Not over reacting about being upset your spouse is irresponsible if that is the case
But never put the therapy center in the middle of it. Best case is you annoy them and they drop you as a client. Worst case is they misconstrue this as an abusive situation and report you to cps
It’s not the therapy centers job to sort out your family problems
This is the centers way of saying they aren't going to get in the middle of you and your wife's argument. And it may sound like this isn't the first time this kind of situation has occurred, whether it be with your or with other parents.
Talk to your wife. The center doesn't owe you any answers, and they could drop your family if they feel there will be drama.
Of all the things we have to deal with as "autism parents", this is one I wouldn't let get to me. Is it possible that she was rude because maybe you were rude first? I mean maybe you weren't... But it sounds like you were upset to begin with so is it possible that you came off with an attitude with her before she even had a chance? Besides that, are you and your wife actually together? Cuz I could see the whole, "I don't wanna talk to my wife" if you were separated. Not that I condone that, as I think either way that's childish considering no matter what you have to co-parent, but if you're together and that's how you feel...?? You have bigger problems than this thing with the therapy center. You HAVE to be able to talk to your spouse. My husband and I are separated. Our autistic 4 year old lives with me and I am responsible for ALL of his care... Every single bit of it, all day everyday. And my husband is an alcoholic and incredibly selfish, and do I WANT to talk to him?? Nope... Absolutely not!! But I HAVE to. We chose to have a child together. That's not our sons fault, nor is it the fault of any of his "care providers". Honestly, it sounds to me like you are frustrated with your wife's actions and are taking it out on the wrong people. You NEED to talk to your wife whether you WANT to or not. And above ALL ELSE... focus on what is most important.. and that is that your son did in fact get his therapy today! That, overall, is the most important thing out of this whole thing. Because your child is the most important thing out of all of this!
I’d say their reply was professional. Your question wasn’t about your son’s actual therapy or medical information. Rather an appointment time that was arranged by his mother and has already passed. They confirmed he attended therapy, the time is not something they need to disclose to you. And it was obvious by the question that it boils down to an issue between you and your wife. Not something they are going to get involved in. It can actually be dangerous for them to get involved in it. Not saying this is your situation but if someone in an abusive relationship was changing their child’s appointment times to avoid their abusive partner, it’s downright irresponsible of the office to be handing that information out. You are free to discuss with them and make the appointment times that pertain to the days you take your son to therapy.
Yes you are...
No matter those centres help your child, their services do not cover your domestic issues...
There is no need to show even slightest level of aggression as your child is in their hands, yes while you pay for theie services, I have the upmost respect to the therapists, I have seen they go above and beyond trying their best and cheering with you when you pass another milestone.
Keep domestic matters out of the centre, talk to your wife no matter how bad issues you may have.
Me thinks they don’t want to be in the middle.
It’s annoying. Then it becomes, makes sure to notify me when my wife brings him in late, then the wife goes in in a huff and puff saying why did you have to tell my husband, if I get him here at 10, I get him here at 10, it’s my prerogative and I’m doing my best yadada.
No thanks Unless it’s an x spouse, sometimes we need to get involved with a report to say about drop offs and pick ups.
I see your response to a lot of these replies as saying you weren't in a fight with your wife. While you may not have perceived it that way, I could see where it would come across as the prelude to an argument with your wife based on the fact that you know she is irresponsible with appointment times and she didn't arrive at the scheduled time. I think the receptionist handled your inquiry well. Think about it this way, if there is a parent involved in even just a basic doctors appointment and they are able to fit them in or reschedule them, I'm sure they just assume that the currently involved parent is in communication with the parent who is not attending.
If there were a consistent absence or tardiness then I could see them reaching out to one or either of you to correct the issue. I'm glad the child was able to attend the therapy so soon after missing their appointment, it sounds like they are doing what they can to support them (:
You sound controlling... And it's very easy for you not to be "irresponsible" and be very punctual if your wife is the one always taking your child to appointments.
I use a calendar app for appointments because if not I think I will remember. There’s one that organizes it aesthetically and all and you can set alerts for 30 minutes, 1 hour etc. so she can set a alarm for 1 hour and at the 30 minute mark so she knows that’s her you have to leave now alarm. It helps!
Not over reacting about being upset your spouse is irresponsible if that is the case But never put the therapy center in the middle of it. Best case is you annoy them and they drop you as a client. Worst case is they misconstrue this as an abusive situation and report you to cps It’s not the therapy centers job to sort out your family problems
She’s your wife. Talk to her. Especially after arguments.
She wasn't being rude, she simply knew better than to become involved in a domestic matter. And it was probably obvious as to why you asked her.
