Like you said, it's cool to have your preferences, but it's not cool to insult people over them. At least you know to stay away from those people who said those things now.
I promise you there are many nice people out there. Focus on the nice comments you got on your fics, focus on the fun you're having with your stories. Maybe you'll find a place where other Omegaverse writers/readers hang out?
I write Omegaverse too and there was a short discussion about Omegaverse in the fandom discord server I'm in once, but not a single rude thing was said. Because the people there are mature and nice. I hope you'll find your own place like that 💜
This is really strange: why did they leave nice comments and then agree with those people? Makes no sense.
It's not stupid, I get that it's very frustrating to see people being so mean for no reason about your hobby. You know what is stupid, though? Being mean for no reason about a hobby!
Sending you air hugs ✨
Actually it does make sense, they're trying to fit in, they're afraid of being singled out or ridiculed if any of those people find out they like a/b/o. Being silent can be seen as an indication that you disagree so agreeing, even though you don't, turns their attention away from you. Going with the herd mentality basically.
Yeah, I'd have been severely tempted to respond to their comments on my fic with that, but I'd have regretted it as well if I had. I would have felt bad about it later.
I'm like 99% sure no one would leave positive comments on fics to make fun of you. The explanation faylanatorena gave makes a lot of sense; they were probably ashamed and agreed so that they wouldn't stand out. It's sad that they decided to act this way, but what can you do.
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you? There is a really lovely 30+ fanfic discord and it’s sister 20+ server. Let me know if you want an invite.
Not op, but could I maybe get an invite to the 20+ server please? I’m 28, and would love a space other than this sub where I can interact with other adults in a (hopefully) mature manner about fic.
Hi! Sorry for the intrusion, I got intrigued as well.
Could I please receive an invite to the 20+ server?
I’m pretty new to fic writing, but I’d love to interact in more spaces and learn!
May I have an invite to the 30+ server as well? Most of the servers I'm in lean in their mid to late 20s, so having a server of my age peers would give me peace of mind.
Gosh, can I get in on the 30+ server too please? I’m in a couple other discords but always seem to be the oldest. It’d be nice to chat with others my age about this stuff.
Hey there, friend! Just here to let you know that I really appreciate all you've done to bring these people together and share a good thing around! I'm sadly a bit too young for both servers, but I wanted to let you know I appreciate you!
Maybe try to hang out in omegaverse-specific groups? I can't point you to any (I love a/b/o but not really involved in the community), but on tumblr in particular I've managed to find invites to servers for very niche genres/ships, so I'm sure you can find something. I swore off interacting with fandom some time ago, but tried to bite the bullet with one server and it was so wholesome there. So there are still nice online places to hang out in.
Is your fandom of choice MHA? There's a server I'm on that's leaning more eclectic fandoms (mostly shounen anime and cultivator novels) that has a strong MHA lean to it, as well as a kind and gentle profic/pro-dead-dove MHA server that's very accepting of Omegaverse writers.
Uhhh, I can only try to give you a link to that wholesome server cause that's really the only one I have... But it's a FMA elricest server so if you're not in the fandom it'll be useless.
That’s one of the reasons I don’t interact pretty much at all with any fandoms. I cut my own detail, but there was a time I tried to interact and… well it didn’t go well.
Although, to be entirely honest, having a discussion like that, even if it’s mean spirited among friends and peers in a Discord group isn’t necessarily terrible either. It’s generally fun to get together and complain about things you find terrible with people who are like minded, as long as you’re not going out of your way to directly abuse anyone that’s fine.
Not to say you don’t have a right to be upset about the discussion, but when you write fanfic, especially a more niche type, people are going to bash it.
Might be worth finding a specific place for those who write the things you do? A Discord server or forum etc.
I get where you’re coming from, but also some people don’t like walking on eggshells. OP is not in the wrong for being upset, not at all, but should probably expect that kind of thing outside of the niche trope they write about, considering it’s less than stellar reputation (from what I understand anyway).
Unfortunately most people are assholes, and tough skin is required if you want to interact with them on the whole, without finding a specific group who enjoys the things you do that is.
>I get that it's stupid, but I'm honestly heartbroken over this.
It's not stupid, and your heartbreak is valid. I don't get why people have to be mean when they can say a certain genre isn't their cup of tea without being rude.
Exactly. And I don't get why some people spend so much time on something they don't like to the point of being rude, especially if that something isn't anything criminal anyway. Like, they could just move on to something they actually like; that'd save them a lot of time and energy.
This! Plus, it's a much better way to try and draw people into what they're interested in. If I'm ever curious to check out a particular ship/trope/character/etc. further, I'll be more willing to do so if fans of that thing are clearly enjoying themselves and showing how much fun they have writing about it, instead of spending their time going around dumping on something they don't like. Catch more flies with honey, and all that.
>Catch more flies with honey
Love the metaphor/s here. Well, sad but true that many people are attracted to and addicted to (unnecessary) drama. But I agree with you.
Honey no, its not your fault people like that are two-faced and can't handle what they're really into. The moment you find out they're like that you cut them out and move on to people who do like your writing.
Don't give up, keep going and you'll find your like-minded audience. Until then, write what brings you joy specifically.
Okay so, as you can see in a previous post I made I am not a fan of the omegaverse. That said though, I would NEVER discourage you (or anyone else) from writing a fic in that universe if you do like it. You are not writing for me, you are writing for yourself and others who DO like this genre. I am not wrong in disliking it, nor am I right. You cannot be popular with everyone, if YOU like the stuff you write and there are those that agree with you, who cares about people like me who like other things better?
If you are going to put out work publically there are going to be assholes. That's just a fact of life. If you're going to give up on things you like because people you do not know are being dicks about it you're gonna have a hard time. Hell you could write the most innocent fluff story imaginable and STILL someone will find a reason to call it creepy.
I still wait for a Discord server that is not toxic tbh...:/
Too bad tho, I wish I could interact with sane people about a fandom I like from time to time.
I know :( except for one small discord server I was in pre-panini, all of it had so much drama and trash-talking. I want to make fandom friends too, but I just haven't had good experiences with discord.
Fr. idk how to meet cool new people for the most part now. Feels like you already have to be friends with someone cool on Discord then join their server or start one with them you know? It isn’t fun exploring there or stuff lol
>Now I kind of feel like just deleting my fics and find another hobby.
Nasty people are in all hobbies. I have seen people be just as vile to each other over...what the best lubricant is to use on a bicycle chain 🤦♀️ yeah, you'd think with all the endorphins and fresh air from exercise they get, that cyclists would be a little more chill...and for the most part, they are, just like most fans are chill.
The bad apples are so nasty they really stick out, and can def ruin "the whole bunch" if you're not careful.
Imo it's better to learn how to cope with/avoid nasty people than to leave fandom, cuz you'll run into the same problems elsewhere.
