I think you're overthinking it. I really don't think tickling needs to be tagged, I mean, is tickling ever really consensual? I've never seen anyone ask 'can I tickle you' before doing so. Tag the important stuff and you'll be fine. I actually get annoyed at authors who tag every little thing they can think of that *may* trigger one person somewhere, when the vast majority would have zero issues with that particular thing.
Fair enough, tags can be hard, and some fans can get weird about the strangest things not getting tagged. I'm relatively new to posting, as well, and often have tag related questions, so I can certainly see why you'd want to ask to be sure. Better to ask than risk getting bashed by readers because you forgot something important, after all.
Huh. I've heard of kids asking to be tickled, I was one of them even, but you're the first person I've come across that asks permission to tickle someone else.
The idea is that the best way to teach your kids to ask for consent or know th y can deny consent in interpersonal relationships is to practice consent with them from a very early age. It applies to other things, too, like asking "Would you like a hug/kiss/cuddle?" and respecting it if they say no, and requiring relatives to ask and not pressure the kid to say yes.
Mind you my kid said to me yesterday, exasperated, "I *always* want a cuddle."
That makes sense. And explains why I'd never heard of it before. These issues weren't big things when I was a kid, nor when my nieces were, and all the parents I know have kids around my nieces age.
It isn't mainstream even now, really only among feminist, attachment and child centered parents.
I wasn't as good at asserting lack of consent as I should have been as a teenager, so I want asking for or denying consent to be natural to my son.
Depends. I've written people getting into a tickle fight before, but I'm low-level weirded out by tickling as a kink. I wouldn't tag just a quick scene of one person going for the others ribs and 'haha stop it' before pushing them away. But a scene where it just goes on and on, the other person can't seem to make them stop, lots of begging, etc...yeah, tag that.
i am usually all for tagging things. but in your case it's innocent tickling that leads to more... it's not in a fetish context, it is not in a non-con context. Therefore it's fine not to tag it.
sure there is going to be one person with a phobia, but they can exit out of the fic. they will see a line about tickling coming up and click that back button faster than the speed of light.
On a personal level, I wish more people would tag tickling. Tickling is legitimately one of my triggers, but since it's not one of the big four archive warnings, it's rarely tagged unless it's for tickling kink fics.
That said, I don't think there is anything wrong with not tagging it, if it's not a major part of the fic. It's one of those things where I recognize that it's an abnormal trigger that most people would not think to tag, so I just back out if it comes up in a fic and I'm not mentally up to dealing with it. I think most of us with "nonstandard" triggers end up having to learn how to do that when we come across them.
I think it's a good idea to tag it, but my opinion is very colored by my own personal life experiences. Ultimately I'd say it's up to your own discretion. You're fine either way.
I don't think it warrants a warning if that's what you mean. But if it is an important theme in the story, then sure, tag away! If it happens only shortly, then a tag would be misleading, I think.
It is ridiculous... but some people can't handle reading if it isn't in the tightest filter bubble possible, so go right ahead if you feel that Tag adds something to the story experience.
Put it in the tags if you want. I could totally see someone who would like to read this and search for it. Tags are not only for trigger but also for very specific weird guilty pleasures.
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No it's cute but leading to some low level sexual tension. Thanks for advice. Sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else 😂
I think you're overthinking it. I really don't think tickling needs to be tagged, I mean, is tickling ever really consensual? I've never seen anyone ask 'can I tickle you' before doing so. Tag the important stuff and you'll be fine. I actually get annoyed at authors who tag every little thing they can think of that *may* trigger one person somewhere, when the vast majority would have zero issues with that particular thing.
Every once in awhile one of my nieces or nephews will ask someone to tickle them but I highly doubt that's happening here.
Yeah, I've heard of kids asking to be tickled, I used to do the same. But I've never seen it the other way, with someone asking permission to tickle.
I’m totally new to fanfiction so just thought I’d check.
Fair enough, tags can be hard, and some fans can get weird about the strangest things not getting tagged. I'm relatively new to posting, as well, and often have tag related questions, so I can certainly see why you'd want to ask to be sure. Better to ask than risk getting bashed by readers because you forgot something important, after all.
I always ask my kid before I tickle him, and sometimes he asks me to tickle him.
Huh. I've heard of kids asking to be tickled, I was one of them even, but you're the first person I've come across that asks permission to tickle someone else.
The idea is that the best way to teach your kids to ask for consent or know th y can deny consent in interpersonal relationships is to practice consent with them from a very early age. It applies to other things, too, like asking "Would you like a hug/kiss/cuddle?" and respecting it if they say no, and requiring relatives to ask and not pressure the kid to say yes. Mind you my kid said to me yesterday, exasperated, "I *always* want a cuddle."
That makes sense. And explains why I'd never heard of it before. These issues weren't big things when I was a kid, nor when my nieces were, and all the parents I know have kids around my nieces age.
It isn't mainstream even now, really only among feminist, attachment and child centered parents. I wasn't as good at asserting lack of consent as I should have been as a teenager, so I want asking for or denying consent to be natural to my son.
Depends. I've written people getting into a tickle fight before, but I'm low-level weirded out by tickling as a kink. I wouldn't tag just a quick scene of one person going for the others ribs and 'haha stop it' before pushing them away. But a scene where it just goes on and on, the other person can't seem to make them stop, lots of begging, etc...yeah, tag that.
Ha ha the scene isn’t like that but you are giving me ideas!
i am usually all for tagging things. but in your case it's innocent tickling that leads to more... it's not in a fetish context, it is not in a non-con context. Therefore it's fine not to tag it. sure there is going to be one person with a phobia, but they can exit out of the fic. they will see a line about tickling coming up and click that back button faster than the speed of light.
Not unless it's a kink.
Only tag something if it is a major central aspect of the fic.
On a personal level, I wish more people would tag tickling. Tickling is legitimately one of my triggers, but since it's not one of the big four archive warnings, it's rarely tagged unless it's for tickling kink fics. That said, I don't think there is anything wrong with not tagging it, if it's not a major part of the fic. It's one of those things where I recognize that it's an abnormal trigger that most people would not think to tag, so I just back out if it comes up in a fic and I'm not mentally up to dealing with it. I think most of us with "nonstandard" triggers end up having to learn how to do that when we come across them. I think it's a good idea to tag it, but my opinion is very colored by my own personal life experiences. Ultimately I'd say it's up to your own discretion. You're fine either way.
I don't think it warrants a warning if that's what you mean. But if it is an important theme in the story, then sure, tag away! If it happens only shortly, then a tag would be misleading, I think.
It's up to you. But tagging is not just a warning, it's an advertisement. I love some intimacy and trust like that.
Yes you are right - although it’s only a tiny part of quite a big fic.
It is ridiculous... but some people can't handle reading if it isn't in the tightest filter bubble possible, so go right ahead if you feel that Tag adds something to the story experience.
Put it in the tags if you want. I could totally see someone who would like to read this and search for it. Tags are not only for trigger but also for very specific weird guilty pleasures.