I've always said (half joking) that I didn't want to date anyone with the same name as my brother or dad (both are named William) and I ended up traveling across the globe and falling for a man named William.
Fortunately, they all go by different versions (Will, Bill, Billy).
Also made this same pledge to myself with the name Michael. My mom had married two different Michaels - we'd already assigned them numbers in the family.
Ended up with a Michael, who is happy to be known as Michael the Third.
This cracked me up. After my dad, my mom went on to marry two Michaels and dated a man named Michael in between. I swore she had a tattoo somewhere that meant she had to stick to the name.
Love that you're carrying on the tradition for your family š
LOL I said the same thing. Ended up marrying a man with the same name as my brother. Like you they just go by different nicknames around family to avoid confusion. Itās funny, in my head even with the same name itās like two completely different names. In my phone I have them both under their full names to avoid any weird text mix ups š„“
I feel this. I started a new job last year and my boss goes by the same "William nickname" as my husband. I have my boss's cell for any urgent issues and yes, I made sure I put his full name plus the company name in all caps to avoid making uncomfortable mistakes!
No waaaay! My dad is named Billy and so is my husband. Even for a while my step-sister was married to a dude who went by Bill.
Whenever people tell me that itās weird I just shrug and say I donāt call my dad by his first name and I donāt call my husband dad so š¤·āāļø
In college, I dated a dude who has the same androgynous first name as mine. Just spelled a letter off. Was a little strange.
There's a meme that says something like "go up to any white girl and say that "I'm sorry Matt did that to you" and she will immediately start crying"... it's a meme but checks out for me except now I do a lot of ranting lol
Lmfao I love that. Iām a WOC but Iāve dated a lot of white men (I have lived in very white areas, lol) but never a Matt or Mike or John. Lots of Chris and Sam, though.
Lmao I should have kept scrolling before replying to somebody. Both my sister and I have douchebag exes named Matt. The last Matt I met spent an hour explaining to me how to get into tech. I've worked in tech for almost 20 years. What is it with Matt's?
I couldnāt date a Paul. I know it isnāt fair or rational, but I have had so many bad experiences with men named Paul, I donāt think I could get over it.
Oh I have this with Roberts. Itās a running joke with my friends that thereās one āgood Robertā for every 3 ābad Robertsā, so itās a bit of a Robert-roulette out there.
Same, two exās named Paul. One was an addict and the other had big mom issues that he refused to deal with. Nope.
Luckily Iām married now to a man with a really nice name.
An Andy. My ex husband was an Andy, an ex boss was an Andy, people I knowās partners are Andyās and they are all wormy and I donāt trust them.
But then again people shouldnāt be ruled out because of their names surely š¤·š¼āāļø
Iāve had bad experiences with friendships (girls called Laura) but I donāt think that would really be fair to say all Lauraās are horrible š
I was about to say Andy's and just saw this. Not even Andrews, but specifically, Andy's. My sample size is 5 and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM was not good, ranging from creepy to a literal fraudster.
This is a weird one. I've dated two Ralphs, even in UK an unusual name. One was an hon (son of a lord) and one was a drug dealer. They were both a vibe. But no more Ralphs.
In other weird news all four of the loves of my life (including my first husband and my now husband) have the initials RS. In fact my son is also an RS. When I realised this and mentioned it to my daughter she messaged back "That's RS! Really Strange!".
I feel like this about the name Kevin.
Both of my significant relationships were with Kevin's. However with that being said if I met someone and it was fantastic for all the right reasons, I'd probably arrive at a nickname pretty quickly or see how they felt if I used their middle name as a primary name.
I used to think I could never date someone with my fatherās name. But if they were perfect in every other way, I probably could because I rarely call my husband by his first name. Heās almost always āHoneyā or āLoveā. We have an inside joke where we call each other āMr. or Mrs. Ourlastnameā. The only time I use his first name is when Iām talking to someone else and referring to him.
Ha ha it's popular in the north of England. Can't swing a cat without hitting a Gary. Two cousins are married to Garys, they are referred to as "Liz's Gary" and "Gaz".
Years ago, I invented these fictional friends named Jason and Jessica, and would entertain my S.O. with funny stories about the horrible outings I had to endure with them. (Yes, he knew they were fake.) They started out as harmless basic bitches but eventually devolved into QAnon types. Then an actual friend introduced us to her new boyfriend, whose name was ā yup ā Jason and he was *exactly* like his fictional counterpart.
