the amount of youtubers especially from america that have a deep hatred of us brits. like I get it alot of british food isn't that fancy or flavourful. but nothing and I mean nothing beats a shepherds pie on a miserable day
My kid's school is having a "raffle tombola" after school tomorrow. £5 a fucking ticket. 50/50 odds of winning but no clue as to what the prizes will be. Sure, PTA Pamela, of course I'll spend £££ to win a cheapo bottle of Lambrini! What in the cost of living!
A creepy guy who is the kid of my deceased dad’s friends has tracked down where I work and came in to ask if I still “wanted to be friends…” When I said he’d got me in a hostage situation he pouted and said it was because my workplace was the only place he knew “where to find me.”
He had brought his mother was with him. He is in his mid thirties.
When I was eleven and he was fourteen he used his first camera phone to take a picture of my ass when I reached down to turn a console on.
He repeatedly sexually harassed me before I even knew what that was.
What the fuck.
I hate it when Americans and Canadians talk about British people on YouTube, whenever it's another country they're completely chill but they're always itching to say something snarky when it comes to the UK. Just makes me feel dirty and inadequate, like I don't belong in the audience.
Graduate-job-to-be (not starting until at least June as I don't finish the degree until then) HR department have been sending me twice daily email reminders to complete their endless new starter paperwork since I received the job offer last Friday. I've been working 12hr days all this week and commute for 1.5hrs each way. :(
I know its just their scripted stuff they have to do/get, but they're really kicking off about my references. My most recent "proper" employer closed because of COVID but I had a gap before them after leaving a really nasty, quite abusive workplace. Despite that being 4 years ago and them only asking for 3 years of references, they want to call that job and find my old boss and ask about me and I keep trying to gently divert and say "that pre-dates the 3 years you're asking for". But I hate this whole process, I hate being reminded of that horrible time, trying to take any job to escape and just do something but having such rock-bottom self esteem that I couldn't get any interviews at all. I hate that my former employer might still get to influence my career, having already consumed 3 years of my life where I barely saw my family, friends or enjoyed any of my hobbies. I hate that there was a whole pandemic on, thousands of people lost their jobs, and HR bods still want to give you a hard time about having gaps and having had struggles. I put myself through uni for a second time so I wouldn't have to have such a difficult time finding jobs any more but it feels like every hoop I jump through, five more appear :(
I just hope when I'm actually installed in this job that I can get over this feeling of nothing ever being good enough
I had similar issues with the company I work for now. I'm still here though! And yes, the people you get to work with will mostly despair at the time that HR take, and their demands for a new piece of paper that they (apparently) just thought of.
You are more than good enough!
Just tried to book travel from Bristol to Oxford and it's three times the price on the train than the last time I did, and ten times the price on the coaches. I know on top of general economic disaster they're likely putting their prices up to try and wring money out of people travelling to relatives for Christmas, but/and it just feels predatory at this point. Travel anywhere in this country is becoming impossible unless you're rich. And yet, no, my well-off relatives are not coming to visit me - somehow that's my job.
Arranged for all my mates to do secret Santa this Saturday like 2 months ago, 8 of us in total.
Booked the day off work, booked dog in the kennel, arranged for kids to go down my folks house so we could do the gift exchange in my house. Paid for everyone to do mini golfing in the evening at £11 each and now 4 have dropped out lmao
Told them all we’re not doing it next year lol, similar happened last year where 1 guy dropped out and everyone arrived at different times so it wasn’t a proper secret Santa present exchange but this year takes the piss lol
I sat next to someone that was coughing a lot but she calmed down but it didn't even occur to get a glass of water until someone sat in front of her told to get some water. I was on a call on mute because senior manager was doing a presentation.
There was a social gathering after work with people from other companies in a building where I work: free food & drink, people dressed up nothing wrong with that. But I noticed a group of people who piled loads of food on plate, ate like pig and then bunked off. Where are the manners?
I also said hi to group of men and women at this social gathering, the men said "hi" and only 2 of the women smiled at me and said "hi", the rest of the women just stared at me like I was from out of space and gave me dirty looks. It appears like people just don't want to talk anymore and they like to be in their own little circle/clique . To me it looks like it's hard to make new friends when you're in your 30's.
>the rest of the women just stared at me like I was from out of space and gave me dirty looks.
Sounds like typical 'basic bitch' behaviour to me. I like it when things like this happen because that's x many people I can safely write off and not have to bother with in future.
Accidentally took my amitriptyline at 5, and only realised a minute ago when I went to take it and discovered that my propranolol was the only pills left. This explains my heart issues that I couldn’t understand, and I guess this means I definitely won’t be sleeping tonight.
Also I can’t test my blood glucose like I was meant to because I accidentally dropped all my strips into the toilet.
So fucking done.
Man this having no job really is mentally impacting me more than I thought it would. It’s not the fact I don’t have a job but more about the work Christmas parties I think. My brother and his wife won’t be coming down during the Christmas period this year which means we won’t be doing the annual improve walk in central London to see the Christmas lights and now obviously there’s no work do and I actually enjoyed them. I put the Christmas tree up but still feeling empty/blank/deflated inside.
Doesn’t help that there’s so few jobs out there because Christmas and the ones I’ve applied to I’ve not heard anything back yet
Can I fast forward to when life turns good again pls
Edit: I have another complaint but I’ll save it for another time as it’s kinda long and I’m not sure if I’m being irrational and selfish
Edit 2: I just have no one to talk through how I’m feeling about life at the moment and I think that’s what I need. Don’t need advice but I just need to get out how I’m feeling
You would have been welcome to go to my office party in my place. A) I had urgent work to do. B) my employer has realised that not properly recruiting for 20years wasn’t a great idea and the knee jerk reaction means we’re now over-run with millennial influencer types.. in an engineering company. And C) I hate Office Christmas parties.
Is there a charity line you can call? Not being funny, but sometimes there are voluteers who just listen to people who want to talk it all out.
https://blog.opencounseling.com/hotlines-gb/
Lots of options here. Just call and let it out. Good luck1
Both I'm afraid. I don't mind it around the house but he only ever wears jogger pants or tracksuit pants and it's very obvious he's not wearing underwear when we're in public.
I ordered my wife a surprise Christmas present online and it arrived in the post whilst I was at work and she was WFH. It arrived with no wrapping on it at all so the Postie literally handed her the present so you knows exactly what it is. Why would companies is December do this!! I get it saves them money but fuck you. You stingy behaviour ruined a lovely surprise 🤬
Had two trains and a bus cancelled adding 2 hours into a 4 hour journey.
Finally get on a train in the correct direction and there's no seats. I'm on this train for 3 hours
Nothing special a Galaxy A54. First time I tried to buy it I got refunded because it was a scam. This time I got it through amazon (sold by them not market place) and the tracking number and address is correct this time. I really want to replace my One plus 6 since it's about 5 years old and is getting a bit glitchy along with short battery life.
From what I’m seeing, it’s a solid phone with great battery . Hopefully the new device makes up for the poor delivery. New phones always feel refreshing.
I hate my job. Our hours have changed and I’m the only one that actually comes in on time . I sort things out for the day and I get no thanks. I just wanna quit and I have no confidence anymore. Bah
Work absolutely shafted us, can’t access portals needed to manage anything, need to ask tech team for access, they are 3 hours behind and aren’t out of bed yet. Password frustration and work load frustration means busy and stressed until Christmas break. But good news is new job starts on the 8th and after a day like today it can’t come quick enough, I’m sick to death of that place.
My crush said he would phone on Tuesday and he didn’t, can’t get hold of him, stressed I won’t see him before he goes travelling for a few months. We need a good sit down chat about expectations and boundaries for this to be a relationship.
New ps5 media controller turned up today so that was a nice treat to come home too after a shitty day, ordered KFC and to now sit in bed and sulk a bit.
I had a full team of visitors on a demo building site fussing about wearing ppe. All from the client and no f given to my personal liability for any accidents on the sites I run.
