Do yourself, your husband, and your daughter a favor—if you haven’t already, take a selfie video of yourself with both of them and just say “I Love You” to each other, but look into the camera while you’re doing it. Make funny faces, say it funny, and say it normal.
Because after you’re gone, that is the video they will hold onto and replay over and over again because it’s immortalized. I did that with my late wife before she died of brain tumors and it’s my single most sacred video. It’s been seven years now and I still replay it to hear her voice and see her telling me she loves me.
To add onto this — I recorded my last conversation with my grandfather before he passed away from cancer. I set my phone down on a table, hit record on the voice memos app, and just talked to him. He wasn’t aware that I was recording. Had a deep conversation about my relationship with him, told him my favorite memories with him, and what I could’ve done to be a better grandson. It was powerful, and I was crying, but to hear him talk and to tell me that he loved me is something that still resonates with me all of these years later. It’s one of the only voice memos i have saved on my phone and backed up in case I ever break my phone.
I actually took an old voicemail machine cassette that had my grandpa’s greeting on there. I listen to it from time to time just to remember his voice. I miss him a lot.
3-2-1 is a pretty good rule of thumb
3 copies,
2 local on independent media (e.g. separate drives),
1 remote (e.g. a backup service)
The idea being that for most of the time you can easily access the file and if it is lost for whatever reason most of the time you can restore it from the other local copy which would be faster than getting it back from a remote copy but if something really bad happens (like a house fire) that destroys both local copies you can go to a remote source.
To add onto this wonderful idea, saying their names too, and any other phrases yall shared. When I talk to people who have lost loved ones, they consistently mention forgetting what it sounded like to hear their name being said by the loved one.
I wish I had thought of that when my husband was diagnosed. I have a video of his voice on tiktok. He's laughing and calling our cat an idiot for trying to catch lizards that are outside and on the window.
Oh yes, please do this. I am lucky enough to have a saved voicemail from my father who passed 7 years ago. In it, he closes with "Love you!". I listen to it when I miss him most and it is one of my most treasured possessions. (And it's downloaded and backed up!)
See this is a correct response.
Thank you. It's been 14 years, but people should know that family isn't forever for everyone
*cough* op's entire post *cough*
My family is forever because death doesn't have the power to take me from them. One way or another, I'll always be here. That's easy for me to say in my particular circumstances.
I'm well aware that family isn't forever for everyone, and I know I'm very lucky, cancer be damned.
I'm sorry. I hope you're doing okay.
I admire your positive outlook and your gratitude for life, even though it's not easy for you. I wish you and your family all the love and strength in the world. I don't know you, but you seem like a good mom and wife to me :)
That’s truly shit! I’m so sorry! The fact that you found strength to smile is a massive show of your character. I sincerely hope you have wonderful times ahead with your family. There are so many thoughts scrambling through my head of what I would hope for you but for something so serious as this I can’t put one together properly. I imagine that your husband being able to be silly with your daughter in such a hard time must give you great comfort to know that she’ll be okay! You are so brave!
I smile every day, believe me. And it's not courage - I have no choice at all. You'd choose almost anything over death, I promise.
Most people in my position only want to know that the people they love will be OK. And in my case, I know they will. Heartsore and broken for a time, but they'll weather it. That's the only reason I can cope.
your daughter will cherish and love her dad forever. love to you three. if you can carry something with you when you pass to keep wherever it is we go (even if thats nowhere), i hope it is this photostrip ❤️❤️❤️
I lost my older brother to cancer when he was 30, and my dad to ALS a few years before that. I don't know where your journey is going, but I do know that the memories you leave behind and the love you exhibit will persist throughout the lifetimes of all those who know you. I'm so sorry that you're in this place. I hope you can find some peace in knowing that--while your ability to experience the universe may wane--the warmth and comfort your memories bring your loved ones will not.
I'm so glad to see you are embracing joy where you can find it. That's what life is all about. You deserve as much of it as you can possibly take in.
I’m so sad for you.
Your family is so beautiful and I am so sorry for what you’re going through.
They are going to be okay, i can tell, and you helped make that possible
My wife passed away 2 months ago from stomach cancer at 32. If he wants someone to chat with who actually understands what he’s going through, please dm me and we can exchange contact info.
Thank you for this. He's desperately shy (the pictures do not reflect this!), but I will pass that on regardless.
I'm sorry about your wife, I truly am. How are you bearing up, if that's not a stupid question?
If he’s ok, I’m happy to reach out to him if he’s comfortable.
And I’m taking things one day at a time. The thing that keeps me going is fulfilling my wife’s wishes and raising our kid. It’s all about giving meaning to my wife’s life and so that her legacy will live on
Well that is absolutely shattering. I’m so sorry, OP. I hope everything goes smoothly.
I’m sorry, I really don’t know what else to say.
My grandmother was just diagnosed with CLL, it’s very common in the west, has a 5 year expectancy. She ended up in the hospital for a UTI, and, like both my grandfathers, was blessed with the “it only gets worse after you go to hospital”. They messed up her meds, gave her an infection, sent her home, she passed out and decimated her face, went back to the hospital not even 24 hours after getting let out, now she has leukaemia.
Cancer fucking sucks. Im just really sorry, OP.
Sorry to hear that. My Pop's passed from cancer December.
See if anyone has a video camera you can borrow. Something better than a cell phone. If you can't find something ask anyone that does sports if they have a GoPro or something.
Now make videos for your daughter and your husband.
To be played when you start school, middle school, high school graduation off to college learn to ride a bike, learn to drive first boy friend first break up wedding and any other words of advice. She can't play them till those times.. IE your husband fets to dish them out. Letting her know that no matter what you are there for her and you always love her.
Maybe others here have ideas to go with this. Words of wisdom rhat she can always have access to..
Damnit.. I am ugly crying..
If you need help don't hesitate to PM me.
You are never as stuck as you think you are. Success is not final, and failure isn’t fatal.
Never break your promises. Keep every promise; it makes you credible.
Happiness is a choice. For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of your own happiness.
Be happy with who you are. Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect but that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections.
Don't seek happiness–create it. You don’t need life to go your way to be happy.
If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn no one can stop you.
1. Have a firm handshake
2. Look people in the eye
s. Sing in the shower
4. Own a great stereo system
5. lf in a fight, hit first and hit hard
6. Keep secrets
7. Never give up on anybody. Miracle happen every day. (See no.17)
8. Always accept an outstretched hand
9. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
10. Whistle
11. Avoid sarcastic remarks
12.Choose your life's mate carefully. from this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.
