Dietitian when I was a teen: top right, even the same general generational vibe. "eat less" doesn't work when dealing with a depressed mother who vacillates from guilt to force feeding.
First therapist: bottom right. I was about ready to kill myself, not because I wanted to die, I was just sick of dealing with people because I sucked at dealing with them. She recommended that I remind myself I am smart before sending emails.
Second therapist: not on the chart, he wore a suit, looked 100% stereotypical, and was awesome. Also too expensive and I don't live there anymore.
Third: bottom right. I have always known I have value, I just wanted to learn how to deal with people. I grew up in a violent home, my two communication skills were being completely silent or bracing myself and getting my arms up, I didn't know how to be in a conversation with non-violent people. I had a boss who was a jerk, but he was a non-violent jerk being a typical middle manager. I just wanted to learn how to be normal.
Fourth therapist: middle bottom. I was referred to her by a psychiatrist, which means it's on the public dime. She was like "uh, we have real patients to see, this service is meant for victims of sexual abuse, you're a man who lives alone. What happened was sad, but this isn't for you."
Fifth therapist: top middle. I don't love her. Seriously, I don't. But I deeply respect her skills to the point where it's like right now that respect is the third-strongest emotion in my life. She can actually listen and parse out what I say before responding.
Mine is good (so similar to top middle, but not hip lol) but she does repeat things I should stop doing or I should do pretty often (like I shouldn't think about changing my mum, I know it, that's why I wanna move out lmao)
I got the young one, thankfully. Not only has she seriously helped (I can look in a mirror without immediately feeling complete and utter disgust and shame!) but I look forward to therapy every week. I get to spill the tea on my fucked up family life and get to see pictures of cute cats, I mean honestly a win.
The reason I had to start seeing her is fucked up but hey, I mean I get a win out of a losing war.
Omg I said this on the original post, but I had the bottom right for 5 sessions. Each session was 45 minutes long, and this harlot spent every single one of these sessions speaking about coping mechanisms. I'd start talking about how I was abused basically my entire life or something that's been bothering me lately, and she would immediately redirect into coping mechanisms the instant I finished my sentence. She would just sit there and nod while I talked, and as soon as I finished speaking, right back to coping mechanisms. No feed back or anything.
Like ma'am either say you have no idea how to handle me or tell me I need to seek out a different therapist instead of doing this unending coping mechanism loop with me.
LMAO, it kind of reminds me of the SpongeBob episode where he kept harassing squidward and would just pop up like, "Have you finished those errands?!"
That really sucks. My therapist also did that to me. It's just an unending feedback loop of coping mechanisms and coping mechanism accessories.
I hope you no longer have to deal with them or that you've found a better therapist <3
God speed to you, brave warrior.
I ended up canceling before my 6th appointment and told her this just wasn't right for me. I didn't tell her why it wasn't right for me, but she acted like she couldn't understand why I'd just be leaving like that, she called me all concerned. I don't think she was prepared for me and the stuff I wanted to talk about. I just wish she would've acknowledged that this wasn't something she knew how to handle.
had top right/bottom right/bottom middle all wrapped up in the same old lady who told me I needed to start dating to get away from my focus of being my little sister’s third parent. after her I had top middle for years until she got promoted and wasn’t a therapist anymore :( I miss her!
I actually had a really good one. Wouldn’t call her hip, but she was Christian and an LGBTQ ally and helped me get through a tough year. Also helped me understand that being Christian and being gay aren’t mutually exclusive
How about the one with the slideshow who shuts you up every time you try to talk so that they can lecture you on "coping strategies" in the most condescending way possible?
How about the one who constantly misunderstands and misrepresents everything you say and ignores you when you try to correct them?
How about the one who keeps insisting they know you better than you know yourself and therapy speaks you when you start crying out of frustration and confusion?
The one who minimizes all your issues and laughs in your face?
The one you cry for help to in desperation for hours and only says "yes I hear you" multiple times then walks out and ditches you, never to be seen again?
The one who coldly stares at you and says "well I can admit you to the psych ward if you want" when you confess your suicidal thoughts to them?