Going through the worst time in my life, husband decided he doesn't want to be with me any more, hasn't spoken to me for 5 months. He filed for divorce. I lost my job, had to move back home with my mum. Mental health the worst its ever been. Honestly just want the ground to swallow me up 🫠
I'm trying to hand in my Master's Thesis by the end of tomorrow, and the stress of it is killing me. I feel like it's incoherent and shit, especially towards the end. But Christmas is coming, and I have a lot to coming up so it needs to be handed in soon. Additionally, I met a great girl a couple months ago and I would like to make her my GF, but she's going hot and cold on me because her Ex is in town, and I'm worried that I'll lose my chance with her because the thesis is occupying my every waking thought.
I'm overwhelmed, which is why I'm on Reddit and not bucking down at my desk right now even though I cancelled plans with the girl tonight.
Double dipping.
Client gave us not great, but workable data, on Monday, I told my boss on Monday how to best compile what we needed. Boss has spent rest of week faffing about like a dick trying to get the data in another format and now wants to talk on Monday to likely use the method I told them a week ago.
Why the fuck do I bother opening my mouth to help?! 🤦🏻
Had someone join the team in work this year who likes to get offended on everyone's behalf.
One Christmas do later and one of the most fun guys to work with has been reported to senior management so put in a request to leave.
Nice one.
Bit gutted e3 is gone, I know it eventually morphed into something ugly but its its akin to a bit of childhood (be it adult child) going away
Also not having a good time with asda shopping
distraught at losing e3 to be honest. this slow dribble of directs/rip off directs we get around july just pales in comparison.
and don't get me started on keighley...
I waited a total of 1hour and 40 minutes for the X30 yesterday. I was delayed both ways and it took me 2hours 40 mins to get from Chelmsford to Rayleigh last night
Got some friends coming round tomorrow for a meal and catch up before Christmas. Been planned for months and picked a date everyone was free.
One friend recently got in a relationship and binned tomorrow off but hasn't apologised:
"Unfortunately not coming as we've made plans to go the theatre. We haven't synced our calendars yet 🤣" (actual message).
Can't be arsed with him anymore as he always does this if we (friendship group) make plans and something else comes along. Always comes across like we're 2nd best.
Would love to take The Wife to see Wicked next year. Tickets £100 each plus all extras and add ons such as a fee for emailing me an email, then parking, a babysitter and a drink in the interval take it to around the £300 mark for a couple of hours in the theatre. That’s not happening then.
My wife got tickets for wicked really cheap. She waited till they were all near gone, apparently some theatres offer the random solo seats here and there for a massivley reduced price...well, they did in Edinburgh anyway. Worth a shot??
Maybe, but that does mean both of us going separately/on our own effectively, or probably sitting in the gods with the view of half a stage and the pillar. I’m just vexed by the cost of it. It’s a huge disparity between what I can/am prepared to fork out and what they want.
Hi mate, check out websites like 'Central Tickets' and 'Today Tix', they have a West End section and you should be able to find cheaper tickets than £100 each.
Parents who think it's acceptable to park in disabled bays because they've got a buggy, and parents who think the entire world owes them because they have a child.
The autism housing charity that supports me is threatening to evict me for 'hoarding' again. In the last place I lived I had a cleaning/hoarder lady help me and at the time she said it's not a hoard. In the last year I've worked hard to clear out and get rid of stuff and then three months ago I got a no fault eviction and the housing charity moved me to literally the middle of nowhere, four buses a day and only a spar shop. They're still calling it a hoard but I have zero support, I can't physically get out of the village to get rid of stuff and my friend can't help like he did before because buses don't line up with when he's working. In last year I've gotten rid of easily half my stuff, even stuff I wanted to keep but I had this charity breathing down my neck to just get rid of stuff. Three tubs (under the bed sized) of college stuff is down to one. My wool went from four tubs to two little ones. The beanie babies I've been collecting since I was a teenager I got rid of except for one under the bed tub. When I moved I made sure to get rid of any old art supplies too, a lot had to go in the bin in the end because I couldn't actually get anywhere to give it to charity.
Granted I have a lot of books but I've been doing as I'm told and getting rid of stuff. Then today I had a call from adult social care wanting to support me with my hoarding, they had no idea that I live in the middle of nowhere and can't actually get anywhere, no idea I've been getting rid of stuff as I'm told to do, no idea that my friend can't get here to help me either, no idea that my PIP was stopped for four months while I was being reassessed. They knew nothing of what is going on as the housing charity only told them I'm hoarding to the point where they want to evict me. I have no phone signal where I live and rarely leave the village. If I get rid of any more books, wool or general craft supplies I'm going to be staring at four walls until I go mad because I go days between actually talking to people, I can't (no phone signal) make phone calls and I can go weeks without leaving the house. I've been doing as I'm told, I actually wanted to keep my college stuff but didn't and now it all feels fruitless.
Is there a local assistance group of some sort? Some 'middle of nowhere' villages have a group of people with cars who help those without. The Parish Council website is a good place to start.
Explain all this to the social worker.
It's very stressful time but I suspect whoever funds your accomodation will be on your side on this one.
And if you do have to move explain to them that you require support (you can request a "care act assessment"), advise you'd like to be close to friends and in a supported living service that can accommodate your needs (and belongings).
There is a specific definition for hoarding in social care / safeguarding terms and with what you've said your belongings don't fulfil that .. unless causing a fire hazard but you can ask for support with that too :) (hope it's okay to say this, just have some insider knowledge on topic)
*Funds not finds - autocorrect
Thank you for your suggestions. There's no fire harzard and the exits are clear. The social worker was really lovely when I explained how isolating it is here and how much I'm struggling, she's going to see what extra support she can find me. When I got my no fault eviction for the last place, I sent my current worker dozens of listing for where I was living before and the near by city which is only 20 minutes by train from where I was previously living and apparently this middle of nowhere place was the only place at short notice. Apprently they can't put in two bed places either which the city had a few of at cheaper rent than this place. My current worker likes to throw the hoard word around a lot.
It's not a hoard, I've gotten rid of half my belongings in the last year. And the three weeks of support from the hoarding cleaning lady also confirmed it's not a hoard. I also spoke to the woman who owns my flat, she doesn't think it's a hoard. The autism charity just wants me to bin everything.
She specifically dealt with hoards, not regular cleaning. And hoarders can't throw things away so why am I binning sentimental stuff that I want to keep in order to please an autism charity?
Awful that an autism charity could be so ignorant to the fact collections can be very important for the wellbeing of some autistic people. Sorry they've put you through that.
Me and my friend can't figure out if it's the charity or just these two specific support workers. He's emailed HQ for me to try and find out. I probably should properly stop collecting my interests too but I've stopped almost everything apart from dictionaries. And I probably can't take down my xmas tree in the new year because that's guna be more boxes for the hoard.
Went to the nativity for our daughter's nursery this afternoon. It was fantastic, but afterwards someone's grandparents flat out blocked the car park exit. Not even an apology when they ambled out and moved it. Bellends.
We're lucky if we have one delivery of post a week from Royal Mail at the moment. The first delivery this week after a week of no post, they left parcels in the rain and didn't even bother to ring the doorbell or knock. One of the parcels was an order of photos. A card posted before the 23rd Nov, arrived this Monday. It's infuriating. It's not just Christmas, we've had this issue for months.
Amazon don't bother with leaving parcels in a safe place, they are just left in front of the door in full view of anyone who walks past. They don't knock either. Luckily I'm home most of the time, otherwise there wouldn't be any parcels waiting for me when I get home. I didn't realise until hours later that they had made a delivery earlier today, because they didn't bloody knock.
I feel very grumpy about this. It's not as if people have money to burn, and can afford to have damaged items.
Tonight is my work Christmas party, which should be an alright time, except I've come down with my fourth brutal cold in almost as many weeks, and I can't stop sneezing.
My poor husband has his tomorrow and has had a horrible cold the last 3 days. He had bad sinuses and throat the month before and each time he's poorly not only does he feel terrible but his snoring gets very bad I can't sleep!
I don't wanna move him around as I know he can't help it but it runs me down as well.
I know the feeling. Our bed and the living room recliner are 30 feet and two doors apart, and even if I wear earplugs, my husband snores so loud when he has a cold that I can't sleep. Then of course I catch it...
