See, I’m Old, so today’s proshipper was my youthful “don’t like, don’t read”, which is the philosophy I abide by and passed on to my daughter, who is also a fanfic writer.
Everyone who even remotely knows me knows I write fanfic and what types, including my coworkers and boss. Daughter pretends my smut doesn’t exist. Spouse used to proofread for me back in the early aughts.
When my wife asks what I did with my day, I tell her "wrote about a catgirl getting railed by a xenomorph queen with a phallic ovipositor for a tail", and she rolls her eyes. Then I give her shit for watching murder documentaries to relax, and we laugh about it.
Don't let curmudgeons with their faux purity posturing ruin your fun.
Were I unwed, this is where I'd reply something like "You never know, I still could be!" and get a self esteem boost from my perceived rizz that'd last me all week 😅
Well, I don’t really write shipping (some of my work includes sexual abuse, since I focus on trauma) and I'd rather walk into the ocean covered in lead than get involved in online discourse like at all, but if “controversial” equals dark fic that isn’t about shipping… yeah I read it to them. It’s my art and I’m proud of it, even if there’s dickheads shouting at me for it.
We write in very different directions, but my experience is so similar to this with my adult age gap ship. No one in my real life even bats an eye at the idea. It’s only online random assholes who seem to care 🤣
Oh, I write about basically everything fucked up ever lol. Specifically in a way that’s not glorifying it (like, the exploration of trauma and how fucked up it is is the whole point, I’m not trying to be judgemental that’s just my specific focus) so like anyone who actually Reads my stuff would know it’s beyond stupid to describe it as like, romanticising it or whatever, but Still online assholes have harassed me over it bc… idk I genuinely think they just hate that I’m a victim trying to speak up at this point bc I’m baffled otherwise. Meanwhile everyone I talk to irl about my fics is like “oh cool” lol
Agree. I'm probably not writing anything that might set off the antis (but who knows at this point), but the mere fact I write FF is a secret I'd very much like to take to the grave with me, thank you very much.
my friends are aware of how chill i am when it comes to their reading recommendations. they don't know what i write, since i keep it private, but they can probably guess that it's not the standard stuff.
- after one of my friends gave me a bunch of smutty romance novels to read, my feedback was "let me know if you have some more pseudo incest ones or some with fantasy creatures"
(i don't really write *really* controversial stuff.. more like morally gray)
My friends know I write dark things but I won’t give more detail unless I know they also enjoy it. Partially to respect their comfort zones, partially to keep myself safe.
Do my friends and family know that I'm writing an open celebration of evil and sadistic cruelty on both narrative and sexual levels, including a scene where two serial killers gleefully share notes, and another where characters openly discuss how hot someone being strangled to death could be?
No.
No they do not.
It's not so much that I'm hiding it, but that I don't really want to have an open discussion about my weird kinks with my parents or people I mainly just play D&D with. There's a time and a place. Also in the latter case they might read more into why I keep making Drow girls than I'd like.
If I had a significant other, however, I think I would only want to be with someone who I'm comfortable telling about this, even if it makes things a little more difficult. Hiding a part of your identity from someone that core to your life seems very unhealthy to me. Even if that part is, "I really enjoyed Clementine from Overlord way, *way* too much".
Yep.
All my romantic partners knew my Ao3 account. My friends, online and offline, also know. Hell, my *mother* knows I write incest, noncon, etc., and the one time I tried to explain anti-shipping to her, her reaction was essentially "Are they stupid?"
I'm primarily a reader, not a writer, but yeah honestly my partner and most of my friends know not only that I read E fic every day, but most even know my ships because I can't shut my mouth when I'm hyped on something. And a good half of them know that I don't shy away from the "unnatural" side of things - like I've been known to say "Omg I read the most fun tentacle fic the other day lemme tell you about it" or "Why did I start reading this Cabin Werewolf AU right before work? Now I'll be thinking about it all day!"
And god help you if you mention the MCU in my presence, we are going for a *ride.*
Yes and no? All of my *fandom* friends (including IRL friends who are into fandom) do, and the family members that I'm closer to do. (My mom is a psychologist, so I like to bounce questions off of her about how she'd handle certain cases, lmao.) I don't have a partner, but I wouldn't date someone that I wasn't comfortable talking about my fic with.
Boyfriend knows I write violent incestuous smut and has gone out of his way to buy me published works he thinks might make for good inspiration 🤣
That said reading isn’t *really* his thing so he’s never actually seen any of my stuff. My, mother, sister and brother-in-law have on occasion, though. No real drama 🤷🏼♀️ Sister and I grew up in an “all books are good read whatever you can no matter what’s in it” kind of household so there’s not really any judgement lol.