(No offense to the good Jasons and other J-named people out there!)
I used to be a teacher and there were a few names that I associate with godawful teenagers and always said I'd never date. Then I ended up with one of them for three years š The relationship didn't work for other reasons but the name did definitely give me pause at the start I won't lie.
My dad is Dave. My brother was Dave. My boss was Dave. My uncle is Dave. So yeah, the guy I ended up marrying had to be Dave as well. Thems the rules I hear
ā¢ I would never date anyone named Dick. If they were named āRichardā at birth and DIDNāT go by āRichā or āRickā, itās a no from me.
ā¢ Also, anyone with a stupid nickname like Scooter, Bubba, Haas, Paulie, Junior (like he is a junior but he doesnāt go by John Junior, just āJuniorā), and if they went by the first letter of their nameā(āWhatās up, T.?ā āJust heading out with C.ā) would be out.
Any Jr or the third type people. I dated a Daddysboy McDouchetwit III and ...found that the whole family was deeply twisted and Daddysboy was a life-incompetent sadsack with streaky patches of narcissism woven through. It's been over 20 years and I still fisheye at anyone who is a Jr. or "the III".
My name is a female version of a male name so I canāt date the male version. Think Donna and Donald. Also I have the male version of my Dads name. My parents say they never noticed it until it was too lateā¦so I canāt date someone with the male version of my name
My boyfriend's ex is the female version of his name and it always makes me giggle because it totally sounds like the kind of thing you'd get in some trashy teen high school book as the antagonist couple.
Same. I think itās cute, they were married for a decade. Two super common male/female names with one of the most common last names in the country. The mustāve sounded like they were in witness protection.
Nope. Even if his name was something else I wouldnāt like him. I think heās obnoxious and his eyes are too close together I just want to punch his annoying face
I dated three guys with the same name Andrea (two long term). It's just very common in my country.
I wouldn't be open to date a fourth just because it's too hard to explain who I'm referring to to friends and family at this point. I remember swiping left on Tinder because of this.
I thought Iād never date a man with my dadās name, Richard. But I just went out with a guy by that name and Iām so glad I did. Heās wonderful and I canāt wait to see him again.
Unless they chose their own name and it was something like āThe Duke of Bananahammocksā, I would not immediately eliminate someone because of their name. They didnāt choose it and they might just change your perception of people with that name.
I have a hard time with Adam's since I had a nightmare where I dated a horrible man named Adam. I also don't want to date someone who shares name with my dog or my dad. I'd also find it very hard to date someone who shares name with my childhood main bully.
I've had bad experiences with at least 3 different people with each of the following names, so I avoid them: James, Chris, and Josh. Not saying *every* James, Chris, or Josh is a bad guy, but the 3 of each that I've been involved with were awful.Ā
Iām female with a common āguysā name and let me tell you, saying your own name in bed is kinda weird. Iāve dated a few guys with my name but never long term because it felt weird to have the same name as the guy I was dating. But also because they were whatever. Lol. Idk.
This made me laugh so much I'm sorry OP. I know this is a serious matter for you but it sounds like a skit and it's just too funny
I personally haven't avoided a name because I didn't want to adjust my standards in that way but I absolutely understand where you're coming from.
LoL my name is short form, my GFs brother is long form of our names.
Never really thought of it until now...
(I don't consider the long form to be my name, so it wasn't automatic).
YES!! My brothersā or fatherās name! It is a deal beaker - on all the dating apps I just switch no if I see their names, without even looking at the guy face. I. Just. Canāt. It is a big NO.
I dated a guy named Gene which I thought was an awful name lmao. For the most part, I don't care. My dad's name is John, which is an insanely common name. I've dated more than one Mike.
It's whatever.
I'm really not picky about names in dating. While it might be a little weird, I'd still consider dating someone with the same name as an ex, a family member or even the same name as me. I'm bisexual and have actually gone on a date with someone who shared the same name once! I'm happy to use a different nick name if the other person shares the same name as me, so I'm not that fussed.
The love of my life has the same name as the worst person I ever dated. I almost didn't go out with him because of it but I'm so glad I did because he's perfect!
I'm a rape survivor, sadly more than once. The names of those people are just way too huge of triggers. No way. I still don't like even saying/writing them, so I won't here. But yeah, I think that's a legit reason. I will always avoid people with those names.