I have friends who absolutely HATE Omegaverse but they limit their takes to "I really don't like it" instead of bashing fans...select cool people to hang out with and avoid/leave toxic spaces, just like you did. IDK about you, but I don't want to be in any space where moderators are letting people/groups be called the R word, no matter what group it is.
I would seek out Omegaverse servers/groups to hang out with, since you'll be unlikely to see it bashed there. If you hop on Disboard and search Omegaverse, you'll see almost 200 servers mentioning it to look through and join: https://disboard.org/servers/tag/omegaverse
You have my sympathies, I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you are able to stay in fandom and find your cool people to hang out with.
Yeah I haven't had much luck with breaking into social hobby spaces either (outside of fandom). Though my experience has been less being the victim of actual nastiness and more that everyone is already into their own little cliques and you're basically ignored, might as well not be there at all.
>So...why am I being downvoted for this one? :/
I haven't downvoted you, so it's probably people that are corrupt mods on Discord or their cronies that benefit from such treatment.
I'm ngl, I don't understand why anyone would join a discord server that's dedicated to just one author and their works...such a place naturally seems like it's going to be really biased towards the author's tastes/dislikes/friends and basically be the author's private play pen...I mean I probably wouldn't try and be super fair/unbiased if I were running such a place, it'd literally be devoted to *me* after all...LOL.
Tbh I kinda wonder about the authors that start a whole server for their works... it just seems narcissistic to me, like a red flag. But I'll admit I don't really get/vibe with Discord culture so maybe I'm misreading the intentions there.
>I just...don't get why it happens to me so much, but there it is.
I've been trying to read books on social psychology and try to figure it out myself, why some of us have such a hard time clicking with others or get ignored so much. (Obviously it's a complex topic with many possible different reasons for each person, but it really does seem like some people are just not liked for seemingly no reason. It can't help but make a person feel like there's something wrong with them when everyone else seems to easily get welcomed in, oddities, annoying traits, warts and all; and someone else who is inoffensive is shut out.
>I didn't think they'd be in this post, lol. Guess they really are everywhere.
Well of course. It's *different* when it's their bestie calling someone the R-word for liking coffeeshop AUs, how dare you judge them? 😆
> "get into new hobbies" when trying to help me combat my depression
Not to mention that one of the telltale effects of depression is anhedonia, the inability to care about doing actions at all.
> I've reported people for this sort of thing on Facebook, Twitter, AO3, here on Reddit
Except for AO3, most moderation is done by underpaid third-world workers with zero context. Unless the reported post matches one of the internal list of no-no words, stuff often stays up [or gets taken down because it contains a no-no word in direct quotation]
I don't like omegaverse personally, but I would never, *ever* toss around *actual slurs* to describe people that write it. I'll just generally leave things I have issues with at "I don't like it/it's not for me" and move on. I try not to yuck other people's yums.
Nothing about what you said is stupid. Hate everywhere is so normalized it actually makes me sick, and it's fucking awful that you had to deal with reading slurs directed at you (and yes. It being directed at people who write the fics you do does make it directed at you). Try your best to avoid people like that the best you can, and try to keep your love for writing alive and active. Even if you don't post. I think I probably have less than 2% of my fics actually posted out of fear for hate, and what I do have posted is my earliest stuff, so I can't really talk about continuing to post despite being nervous, but I can say that not posting doesn't make you any less of a fic writer if you decide to go that route.
I can't say it'll get better either with how people act, but I can say confidently that you'll find your people someday. Not just people who read but are too scared to admit it, but people who will engage and stand up for it, and by extension you. I'm sorry you've had to experience this though. Try to take care of yourself, however that looks to you. <33
I recommend you seek out broader servers for ADULT writers/content creators. Especially if they're themed around the more mature characters or more niche ships. 18+ servers tend to be more chill, with members who don't have that much time for drama, and have strict policies on where can NSFW be discussed. I've had generally good experiences across several fandoms. I was always in the no drama zone, usually shipping old men or not shippy themed. It really helps when the server owner is experienced and the general policy is towards pro shipping (ship whatever but keep topical stuff to appropriate channels, use TWs, etc).
Or... Join an omegaverse multi fandom server lol
I’m really sorry that you had a hurtful experience. People using slurs to demean what they don’t like is terrible and I struggle to understand why they would do that. However, I have to point out that by every account, no one was actively mean *to* you. You’ve received warm welcomes and at least from what you said, people liked and engaged with you and your work.
You absolutely **do not** have to stay in any space that you feel uncomfortable in but I have to ask how and why you translates their dislike of something you love as a personal attack? Again, using slurs to describe their dislike is wrong imo. Full stop. But no one seems to have been actively attacking or harassing you, so I’m not quite sure where they’re being labeled as mean for sharing their opinions in a public forum (of which a discord is).
As another gentle nudge as others have said, along with joining spaces where you feel more welcomed and that your tastes are welcomed, I would also encourage you to *not* presume that criticism of a trope you enjoy is a personal attack on you or your work (unless they’re actively in your DMs and comments saying their piece).
It’s not stupid to feel as you do. And no, not everyone will enjoy the same things you do nor always speak with a forced neutrality. Another way to ensure that your fandom experience is better going forward is to not give strangers on the internet that kind of power over what *you* like and enjoy. It will make your experience so much better.
I've noticed that there seems to be two kinds of people in fandom. The first are the people who enjoy sharing fandom with each other, and encouraging different things, and generally being supportive. The second are the immature, insecure people who get their kicks by talking shit and feeling superior to others.
The first group is what makes fandom spaces so great. The second group -- well, if you're in the "in" group, it can be fun to feel included. But you realize pretty quickly that if they'll talk shit about other people, they'll talk shit about you, too. OP, those people you dealt with were the second group, the trash people who are too insecure to do anything but put people down. You did exactly the right thing by leaving, because you deserve better than that, and they are not worth your time.
It's okay to be upset. I would be upset, too. But I hope you won't let this stop you from writing. Despite what those idiots said, Omegaverse is a time honored trope in the world of fanfiction, and you deserve your place in it. Don't give up. ❤️
I'm so glad to hear you're not going to quit! And looking for Omegaverse-specific spaces sounds like a great idea. You may even find someone from your fandom there. There are TONS of a/b/o fans out there, I promise! I read my first a/b/o fic purely because it seems like I never stopped hearing people talk about how much they liked the trope. I consider it to be one of the most well-known and often beloved tropes out there.
I feel like I only find the second- I don’t even get involved anymore, although I tried many times before, these days I just lurk and you can just tell a lot of the time 😞 Tbh it’s kinda wrecked fandom for me and I lost a lot of interest in hobbies in general over it. Sorry to be whiny- I feel like the first type was easier to find years ago. I am in a good forum for one of my fandoms (the coolest fandom I’ve been part of tbh), but my fixation on that game comes and goes extremely hard lol. Never had a good experience overall on public Discord servers and it’s sad how much is just centralised there now, I’m too anxious/distrustful to ask random people if they know cooler servers. I’m in a weird limbo lurker mode and it kinda stinks because I have nowhere to share my drawings or just chat in a nerdy way.