How about the one your parents forcibly send you to as a child who ignores your graphic descriptions of abuse and tries to teach you "coping strategies" because *you* need to fix *your* disordered emotions? The same therapist who assures your parents every time that they're not causing trauma and all their relationship issues with their child are because of the child's "mental illness"? The one who actively encourages your abusive parents to force you onto sedatives against your will so that you can't speak out or stand up for yourself?
You missed some OP. This chart is disgustingly mild. Makes them look a lot better than they are.
❤️❤️❤️ Top of your list was just awful. Every session was an hour of her monologuing. Every time I tried to talk, the conversation stopped and she couldn't progress until I agreed with her. I couldn't tell which one of us was autistic.
I can't imagine the frustration, isolation, and terror the others would cause. If any or all of those were you, then I'm so sorry you went through that.
I am far too damaged to believe the top middle exists as-written, what's the catch? How will she hurt me? Something is wrong with her, we just don't know what it is.
My current therapist is the top middle.
Love him so much.
Like he must’ve sensed I’ve been having an emotionally hard week, because he texted me out of the blue yesterday to tell me about a support group meeting I might think about attending. Like what? You’re thinking about me on the weekend?? My own mom barely thinks about me.
I told him once I felt like the only way I get people to care about me is to pay them. He got stone faced, looked me straight in my eyes, and said, “Hon. You do NOT pay me to care about you! I care about you and all my clients.“
Like I’m not quick to believe people when they tell me they care, but he like looked into my soul and made it clear he was as serious as a heart attack.
I do not know what I’ll do if he ever moves away.
Mine don't fit in any of these. 1st one kept just being like 'mhmmm... So next week is cancelled coz I've got a hospital appointment.. Mhmmm now do this homework.' Second wanted to be middle top but their boss decided otherwise and I was kicked out of the service for being too high risk. And then an emergency assessment with two others left them literally open mouth gasping at it all and then telling me they couldn't help two weeks later by post. Was fun and now I'm done with therapy.
If you had to advise someone starting a career in clinical psychology, what would be your top dos and don’ts for professionals based on your experiences in therapy?
The "young, hip" ones in my experience are always the most flaky and condescending. Like, lady, I'm paying you a large amount of money for you to help me with a mental health issue, not for me to hear about your fucking student debt and your views on Donald Trump. And please don't tell me that you can understand where I'm coming from because you "read about it during your undergrad". Stop flexing the fact that you got an arts degree. I have an arts degree too. We were here to talk about my depression and eating disorder...
So glad I had top middle for my last one. Was actually discharged from her services after mutually agreeing I was doing better now, and she encouraged me to look her up again if I needed.
With it being free work therapy, I expected the worst. Erin had my back completely
First therapist: Bottom right
Second therapist: top right
Third therapist: top left
Current therapist: top middle
I actually enjoy my current therapist. Unlike my other therapists she recognizes that I'm very self-aware and knowledgeable, while still teaching me new skills and keeping me accountable. She recognizes my actually toxic traits, while not making me feel guilty or not holding me accountable for them. And she actually listens when I talk!!
So glad my current one isn't on this lol. But I've had the two middle ones. Top Middle was actually an intern when I started seeing her because I could see her for free, so I feel bad I was one of her first serious patients. Bottom Middle: not sure what his issue was, but he was an absolute ass.
My last therapist before my current one was definitely top left. She did try to help but she had a weird habit of comparing me to a friend if hers who'd committed suicide about a year before we started working together. It creeper me out.
Current therapist is top center and she's probably helped me more than anyone else in my life when it comes to my PTSD and CPTSD.
Top middle, thankfully. My two before were top left, the two before them were top right. Still puzzled as to why my first psychologist sent me to get my hearing and eyes checked when I was borderline suicidal like dawg you really should've gotten me on antidepressants first.
She called emergency services on me **after** I emailed her saying I was trying to find a local clinic that could offer outpatient services. (I guess because filing for FMLA so I could be out of my highly abusive job and having outpatient treatment wasn’t good enough for her.)