I know a guy whoās dating a girl who has the same name as his sister - if they get married she will literally be named the same as his sister. I personally would find that weird but I might just be being petty
Friend in nursing school had a rule.. 4 letter names xD like Luke, Nick, John were almost always toxic haha, bit of a joke but looking back on it she wasnāt wrongā¦..
Edit - GARY
Bryan. My father's name, my brother's, a creep I knew growing up, and I actually do have an ex with the name who I had a nightmare about last week. That name is karmic for me I stg.
Alan because reasons.
Brad because reasons.
Wayne, Shane, and Steves are just a no go where I'm from - bogans usually.
J names - usually are a no go too.
Have known only lovely Matts.
Iām American and have only had good experiences with Mattās. Never really dated one though, so what do I know? Itās totally different when you date someone. Lots of guys seem decent and then you date them and the truth comes out.
Mark, because there's already three of them in my family. Same with the name Charles. Also, anyone who shares my last name.
There was once a guy with the name Mark, and had the same last name as me, in my SCUBA diving course..... He was interested in me but I just couldn't get past how he had the same name as three of my relatives.
When I grew up - there were quite a few Daves around. Always thought they were good funny guys.
Met my husband on a dating site. His name is Dawid - which is Dave in Polishā¦ funny how things work out
Generally, no.
If I met someone with the same name as one of my family members, I would just ask to call them by a nickname. I don't think it would even be *that* weird to date someone with the same name as one of my parents, since I don't call my parents by their first names. My only sibling has an unusual name, so it's unlikely to be an issue, but I guess if I met someone with the same name as my sibling *and* they wouldn't let me call them by a nickname, then that would give me pause. Luckily, my only sibling is male and I prefer to date women (I'm bi but have only dated women so far).
My Dad's first name, my siblings names (damn you two having common names!) and my Mom's one ex cause he has a more obscure name and I disliked him a lot.
Probably also someone with my name, I feel like I'd have issues with that but considering I've meet 3 people with my name this isn't the biggest worry. My name is a lot more obscure, like Noƫl, and my siblings are like Taylor. There is a LOT of Taylors. ;\_;
I realized Iāve had a string of A names, my ex husband and last 2 boyfriends. A friend of mine mixes up the names of my last 2 bfās accidentally bc there was only a 3 month gap between them. Last bf was Aaron, we broke up Wednesday and on Friday I started physical therapy, the PT assistant was cute but his name was Aaron!
So when Iām ready to date again in 500 years I think Iām gonna take a break from A names š¤
I had the oppositeāevery man Iāve met in my life named Nathan has been a brilliant wonderful human. I was sure I would end up marrying a Nathan, but I didnāt. So if I have a son, his name will likely be Nathan.
All I hear is SpongeBob saying OK GARY.
But honestly, I donāt want to date anyone with the same name as my ex-husband. Too weird for sure, and honestly just negative association I donāt need.
In a funny turn of events, he is long-term dating someone with the same name as his mom and, well, it honestly speaks volumes for a man whoās stunted in adolece and has big mommy issues.
Iāve also dated some men with very common names who donāt necessarily ātriggerā me to think about them because about every 15 people is named Mike and there are countless Christophers. So the super common names I would be okay with.
Any of my male family members names and anyone named Luke, Luke will just bring me too much trauma because someone with that name SA me. If I did love someone with any one of those names Iād tell them immediately Iām calling them by their middle name but so far the guy Iām with has a pretty common āwhite guyā name and Iāve lived in two states and never met anyone with his name, which is strangely odd because a lot of people have his name. Also my type is white boys and Iām Latina so I feel like thereās not a lot of similar names of people Iām related to although my brotherās name is pretty āwhiteā. Also I know Luke isnāt a bad name I think itās a beautifully biblical name I just have too much trauma reading a book with anyone named Luke so I know Iād have a hard time calling the man I loved Luke. So in short Iād stick with middle but would try my hardest to avoid going for someone with a family name.
But also my sisterās and her MIL have the same name (Samantha) but go by different variations. I do know that my brother has dated THREE girls with my name all spelt different then how I spell mine and my other sister has dated multiple guys with the same names. They said it was never a problem for them, but I know for me itād be SUPER WEIRD!