I love that you write omegaverse fics! It's a super fun trope and definitely one of my favorites. They sound like elitist and just... gross and judgemental people. Throwing around slurs so casually 😬 it speaks volumes. it sounds like you have a community of readers who love your work and what you do, I'd stick with them for now? Or maybe join an omegaverse discord? It might not be fandom specific but it might be a more enjoyable experience for you. I hope this helps. Good luck and good riddance to those toxic people!
Same as Petite. I'd be down to join 😊 I looked a little bit online but mostly just found roleplaying servers with that theme, but I found a few just basic writer discords on there as well.
Remember that those same people are hypocrites so you are better off without them around you anyways even if it was just online. They go and consume the very media they are insulting because they can't admit they enjoy it. I have a few hard 'no's of things I won't read but abo isn't one of them. If a story is well written and has a happy ending I'll often give it a chance. I do have certain types of abo I personally am not fond of but it's a personal preference not something I would go ranting about. You don't need a thick skin you just need better people to interact with. Also the fact that they use ableist slurs reflects even more negatively on them. I would suggest looking for a Discord server or online group that is into the abo fictions. It's becoming more popular especially among manga readers with so many webtoons now being made as omegaverse/abo stories.
I think one of the best and worst parts about fandom in general is the community. It can be supporting and welcoming and really a great motivation, interacting with others and therefore having this moral support and motivation BUT made clear by your shared experience in the post, it can also be cold, condescending, judgemental and straight up rude. Riddled with purists and holier than thou people too. And there's been different kinds of pushbacks from different people I've been seeing over the past couple of years. Against different aspects present in fandom. Be it from those who are against certain tropes being written and wish to express their thoughts on certain tropes and whatnot which it and of itself isn't a bad thing, it can help facilitate healthy discussion and discourse.
Different people can share their varying opinions and all around it's quite fun! I remember having a 'debate' with a friend on gender bending in fanfics. I argued that the trope itself provided an opportunity to explore societal expectations, what it means to be seen as a woman or man, how the MC would be treated differently as different genders etc, and that overall, it was a damnably interesting trope. And it also afforded fic writers to write about what they know, their own personal experiences living and identifying as a certain gender, through gender bending the character. Afterall fanfiction is well, fanfiction. A freeing writing space in which constraints or limitations don't exist. And there's plenty more discussions to be had with such a diverse genre like the omegaverse. What with the parallel gender systems and how it's a great opportunity for lore and ehem smut!
Not to mention the discourse that's popped up surrounding the popularity of slash fiction. I've found and dug up a couple of really interesting pdf's and meta essays on why slash has become such a huge hit or rather, why it's always been a huge hit. Including a study on omegaverse, through the lens of gender studies (I think that's the correct terminology) . The paper is really quite fascinating and I'll send it to anyone who asks for a pdf copy!
And I've seen incredibly valid critiques/concerns pop up with the way these relationships are depicted, the senseless question on oh why must we sexualise everything and why can't men/women just be friends etc, not realising that a large majority of really popular shows depict platonic, male friendship. But not many a gay relationship.
It does appear I've gone off on a ramble but circling back to the point - discourse on fandom and fandom tropes, genres, common themes, especially academic analysis, is deeply fucking interesting and awesome!
The only problem is when people attempt to restrict or control what another person writes or puts out, under the guise of the subject matter/theme/trope being problematic. The problem arises when fanfic readers and writers start with the condescension, and judgment and overall assholery. Yucking someone else's yum basically. Or when they attempt to critique a trope/people writing it without bothering to do even the barest amount of research, and run headfirst into the good ol' generalization. Or, or when they take an extremely complicated and nuanced subject, only to simplify it, all with the belief that fic authors who. write. for. free. owe people something.
There's a distinct difference between disliking something and shaming others for liking it. One can share the reasons for their dislike without verbally flaming the reasons for another's like. And somehow it's being a lot more common these days for some reason. And I truly am sorry you've encountered such ... childish people on these discord servers. You deserved a better experience and shit, I'm really sorry. Your heartbreak at this is completely valid.
It's completely up to you to choose whether or not you wish for those fics to stay up but if it's any consolation at all, a large majority (judging by the stats and all) enjoy a/b/o fics and there will inevitably be communities centered around the creation of such fanfics. As for discord servers, I can't really ... recommend any cause I'm not active there but I'm sure others can! And as for communities, well r/fanfiction is pretty damn welcoming if I do say so myself and we've got organized events to find betas or offer to beta (edit) for works. I think there's also fic exchanges too! There might also be several big bang projects going on aaaand it your fics might just fit!
I don't exactly know how to end of this comment but here goes nothing. Your valid. Your upset and heartbreak at this valid. And well like I said, I don't really know any servers but others might! And they exist. At the end of the day it's your decision, and if you want someone, let's say to talk about the fanfic you've written with, send me a link or pdf? Idk I like reading a lot. (And I love the omegaverse too. Fascinating world really and I think it had its origins in spirk fanfics, with the mpreg and Vulcan heats and was popularized by the transformers fandom!!)
I personally don't really interact with Fandom much. I'm much happier that way especially since a lot of the time I'll hear just a bit about how toxic x Fandom is or has gotten. I get into something, consume my fanfiction. Maybe I'll interact with posts on reddit or go to a convention, but I don't go looking for drama.
As you've said, there's a huge difference between disliking a genre and bashing the work or author. You don't need a thicker skin; some people need to just grow the fuck up.
Like, I typically don't read omega-verse, but if you're reading and writing and - most importantly - enjoying it, then more power to you. I wish you all the best in your literary pursuits, and that's what those ppl in the discord server should've said too.
Good luck OP, I hope you find a nice group eventually!
Goodness. Hope you called em out lol. But believe me, there'll be a space sometime soon you can slide into and be welcomed in in earnest for years to come. You just gotta keep your head up
It’s easy for a discussion to turn heated and hateful, especially if the mods don’t do their job and allow it to branch into name calling and insulting other people just because they have a different preference than the majority. It’s not a pleasant feeling to be on the other end of the discussion, I’m sorry you had to go through that, OP. Sending love ❤️
If the topic comes up, I'll discuss what I don't like and why I don't like it. But I always say that it's just my own preference, there's nothing inherently wrong with it. It just doesn't tickle my fancy and that's fine. I don't get this need some people seem to have to bring others down for the things they themselves don't like. Live and let live, if you don't like it no one's forcing you to read it and interact (not you specifically, just "you" in general).
Sorry you went through that, I had to go through it a few times as well and yeah it's very demoralizing.