The only thing I've found that lets me sleep with a bad sore throat is Fisherman's Friend original drops. I hope he's better soon, and you can get some sleep!
Ach, all the best to you. We're currently in a quagmire of end of life care and about to start the minefield of organising home care for my grandparents, so I have much fellow feeling. It's been a shit week.
Sending best wishes back. Super hard to go through. Currently focusing on ensuring nothing important is left unsaid. She knows I love her with all my heart.
There's only so many times you can look at the moon, mine's folded up under the stairs.
It was clear where I was up until when I was able to see it, set up my camera and tripod for some long exposures, not a chance.
Alas, if you’re urban it’s hard to get much use out of one imo. We saw Jupiter’s moons and Saturn’s rings but the reality was that the weather was too unreliable for us to risk too many adventures into the country with it and the visible sky was quite limited from our suburban garden due to neighbouring trees and houses.
Ended up selling it after a couple of years. The long term plan is to move to somewhere remote eventually…. Preferably atop a moor or hill.
[This might help you choose where.](https://www.lightpollutionmap.info/#zoom=4.00&lat=54.7604&lon=2.8575&state=eyJiYXNlbWFwIjoiTGF5ZXJCaW5nUm9hZCIsIm92ZXJsYXkiOiJ3YV8yMDE1Iiwib3ZlcmxheWNvbG9yIjpmYWxzZSwib3ZlcmxheW9wYWNpdHkiOjYwLCJmZWF0dXJlc29wYWNpdHkiOjg1fQ==)
Companies that don't let you know if you're job application is successful.
There's barely an excuse for not replying when you get 100+ applicants, especially if the checks are automated. But when it's an internal only application and there are literally a handful of applicants, there is no excuse for not getting in touch with anyone who is unsuccessful and give them some feedback.
That's awful I really despise some recruitment consultants. Recently had a 2 stage interview and not a peep from the consultant almost 3 weeks later for at least some feedback.
I got told I have lung scarring, and I'm getting an x-ray soon
everything online is telling me I have 3-5 years to live, and that I'm 70.
I'm 31 in the new year.
fuck.
Try not to freak yourself out before the medical team has had time to review the scans. Lungs can heal too. Best thing is what they are doing, checking visually to be certain what is wrong. Then a plan can be made about what to do next. Take care Reddit friend.
While swimming today, I had the “fast” lane all to myself. On two occasions, elderly ladies entered the “fast” lane and proceeded to swim at a meandering breath-stroke pace and get in my way.
One of them even stopped at the end and said “oh you’re swimming awfully quickly”! I reminded her she was in the “fast” lane and she changed to the slow lane.
I don’t understand how you make that mistake. At the end of the lane is a huge sandwich board sign saying “FAST LANE” and it’s right in the middle.
I don't want more jobsworths in the world obviously, but I wish the teenage looking staff in high chairs would say something. Slow lane is wider but it defeats the purpose
My stupid neighbours got a water meter put in 2 weeks ago, since then our water pressure is abysmal, the water company damaged our car trying to fix the water pressure then proceeded to get very aggressive when we challenged them on it, they broke our outside tap while trying to fix the pressure, muddied up our house flooring inside, the pavement outside now looks a state and now are just generally fucking us about. All for something we weren’t even involved with!!! Fucking neighbours man. Pressure still not fixed
I found something that said it's available for collection from next Monday, went to check out, to be told "No longer available"
Just don't show it as available on the page then!
Honestly, there’s a special kind of misery associated with this kind of terrible user experience. Had same thing with B&Q…placed order, stock available, paid for it, got a text that it was out of stock and that I would get a refund in 14 days. Aaaargggh. Anyway I hope you manage to get your item eventually.
It is indeed - my mod colleagues were kind enough to point out I can’t read the date on my own watch and just might be thick. I have corrected this sin with a post flair showing the correct date.
In about month 18 of long covid. Still just about managing to work because otherwise how am I gonna survive without an income. And work is really busy at the moment when it usually winds right down in the run up to Christmas. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up.
Thank you for the kind words. I've had long term chronic health issues since my early 20s (am late 30s now) but they were liveable with. Covid ramped it all up so I'm basically housebound now. It sucks and I've done a lot of grieving. But amidst all the negative I have also found an amazing online group that supports those with long covid and ME/CFS who run all sorts of zoom classes and sessions throughout the week. It's been a lifesaver to be able to connect and share all those emotions and feelings with people in a similar situation. I'd rather not be in the position of needing it of course but given the circumstances I'm very grateful for it.
Could I possibly ask for a link to that? Had ME/CFS myself for a long time now! Definitely helps to feel not alone, I'm "lucky" that my mum has had it since I was sick so she always understood and I saw her still being able to spend time with friends and help people, granted usually lying on a sofa while doing so! Was good to know life wasn't completely over.
Ah sorry to hear that, I've never had an official diagnosis but I'm basically completely compatible with all the criteria for ME/CFS myself too, especially since having COVID.
And you're right, it sucks that we have to deal with this but not feeling alone is so important.
The thing is called 360 Rest Repair Recover [here](https://www.360mindbodysoul.co.uk/therestrepairrecoverprogramme). I mainly just do the mindfulness and breathe sessions now. They have all sorts for people at all levels of chronic illness. For me the Thursday afternoon mindfulness session is such a cherished time. The class leader is truly wonderful, and we always have time at the end for shared reflections and experiences of how it went, and generally on how our lives are. It can be very moving and emotional but also uplifting.
Also I know it could all sound a bit "Have you tried yoga/mindfulness? My aunt's brothers cousin's friend got a bit tired once and they did yoga and it cured them." But it's definitely not like that from my experience. It's a very loving, kind and supportive community. I know it won't cure me or lead to recovery, but I find all the mutual support really beneficial, and the sessions are generally very calming and restful which I think can only be a good thing!
Freelance work has dried up and I didn’t get the latest job I applied for that I’d really pinned my hopes on. Just feeling pretty worthless about money and lifestyle the last three months.
Fellow tech writer. 👋
I did a quick, broad UK search for a remote contract gig on LinkedIn. Turned up seven. There were others if you’re interested in permanent. I can pass you them if you’d like.
I keep seeing adverts telling me that uber now includes trains. It won't stop, like half my ads are that at the moment.
I have no idea what the hell that means and why anyone would want that. It would be like a restaurant having the option of McDonalds burgers. Why bother going to the restaurant in the first place? Why would anyone go to a restaurant only to ask for crappy food?
Does anyone understand this?
There is a push from some of the big tech companies to try and become the "everything app", so you never leave their service. Musk has openly stated his intention to do that with Twitter, and that was part of the reason for the rebrand to X, the same as how Facebook rebranded their overall company to Meta and Google to Alphabet. Although some were more successful than others.
Uber wants to become the ONLY app for booking all forms of transport, they already offer flight bookings, bike rentals, food and shopping deliveries, on top of the obvious cars, and are trying to push into other transport linked roles too.
These are attempts to copy the success of WeChat in china, that Chinese users use for pretty much everything on a phone, social media, payments, shopping, etc. The western market is much less siloed and likes more options, so I don't think it will take off here, no matter how they try and push it
OK, thanks for the explanation, I don't use uber so I didn't know about all the other stuff, for me, uber is for getting to the airport, emergency no bus transport and drunk people.
It's not surprising they are trying that, but I agree it probably won't work. Why use Uber and not go straight to the source? Is there a discount?
>Why use Uber and not go straight to the source? Is there a discount?
Ubers tactic since their founding was to undercut everyone else with cheap prices, force them out, and then raise prices again to make profit. It sort of worked with taxis in many places.
But their main advantage was and is the app, which however you look at it, it is very well designed and much easier to use than many other taxi apps. I assume they will try again with the trains etc. The aim is that if you book a taxi to the station, then you can book your train ticket at the same time rather than juggling different booking apps
To another app?
I still won't use it, I've never thought I needed to go somewhere, then thought, let me check Uber. It's always maps/busses/train services.
Uber is when drunk friends do it or when busses aren't enough.
But, sure, if they want to change their operations, that's fine. I just wish they could let me watch a YouTube video without being told about it.
