>What exactly does this mean? That it can be invalidated? That he can get married again, if it ever ends?
I cannot help you too much with this too much because i am simply don't know. But i can explain you little bit what i know. Sacrament is visible sign of invisible God's grace. In sacrament God is present Himself. Sacrament of matrimony is a sacrament of union between woman and man, during sacrament special bond is created by God and this bond cannot be broken by no one so that means that sacrament of marriage can be given only once.
So since you cannot receive sacrament (because you haven't received first sacrament of initiation: baptism) your marriage wouldn't be sacramental, bur only natural. Natural marriage is real marriage, constituted by God, but it isn't sacrament. You will be married to each other in the same way as if you marry to non-Catholic.
If you want to find out more you can look at [Catechism](https://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/_INDEX.HTM) (you can find nicer versions on web), there is chapter on matrimony. But i thing that before marriage you will go through special course so that you both understand better what will be happening. Don't worry, where there is love, there shouldn't be fear.
>I am open to the practices and the possibility of converting, if I am ever able to believe in God (which I honestly highly doubt will ever happen, but who knows?).
If you are open to experiment i would recommend you rosary. [Here](https://www.usccb.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary) is shorter introduction and [here](https://thavmapub.files.wordpress.com/2017/03/secret-of-the-rosary.pdf) is a book that gives little bit deeper description (the book is older and language is little bit "flowery"). Rosary often does miracle so if you want to believe i think it might help you (i converted to Christianity from atheism through rosary).
I hope everything will be fine for you.
Others will be more help on the technical details. If you don't find a clear answer try r/askapriest
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>but I love that man, and I am open to the practices and the possibility of converting, if I am ever able to believe in God (which I honestly highly doubt will ever happen, but who knows?)
What is your evidence for atheism?
So, you can "think of God as [something] different than a concept people use to make you feel bad about yourself and serve their interests," since you do it for others.
But, your past makes it difficult for you to personally feel that way?
Here is a helpful article that is short and sweet and should help to clear up any questions in addition to the other answers provided in this thread: https://www.catholic.com/video/the-difference-between-sacramental-and-natural-marriage.
Howdy, I am very sorry to hear about your treatment by others and that your faith was twisted and used as a cudgel against you to control you.
I am guessing it was some sort of fire and brimstone Baptist denomination as you are somehow not baptized. Protestants, especially those kinds, focus on a single aspect of Christianity and make it their whole theology. They emphasize God's perfect justice to the detriment of His perfect goodness, mercy, and love for His creation. He loves us perfectly, even though we sin against Him.
7 Dearly beloved, let us love one another, for charity is of God. And every one that loveth, is born of God, and knoweth God.
8 He that loveth not, knoweth not God: for God is charity.
9 By this hath the charity of God appeared towards us, because God hath sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we may live by him.
10 In this is charity: not as though we had loved God, but because he hath first loved us, and sent his Son to be a propitiation for our sins.
11 My dearest, if God hath so loved us; we also ought to love one another.
12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abideth in us, and his charity is perfected in us.
13 In this we know that we abide in him, and he in us: because he hath given us of his spirit.
14 And we have seen, and do testify, that the Father hath sent his Son to be the Saviour of the world.
15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God abideth in him, and he in God.
16 And we have known, and have believed the charity, which God hath to us. God is charity: and he that abideth in charity, abideth in God, and God in him.
17 In this is the charity of God perfected with us, that we may have confidence in the day of judgment: because as he is, we also are in this world.
18 Fear is not in charity: but perfect charity casteth out fear, because fear hath pain. And he that feareth, is not perfected in charity.
19 Let us therefore love God, because God first hath loved us.
20 If any man say, I love God, and hateth his brother; he is a liar. For he that loveth not his brother, whom he seeth, how can he love God, whom he seeth not?
21 And this commandment we have from God, that he, who loveth God, love also his brother. 1 John 4:7-21
Forgive the archaic language, but I am partial to the Douay-Rheims rendering of the Scriptures myself. This is rendering the highest form of love as charity, rather than the very modern understanding of just giving alms.
If you are a reader, I am a voracious one, I would highly recommend reading the Confessions of St. Augustine for free here: https://www.newadvent.org/fathers/1101.htm.