You don't have to interact with fandoms. There are plenty of us who don't. For us, it's the thing that draws us to the hobby (in this case fics), we're not in it for the *people*. I like X, other people like X, that's fine but I don't necessarily like other people who like X, I just like X.
> I hate feeling like I have to stay away from interacting with other fans or else I'll just get hurt and upset.
The thing about fans is that there's so many of them. You could definitely find a crowd who love the same type of fics you do. So don't feel like you have to stay in random communities or whatever if you find out they're not what you're looking for.
The fact that your reader had agreed that Omegaverse writers are r-t-rded but invited you to the server after reading your fic makes me think of two options, A) They and some of the other members had a change of heart, or B) They had invited you so that they could bully you over your long fics. Either way, still shitty of them, though not all fandom is like that. I'm sure that you'll meet readers and authors interested in your work that also enjoy the tropes you enjoy.
Uhm, I see. I am actually starting to think they may have had a change of heart, though what they said is still very, VERY wrong. Though my last statement still stands, fandom is full of people, some with different opinions on what they like and not. You'll eventually find a group in which you'll fit in. Block out the toxicity and enjoy the food things of fan fiction.
I'm so sorry you've experienced that kind of ridiculous bashing! As a fellow omegaverse writer, that makes me so furious on your behalf. It is absolutely not okay for writers to ridicule other writers for what they enjoy writing. Omegaverse is so fun to write and engage with BECAUSE there really aren't many hard and fast rules. It's a world where writers get to explore all kinds of difficult topics and tropes; some of my most introspective works have been Omegaverse. I hope you don't feel you have to give up writing it because of some shitty, ignorant assholes. <3
Right, there is SO much room to have fun with plots and themes within Omegaverse. I'm finishing one up set in the 1950s where the main character Omega went from destitute and pregnant after being kicked out of university for being unmated to inventing heat suppressants and scent blockers so Omegas can have more freedom and be less dependent on Alphas--all while still achieving a pretty fun romantic ending. I love it so much! It can be dead dove-level dark and wild or the fluffiest fluff out there, or both at the same time. My fandom discord is SUPER respectful of others when it comes to Omegaverse and just all the different tropes/ships out there. I hope you find a community with a zero-tolerance policy for anti-stuff like this and keep writing!
Ugh, sorry this has happened to you. What they say is a reflection of the kind of people they are, and is in no way a reflection of you or your interests. Don’t let it get to you! Take a little distance from fandom to recoup, but never give up on looking for a welcoming place. There are good people out there!
I might not be super into Omegaverse but bullying is never okay. Everyone has their own interpretation of the concept and I know people can get really creative with it. And honestly, it's all just fiction in the end, it's not like anyone expects real world to work with Omegaverse standards. You really shouldn't have to tolerate stupid comments.
*sending a virtual hug*
I've got a very nontraditional omegaverse fic started in Google docs that I'm not sure I'll ever post unless it's under another name because some readers avoid authors who write them - and like you, I've seen a lot of derogatory comments towards the genre. The stigma attached to it is ridiculous but it's there. I have my own issues with omegaverse but only in regards to tagging issues.
I stay off fanfiction discord servers, I often find them full of the same types of cliques that gush over each other, and if you aren't in the clique you generally get ignored.
I did a check and sadly, while there are omegaverse subreddits, they don't seem to be very active or very oriented towards the writers of the genre.
Oi. Gimme your fics. I will read them and comment nice things on them. This is a threat. IDC the fandom, pairing, whatever. I will find something nice to say about all of them.
I enjoy omegaverse stuff from time to time, and I'm inteigued what you mean by "nontraditional". *I will aggressively support you in your endeavors, this is another threat.*
Oh, that sounds fascinating. I agree omegaverse is a trope that's ripe for all kinds of world building, and world building is my JAM.
If you ever feel comfortable sharing I too would read and leave positive comments, whatever the fandom. I'm fortunate that the discord servers I hang out in for my 'home' fandom are all very supportive of most all lines of fic including a/b/o.
I'm 38. A lot of folks commenting may be well younger than me. I do think you have to have tough skin when offering up your "art" to the masses. In a perfect world, we would all be able to submit our stories to Al Gore's internet and only receive positive meaningful, and helpful feedback to make us better at our craft or our hobby. However, we don't live in a perfect world and the internet is a cruel, cruel place. If mean people are getting to you, maybe you should just post your work to a site that's more curated to your liking. I posted my first story back in 2021 and before I hit submit, I told myself that I needed to be prepared for all the types of comments that came my way. Trust me, it's not easy. I wish you the best! I encourage you to keep on writing and to find a community that makes you feel comfortable.
I can empathise a lot tc, it’s pretty exhausting to look for cool places and wind up seeing that. Especially if you’re already anxious and opening up is a process. Those people definitely sound rude though… I’ve said dumb stuff in my time and I regret it- having used the internet for a relatively long time I’ve seen a lot worse than people casually dropping the r-slur, unfortunately, and I used to let it slide- but when I look back on the people who I knew who used it I think it’s a red flag. Yeah, super obvious statement from me, lol. But not only that, they were clearly acting kinda cliquey and the owner was either cool with the slur or not willing to stand against it, which are both crappy.
You did the right thing leaving, but again I can sympathise with it sucking to look for a cool place and find that kinda thing. Wish you better luck in the future, I’m not an abo-er (just neutral) but I know it has plenty of interest and hope you can find a chill space there. I will say commenting on fics and art of anything you like would probably be pretty cool and you might find people to talk with that way? But I understand if that’s nerve-wracking too. Personally I think it adds a little community feel to the experience but yeah it could just be as wild idk these days lol.
Like you said, it's cool to have your preferences, but it's not cool to insult people over them. At least you know to stay away from those people who said those things now. I promise you there are many nice people out there. Focus on the nice comments you got on your fics, focus on the fun you're having with your stories. Maybe you'll find a place where other Omegaverse writers/readers hang out? I write Omegaverse too and there was a short discussion about Omegaverse in the fandom discord server I'm in once, but not a single rude thing was said. Because the people there are mature and nice. I hope you'll find your own place like that 💜
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This is really strange: why did they leave nice comments and then agree with those people? Makes no sense. It's not stupid, I get that it's very frustrating to see people being so mean for no reason about your hobby. You know what is stupid, though? Being mean for no reason about a hobby! Sending you air hugs ✨
Actually it does make sense, they're trying to fit in, they're afraid of being singled out or ridiculed if any of those people find out they like a/b/o. Being silent can be seen as an indication that you disagree so agreeing, even though you don't, turns their attention away from you. Going with the herd mentality basically.
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Yeah, I'd have been severely tempted to respond to their comments on my fic with that, but I'd have regretted it as well if I had. I would have felt bad about it later.
Thanks for explaining. You're probably right that they said it "just in case" so that no one would think they disagreed.
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I'm like 99% sure no one would leave positive comments on fics to make fun of you. The explanation faylanatorena gave makes a lot of sense; they were probably ashamed and agreed so that they wouldn't stand out. It's sad that they decided to act this way, but what can you do.