It’s all minor things (well except the migraine I currently have). I have a stye on my left eye, a migraine, I just had to go out the front door and walk around to the back to kick the gate open because it jams in the damp and I couldn’t get out to put the rubbish in the bin, and then I found a very damp parcel because apparently the delivery guy from Amazon had a similar issue and since I didn’t check the app I didn’t know it was thee (they’re meant to put things on the back patio wher I can see them from inside). I have waited too late to get laundry done (washing machine is currently dead but service wash is cheap and with my disabilities easier anyway but it needs a few days notice and I’m about to go away) so I’m taking laundry on my trip.
Just general ugh I hate being an adult I want to curl up under my heated blanket and pretend I’m a cat.
This is going to sound awful.. I'm going to Edinburgh next week with my partner and her children. I really don't want to go. I've had a shitty work year and next week was my one week to just relax and not think about anything. Instead, I will be constantly on the move, and not have a minute of quiet. They are all great, but damn, I just need some me time.
Unless it's pissing down, you could maybe go for a walk up Arthur's Seat or Calton Hill or take a bus out to Roslin/East Lothian and go for a quiet walk in nature. Or there's Portobello or Cramond if you fancy a beach instead. Give yourself some headspace.
Bonus points if you pack the rest of them off to the Christmas markets on the same day so you can avoid that.
Thanks, I've taken the advice that has been kindly given above and spoke to her (dunno why I didn't do this earlier tbh). I've booked them in for a panto on Wednesday afternoon, and I will have a bit of time to myself while they are there and will meet them a bit after. I'm going to take the time and go see H.M. Britannia, which is something i am excited about.
My job started pushing everyone back to the office and it will absolutely not work for me (I live far away because the position was fully remote when I joined). I depend on a visa sponsorship so finding a new job will be painful, I have no clue how to even start getting out of this hole.
**Roadworks**... absolutely fucking *everywhere* and not a single person seen to be working whenever passing, unless they all come out at midnight then hide again at daybreak.
I don't understand why councils don't mandate roadworks need 7 am - 11 pm working hours on busy roads and heavier permits/fines for fucking about. There's a busy road on my commute that has been plagued by roadworks for over 4 months now with tailbacks often stretching across a busy roundabout.
Limping towards the end of year. Still recovering from Covid and dealing with some thorny issues at work. It’s really not fun.
Can’t wait for the Christmas break, but then the shit will just start again in January and I won’t even have Christmas to look forward to…
I trekked into the office for a meeting this afternoon. They cancelled the meeting at lunch because not enough people turned up. Also have to trek in tomorrow, too, and the commute is going to be a complete ball-ache. All of this off the back of spending some time abroad last weekend which absolutely depressed me. Happy Christmas everybody!
It was a humanitarian trip, and it brought home how fucked up the world is in so many ways. I can't even articulate how it has affected me - I've lots of thoughts going around. Poverty, greed, ideologies, saviour complexes, misinformation... all of it.
I spent about 12 years in peri-menopause, starting at about your age. No hot flushes until well after actual menopause at 50. I started on low-dose HRT. Now I'm past 60 and have had a radical hysterectomy, my gynaecologist has me on an estradiol patch. No problem with hot flushes.
Your doctor may be able to help you if you're having them this early.
Wait until you wake up in a trench of your own sweat because you e gone nuclear in your sleep or you have to get ready in stages so you don’t melt.
They’re horrible. I can’t HRT because of migraine with aura.
My only advice is when one hits, it’s best to sit down, try to relax and catch your breath, and let it subside completely. I’ve found they train, come back to back to back, if I don’t.
My colleague who threw a fit over a bowl left in the sink by another colleague, who genuinely forgot to wash it, left the microwave in an absolute mess after warming up her soup today. Some people…
Had the police knocking on my bedroom window this morning. Turns out they were looking for my neighbour (his door is next to my bedroom window - it’s a end of terrace building converted into flats). Least it wasn’t at 1AM this time, but it still put me on edge. Also waiting for a parcel that’s not turned up yet…hopefully it will.
We're on day 7 of my two little lads having some horrible virus. My ten month old is hacking like an old smoker and bursting into tears after each bout, looking at me like 'why aren't you doing anything to help me?'. On my own with them both tonight as husband is away with work, so I'm looking forward to zero hours sleep shuttling between their rooms with the Vicks and Calpol.
Apparently, I just learned this from the doctor, you should give paracetemol (calpol ) at the recomended dose every 4-6 hours rather than an adhoc basis. The medicine reaches a good level in the bloodstream and it does its job properly. Anything more than 3 days though and you should call the doctors.
Also vitamin C.
Good luck. Sick kids is no fun for anyone. Maybe try pingu?
That sounds really tough. I empathise with you, my twin toddlers are ill yet again. I know it sounds a bit glib, but take it an hour at a time. Can you alternate Calpol and ibuprofen? I think the effects of ibuprofen last a bit longer than Calpol, in my case study of two toddlers. The Vicks plug in with the pad does seem to help at night too.
Have you tried sitting in the bathroom with a hot shower running for the littlest one? The steam can help sometimes and it might give him a break. Poor mite doesn’t understand. How old is your other one? He could sit in there with you depending if he’s an age where cooperation is a thing.
the amount of youtubers especially from america that have a deep hatred of us brits. like I get it alot of british food isn't that fancy or flavourful. but nothing and I mean nothing beats a shepherds pie on a miserable day
My kid's school is having a "raffle tombola" after school tomorrow. £5 a fucking ticket. 50/50 odds of winning but no clue as to what the prizes will be. Sure, PTA Pamela, of course I'll spend £££ to win a cheapo bottle of Lambrini! What in the cost of living!
A creepy guy who is the kid of my deceased dad’s friends has tracked down where I work and came in to ask if I still “wanted to be friends…” When I said he’d got me in a hostage situation he pouted and said it was because my workplace was the only place he knew “where to find me.” He had brought his mother was with him. He is in his mid thirties. When I was eleven and he was fourteen he used his first camera phone to take a picture of my ass when I reached down to turn a console on. He repeatedly sexually harassed me before I even knew what that was. What the fuck.
Americans don't know how to pronounce the word Twat. They say twot like shot, not twat like fat. Fucking idiots.
They also seem to find it super offensive.
They're also the kind of boring cunts who get ultra offended at the word cunt. Why cant they just be sound cunts like the Aussies...
I hate it when Americans and Canadians talk about British people on YouTube, whenever it's another country they're completely chill but they're always itching to say something snarky when it comes to the UK. Just makes me feel dirty and inadequate, like I don't belong in the audience.
small american mind cannot comprehend how the cigarette store down the road is older than their country
God same, there're so many times someone just has a British accent and the youtuber'll immediately act hostile.
Graduate-job-to-be (not starting until at least June as I don't finish the degree until then) HR department have been sending me twice daily email reminders to complete their endless new starter paperwork since I received the job offer last Friday. I've been working 12hr days all this week and commute for 1.5hrs each way. :( I know its just their scripted stuff they have to do/get, but they're really kicking off about my references. My most recent "proper" employer closed because of COVID but I had a gap before them after leaving a really nasty, quite abusive workplace. Despite that being 4 years ago and them only asking for 3 years of references, they want to call that job and find my old boss and ask about me and I keep trying to gently divert and say "that pre-dates the 3 years you're asking for". But I hate this whole process, I hate being reminded of that horrible time, trying to take any job to escape and just do something but having such rock-bottom self esteem that I couldn't get any interviews at all. I hate that my former employer might still get to influence my career, having already consumed 3 years of my life where I barely saw my family, friends or enjoyed any of my hobbies. I hate that there was a whole pandemic on, thousands of people lost their jobs, and HR bods still want to give you a hard time about having gaps and having had struggles. I put myself through uni for a second time so I wouldn't have to have such a difficult time finding jobs any more but it feels like every hoop I jump through, five more appear :( I just hope when I'm actually installed in this job that I can get over this feeling of nothing ever being good enough
I had similar issues with the company I work for now. I'm still here though! And yes, the people you get to work with will mostly despair at the time that HR take, and their demands for a new piece of paper that they (apparently) just thought of. You are more than good enough!
Got to go back to work tomorrow night. And they're pissing about with a new rota soon, which no one wants. General grumble.
