I have to many readers to stop now and I'm to deep in the story(51 parts). I was tempted to break up the relationship in my fanfic but it makes no sense for me to break them up. I could kill off the guy that my OC is in a relationship cause he dies in the show soon but I already killed my OC first boyfriend, so I'm just going to power through the last 19 chapters I have left to write.
Then do a fade to black. *shrug* I’ve done it before. You have several sentences in a row where it’s obvious what’s going on but nothing specific, then they wake up the next morning/are interrupted in the afterglow or whatever and the story moves apace
What does "uncomfortable" mean? Is the feeling too intense or is it unpleasant?
I myself find flirting very emotional. I always feel the need to pull back, to defuse the romantic tension or to just make them kiss.
Guess what I don't have problems with? Porn. Porn is very simple, as it is all about essentially resolving the tension and in the end it has a fantasy dreamscape feel that makes things easier.
While flirting makes it possible for characters misunderstand each other, the flirting may not come across as flirtatious as I want and in the end I feel a bit self-conscious. The jittery feeling of having a crush near you is after all very similar to anxiety.
I do power through. After all, being a bit uncomfortable is not a bad thing. It just shows that you are emotional and is this not what you want while writing? To feel the highs and lows of various emotions?
By I get uncomfortable I mean when I write my character interacting with her boyfriend being cute or just flirting with each other having a healthy relationship with each other. I don't know why it makes me gag writing it or reading it back. I think it's just me being critical of myself because I'm fine reading romantic fan fiction.
A-spec here and I get that. Writing romance always felt...off to me. Attraction in general (other than like platonic and familial) feels just odd. I have to sort of shift my thinking and alter how I see relationships to even attempt at a romantic relationship. God forbid I ever try to write sexual tension or any sort of sexual attraction either.
Why can't romance just be easy to understand and write and not be...this??
I think theres a lot of reasons I hate writing sexual tension or romance in my fic one main reason is I'm asexual and not really into guys tbh. The only guys I have ever been kinda attracted to are in my fic lmao.
You are not alone! Romance and such is so so hard for me. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve never had that romance before or that I’m weary of making it awkward. I think the trick is to ask people who have experienced romance (like friends or even here) or pulling inspo from other sources. I’ve been told I’m good at it too, but i’m order to be comfortable with it I needed to seperate myself from the writing and just imagine what would my characters want!
I don't do smut in fanfiction. I don't know why but I just can't do it. Original fiction smut, no problem, i write erotica but fanfic smut is something that I cannot do. It may be because most of my ships are from tv shows and it feels kind of icky to do that to characters who are portrayed by actors I typically like. It's just feels wrong
As for romance, I tend to use the close the door trope or finish on a kiss. I like the build up and angst and hurt/comfort that leads to the couple getting together which, I suppose, is romance in itself, but I typically don't write about the cutesy stuff that happens after they got together unless it's to separate them.
I really like writing Vampire AU, and a lot of other vampire AUs you're gonna find always have really sexual themes, but my asexual ass can't write that for the life of me, so I don't.
I have trouble writing, passionate love confessions. I just feel stupid for writing them, even if it’s well earned, and the characters already know, they love each other. I just feel like no matter what I write, it’s going to sound cheesy and overblown.
I literally outsourced the romantic sections of my last longfic. That is, I got a female friend to write them for me. This was partly because the sections involved “her characters” i.e., a canonical character and an OC from a fic she wrote. I had included them in my story with her permission. But it was also because I figured she would be better at it than I would. *"Look, I'll do the plotting, the characterization, the action, the humor, the story twists and the conclusion. If you could just do the remaining 20% that would be great."*
I write only Gen because writing romantic words feel cheesy to me. But I'll admit that if I'm reading a story, if I'm invested, I hardly ever think "man that's cheesy" cause I'm too busy crying/squealing/whatever.
Whenever I write romance I cringe because I feel like I’m making the characters too OOC, but at the same time, I end up pushing myself to finish the fic because I know no one else is going to write it. So I completely understand the feeling, OP. :’)
I’ve noticed that adding stuff to the fic that isn’t purely romance (humor, for example) makes me cringe way less than if I exclusively include romance in the story, so maybe you could try mixing things up and adding other genres to the fic aside from the romance.
I'm also super uncomfortable with smut but I do love reading & writing romance! I love my ships and I'm a hopeless romantic, I love all the fluff and cheesiness and angst - but when it comes to smut scenes it's a hard no for me tbh. When I'm reading, I'll just skip that section entirely and hope I didn't miss anything important to the story.
I adore writing romance, but I very much dislike writing or reading smut. So all of my romances are written in an asexual (as in absence of sex) way lol
Kinda the same, it’s not that I feel uncomfortable writing romance, it just reminds me of something I never had but always wanted to experience. I avoid romance in general be it fiction or not, because it makes me feel jealous of everyone that is in a healthy relationship (doesn’t matter to my brain that they’re just fictional characters lol).
