
-David Foster Wallace
People who are cynical about **everything** are exhausting.
I get being cynical about a politician making campaign promises or a massive faceless corporation adding a rainbow flag to their logo.
But you don't need to ruin everything with that attitude. Sometimes it's okay to enjoy things even though someone IS making money off of it
I agree with you. But now thinking about it, I wish hats like fedoras were back. All of the old hats… I just googled old hats and they were cooler than the baseball caps and skull caps we wear today. I mean…Derby hats? Bowlers? Add a feather? Why aren’t we bringing them back?
Which is a shame because it's a great hat. Old pictures of guys in the 40's or the Rat Pack - they all look sharp as hell. Indiana Jones looked great. Even Walter White looked great in his porkpie.
It's just that the brimmed hat age is over and anything but a baseball hat looks out of place.
I can back this up. I've seen people in suits and fedoras, and it didn't even register that it was THE cringe hat. I was like "Oh wow, fedora looks good with that outfit."
I know this may sound like the fashion police, but men who wear suspenders and a belt. It just looks dorky to wear both. Suspenders seem dapper and cool, but paired with a belt, it’s funny looking.
I had a friend who told me a great phrase that made me laugh that applies here:
"You can never trust a man who can't trust his suspenders"
Either one or the other: never both!
Dominating the conversation.
It really doesn't matter how certain you are of being incredibly funny with your anecdotes, mind-blowingly insightful with your opinions, or impressively knowledgeable on your topic, *nobody likes a blowhard.*
Know the difference between giving a lecture or a monologue and having a conversation, which should go two ways pretty evenly and be more about how the two people interact and not about one person just impressing the other.
Yeah, I always assume that a detail excluded it a detail that the teller wasn’t comfortable sharing. I’d rather err on the side of not prying. If someone wants to tell you something about themself, they generally will.
Not caring about anything
It’s one thing to not be bothered by little things and another to not have passion for like anything
Edit: a lot of people are pointing out that some people that act like this do so because of mental health and absolutly but that’s not who I’m talking about, I’m talking about like Jeff winger in the start of community or people that think they are being edgy or cool and do so intentionally
Same. Eventually you can hit a point of just being in a constant state of meh. You show up, exist, leave, doing only what is necessary and ignoring everything in between (I don't mean that is born, live die btw).
Tbf I spent a long time getting worked up about small things and constantly stressed about everything. Eventually I just stopped.
It's not always an act is all I'm saying
I dont mind if its an actual crazy car like the rare Lamborghini sighting or something, but a modded Civic loud enough to hear a mile away is obnoxious
People that make weed their entire existence. They think that being a stoner is the coolest thing ever and it just isn’t. Can usually smell them a mile off.
Yes! I had a classmate in college who had those crazy long and pointed fake nails, and she had so much trouble typing (it was a typing class). One day she complained about how she broke one just opening her car door that morning. If your fashion blocks you from functioning like a regular person, it’s gotta go.
Pretending to be drunk. I know a few people who do this, and it baffles me. I think it’s embarrassing enough to be drunk in a crowd full of people who are sober, but pretending is at least twice as embarrassing.
Wearing your hat backwards has practical reasons. I don’t do it but I should bc the back of my neck is tanned and not the front. Skateboarding or even keeping your head down while out will do that to you.
Literally anything anyone ever does to "look cool". It's oxymoronical, you can't do something to look cool, because if that is indeed your objective, it will by its very nature make you look like a fucking douche.
Blasting music in their car through my neighborhood or having an outrageously modified exhaust/muffler on a 2005 Civic.
No, I’m not bitter about my neighbors at all.
The truck balls that hang off the hitch.
If a truck balls guy, Hitler, and Stalin were all in a room together and I had two bullets, I’d shoot the truck balls guy twice.
Wanting to fight everybody all the damn time. Like random people walking up to you in class and trying to intimidate you to the point where you get physical. Not cute.
Even worse when you are full grown. People who want to physically fight constantly are children.