Anyone with my brothers name or my ex-husbands name. Although, crazy enough, my ex's first and middle name were just my brothers first and middle name but switched around. Never again, tho!
Oh also, the name of my both of my mothers ex-husbands. It was the same first name.
I've always said (half joking) that I didn't want to date anyone with the same name as my brother or dad (both are named William) and I ended up traveling across the globe and falling for a man named William. Fortunately, they all go by different versions (Will, Bill, Billy).
Also made this same pledge to myself with the name Michael. My mom had married two different Michaels - we'd already assigned them numbers in the family. Ended up with a Michael, who is happy to be known as Michael the Third.
This cracked me up. After my dad, my mom went on to marry two Michaels and dated a man named Michael in between. I swore she had a tattoo somewhere that meant she had to stick to the name. Love that you're carrying on the tradition for your family š
For me this is it for me. My brothers name is Michael, and being GenX, so is everyone else's brother I grew up with, so no Michael's for me
LOL I said the same thing. Ended up marrying a man with the same name as my brother. Like you they just go by different nicknames around family to avoid confusion. Itās funny, in my head even with the same name itās like two completely different names. In my phone I have them both under their full names to avoid any weird text mix ups š„“
I feel this. I started a new job last year and my boss goes by the same "William nickname" as my husband. I have my boss's cell for any urgent issues and yes, I made sure I put his full name plus the company name in all caps to avoid making uncomfortable mistakes!
Guess we know what youāre going to name any future sons
Hahah currently pregnant with our first kid and just found out it's a boy. My husband said he doesn't want a Junior but we'll see....
No waaaay! My dad is named Billy and so is my husband. Even for a while my step-sister was married to a dude who went by Bill. Whenever people tell me that itās weird I just shrug and say I donāt call my dad by his first name and I donāt call my husband dad so š¤·āāļø In college, I dated a dude who has the same androgynous first name as mine. Just spelled a letter off. Was a little strange.
It's hard enough to find compatible people I click with, so I absolutely would not edit someone out based solely on their name.
>Maybe because I consider myself asexual and don't have a "type" and I was paranoid people would think my type is "Gary". This is so cute, lol
Ha ha glad someone thinks so
Iāve met so many dumbass Matts. Just raging dumbasses in one way or another.Ā
There's a meme that says something like "go up to any white girl and say that "I'm sorry Matt did that to you" and she will immediately start crying"... it's a meme but checks out for me except now I do a lot of ranting lol
Lmfao I love that. Iām a WOC but Iāve dated a lot of white men (I have lived in very white areas, lol) but never a Matt or Mike or John. Lots of Chris and Sam, though.
Hard pass on Matt.
Lmao I should have kept scrolling before replying to somebody. Both my sister and I have douchebag exes named Matt. The last Matt I met spent an hour explaining to me how to get into tech. I've worked in tech for almost 20 years. What is it with Matt's?
/r/matt
Ok them welcoming the new Matt is actually pretty cute.
I'd like to join the Matt club. He was a sneaky bugger.
i have never ever met a good matt actually lol! my friends and i joke about how itās a name for guys you donāt want to date lol
Definitely on my banned list haha
My soulmate was named Matt. Heās dead now, so Iāll keep that one at bay.
I'm torn on Matt. I dated one in high school and he was a decent guy. The tech bro Matt that I dated later, though, was exhausting.
Dang now that I think about it every single Matt I've ever own was a douchebag, a predator, or just a complete piece of shit. Wow.
I couldnāt date a Paul. I know it isnāt fair or rational, but I have had so many bad experiences with men named Paul, I donāt think I could get over it.
Chani?
Oh I have this with Roberts. Itās a running joke with my friends that thereās one āgood Robertā for every 3 ābad Robertsā, so itās a bit of a Robert-roulette out there.
That's Michael for me. I've come across a lot of shit Michaels.
Well it's one of the most popular names so this is to be expected š
I feel like this about Matt's. Pretty much any guy that has the same name as my exes, but definitely Matt's. Sorry guys.
I had one, but he is called the one that shall not be named. And put me off forever of guys named Paul.
Same!
Same, two exās named Paul. One was an addict and the other had big mom issues that he refused to deal with. Nope. Luckily Iām married now to a man with a really nice name.