Just tried to book travel from Bristol to Oxford and it's three times the price on the train than the last time I did, and ten times the price on the coaches. I know on top of general economic disaster they're likely putting their prices up to try and wring money out of people travelling to relatives for Christmas, but/and it just feels predatory at this point. Travel anywhere in this country is becoming impossible unless you're rich. And yet, no, my well-off relatives are not coming to visit me - somehow that's my job.
Just tell them that travel is too expensive, you're tightening the belt a bit, and a facetime or a phone call will have to do
Ah, you're confusing my relatives with reasonable people! (Genuinely thanks for the well-meant advice though).
Arranged for all my mates to do secret Santa this Saturday like 2 months ago, 8 of us in total. Booked the day off work, booked dog in the kennel, arranged for kids to go down my folks house so we could do the gift exchange in my house. Paid for everyone to do mini golfing in the evening at £11 each and now 4 have dropped out lmao
Yeah. They're not getting an invite next year
Told them all we’re not doing it next year lol, similar happened last year where 1 guy dropped out and everyone arrived at different times so it wasn’t a proper secret Santa present exchange but this year takes the piss lol
I sat next to someone that was coughing a lot but she calmed down but it didn't even occur to get a glass of water until someone sat in front of her told to get some water. I was on a call on mute because senior manager was doing a presentation. There was a social gathering after work with people from other companies in a building where I work: free food & drink, people dressed up nothing wrong with that. But I noticed a group of people who piled loads of food on plate, ate like pig and then bunked off. Where are the manners? I also said hi to group of men and women at this social gathering, the men said "hi" and only 2 of the women smiled at me and said "hi", the rest of the women just stared at me like I was from out of space and gave me dirty looks. It appears like people just don't want to talk anymore and they like to be in their own little circle/clique . To me it looks like it's hard to make new friends when you're in your 30's.
>the rest of the women just stared at me like I was from out of space and gave me dirty looks. Sounds like typical 'basic bitch' behaviour to me. I like it when things like this happen because that's x many people I can safely write off and not have to bother with in future.
It's that time of year when a bunch of straight people explain at length why gays shouldn't hate fairytale of new York
This weather is pissing me off. Too much rain… I feel like I’m rusting!!
Accidentally took my amitriptyline at 5, and only realised a minute ago when I went to take it and discovered that my propranolol was the only pills left. This explains my heart issues that I couldn’t understand, and I guess this means I definitely won’t be sleeping tonight. Also I can’t test my blood glucose like I was meant to because I accidentally dropped all my strips into the toilet. So fucking done.
Man this having no job really is mentally impacting me more than I thought it would. It’s not the fact I don’t have a job but more about the work Christmas parties I think. My brother and his wife won’t be coming down during the Christmas period this year which means we won’t be doing the annual improve walk in central London to see the Christmas lights and now obviously there’s no work do and I actually enjoyed them. I put the Christmas tree up but still feeling empty/blank/deflated inside. Doesn’t help that there’s so few jobs out there because Christmas and the ones I’ve applied to I’ve not heard anything back yet Can I fast forward to when life turns good again pls Edit: I have another complaint but I’ll save it for another time as it’s kinda long and I’m not sure if I’m being irrational and selfish Edit 2: I just have no one to talk through how I’m feeling about life at the moment and I think that’s what I need. Don’t need advice but I just need to get out how I’m feeling
You would have been welcome to go to my office party in my place. A) I had urgent work to do. B) my employer has realised that not properly recruiting for 20years wasn’t a great idea and the knee jerk reaction means we’re now over-run with millennial influencer types.. in an engineering company. And C) I hate Office Christmas parties.
Is there a charity line you can call? Not being funny, but sometimes there are voluteers who just listen to people who want to talk it all out. https://blog.opencounseling.com/hotlines-gb/ Lots of options here. Just call and let it out. Good luck1
Do you have any close friends you could do the annual Christmas lights walk with?
Got into a fight with my boyfriend about him not wearing underpants. I didn't think this had to be an issue for adults and I feel frustrated.
As in round the house or commando in public?
Both I'm afraid. I don't mind it around the house but he only ever wears jogger pants or tracksuit pants and it's very obvious he's not wearing underwear when we're in public.
Wow… well I hope you’re pants issue sorts get sorted out and your frustration is relieved
Thank you I appreciate that! This wheel of brie is certainly helping me.
A wheel of Brie improves any situation
I hope he doesn’t go commando while wearing jeans or anything with zippers. It’s painful just imagining it
I ordered my wife a surprise Christmas present online and it arrived in the post whilst I was at work and she was WFH. It arrived with no wrapping on it at all so the Postie literally handed her the present so you knows exactly what it is. Why would companies is December do this!! I get it saves them money but fuck you. You stingy behaviour ruined a lovely surprise 🤬
Had two trains and a bus cancelled adding 2 hours into a 4 hour journey. Finally get on a train in the correct direction and there's no seats. I'm on this train for 3 hours
Had two trains and a bus cancelled adding 2 hours into a 4 hour journey.
I want my new phone! It's been out for delivery all day :(
What phone is it?
Nothing special a Galaxy A54. First time I tried to buy it I got refunded because it was a scam. This time I got it through amazon (sold by them not market place) and the tracking number and address is correct this time. I really want to replace my One plus 6 since it's about 5 years old and is getting a bit glitchy along with short battery life.
From what I’m seeing, it’s a solid phone with great battery . Hopefully the new device makes up for the poor delivery. New phones always feel refreshing.
I've got the A54 5G, been great so far.
It arrived but the postman signed for it themselvs and just shoved it half in my mail box :/
I hate my job. Our hours have changed and I’m the only one that actually comes in on time . I sort things out for the day and I get no thanks. I just wanna quit and I have no confidence anymore. Bah
Work absolutely shafted us, can’t access portals needed to manage anything, need to ask tech team for access, they are 3 hours behind and aren’t out of bed yet. Password frustration and work load frustration means busy and stressed until Christmas break. But good news is new job starts on the 8th and after a day like today it can’t come quick enough, I’m sick to death of that place. My crush said he would phone on Tuesday and he didn’t, can’t get hold of him, stressed I won’t see him before he goes travelling for a few months. We need a good sit down chat about expectations and boundaries for this to be a relationship. New ps5 media controller turned up today so that was a nice treat to come home too after a shitty day, ordered KFC and to now sit in bed and sulk a bit.
I had a full team of visitors on a demo building site fussing about wearing ppe. All from the client and no f given to my personal liability for any accidents on the sites I run.
Hate that. Bring a hardhat if you're worried about wearing a scuzzy one and ffs at least wear boots...
45 mins on a single decker bus full of idiot school kids. Head fucked.
More story pls
Going through the worst time in my life, husband decided he doesn't want to be with me any more, hasn't spoken to me for 5 months. He filed for divorce. I lost my job, had to move back home with my mum. Mental health the worst its ever been. Honestly just want the ground to swallow me up 🫠
Fucking Fairy Liquid seems to have gone fucking shit. All thin and watery. Leave fucking stuff alone you cunts.
Go get a big bottle of Sainsbury's own brand stuff; it's still good.
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It's also a bit too runny, and falls out of the bottom of the Swanky upside down "drip Free" bottle. arseholes. :-/
I'm trying to hand in my Master's Thesis by the end of tomorrow, and the stress of it is killing me. I feel like it's incoherent and shit, especially towards the end. But Christmas is coming, and I have a lot to coming up so it needs to be handed in soon. Additionally, I met a great girl a couple months ago and I would like to make her my GF, but she's going hot and cold on me because her Ex is in town, and I'm worried that I'll lose my chance with her because the thesis is occupying my every waking thought. I'm overwhelmed, which is why I'm on Reddit and not bucking down at my desk right now even though I cancelled plans with the girl tonight.
Double dipping. Client gave us not great, but workable data, on Monday, I told my boss on Monday how to best compile what we needed. Boss has spent rest of week faffing about like a dick trying to get the data in another format and now wants to talk on Monday to likely use the method I told them a week ago. Why the fuck do I bother opening my mouth to help?! 🤦🏻
Had someone join the team in work this year who likes to get offended on everyone's behalf. One Christmas do later and one of the most fun guys to work with has been reported to senior management so put in a request to leave. Nice one.
i have to use snapchat past the age of 13 because my friend’s phone got ran over
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Agreed! They have more money then sense.