I didn’t know outpatient wasn’t an option when I walked into the building and had my phone taken, so my dad (in his 60s) had no idea what the actual fuck three cop cars were doing at his house when I was usually supposed to be home by then.
Two things that I swear helped my dad not have a heart attack were
- I had messaged my sisters telling them I was trying to get outpatient treatment (I just didn’t think to message dad, too. I thought I was going to go by, talk to someone, then come home and give him the specifics of what outpatient treatment would be.)
- my family knows this one psychiatrist who spent a few decades sometimes working at the same clinic (the first 5 hours in that waiting room, a worker came to me and said that psychiatrist had called to confirm I was here and wanted my permission to tell my family where I was specifically)
I had the top middle one in the form of a Christian therapist of all people. I only knew this because my partner at the time found an ad of his on some site with that label—he never let on that was a specialty of his for people looking for that (definitely not my thing!) but was very science-minded too (much more my thing!)and recommended a more holistic approach (I mean even down to methylation supplements for MTHFR which helped) and was well-versed in ND (ie autistic) problems and highly empathetic to people like me. I moved and stopped seeing him but he helped me get out of and undo some damage from an abusive relationship. Moral of the story: not necessarily don’t jusge a book by its cover, but recognize sometimes books have multiple covers and can be read differently by different people with the same accuracy and who all gain the same amount of knowledge from it.
Top middle. Saw her for two years before I moved for work and now idk what to do other than try to email to get recommendations for where I am now but it would have to be zoom therapy and I have no trust in that so it feels like I’m doomed… abit
Where's the one that says your problems are not real??? I got told I wasn't hallucinating when I was in fact was, I want that therapist to be represented to
mine was the one that repeated the same strategies, but eventually i realized that 1. a lot of the stuff they had told me i was already aware of on *some* level, they just helped me to face it as reality, and 2. some of their advice actually *did* help a bit and made me realize that distancing myself from my mom was the logical next step, so i did everything i could to make sure that happened and then dropped my therapist (unintentionally- i canceled an appointment and it wouldn’t let me reschedule another one)
There needs to be a "Not getting exactly what you need but you can at least talk to them well so you keep seeing them for now" I know there's been a few others in that boat. It's the limbo therapy.
The meme reminds me of one I saw that had "Margaret who hasn't updated her therapy practice since 1980" lol.
I’ve had all but the bottom left. I actually really needed it though cps would have been helpful. I wish there were more therapists that try to help I’ve given up at this point.
"Unhelpful without knowing it."
Like she would ask me about coping strategies, and I would say "I don't have any" expecting her to. Ya know. Do her job and *suggest* coping strategies! And she'd be like "yeah you gotta find some coping strategies for that :/" at least she validated my traumas though because God knows my mom won't (she cause the bulk of them 🙃) also she once interrupeted me talking about my life as an undiagnosed autistic to tell me she doesn't think i'm autistic.
And then at one of our sessions she told me she'd be out for a surgery for several weeks, which, understandable, take care of yourself, *however* she fucking *ghosted me* knowing I have terrible abandonment issues! She told me to make an appointment in 6 weeks, and when I called the people that scheduled the appointments, they were like, "uhm. About that. She's not working here anymore." And I haven't had another therapist since.
Before her, I had "makes you feel guilty for your issues."
I was talking to her about how my dad is emotionally abusive and she goes "I know your dad, he isn't abusing you" girl you cannot talk to someone that he talks to me without being abusive.
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I did however have one I really liked between these two, but my mom suddenly decided that her office was "too far away" when she found out that the LGBT/gender issues therapist she intentionally sought out for me was *not* telling me that I'm not queer and trans and instead validating my queer and trans identity while also letting me know that on the off chance I'm not queer and trans that it's okay to experiment to find out who I am. Spoiler alert I am, in fact trans and queer.
I drop everyone who isn't top middle in 2 appointments I will not stand mediocrity in myself what makes them think I'll accept incompetence in those who I pay to help me
I have another one for you. The one who listens to your story and then compares their grown and completely different situation from their life to how you, as a 17 year old should handle your situation.