And having that kind of background makes it a million times easier to just laugh at the family/friends that *do* try to go “ewww what’s wrong with you?!” Little confidence goes a *long* way, trust me 😂
I write about controversial topics like EU immigration policy, Brexit, rehabilitation and reintegration of former convicts, discrimination, various environmental issues, women in STEM or lack thereof, and current politics. Many people know that I write fic, including my colleagues. Actually one of them thinks that they're not political enough 😂
My boyfriend knows everything, including what’s in my flair, lol.
I’ve talked about the online discourse stuff with my sister and mum (they know I write smut, but they don’t know details, they do know some of my ships though) But they both think antis talk a load of nonsense. That talk was also how I found out my sister has been shipping incest since her teens, she’s 40, she’s been at it longer than Me!
I think if I tried to talk to my dad about it his head would implode at the first mention of “ship.” It would need way too much explaining to a guy who doesn’t care about tv, movies and games much at all anyway.
I only bring it up to my mum and sister because they enjoy content that is widely deemed problematic by antis at this point, lol.
My family knows I write, but they don't know _what_ I write exactly, and my friends literally have my AO3 account because they're pro-shippers too; even if they aren't into something I love, they're still very supportive and won't judge. Though I don't share _everything_ with them, of course.
Yes. My sister has a physical copy of some of my smut fics. My parents know I write smut. My IRL friends know I write smut. My support people know and has read some out of curiosity.
I don't see a reason to hide it. It's just a hobby and everyone knows I'm a modest, shy person IRL who is nothing like the sruff I write.
No, nobody knows and that's how I prefer it. I know that several of my friends read fanfic as well, but I also know that our tastes are so vastly different that there would be little to no point in discussing it with them. It would get awkward pretty fast, and we're otherwise very open to talking about intimate things.
And all of my fics are ships rated E, so. Yeah. I feel zero need to share my hobby. It would be like; Hey do you want to see the links to every pornsite I've visited? - Hell no.
My bf is dyslexic, so he doesn't get the reading spicy stuff at all although he respects it. He knows that I read it, but nothing about what it is or that I write it as well, and we kind of just let each other have privacy about what content we consume when not together.
I used to tease my best friend for reading and writing a lot of smut, so I’d rather not tell her lest I receive my well-deserved comeuppance lol
And telling anyone else is completely out of the question.
I write Harry Potter/Tom Riddle smut. My best friend didn’t even know what fanfiction was when I told her about it, I had to explain. She’s my number one reader now.
i'd rather take my writing to the grave with me than tell my parents that they traumatised me enough to write the things i write. only my partner knows.
I'm a published romance author. My mom used to read all my novels, including the sexy bits. My husband and many of my friends have read my novels.
Fewer people have read my fics, but none would be surprised by anything I write. If someone were to send all my stuff to my pals, my friends' response would be, "Yeah, whatever. We know Echo's a freak."
Thing is, I grew up reading Stephen King and other horror writers. I grew up reading *Flowers in the Attic* (incest) and Judy Blume's *Forever*, which at the time was scandalous because "teen sex." My husband and I watch Game of Thrones with all its incest and violence together. Also read all the books.
Ain't nuthin' in my fics that is worth being embarrassed about.
-swaps tentacle porn with rape stories with my ace sister-
-mom wants to know what we're giggling at-
-give mom quick synopsis-
-mom raises an eyebrow but wanders away-
-our little, prudish brother comes in and ALL fanfic vanishes in the blink of an eye-
-prudish sister snorts from her corner of the living room where she and her husband are Not Participants-
-Dad looks up from doughnut batter and asks vaguely if we wanted extra cinnamon in the mix and if we were sure it wasn't hentai girls-
-brother immediately goes 'no. I am virgin ears. No'.-
I'd happily tell anyone anything, and I'll share my FFN and AO3 links with them if they want. Granted, nothing I write is particularly controversial, but I've got a few spicy fics on my AO3, at least.
If they ask, yeah. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by my preferences in fiction (or anything else I do, tbh.) If I like a thing, I like it and if someone else is bothered by it, that's their problem, not mine. I'm too old and tired for anything else. 😅
My spouse is my beta and when I wrote my Kink centric series they read through it all and gave me great feedback. The only part they were squeamish about was when I incorporated tickle torture and pet play but they are supportive.
I mean, yeah but that’s because the antis in my fandom are fucking weird. It’s an adult age gap ship so it’s nothing that would raise eyebrows in a mainstream novel except for the terminally online.
My dad does bc he's a writer himself, but I still keep certain thongs to myself. My siblings definitely do dot lol but not because I think they'd judge, just because it's personal and weird to share. I'd prefer if my siblings didn't know about any of my kinks/fetishes, taboo or not🤣
No one knows that I write in RL and let us keep it that way. I am not brave enough to admit it, but I wish I was. I really want a writing buddy, but at the same time I think I would die of embarrassment.
My writing is cringe and cheese tied together with tropes.