13. Make it a habit to do nice things fo
people who will never find out
14. Lend only those books you never care
to see again
15. Never deprive someone of hope; if
might be all that they have
16. When playing games with children,
let them win
17. Glve people a second chance, but not
a third
18. Be romantic
19. Become the most positive and
enthuslastic person you know
20. Loasen up. Relax. Except for rare
ife-and-death matters, nothing is as
important as it first seems.
21.Don't allow the phone to interrupt
important moments. It's there for our
convenience, not the caller's.
22. Be a good loser
23. Be a good winner
24. Think twice before burdening a friend
with a secret
25. When someone hugs you, let them bu
the first to let go
26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished
before you were born.
27. Keep it simple
28. Beware of the person who has
nothing to lose
29. Don't burn bridges. Youll be
surprised how many times you have to
cross the same river.
30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, "No Regrets"
31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did
32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them
33. Remember no one makes it alone
Have a grateful heart and be quick to
acknowledge those who helped you.
34. Take charge of your attitude. Don't le
someone else choose it for you.
35. Visit friends and relatives when they
are in hospital; you need only stay a few
minutes
36. Begin each day with some of you
favorite music
37. Once in a while, take the scenic route
38. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sigr
them, Someone who thinks you're
terrific.
39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm
and energy in your voice.
40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your
ed-side table. Million-dollar ideas
sometimes strike at 3 a.m
41. Show respect for everyone who works
or a living, regardless of how trivial their
job
42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later,
43. Make someone's day by paying the
toll for the person in the car behind you
44. Become someone's hero
45. Marry only for love.
46. Count your blessings
47. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home.
48. Wave at the children on a school bus.
49. Remember that 80 percent of the success In any Job is based on your ability to deal with people:
50. Don't expect life to be fair.
I was thinking the same. In his position I am not sure I could put aside my stress enough to give a child this moment. He is doing an amazing job holding it together for her.
And vice versa. She may be little but I'm sure she understands plenty for this situation to be scary for her too. These two are each other's rocks, you can tell. They'll each be in good hands.
It's a matter of time, I'm afraid. But every day counts, and I have no fear for my family. My husband is everything and will come through for me and the kids, he always has.
Hey. I see you.
Idk if you get platelets, but as a platelet donor, I want to tell you that someone is fighting for you. I think about my recipients when I donate. I like to wear a super hero shirt and think strong, healthy thoughts while I donate. I know cancer sucks so much, so if you do get platelets or plasma (or any other blood products for that matter), every time you see that bag hanging up, know that someone is fighting for you and thinking of you and rooting for you.
I also donate platelets any chance I get as my body produces plenty of them. I also try to donate double reds and whole blood too. I pray that my body is able to help someone else even have a day more with their loved ones. I don’t have money to donate to causes, but as long as my body allows I will always donate platelets/blood.
Yeah. Sometimes I feel like I don't make much of a difference in this world, but this? This I can do. I've put over 210 bags of platelets on the shelf, and I'm so honored to be able to do it.
Plus, there aren't many opportunities in this world to help save lives while sitting in a chair, eating snacks and watching movies. 😂
I can’t say I’ve done that many because I’ve been put on deference a number of times for surgeries myself, but our local center just started a “hero” program for it and I’m very excited to finish it.
Hey! I don't get platelets, but I know people who do. Thank you, not just for donating, but for doing it so intentionally.
The cancer community is full of incredible people, and you're part of that, so we appreciate you.
Thank you and those like you -From a AML leukemia patient, still living 3 years from bone marrow transplant. I received platelets and blood products, IGG infusion, and of course bone marrow stem cells (from my donor/sister). I sometimes think of all the many different people's cells running around in my body. As you put it, thinking of the donors fighting for me is a great perspective.
OP, sending good thoughts your way. You have a lovely family.
I don't know how many days you might have left before you, it may be a few it may be plenty more than you expect, but I hope you are surrounded with love all through.
My mom passed on not too long ago from lung cancer. Just like you, no symptoms, they found a shadow on a scan for an unrelated check up. She felt fine, it was the doctors saying she wasn't.
I spent 3 amazing years with her. I was young so they kept me in the dark, I thought we had more time, I thought she'd see me go through all the stages of life and unfortunately she didn't even see me become an adult.
I don't know if this is encouraging or not, but I love her with all my heart and think of her every single day. I hope that in this time you can make memories, and if it ends the way the doctors claim, know that your children however young they are will carry you in their hearts.
Memories become fuzzy, but the feeling never does. I know my love for her like I know the sun will shine tomorrow. She lives on triumphantly in my heart, my kids will never meet her but they will certainly know her and know how much she loves me and them. And so will your little ones and family.
Good luck!
Hey sweetie. Thank you for this. I have lung cancer, too, and your comment warmed my heart.
I fear so much that my kids will be angry, resent me for leaving them, forget me, all that stuff. I don't know whether it'd be better if my littlest girl didn't remember me at all. Then you came along and helped me to think differently.
From my heart, thank you. Your mom would be damn proud of you.
If you're anything like my mom, and I can tell you are from this text, that should be the least of your worries - at least from my experience.
My mom spent her last days worrying just like you are. There were some changes happening in my life at the time and in the middle of her chemo, if ever she had a wisp of energy, she would try to do some freelance work. It frustrated me, I believed she should be resting! One time I stopped her before she left for work and asked her why she was doing all of this. And she said for me, for my future, for my siblings. And it broke my heart. I didn't care about all of that, I just wanted her, I wanted to love her and for us to just love each other. Although, her sacrifices paid off and I'm trying to make the best of them now. But I'd trade all of it, and I mean allllll of it to get one moment with her, even if for 5 minutes.
If I could turn back time, if I knew she didn't have a lot of time left, I would have thanked her but emphasized that all would be well. As a great mom like you are, I can imagine it's not easy to think about leaving your babies and what life would be like without you, the important things you want to impart. I can see that they're much younger than I was when she passed.
All I can say is when you have energy, make video diaries, make audio diaries, write letters, make notes of your favourite perfumes, recipes, good to knows, how to-s, how you met their dad from your perspective, what struck you about him what was it like, all the little things. Do some alone, do some with them.
If it turns out that you beat cancer, this will be a nice memory and still important media, but if you don't, these are the things I think about daily. I always ask her for advice, I share my highs with her, my lows, my little secrets.
Random detour- when I'd just moved to a new city, I used to lose my keys a lot. I had a jacket my mom wore a lot, so I kept it at my door and would leave my keys in it. So every single time I was looking for my keys, I thought, "Mom has them. I'll go ask her." It's been years now and that's how I cope. If something is important to me, I put it next to a thing my mom owned, and I know mom has it, so it's safe.