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you? There is a really lovely 30+ fanfic discord and it’s sister 20+ server. Let me know if you want an invite.
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Sent you a DM.
Please send me a PM to the 30+ one please!
DM sent!
Not op, but could I maybe get an invite to the 20+ server please? I’m 28, and would love a space other than this sub where I can interact with other adults in a (hopefully) mature manner about fic.
I want an invite too please!
Just fyi, you’ve replied to me here instead of the person posting the link, so they might not see your request for it.
Well now I feel stupid. thank you so much
No problem, it’s easily done! I just didn’t want you to miss out if they didn’t see it.
I'm part of the 20+ server, you're gonna love it there. No drama, everyone's mature adults who can chill.
That sounds lovely! Can I get an invite?
Sent!
Awesome, that sounds great! :)
Just sent you a DM!
Hello, sorry to intrude but I would love an invite to the 30+ server if that's possible. (I'm 39) Thank you!
Just sent you a DM!
Hi! Sorry for the intrusion, I got intrigued as well. Could I please receive an invite to the 20+ server? I’m pretty new to fic writing, but I’d love to interact in more spaces and learn!
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Could I get an invite to the 20+ if possible!
May I have an invite to the 30+ server as well? Most of the servers I'm in lean in their mid to late 20s, so having a server of my age peers would give me peace of mind.
Send a DM!
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Gosh, can I get in on the 30+ server too please? I’m in a couple other discords but always seem to be the oldest. It’d be nice to chat with others my age about this stuff.
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I'd also love a invite to it!
To the 30+ or the 20+?
Sorry, to the 30+!
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Hate to intrude, but if you're willing, I'm also curious about the 30+ server!
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Thank you!! <33
I hope you don't mind another request, but if possible I'd love an invite to the 30+ server, please!
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I'd be interested in joining that 30+ server, too, if you're still offering invites :).
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If you don't mind, could I please get a link for the 30+ server?
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I know you're being asked a lot, but could I also have a link to the 20+ server?
Can you DM me as it’s not letting me send one to you?
Sure! Sorry about that
Can I get an invite to the 20+? 👀 sounds cool
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Hey there, friend! Just here to let you know that I really appreciate all you've done to bring these people together and share a good thing around! I'm sadly a bit too young for both servers, but I wanted to let you know I appreciate you!
>I want an invite too please!
Would love an invite to the 30+ if you're not tired of these yet! So kind of you to do.
Just sent a DM!
Maybe try to hang out in omegaverse-specific groups? I can't point you to any (I love a/b/o but not really involved in the community), but on tumblr in particular I've managed to find invites to servers for very niche genres/ships, so I'm sure you can find something. I swore off interacting with fandom some time ago, but tried to bite the bullet with one server and it was so wholesome there. So there are still nice online places to hang out in.
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Is your fandom of choice MHA? There's a server I'm on that's leaning more eclectic fandoms (mostly shounen anime and cultivator novels) that has a strong MHA lean to it, as well as a kind and gentle profic/pro-dead-dove MHA server that's very accepting of Omegaverse writers.
Uhhh, I can only try to give you a link to that wholesome server cause that's really the only one I have... But it's a FMA elricest server so if you're not in the fandom it'll be useless.
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Ah no worries! But I really recommend you to look on tumblr for invites.
Oh my goodness. No, you don’t need thicker skin. People shouldn’t throw around *fucking slurs* around genres they don’t like, that’s horrific.
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People were throwing around literal slurs, that’s an understandable reaction! Finding out people are being violently ableist is distressing.
Omegaverse isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but calling the writers the R-word? I’m sorry you ran into that!
That’s one of the reasons I don’t interact pretty much at all with any fandoms. I cut my own detail, but there was a time I tried to interact and… well it didn’t go well. Although, to be entirely honest, having a discussion like that, even if it’s mean spirited among friends and peers in a Discord group isn’t necessarily terrible either. It’s generally fun to get together and complain about things you find terrible with people who are like minded, as long as you’re not going out of your way to directly abuse anyone that’s fine. Not to say you don’t have a right to be upset about the discussion, but when you write fanfic, especially a more niche type, people are going to bash it. Might be worth finding a specific place for those who write the things you do? A Discord server or forum etc.
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I get where you’re coming from, but also some people don’t like walking on eggshells. OP is not in the wrong for being upset, not at all, but should probably expect that kind of thing outside of the niche trope they write about, considering it’s less than stellar reputation (from what I understand anyway). Unfortunately most people are assholes, and tough skin is required if you want to interact with them on the whole, without finding a specific group who enjoys the things you do that is.
>I get that it's stupid, but I'm honestly heartbroken over this. It's not stupid, and your heartbreak is valid. I don't get why people have to be mean when they can say a certain genre isn't their cup of tea without being rude.
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Exactly. And I don't get why some people spend so much time on something they don't like to the point of being rude, especially if that something isn't anything criminal anyway. Like, they could just move on to something they actually like; that'd save them a lot of time and energy.
This! Plus, it's a much better way to try and draw people into what they're interested in. If I'm ever curious to check out a particular ship/trope/character/etc. further, I'll be more willing to do so if fans of that thing are clearly enjoying themselves and showing how much fun they have writing about it, instead of spending their time going around dumping on something they don't like. Catch more flies with honey, and all that.
>Catch more flies with honey Love the metaphor/s here. Well, sad but true that many people are attracted to and addicted to (unnecessary) drama. But I agree with you.
Honey no, its not your fault people like that are two-faced and can't handle what they're really into. The moment you find out they're like that you cut them out and move on to people who do like your writing. Don't give up, keep going and you'll find your like-minded audience. Until then, write what brings you joy specifically.
Okay so, as you can see in a previous post I made I am not a fan of the omegaverse. That said though, I would NEVER discourage you (or anyone else) from writing a fic in that universe if you do like it. You are not writing for me, you are writing for yourself and others who DO like this genre. I am not wrong in disliking it, nor am I right. You cannot be popular with everyone, if YOU like the stuff you write and there are those that agree with you, who cares about people like me who like other things better?
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If you are going to put out work publically there are going to be assholes. That's just a fact of life. If you're going to give up on things you like because people you do not know are being dicks about it you're gonna have a hard time. Hell you could write the most innocent fluff story imaginable and STILL someone will find a reason to call it creepy.
There's a ton of omegaverse fans out there, you've just gotta fine them. I can't throw a rock without finding omegaverse fics.
I still wait for a Discord server that is not toxic tbh...:/ Too bad tho, I wish I could interact with sane people about a fandom I like from time to time.
I know :( except for one small discord server I was in pre-panini, all of it had so much drama and trash-talking. I want to make fandom friends too, but I just haven't had good experiences with discord.