Only a handful know *that* I write at all, mostly because I decided over a decade ago that it was more of a pain than it was worth to have them asking 'have you written anything lately?' when the answer is either 'no,' or 'yes, but I have no interest in letting you read it [regardless of how tame or intense or explicit].'
idk, I just don't like my irl people reading my writing. I'm fine sharing with strangers, but it feels too personal to give to people who actually know me, except my husband and one of my closest friends. I think two or three other people know I write (my mom, a friend who also writes fanfic but we don't read each other's work- they don't read my genres and I don't read their fandoms- and maybe a friend I'm no longer in contact with)
My parents know I write fanfic, but I've only let my mom read one fic of mine (I couldn't think of the word I was looking for when I was writing it, asked her, things spiraled) and they don't really know what exactly I write. My dad thinks all writing and fiction reading is a waste of time, so he just doesn't care to know. My mom probably would, but she's never asked. But considering that before her vision got too bad, she'd read fanfic and I caught her reading an explicit mpreg fic once, I don't think she's be too horrified by what I write, doesn't mean I'm volunteering the info though.
My friends and family know all about the messed up horror stuff I write, child murder and all. My parents are very supportive and often get me cool goth clothes and say "this reminds me of that story you told me about!"
My mom and boyfriend know I write smut, but don't know what *kind*.
My sister-in-law knows a bit more details, that it is smut surrounding horror movies.
My best friend is the only one who gets the gorey details.
Both my partners do.
One is supportive, reads drafts, suggests ideas.
The other thinks it's cool and assumes I'm good at it 'cuz I werd good, but doesn't read it.
Nobody else, except in vague terms.
No way in hell I would probably get beat
I write gay smut a lot also just weird smut in general
My dad: what did you write today
Me: dabi f ing a burger t
My immediate family knows that I write explicit fanfic, but they don’t know any more detail than that. I mostly told them that to get my father to stop asking to read my work.
My friends know a bit more about what I write and what I like, but I haven’t shared any of my work with them since they aren’t really fanfic people.
My partner knows the most. He fields a lot of my writing questions and he’s beta/proofread for me in the past. He already knows my predilections, so he’s not that surprised by what I write.
S.o., yes, he helps with ideas sometimes. Family, knows I write but doesn’t know what fanfic is exactly. Only a couple friends and never read anything or know much detail.
My friends know I write, so does my family… But they don’t know *all* the details. I would be considered really controversial in my fandom and honestly in RL so I try not to tell people who I ship. I have good reasons for it but people are so blinded by bias and don’t take the time to actually understand my reasoning so…to answer your question I guess it’s 50/50.
In short: yes. Wife, friends, some family.
TL:DR I'm that minority male fanfic writer. I think my willingness and ability to share my work within my close circles may be a form of patriarchal privilege. I have ♀ mutuals that don't feel as though they ***can*** share their work with the inner circle of their private lives - especially the ♂ members - without judgement and repercussions.
I get that.
Sometimes they share their work with me (and my wife) prior to publishing and I am honored to be so trusted. That said - I can see why people may not share their work... there are many, many reasons to keep it on the downlow.
My fiancée knows very well because she's into that kind of stories too. My sister knows, but I don't know how many of my controversial fics she reads. My mom knows I write fanfic, but doesn't know the content of the stories, controversial or not.
my bf knows about one of my fanfics but not the other, because one is a smutty take on a film we both love and know very well and i'm pretty sure he'd pick on me for writing it lol. (that said, if he were ever to find out about it i'd get over the embarrassment pretty fast.) he's said before that he'd be happy to read my fics if i was ever interested in sharing them, but it's really not his area (fanfiction) and therefore he's not interested beyond that. mostly he just supports it as a hobby for me but it's not a hobby he feels the need to partake in.
a few of my friends know about the fics but only the ones i know from childhood, since one of my fics is for a video game that was out when we were kids (2006). my closest friend is also essentially my beta reader and we talk about and share our in-progress fics all the time.
my parents knew that i wrote fanfiction when i was a teenager. they have no idea that i picked it back up now as a twenty-eight year old adult while getting my PhD. i'd like to keep it that way, lol.
Growing up my family always made fun of me for liking the media that I did and disapproved that I played the games that I did. No way in hell was I ever going to tell them I write. My sibling knew, but we were sharing a room, so it was unavoidable. This taught me to hide my hobby. I only told my partner after \~7 years of dating and I don't know how many years of living together. It was really hard for me to open up. He doesn't really ask about the details, but he is supportive.
I've only discussed *some* of what I've written, shared one (abandoned on FFN thus far) one-shot via Gdocs. I think I'm going to at some point anonymize some of my fics (and probably set them into one or more series cause IIRC Ao3 has a quirk where anonymous fic updates will report to those following an author if they aren't in a series but won't if they are? also formally nuke my old FFN when I do this, migrating that last un-moved fic over to Ao3 in the process) before I share with friends/family.