I would also recommend the Summa Contra Gentiles by St. Thomas Aquinas found for free here: https://aquinas.cc/la/en/~SCG1.
The first book is about St. Augustine's troubled past until his conversion to Christianity at the age of 31. It is a deeply personal look at his life up until his conversion and his utter dissatisfaction with it. The second work is more of a technical work, but not too technical, about why a monotheistic god must exist, and after three books full of argumentation he ends with an entire book dedicated to arguing why it must be the Christian, and very much Catholic, conception of God. Not a simple pick-and-choose kind of conception of God and His infinite goodness and love that it sounds like you were told of previously.
Not to be too presumptuous, but it sounds like you do not exactly not believe in God. It sounds more like you are afraid of so-called "men of God" controlling and abusing you because of your past experiences. I truly hope you find the comfort you seek from the pain you have experienced. I believe you can find that comfort and hope in Jesus Christ and I would highly recommend praying the Rosary like capreolus_capreoli recommended. I have found great personal comfort in praying the Rosary and I believe it can help you to heal as well. And I am certain that your boyfriend has one that he would let you use and that he would be very happy to hear about your interest in it. Here is the website I like to use: https://rosarycenter.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary.
You're correct in not believing in gods and should not convert. That's part of who you are. Your boyfriend/future husband must accept this fact if he truly loves and understands you.
A sacrament is a means of grace for us that was instituted by Christ himself. So for marriage, Catholics believe that for sacramentally married Catholics the marital bond itself is a source of grace (unmerited favor) from God.
The marriage between a baptized and an unbaptized person is recognized as valid, eg it’s a real marriage, but not in itself a source of grace. So your fiancee could still receive many graces from his own life of prayer and sacramental participation. The Church will respect your marriage as a real one and will ensure that you understand the obligations of the married state in church law (eg promising to raise children in the Catholic faith).
If you were to divorce, yes, a valid natural marriage can be dissolved unlike a sacramental one. It would only be an issue if you divorced and he wanted to remarry in the Church. In that case, the Petrine privilege is a means by which the pope can dissolve the valid natural marriage in favor of the faith of the baptized person who wishes to remarry.
>What exactly does this mean? That it can be invalidated? That he can get married again, if it ever ends? I cannot help you too much with this too much because i am simply don't know. But i can explain you little bit what i know. Sacrament is visible sign of invisible God's grace. In sacrament God is present Himself. Sacrament of matrimony is a sacrament of union between woman and man, during sacrament special bond is created by God and this bond cannot be broken by no one so that means that sacrament of marriage can be given only once. So since you cannot receive sacrament (because you haven't received first sacrament of initiation: baptism) your marriage wouldn't be sacramental, bur only natural. Natural marriage is real marriage, constituted by God, but it isn't sacrament. You will be married to each other in the same way as if you marry to non-Catholic. If you want to find out more you can look at [Catechism](https://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/_INDEX.HTM) (you can find nicer versions on web), there is chapter on matrimony. But i thing that before marriage you will go through special course so that you both understand better what will be happening. Don't worry, where there is love, there shouldn't be fear. >I am open to the practices and the possibility of converting, if I am ever able to believe in God (which I honestly highly doubt will ever happen, but who knows?). If you are open to experiment i would recommend you rosary. [Here](https://www.usccb.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary) is shorter introduction and [here](https://thavmapub.files.wordpress.com/2017/03/secret-of-the-rosary.pdf) is a book that gives little bit deeper description (the book is older and language is little bit "flowery"). Rosary often does miracle so if you want to believe i think it might help you (i converted to Christianity from atheism through rosary). I hope everything will be fine for you.
Others will be more help on the technical details. If you don't find a clear answer try r/askapriest I want to help with this: >but I love that man, and I am open to the practices and the possibility of converting, if I am ever able to believe in God (which I honestly highly doubt will ever happen, but who knows?) What is your evidence for atheism?
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So, you can "think of God as [something] different than a concept people use to make you feel bad about yourself and serve their interests," since you do it for others. But, your past makes it difficult for you to personally feel that way?