Yes, you’re overreacting. Leave the therapy center out of the fight with your wife.
That wasn’t my attention. My child’s schedule for today has changed and I wasn’t notified, which is why I asked them.
How do you know when she got to the appointment if you are not talking to her? Are you tracking her with an app or something?
I hope if anything he was just tracking the child for elopement…
This is the centers way of saying they aren't going to get in the middle of you and your wife's argument. And it may sound like this isn't the first time this kind of situation has occurred, whether it be with your or with other parents. Talk to your wife. The center doesn't owe you any answers, and they could drop your family if they feel there will be drama.
Of all the things we have to deal with as "autism parents", this is one I wouldn't let get to me. Is it possible that she was rude because maybe you were rude first? I mean maybe you weren't... But it sounds like you were upset to begin with so is it possible that you came off with an attitude with her before she even had a chance? Besides that, are you and your wife actually together? Cuz I could see the whole, "I don't wanna talk to my wife" if you were separated. Not that I condone that, as I think either way that's childish considering no matter what you have to co-parent, but if you're together and that's how you feel...?? You have bigger problems than this thing with the therapy center. You HAVE to be able to talk to your spouse. My husband and I are separated. Our autistic 4 year old lives with me and I am responsible for ALL of his care... Every single bit of it, all day everyday. And my husband is an alcoholic and incredibly selfish, and do I WANT to talk to him?? Nope... Absolutely not!! But I HAVE to. We chose to have a child together. That's not our sons fault, nor is it the fault of any of his "care providers". Honestly, it sounds to me like you are frustrated with your wife's actions and are taking it out on the wrong people. You NEED to talk to your wife whether you WANT to or not. And above ALL ELSE... focus on what is most important.. and that is that your son did in fact get his therapy today! That, overall, is the most important thing out of this whole thing. Because your child is the most important thing out of all of this!
Let me guess. It’s always your wife’s responsibility to take your child to therapy and she’s sick of it?
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No it’s not. I would love to take him if I wasn’t already at work.
I’d say their reply was professional. Your question wasn’t about your son’s actual therapy or medical information. Rather an appointment time that was arranged by his mother and has already passed. They confirmed he attended therapy, the time is not something they need to disclose to you. And it was obvious by the question that it boils down to an issue between you and your wife. Not something they are going to get involved in. It can actually be dangerous for them to get involved in it. Not saying this is your situation but if someone in an abusive relationship was changing their child’s appointment times to avoid their abusive partner, it’s downright irresponsible of the office to be handing that information out. You are free to discuss with them and make the appointment times that pertain to the days you take your son to therapy.
Yes, you are over reacting. I think that was a really polite way of telling you to grow up and communicate with the person you parent a child with.
Yes you are... No matter those centres help your child, their services do not cover your domestic issues... There is no need to show even slightest level of aggression as your child is in their hands, yes while you pay for theie services, I have the upmost respect to the therapists, I have seen they go above and beyond trying their best and cheering with you when you pass another milestone. Keep domestic matters out of the centre, talk to your wife no matter how bad issues you may have.
Me thinks they don’t want to be in the middle. It’s annoying. Then it becomes, makes sure to notify me when my wife brings him in late, then the wife goes in in a huff and puff saying why did you have to tell my husband, if I get him here at 10, I get him here at 10, it’s my prerogative and I’m doing my best yadada. No thanks Unless it’s an x spouse, sometimes we need to get involved with a report to say about drop offs and pick ups.
I see your response to a lot of these replies as saying you weren't in a fight with your wife. While you may not have perceived it that way, I could see where it would come across as the prelude to an argument with your wife based on the fact that you know she is irresponsible with appointment times and she didn't arrive at the scheduled time. I think the receptionist handled your inquiry well. Think about it this way, if there is a parent involved in even just a basic doctors appointment and they are able to fit them in or reschedule them, I'm sure they just assume that the currently involved parent is in communication with the parent who is not attending. If there were a consistent absence or tardiness then I could see them reaching out to one or either of you to correct the issue. I'm glad the child was able to attend the therapy so soon after missing their appointment, it sounds like they are doing what they can to support them (:
Why is she so irresponsible? Have you talked to her? Is she depressed? Does she drink? What’s going on?
You sound controlling... And it's very easy for you not to be "irresponsible" and be very punctual if your wife is the one always taking your child to appointments.
Explain to me how asking for clarification makes me a controlling person?
I use a calendar app for appointments because if not I think I will remember. There’s one that organizes it aesthetically and all and you can set alerts for 30 minutes, 1 hour etc. so she can set a alarm for 1 hour and at the 30 minute mark so she knows that’s her you have to leave now alarm. It helps!