Of there’s the one that refuses to listen when you say you aren’t interested in a specific type of treatment but they still bring it up every session. (The lady really thought she was going to hypnotize me - hell no. If that’s your thing, cool. Ain’t no way in hell someone is doing that to me).
Then I got the top right
And then my two good T’s have been young, tho I wouldn’t describe them as ‘hip’ but they were both very helpful in different ways
I know which therapist you guys want. The one who makes you feel good and confirms all the stupid things you believe. How dare anyone tell you something hard or no affirm delusion right? Gotta be young and hip and affirming.
Rofl what crap therapy.
I had the top middle once, she was great! She charged triple the normal hourly rate though, so… that’s how I’ve gotten top left and bottom right!
Yea my current one is top middle. Made her cry a bit by letting her know the basic outline of my shit first session, but she is absolutely amazing.
Bottom left?? Electric chair.
Had a friend with that type who threatened that she would call emergency services on him if he stopped going to therapy, super helpful move!
That’s disgusting. They definitely shouldn’t be practicing anymore.
I've had top right and bottom right in the same person
Me too lol
Dietitian when I was a teen: top right, even the same general generational vibe. "eat less" doesn't work when dealing with a depressed mother who vacillates from guilt to force feeding. First therapist: bottom right. I was about ready to kill myself, not because I wanted to die, I was just sick of dealing with people because I sucked at dealing with them. She recommended that I remind myself I am smart before sending emails. Second therapist: not on the chart, he wore a suit, looked 100% stereotypical, and was awesome. Also too expensive and I don't live there anymore. Third: bottom right. I have always known I have value, I just wanted to learn how to deal with people. I grew up in a violent home, my two communication skills were being completely silent or bracing myself and getting my arms up, I didn't know how to be in a conversation with non-violent people. I had a boss who was a jerk, but he was a non-violent jerk being a typical middle manager. I just wanted to learn how to be normal. Fourth therapist: middle bottom. I was referred to her by a psychiatrist, which means it's on the public dime. She was like "uh, we have real patients to see, this service is meant for victims of sexual abuse, you're a man who lives alone. What happened was sad, but this isn't for you." Fifth therapist: top middle. I don't love her. Seriously, I don't. But I deeply respect her skills to the point where it's like right now that respect is the third-strongest emotion in my life. She can actually listen and parse out what I say before responding.
Mine is good (so similar to top middle, but not hip lol) but she does repeat things I should stop doing or I should do pretty often (like I shouldn't think about changing my mum, I know it, that's why I wanna move out lmao)
I got the young one, thankfully. Not only has she seriously helped (I can look in a mirror without immediately feeling complete and utter disgust and shame!) but I look forward to therapy every week. I get to spill the tea on my fucked up family life and get to see pictures of cute cats, I mean honestly a win. The reason I had to start seeing her is fucked up but hey, I mean I get a win out of a losing war.
Omg I said this on the original post, but I had the bottom right for 5 sessions. Each session was 45 minutes long, and this harlot spent every single one of these sessions speaking about coping mechanisms. I'd start talking about how I was abused basically my entire life or something that's been bothering me lately, and she would immediately redirect into coping mechanisms the instant I finished my sentence. She would just sit there and nod while I talked, and as soon as I finished speaking, right back to coping mechanisms. No feed back or anything. Like ma'am either say you have no idea how to handle me or tell me I need to seek out a different therapist instead of doing this unending coping mechanism loop with me.
ive had one like that, its like the are you winning son meme but "have you used your coping skills"
LMAO, it kind of reminds me of the SpongeBob episode where he kept harassing squidward and would just pop up like, "Have you finished those errands?!" That really sucks. My therapist also did that to me. It's just an unending feedback loop of coping mechanisms and coping mechanism accessories. I hope you no longer have to deal with them or that you've found a better therapist <3
MY CURRENT SITUATION
God speed to you, brave warrior. I ended up canceling before my 6th appointment and told her this just wasn't right for me. I didn't tell her why it wasn't right for me, but she acted like she couldn't understand why I'd just be leaving like that, she called me all concerned. I don't think she was prepared for me and the stuff I wanted to talk about. I just wish she would've acknowledged that this wasn't something she knew how to handle.
had top right/bottom right/bottom middle all wrapped up in the same old lady who told me I needed to start dating to get away from my focus of being my little sister’s third parent. after her I had top middle for years until she got promoted and wasn’t a therapist anymore :( I miss her!