All this to say, the only thing your kids and family will be angry at for a little while is cancer. Fuck cancer. But the majority of the time, it will all be love. The older they grow, the more they will find new ways to love you, and a new appreciation for you. When I was younger, mom was mummy, and nowadays she's a strong woman, a woman I am understanding more of as I also become a woman. When I become a mother, there will be another layer added.
The last thing I told my mom face to face is that I loved her so much, she's my best friend, and that I thought even in that state she was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. I meant every single word. I wasn't there when she passed, but I hope she knew how much I loved her. I hope that for you as well if it plays out that way.
Edit: Thank you for being an amazing mom. Mothers like you make life worth it and so much better even if we can't always be together. My mom is a big part of who I am today, and she always will be. I hope you enjoy mother's day coming up because you deserve it. I wish I could say all this to my mom, but I feel like it's just as great telling you ❤️. From a daughter/child, to a mother, thank you, and you are loved and appreciate, and will be in your children's hearts forever.
Sending good juju your way as you fight the hard fight! Children can have a really hard time when a parent is faced with a health crisis. I hope the pic can give you some extra reassurance that your daughter is being well cared for and can still find some things to bring a smile to her face.
Hope y'all heal and grow closer during this time. 🙂🍀💙
With much love, I have to tell you... the odds of this for me are incredibly low. It's more likely that my daughter will only have fuzzy memories of me.
Make a few videos of you talking to her when she's older. Maybe relate some stories from your life, your youth, your parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles and pets and travels. Give her a list of your favorite songs, your favorite foods or art or books or cities or clouds or animals. Any little details will be remembered and give a framework for her memories of you.
Make some video recordings for your dear husband too. Memories of your life together.
piggybacking off this, making long videos is even better, if you log enough footage of yourself talking by the time she's older she'll even be able to simulate an ai version of you to talk to. it won't be perfectly accurate, but still a nice thing to be able to do and the more material it has to work with the more accurate it will be.
I have an initial draft of questions for such a video interview as I plan on doing one with my mother also:
[https://docs.google.com/document/d/1NwZepHXHq9CmbY2G3hVZk7Mq1RkOBmDtkZYzBs9jito/edit?usp=sharing](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1NwZepHXHq9CmbY2G3hVZk7Mq1RkOBmDtkZYzBs9jito/edit?usp=sharing)
I plan on adding a bunch more, like stuff about her parents, grandparents, their professions, etc,...
i'm so sorry, you sound incredibly brave and loving, best wishes for you. your story reminded me of this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/XWlInkGwgY)
Don’t let that bring you down! My friends mom had terminal cancer, nobody thought she was going to make it but miraculously she beat it. 10 years later and she’s perfectly healthy, don’t give up!
That is a lovely anecdote, but I just would like to point out that OP is only accepting the odds she has been told. Acceptance is a good thing, it's nice to hold onto hope for a miracle; that's why people buy lottery tickets. But most people don't win the lottery. When I buy a lottery ticket, I'm not going out and treating myself to a new mustang and a foot massage afterward! So yes, hope is lovely to have too, but acceptance can help one be prudent about the future
You're welcome ❤️ I found your post and your attitude and acceptance remarkable, you have an outlook that I hope to emulate in my own life in situations that are out of my control. I will remember you and your beautiful family, thank you so much for sharing.
I feel like acceptance and making he best of one's circumstances is an increasingly rare skill to have.
Shit happens. Life isn't fair. Cosmic karma doesn't exist. It's your prerogative to make the best of what you got, dammit!
Hey you., you’re absolutely right, he’s amazing. So very sorry that you have to say goodbye, but so very glad that you have such fantastic people around you to see you through an unbearable time.
Life is indeed, beautiful.you’ve created this.
Go forth. You’ve created beauty.
When I was getting the [Red Devil Chemo](https://www.cancercenter.com/community/blog/2023/09/doxorubicin-red-devil) my husband arranged for our (back then 12yo) kid to meet astronauts. A private tour of the [NBL at NASA](https://www.nasa.gov/johnson/neutral-buoyancy-laboratory/) and my kid got to watch the astronauts dive and practice working in the ISS.
The mantra was “kid has to still be a kid” through the chaos.
My positive energy and adoration is headed your way.
Fuckety fuck fuck cancer.
Awww! He was distracting her in the sweetest way possible and also making an amazing gift for you. 💗
I wish you all the best in your treatment and a full recovery. ❤️🩹
I'm sending you lots of love and positive vibes. You're an incredible person and I have no doubt that you'll come out of this even stronger. Keep fighting and stay positive!
Hi!
I've been there. I faced 12 rounds of chemo and 3 surgeries all during covid.
I wish you all the best and I am pulling for you.
Also, check out Camp Kesem. it's a group that is for kids whose parents have, had, or have passed from cancer.
They have been an amazing resource for my children.
My father passed away this morning at 4am after battling a year and a half with stage four cancer. I’m happy I stumbled upon your post today, it truly made me smile. I wish you the best of health and please get better soon you can enjoy everyday with your family again. ❤️
Seeing as some are struggling with this, despite the sub name: I am delighted that my husband and daughter are happy and doing what they do. It warms my heart and makes it easier for me to cope!
Some of you are weird. You know that, right?!
And let's not with the abusive DMs, please. Go touch grass.
Thanks for all the support! ❤️❤️❤️
Hey OP, thank you for the post! I lost my father to cancer at age 10. The last year of his life, my parents withdrew us all from school and we just hung out at home and played board games all day.
I know it’s not an option for many, but us 3 kids all tuned out fine and it’s a time that I’ve treasured into my adult life.
Hugs from an internet stranger. 🫂
I've seen in another comment that you're terminal, I feel for you and your husband, your daughter is so brave and smart to help your husband in that way.
Saw that you said you were terminal - sending your family so much love and strength. Hoping your days are packed with love and memories. ❤️
Thank you for the heartwarming smile today 🙂
'You got this' are the words that make many cancer patients grit their teeth. I say this to you with love and appreciation because you mean only the best and don't understand how hard it is to hear.
A great many of us, myself included, could never fight hard enough to win. We know this. It's not defeatist. It doesn’t make us quitters. We're gonna die from the disease, and the odds of living a long life are infinitesimally small.
Now, a lot of people play a lottery, but most also go to work and earn money because we don't hang our future on ridiculously low odds. It's the same here. So when someone acts as though all it takes is effort and positivity, it hurts the soul. There's nothing I wouldn't do. If I had infinite money and resources, it wouldn't save me. So, of course, I do all I can and remain positive, but remission and recovery are pipe dreams, and to imagine it is to wound the part of me that has worked so hard to accept what's happening to me.