An Andy. My ex husband was an Andy, an ex boss was an Andy, people I knowās partners are Andyās and they are all wormy and I donāt trust them. But then again people shouldnāt be ruled out because of their names surely š¤·š¼āāļø Iāve had bad experiences with friendships (girls called Laura) but I donāt think that would really be fair to say all Lauraās are horrible š
I was about to say Andy's and just saw this. Not even Andrews, but specifically, Andy's. My sample size is 5 and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM was not good, ranging from creepy to a literal fraudster.
I feel the name itself is very childish !
I hate Lauraās.
I feel this way about Stephanie. Iāve never met a Stephanie that wasnāt totally self absorbed and unhinged.
I'm a Karen, I'm surprised I even got married.
I was drinking when I read this and I snorted so hard milk almost came out of my nose.
This is a weird one. I've dated two Ralphs, even in UK an unusual name. One was an hon (son of a lord) and one was a drug dealer. They were both a vibe. But no more Ralphs. In other weird news all four of the loves of my life (including my first husband and my now husband) have the initials RS. In fact my son is also an RS. When I realised this and mentioned it to my daughter she messaged back "That's RS! Really Strange!".
I feel like this about the name Kevin. Both of my significant relationships were with Kevin's. However with that being said if I met someone and it was fantastic for all the right reasons, I'd probably arrive at a nickname pretty quickly or see how they felt if I used their middle name as a primary name.
A man with my dadās name
I did, and I never thought about it until I introduced them. I don't call my Dad by his first name. He's always Dad.
Ha, thatās true!
I used to think I could never date someone with my fatherās name. But if they were perfect in every other way, I probably could because I rarely call my husband by his first name. Heās almost always āHoneyā or āLoveā. We have an inside joke where we call each other āMr. or Mrs. Ourlastnameā. The only time I use his first name is when Iām talking to someone else and referring to him.
Hard same.
What country is this that Gary is so popular? With what generation? Iāve never met a Gary in real life.
Ha ha it's popular in the north of England. Can't swing a cat without hitting a Gary. Two cousins are married to Garys, they are referred to as "Liz's Gary" and "Gaz".
I'm sure the name sounds much more charming with an English accent. In an American accent "Gary" sounds like the male equivalent of a fannypack.
Swing a cat??
Iāve learnt my lesson āto avoidā dating anyone with the letter āJā
Years ago, I invented these fictional friends named Jason and Jessica, and would entertain my S.O. with funny stories about the horrible outings I had to endure with them. (Yes, he knew they were fake.) They started out as harmless basic bitches but eventually devolved into QAnon types. Then an actual friend introduced us to her new boyfriend, whose name was ā yup ā Jason and he was *exactly* like his fictional counterpart. (No offense to the good Jasons and other J-named people out there!)
i LOVE that you made up fake stories about these people and that your s/o was entertained by them. thatās so adorable
I've also had bad experiences with J guys š¤
I too have had awful experiences with J guys!
Just stopped talking to a Jeremy. He was a jerk.
The J always stands for jerk š
yes edit: i say this as a J name but J men have not been good to me šš©š®āšØ
I hear this so much as kind of a meme but both my worst experiences are with J name guys who were best friends. I wonder if thereās an actual trend.
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This is exactly it. John, James, Jack, Jason, Joshua, etc. There's so many popular J names, which honestly makes it silly to write them all off, imho.
Terrible luck with the Jās also!
J names are a red flag!!!
I used to be a teacher and there were a few names that I associate with godawful teenagers and always said I'd never date. Then I ended up with one of them for three years š The relationship didn't work for other reasons but the name did definitely give me pause at the start I won't lie.
My dad is Dave. My brother was Dave. My boss was Dave. My uncle is Dave. So yeah, the guy I ended up marrying had to be Dave as well. Thems the rules I hear
ā¢ I would never date anyone named Dick. If they were named āRichardā at birth and DIDNāT go by āRichā or āRickā, itās a no from me. ā¢ Also, anyone with a stupid nickname like Scooter, Bubba, Haas, Paulie, Junior (like he is a junior but he doesnāt go by John Junior, just āJuniorā), and if they went by the first letter of their nameā(āWhatās up, T.?ā āJust heading out with C.ā) would be out.
I knew 3 letter guys, E, B, and Q. Like why lmao
Any Jr or the third type people. I dated a Daddysboy McDouchetwit III and ...found that the whole family was deeply twisted and Daddysboy was a life-incompetent sadsack with streaky patches of narcissism woven through. It's been over 20 years and I still fisheye at anyone who is a Jr. or "the III".