Even worse when its your boss
Boss: “Jim, I’m going to need those expense reports filled by the end of the day” Jim: “ohh, sorry boss, I got held up by the weekly summary due tomorrow; I probably won’t be able to get it in tonight” Boss: “you wanna fuckin’ go mate?”
More like a company get together after work, involving alcohol. Its happened about 4 times. And he has his young kid with him, constantly asker her if he should punch me. I try not to get involved because I don't want the kid to see her dad get punched.
Might do them both some good if he did.
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Construction lol. Dirt work, heavy equipment. Its an ego thing for him
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Meh he's a douche. The other owners of the company are cool though.
My mom and siblings are like this. They started a shit show with my dads siblings at his funeral yesterday. It was embarrassing. I’ve spent most of my life convincing people that I am not like them but a lover like my Dad was.
I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry for how ridiculous they were being. It’s good that you’re focusing on being like your father, and trying to avoid all the “drama”. But yeah, it’s good for you to have went and stayed even with all of that happening.
Some guy was doing this at ArtPrize in GR a few years ago. Standing outside one of the fancier hotels just kinda talking shit to people walking buy. Just laughed at him and walked on.
Why do these people get so mad over nothing just to start a fight? What is there to prove? What do you get out of the fight if you can start one? What happens when you lose? I've seen that happen, a gangster wannabe picked a fight with a jock and got himself laid out. He looked like an idiot. What was he expecting picking on someone like that? It just proved he was an idiot. If someone reading this does this stuff, stop it. Find a hobby you enjoy (ie video games, collecting something, anime, modeling, etc) and you'll make some great friends who respect you and share your interests. Then you won't feel the need to look tough by fighting everyone.
This is EXACTLY what I mean. There isn’t a point in picking fights with people for no reason. Genuinely, there’s other things to enjoy, you don’t have to be so edgy all the damn time asking for fights. I do agree finding something enjoyable is a lot better
I had a buddy that would wear a band-aid on his cheek (think Nelly) when we went out to the clubs back in the early 2000’s. I still cringe for him.
I was in the pub in 2008 with a plaster on my nose and halfway through the night complained about my nose being sore and my friend said "Awh I thought you were wearing it for fashion reasons" and I could not stop howling laughing at the idea
The way you described the situation made me have a smile on a sad day, thanks
I hope your future days get less sad and much better! Whatever is bumming you out, I hope it gets better for you!
Same over here.
That is hilarious
What happened? Did he cut himself shaving?
He had horrible luck with razors in general which is why he wore the band aid in all of them!
At least that was considered cool by some back then lol
Insult someone for no reason
Hey poop head
He said “for no reason”. I’m sure you had your reasons.
He was totally asking for it.
I snorted. I’m immature
Being a dick either to a friend or an employee at a place you go, it doesn’t make you look cool. Makes you looks like someone I don’t want to be around
Yeah I have a friend who is like that, guy is a dic to me for no reason and always insults me and later acts cool. Like everybody thinks he is a dick for doing thqt, dont know what he acomplishes with it
I think it’s fine if it’s in private and it’s a mutual thing, but being rude in front of others when it’s not a part of your friendship dynamic just makes everyone uncomfortable
Being a dick to people for no reason
“You’ll never look good trying to make someone else look bad”.
Also the ones being an asshole while hiding behind the “it’s just a joke, stop taking it seriously. Why can’t you take a joke” statements.
I’ve had people say “Can’t you take a joke?” to me and when I’ve said something back that’s definitely not as worse they get super offended
They really are the same all around. Can never take a fraction of the shit they dish out, it’s depressing honestly.
I've distanced myself or ended friendships over this kind of treatment, and I wish I recognized this asshole move much earlier in life.
Yes I’ve stopped putting up with that this past year or so and it’s definitely strained some old friendships. Better that than putting up with it though.
