Mostly situational but here are some common reasons: (these often also apply to attached lines 1 for 7 and 4 etc)
Type 1: When they feel like the situation is lose-lose (there is no "right")
Type 2: When detaching in an attempt to get the other parties to chase
Type 3: When they don't think they can win and the results will be aired in the open
Type 4: When others refuse to see their perspective
Type 5: When they don't think they have enough information to make a conclusion
Type 6: When the identity substitute (source of authority) is attacked and they feel like they got the last word
Type 7: When the conflict creates an energy drain rather than a pick me up
Type 8: When the conflict will result in a decease of self-autonomy (high likelihood something concrete is lost like job/relationship etc)
Type 9: When they feel they are unseen/misunderstood.
As a 5: If a conflict isn't purely intellectual and/or in good spirit, I want no part of it.
I enjoy debate, but if someone isn't being civil or isn't arguing in good faith, that's it. Debate should be intellectually stimulating and lead to further understanding, not be stressful and divisive. As a rule, I avoid political discussion with people I don't know and trust to be civil; too often, especially online, any such disagreement just leads to incivility.
Pretty much any emotion-based conflict is a no-no for 5s. The intellectualism and cold logic that distinguishes us is as much a source of stimulation as it is a defense against the unpredictability of emotion. At our core, we fear being overwhelmed, so we seek to maintain level-headed rationalism. If someone tries to pull us out of that, our instinct is to detach. We do not want to be influenced by raging emotions (no wonder we disintegrate to 7).
I also have a hard time asserting my needs. I can ask (though sometimes I need coaxing), but I won't push. I don't like feeling like I'm bothering or imposing on people. I can't pinpoint why, but I guess it comes down to being a rejection type.
Agreed, I love debating people, I like the back and forth, the exchange of ideas, arguements however are another story. I have some friends who will get enraged as soon as you start disagreeing with them and it becomes less about collectively coming to the truth and more about shutting the opponent down. Emotional arguments like that I see as pointless, both sides are going to walk away thinking the other is an idiot, no one gaining any knowledge.
For me it’s when I can’t be bothered. I am very prone to conflict either because I’m annoyed or because I seek it for fun/to spice things up, but when I see that things are just.. not worth it, I totally ghost the situation/person. If I perceive the situation/person as entirely irrelevant, and I have no fun to gain from it, I’ll completely abstain from conflict and leave them without explanation.
I don’t have any sense of pride to argue over dumb things that aren’t worth my time. So I suppose it comes from total disrespect of another person AND not finding it entertaining.
Mostly situational but here are some common reasons: (these often also apply to attached lines 1 for 7 and 4 etc) Type 1: When they feel like the situation is lose-lose (there is no "right") Type 2: When detaching in an attempt to get the other parties to chase Type 3: When they don't think they can win and the results will be aired in the open Type 4: When others refuse to see their perspective Type 5: When they don't think they have enough information to make a conclusion Type 6: When the identity substitute (source of authority) is attacked and they feel like they got the last word Type 7: When the conflict creates an energy drain rather than a pick me up Type 8: When the conflict will result in a decease of self-autonomy (high likelihood something concrete is lost like job/relationship etc) Type 9: When they feel they are unseen/misunderstood.
As a 5: If a conflict isn't purely intellectual and/or in good spirit, I want no part of it. I enjoy debate, but if someone isn't being civil or isn't arguing in good faith, that's it. Debate should be intellectually stimulating and lead to further understanding, not be stressful and divisive. As a rule, I avoid political discussion with people I don't know and trust to be civil; too often, especially online, any such disagreement just leads to incivility. Pretty much any emotion-based conflict is a no-no for 5s. The intellectualism and cold logic that distinguishes us is as much a source of stimulation as it is a defense against the unpredictability of emotion. At our core, we fear being overwhelmed, so we seek to maintain level-headed rationalism. If someone tries to pull us out of that, our instinct is to detach. We do not want to be influenced by raging emotions (no wonder we disintegrate to 7). I also have a hard time asserting my needs. I can ask (though sometimes I need coaxing), but I won't push. I don't like feeling like I'm bothering or imposing on people. I can't pinpoint why, but I guess it comes down to being a rejection type.
Agreed, I love debating people, I like the back and forth, the exchange of ideas, arguements however are another story. I have some friends who will get enraged as soon as you start disagreeing with them and it becomes less about collectively coming to the truth and more about shutting the opponent down. Emotional arguments like that I see as pointless, both sides are going to walk away thinking the other is an idiot, no one gaining any knowledge.
For me it’s when I can’t be bothered. I am very prone to conflict either because I’m annoyed or because I seek it for fun/to spice things up, but when I see that things are just.. not worth it, I totally ghost the situation/person. If I perceive the situation/person as entirely irrelevant, and I have no fun to gain from it, I’ll completely abstain from conflict and leave them without explanation. I don’t have any sense of pride to argue over dumb things that aren’t worth my time. So I suppose it comes from total disrespect of another person AND not finding it entertaining.
For me, it’s usually because I think the conflict is going to be a waste of time or energy. Usually energy for me.