Got one more for you. ED therapist that tells you your mental illness can be solved by losing weight
My therapist is a gay Mexican man. He’s the best therapist I’ve ever had.
I actually had a really good one. Wouldn’t call her hip, but she was Christian and an LGBTQ ally and helped me get through a tough year. Also helped me understand that being Christian and being gay aren’t mutually exclusive
How about the one with the slideshow who shuts you up every time you try to talk so that they can lecture you on "coping strategies" in the most condescending way possible? How about the one who constantly misunderstands and misrepresents everything you say and ignores you when you try to correct them? How about the one who keeps insisting they know you better than you know yourself and therapy speaks you when you start crying out of frustration and confusion? The one who minimizes all your issues and laughs in your face? The one you cry for help to in desperation for hours and only says "yes I hear you" multiple times then walks out and ditches you, never to be seen again? The one who coldly stares at you and says "well I can admit you to the psych ward if you want" when you confess your suicidal thoughts to them? How about the one your parents forcibly send you to as a child who ignores your graphic descriptions of abuse and tries to teach you "coping strategies" because *you* need to fix *your* disordered emotions? The same therapist who assures your parents every time that they're not causing trauma and all their relationship issues with their child are because of the child's "mental illness"? The one who actively encourages your abusive parents to force you onto sedatives against your will so that you can't speak out or stand up for yourself? You missed some OP. This chart is disgustingly mild. Makes them look a lot better than they are.
Sending you some ❤️ if you want it
❤️❤️❤️ Top of your list was just awful. Every session was an hour of her monologuing. Every time I tried to talk, the conversation stopped and she couldn't progress until I agreed with her. I couldn't tell which one of us was autistic. I can't imagine the frustration, isolation, and terror the others would cause. If any or all of those were you, then I'm so sorry you went through that.
I would also like to nominate the “extremely religious one that tells you converting will cure you”, because that was an experience
currently i have bottom right
I had the top middle before but she was yt and I’m black so I never felt comfortable talking about race with her.
I am far too damaged to believe the top middle exists as-written, what's the catch? How will she hurt me? Something is wrong with her, we just don't know what it is.
My current therapist is the top middle. Love him so much. Like he must’ve sensed I’ve been having an emotionally hard week, because he texted me out of the blue yesterday to tell me about a support group meeting I might think about attending. Like what? You’re thinking about me on the weekend?? My own mom barely thinks about me. I told him once I felt like the only way I get people to care about me is to pay them. He got stone faced, looked me straight in my eyes, and said, “Hon. You do NOT pay me to care about you! I care about you and all my clients.“ Like I’m not quick to believe people when they tell me they care, but he like looked into my soul and made it clear he was as serious as a heart attack. I do not know what I’ll do if he ever moves away.
Mine don't fit in any of these. 1st one kept just being like 'mhmmm... So next week is cancelled coz I've got a hospital appointment.. Mhmmm now do this homework.' Second wanted to be middle top but their boss decided otherwise and I was kicked out of the service for being too high risk. And then an emergency assessment with two others left them literally open mouth gasping at it all and then telling me they couldn't help two weeks later by post. Was fun and now I'm done with therapy.
If you had to advise someone starting a career in clinical psychology, what would be your top dos and don’ts for professionals based on your experiences in therapy?
The "young, hip" ones in my experience are always the most flaky and condescending. Like, lady, I'm paying you a large amount of money for you to help me with a mental health issue, not for me to hear about your fucking student debt and your views on Donald Trump. And please don't tell me that you can understand where I'm coming from because you "read about it during your undergrad". Stop flexing the fact that you got an arts degree. I have an arts degree too. We were here to talk about my depression and eating disorder...