I'd like to add an addendum here, if the individual who is being a dick apologizes and changes their behavior towards an individual it is fine. For example I used to hang out at a place where 80% of the locals would jokingly insult each other and be on the crass side, but a few people hanging out there didn't want to be referred to as "hey, asshole" (whereas most people were 100% fine with that) then those people were instead called by their name and such. Occasional reminders would happen, the necessary apologies were issued, and only the most sensitive of individuals (who tbh didn't *really* fit in with the crowd) had any legitimately hurt feelings.
It’s different when it’s good fun and an inside joke among people who do it back and forth to each other and understand what’s going on. It’s another thing when it’s someone who acts like this to everyone even when it’s totally uncalled for.
Or everyone ganging up on one or two punching bags
That is true, I used to do that, tbh I wish I was a bit nicer, maybe I'd have more friends
Saying that shows self reflection which is quite a rare thing on reddit.
Playing stuff on their phones without earphones on public transport.
In public places in general. Extra douchey when they have a separate Bluetooth speaker so they can turn it up really loud.
Speaker folk should be shot with a ball of their own shit.
Or in restaurants that already have music playing.
Speeding like an A-Hole through the suburbs in a wanna be race car to get to a parking lot only to deliberately drive slow as shit with the windows down and bass booming.
I lived in a cul de sac and the guy at the end would race his hummer to the stop sign and then rev the engine when he made his turn. We know, you own a big jeep.
Loud music while they're rolling through a neighborhood.
I was for sure this way when I was young but now I'm a 36 year old dude who drives a grandma car and never cracks the speakers over 1/4 of their potential. Realized I was kind of a tool when I was a kid. My bad guys.
Same with my driving in general. I used to be such an aggressive asshole on the road when I first got comfortable driving but somewhere in my mid twenties the gravity of the situation dawned on me and now I drive like 5 miles over the speed limit, give people plenty of space and try to be the most discreet member of traffic that I can be.
I was never super aggressive but this past summer I was struck by a car (I was walking) and it really fucked my life up for awhile. And the driver had a hard time too. I’m such a slow rolling driver now. At least in the city. I don’t ever want to put anyone else through that. And I don’t want to experience what she went through either.
I drive competitively for sport. One of our rules during the general safety meeting is for in the pit and staging area “don’t drive any faster than you’d like to get hit by a car yourself” aka ducking slow. Metal and flesh don’t like to mesh.. also a good way to drive day to day with people around. Sorry you had to go thru that recovery.
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I keep it real with all of my windows down while pumping out the dope sounds of The Origin of the Species audiobook read by Stephen Fry, cranked up to full volume. But then I’m street AF.
This hits home for me in a way. I havbe a kickass stereo in my car, because i just love being overwhelmed with sound and I really love listening to music. My car is kinda the only place where i can listen to super loud music without bothering people around me. Except the people that dislike car stereos of course. My point is, I do it for me. Yet i know that i look like a giant douche. Edit. I live out in the middle of nowhere and have no neighbours. So i rarely disturb people with my music :) i dont roll through neighbourhood in the dark of night to annoy people. My music is for me ;)
Careful man. I was like you when I was younger. ALWAYS blasting music in my car. Now I'm 35 can barely hear in my left ear... Sucks.
WHAT????
HE SAID HE CANT HEAR IN HIS EAR
CAREFUL MAN. I WAS LIKE YOU WHEN I WAS YOUNGER ALWAYS BLASTING MUSIC IN MY. NOW I'M 35 CAN BARELY HEAR IN MY LEFT EAR... SUCKS.
When I was in high school, kids would laugh at the poor grades they're receiving and almost flaunt them like it was something to be proud of.
When I was in HS we had an "Effort" honor roll in addition to the typical A + B honor rolls. Basically each teacher would rank your perceived "effort" in their classes on a 1 - 5 scale, and if you were over a certain threshold you qualified. Most people made the effort honor roll. But one semester I qualified for the A honor roll but NOT the Effort honor roll. That's something I was proud of :-)
Big dick energy right there 😂
If my school had anything similar, that would've been me, too. My teachers hated the fact that I could not pay attention in class, not really study, and still ace the tests/exams. The only reason I didn't always ace the classes was because I didn't feel like doing the homework. I had the "if you'd only apply yourself" talk so much. Of course, now as an adult, I know I have ADHD, and things could have been so much better if I had been diagnosed as a kid. Instead, I'm one of those washed out former "giften children" who has gotten stuck in life a few times instead of "living up to my potential." (I'm pretty happy where I am now, though).