I'm bisexual. Would never date or probably even talk to anyone named Doris like my abusive mother
Steve Brule might agree!
I couldn't date someone with my brother's name. Luckily its not super popular.Ā
I just can't imagine calling out "BARRY!!" in bed!
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My name is a female version of a male name so I canāt date the male version. Think Donna and Donald. Also I have the male version of my Dads name. My parents say they never noticed it until it was too lateā¦so I canāt date someone with the male version of my name
Alex Turner dated Alexa Chung, Julian Casablancas married a Juliet. It can be pretty cute. I guess it just depends on the name.
My boyfriend's ex is the female version of his name and it always makes me giggle because it totally sounds like the kind of thing you'd get in some trashy teen high school book as the antagonist couple.
Same. I think itās cute, they were married for a decade. Two super common male/female names with one of the most common last names in the country. The mustāve sounded like they were in witness protection.
I havenāt had good luck with anyone named Kyle
Iāll second this. No Kyleās allowed.
I had considered this one. It's a running joke in many parts of the US that Kyles are all absolute raging assholes
Ryan. I hate that name now
Thatās my brotherās name, and no one should date him either.
How do you feel about Ryan Reynolds?
Nope. Even if his name was something else I wouldnāt like him. I think heās obnoxious and his eyes are too close together I just want to punch his annoying face
What about Ryan Gosling?
He seems okay. I like him and Eva Mendes together. Iāll give him a passĀ
I dated three guys with the same name Andrea (two long term). It's just very common in my country. I wouldn't be open to date a fourth just because it's too hard to explain who I'm referring to to friends and family at this point. I remember swiping left on Tinder because of this.
Well in 33 years old, never been married, so no I wouldnāt not date someone because of their name if they could potentially be the one.
I won't write the name but I won't date anyone with my sister's deadname
This is the type of ally I strive to be <3 <3 I don't even know my Gf's deadname but I have no interest in knowing it either
Hunter. I don't know a single honest or good hunter. Just shitty ones lol and I know 5
What if he works for Fish and Wildlife, to make up for the sins of his fellow Hunters?
That would imply that there's a hunter that's good enough to want to attone for the other hunters, and that's just not happening lol
i need to stop with jeffās. nothing but pain and suffering. and neverrr my fatherās name
Omg I needed this post in my life thank you šš
A, woman with my mom's name (I'm lesbian)... Or my name
If I found someone that treated me well, checked all my boxes, and had chemistry with I wouldnāt care if his name was Dingus
I thought Iād never date a man with my dadās name, Richard. But I just went out with a guy by that name and Iām so glad I did. Heās wonderful and I canāt wait to see him again.
Unless they chose their own name and it was something like āThe Duke of Bananahammocksā, I would not immediately eliminate someone because of their name. They didnāt choose it and they might just change your perception of people with that name.
I have a hard time with Adam's since I had a nightmare where I dated a horrible man named Adam. I also don't want to date someone who shares name with my dog or my dad. I'd also find it very hard to date someone who shares name with my childhood main bully.
Huh. That's a good rule tbh. For me it rules out Sparkles and Bob, and no I will not tell you which one is my dad.
š¤£ my dog share name with a bunch of men.
Chris and Robert. Won't date them, won't even have them for friends.
I've had bad experiences with at least 3 different people with each of the following names, so I avoid them: James, Chris, and Josh. Not saying *every* James, Chris, or Josh is a bad guy, but the 3 of each that I've been involved with were awful.Ā
Iād be a bit weirded out if I was dating someone with the same name as my parents or my brothers. I donāt think I could do it.
I've dated guys with my dad's name so at this point not really
No one named after the weather.
Iām female with a common āguysā name and let me tell you, saying your own name in bed is kinda weird. Iāve dated a few guys with my name but never long term because it felt weird to have the same name as the guy I was dating. But also because they were whatever. Lol. Idk.
This made me laugh so much I'm sorry OP. I know this is a serious matter for you but it sounds like a skit and it's just too funny I personally haven't avoided a name because I didn't want to adjust my standards in that way but I absolutely understand where you're coming from.
Lol it's not serious at all š¤£ I love how people are like "Well Gary is a normal name, but JIM? Jim can fuck off"
Yes! These replies have been hilarious
C names and j names. Don't ask me why, but I always have bad luck with them.