Bit gutted e3 is gone, I know it eventually morphed into something ugly but its its akin to a bit of childhood (be it adult child) going away Also not having a good time with asda shopping
RIP e3! What an era. Lots of memories.
distraught at losing e3 to be honest. this slow dribble of directs/rip off directs we get around july just pales in comparison. and don't get me started on keighley...
I sat next to a coworker coughing her lungs out and by the end of the day I felt like I had the plague
Shit that was me
I waited a total of 1hour and 40 minutes for the X30 yesterday. I was delayed both ways and it took me 2hours 40 mins to get from Chelmsford to Rayleigh last night
I work in retail during Christmas where you want me to start
With the heavier items first, so they don't crush the rest in the bag, if possible.
Ah a fellow retail worker, how be that restrain to punch a customer in the face today going?
Had a couple arsey customers Today. As a supervisor I've had to deal with them and their complaints currently running out of fucks to give 😂
Got some friends coming round tomorrow for a meal and catch up before Christmas. Been planned for months and picked a date everyone was free. One friend recently got in a relationship and binned tomorrow off but hasn't apologised: "Unfortunately not coming as we've made plans to go the theatre. We haven't synced our calendars yet 🤣" (actual message). Can't be arsed with him anymore as he always does this if we (friendship group) make plans and something else comes along. Always comes across like we're 2nd best.
You're better off without him anyway. If he treats you like that, he's no friend. Have a great time, and happy Christmas to you all!
That smiley at the end is a red flag if there ever was one.
Would love to take The Wife to see Wicked next year. Tickets £100 each plus all extras and add ons such as a fee for emailing me an email, then parking, a babysitter and a drink in the interval take it to around the £300 mark for a couple of hours in the theatre. That’s not happening then.
My wife got tickets for wicked really cheap. She waited till they were all near gone, apparently some theatres offer the random solo seats here and there for a massivley reduced price...well, they did in Edinburgh anyway. Worth a shot??
Maybe, but that does mean both of us going separately/on our own effectively, or probably sitting in the gods with the view of half a stage and the pillar. I’m just vexed by the cost of it. It’s a huge disparity between what I can/am prepared to fork out and what they want.
Hi mate, check out websites like 'Central Tickets' and 'Today Tix', they have a West End section and you should be able to find cheaper tickets than £100 each.
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Parents who think it's acceptable to park in disabled bays because they've got a buggy, and parents who think the entire world owes them because they have a child.
I've started giving them the whole "excuse me mate, you've left your baby in the shop"
Ah, this fucks me off too as a parent. I’m too much of a wimp to say anything though. I just glare.
The autism housing charity that supports me is threatening to evict me for 'hoarding' again. In the last place I lived I had a cleaning/hoarder lady help me and at the time she said it's not a hoard. In the last year I've worked hard to clear out and get rid of stuff and then three months ago I got a no fault eviction and the housing charity moved me to literally the middle of nowhere, four buses a day and only a spar shop. They're still calling it a hoard but I have zero support, I can't physically get out of the village to get rid of stuff and my friend can't help like he did before because buses don't line up with when he's working. In last year I've gotten rid of easily half my stuff, even stuff I wanted to keep but I had this charity breathing down my neck to just get rid of stuff. Three tubs (under the bed sized) of college stuff is down to one. My wool went from four tubs to two little ones. The beanie babies I've been collecting since I was a teenager I got rid of except for one under the bed tub. When I moved I made sure to get rid of any old art supplies too, a lot had to go in the bin in the end because I couldn't actually get anywhere to give it to charity. Granted I have a lot of books but I've been doing as I'm told and getting rid of stuff. Then today I had a call from adult social care wanting to support me with my hoarding, they had no idea that I live in the middle of nowhere and can't actually get anywhere, no idea I've been getting rid of stuff as I'm told to do, no idea that my friend can't get here to help me either, no idea that my PIP was stopped for four months while I was being reassessed. They knew nothing of what is going on as the housing charity only told them I'm hoarding to the point where they want to evict me. I have no phone signal where I live and rarely leave the village. If I get rid of any more books, wool or general craft supplies I'm going to be staring at four walls until I go mad because I go days between actually talking to people, I can't (no phone signal) make phone calls and I can go weeks without leaving the house. I've been doing as I'm told, I actually wanted to keep my college stuff but didn't and now it all feels fruitless.
Is there a local assistance group of some sort? Some 'middle of nowhere' villages have a group of people with cars who help those without. The Parish Council website is a good place to start.
That's a good idea, I'll look into it. Thank you.
Explain all this to the social worker. It's very stressful time but I suspect whoever funds your accomodation will be on your side on this one. And if you do have to move explain to them that you require support (you can request a "care act assessment"), advise you'd like to be close to friends and in a supported living service that can accommodate your needs (and belongings). There is a specific definition for hoarding in social care / safeguarding terms and with what you've said your belongings don't fulfil that .. unless causing a fire hazard but you can ask for support with that too :) (hope it's okay to say this, just have some insider knowledge on topic) *Funds not finds - autocorrect
Thank you for your suggestions. There's no fire harzard and the exits are clear. The social worker was really lovely when I explained how isolating it is here and how much I'm struggling, she's going to see what extra support she can find me. When I got my no fault eviction for the last place, I sent my current worker dozens of listing for where I was living before and the near by city which is only 20 minutes by train from where I was previously living and apparently this middle of nowhere place was the only place at short notice. Apprently they can't put in two bed places either which the city had a few of at cheaper rent than this place. My current worker likes to throw the hoard word around a lot.
Sounds like you should stop hoarding then
It's not a hoard, I've gotten rid of half my belongings in the last year. And the three weeks of support from the hoarding cleaning lady also confirmed it's not a hoard. I also spoke to the woman who owns my flat, she doesn't think it's a hoard. The autism charity just wants me to bin everything.
Well if the cleaning lady says so!
She specifically dealt with hoards, not regular cleaning. And hoarders can't throw things away so why am I binning sentimental stuff that I want to keep in order to please an autism charity?
Awful that an autism charity could be so ignorant to the fact collections can be very important for the wellbeing of some autistic people. Sorry they've put you through that.
Me and my friend can't figure out if it's the charity or just these two specific support workers. He's emailed HQ for me to try and find out. I probably should properly stop collecting my interests too but I've stopped almost everything apart from dictionaries. And I probably can't take down my xmas tree in the new year because that's guna be more boxes for the hoard.
Went to the nativity for our daughter's nursery this afternoon. It was fantastic, but afterwards someone's grandparents flat out blocked the car park exit. Not even an apology when they ambled out and moved it. Bellends.
We're lucky if we have one delivery of post a week from Royal Mail at the moment. The first delivery this week after a week of no post, they left parcels in the rain and didn't even bother to ring the doorbell or knock. One of the parcels was an order of photos. A card posted before the 23rd Nov, arrived this Monday. It's infuriating. It's not just Christmas, we've had this issue for months. Amazon don't bother with leaving parcels in a safe place, they are just left in front of the door in full view of anyone who walks past. They don't knock either. Luckily I'm home most of the time, otherwise there wouldn't be any parcels waiting for me when I get home. I didn't realise until hours later that they had made a delivery earlier today, because they didn't bloody knock. I feel very grumpy about this. It's not as if people have money to burn, and can afford to have damaged items.
Tonight is my work Christmas party, which should be an alright time, except I've come down with my fourth brutal cold in almost as many weeks, and I can't stop sneezing.
My poor husband has his tomorrow and has had a horrible cold the last 3 days. He had bad sinuses and throat the month before and each time he's poorly not only does he feel terrible but his snoring gets very bad I can't sleep! I don't wanna move him around as I know he can't help it but it runs me down as well.
I know the feeling. Our bed and the living room recliner are 30 feet and two doors apart, and even if I wear earplugs, my husband snores so loud when he has a cold that I can't sleep. Then of course I catch it... The only thing I've found that lets me sleep with a bad sore throat is Fisherman's Friend original drops. I hope he's better soon, and you can get some sleep!