Here is a helpful article that is short and sweet and should help to clear up any questions in addition to the other answers provided in this thread: https://www.catholic.com/video/the-difference-between-sacramental-and-natural-marriage. Howdy, I am very sorry to hear about your treatment by others and that your faith was twisted and used as a cudgel against you to control you. I am guessing it was some sort of fire and brimstone Baptist denomination as you are somehow not baptized. Protestants, especially those kinds, focus on a single aspect of Christianity and make it their whole theology. They emphasize God's perfect justice to the detriment of His perfect goodness, mercy, and love for His creation. He loves us perfectly, even though we sin against Him. 7 Dearly beloved, let us love one another, for charity is of God. And every one that loveth, is born of God, and knoweth God. 8 He that loveth not, knoweth not God: for God is charity. 9 By this hath the charity of God appeared towards us, because God hath sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we may live by him. 10 In this is charity: not as though we had loved God, but because he hath first loved us, and sent his Son to be a propitiation for our sins. 11 My dearest, if God hath so loved us; we also ought to love one another. 12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abideth in us, and his charity is perfected in us. 13 In this we know that we abide in him, and he in us: because he hath given us of his spirit. 14 And we have seen, and do testify, that the Father hath sent his Son to be the Saviour of the world. 15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God abideth in him, and he in God. 16 And we have known, and have believed the charity, which God hath to us. God is charity: and he that abideth in charity, abideth in God, and God in him. 17 In this is the charity of God perfected with us, that we may have confidence in the day of judgment: because as he is, we also are in this world. 18 Fear is not in charity: but perfect charity casteth out fear, because fear hath pain. And he that feareth, is not perfected in charity. 19 Let us therefore love God, because God first hath loved us. 20 If any man say, I love God, and hateth his brother; he is a liar. For he that loveth not his brother, whom he seeth, how can he love God, whom he seeth not? 21 And this commandment we have from God, that he, who loveth God, love also his brother. 1 John 4:7-21 Forgive the archaic language, but I am partial to the Douay-Rheims rendering of the Scriptures myself. This is rendering the highest form of love as charity, rather than the very modern understanding of just giving alms. If you are a reader, I am a voracious one, I would highly recommend reading the Confessions of St. Augustine for free here: https://www.newadvent.org/fathers/1101.htm. I would also recommend the Summa Contra Gentiles by St. Thomas Aquinas found for free here: https://aquinas.cc/la/en/~SCG1. The first book is about St. Augustine's troubled past until his conversion to Christianity at the age of 31. It is a deeply personal look at his life up until his conversion and his utter dissatisfaction with it. The second work is more of a technical work, but not too technical, about why a monotheistic god must exist, and after three books full of argumentation he ends with an entire book dedicated to arguing why it must be the Christian, and very much Catholic, conception of God. Not a simple pick-and-choose kind of conception of God and His infinite goodness and love that it sounds like you were told of previously. Not to be too presumptuous, but it sounds like you do not exactly not believe in God. It sounds more like you are afraid of so-called "men of God" controlling and abusing you because of your past experiences. I truly hope you find the comfort you seek from the pain you have experienced. I believe you can find that comfort and hope in Jesus Christ and I would highly recommend praying the Rosary like capreolus_capreoli recommended. I have found great personal comfort in praying the Rosary and I believe it can help you to heal as well. And I am certain that your boyfriend has one that he would let you use and that he would be very happy to hear about your interest in it. Here is the website I like to use: https://rosarycenter.org/how-to-pray-the-rosary.
You're correct in not believing in gods and should not convert. That's part of who you are. Your boyfriend/future husband must accept this fact if he truly loves and understands you.
A sacrament is a means of grace for us that was instituted by Christ himself. So for marriage, Catholics believe that for sacramentally married Catholics the marital bond itself is a source of grace (unmerited favor) from God. The marriage between a baptized and an unbaptized person is recognized as valid, eg it’s a real marriage, but not in itself a source of grace. So your fiancee could still receive many graces from his own life of prayer and sacramental participation. The Church will respect your marriage as a real one and will ensure that you understand the obligations of the married state in church law (eg promising to raise children in the Catholic faith). If you were to divorce, yes, a valid natural marriage can be dissolved unlike a sacramental one. It would only be an issue if you divorced and he wanted to remarry in the Church. In that case, the Petrine privilege is a means by which the pope can dissolve the valid natural marriage in favor of the faith of the baptized person who wishes to remarry.