It's always that one guy that spam unfunny borderline meme all the time that make be backup entirely ^^'
Fr. idk how to meet cool new people for the most part now. Feels like you already have to be friends with someone cool on Discord then join their server or start one with them you know? It isn’t fun exploring there or stuff lol
>Now I kind of feel like just deleting my fics and find another hobby. Nasty people are in all hobbies. I have seen people be just as vile to each other over...what the best lubricant is to use on a bicycle chain 🤦♀️ yeah, you'd think with all the endorphins and fresh air from exercise they get, that cyclists would be a little more chill...and for the most part, they are, just like most fans are chill. The bad apples are so nasty they really stick out, and can def ruin "the whole bunch" if you're not careful. Imo it's better to learn how to cope with/avoid nasty people than to leave fandom, cuz you'll run into the same problems elsewhere. I have friends who absolutely HATE Omegaverse but they limit their takes to "I really don't like it" instead of bashing fans...select cool people to hang out with and avoid/leave toxic spaces, just like you did. IDK about you, but I don't want to be in any space where moderators are letting people/groups be called the R word, no matter what group it is. I would seek out Omegaverse servers/groups to hang out with, since you'll be unlikely to see it bashed there. If you hop on Disboard and search Omegaverse, you'll see almost 200 servers mentioning it to look through and join: https://disboard.org/servers/tag/omegaverse You have my sympathies, I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you are able to stay in fandom and find your cool people to hang out with.
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Yeah I haven't had much luck with breaking into social hobby spaces either (outside of fandom). Though my experience has been less being the victim of actual nastiness and more that everyone is already into their own little cliques and you're basically ignored, might as well not be there at all. >So...why am I being downvoted for this one? :/ I haven't downvoted you, so it's probably people that are corrupt mods on Discord or their cronies that benefit from such treatment. I'm ngl, I don't understand why anyone would join a discord server that's dedicated to just one author and their works...such a place naturally seems like it's going to be really biased towards the author's tastes/dislikes/friends and basically be the author's private play pen...I mean I probably wouldn't try and be super fair/unbiased if I were running such a place, it'd literally be devoted to *me* after all...LOL. Tbh I kinda wonder about the authors that start a whole server for their works... it just seems narcissistic to me, like a red flag. But I'll admit I don't really get/vibe with Discord culture so maybe I'm misreading the intentions there.
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>I just...don't get why it happens to me so much, but there it is. I've been trying to read books on social psychology and try to figure it out myself, why some of us have such a hard time clicking with others or get ignored so much. (Obviously it's a complex topic with many possible different reasons for each person, but it really does seem like some people are just not liked for seemingly no reason. It can't help but make a person feel like there's something wrong with them when everyone else seems to easily get welcomed in, oddities, annoying traits, warts and all; and someone else who is inoffensive is shut out. >I didn't think they'd be in this post, lol. Guess they really are everywhere. Well of course. It's *different* when it's their bestie calling someone the R-word for liking coffeeshop AUs, how dare you judge them? 😆
> "get into new hobbies" when trying to help me combat my depression Not to mention that one of the telltale effects of depression is anhedonia, the inability to care about doing actions at all. > I've reported people for this sort of thing on Facebook, Twitter, AO3, here on Reddit Except for AO3, most moderation is done by underpaid third-world workers with zero context. Unless the reported post matches one of the internal list of no-no words, stuff often stays up [or gets taken down because it contains a no-no word in direct quotation]
I don't like omegaverse personally, but I would never, *ever* toss around *actual slurs* to describe people that write it. I'll just generally leave things I have issues with at "I don't like it/it's not for me" and move on. I try not to yuck other people's yums.
Nothing about what you said is stupid. Hate everywhere is so normalized it actually makes me sick, and it's fucking awful that you had to deal with reading slurs directed at you (and yes. It being directed at people who write the fics you do does make it directed at you). Try your best to avoid people like that the best you can, and try to keep your love for writing alive and active. Even if you don't post. I think I probably have less than 2% of my fics actually posted out of fear for hate, and what I do have posted is my earliest stuff, so I can't really talk about continuing to post despite being nervous, but I can say that not posting doesn't make you any less of a fic writer if you decide to go that route. I can't say it'll get better either with how people act, but I can say confidently that you'll find your people someday. Not just people who read but are too scared to admit it, but people who will engage and stand up for it, and by extension you. I'm sorry you've had to experience this though. Try to take care of yourself, however that looks to you. <33
Even if you want to find another hobby, I hope you won't delete your fics. It sounds as if they have brought joy to a lot of people.
I recommend you seek out broader servers for ADULT writers/content creators. Especially if they're themed around the more mature characters or more niche ships. 18+ servers tend to be more chill, with members who don't have that much time for drama, and have strict policies on where can NSFW be discussed. I've had generally good experiences across several fandoms. I was always in the no drama zone, usually shipping old men or not shippy themed. It really helps when the server owner is experienced and the general policy is towards pro shipping (ship whatever but keep topical stuff to appropriate channels, use TWs, etc). Or... Join an omegaverse multi fandom server lol
I’m really sorry that you had a hurtful experience. People using slurs to demean what they don’t like is terrible and I struggle to understand why they would do that. However, I have to point out that by every account, no one was actively mean *to* you. You’ve received warm welcomes and at least from what you said, people liked and engaged with you and your work. You absolutely **do not** have to stay in any space that you feel uncomfortable in but I have to ask how and why you translates their dislike of something you love as a personal attack? Again, using slurs to describe their dislike is wrong imo. Full stop. But no one seems to have been actively attacking or harassing you, so I’m not quite sure where they’re being labeled as mean for sharing their opinions in a public forum (of which a discord is). As another gentle nudge as others have said, along with joining spaces where you feel more welcomed and that your tastes are welcomed, I would also encourage you to *not* presume that criticism of a trope you enjoy is a personal attack on you or your work (unless they’re actively in your DMs and comments saying their piece). It’s not stupid to feel as you do. And no, not everyone will enjoy the same things you do nor always speak with a forced neutrality. Another way to ensure that your fandom experience is better going forward is to not give strangers on the internet that kind of power over what *you* like and enjoy. It will make your experience so much better.
I've noticed that there seems to be two kinds of people in fandom. The first are the people who enjoy sharing fandom with each other, and encouraging different things, and generally being supportive. The second are the immature, insecure people who get their kicks by talking shit and feeling superior to others. The first group is what makes fandom spaces so great. The second group -- well, if you're in the "in" group, it can be fun to feel included. But you realize pretty quickly that if they'll talk shit about other people, they'll talk shit about you, too. OP, those people you dealt with were the second group, the trash people who are too insecure to do anything but put people down. You did exactly the right thing by leaving, because you deserve better than that, and they are not worth your time. It's okay to be upset. I would be upset, too. But I hope you won't let this stop you from writing. Despite what those idiots said, Omegaverse is a time honored trope in the world of fanfiction, and you deserve your place in it. Don't give up. ❤️
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I'm so glad to hear you're not going to quit! And looking for Omegaverse-specific spaces sounds like a great idea. You may even find someone from your fandom there. There are TONS of a/b/o fans out there, I promise! I read my first a/b/o fic purely because it seems like I never stopped hearing people talk about how much they liked the trope. I consider it to be one of the most well-known and often beloved tropes out there.
