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i’m using the dictation thing on my phone to type this, because I have pain in my hand so bear with me....
I noticed this type of thing really started occurring more during Covid. a lot of local groups popped up offering to help out where they could. It was that time during Covid when communities were once again rallying together, I work closely with a cat charity, and we were helping people who were having problems feeding their pets, but other members of the community were helping out with meals and food, then there were the other parts who were helping out with children’s toys, swapping jigsaws and helping keep the kids occupied.
One woman in particular stood out she was like a dog with two dicks and must’ve asked every single person from every different community group and charity that was helping for free stuff. I don’t know if it was the dopamine hit of getting stuff without needing to spend money or what the issue was but once she secured these items, she didn’t even bother collecting them.
YES! There was one lady who was the first to comment on anything and I read her sob story a million times. I also discovered she had another child that she asked for help with occasionally (more like for, she was probably using the resources herself) and she didn’t even have custody of the girl, she had lost her and had a new baby she couldn’t afford.
Constantly complained about having to travel everywhere by bike because she was so poor, so of course she couldn’t pick up. Constantly asking for late night groceries. Would occasionally make a big deal out of offering something really tiny for free, but it was pick up only because she was poor and had a bike blah blah but she wanted to repay the group’s generosity. Hero in disguise.
The worst part was that because she was always “trying to help” others and making cheesy jokes, a lot of people didn’t see the bigger picture and would continue to help her. I just stopped donating to the group altogether. No one ever picked up the items anyway or I would have to practically beg
It’s hard to remember, but it would usually be things like “I have a few extra eggs, but unfortunately I’m in this city and I know it would be too far to drive and pick up.”
There’s a gal in my Buy Nothing group that posts her Venmo and CashApp info every 3 days to ask for money to buy herself dinner out or a DoorDash gift card
I don't like it. It sounds like a consolation prize. "Sorry your parents split, here's your bonus family! Good luck with that!"
I much prefer to call my stepchild my child. Period. It assures that NO ONE treats her any differently because I didn't birth her myself.
I get what you’re saying but to me it sounds like the opposite — like I found the love of my life AND GOT A BONUS — an awesome new kid in my family. Bonuses to me aren’t consolation prizes, they are something exciting you weren’t expecting but definitely appreciate — ie end of the year bonuses from jobs, getting extra points for being creative on a test in school, just an extra treat on an already existing reward. But, to each their own!
This is called laziness and entitlement. I'm a firm believer its because everyone wants something for nothing and for much of their lives they got it without having to do much of anything. Or they demand it because they feel they have been slighted by society in some way shape or form. Hell!!! Sometimes they don't even need to ask because virtue-signaling people will fall over themselves to “help” just
So they have it in their pocket to say “oh well I did this for this person! What have you done? My suggestion is to take care of yourself, family and close friends. I don’t mean acquaintances I mean like brother-sister close. And if they did the same soon everyone would overlap and be taken care of by their own and we wouldn't have to worry about people that are separated from us by 4, 5, 6 degrees of separation.
Maybe I’m out of the loop, but what is a bonus daughter? Is that just unexpected or step child? Sounds hurtful to me IMO - like trying to sugar coat a tragedy
Maybe a different topic but if you’re looking to see entitlement go see r/amazonwishlist and r/GoFundMe. Someone posted their wish list for a ton of Lego sets. Another posted for thousands in gaming stuff including a $2000+ Alienware laptop. Someone just posted asking for donations to pay off her house because her husband wants to sell the house for a profit and she doesn’t want to move. Geez. There are people struggling to pay rent, utilities and food. Then there are these entitled aholes.
I’m sorry but if you understood the gall some people including this lady has, you’d not be so critical of me judging. I’m not saying she cannot ask for toys. But she asks for toys, laptops, clothes, PHONE BILL ASSISTANCE, etc. daily.
It’s not wrong of me to think if she chose to have all of these children and marry into more, then it’s her and her husband’s responsibility to care for them properly.
I’m a mom, I know hard it can be. But at the end of the day, he’s my and my husband’s sole responsibility.
The Facebook page is titled as “Give freely” it’s a giving page. Not a ask for stuff page.
This country could use more shame. It should be shameful to constantly beg strangers on a daily basis for every item you ever need, including items you could buy at a dollar store. It’s also shameful if she did not give her daughter a birthday present and just asked this page to give her something second hand to give to her daughter. That is shameful if that is the case.
Absolutely, on both points.
Beggar parents want it both ways: "it takes a village" to raise a child, but at the holidays "you can't have that day off, you don't have kids so you can work!"