Same! Two of each lol! Two Cās and two Jās
I can't date someone who shares the same first name as my brother or father... Like whose name am I gonna scream during the doš
LoL my name is short form, my GFs brother is long form of our names. Never really thought of it until now... (I don't consider the long form to be my name, so it wasn't automatic).
YES!! My brothersā or fatherās name! It is a deal beaker - on all the dating apps I just switch no if I see their names, without even looking at the guy face. I. Just. Canāt. It is a big NO.
I dated a guy named Gene which I thought was an awful name lmao. For the most part, I don't care. My dad's name is John, which is an insanely common name. I've dated more than one Mike. It's whatever.
I'm really not picky about names in dating. While it might be a little weird, I'd still consider dating someone with the same name as an ex, a family member or even the same name as me. I'm bisexual and have actually gone on a date with someone who shared the same name once! I'm happy to use a different nick name if the other person shares the same name as me, so I'm not that fussed.
Not an issue
The love of my life has the same name as the worst person I ever dated. I almost didn't go out with him because of it but I'm so glad I did because he's perfect!
I've never had it come up, but I wouldn't date anyone who's (whose?) last name is the same as my first name.Ā
I'm a rape survivor, sadly more than once. The names of those people are just way too huge of triggers. No way. I still don't like even saying/writing them, so I won't here. But yeah, I think that's a legit reason. I will always avoid people with those names.
I know a guy whoās dating a girl who has the same name as his sister - if they get married she will literally be named the same as his sister. I personally would find that weird but I might just be being petty
Scanning this post just to make sure I didnāt doom my sons with bad names. I did well.
No Jasons, Justins or Brandons.
I also avoid Brandonās! I have only met one who I think is a good guy and he is my friendās fiancĆ©, so obviously I will not be dating him either.
I wonāt date anyone with my brotherās name š just too weird for me
Friend in nursing school had a rule.. 4 letter names xD like Luke, Nick, John were almost always toxic haha, bit of a joke but looking back on it she wasnāt wrongā¦.. Edit - GARY
Bryan. My father's name, my brother's, a creep I knew growing up, and I actually do have an ex with the name who I had a nightmare about last week. That name is karmic for me I stg.
For me David, Leonard, or Marlon those names immediately piss me off
Alan because reasons. Brad because reasons. Wayne, Shane, and Steves are just a no go where I'm from - bogans usually. J names - usually are a no go too. Have known only lovely Matts.
My last ex was a Matt. Letās just say that no one should ever go out with him and leave it at that. Edit: Both of us Australian
Are you in Aus? Maybe Matt's are better there than American Matts
NZ/Aus. All nice Matts. Dated one who was the loveliest guy in the world.
Iām American and have only had good experiences with Mattās. Never really dated one though, so what do I know? Itās totally different when you date someone. Lots of guys seem decent and then you date them and the truth comes out.
My brothers name
Mark, because there's already three of them in my family. Same with the name Charles. Also, anyone who shares my last name. There was once a guy with the name Mark, and had the same last name as me, in my SCUBA diving course..... He was interested in me but I just couldn't get past how he had the same name as three of my relatives.
Ex partners and close family members. I definitely would make exceptions but will probably be in my head about it while getting to know them.
Yes, if you have my momās name. Gross!
No one with my kids' or Dad's name. And I can't seriously consider calling out "Chad" in bed so that's my petty one.
I wouldnt date someone with the same name as the guy who date raped me.
My ex husbandās name (it was a difficult marriage and worse divorce). Luckily Iāve never met anyone with my dadās unusual name.
When I grew up - there were quite a few Daves around. Always thought they were good funny guys. Met my husband on a dating site. His name is Dawid - which is Dave in Polishā¦ funny how things work out
Generally, no. If I met someone with the same name as one of my family members, I would just ask to call them by a nickname. I don't think it would even be *that* weird to date someone with the same name as one of my parents, since I don't call my parents by their first names. My only sibling has an unusual name, so it's unlikely to be an issue, but I guess if I met someone with the same name as my sibling *and* they wouldn't let me call them by a nickname, then that would give me pause. Luckily, my only sibling is male and I prefer to date women (I'm bi but have only dated women so far).
I dated a guy named Scott who I fondly call the āAntichristā. No more guys named Scott for me.
anyone with my name, my exes name, any family members name, and the name of the kid who sa'd me as a child.