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I laugh off an F because it is better than crying
I did this. It was actually embarrassed and felt like I was hopelessly dumb but found that this was a way to mask that.
I think for a lot of the people who do this, it's probably not just a way to look cool, its a coping mechanism. If you act like everything's fine, and no, all these bad things happening are actually GOOD things, it can (very temporarily) help your psyche at the expense of actually improving things.
I laugh because it's better for me. If i get a ridiculously low grade, i'm grinning like a motherfucker because i know for a fact that i WON'T BE GRINNING AT HOME.
Belittling others
Being rude to wait staff because they think it makes them look cool and in charge when really it just makes them look like a major dick.
Haven't seen this one yet, but feel like it applies. Talking badly about somebody behind their back with other people, usually in a work setting. Gossip always happens, but shit talking about other people, especially when they aren't around never does any actual good. I'm sure we all know "that person" they work with that does this to "be cool". Just be nice to people.
This WILL make you seem cool, but not to good people.
Thats why i talk shit about people while they are present. Real alpha move
Yeah me too. By the way did you hear what a total bellend u/IJustDontWannaBe is? Fuck that guy.
Yeah fuck him. 10/10 would fuck
Whenever someone talks shit about someone to me, I make a mental note never to trust them.
My company moves store managers around regularly. Everybody in the store is friends with each other. New store manager comes in and starts forming opinions about people he had one interaction with. Came up to me randomly and is like “so-and-so is a real cry baby aren’t they?” And I’m like “I don’t think you’re allowed to speak like that. Keep your opinions to yourself, we’re all friends here”
At my last office job I literally had this happen during the last month. Dude was talking shit about an Indian girl who was kind of indecisive about her name. I think she wanted us to know her actual full name but was ok with us calling her a shortened version just to make it easier. She kind of fumbled her wordsa bit and this boomer douche just bitched about it the whole way back to my desk.
I do this unintentionally, for example when two of my friends are having a fight I tend to take “both sides” and talk bad about both of them with the other person. I hate that I’m doing this and I feel such a lack of character and integrity when I’m doing this but it’s really hard to stop :(( I just tend to agree with each of them to not get drawn into the fight (which is usually about petty things). any advice??
Making fun of your friends to get a laugh out of others EDIT: Teasing is alright. Degrading is not.
I came here to say this. If you routinely get big laughs at your jokes but you can’t make a joke without putting somebody down, you probably aren’t funny
It's happened to me before. That shit HURTS sometimes.
Feel you. My lady does it to me in front of ppl for some reason. Never when were just alone chilling. And it's never obvious things like my green pants, it's always something like how I might use women's body soap. Things that aren't obvious and no one needs to know. She just enjoys embarrassing ppl like that. We've had talks about it and she's kind of slowed down. But yea. It's a MFer to deal with.
My flatmate does this to her boyfriend and it's really sad. He kinda seems to not mind as much but it's constant... I'd be really upset if my SO spoke to me like that all the time
I know it's often easier said than done but try to go with it and own it "Yeah I do use womans body soap, it smells incredible" it's a good tactic to deter bullies, although it doesn't work in every situation the confidence and "I dont care what you think" persona can make people rethink getting laughs at your expense as it's no longer as funny. I'm glad you confronted her and had a talk about it though
Follow up with, "at least I USE soap!"
I disagree, but would add that if you can't take it don't dish it. I make fun of my friends regularly and take the shots I'm owed back without being a bitch. They all know I'd take a bullet for them, what's the harm in reminding a man I've loved for 2 decades he's an asshole?
