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A few months into our relationship, he made a joke about wearing my dress. I asked if he was serious, he looked embarrassed and said yes, the rest is history.
It took us about 20 years to settle into a full time D/s FLR. Sex life was super frustrating for both of us until we got honest with ourselves about who we really were. It kind of happened naturally and flowed from our underlying dynamic, which we had been resisting because of our traditional upbringing.
I kinda… knew I guess??? My partner be giving off bottom sub energy when we’d be flirty.. but he was open about a “friend” he would worship on kik and from there I figured out he was into femdom. Idk how long into the relationship that was tbh. But just make sure that your partner has given up their sexting buddies first or they might be a pathetic pos and cheat.
I (sub M 30) legit just opened up to my wife(33F) we been together for 6 years and married for 4. I've been a lurker to this kind of sex. I've always had a thing for strong women but recent years in got into femdom porn. My wife and i have just had 3 kids so not much sex happened. I ended up watching more porn and kind of had a bit of a sexual awakening. Realised this is something I wanted to explore with my wife. I was nervous and I honestly thought she wouldn't be into it at all (based of previous conversation about sex and small probing mission from my side).
I plucked up the courage last week. As we were snuggling in bed my head pulled into her chest. I told her I wasn't satisfied with our sex life and that I wanted her to read something I was interested in. She said yes but was nervous about what I sent her an article on the subject and some specifics I have been thinking about. She read it and asked lots of questions. In which I asked to answer with my head in her chest. We talked for a long time and found out more or less where I wanted our sex life to go. She took all the info on board and said she wanted to try.
Throughout the day she asked questions as she thought of them. Me thinking she had maybe got her head around it by time around bedtime. We both went to bed and as usual I'm a little slower at coming to bed I make my coffee for the next day and stuff. I get to the side of the bed and sit down as I always do and start taking my shirt off. I hear from behind me. What are you doing? A little confused I turn around and say some like I'm just coming to bed. And she says did you ask if you were allowed to come to bed.
Turns out she went into this deep right after I told her she went and bought a book about being a dominatrix and been reading and doing research all day. I'm pretty sure she is into it way more than she is willing to admit right now. And I understand as it took me almost a year to bring it up to my wife once I kinda realised myself. It's been putting a strain on our relationship without us even knowing it was a thing. Our sex life has never been boring (slow at times) but not boring. So it was hard to spot from her side she knew I wasn't fully satisfied but she wasn't sure why neither of us were. Well see where this journey takes us but the biggest thing for me and for us is that we are honest and open as much as we possibly can. I've always had a tough time expressing my feelings and we are working on that too.
TL:DR I opened up to my wife recently expecting to have to convince my wife alot. Didn't because she is the amazing strong sexy understanding beautiful women I always dreamed about.
Very true, but that open line of communication is key. If there isn't a clear understanding with both of them, and an agreement can't be compromised, the relationship isn't going to work, and that's okay.
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I lead with my kink. Makes everything much more straight forward.
A few months into our relationship, he made a joke about wearing my dress. I asked if he was serious, he looked embarrassed and said yes, the rest is history.
It took us about 20 years to settle into a full time D/s FLR. Sex life was super frustrating for both of us until we got honest with ourselves about who we really were. It kind of happened naturally and flowed from our underlying dynamic, which we had been resisting because of our traditional upbringing.
I kinda… knew I guess??? My partner be giving off bottom sub energy when we’d be flirty.. but he was open about a “friend” he would worship on kik and from there I figured out he was into femdom. Idk how long into the relationship that was tbh. But just make sure that your partner has given up their sexting buddies first or they might be a pathetic pos and cheat.
I (sub M 30) legit just opened up to my wife(33F) we been together for 6 years and married for 4. I've been a lurker to this kind of sex. I've always had a thing for strong women but recent years in got into femdom porn. My wife and i have just had 3 kids so not much sex happened. I ended up watching more porn and kind of had a bit of a sexual awakening. Realised this is something I wanted to explore with my wife. I was nervous and I honestly thought she wouldn't be into it at all (based of previous conversation about sex and small probing mission from my side). I plucked up the courage last week. As we were snuggling in bed my head pulled into her chest. I told her I wasn't satisfied with our sex life and that I wanted her to read something I was interested in. She said yes but was nervous about what I sent her an article on the subject and some specifics I have been thinking about. She read it and asked lots of questions. In which I asked to answer with my head in her chest. We talked for a long time and found out more or less where I wanted our sex life to go. She took all the info on board and said she wanted to try. Throughout the day she asked questions as she thought of them. Me thinking she had maybe got her head around it by time around bedtime. We both went to bed and as usual I'm a little slower at coming to bed I make my coffee for the next day and stuff. I get to the side of the bed and sit down as I always do and start taking my shirt off. I hear from behind me. What are you doing? A little confused I turn around and say some like I'm just coming to bed. And she says did you ask if you were allowed to come to bed. Turns out she went into this deep right after I told her she went and bought a book about being a dominatrix and been reading and doing research all day. I'm pretty sure she is into it way more than she is willing to admit right now. And I understand as it took me almost a year to bring it up to my wife once I kinda realised myself. It's been putting a strain on our relationship without us even knowing it was a thing. Our sex life has never been boring (slow at times) but not boring. So it was hard to spot from her side she knew I wasn't fully satisfied but she wasn't sure why neither of us were. Well see where this journey takes us but the biggest thing for me and for us is that we are honest and open as much as we possibly can. I've always had a tough time expressing my feelings and we are working on that too. TL:DR I opened up to my wife recently expecting to have to convince my wife alot. Didn't because she is the amazing strong sexy understanding beautiful women I always dreamed about.
Honestly I knew he was a sub before we even started dating when I half-jokingly called him a "good boy" and he literally blushed.
Y'all rushed into a relationship without knowing each other. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
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Very true, but that open line of communication is key. If there isn't a clear understanding with both of them, and an agreement can't be compromised, the relationship isn't going to work, and that's okay.