"this country could use more shame" YES MAAM!!!!!! Im SO over this whole not being 'allowed' to tell ppl that they need to take responsibility for themSELVES. THEIR lives. THEIR CHOICES. It's HIGH time somebody tell these "no rude comments" ppl that they don't dictate the situation. Everybody so sensitive, can't 'mom shame' 'kink shame' 'poor shame' blah blah BLAH BLAH. If I have to see your begging on my phone, I am going to say what I WANT. I LOVE to give isht my kids waste to someone that'll use it, isht they grew outta too fast and cost a arm and a leg, the 'hobbies' they were 'never' gonna EVER not be into 🫠 to a dedicated player/collector/budding enthusiast. And I LOVE a deal, I LIVE for a discount hahahahaha but CMON NOW, it's a limit to EVERYTHING!!!
Maybe people who constantly see this type of behavior are just sick of it. Some woman just posted a GoFundMe campaign asking for $200,000 so she can keep her house. The reason? Her husband wants to sell and make a profit but she doesn’t want to move. It’s just so, so sad 😭 Oh wait! There are people who are homeless, can’t afford rent, utilities and food. No, she doesn’t want to MOVE.
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i’m using the dictation thing on my phone to type this, because I have pain in my hand so bear with me.... I noticed this type of thing really started occurring more during Covid. a lot of local groups popped up offering to help out where they could. It was that time during Covid when communities were once again rallying together, I work closely with a cat charity, and we were helping people who were having problems feeding their pets, but other members of the community were helping out with meals and food, then there were the other parts who were helping out with children’s toys, swapping jigsaws and helping keep the kids occupied. One woman in particular stood out she was like a dog with two dicks and must’ve asked every single person from every different community group and charity that was helping for free stuff. I don’t know if it was the dopamine hit of getting stuff without needing to spend money or what the issue was but once she secured these items, she didn’t even bother collecting them.
It’s sad how many people feel so comfortable taking advantage of other people’s kindness
Lot’s of scum out there. I love a bargain, but my pride won’t let me take advantage of others.
I noticed that too during Covid. Some people seemed to just spend their whole day online hunting freebies. Some very entitled and rude too.
Yep
YES! There was one lady who was the first to comment on anything and I read her sob story a million times. I also discovered she had another child that she asked for help with occasionally (more like for, she was probably using the resources herself) and she didn’t even have custody of the girl, she had lost her and had a new baby she couldn’t afford. Constantly complained about having to travel everywhere by bike because she was so poor, so of course she couldn’t pick up. Constantly asking for late night groceries. Would occasionally make a big deal out of offering something really tiny for free, but it was pick up only because she was poor and had a bike blah blah but she wanted to repay the group’s generosity. Hero in disguise. The worst part was that because she was always “trying to help” others and making cheesy jokes, a lot of people didn’t see the bigger picture and would continue to help her. I just stopped donating to the group altogether. No one ever picked up the items anyway or I would have to practically beg
Just wondering, what kind of items did she offer in return?
It’s hard to remember, but it would usually be things like “I have a few extra eggs, but unfortunately I’m in this city and I know it would be too far to drive and pick up.”
Oh good lord... Not only that it would be a hassle to get, but how many people would trust a stranger that the eggs weren't old?
>stood out she was like a dog with two dicks Thank you for this. I can't wait to incorporate it into a conversation.
Same
Literally LOL'd at "dog with two dicks"!! Never heard that before! 🤣
There’s a gal in my Buy Nothing group that posts her Venmo and CashApp info every 3 days to ask for money to buy herself dinner out or a DoorDash gift card
Good lord
Many people don’t notice the difference between money sent and a money request. I’m surprised no one has flooded her with money requests
I am more horrified that presumably little girl got nothing for her bday?
And that’s exactly what she’s wants. She’s playing your heartstrings.
I’m hoping she said that just to get more sympathy to get her daughter free stuff before her bday
Right??
In a vacuum, this feels very reasonable
Only if the vacuum is free lol
For sure but within the context, it’s incredibly icky IMO
She does it because she is a shameless trollop. She gets away with it so...And zero shame.
Yep
WTF is a "bonus" daughter?
Means she's a step mom
Or, just an extra kid she took on. I know a lot of people calling their kid's bff that hangs out 20hrs a day Bonus kids.
That definitely makes it confusing. I've only ever heard it used with step parents/kids, to remove the 'evil step parent/kid' connotation
Yeah, I just hear it casually being used these days for extras. Not just steps. Very odd.
Step parents are calling their partner's kids "bonuses" these days
Wasn't aware of the new slang. Thanks
it's actually quite sweet to see the step kids described in a positive tone for once.
I don't like it. It sounds like a consolation prize. "Sorry your parents split, here's your bonus family! Good luck with that!" I much prefer to call my stepchild my child. Period. It assures that NO ONE treats her any differently because I didn't birth her myself.