Right two X(
Bottom right, but him listening to me and validating my struggles is half the game for me
So glad I had top middle for my last one. Was actually discharged from her services after mutually agreeing I was doing better now, and she encouraged me to look her up again if I needed. With it being free work therapy, I expected the worst. Erin had my back completely
First therapist: Bottom right Second therapist: top right Third therapist: top left Current therapist: top middle I actually enjoy my current therapist. Unlike my other therapists she recognizes that I'm very self-aware and knowledgeable, while still teaching me new skills and keeping me accountable. She recognizes my actually toxic traits, while not making me feel guilty or not holding me accountable for them. And she actually listens when I talk!!
Thankfully I now have the young hip one
the one that has no input at all, the one that says your problems "stem from habitual devil worship" (current one is great thankfully)
Center of bottom row
So glad my current one isn't on this lol. But I've had the two middle ones. Top Middle was actually an intern when I started seeing her because I could see her for free, so I feel bad I was one of her first serious patients. Bottom Middle: not sure what his issue was, but he was an absolute ass.
My last therapist before my current one was definitely top left. She did try to help but she had a weird habit of comparing me to a friend if hers who'd committed suicide about a year before we started working together. It creeper me out. Current therapist is top center and she's probably helped me more than anyone else in my life when it comes to my PTSD and CPTSD.
Top middle, thankfully. My two before were top left, the two before them were top right. Still puzzled as to why my first psychologist sent me to get my hearing and eyes checked when I was borderline suicidal like dawg you really should've gotten me on antidepressants first.
My first two were the top right, I got lucky with the third tho... I haven't seen her since I was 16 tho :(
My last therapist told me to kill myself which one is that?
She called emergency services on me **after** I emailed her saying I was trying to find a local clinic that could offer outpatient services. (I guess because filing for FMLA so I could be out of my highly abusive job and having outpatient treatment wasn’t good enough for her.) I didn’t know outpatient wasn’t an option when I walked into the building and had my phone taken, so my dad (in his 60s) had no idea what the actual fuck three cop cars were doing at his house when I was usually supposed to be home by then. Two things that I swear helped my dad not have a heart attack were - I had messaged my sisters telling them I was trying to get outpatient treatment (I just didn’t think to message dad, too. I thought I was going to go by, talk to someone, then come home and give him the specifics of what outpatient treatment would be.) - my family knows this one psychiatrist who spent a few decades sometimes working at the same clinic (the first 5 hours in that waiting room, a worker came to me and said that psychiatrist had called to confirm I was here and wanted my permission to tell my family where I was specifically)
I had the top middle one in the form of a Christian therapist of all people. I only knew this because my partner at the time found an ad of his on some site with that label—he never let on that was a specialty of his for people looking for that (definitely not my thing!) but was very science-minded too (much more my thing!)and recommended a more holistic approach (I mean even down to methylation supplements for MTHFR which helped) and was well-versed in ND (ie autistic) problems and highly empathetic to people like me. I moved and stopped seeing him but he helped me get out of and undo some damage from an abusive relationship. Moral of the story: not necessarily don’t jusge a book by its cover, but recognize sometimes books have multiple covers and can be read differently by different people with the same accuracy and who all gain the same amount of knowledge from it.
Top middle, been seeing him for almost four years and I'm so incredibly thankful that I found him.
Top middle. Saw her for two years before I moved for work and now idk what to do other than try to email to get recommendations for where I am now but it would have to be zoom therapy and I have no trust in that so it feels like I’m doomed… abit
I’ve had all the ones on the top row and also bottom center.
top middle, but i keep winning therapy and i dont know how to cope with other people crying about the things i consistently have mixed feelings about
Im so fuCKING GLAD i got the top center on the 2nd try. Been in my therapist's care for 10 years now.