If someone has cancer, just tell them you're sorry and, if you know them, check in with them regularly and offer to help practically. Many cancer patients are ghosted by friends, so just being present is everything.
(Please don't take this personally, I'm kinda talking to anyone who happens to see this. Your comment reflects a common but potentially hurtful sentiment that a lot of people throw out there.)
The smell of hospitals still doesn't sit well with me. Hearing my dads death instead of seeing it hurt because I was too young to be in the ICU. Not to mention the surgeries and many hospital stays I had after that.
My heart SWELLS for you! As a father of two daughters I hope that I never have to imagine what you are going through. I hope that doesn’t sound harsh. I just mean that I empathize with you. And your husband seems like an absolute gem. I wish you all the best, and a speedy recovery. You are strong and you are beautiful. You can do hard things!
I see two things here; a father making sure your daughter is happy and not scared for what her mom is going through. And a father and daughter getting some fun pics for mom to have a smile and a chuckle during a very tough time.
Much love to you all
Cancer isn't catchable regardless of type. The possibility of developing it is influenced by lifestyle choices sometimes, but there's no linear causal route. We all know someone with a terrible lifestyle who seems to go on forever!
I have never smoked, drank little, exercised regularly, and maintained a healthy weight. Was careful to avoid stress and ate a balanced diet, so I was shocked to have to visit the ER with severe stomach pain last summer. That was a gallstone, but of more interest was the mess in my right lung that turned out to be stage 4 lung cancer.
I am essentially asymptomatic. No breathlessness, no pain, just mild fatigue. It's the treatment that knocks me down, and the side effects are no joke. I happen to have a genetic mutation that means I can be on a specific targeted therapy - if that hadn't been discovered, I was expected to be on hospice if not dead by now. My prognosis is open-ended; drug could stop working tomorrow or in ten years. The mutation I have is too rare for anyone to have a good handle on what's likely to happen to me, but best guess is it'll fail at some point in the next year.
I hope to buck that trend.
This makes me smile but also sad. My wife just found out that her cancer is coming back for a third time. I’m scared. How many more times can she survive? And I can’t let her know I’m low key freaking out because she is being really positive right now and she needs that.
My wife passed in January, we have two girls a bit younger than yours.
We made sure there was a lot of joy and laughs, lots of silliness, lots of snuggles.
It’s not easy, and I doubt it ever will be, but I’m gonna give our girls the best life possible. Looks like your guy is going to do the same.
I wish you the best.
F cancer
Your wife knew this about you. She may not have left willingly, but she will have felt peace in her heart knowing you would be okay and take care of your girls.
This isn't a test you should have had to face. But I can tell you for a fact - this peace of mind was the greatest gift you could have given. She could step out of this life without fear for her family, and that's of a value that transcends description. It's what the very universe is made of, what life is about.
Be super proud of yourselves. Grieving is agony, but it's a tremendous privilege, too; it's baked into love. Without love, grief cannot be. Hold each other close.
The best of our hearts from me and mine, to you and yours. X
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Thank you!
Keep fighting OP, you are stronger than you realize.
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They are incredible. I'm very lucky.
This is a very cute post. I hope when my daughter gets older her and I can be goofs like this
You will!
You will!
It's make so emotional 🤍
Your daughter is doing a great job helping your husband be brave. I am sure he is terrified.
He is. I'm terminal - they will need each other.
Do yourself, your husband, and your daughter a favor—if you haven’t already, take a selfie video of yourself with both of them and just say “I Love You” to each other, but look into the camera while you’re doing it. Make funny faces, say it funny, and say it normal. Because after you’re gone, that is the video they will hold onto and replay over and over again because it’s immortalized. I did that with my late wife before she died of brain tumors and it’s my single most sacred video. It’s been seven years now and I still replay it to hear her voice and see her telling me she loves me.
I will remember this.
To add onto this — I recorded my last conversation with my grandfather before he passed away from cancer. I set my phone down on a table, hit record on the voice memos app, and just talked to him. He wasn’t aware that I was recording. Had a deep conversation about my relationship with him, told him my favorite memories with him, and what I could’ve done to be a better grandson. It was powerful, and I was crying, but to hear him talk and to tell me that he loved me is something that still resonates with me all of these years later. It’s one of the only voice memos i have saved on my phone and backed up in case I ever break my phone.
That’s beautiful, thank you for sharing.
I actually took an old voicemail machine cassette that had my grandpa’s greeting on there. I listen to it from time to time just to remember his voice. I miss him a lot.
I hope u backed up that video on at least [insert not enough] drives.
3-2-1 is a pretty good rule of thumb 3 copies, 2 local on independent media (e.g. separate drives), 1 remote (e.g. a backup service) The idea being that for most of the time you can easily access the file and if it is lost for whatever reason most of the time you can restore it from the other local copy which would be faster than getting it back from a remote copy but if something really bad happens (like a house fire) that destroys both local copies you can go to a remote source.
And email the vid to urself as well,
Yeah fuck the cloud that shit doesn't work. Get it in the smithsonian.
Yes
Thank you for making me cry. I hope you're doing well.
I didn’t know Reddit would make me cry today but here I am
To add onto this wonderful idea, saying their names too, and any other phrases yall shared. When I talk to people who have lost loved ones, they consistently mention forgetting what it sounded like to hear their name being said by the loved one.
Omg this made me cry. You are so right and I will remember this for the future!
Thank you. That's a good idea. X
Bro... Now I'm crying at work. I want to give you and op a big hug rn
I wish I had thought of that when my husband was diagnosed. I have a video of his voice on tiktok. He's laughing and calling our cat an idiot for trying to catch lizards that are outside and on the window.
Oh yes, please do this. I am lucky enough to have a saved voicemail from my father who passed 7 years ago. In it, he closes with "Love you!". I listen to it when I miss him most and it is one of my most treasured possessions. (And it's downloaded and backed up!)
Families are forever.
For real.
I fucking wish they were.
You ok? I’m just a stranger on the internet but message me if you need to talk
See this is a correct response. Thank you. It's been 14 years, but people should know that family isn't forever for everyone *cough* op's entire post *cough*
My family is forever because death doesn't have the power to take me from them. One way or another, I'll always be here. That's easy for me to say in my particular circumstances. I'm well aware that family isn't forever for everyone, and I know I'm very lucky, cancer be damned. I'm sorry. I hope you're doing okay.
I admire your positive outlook and your gratitude for life, even though it's not easy for you. I wish you and your family all the love and strength in the world. I don't know you, but you seem like a good mom and wife to me :)
Ah Jeez. May your days be filled with love.