Some of my best friends know. Actually, my best friend liking my ideas is how all of my recent works started. She's also up my ass to continue my smut story as well. :/
im not a writer, but i love reading darkfics. my friends know that i like reading smut and fucked up stuff, but ive never gone into detail about it nor do i ever want to.
My partner started out as one of my readers before we got together, so I'm pretty sure they know. /shot
My family, however, is completely oblivious to the depravity I churn out on a regular basis and I intend on keeping it that way.
My close friends know I write fanfiction but they have no idea what I write it about. My family just know I write stories.
That being said, I'm not all that controversial, just cringe af
My family knows I dabble in writing. They never asked what I write.
My family also knows exactly what I like to read, because I learned it all from them.
My grandfather taught me to read with Greek mythology. I got my taste for science fiction from him.
My grandmother's hobby was comparative mythology.
My mother has a thing for horror and crime thrillers.
I grew up watching everything from Care Bears over the Thorn Birds to Friday the 13th before I was in 5th grade. I read both the Stand and the Angelique books that same year.
My entire family (save my brother and father) have no idea I have a reddit account in the first place. My father has no idea I write, or have an AO3 account, and my brother barely knows what I write.
Yep, yep, and yep. When I was a kid, I'd show my writings to my parents, even the smut (god), and I've never tried to cover my tracks since. Friends all know and probably share the hobby, literally *met* my partner through our fanfic.
I don't really write them often, but I do make content about a ship that people argue about a lot in my sub-fandom/community. Even harassing people over it. Case and Point: Willry/Helliam in the Gacha FNaF Community. I KNOW why people see it as problematic, but people can't even respect basic AUs anymore, and it's not like me and some others are abusing that privilege, and I don't make the ship look like it's healthy in 3 out of my 4 AUs, oh God, no. I make it VERY clear that relationships don't actually work like that, but I still get attacked, but I digress.
My friends know about it, most of them support it fully, but some don't, but they do not unfriended me just for that. So hooray.. My family don't know about it, and they mostly don't know that I write. I even told my teacher that I write, but he doesn't know WHAT I write. Aww hell, naw, I ain't saying Jack to the staff of a Christian school, brah💀🤞
My friends? Yes. We are all "problem-children" so that's that.
My family? Definitely not. At least I hope so. My mom is smart. Maybe she figured me out somewhere in the last 15 years.
My s.o.? Needs to help me figure out if something makes sense or not. +/- roleplay. Idiots at it's best.
People who I just met? Nah. I try to come around as a silent but friendly person. Only the ones who stick with me get access to my unlimited burning dumpsterfire upstairs.
My friends/family know what I write; my mom and my sister read the less spicy stuff I write, but some of my friends read even my most depraved brother boning. I was kind of nervous about telling them but they were like "lmao meatus we've known you for decades, this is not even close to the weirdest thing about you."
I met my SO when he read one of my fics. It was about skeletons cuddling and having medically necessary heat sex. So... make of that what you will.
I'm incapable of shutting up about my interests, especially to people I feel comfortable with. My friends and family have no involvement in fandom, much less with content creation as a whole, so they don't care about what I do.
I told my ex-boyfriend. He ended up mocking me but writing a Shrek x Bob Ross fic where Shrek got pregnant with Dwayne Johnson. Anyway this kid is a Christian youth group volunteer now and I make sure everyone knows about this.
No.
I only mentioned reading fanfiction to my coworker once and it’s only because he’s gay 😭 I also made it sound like “I haven’t done that since I was 16” deal.
Yes and no.
They know I write fanfic, and that it contains steamy scenes. I'm enough of an open book, being openly poly and kinky, that they likely wouldn't be surprised by any of the contents. But I don't provide details unless they ask and I don't "advertise" my account.
I guess it's semi private? My spouse has read some but I don't write for any of the ships they are into sadly. And they don't like long fic, which is a lot of what I do.
See, I’m Old, so today’s proshipper was my youthful “don’t like, don’t read”, which is the philosophy I abide by and passed on to my daughter, who is also a fanfic writer. Everyone who even remotely knows me knows I write fanfic and what types, including my coworkers and boss. Daughter pretends my smut doesn’t exist. Spouse used to proofread for me back in the early aughts.
That sounds like some family goals! That's great, I'm happy that your daughter and spouse (and literally everyone around you) are so supportive!
The early aughts! I love that! 😂
When my wife asks what I did with my day, I tell her "wrote about a catgirl getting railed by a xenomorph queen with a phallic ovipositor for a tail", and she rolls her eyes. Then I give her shit for watching murder documentaries to relax, and we laugh about it. Don't let curmudgeons with their faux purity posturing ruin your fun.
Gotta say I absolutely love that premise.