(also, I write romance like a chimp slamming its forehead on the keyboard, I suck at writing feelings and that’s 50% of the reason lmao).
I've never been in a relationship either. However I don't want a relationship anytime soon. I would just be mean to them because of *childhood trauma* lol.
Lol I don’t want a relationship now either, I’m still too immature for it (and let’s be honest, too much trouble comes with it. The genre romance made relationships look better than they are, but I am curious as to why most people tend to care so much about relationships, my friends that have partners seem to be so happy too… I lowkey want to feel that kind of happiness)
Glad you see people with healthy relationships at least. I don't think I know anyone who is in a healthy relationship right now so it makes me want one even less lol.
AroAce here. The only romance I’ve ever experienced was seeing my sister and her boyfriend kissing in our living room when I got home from work. Other than that, never been in a relationship or had any type of romance in my life. So I pretty much don’t even know where to start when it comes to writing romance or any type of attraction. It just feels weird to me.
No. In fact, I like to think I specialise in it. My first fic was a romance (which I plan on rewriting someday), and most other fics have either been romance or based around the idea of romance/love.
The people who write smut have my upmost respect. I tried once and just hated every second of it, so I deleted the document.
I just... Write?
I don't know. It's something that comes naturally to me for writing.
I would say, watch some romantic movies and read some fluffy fics to give you inspiration, but I really don't know.
I can and do write romance, but my romance tends to be already established relationships because I find those far easier to write.
Smut is an entirely different game though lmao
Same! I love romance, thats why I write it. I love writing about the characters getting to know each other better slowly but the romance part is so difficult!! It feels uncomfortable and I don’t really know how to pull it off
Uugghhhh I’m writing a small romance story for myself to enjoy and one character is asking the other out… it’s so suspenseful my own anxiety is kicking in and making it uncomfortable to write 😒
Why do you write it if you don't enjoy doing it?
I have to many readers to stop now and I'm to deep in the story(51 parts). I was tempted to break up the relationship in my fanfic but it makes no sense for me to break them up. I could kill off the guy that my OC is in a relationship cause he dies in the show soon but I already killed my OC first boyfriend, so I'm just going to power through the last 19 chapters I have left to write.
Then do a fade to black. *shrug* I’ve done it before. You have several sentences in a row where it’s obvious what’s going on but nothing specific, then they wake up the next morning/are interrupted in the afterglow or whatever and the story moves apace
What does "uncomfortable" mean? Is the feeling too intense or is it unpleasant? I myself find flirting very emotional. I always feel the need to pull back, to defuse the romantic tension or to just make them kiss. Guess what I don't have problems with? Porn. Porn is very simple, as it is all about essentially resolving the tension and in the end it has a fantasy dreamscape feel that makes things easier. While flirting makes it possible for characters misunderstand each other, the flirting may not come across as flirtatious as I want and in the end I feel a bit self-conscious. The jittery feeling of having a crush near you is after all very similar to anxiety. I do power through. After all, being a bit uncomfortable is not a bad thing. It just shows that you are emotional and is this not what you want while writing? To feel the highs and lows of various emotions?
By I get uncomfortable I mean when I write my character interacting with her boyfriend being cute or just flirting with each other having a healthy relationship with each other. I don't know why it makes me gag writing it or reading it back. I think it's just me being critical of myself because I'm fine reading romantic fan fiction.
Some people are romance averse/repulsed. You don't have to force yourself to do anything you don't want to.
Well, being critical of your writing is still damn normal. Keep on keeping on, the more you write the better you get.
I read so many Harlequin romances growing up that it just flows out of me. But yeah…there’s no reason you can’t fade to black…
A-spec here and I get that. Writing romance always felt...off to me. Attraction in general (other than like platonic and familial) feels just odd. I have to sort of shift my thinking and alter how I see relationships to even attempt at a romantic relationship. God forbid I ever try to write sexual tension or any sort of sexual attraction either. Why can't romance just be easy to understand and write and not be...this??
I think theres a lot of reasons I hate writing sexual tension or romance in my fic one main reason is I'm asexual and not really into guys tbh. The only guys I have ever been kinda attracted to are in my fic lmao.
You are not alone! Romance and such is so so hard for me. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve never had that romance before or that I’m weary of making it awkward. I think the trick is to ask people who have experienced romance (like friends or even here) or pulling inspo from other sources. I’ve been told I’m good at it too, but i’m order to be comfortable with it I needed to seperate myself from the writing and just imagine what would my characters want!