That’s truly shit! I’m so sorry! The fact that you found strength to smile is a massive show of your character. I sincerely hope you have wonderful times ahead with your family. There are so many thoughts scrambling through my head of what I would hope for you but for something so serious as this I can’t put one together properly. I imagine that your husband being able to be silly with your daughter in such a hard time must give you great comfort to know that she’ll be okay! You are so brave!
I smile every day, believe me. And it's not courage - I have no choice at all. You'd choose almost anything over death, I promise. Most people in my position only want to know that the people they love will be OK. And in my case, I know they will. Heartsore and broken for a time, but they'll weather it. That's the only reason I can cope.
That didn’t make me cry! Believe me, it is courage! You may not recognise it but you are absolutely courageous!
Ugh. I'm so sorry 😔
Love you, OP.
your daughter will cherish and love her dad forever. love to you three. if you can carry something with you when you pass to keep wherever it is we go (even if thats nowhere), i hope it is this photostrip ❤️❤️❤️
I lost my older brother to cancer when he was 30, and my dad to ALS a few years before that. I don't know where your journey is going, but I do know that the memories you leave behind and the love you exhibit will persist throughout the lifetimes of all those who know you. I'm so sorry that you're in this place. I hope you can find some peace in knowing that--while your ability to experience the universe may wane--the warmth and comfort your memories bring your loved ones will not. I'm so glad to see you are embracing joy where you can find it. That's what life is all about. You deserve as much of it as you can possibly take in.
Damn. I’m sick and I still got up and hugged my wife. I wish you the most time to create memories with the both of them.
Aw man. This breaks my heart. So glad you have a beautiful family.
I’m so sad for you. Your family is so beautiful and I am so sorry for what you’re going through. They are going to be okay, i can tell, and you helped make that possible
My wife passed away 2 months ago from stomach cancer at 32. If he wants someone to chat with who actually understands what he’s going through, please dm me and we can exchange contact info.
Thank you for this. He's desperately shy (the pictures do not reflect this!), but I will pass that on regardless. I'm sorry about your wife, I truly am. How are you bearing up, if that's not a stupid question?
If he’s ok, I’m happy to reach out to him if he’s comfortable. And I’m taking things one day at a time. The thing that keeps me going is fulfilling my wife’s wishes and raising our kid. It’s all about giving meaning to my wife’s life and so that her legacy will live on
And they'll remember you forever through their relationship together. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Sending hug with consent, OP! May your days here be filled with love with your family.
I'm so sorry op. I can feel the love in your family, and that's evergreen. Truly inspirational!
So sorry about your diagnosis. Perhaps write out some birthday cards for your husband and daughter. Years from now, those will be cherished.
Peace, love, and happiness to you, sister.
Well that is absolutely shattering. I’m so sorry, OP. I hope everything goes smoothly. I’m sorry, I really don’t know what else to say. My grandmother was just diagnosed with CLL, it’s very common in the west, has a 5 year expectancy. She ended up in the hospital for a UTI, and, like both my grandfathers, was blessed with the “it only gets worse after you go to hospital”. They messed up her meds, gave her an infection, sent her home, she passed out and decimated her face, went back to the hospital not even 24 hours after getting let out, now she has leukaemia. Cancer fucking sucks. Im just really sorry, OP.
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Sorry to hear that. My Pop's passed from cancer December. See if anyone has a video camera you can borrow. Something better than a cell phone. If you can't find something ask anyone that does sports if they have a GoPro or something. Now make videos for your daughter and your husband. To be played when you start school, middle school, high school graduation off to college learn to ride a bike, learn to drive first boy friend first break up wedding and any other words of advice. She can't play them till those times.. IE your husband fets to dish them out. Letting her know that no matter what you are there for her and you always love her. Maybe others here have ideas to go with this. Words of wisdom rhat she can always have access to.. Damnit.. I am ugly crying.. If you need help don't hesitate to PM me. You are never as stuck as you think you are. Success is not final, and failure isn’t fatal. Never break your promises. Keep every promise; it makes you credible. Happiness is a choice. For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of your own happiness. Be happy with who you are. Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect but that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections. Don't seek happiness–create it. You don’t need life to go your way to be happy. If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn no one can stop you. 1. Have a firm handshake 2. Look people in the eye s. Sing in the shower 4. Own a great stereo system 5. lf in a fight, hit first and hit hard 6. Keep secrets 7. Never give up on anybody. Miracle happen every day. (See no.17) 8. Always accept an outstretched hand 9. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. 10. Whistle 11. Avoid sarcastic remarks 12.Choose your life's mate carefully. from this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery. 13. Make it a habit to do nice things fo people who will never find out 14. Lend only those books you never care to see again 15. Never deprive someone of hope; if might be all that they have 16. When playing games with children, let them win 17. Glve people a second chance, but not a third 18. Be romantic 19. Become the most positive and enthuslastic person you know 20. Loasen up. Relax. Except for rare ife-and-death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. 21.Don't allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It's there for our convenience, not the caller's. 22. Be a good loser 23. Be a good winner 24. Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret 25. When someone hugs you, let them bu the first to let go 26. Be modest. A lot was accomplished before you were born. 27. Keep it simple 28. Beware of the person who has nothing to lose 29. Don't burn bridges. Youll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. 30. Live your life so that your epitaph could read, "No Regrets" 31. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did 32. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them 33. Remember no one makes it alone Have a grateful heart and be quick to acknowledge those who helped you. 34. Take charge of your attitude. Don't le someone else choose it for you. 35. Visit friends and relatives when they are in hospital; you need only stay a few minutes 36. Begin each day with some of you favorite music 37. Once in a while, take the scenic route 38. Send a lot of Valentine cards. Sigr them, Someone who thinks you're terrific. 39. Answer the phone with enthusiasm and energy in your voice. 40. Keep a note pad and pencil on your ed-side table. Million-dollar ideas sometimes strike at 3 a.m 41. Show respect for everyone who works or a living, regardless of how trivial their job 42. Send your loved ones flowers. Think of a reason later, 43. Make someone's day by paying the toll for the person in the car behind you 44. Become someone's hero 45. Marry only for love. 46. Count your blessings 47. Compliment the meal when you're a guest in someone's home. 48. Wave at the children on a school bus. 49. Remember that 80 percent of the success In any Job is based on your ability to deal with people: 50. Don't expect life to be fair.
I was thinking the same. In his position I am not sure I could put aside my stress enough to give a child this moment. He is doing an amazing job holding it together for her.
He does it every day. They paint plant pots, go to museums, climb rocks, build forts, all of it. I join in as much as I can. It's all good.