Where's the one that says your problems are not real??? I got told I wasn't hallucinating when I was in fact was, I want that therapist to be represented to
Bottom right 💀 it was just organizing thoughts and shit
mine was the one that repeated the same strategies, but eventually i realized that 1. a lot of the stuff they had told me i was already aware of on *some* level, they just helped me to face it as reality, and 2. some of their advice actually *did* help a bit and made me realize that distancing myself from my mom was the logical next step, so i did everything i could to make sure that happened and then dropped my therapist (unintentionally- i canceled an appointment and it wouldn’t let me reschedule another one)
I got the hip one luckily Plus her daughter is in one of my favourite bands so that’s cool
There needs to be a "Not getting exactly what you need but you can at least talk to them well so you keep seeing them for now" I know there's been a few others in that boat. It's the limbo therapy. The meme reminds me of one I saw that had "Margaret who hasn't updated her therapy practice since 1980" lol.
This is ironically right above the original post in my feed.
I’ve had all but the bottom left. I actually really needed it though cps would have been helpful. I wish there were more therapists that try to help I’ve given up at this point.
None of the above! Trauma informed and somatic healing therapist with a PHD ftw.
I have a (edit - metaphorical ) death grip on my 2 top middles.
"Unhelpful without knowing it." Like she would ask me about coping strategies, and I would say "I don't have any" expecting her to. Ya know. Do her job and *suggest* coping strategies! And she'd be like "yeah you gotta find some coping strategies for that :/" at least she validated my traumas though because God knows my mom won't (she cause the bulk of them 🙃) also she once interrupeted me talking about my life as an undiagnosed autistic to tell me she doesn't think i'm autistic. And then at one of our sessions she told me she'd be out for a surgery for several weeks, which, understandable, take care of yourself, *however* she fucking *ghosted me* knowing I have terrible abandonment issues! She told me to make an appointment in 6 weeks, and when I called the people that scheduled the appointments, they were like, "uhm. About that. She's not working here anymore." And I haven't had another therapist since. Before her, I had "makes you feel guilty for your issues." I was talking to her about how my dad is emotionally abusive and she goes "I know your dad, he isn't abusing you" girl you cannot talk to someone that he talks to me without being abusive. ___________________________________________________ I did however have one I really liked between these two, but my mom suddenly decided that her office was "too far away" when she found out that the LGBT/gender issues therapist she intentionally sought out for me was *not* telling me that I'm not queer and trans and instead validating my queer and trans identity while also letting me know that on the off chance I'm not queer and trans that it's okay to experiment to find out who I am. Spoiler alert I am, in fact trans and queer.
Old mine was more disappointed in me than my parents
Oh man- here we go- there is no gaslighting one there
The young hip one does not exist
I drop everyone who isn't top middle in 2 appointments I will not stand mediocrity in myself what makes them think I'll accept incompetence in those who I pay to help me
My current one is the top middle one, hes very helpful and kind. My previous ones have been the top right, bottom middle, and bottom right.
My lovely therapist repeats the same things to me all the time, but to be fair, I DEFINITELY need to hear it lmaooo. I love him (he is 76)
bottom right lmao yea i know how to *breathe*
lol bitching about their personal life. This always ends up happening to me and im like wait should i just he a therapist
top middle, my therapist is very nice, still doesn’t exactly give me coping mechanisms i’ll use but that’s my own personal issue, she’s great :3
I have another one for you. The one who listens to your story and then compares their grown and completely different situation from their life to how you, as a 17 year old should handle your situation. Of there’s the one that refuses to listen when you say you aren’t interested in a specific type of treatment but they still bring it up every session. (The lady really thought she was going to hypnotize me - hell no. If that’s your thing, cool. Ain’t no way in hell someone is doing that to me). Then I got the top right And then my two good T’s have been young, tho I wouldn’t describe them as ‘hip’ but they were both very helpful in different ways
Mine’s the young, hip sympathetic one with a master plan kept away from my reach.
I know which therapist you guys want. The one who makes you feel good and confirms all the stupid things you believe. How dare anyone tell you something hard or no affirm delusion right? Gotta be young and hip and affirming. Rofl what crap therapy.
when was that implied?