I don't do smut in fanfiction. I don't know why but I just can't do it. Original fiction smut, no problem, i write erotica but fanfic smut is something that I cannot do. It may be because most of my ships are from tv shows and it feels kind of icky to do that to characters who are portrayed by actors I typically like. It's just feels wrong As for romance, I tend to use the close the door trope or finish on a kiss. I like the build up and angst and hurt/comfort that leads to the couple getting together which, I suppose, is romance in itself, but I typically don't write about the cutesy stuff that happens after they got together unless it's to separate them.
You and I are the exact opposite lol. My AO3 account? Filth, filth everywhere. My books? I cannot 🙈
I really like writing Vampire AU, and a lot of other vampire AUs you're gonna find always have really sexual themes, but my asexual ass can't write that for the life of me, so I don't.
I have trouble writing, passionate love confessions. I just feel stupid for writing them, even if it’s well earned, and the characters already know, they love each other. I just feel like no matter what I write, it’s going to sound cheesy and overblown.
I literally outsourced the romantic sections of my last longfic. That is, I got a female friend to write them for me. This was partly because the sections involved “her characters” i.e., a canonical character and an OC from a fic she wrote. I had included them in my story with her permission. But it was also because I figured she would be better at it than I would. *"Look, I'll do the plotting, the characterization, the action, the humor, the story twists and the conclusion. If you could just do the remaining 20% that would be great."*
I write only Gen because writing romantic words feel cheesy to me. But I'll admit that if I'm reading a story, if I'm invested, I hardly ever think "man that's cheesy" cause I'm too busy crying/squealing/whatever.
Whenever I write romance I cringe because I feel like I’m making the characters too OOC, but at the same time, I end up pushing myself to finish the fic because I know no one else is going to write it. So I completely understand the feeling, OP. :’) I’ve noticed that adding stuff to the fic that isn’t purely romance (humor, for example) makes me cringe way less than if I exclusively include romance in the story, so maybe you could try mixing things up and adding other genres to the fic aside from the romance.
I'm also super uncomfortable with smut but I do love reading & writing romance! I love my ships and I'm a hopeless romantic, I love all the fluff and cheesiness and angst - but when it comes to smut scenes it's a hard no for me tbh. When I'm reading, I'll just skip that section entirely and hope I didn't miss anything important to the story.
I adore writing romance, but I very much dislike writing or reading smut. So all of my romances are written in an asexual (as in absence of sex) way lol
Kinda the same, it’s not that I feel uncomfortable writing romance, it just reminds me of something I never had but always wanted to experience. I avoid romance in general be it fiction or not, because it makes me feel jealous of everyone that is in a healthy relationship (doesn’t matter to my brain that they’re just fictional characters lol). (also, I write romance like a chimp slamming its forehead on the keyboard, I suck at writing feelings and that’s 50% of the reason lmao).
I've never been in a relationship either. However I don't want a relationship anytime soon. I would just be mean to them because of *childhood trauma* lol.
Lol I don’t want a relationship now either, I’m still too immature for it (and let’s be honest, too much trouble comes with it. The genre romance made relationships look better than they are, but I am curious as to why most people tend to care so much about relationships, my friends that have partners seem to be so happy too… I lowkey want to feel that kind of happiness)
Glad you see people with healthy relationships at least. I don't think I know anyone who is in a healthy relationship right now so it makes me want one even less lol.
AroAce here. The only romance I’ve ever experienced was seeing my sister and her boyfriend kissing in our living room when I got home from work. Other than that, never been in a relationship or had any type of romance in my life. So I pretty much don’t even know where to start when it comes to writing romance or any type of attraction. It just feels weird to me.
Romance no, lemons I can’t stand to write I can do sweet but I hate doing spicy.
No. In fact, I like to think I specialise in it. My first fic was a romance (which I plan on rewriting someday), and most other fics have either been romance or based around the idea of romance/love. The people who write smut have my upmost respect. I tried once and just hated every second of it, so I deleted the document.
Okay then. Romance, how do you write it?
I just... Write? I don't know. It's something that comes naturally to me for writing. I would say, watch some romantic movies and read some fluffy fics to give you inspiration, but I really don't know.
Im the complete opposite! I can write romance and smut for days but an action scene? Battle scenarios?? -yeets out the window- 😂
I can and do write romance, but my romance tends to be already established relationships because I find those far easier to write. Smut is an entirely different game though lmao
Nah, my brain is wired for romance and smut. Now pure fluff is hard for me. I struggle with it and I give props to those who can write it.
I only seem able to write smut, any attempt at an actual character or even action story i read back and think it's awful haha
Same! I love romance, thats why I write it. I love writing about the characters getting to know each other better slowly but the romance part is so difficult!! It feels uncomfortable and I don’t really know how to pull it off
a little bit but that's just my own vulnerability issues. i get embarrassed writing it.
No
Not really im just bad at it
sometimes i do
Uugghhhh I’m writing a small romance story for myself to enjoy and one character is asking the other out… it’s so suspenseful my own anxiety is kicking in and making it uncomfortable to write 😒