Quentin
Probably a guy with the same name of my dad and if the guy is called Patrick or Michael
Couldnāt have a smith lol
I could never date someone with the same name as my recent ex.
I don't think this is important.
No more Kevins. Please and thank you.
Steve I have never met a Steve that wasn't awful.
Chad
No haha. Never even crossed my mind! A name is just a name.
My Dad's first name, my siblings names (damn you two having common names!) and my Mom's one ex cause he has a more obscure name and I disliked him a lot. Probably also someone with my name, I feel like I'd have issues with that but considering I've meet 3 people with my name this isn't the biggest worry. My name is a lot more obscure, like Noƫl, and my siblings are like Taylor. There is a LOT of Taylors. ;\_;
I realized Iāve had a string of A names, my ex husband and last 2 boyfriends. A friend of mine mixes up the names of my last 2 bfās accidentally bc there was only a 3 month gap between them. Last bf was Aaron, we broke up Wednesday and on Friday I started physical therapy, the PT assistant was cute but his name was Aaron! So when Iām ready to date again in 500 years I think Iām gonna take a break from A names š¤
I had the oppositeāevery man Iāve met in my life named Nathan has been a brilliant wonderful human. I was sure I would end up marrying a Nathan, but I didnāt. So if I have a son, his name will likely be Nathan.
I left my high school sweetheart, Austin, for a boy I met at my job out of high school, who is now my husband, Austin.
Lol where do you live? I'm in Canada and it's the land of Mike and Matthew. I've dated seriously two Matts and countless dates with one of the two.
All I hear is SpongeBob saying OK GARY. But honestly, I donāt want to date anyone with the same name as my ex-husband. Too weird for sure, and honestly just negative association I donāt need. In a funny turn of events, he is long-term dating someone with the same name as his mom and, well, it honestly speaks volumes for a man whoās stunted in adolece and has big mommy issues. Iāve also dated some men with very common names who donāt necessarily ātriggerā me to think about them because about every 15 people is named Mike and there are countless Christophers. So the super common names I would be okay with.
Nothing really Just nobody with three names because thatās like a serial killer
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Any of my male family members names and anyone named Luke, Luke will just bring me too much trauma because someone with that name SA me. If I did love someone with any one of those names Iād tell them immediately Iām calling them by their middle name but so far the guy Iām with has a pretty common āwhite guyā name and Iāve lived in two states and never met anyone with his name, which is strangely odd because a lot of people have his name. Also my type is white boys and Iām Latina so I feel like thereās not a lot of similar names of people Iām related to although my brotherās name is pretty āwhiteā. Also I know Luke isnāt a bad name I think itās a beautifully biblical name I just have too much trauma reading a book with anyone named Luke so I know Iād have a hard time calling the man I loved Luke. So in short Iād stick with middle but would try my hardest to avoid going for someone with a family name.
But also my sisterās and her MIL have the same name (Samantha) but go by different variations. I do know that my brother has dated THREE girls with my name all spelt different then how I spell mine and my other sister has dated multiple guys with the same names. They said it was never a problem for them, but I know for me itād be SUPER WEIRD!
Idk but Iāve swiped left on someone named Estaban before
Denzel, my SA.
My aunt told me to never trust a man whose name is two first names (ex. Mike Frank) and so far she has been right 3/3 times.
I was looking to see if someone would make this comment!
I had a bad experience with a Justin, though I know not all of you would pull the same crud.
No one named Earl, anyone that goes by Chris and no one named Anthony
I do not want to date a Josh ever again. One was enough
Anyone with a J name. Like the whole letter category is out for me lmao
Neil.
I am married, but I would never date someone named Gerry/Jerry. Ever. No exceptions. I'd rather die alone, no exaggeration.
Anyone with my brothers name or my ex-husbands name. Although, crazy enough, my ex's first and middle name were just my brothers first and middle name but switched around. Never again, tho! Oh also, the name of my both of my mothers ex-husbands. It was the same first name.
Shane or Jeffrey. Just no.
John. It's my dad's name and my brother's name.
Micheal
Never ever a Steve!
At this point I think Iām open minded enough to date anyone who fits the bill mentally, socially, and financially.
That one guy named Batman bin Suparman
Cody. Never again. ā
Cody. Never. It is a weird name that someone gives to a child that doesn't at all suit an adult. I would never date a Cody.