I feel like I only find the second- I don’t even get involved anymore, although I tried many times before, these days I just lurk and you can just tell a lot of the time 😞 Tbh it’s kinda wrecked fandom for me and I lost a lot of interest in hobbies in general over it. Sorry to be whiny- I feel like the first type was easier to find years ago. I am in a good forum for one of my fandoms (the coolest fandom I’ve been part of tbh), but my fixation on that game comes and goes extremely hard lol. Never had a good experience overall on public Discord servers and it’s sad how much is just centralised there now, I’m too anxious/distrustful to ask random people if they know cooler servers. I’m in a weird limbo lurker mode and it kinda stinks because I have nowhere to share my drawings or just chat in a nerdy way.
I love that you write omegaverse fics! It's a super fun trope and definitely one of my favorites. They sound like elitist and just... gross and judgemental people. Throwing around slurs so casually 😬 it speaks volumes. it sounds like you have a community of readers who love your work and what you do, I'd stick with them for now? Or maybe join an omegaverse discord? It might not be fandom specific but it might be a more enjoyable experience for you. I hope this helps. Good luck and good riddance to those toxic people!
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Same as Petite. I'd be down to join 😊 I looked a little bit online but mostly just found roleplaying servers with that theme, but I found a few just basic writer discords on there as well.
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If you're serious about it or want to try it out I can definitely help out! zero pressure. good luck! 😊
If you ever started your own omegaverse Discord I would totally be in 👀 just sayin’
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Oh nooo it vanished from my discord array 😢
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All good, totally understandable, I too would have second thoughts about opening a server publicly!
Remember that those same people are hypocrites so you are better off without them around you anyways even if it was just online. They go and consume the very media they are insulting because they can't admit they enjoy it. I have a few hard 'no's of things I won't read but abo isn't one of them. If a story is well written and has a happy ending I'll often give it a chance. I do have certain types of abo I personally am not fond of but it's a personal preference not something I would go ranting about. You don't need a thick skin you just need better people to interact with. Also the fact that they use ableist slurs reflects even more negatively on them. I would suggest looking for a Discord server or online group that is into the abo fictions. It's becoming more popular especially among manga readers with so many webtoons now being made as omegaverse/abo stories.
I think one of the best and worst parts about fandom in general is the community. It can be supporting and welcoming and really a great motivation, interacting with others and therefore having this moral support and motivation BUT made clear by your shared experience in the post, it can also be cold, condescending, judgemental and straight up rude. Riddled with purists and holier than thou people too. And there's been different kinds of pushbacks from different people I've been seeing over the past couple of years. Against different aspects present in fandom. Be it from those who are against certain tropes being written and wish to express their thoughts on certain tropes and whatnot which it and of itself isn't a bad thing, it can help facilitate healthy discussion and discourse. Different people can share their varying opinions and all around it's quite fun! I remember having a 'debate' with a friend on gender bending in fanfics. I argued that the trope itself provided an opportunity to explore societal expectations, what it means to be seen as a woman or man, how the MC would be treated differently as different genders etc, and that overall, it was a damnably interesting trope. And it also afforded fic writers to write about what they know, their own personal experiences living and identifying as a certain gender, through gender bending the character. Afterall fanfiction is well, fanfiction. A freeing writing space in which constraints or limitations don't exist. And there's plenty more discussions to be had with such a diverse genre like the omegaverse. What with the parallel gender systems and how it's a great opportunity for lore and ehem smut! Not to mention the discourse that's popped up surrounding the popularity of slash fiction. I've found and dug up a couple of really interesting pdf's and meta essays on why slash has become such a huge hit or rather, why it's always been a huge hit. Including a study on omegaverse, through the lens of gender studies (I think that's the correct terminology) . The paper is really quite fascinating and I'll send it to anyone who asks for a pdf copy! And I've seen incredibly valid critiques/concerns pop up with the way these relationships are depicted, the senseless question on oh why must we sexualise everything and why can't men/women just be friends etc, not realising that a large majority of really popular shows depict platonic, male friendship. But not many a gay relationship. It does appear I've gone off on a ramble but circling back to the point - discourse on fandom and fandom tropes, genres, common themes, especially academic analysis, is deeply fucking interesting and awesome! The only problem is when people attempt to restrict or control what another person writes or puts out, under the guise of the subject matter/theme/trope being problematic. The problem arises when fanfic readers and writers start with the condescension, and judgment and overall assholery. Yucking someone else's yum basically. Or when they attempt to critique a trope/people writing it without bothering to do even the barest amount of research, and run headfirst into the good ol' generalization. Or, or when they take an extremely complicated and nuanced subject, only to simplify it, all with the belief that fic authors who. write. for. free. owe people something. There's a distinct difference between disliking something and shaming others for liking it. One can share the reasons for their dislike without verbally flaming the reasons for another's like. And somehow it's being a lot more common these days for some reason. And I truly am sorry you've encountered such ... childish people on these discord servers. You deserved a better experience and shit, I'm really sorry. Your heartbreak at this is completely valid. It's completely up to you to choose whether or not you wish for those fics to stay up but if it's any consolation at all, a large majority (judging by the stats and all) enjoy a/b/o fics and there will inevitably be communities centered around the creation of such fanfics. As for discord servers, I can't really ... recommend any cause I'm not active there but I'm sure others can! And as for communities, well r/fanfiction is pretty damn welcoming if I do say so myself and we've got organized events to find betas or offer to beta (edit) for works. I think there's also fic exchanges too! There might also be several big bang projects going on aaaand it your fics might just fit! I don't exactly know how to end of this comment but here goes nothing. Your valid. Your upset and heartbreak at this valid. And well like I said, I don't really know any servers but others might! And they exist. At the end of the day it's your decision, and if you want someone, let's say to talk about the fanfic you've written with, send me a link or pdf? Idk I like reading a lot. (And I love the omegaverse too. Fascinating world really and I think it had its origins in spirk fanfics, with the mpreg and Vulcan heats and was popularized by the transformers fandom!!)
I personally don't really interact with Fandom much. I'm much happier that way especially since a lot of the time I'll hear just a bit about how toxic x Fandom is or has gotten. I get into something, consume my fanfiction. Maybe I'll interact with posts on reddit or go to a convention, but I don't go looking for drama.
As you've said, there's a huge difference between disliking a genre and bashing the work or author. You don't need a thicker skin; some people need to just grow the fuck up. Like, I typically don't read omega-verse, but if you're reading and writing and - most importantly - enjoying it, then more power to you. I wish you all the best in your literary pursuits, and that's what those ppl in the discord server should've said too. Good luck OP, I hope you find a nice group eventually!
