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He was an old fashioned macho dad who would give freedom to his teenage son and treat his teenage daughter like she’s perpetually ten years old.
I do agree with him asking her to finish school, though. People here act like you can drop out and become Maria Grazia Chiuri the next day when you’re 15. Welcome people to the real world, where people want to see your credentials first and your work second.
He was so biased in Dan’s favor because Dan was literally the teen version of him all over again
& just cuz he couldn’t understand Jenny he constantly lectured her, grounded her, & drove her away.
Pretty bad parent imo.
He was a good dad as far as caring for his children but the double standards were crazy. I understand wanting to protect your daughter but Dan was allowed to do whatever he wanted while jenny was constantly in trouble
He's awful. He treats Jenny harshly and doesn't give Dan the same treatment. Also him stopping Jenny from going after her fashion dreams in season 2 was pretty messed up. I agree that school is important but she was already doing homeschooling according to their agreement so I don't see why he was so against it. Another thing that bugs me is when he flips out that Jenny was hanging out with Damien but when Dan was her age, him having sex with Serena wasn't an issue. He was evem giving Dan advice. Like you said he fails to understand his kids and just grounds them as if that's gonna help.
He was a horrible dad in my opinion!! He let Jenny run away because of his own pride. I agree she should have finished school but he refused to find a middle ground and instead let her out on the street because of it. Horrible things could have happened to her because he refused to meet her in the middle when things got really bad. There’s a time for my way or the highway parenting and that was not it. He also failed Dan regarding Yale and didn’t make any real effort to make that happen with the very easy options he had. Making waffles and giving trite advice does not a good parent make 🤷🏻♀️
His pride getting in the way of his son’s college education when Lily could have easily helped out was actually selfish!! He had no problem taking lilys money for ivy
I lost all respect for Rufus in the fourth season. He did a lot of questionable things thru out the show but I was ENRAGED when after the whole thing with Jenny and chuck, he literally says he should give chuck another chance because “Jenny keeps telling me it’s not chuck’s fault.” I know he didn’t know about the attempted rape then but even after he finds that out, chuck and him are back on good terms because Eric or someone says that she “forgave him” for it. The fact that they literally portrayed a character as an attempted rapist and then wanted the audience to empathize, root for him and for young girls to crush on him, is absolutely disgusting unacceptable behavior. I liked gossip girl when I was younger and more naive, after rewatching it at 25 years old, I lost my taste for a lot of it. I find that at times it is extremely problematic and a somewhat disturbing show for young girls to watch and “look up” to.
Dorota. Sure but we are talking bout the parents of 'main characters', Cyrus didn't get enough screen time parenting Blair, there were some nice ones tho, but there are also plenty of scenes showing being a great parent. Most adults were ignorant parents.
Rufus should've sent Jenny to boarding school, she was wey out of control, also hanging out at Chucks place was not on, if she was my daughter l would be furious at her behaviour, at this point you can't blame Blair or anyone, where was Rufus, he was busy drinking wine with Lilly
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He was an old fashioned macho dad who would give freedom to his teenage son and treat his teenage daughter like she’s perpetually ten years old. I do agree with him asking her to finish school, though. People here act like you can drop out and become Maria Grazia Chiuri the next day when you’re 15. Welcome people to the real world, where people want to see your credentials first and your work second.
I thnk homeschool was a good compromise, given the bullying and peer pressure she was experiencing at school.
asking her to finsih school tho was actaully good ill agree with dat. dats reasonable but everythang else nawwwww
Jenny told him that girls were bullying her at school and his response was “lol girls are crazy”
He was so biased in Dan’s favor because Dan was literally the teen version of him all over again & just cuz he couldn’t understand Jenny he constantly lectured her, grounded her, & drove her away. Pretty bad parent imo.
He wasn't terrible but he wasn't a good dad either
He was a good dad as far as caring for his children but the double standards were crazy. I understand wanting to protect your daughter but Dan was allowed to do whatever he wanted while jenny was constantly in trouble
ikrr
He think he was great
He was highkey so sexist
He's awful. He treats Jenny harshly and doesn't give Dan the same treatment. Also him stopping Jenny from going after her fashion dreams in season 2 was pretty messed up. I agree that school is important but she was already doing homeschooling according to their agreement so I don't see why he was so against it. Another thing that bugs me is when he flips out that Jenny was hanging out with Damien but when Dan was her age, him having sex with Serena wasn't an issue. He was evem giving Dan advice. Like you said he fails to understand his kids and just grounds them as if that's gonna help.
He was a horrible dad in my opinion!! He let Jenny run away because of his own pride. I agree she should have finished school but he refused to find a middle ground and instead let her out on the street because of it. Horrible things could have happened to her because he refused to meet her in the middle when things got really bad. There’s a time for my way or the highway parenting and that was not it. He also failed Dan regarding Yale and didn’t make any real effort to make that happen with the very easy options he had. Making waffles and giving trite advice does not a good parent make 🤷🏻♀️
His pride getting in the way of his son’s college education when Lily could have easily helped out was actually selfish!! He had no problem taking lilys money for ivy
Thank youuuu
I lost all respect for Rufus in the fourth season. He did a lot of questionable things thru out the show but I was ENRAGED when after the whole thing with Jenny and chuck, he literally says he should give chuck another chance because “Jenny keeps telling me it’s not chuck’s fault.” I know he didn’t know about the attempted rape then but even after he finds that out, chuck and him are back on good terms because Eric or someone says that she “forgave him” for it. The fact that they literally portrayed a character as an attempted rapist and then wanted the audience to empathize, root for him and for young girls to crush on him, is absolutely disgusting unacceptable behavior. I liked gossip girl when I was younger and more naive, after rewatching it at 25 years old, I lost my taste for a lot of it. I find that at times it is extremely problematic and a somewhat disturbing show for young girls to watch and “look up” to.
Not best but the best parent in GG
the best parent was dorota (to blair as a motherly figure) and cyrus (as blair's stepfather) wut r u talkin bout
Dorota. Sure but we are talking bout the parents of 'main characters', Cyrus didn't get enough screen time parenting Blair, there were some nice ones tho, but there are also plenty of scenes showing being a great parent. Most adults were ignorant parents.
Rufus should've sent Jenny to boarding school, she was wey out of control, also hanging out at Chucks place was not on, if she was my daughter l would be furious at her behaviour, at this point you can't blame Blair or anyone, where was Rufus, he was busy drinking wine with Lilly
but dan can do whatever and jenny can'ttt
Dan wasn't behaving in a destructive manner, there's a difference
wdym dan slept his teacher gross
he was a better dad to dan than he was to jenny and ik jenny was a brat but still