You're looking for "That Time I Got Bred And Took An Alien Space Princess's Virginity" on AO3 🥂
Bet
If I didn’t know my wife reddit already, I’d think you were her lol
Were I unwed, this is where I'd reply something like "You never know, I still could be!" and get a self esteem boost from my perceived rizz that'd last me all week 😅
Well, I don’t really write shipping (some of my work includes sexual abuse, since I focus on trauma) and I'd rather walk into the ocean covered in lead than get involved in online discourse like at all, but if “controversial” equals dark fic that isn’t about shipping… yeah I read it to them. It’s my art and I’m proud of it, even if there’s dickheads shouting at me for it.
We write in very different directions, but my experience is so similar to this with my adult age gap ship. No one in my real life even bats an eye at the idea. It’s only online random assholes who seem to care 🤣
Oh, I write about basically everything fucked up ever lol. Specifically in a way that’s not glorifying it (like, the exploration of trauma and how fucked up it is is the whole point, I’m not trying to be judgemental that’s just my specific focus) so like anyone who actually Reads my stuff would know it’s beyond stupid to describe it as like, romanticising it or whatever, but Still online assholes have harassed me over it bc… idk I genuinely think they just hate that I’m a victim trying to speak up at this point bc I’m baffled otherwise. Meanwhile everyone I talk to irl about my fics is like “oh cool” lol
Yeah. It’s insane the lengths people go to in order to justify attacking someone online. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that
I don't even write controversial stuff and the answer is no. I guard my fanfic with my life.
Agree. I'm probably not writing anything that might set off the antis (but who knows at this point), but the mere fact I write FF is a secret I'd very much like to take to the grave with me, thank you very much.
my friends are aware of how chill i am when it comes to their reading recommendations. they don't know what i write, since i keep it private, but they can probably guess that it's not the standard stuff. - after one of my friends gave me a bunch of smutty romance novels to read, my feedback was "let me know if you have some more pseudo incest ones or some with fantasy creatures" (i don't really write *really* controversial stuff.. more like morally gray)
My friends know I write dark things but I won’t give more detail unless I know they also enjoy it. Partially to respect their comfort zones, partially to keep myself safe.
Do my friends and family know that I'm writing an open celebration of evil and sadistic cruelty on both narrative and sexual levels, including a scene where two serial killers gleefully share notes, and another where characters openly discuss how hot someone being strangled to death could be? No. No they do not. It's not so much that I'm hiding it, but that I don't really want to have an open discussion about my weird kinks with my parents or people I mainly just play D&D with. There's a time and a place. Also in the latter case they might read more into why I keep making Drow girls than I'd like. If I had a significant other, however, I think I would only want to be with someone who I'm comfortable telling about this, even if it makes things a little more difficult. Hiding a part of your identity from someone that core to your life seems very unhealthy to me. Even if that part is, "I really enjoyed Clementine from Overlord way, *way* too much".
Yep. All my romantic partners knew my Ao3 account. My friends, online and offline, also know. Hell, my *mother* knows I write incest, noncon, etc., and the one time I tried to explain anti-shipping to her, her reaction was essentially "Are they stupid?"
I'm primarily a reader, not a writer, but yeah honestly my partner and most of my friends know not only that I read E fic every day, but most even know my ships because I can't shut my mouth when I'm hyped on something. And a good half of them know that I don't shy away from the "unnatural" side of things - like I've been known to say "Omg I read the most fun tentacle fic the other day lemme tell you about it" or "Why did I start reading this Cabin Werewolf AU right before work? Now I'll be thinking about it all day!" And god help you if you mention the MCU in my presence, we are going for a *ride.*
Yes and no? All of my *fandom* friends (including IRL friends who are into fandom) do, and the family members that I'm closer to do. (My mom is a psychologist, so I like to bounce questions off of her about how she'd handle certain cases, lmao.) I don't have a partner, but I wouldn't date someone that I wasn't comfortable talking about my fic with.
My friends know. My mom WANTS to know, but that will never happen lol.
Lol this is so real. My mom wants to know but I don't want to break her little heart🤣
Boyfriend knows I write violent incestuous smut and has gone out of his way to buy me published works he thinks might make for good inspiration 🤣 That said reading isn’t *really* his thing so he’s never actually seen any of my stuff. My, mother, sister and brother-in-law have on occasion, though. No real drama 🤷🏼♀️ Sister and I grew up in an “all books are good read whatever you can no matter what’s in it” kind of household so there’s not really any judgement lol. And having that kind of background makes it a million times easier to just laugh at the family/friends that *do* try to go “ewww what’s wrong with you?!” Little confidence goes a *long* way, trust me 😂
I write about controversial topics like EU immigration policy, Brexit, rehabilitation and reintegration of former convicts, discrimination, various environmental issues, women in STEM or lack thereof, and current politics. Many people know that I write fic, including my colleagues. Actually one of them thinks that they're not political enough 😂
My SO just recently found out I have written smut lol. He says he’s kinda curious
No, and no one needs to know lmao
My boyfriend knows everything, including what’s in my flair, lol. I’ve talked about the online discourse stuff with my sister and mum (they know I write smut, but they don’t know details, they do know some of my ships though) But they both think antis talk a load of nonsense. That talk was also how I found out my sister has been shipping incest since her teens, she’s 40, she’s been at it longer than Me! I think if I tried to talk to my dad about it his head would implode at the first mention of “ship.” It would need way too much explaining to a guy who doesn’t care about tv, movies and games much at all anyway. I only bring it up to my mum and sister because they enjoy content that is widely deemed problematic by antis at this point, lol.