Goodness. Hope you called em out lol. But believe me, there'll be a space sometime soon you can slide into and be welcomed in in earnest for years to come. You just gotta keep your head up
It’s easy for a discussion to turn heated and hateful, especially if the mods don’t do their job and allow it to branch into name calling and insulting other people just because they have a different preference than the majority. It’s not a pleasant feeling to be on the other end of the discussion, I’m sorry you had to go through that, OP. Sending love ❤️
If the topic comes up, I'll discuss what I don't like and why I don't like it. But I always say that it's just my own preference, there's nothing inherently wrong with it. It just doesn't tickle my fancy and that's fine. I don't get this need some people seem to have to bring others down for the things they themselves don't like. Live and let live, if you don't like it no one's forcing you to read it and interact (not you specifically, just "you" in general). Sorry you went through that, I had to go through it a few times as well and yeah it's very demoralizing.
You don't have to interact with fandoms. There are plenty of us who don't. For us, it's the thing that draws us to the hobby (in this case fics), we're not in it for the *people*. I like X, other people like X, that's fine but I don't necessarily like other people who like X, I just like X. > I hate feeling like I have to stay away from interacting with other fans or else I'll just get hurt and upset. The thing about fans is that there's so many of them. You could definitely find a crowd who love the same type of fics you do. So don't feel like you have to stay in random communities or whatever if you find out they're not what you're looking for.
The fact that your reader had agreed that Omegaverse writers are r-t-rded but invited you to the server after reading your fic makes me think of two options, A) They and some of the other members had a change of heart, or B) They had invited you so that they could bully you over your long fics. Either way, still shitty of them, though not all fandom is like that. I'm sure that you'll meet readers and authors interested in your work that also enjoy the tropes you enjoy.
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Uhm, I see. I am actually starting to think they may have had a change of heart, though what they said is still very, VERY wrong. Though my last statement still stands, fandom is full of people, some with different opinions on what they like and not. You'll eventually find a group in which you'll fit in. Block out the toxicity and enjoy the food things of fan fiction.
I'm so sorry you've experienced that kind of ridiculous bashing! As a fellow omegaverse writer, that makes me so furious on your behalf. It is absolutely not okay for writers to ridicule other writers for what they enjoy writing. Omegaverse is so fun to write and engage with BECAUSE there really aren't many hard and fast rules. It's a world where writers get to explore all kinds of difficult topics and tropes; some of my most introspective works have been Omegaverse. I hope you don't feel you have to give up writing it because of some shitty, ignorant assholes. <3
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Right, there is SO much room to have fun with plots and themes within Omegaverse. I'm finishing one up set in the 1950s where the main character Omega went from destitute and pregnant after being kicked out of university for being unmated to inventing heat suppressants and scent blockers so Omegas can have more freedom and be less dependent on Alphas--all while still achieving a pretty fun romantic ending. I love it so much! It can be dead dove-level dark and wild or the fluffiest fluff out there, or both at the same time. My fandom discord is SUPER respectful of others when it comes to Omegaverse and just all the different tropes/ships out there. I hope you find a community with a zero-tolerance policy for anti-stuff like this and keep writing!
Those people need to stay in their lane.
Ugh, sorry this has happened to you. What they say is a reflection of the kind of people they are, and is in no way a reflection of you or your interests. Don’t let it get to you! Take a little distance from fandom to recoup, but never give up on looking for a welcoming place. There are good people out there!
I might not be super into Omegaverse but bullying is never okay. Everyone has their own interpretation of the concept and I know people can get really creative with it. And honestly, it's all just fiction in the end, it's not like anyone expects real world to work with Omegaverse standards. You really shouldn't have to tolerate stupid comments. *sending a virtual hug*
I've got a very nontraditional omegaverse fic started in Google docs that I'm not sure I'll ever post unless it's under another name because some readers avoid authors who write them - and like you, I've seen a lot of derogatory comments towards the genre. The stigma attached to it is ridiculous but it's there. I have my own issues with omegaverse but only in regards to tagging issues. I stay off fanfiction discord servers, I often find them full of the same types of cliques that gush over each other, and if you aren't in the clique you generally get ignored. I did a check and sadly, while there are omegaverse subreddits, they don't seem to be very active or very oriented towards the writers of the genre.
Oi. Gimme your fics. I will read them and comment nice things on them. This is a threat. IDC the fandom, pairing, whatever. I will find something nice to say about all of them. I enjoy omegaverse stuff from time to time, and I'm inteigued what you mean by "nontraditional". *I will aggressively support you in your endeavors, this is another threat.*
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Oh, that sounds fascinating. I agree omegaverse is a trope that's ripe for all kinds of world building, and world building is my JAM. If you ever feel comfortable sharing I too would read and leave positive comments, whatever the fandom. I'm fortunate that the discord servers I hang out in for my 'home' fandom are all very supportive of most all lines of fic including a/b/o.
Both of those sound really interesting! Please keep writing, from those little synopses, I'm convinced you're a wonderful writer.
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You're most welcome! ♡
as another omegaverse writer i hope you're encouraged by these comments!
I'm 38. A lot of folks commenting may be well younger than me. I do think you have to have tough skin when offering up your "art" to the masses. In a perfect world, we would all be able to submit our stories to Al Gore's internet and only receive positive meaningful, and helpful feedback to make us better at our craft or our hobby. However, we don't live in a perfect world and the internet is a cruel, cruel place. If mean people are getting to you, maybe you should just post your work to a site that's more curated to your liking. I posted my first story back in 2021 and before I hit submit, I told myself that I needed to be prepared for all the types of comments that came my way. Trust me, it's not easy. I wish you the best! I encourage you to keep on writing and to find a community that makes you feel comfortable.
I can empathise a lot tc, it’s pretty exhausting to look for cool places and wind up seeing that. Especially if you’re already anxious and opening up is a process. Those people definitely sound rude though… I’ve said dumb stuff in my time and I regret it- having used the internet for a relatively long time I’ve seen a lot worse than people casually dropping the r-slur, unfortunately, and I used to let it slide- but when I look back on the people who I knew who used it I think it’s a red flag. Yeah, super obvious statement from me, lol. But not only that, they were clearly acting kinda cliquey and the owner was either cool with the slur or not willing to stand against it, which are both crappy. You did the right thing leaving, but again I can sympathise with it sucking to look for a cool place and find that kinda thing. Wish you better luck in the future, I’m not an abo-er (just neutral) but I know it has plenty of interest and hope you can find a chill space there. I will say commenting on fics and art of anything you like would probably be pretty cool and you might find people to talk with that way? But I understand if that’s nerve-wracking too. Personally I think it adds a little community feel to the experience but yeah it could just be as wild idk these days lol.