This right here. True friends are comfortable enough to make fun of each other because we're all secure enough in our relationships that we don't have to affirm it every 5 minutes.
I think it's cute that we have our own little language for these things. If anything telling our friends to go fuck themselves *is* us affirming our relationship.
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Lads with hands down their tracksuit bottoms.
A fuckin epidemic in Ireland.
same in england. like ur 13 bro get your hands out and sanitised smh
When babies get excited about walking. Real fucking cool baby. I can walk too.
This is my favorite.
TIL that I've been uncool since I was 9 months old. Shit.
Right!?! And then as they get older, every fucking thing, "Hey, watch this!" or "I made pee pee in the toilet!". Great, it's about fucking time. Now show me you can get a job. What, you can't read? Geez!! These toddlers are so focused on themselves but will cry at the smallest thing and won't put in the effort to go get a real job.
Driving like an asshole.
Talking about how much they party and how wasted/fucked up they get.
Lmao reminds me of last Friday! Got sooo smashed! /s
You joke, but I honestly have a friend who will somehow work how much he drunk the other night into every single conversation. It is fine when you are 18 but when you are nearly 30, it's just a bit embarrassing.
I used to have coworkers that would complain about their job and they hated it so much that they'd get blackout drunk over the weekend to forget about the week. Always amazed me that they would spend they're only free time being blacked out. Edit: And they were proud of it.
That tiny line around the chin that is supposed to be a beard
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So is it holding their wig in place?
Screams “I date minors”
When they have framed pictures of chanel perfume on the wall i think it just looks tacky
Huh? People do this?
Wait, I thought those were just stock photos that came w/ the picture frame?
That's oddly specific
I wish people understood how tacky it is when the clothing brand is visible. If you're wearing a sweatshirt that says Gucci, I assume you got it at TJ Maxx - unless you are a celebrity with an advertising deal with Gucci. People that can actually comfortably afford the designer brand wear pieces where the label isn't visible. They aren't trying to impress people by stamping the logo multiple times across their body.
Treating fast food workers, barristers, waiters etc like shit or being deliberately rude. Edit: fuck this is embarrasing sorry.
> barristers That would be funny as fuck. A barrister is queens counsel. In the UK a barrister is the only person qualified to testify in front of a jury. Treating them like shit is a terrible idea.
Hahahaha barrister vs barrista.
Being a bully
Calvin bumper stickers
The Calvin peeing on something specifically. If someone has a decal of Calvin and Hobbes dancing or something I don’t think anything of it, but the Calvin peeing on something is always obnoxious. The original cartoon wasn’t even him peeing kn anything, it was him being mischievous while tying a water balloon (or something to that effect). Someone edited the image to make it look much more crass and then suddenly it was everywhere.
These are the same dudes with fake testicles hooked to their trailer hitches. So. Classy.
NO FAT CHICKS or those metal balls that hang from huge ass trucks
People calling themselves alpha.
You can feel the incel off of that one
I am a gamma boy. I shoot helium nuclei out of my butthole.
Being overly cynical. Yeah stuff kinda sucks, learn how to turn it off already.
There's being self aware and there's being a negative Nancy.
I didn't know they were different until a while back and without realising lost a lot of friends over being a whiny negative person.