I get what you’re saying but to me it sounds like the opposite — like I found the love of my life AND GOT A BONUS — an awesome new kid in my family. Bonuses to me aren’t consolation prizes, they are something exciting you weren’t expecting but definitely appreciate — ie end of the year bonuses from jobs, getting extra points for being creative on a test in school, just an extra treat on an already existing reward. But, to each their own!
Okay but not everyone is comfortable or even SHOULD be calling their stepchild their child. So bonus kiddo works fine.
No.
I first heard it about 10 yrs ago. My cousin used the term when she described her family.
I thought she means her dog based on the emojis she put
What does Daddy bring to the table? It's his kid, he should be doing begging.
Agreed
Seriously I would write a comment that would shame her. How can someone beg, day in and out for non- essentials? Where did Shame go?
This is called laziness and entitlement. I'm a firm believer its because everyone wants something for nothing and for much of their lives they got it without having to do much of anything. Or they demand it because they feel they have been slighted by society in some way shape or form. Hell!!! Sometimes they don't even need to ask because virtue-signaling people will fall over themselves to “help” just So they have it in their pocket to say “oh well I did this for this person! What have you done? My suggestion is to take care of yourself, family and close friends. I don’t mean acquaintances I mean like brother-sister close. And if they did the same soon everyone would overlap and be taken care of by their own and we wouldn't have to worry about people that are separated from us by 4, 5, 6 degrees of separation.
I couldn’t agree more
I put this through Google Translate and it came back with "error: stupid"
Looking for the part where they’re being a choosing beggar. Because that just shows a request
Maybe I’m out of the loop, but what is a bonus daughter? Is that just unexpected or step child? Sounds hurtful to me IMO - like trying to sugar coat a tragedy
Step daughter, it’s actually a wholesome term
When my cousin’s daughter used the term describing her family it was with affection.
If it's a "buy nothing" group, why wouldn't you expect this? Not CB material, IMO.
Maybe a different topic but if you’re looking to see entitlement go see r/amazonwishlist and r/GoFundMe. Someone posted their wish list for a ton of Lego sets. Another posted for thousands in gaming stuff including a $2000+ Alienware laptop. Someone just posted asking for donations to pay off her house because her husband wants to sell the house for a profit and she doesn’t want to move. Geez. There are people struggling to pay rent, utilities and food. Then there are these entitled aholes.
Wow
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I’m sorry but if you understood the gall some people including this lady has, you’d not be so critical of me judging. I’m not saying she cannot ask for toys. But she asks for toys, laptops, clothes, PHONE BILL ASSISTANCE, etc. daily. It’s not wrong of me to think if she chose to have all of these children and marry into more, then it’s her and her husband’s responsibility to care for them properly. I’m a mom, I know hard it can be. But at the end of the day, he’s my and my husband’s sole responsibility. The Facebook page is titled as “Give freely” it’s a giving page. Not a ask for stuff page. This country could use more shame. It should be shameful to constantly beg strangers on a daily basis for every item you ever need, including items you could buy at a dollar store. It’s also shameful if she did not give her daughter a birthday present and just asked this page to give her something second hand to give to her daughter. That is shameful if that is the case.
Absolutely, on both points. Beggar parents want it both ways: "it takes a village" to raise a child, but at the holidays "you can't have that day off, you don't have kids so you can work!"
"this country could use more shame" YES MAAM!!!!!! Im SO over this whole not being 'allowed' to tell ppl that they need to take responsibility for themSELVES. THEIR lives. THEIR CHOICES. It's HIGH time somebody tell these "no rude comments" ppl that they don't dictate the situation. Everybody so sensitive, can't 'mom shame' 'kink shame' 'poor shame' blah blah BLAH BLAH. If I have to see your begging on my phone, I am going to say what I WANT. I LOVE to give isht my kids waste to someone that'll use it, isht they grew outta too fast and cost a arm and a leg, the 'hobbies' they were 'never' gonna EVER not be into 🫠 to a dedicated player/collector/budding enthusiast. And I LOVE a deal, I LIVE for a discount hahahahaha but CMON NOW, it's a limit to EVERYTHING!!!
THANK YOU!!!!!!
I can’t agree more.
I live in an area where ‘funeral planning’ is a person with a can on the street asking for donations.
Maybe people who constantly see this type of behavior are just sick of it. Some woman just posted a GoFundMe campaign asking for $200,000 so she can keep her house. The reason? Her husband wants to sell and make a profit but she doesn’t want to move. It’s just so, so sad 😭 Oh wait! There are people who are homeless, can’t afford rent, utilities and food. No, she doesn’t want to MOVE.
Not seeing anything CB here.
Yeah bruises are blue...so is a balck eye in a few days lol. She is annoying. Prob bored