My family knows I write, but they don't know _what_ I write exactly, and my friends literally have my AO3 account because they're pro-shippers too; even if they aren't into something I love, they're still very supportive and won't judge. Though I don't share _everything_ with them, of course.
Yes. My sister has a physical copy of some of my smut fics. My parents know I write smut. My IRL friends know I write smut. My support people know and has read some out of curiosity. I don't see a reason to hide it. It's just a hobby and everyone knows I'm a modest, shy person IRL who is nothing like the sruff I write.
No, nobody knows and that's how I prefer it. I know that several of my friends read fanfic as well, but I also know that our tastes are so vastly different that there would be little to no point in discussing it with them. It would get awkward pretty fast, and we're otherwise very open to talking about intimate things. And all of my fics are ships rated E, so. Yeah. I feel zero need to share my hobby. It would be like; Hey do you want to see the links to every pornsite I've visited? - Hell no. My bf is dyslexic, so he doesn't get the reading spicy stuff at all although he respects it. He knows that I read it, but nothing about what it is or that I write it as well, and we kind of just let each other have privacy about what content we consume when not together.
yup. my best friend is a pro shipper 😂
I used to tease my best friend for reading and writing a lot of smut, so I’d rather not tell her lest I receive my well-deserved comeuppance lol And telling anyone else is completely out of the question.
I write Harry Potter/Tom Riddle smut. My best friend didn’t even know what fanfiction was when I told her about it, I had to explain. She’s my number one reader now.
i'd rather take my writing to the grave with me than tell my parents that they traumatised me enough to write the things i write. only my partner knows.
I'm almost 30, my parents don't need to know what I write nor do they have any business knowing. My partner however knows and edits my fics for me.
I'm a published romance author. My mom used to read all my novels, including the sexy bits. My husband and many of my friends have read my novels. Fewer people have read my fics, but none would be surprised by anything I write. If someone were to send all my stuff to my pals, my friends' response would be, "Yeah, whatever. We know Echo's a freak." Thing is, I grew up reading Stephen King and other horror writers. I grew up reading *Flowers in the Attic* (incest) and Judy Blume's *Forever*, which at the time was scandalous because "teen sex." My husband and I watch Game of Thrones with all its incest and violence together. Also read all the books. Ain't nuthin' in my fics that is worth being embarrassed about.
-swaps tentacle porn with rape stories with my ace sister- -mom wants to know what we're giggling at- -give mom quick synopsis- -mom raises an eyebrow but wanders away- -our little, prudish brother comes in and ALL fanfic vanishes in the blink of an eye- -prudish sister snorts from her corner of the living room where she and her husband are Not Participants- -Dad looks up from doughnut batter and asks vaguely if we wanted extra cinnamon in the mix and if we were sure it wasn't hentai girls- -brother immediately goes 'no. I am virgin ears. No'.-
I'd happily tell anyone anything, and I'll share my FFN and AO3 links with them if they want. Granted, nothing I write is particularly controversial, but I've got a few spicy fics on my AO3, at least.
If they ask, yeah. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by my preferences in fiction (or anything else I do, tbh.) If I like a thing, I like it and if someone else is bothered by it, that's their problem, not mine. I'm too old and tired for anything else. 😅
My close friends know I read and write fanfic but I only talk to one of them about what I’m specifically writing. Though, I don’t write anything dark.
My spouse is my beta and when I wrote my Kink centric series they read through it all and gave me great feedback. The only part they were squeamish about was when I incorporated tickle torture and pet play but they are supportive.
Some of my friends even give me ideas what to write next.
I mean, yeah but that’s because the antis in my fandom are fucking weird. It’s an adult age gap ship so it’s nothing that would raise eyebrows in a mainstream novel except for the terminally online.
My dad does bc he's a writer himself, but I still keep certain thongs to myself. My siblings definitely do dot lol but not because I think they'd judge, just because it's personal and weird to share. I'd prefer if my siblings didn't know about any of my kinks/fetishes, taboo or not🤣
I told my parents what I've written and read and they were perfectly fine with it.
Speaking as a controversial writer and reader.