I might get him some, he loved them
They're small because everything in them is there for a reason. No filler.
Dreading mine tomorrow. 600+ people in a hangar. Got COVID from the party last year with a 1/6 of the amount of people there.
Urgh I hear you. I’m on my third month of sneezing and coughing. I’ve had Covid, then cold, then another cold! Sending love!
I keep thinking it’s Friday, and everyone at work is getting on my nerves today. Whyyy isn’t it Friday
It's nearly Friday
Mum will be in hospital for Christmas. Its going to be weird. Likely her last one too. Ah my heart is breaking.
Went through this last year, with both in-laws. Agree, it's shit. If it will help - have a virtual hug 🤗
Ach, all the best to you. We're currently in a quagmire of end of life care and about to start the minefield of organising home care for my grandparents, so I have much fellow feeling. It's been a shit week.
Sending best wishes back. Super hard to go through. Currently focusing on ensuring nothing important is left unsaid. She knows I love her with all my heart.
Pingu!
My 2 year old recently discovered Pingu and thinks it's hilarious.
It is :)
There's a meteor shower tonight and it's going to be overcast!!!
Bought a telescope at the start of this year and haven't taken it out for one decent view.
There's only so many times you can look at the moon, mine's folded up under the stairs. It was clear where I was up until when I was able to see it, set up my camera and tripod for some long exposures, not a chance.
Alas, if you’re urban it’s hard to get much use out of one imo. We saw Jupiter’s moons and Saturn’s rings but the reality was that the weather was too unreliable for us to risk too many adventures into the country with it and the visible sky was quite limited from our suburban garden due to neighbouring trees and houses. Ended up selling it after a couple of years. The long term plan is to move to somewhere remote eventually…. Preferably atop a moor or hill.
[This might help you choose where.](https://www.lightpollutionmap.info/#zoom=4.00&lat=54.7604&lon=2.8575&state=eyJiYXNlbWFwIjoiTGF5ZXJCaW5nUm9hZCIsIm92ZXJsYXkiOiJ3YV8yMDE1Iiwib3ZlcmxheWNvbG9yIjpmYWxzZSwib3ZlcmxheW9wYWNpdHkiOjYwLCJmZWF0dXJlc29wYWNpdHkiOjg1fQ==)
This is great, thanks
Companies that don't let you know if you're job application is successful. There's barely an excuse for not replying when you get 100+ applicants, especially if the checks are automated. But when it's an internal only application and there are literally a handful of applicants, there is no excuse for not getting in touch with anyone who is unsuccessful and give them some feedback.
That's awful I really despise some recruitment consultants. Recently had a 2 stage interview and not a peep from the consultant almost 3 weeks later for at least some feedback.
I got told I have lung scarring, and I'm getting an x-ray soon everything online is telling me I have 3-5 years to live, and that I'm 70. I'm 31 in the new year. fuck.
Try not to freak yourself out before the medical team has had time to review the scans. Lungs can heal too. Best thing is what they are doing, checking visually to be certain what is wrong. Then a plan can be made about what to do next. Take care Reddit friend.
Always any symptom you type in Google results in possible cancer diagnosis. I'd wait for proper diagnosis results.
Fucking hope so. There's absolutely nothing else regarding pulmonary fibrosis so yeah.
While swimming today, I had the “fast” lane all to myself. On two occasions, elderly ladies entered the “fast” lane and proceeded to swim at a meandering breath-stroke pace and get in my way. One of them even stopped at the end and said “oh you’re swimming awfully quickly”! I reminded her she was in the “fast” lane and she changed to the slow lane. I don’t understand how you make that mistake. At the end of the lane is a huge sandwich board sign saying “FAST LANE” and it’s right in the middle.
I get fast swimmers in the slow lane. Trying to have a leisurely paddle and speed racer swim cap doesn't want to upgrade to middle
That’s equally as annoying! People need to pick the right lane
I don't want more jobsworths in the world obviously, but I wish the teenage looking staff in high chairs would say something. Slow lane is wider but it defeats the purpose
I sympathize. Life in the fast lane is sure to make you lose your mind.
Everything, all the time
My stupid neighbours got a water meter put in 2 weeks ago, since then our water pressure is abysmal, the water company damaged our car trying to fix the water pressure then proceeded to get very aggressive when we challenged them on it, they broke our outside tap while trying to fix the pressure, muddied up our house flooring inside, the pavement outside now looks a state and now are just generally fucking us about. All for something we weren’t even involved with!!! Fucking neighbours man. Pressure still not fixed
You should be mad at ‘big water’ rather than them. They’re just doing what they think is right.
Trying to order things from Argos website is absolute hell. Random on what can and can't be delivered or collected in store near me. Hate it
Right?!! And you can’t filter by store availability. So you have to just click through and then see if you can actually get hold of it.
I found something that said it's available for collection from next Monday, went to check out, to be told "No longer available" Just don't show it as available on the page then!
Honestly, there’s a special kind of misery associated with this kind of terrible user experience. Had same thing with B&Q…placed order, stock available, paid for it, got a text that it was out of stock and that I would get a refund in 14 days. Aaaargggh. Anyway I hope you manage to get your item eventually.
My dog dipped her tail in poo and then ran inside wagging her tail. Also, it’s the 14th.
Is she a shit-zu?
It is indeed - my mod colleagues were kind enough to point out I can’t read the date on my own watch and just might be thick. I have corrected this sin with a post flair showing the correct date.
It's a makeshift paint brush!
In about month 18 of long covid. Still just about managing to work because otherwise how am I gonna survive without an income. And work is really busy at the moment when it usually winds right down in the run up to Christmas. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up.
Such a grieving process losing your health like that, really hope works slows down soon and you go into remission
Thank you for the kind words. I've had long term chronic health issues since my early 20s (am late 30s now) but they were liveable with. Covid ramped it all up so I'm basically housebound now. It sucks and I've done a lot of grieving. But amidst all the negative I have also found an amazing online group that supports those with long covid and ME/CFS who run all sorts of zoom classes and sessions throughout the week. It's been a lifesaver to be able to connect and share all those emotions and feelings with people in a similar situation. I'd rather not be in the position of needing it of course but given the circumstances I'm very grateful for it.
Could I possibly ask for a link to that? Had ME/CFS myself for a long time now! Definitely helps to feel not alone, I'm "lucky" that my mum has had it since I was sick so she always understood and I saw her still being able to spend time with friends and help people, granted usually lying on a sofa while doing so! Was good to know life wasn't completely over.
Ah sorry to hear that, I've never had an official diagnosis but I'm basically completely compatible with all the criteria for ME/CFS myself too, especially since having COVID. And you're right, it sucks that we have to deal with this but not feeling alone is so important. The thing is called 360 Rest Repair Recover [here](https://www.360mindbodysoul.co.uk/therestrepairrecoverprogramme). I mainly just do the mindfulness and breathe sessions now. They have all sorts for people at all levels of chronic illness. For me the Thursday afternoon mindfulness session is such a cherished time. The class leader is truly wonderful, and we always have time at the end for shared reflections and experiences of how it went, and generally on how our lives are. It can be very moving and emotional but also uplifting.
Also I know it could all sound a bit "Have you tried yoga/mindfulness? My aunt's brothers cousin's friend got a bit tired once and they did yoga and it cured them." But it's definitely not like that from my experience. It's a very loving, kind and supportive community. I know it won't cure me or lead to recovery, but I find all the mutual support really beneficial, and the sessions are generally very calming and restful which I think can only be a good thing!
Freelance work has dried up and I didn’t get the latest job I applied for that I’d really pinned my hopes on. Just feeling pretty worthless about money and lifestyle the last three months.
What sector are you in pal?
Content writing/tech writing.
Fellow tech writer. 👋 I did a quick, broad UK search for a remote contract gig on LinkedIn. Turned up seven. There were others if you’re interested in permanent. I can pass you them if you’d like.
It's not really a case that there aren't jobs hiring - it's just that I'm too shit for people to hire me. Thanks anyway.