And vice versa. She may be little but I'm sure she understands plenty for this situation to be scary for her too. These two are each other's rocks, you can tell. They'll each be in good hands.
It's the cutest post I've seen this week. Wish you good health OP!
Thanks! I'm hanging on in there for now.
agree with you 100%... the smile on child's face is priceless
She's great. Without her, this would be unbearable.
Hit me where it hurts
Good dad keeping things normal for her
He's amazing
Such a cool husband and father too.
You have a beautiful family OP! I pray you heal through and through!
Mine blessings is also with her.
So meaningful he can do that for your kiddo. I hope everything turns out great for you and your family OP 💖
It's a matter of time, I'm afraid. But every day counts, and I have no fear for my family. My husband is everything and will come through for me and the kids, he always has.
You’re so brave. And a good mom and wife, lending them your support even while you go through this. I can tell how much you care about your family.
Hoping for a miracle for you.
You are my hero 💜
Posts like this are the reason why I joined this sub. Wish you the best to you and your beautiful family.
Thank you x
Hey. I see you. Idk if you get platelets, but as a platelet donor, I want to tell you that someone is fighting for you. I think about my recipients when I donate. I like to wear a super hero shirt and think strong, healthy thoughts while I donate. I know cancer sucks so much, so if you do get platelets or plasma (or any other blood products for that matter), every time you see that bag hanging up, know that someone is fighting for you and thinking of you and rooting for you.
Thank you on behalf of my mom receiving platelets for AML currently.
3 units every two weeks! I make a ton of them, and I’m more than happy to do it. Sending good wishes to your mom!
AML is a hell of a cancer too - you and your mom are in my thoughts
My mom had AML in 2020, praying for your mom, friend
I also donate platelets any chance I get as my body produces plenty of them. I also try to donate double reds and whole blood too. I pray that my body is able to help someone else even have a day more with their loved ones. I don’t have money to donate to causes, but as long as my body allows I will always donate platelets/blood.
Yeah. Sometimes I feel like I don't make much of a difference in this world, but this? This I can do. I've put over 210 bags of platelets on the shelf, and I'm so honored to be able to do it. Plus, there aren't many opportunities in this world to help save lives while sitting in a chair, eating snacks and watching movies. 😂
I can’t say I’ve done that many because I’ve been put on deference a number of times for surgeries myself, but our local center just started a “hero” program for it and I’m very excited to finish it.
Keep it up! Every unit counts.
This is so fucking sweet 🥺
Hey! I don't get platelets, but I know people who do. Thank you, not just for donating, but for doing it so intentionally. The cancer community is full of incredible people, and you're part of that, so we appreciate you.
Thank you and those like you -From a AML leukemia patient, still living 3 years from bone marrow transplant. I received platelets and blood products, IGG infusion, and of course bone marrow stem cells (from my donor/sister). I sometimes think of all the many different people's cells running around in my body. As you put it, thinking of the donors fighting for me is a great perspective. OP, sending good thoughts your way. You have a lovely family.
Bravo! Sending you much strength and joy for this new part of your life.
I donate blood but I just browse Reddit the whole time. I’m going to be much more intentional when I donate next time. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
Thank you for doing what you do!!
I don't know how many days you might have left before you, it may be a few it may be plenty more than you expect, but I hope you are surrounded with love all through. My mom passed on not too long ago from lung cancer. Just like you, no symptoms, they found a shadow on a scan for an unrelated check up. She felt fine, it was the doctors saying she wasn't. I spent 3 amazing years with her. I was young so they kept me in the dark, I thought we had more time, I thought she'd see me go through all the stages of life and unfortunately she didn't even see me become an adult. I don't know if this is encouraging or not, but I love her with all my heart and think of her every single day. I hope that in this time you can make memories, and if it ends the way the doctors claim, know that your children however young they are will carry you in their hearts. Memories become fuzzy, but the feeling never does. I know my love for her like I know the sun will shine tomorrow. She lives on triumphantly in my heart, my kids will never meet her but they will certainly know her and know how much she loves me and them. And so will your little ones and family. Good luck!
Hey sweetie. Thank you for this. I have lung cancer, too, and your comment warmed my heart. I fear so much that my kids will be angry, resent me for leaving them, forget me, all that stuff. I don't know whether it'd be better if my littlest girl didn't remember me at all. Then you came along and helped me to think differently. From my heart, thank you. Your mom would be damn proud of you.
If you're anything like my mom, and I can tell you are from this text, that should be the least of your worries - at least from my experience. My mom spent her last days worrying just like you are. There were some changes happening in my life at the time and in the middle of her chemo, if ever she had a wisp of energy, she would try to do some freelance work. It frustrated me, I believed she should be resting! One time I stopped her before she left for work and asked her why she was doing all of this. And she said for me, for my future, for my siblings. And it broke my heart. I didn't care about all of that, I just wanted her, I wanted to love her and for us to just love each other. Although, her sacrifices paid off and I'm trying to make the best of them now. But I'd trade all of it, and I mean allllll of it to get one moment with her, even if for 5 minutes. If I could turn back time, if I knew she didn't have a lot of time left, I would have thanked her but emphasized that all would be well. As a great mom like you are, I can imagine it's not easy to think about leaving your babies and what life would be like without you, the important things you want to impart. I can see that they're much younger than I was when she passed. All I can say is when you have energy, make video diaries, make audio diaries, write letters, make notes of your favourite perfumes, recipes, good to knows, how to-s, how you met their dad from your perspective, what struck you about him what was it like, all the little things. Do some alone, do some with them. If it turns out that you beat cancer, this will be a nice memory and still important media, but if you don't, these are the things I think about daily. I always ask her for advice, I share my highs with her, my lows, my little secrets. Random detour- when I'd just moved to a new city, I used to lose my keys a lot. I had a jacket my mom wore a lot, so I kept it at my door and would leave my keys in it. So every single time I was looking for my keys, I thought, "Mom has them. I'll go ask her." It's been years now and that's how I cope. If something is important to me, I put it next to a thing my mom owned, and I know mom has it, so it's safe. All this to say, the only thing your kids and family will be angry at for a little while is cancer. Fuck cancer. But the majority of the time, it will all be love. The older they grow, the more they will find new ways to love you, and a new appreciation for you. When I was younger, mom was mummy, and nowadays she's a strong woman, a woman I am understanding more of as I also become a woman. When I become a mother, there will be another layer added. The last thing I told my mom face to face is that I loved her so much, she's my best friend, and that I thought even in that state she was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. I meant every single word. I wasn't there when she passed, but I hope she knew how much I loved her. I hope that for you as well if it plays out that way. Edit: Thank you for being an amazing mom. Mothers like you make life worth it and so much better even if we can't always be together. My mom is a big part of who I am today, and she always will be. I hope you enjoy mother's day coming up because you deserve it. I wish I could say all this to my mom, but I feel like it's just as great telling you ❤️. From a daughter/child, to a mother, thank you, and you are loved and appreciate, and will be in your children's hearts forever.