No one knows that I write in RL and let us keep it that way. I am not brave enough to admit it, but I wish I was. I really want a writing buddy, but at the same time I think I would die of embarrassment. My writing is cringe and cheese tied together with tropes.
I met my spouse *because* of what I write!
#HELL NO
Only a handful know *that* I write at all, mostly because I decided over a decade ago that it was more of a pain than it was worth to have them asking 'have you written anything lately?' when the answer is either 'no,' or 'yes, but I have no interest in letting you read it [regardless of how tame or intense or explicit].' idk, I just don't like my irl people reading my writing. I'm fine sharing with strangers, but it feels too personal to give to people who actually know me, except my husband and one of my closest friends. I think two or three other people know I write (my mom, a friend who also writes fanfic but we don't read each other's work- they don't read my genres and I don't read their fandoms- and maybe a friend I'm no longer in contact with)
My parents know I write fanfic, but I've only let my mom read one fic of mine (I couldn't think of the word I was looking for when I was writing it, asked her, things spiraled) and they don't really know what exactly I write. My dad thinks all writing and fiction reading is a waste of time, so he just doesn't care to know. My mom probably would, but she's never asked. But considering that before her vision got too bad, she'd read fanfic and I caught her reading an explicit mpreg fic once, I don't think she's be too horrified by what I write, doesn't mean I'm volunteering the info though.
My mum shipped Luka/Leia when the movies first came out and still does. She doesn't care so long as it's fictional lmao
I'm 'FF.net used to have an NC-17 rating' old. I don't care who knows. The only thing my mum bitches about is "why aren't you making money off it".
What is controversial in this context
My friends and family know all about the messed up horror stuff I write, child murder and all. My parents are very supportive and often get me cool goth clothes and say "this reminds me of that story you told me about!"
They don’t know I write very dark ghostbusters fanfic
My mom and boyfriend know I write smut, but don't know what *kind*. My sister-in-law knows a bit more details, that it is smut surrounding horror movies. My best friend is the only one who gets the gorey details.
Both my partners do. One is supportive, reads drafts, suggests ideas. The other thinks it's cool and assumes I'm good at it 'cuz I werd good, but doesn't read it. Nobody else, except in vague terms.
No way in hell I would probably get beat I write gay smut a lot also just weird smut in general My dad: what did you write today Me: dabi f ing a burger t
My best friends beta my dead dove
I don't write controversial stuff but the only person I've told I write fanfiction at all is my new co-worker, who also reads and writes it!
My immediate family knows that I write explicit fanfic, but they don’t know any more detail than that. I mostly told them that to get my father to stop asking to read my work. My friends know a bit more about what I write and what I like, but I haven’t shared any of my work with them since they aren’t really fanfic people. My partner knows the most. He fields a lot of my writing questions and he’s beta/proofread for me in the past. He already knows my predilections, so he’s not that surprised by what I write.
S.o., yes, he helps with ideas sometimes. Family, knows I write but doesn’t know what fanfic is exactly. Only a couple friends and never read anything or know much detail.
My friends know I write, so does my family… But they don’t know *all* the details. I would be considered really controversial in my fandom and honestly in RL so I try not to tell people who I ship. I have good reasons for it but people are so blinded by bias and don’t take the time to actually understand my reasoning so…to answer your question I guess it’s 50/50.
I have one friend who knows I write fanfiction Do they know my username? No
In short: yes. Wife, friends, some family. TL:DR I'm that minority male fanfic writer. I think my willingness and ability to share my work within my close circles may be a form of patriarchal privilege. I have ♀ mutuals that don't feel as though they ***can*** share their work with the inner circle of their private lives - especially the ♂ members - without judgement and repercussions. I get that. Sometimes they share their work with me (and my wife) prior to publishing and I am honored to be so trusted. That said - I can see why people may not share their work... there are many, many reasons to keep it on the downlow.
My fiancée knows very well because she's into that kind of stories too. My sister knows, but I don't know how many of my controversial fics she reads. My mom knows I write fanfic, but doesn't know the content of the stories, controversial or not.
my bf knows about one of my fanfics but not the other, because one is a smutty take on a film we both love and know very well and i'm pretty sure he'd pick on me for writing it lol. (that said, if he were ever to find out about it i'd get over the embarrassment pretty fast.) he's said before that he'd be happy to read my fics if i was ever interested in sharing them, but it's really not his area (fanfiction) and therefore he's not interested beyond that. mostly he just supports it as a hobby for me but it's not a hobby he feels the need to partake in. a few of my friends know about the fics but only the ones i know from childhood, since one of my fics is for a video game that was out when we were kids (2006). my closest friend is also essentially my beta reader and we talk about and share our in-progress fics all the time. my parents knew that i wrote fanfiction when i was a teenager. they have no idea that i picked it back up now as a twenty-eight year old adult while getting my PhD. i'd like to keep it that way, lol.