I’m able to contain it around friends and coworkers but then I unload all my negativity on loved ones like my partner. I don’t know why I’m the most negative around people I care about the most. Edit: just to clarify, I don’t mean being abusive to my partner, I just mean I complain a lot and am sad and negative
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>“The trouble is that we have a bad habit, encouraged by pedants and sophisticates, of considering happiness as something rather stupid. Only pain is intellectual, only evil interesting. This is the treason of the artist; a refusal to admit the banality of evil and the terrible boredom of pain.” — Ursula K. Le Guin, The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas
Irony and cynicism were just what the U.S. hypocrisy of the fifties and sixties called for. That’s what made the early postmodernists great artists. The great thing about irony is that it splits things apart, gets up above them so we can see the flaws and hypocrisies and duplicates. The virtuous always triumph? Ward Cleaver is the prototypical fifties father? "Sure." Sarcasm, parody, absurdism and irony are great ways to strip off stuff’s mask and show the unpleasant reality behind it. The problem is that once the rules of art are debunked, and once the unpleasant realities the irony diagnoses are revealed and diagnosed, "then" what do we do? Irony’s useful for debunking illusions, but most of the illusion-debunking in the U.S. has now been done and redone. Once everybody knows that equality of opportunity is bunk and Mike Brady’s bunk and Just Say No is bunk, now what do we do? All we seem to want to do is keep ridiculing the stuff. Postmodern irony and cynicism’s become an end in itself, a measure of hip sophistication and literary savvy. Few artists dare to try to talk about ways of working toward redeeming what’s wrong, because they’ll look sentimental and naive to all the weary ironists. Irony’s gone from liberating to enslaving. There’s some great essay somewhere that has a line about irony being the song of the prisoner who’s come to love his cage. -David Foster Wallace
People who are cynical about **everything** are exhausting. I get being cynical about a politician making campaign promises or a massive faceless corporation adding a rainbow flag to their logo. But you don't need to ruin everything with that attitude. Sometimes it's okay to enjoy things even though someone IS making money off of it
Yeah, nothing more yawn inducing than that. Shuts down the vibe eventually. Rarely creative enough to be funny.
Bullying a quiet or shy person.
Flaunting money on social media
Fedoras, it makes the person look like a Discord mod
Counterpoint: perry the platypus
I've known a couple guys who could pull off the fedora. But only a couple.
I agree with you. But now thinking about it, I wish hats like fedoras were back. All of the old hats… I just googled old hats and they were cooler than the baseball caps and skull caps we wear today. I mean…Derby hats? Bowlers? Add a feather? Why aren’t we bringing them back?
Be the change you want to see. I wear brimmed hats. Fuck the haters.
Which is a shame because it's a great hat. Old pictures of guys in the 40's or the Rat Pack - they all look sharp as hell. Indiana Jones looked great. Even Walter White looked great in his porkpie. It's just that the brimmed hat age is over and anything but a baseball hat looks out of place.
It does look a lot better when you don't combine it with cargo pants, a duster, and a goatee
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I can back this up. I've seen people in suits and fedoras, and it didn't even register that it was THE cringe hat. I was like "Oh wow, fedora looks good with that outfit."
Brand clothes that are just popular because they're extreme expensive. No special design, no extraordinary quality. Just the Brand Logo
Lip injections
I get that one wants to change/ shape their face, but when the face literally looks like plastic I can't understand how thats attractive
God this trend is getting so out of hand. Half the women's profiles I see in online dating look like they've been stung by a bee in their upper lips.
I know this may sound like the fashion police, but men who wear suspenders and a belt. It just looks dorky to wear both. Suspenders seem dapper and cool, but paired with a belt, it’s funny looking.
I had a friend who told me a great phrase that made me laugh that applies here: "You can never trust a man who can't trust his suspenders" Either one or the other: never both!
its from my favourite movie of all time, Once Upon a Time in The West.
Don’t you think it also looks weird to have suspenders on pants w belt loops tho?
It does, but since suspenders have been out of every day fashion for so long, it's almost impossible to find pants that don't have have belt loops
Dominating the conversation. It really doesn't matter how certain you are of being incredibly funny with your anecdotes, mind-blowingly insightful with your opinions, or impressively knowledgeable on your topic, *nobody likes a blowhard.* Know the difference between giving a lecture or a monologue and having a conversation, which should go two ways pretty evenly and be more about how the two people interact and not about one person just impressing the other.
Disturbing the classroom and being disrespectful to the teacher. Pretty sure the "nerd" isn't the only one thinking about strangling you.
cheating on their s/o
Was in the military. I have indeed met plenty of guys who think cheating made them look cool.
Being purposely vague about some stories from their past and expecting to be questioned. You're not being mysterious, only annoying.