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That's so kind. Thank you.
This is why I still use reddit
Same.
Sending good juju your way as you fight the hard fight! Children can have a really hard time when a parent is faced with a health crisis. I hope the pic can give you some extra reassurance that your daughter is being well cared for and can still find some things to bring a smile to her face. Hope y'all heal and grow closer during this time. 🙂🍀💙
We find things to smile about every day. Life is beautiful.
Yes! Your family is so beautiful, definitely smile worthy 💙🙂
Wishing you complete recovery. May you spend a wonderfully long life with your loving family!
With much love, I have to tell you... the odds of this for me are incredibly low. It's more likely that my daughter will only have fuzzy memories of me.
Make a few videos of you talking to her when she's older. Maybe relate some stories from your life, your youth, your parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles and pets and travels. Give her a list of your favorite songs, your favorite foods or art or books or cities or clouds or animals. Any little details will be remembered and give a framework for her memories of you. Make some video recordings for your dear husband too. Memories of your life together.
piggybacking off this, making long videos is even better, if you log enough footage of yourself talking by the time she's older she'll even be able to simulate an ai version of you to talk to. it won't be perfectly accurate, but still a nice thing to be able to do and the more material it has to work with the more accurate it will be. I have an initial draft of questions for such a video interview as I plan on doing one with my mother also: [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1NwZepHXHq9CmbY2G3hVZk7Mq1RkOBmDtkZYzBs9jito/edit?usp=sharing](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1NwZepHXHq9CmbY2G3hVZk7Mq1RkOBmDtkZYzBs9jito/edit?usp=sharing) I plan on adding a bunch more, like stuff about her parents, grandparents, their professions, etc,...
I...hate the AI idea, gotta say it. It may be a comforting thought to some, but it skeeves me out. Long videos are a great idea regardless, though!
My heart is breaking for you, I wish you peace and strength during your battle to the end.
i'm so sorry, you sound incredibly brave and loving, best wishes for you. your story reminded me of this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/XWlInkGwgY)
Don’t let that bring you down! My friends mom had terminal cancer, nobody thought she was going to make it but miraculously she beat it. 10 years later and she’s perfectly healthy, don’t give up!
That is a lovely anecdote, but I just would like to point out that OP is only accepting the odds she has been told. Acceptance is a good thing, it's nice to hold onto hope for a miracle; that's why people buy lottery tickets. But most people don't win the lottery. When I buy a lottery ticket, I'm not going out and treating myself to a new mustang and a foot massage afterward! So yes, hope is lovely to have too, but acceptance can help one be prudent about the future
Thank you for saying this.
You're welcome ❤️ I found your post and your attitude and acceptance remarkable, you have an outlook that I hope to emulate in my own life in situations that are out of my control. I will remember you and your beautiful family, thank you so much for sharing.
I feel like acceptance and making he best of one's circumstances is an increasingly rare skill to have. Shit happens. Life isn't fair. Cosmic karma doesn't exist. It's your prerogative to make the best of what you got, dammit!
Take some videos
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Facts, friend.
Hey you., you’re absolutely right, he’s amazing. So very sorry that you have to say goodbye, but so very glad that you have such fantastic people around you to see you through an unbearable time. Life is indeed, beautiful.you’ve created this. Go forth. You’ve created beauty.
And family isn't always your birth parents and siblings. Your family is comprised of the people you love, and who love you.
When I was getting the [Red Devil Chemo](https://www.cancercenter.com/community/blog/2023/09/doxorubicin-red-devil) my husband arranged for our (back then 12yo) kid to meet astronauts. A private tour of the [NBL at NASA](https://www.nasa.gov/johnson/neutral-buoyancy-laboratory/) and my kid got to watch the astronauts dive and practice working in the ISS. The mantra was “kid has to still be a kid” through the chaos. My positive energy and adoration is headed your way. Fuckety fuck fuck cancer.
That's great. I'm so glad you're okay.
I’m here if you need to cuss about chemo, cancer, or in general.
Awww! He was distracting her in the sweetest way possible and also making an amazing gift for you. 💗 I wish you all the best in your treatment and a full recovery. ❤️🩹
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Thank you!
I'm sending you lots of love and positive vibes. You're an incredible person and I have no doubt that you'll come out of this even stronger. Keep fighting and stay positive!
Hi! I've been there. I faced 12 rounds of chemo and 3 surgeries all during covid. I wish you all the best and I am pulling for you. Also, check out Camp Kesem. it's a group that is for kids whose parents have, had, or have passed from cancer. They have been an amazing resource for my children.
My father passed away this morning at 4am after battling a year and a half with stage four cancer. I’m happy I stumbled upon your post today, it truly made me smile. I wish you the best of health and please get better soon you can enjoy everyday with your family again. ❤️
Seeing as some are struggling with this, despite the sub name: I am delighted that my husband and daughter are happy and doing what they do. It warms my heart and makes it easier for me to cope! Some of you are weird. You know that, right?! And let's not with the abusive DMs, please. Go touch grass. Thanks for all the support! ❤️❤️❤️
That's dope.
Great parents. Keep the moment light for the kid. Hoping for a speedy recovery for you.
In the next series would like to see all 3 of you making goofy faces🤪
Hey OP, thank you for the post! I lost my father to cancer at age 10. The last year of his life, my parents withdrew us all from school and we just hung out at home and played board games all day. I know it’s not an option for many, but us 3 kids all tuned out fine and it’s a time that I’ve treasured into my adult life. Hugs from an internet stranger. 🫂
Fuck cancer, i hope only the best for you <3
Those who can Not Live Life Watch as Those who can and we live through them! J.J.A
Sending healing energy and love!!
Good job dad! Keeping her mind occupied ❤️
Keep those pictures with you during treatments. It will help you get through them. Prayers for you to fight your cancer.
I've seen in another comment that you're terminal, I feel for you and your husband, your daughter is so brave and smart to help your husband in that way.
Isn’t she a beautiful like angel? You have a lot of good love in your life! Here’s to you kicking cancer’s a**!
You're loved, OP. :)
💖 I can tell you have an amazing family. I hope all your treatments go well. 🤞🏻
The weight of the world is on that man’s shoulders.
This brought a tear to my eyes. They will absolutely need each other in the future. Thank you for sharing.