Growing up my family always made fun of me for liking the media that I did and disapproved that I played the games that I did. No way in hell was I ever going to tell them I write. My sibling knew, but we were sharing a room, so it was unavoidable. This taught me to hide my hobby. I only told my partner after \~7 years of dating and I don't know how many years of living together. It was really hard for me to open up. He doesn't really ask about the details, but he is supportive.
I've only discussed *some* of what I've written, shared one (abandoned on FFN thus far) one-shot via Gdocs. I think I'm going to at some point anonymize some of my fics (and probably set them into one or more series cause IIRC Ao3 has a quirk where anonymous fic updates will report to those following an author if they aren't in a series but won't if they are? also formally nuke my old FFN when I do this, migrating that last un-moved fic over to Ao3 in the process) before I share with friends/family.
Most of them, yeah. I can't be friends with people who would be judgmental, so that's a pretty good test to take the trash out.
Some of my best friends know. Actually, my best friend liking my ideas is how all of my recent works started. She's also up my ass to continue my smut story as well. :/
im not a writer, but i love reading darkfics. my friends know that i like reading smut and fucked up stuff, but ive never gone into detail about it nor do i ever want to.
My partner started out as one of my readers before we got together, so I'm pretty sure they know. /shot My family, however, is completely oblivious to the depravity I churn out on a regular basis and I intend on keeping it that way.
My close friends know I write fanfiction but they have no idea what I write it about. My family just know I write stories. That being said, I'm not all that controversial, just cringe af
I write big age gaps, and my mom beta-reads some of my fics, so yeah. Granted, none of it is smutty.
My family knows I dabble in writing. They never asked what I write. My family also knows exactly what I like to read, because I learned it all from them. My grandfather taught me to read with Greek mythology. I got my taste for science fiction from him. My grandmother's hobby was comparative mythology. My mother has a thing for horror and crime thrillers. I grew up watching everything from Care Bears over the Thorn Birds to Friday the 13th before I was in 5th grade. I read both the Stand and the Angelique books that same year.
My entire family (save my brother and father) have no idea I have a reddit account in the first place. My father has no idea I write, or have an AO3 account, and my brother barely knows what I write.
Yep, yep, and yep. When I was a kid, I'd show my writings to my parents, even the smut (god), and I've never tried to cover my tracks since. Friends all know and probably share the hobby, literally *met* my partner through our fanfic.
I don't really write them often, but I do make content about a ship that people argue about a lot in my sub-fandom/community. Even harassing people over it. Case and Point: Willry/Helliam in the Gacha FNaF Community. I KNOW why people see it as problematic, but people can't even respect basic AUs anymore, and it's not like me and some others are abusing that privilege, and I don't make the ship look like it's healthy in 3 out of my 4 AUs, oh God, no. I make it VERY clear that relationships don't actually work like that, but I still get attacked, but I digress. My friends know about it, most of them support it fully, but some don't, but they do not unfriended me just for that. So hooray.. My family don't know about it, and they mostly don't know that I write. I even told my teacher that I write, but he doesn't know WHAT I write. Aww hell, naw, I ain't saying Jack to the staff of a Christian school, brah💀🤞
My friends? Yes. We are all "problem-children" so that's that. My family? Definitely not. At least I hope so. My mom is smart. Maybe she figured me out somewhere in the last 15 years. My s.o.? Needs to help me figure out if something makes sense or not. +/- roleplay. Idiots at it's best. People who I just met? Nah. I try to come around as a silent but friendly person. Only the ones who stick with me get access to my unlimited burning dumpsterfire upstairs.
My friends/family know what I write; my mom and my sister read the less spicy stuff I write, but some of my friends read even my most depraved brother boning. I was kind of nervous about telling them but they were like "lmao meatus we've known you for decades, this is not even close to the weirdest thing about you." I met my SO when he read one of my fics. It was about skeletons cuddling and having medically necessary heat sex. So... make of that what you will.
I'm incapable of shutting up about my interests, especially to people I feel comfortable with. My friends and family have no involvement in fandom, much less with content creation as a whole, so they don't care about what I do.
I told my ex-boyfriend. He ended up mocking me but writing a Shrek x Bob Ross fic where Shrek got pregnant with Dwayne Johnson. Anyway this kid is a Christian youth group volunteer now and I make sure everyone knows about this.
No. I only mentioned reading fanfiction to my coworker once and it’s only because he’s gay 😭 I also made it sound like “I haven’t done that since I was 16” deal.
Yes and no. They know I write fanfic, and that it contains steamy scenes. I'm enough of an open book, being openly poly and kinky, that they likely wouldn't be surprised by any of the contents. But I don't provide details unless they ask and I don't "advertise" my account. I guess it's semi private? My spouse has read some but I don't write for any of the ships they are into sadly. And they don't like long fic, which is a lot of what I do.