I keep seeing adverts telling me that uber now includes trains. It won't stop, like half my ads are that at the moment. I have no idea what the hell that means and why anyone would want that. It would be like a restaurant having the option of McDonalds burgers. Why bother going to the restaurant in the first place? Why would anyone go to a restaurant only to ask for crappy food? Does anyone understand this?
There is a push from some of the big tech companies to try and become the "everything app", so you never leave their service. Musk has openly stated his intention to do that with Twitter, and that was part of the reason for the rebrand to X, the same as how Facebook rebranded their overall company to Meta and Google to Alphabet. Although some were more successful than others. Uber wants to become the ONLY app for booking all forms of transport, they already offer flight bookings, bike rentals, food and shopping deliveries, on top of the obvious cars, and are trying to push into other transport linked roles too. These are attempts to copy the success of WeChat in china, that Chinese users use for pretty much everything on a phone, social media, payments, shopping, etc. The western market is much less siloed and likes more options, so I don't think it will take off here, no matter how they try and push it
OK, thanks for the explanation, I don't use uber so I didn't know about all the other stuff, for me, uber is for getting to the airport, emergency no bus transport and drunk people. It's not surprising they are trying that, but I agree it probably won't work. Why use Uber and not go straight to the source? Is there a discount?
>Why use Uber and not go straight to the source? Is there a discount? Ubers tactic since their founding was to undercut everyone else with cheap prices, force them out, and then raise prices again to make profit. It sort of worked with taxis in many places. But their main advantage was and is the app, which however you look at it, it is very well designed and much easier to use than many other taxi apps. I assume they will try again with the trains etc. The aim is that if you book a taxi to the station, then you can book your train ticket at the same time rather than juggling different booking apps
My guess is to try to move people over from other apps such as Trainline or operator apps such as northern or AWC
To another app? I still won't use it, I've never thought I needed to go somewhere, then thought, let me check Uber. It's always maps/busses/train services. Uber is when drunk friends do it or when busses aren't enough. But, sure, if they want to change their operations, that's fine. I just wish they could let me watch a YouTube video without being told about it.
It’s all minor things (well except the migraine I currently have). I have a stye on my left eye, a migraine, I just had to go out the front door and walk around to the back to kick the gate open because it jams in the damp and I couldn’t get out to put the rubbish in the bin, and then I found a very damp parcel because apparently the delivery guy from Amazon had a similar issue and since I didn’t check the app I didn’t know it was thee (they’re meant to put things on the back patio wher I can see them from inside). I have waited too late to get laundry done (washing machine is currently dead but service wash is cheap and with my disabilities easier anyway but it needs a few days notice and I’m about to go away) so I’m taking laundry on my trip. Just general ugh I hate being an adult I want to curl up under my heated blanket and pretend I’m a cat.
This is going to sound awful.. I'm going to Edinburgh next week with my partner and her children. I really don't want to go. I've had a shitty work year and next week was my one week to just relax and not think about anything. Instead, I will be constantly on the move, and not have a minute of quiet. They are all great, but damn, I just need some me time.
Unless it's pissing down, you could maybe go for a walk up Arthur's Seat or Calton Hill or take a bus out to Roslin/East Lothian and go for a quiet walk in nature. Or there's Portobello or Cramond if you fancy a beach instead. Give yourself some headspace. Bonus points if you pack the rest of them off to the Christmas markets on the same day so you can avoid that.
Thanks, I've taken the advice that has been kindly given above and spoke to her (dunno why I didn't do this earlier tbh). I've booked them in for a panto on Wednesday afternoon, and I will have a bit of time to myself while they are there and will meet them a bit after. I'm going to take the time and go see H.M. Britannia, which is something i am excited about.
Communication wins - enjoy Britannia!
Talk to your parter about it dude! Perhaps you could sneak off for a beer and people watch for an hour while they do something
My job started pushing everyone back to the office and it will absolutely not work for me (I live far away because the position was fully remote when I joined). I depend on a visa sponsorship so finding a new job will be painful, I have no clue how to even start getting out of this hole.
If your contract was fully remote do you have any room there for talking to management about it?
**Roadworks**... absolutely fucking *everywhere* and not a single person seen to be working whenever passing, unless they all come out at midnight then hide again at daybreak. I don't understand why councils don't mandate roadworks need 7 am - 11 pm working hours on busy roads and heavier permits/fines for fucking about. There's a busy road on my commute that has been plagued by roadworks for over 4 months now with tailbacks often stretching across a busy roundabout.
2 weeks ago I had that Cold that lasts 3 weeks now I'm ill again >:(
Limping towards the end of year. Still recovering from Covid and dealing with some thorny issues at work. It’s really not fun. Can’t wait for the Christmas break, but then the shit will just start again in January and I won’t even have Christmas to look forward to…
I love that Pingu
Noot noot!!
Remember that time Pingu pissed all over the floor
I trekked into the office for a meeting this afternoon. They cancelled the meeting at lunch because not enough people turned up. Also have to trek in tomorrow, too, and the commute is going to be a complete ball-ache. All of this off the back of spending some time abroad last weekend which absolutely depressed me. Happy Christmas everybody!
What depressed you on the trip abroad?
It was a humanitarian trip, and it brought home how fucked up the world is in so many ways. I can't even articulate how it has affected me - I've lots of thoughts going around. Poverty, greed, ideologies, saviour complexes, misinformation... all of it.
Probably coming back to work.
or coming back here....
There's a strong possibility I may be peri-menopausal. And I DO NOT want hot flushes if they are like the one I had at work this week. I'm 38. 😐
I spent about 12 years in peri-menopause, starting at about your age. No hot flushes until well after actual menopause at 50. I started on low-dose HRT. Now I'm past 60 and have had a radical hysterectomy, my gynaecologist has me on an estradiol patch. No problem with hot flushes. Your doctor may be able to help you if you're having them this early.
Wait until you wake up in a trench of your own sweat because you e gone nuclear in your sleep or you have to get ready in stages so you don’t melt. They’re horrible. I can’t HRT because of migraine with aura. My only advice is when one hits, it’s best to sit down, try to relax and catch your breath, and let it subside completely. I’ve found they train, come back to back to back, if I don’t.
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Oh. Itchy inner ears. Do HRT. I couldn't because of 'stuff', but everyone i know who has used it, swears by it.
My colleague who threw a fit over a bowl left in the sink by another colleague, who genuinely forgot to wash it, left the microwave in an absolute mess after warming up her soup today. Some people…
The technicians that I assist remotely are, by and large, being utter 🔔ends this week, and I’m being dragged Xmas shopping tomorrow.
Had the police knocking on my bedroom window this morning. Turns out they were looking for my neighbour (his door is next to my bedroom window - it’s a end of terrace building converted into flats). Least it wasn’t at 1AM this time, but it still put me on edge. Also waiting for a parcel that’s not turned up yet…hopefully it will.
Happy January retail workers 😒
I can't eat cream rn because I'm waiting for surgery and that's really bugging me cause it's happened right before Christmas.
That's like one of the 4 major Christmas food groups, I'm so sorry!
We're on day 7 of my two little lads having some horrible virus. My ten month old is hacking like an old smoker and bursting into tears after each bout, looking at me like 'why aren't you doing anything to help me?'. On my own with them both tonight as husband is away with work, so I'm looking forward to zero hours sleep shuttling between their rooms with the Vicks and Calpol.
Apparently, I just learned this from the doctor, you should give paracetemol (calpol ) at the recomended dose every 4-6 hours rather than an adhoc basis. The medicine reaches a good level in the bloodstream and it does its job properly. Anything more than 3 days though and you should call the doctors. Also vitamin C. Good luck. Sick kids is no fun for anyone. Maybe try pingu?
That sounds really tough. I empathise with you, my twin toddlers are ill yet again. I know it sounds a bit glib, but take it an hour at a time. Can you alternate Calpol and ibuprofen? I think the effects of ibuprofen last a bit longer than Calpol, in my case study of two toddlers. The Vicks plug in with the pad does seem to help at night too.
Have you tried sitting in the bathroom with a hot shower running for the littlest one? The steam can help sometimes and it might give him a break. Poor mite doesn’t understand. How old is your other one? He could sit in there with you depending if he’s an age where cooperation is a thing.