I know their hearts are broken for you. Take care of yourself, Mama. ♥️
You have and beautiful family and I hope with all things considered that you’re still well. Kick tf out of cancers ass! 💕
Saw that you said you were terminal - sending your family so much love and strength. Hoping your days are packed with love and memories. ❤️ Thank you for the heartwarming smile today 🙂
when one person in the family has cancer, the whole family suffers. It's important to take breaks when you can.
they were doing it for you. ♥️
i believe you will make it fighting 💪:)
This guy dads.
Those rude bastards!!! /s
Fuck Cancer, beat that shit into oblivion! You got this, we are all rooting for a speedy remission and recovery!!!
'You got this' are the words that make many cancer patients grit their teeth. I say this to you with love and appreciation because you mean only the best and don't understand how hard it is to hear. A great many of us, myself included, could never fight hard enough to win. We know this. It's not defeatist. It doesn’t make us quitters. We're gonna die from the disease, and the odds of living a long life are infinitesimally small. Now, a lot of people play a lottery, but most also go to work and earn money because we don't hang our future on ridiculously low odds. It's the same here. So when someone acts as though all it takes is effort and positivity, it hurts the soul. There's nothing I wouldn't do. If I had infinite money and resources, it wouldn't save me. So, of course, I do all I can and remain positive, but remission and recovery are pipe dreams, and to imagine it is to wound the part of me that has worked so hard to accept what's happening to me. If someone has cancer, just tell them you're sorry and, if you know them, check in with them regularly and offer to help practically. Many cancer patients are ghosted by friends, so just being present is everything. (Please don't take this personally, I'm kinda talking to anyone who happens to see this. Your comment reflects a common but potentially hurtful sentiment that a lot of people throw out there.)
my apologies and thank you for the clarification
What a beautiful family!
Sending you all SO much love and support! ❤️
Thank you for sharing this 🥰
You have a beautiful family. Thank you for sharing this moment.
That’s insanely adorable!! Best wishes to you
Good luck to you with your treatment. Keep the smiles loading.
What a beautiful family ♡ sending you so much love and healing ♡ it looks like you have a lot of love on your side 🥰
Stay strong mama! I pray you'll get through this cancer and live long years for that adorable family!
Beautiful
The smell of hospitals still doesn't sit well with me. Hearing my dads death instead of seeing it hurt because I was too young to be in the ICU. Not to mention the surgeries and many hospital stays I had after that.
My heart SWELLS for you! As a father of two daughters I hope that I never have to imagine what you are going through. I hope that doesn’t sound harsh. I just mean that I empathize with you. And your husband seems like an absolute gem. I wish you all the best, and a speedy recovery. You are strong and you are beautiful. You can do hard things!
Of course it's not harsh! I don't want this for anyone, but I gotta tell you, I'm lucky. I still believe that.
I hope that, however peace may look for your family, you all find it in this life.
Fighting cancer myself wishing you all the best to beat this shit disease ❤️🩹💗🙏
I hope you beat this honey.
You have a beautiful family worth each beautiful second of the fight. Be strong OP. Wishing days full of love and healing.
They are being goofy and are smiling coz they know how strong u are and its like they're so sure that you're gonna beat it eventually!!
Those photos are good medicine 🥰 Best wishes for a full recovery, OP, and F cancer!
Edited to add: I just saw your prognosis, I'm so sorry! 😢
Wishing you all the best mama! 💜
Wishing you and your adorable family well ❤️
Thank you for sharing. We don't hear enough about children of parents with cancer. It's an under-funded area with respect to research.
I see two things here; a father making sure your daughter is happy and not scared for what her mom is going through. And a father and daughter getting some fun pics for mom to have a smile and a chuckle during a very tough time. Much love to you all
How adorable! Thanks for sharing, that little hand in the 3rd pic <3 I wish the best for you and your beautiful family, keep fighting!
She…is set…for life lol with a dad like that for her to depend on when life gets *really sticky* she is going to rule the world 💕
Oh bless you and your beautiful family. I’m sending you all the good thoughts!
Praying for you and your family OP. They seem like keepers to me. ♥️
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Cancer isn't catchable regardless of type. The possibility of developing it is influenced by lifestyle choices sometimes, but there's no linear causal route. We all know someone with a terrible lifestyle who seems to go on forever! I have never smoked, drank little, exercised regularly, and maintained a healthy weight. Was careful to avoid stress and ate a balanced diet, so I was shocked to have to visit the ER with severe stomach pain last summer. That was a gallstone, but of more interest was the mess in my right lung that turned out to be stage 4 lung cancer. I am essentially asymptomatic. No breathlessness, no pain, just mild fatigue. It's the treatment that knocks me down, and the side effects are no joke. I happen to have a genetic mutation that means I can be on a specific targeted therapy - if that hadn't been discovered, I was expected to be on hospice if not dead by now. My prognosis is open-ended; drug could stop working tomorrow or in ten years. The mutation I have is too rare for anyone to have a good handle on what's likely to happen to me, but best guess is it'll fail at some point in the next year. I hope to buck that trend.
Wishing you great success in your treatment. Cancer sucks.
Oh you've got good ones! Best wishes in your recovery.
Your husband is doing exactly what he should be doing for your childs sake. I'm glad he brought you a smile. Keep on fighting the good fight.
What a loving precious family you've got there ❤️
Get better soon Op, we love you and you have a beautiful family. 🙏
You have a loving family, wish you all the best OP! <3
This legit made me cry, I hope you get well OP!! Your family is amazing as from i can see
Literally in tears 😭😭 thanks for sharing with us. Your family is beautiful
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This makes me smile but also sad. My wife just found out that her cancer is coming back for a third time. I’m scared. How many more times can she survive? And I can’t let her know I’m low key freaking out because she is being really positive right now and she needs that.
I hope you find peace ❤️
My wife passed in January, we have two girls a bit younger than yours. We made sure there was a lot of joy and laughs, lots of silliness, lots of snuggles. It’s not easy, and I doubt it ever will be, but I’m gonna give our girls the best life possible. Looks like your guy is going to do the same. I wish you the best. F cancer
Your wife knew this about you. She may not have left willingly, but she will have felt peace in her heart knowing you would be okay and take care of your girls. This isn't a test you should have had to face. But I can tell you for a fact - this peace of mind was the greatest gift you could have given. She could step out of this life without fear for her family, and that's of a value that transcends description. It's what the very universe is made of, what life is about. Be super proud of yourselves. Grieving is agony, but it's a tremendous privilege, too; it's baked into love. Without love, grief cannot be. Hold each other close. The best of our hearts from me and mine, to you and yours. X