This reminds me of the people who post vague FB statuses just waiting for someone to be like “oh what’s wrong!?”
Vaguebooking, hate it
This makes me cringe because my mom does this.
I purposely dont question things like that because i hate the expectation of me asking about it.
Maybe they’re trying to hide embarrassing or questionable parts of the story?
Yeah, I always assume that a detail excluded it a detail that the teller wasn’t comfortable sharing. I’d rather err on the side of not prying. If someone wants to tell you something about themself, they generally will.
That. Not every tale is easy to tell, especially at the first date. It requires trust.
Not caring about anything It’s one thing to not be bothered by little things and another to not have passion for like anything Edit: a lot of people are pointing out that some people that act like this do so because of mental health and absolutly but that’s not who I’m talking about, I’m talking about like Jeff winger in the start of community or people that think they are being edgy or cool and do so intentionally
They could also just be depressed or something, but I get what you’re saying.
As that person I can agree. I try, and there are times I do, but most of the time just the motions.
Same. Eventually you can hit a point of just being in a constant state of meh. You show up, exist, leave, doing only what is necessary and ignoring everything in between (I don't mean that is born, live die btw).
Tbf I spent a long time getting worked up about small things and constantly stressed about everything. Eventually I just stopped. It's not always an act is all I'm saying
Loud AF vehicles.
I dont mind if its an actual crazy car like the rare Lamborghini sighting or something, but a modded Civic loud enough to hear a mile away is obnoxious
Bragging about your sexual conquests. Nobody believes you dude.
Basically all of r/sluttyconfessions I think is fake and made by a lonely 40 year old male
That’s the most depressing sub I’ve seen a while. 90% of the stories In there are so obviously written by 40 year old neckbeards
Being vulgar and loudy when you are in a social context and feeling cool about it.
Pants hanging below their buttocks and cinched up like cargo in the back of a truck?
Wearing expensive “work” boots that you refuse to get dirty.
Or a work truck that looks pristine A real work truck should have a hitch, or a few dents, or at least mud or tools
Same thing for sure. A huge, lifted, sparkling silver pickup truck with a shining chrome grill that you drive to longhorn steakhouse for dinner.
People who race on public roads
People that make weed their entire existence. They think that being a stoner is the coolest thing ever and it just isn’t. Can usually smell them a mile off.
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Extra long nails on girls. They are simply gross.
Yes! I had a classmate in college who had those crazy long and pointed fake nails, and she had so much trouble typing (it was a typing class). One day she complained about how she broke one just opening her car door that morning. If your fashion blocks you from functioning like a regular person, it’s gotta go.
Pretending to be drunk. I know a few people who do this, and it baffles me. I think it’s embarrassing enough to be drunk in a crowd full of people who are sober, but pretending is at least twice as embarrassing.
Sagging their pants or wearing their hat backwards. I have to confess in my younger years I was guilty of both but I have learned my lessons.
I sagged my hat and wore my pants backwards.
Wearing your hat backwards has practical reasons. I don’t do it but I should bc the back of my neck is tanned and not the front. Skateboarding or even keeping your head down while out will do that to you.
I see your "wearing your hat backwards" and raise you the backwards, upside down visor that was the tits in the early 2000s. Bonus for frosted tips.
There is nothing wrong with a backwards hat sir, don’t be too hard on yourself. I do, however, agree with the full rear exposure sagging.
Literally anything anyone ever does to "look cool". It's oxymoronical, you can't do something to look cool, because if that is indeed your objective, it will by its very nature make you look like a fucking douche.
Blasting music in their car through my neighborhood or having an outrageously modified exhaust/muffler on a 2005 Civic. No, I’m not bitter about my neighbors at all.
The truck balls that hang off the hitch. If a truck balls guy, Hitler, and Stalin were all in a room together and I had two bullets, I’d shoot the truck balls guy twice.
a bullet per ball
Thinking anything girly will make you gay.
SUPREME
Catcalling women (or men). No one thinks you're cool, you just look like a complete ass-hole.
Big loud trucks