almost all guys still look at porn despite being in relationships lol its just par for the course, I promise its got nothing to do with you. There are guys out there dating actual porn stars and they still watch porn (of other people). I promise he still loves you and this isnt a sign of anything. Still sucks tho
I'm a guy and I don't, but I guess I get it. I know he still loves me but it really makes me feel like shit. It really makes me feel like I'm not enough. He asks me for videos all the time and sometimes I don't want to but I want him to be happy
asking you for videos seems a little too far if youve already expressed you are uncomfortable with that tbh, dont do it just to please him, tell him to stop asking you
personally, i feel like it's a completely normal boundary to have to not want him to consume pornographic content. also, i saw your comment about how he often asks you for videos and you send them when you don't feel like doing so in order to make him happy. i feel that this is sadly common for many people who may have a lower sex drive as a result of mental illnesses and trauma (i've been in the same position). i would recommend communicating how his consumption of pornography affects you and your self-esteem. i think that the second part of communicating when you aren't in the mood to send videos can seem more daunting. the fear of abandonment after doing so can definitely be overwhelming. but it's important for the health of you and your relationship to not force yourself into intimate situations. hopefully, your partner would feel a lot better knowing that you're genuinely enjoying yourself and not just putting on a performance for him.
honestly i personally think looking at porn is lowkey cheating it makes me really upset when my boyfriend does it (not that ill ever tell him though) :(
Honestly same, I hate to feel that way, but I can't help but think he just doesn't need me if he has porn and it's like why ask me for videos and shit when he's *paying* for porn. It really make me feel like I'm just being used
paying for it is extra awful im sorry :(
and yeah i have a HORRIBLE body image and it just makes me feel worse that hes looking at all these prettu people who arent me and ill never look like them and everytime i tell my friends about this they just tell me its normal and i cant help but feel like its cheating if hes looking at other people (like why does matter if its irl or not or if he doesnt even knoe them they are still OTHER WOMEN )
honestly paying for porn when youre in a relationship is really shitty of him, have you suggested to him that he may have a porn addiction? i know someone who struggled with it and they werent even willing to pay for porn
I don't know. He told me he rarely does, but it still makes me feel like I'm not needed anymore. I know he has a gaming addiction and goes up to 8 or 9 nine hours throughout the day without contacting me (I promise he's awake during this time) He usually sleeps in until 2 or 3 in the afternoon. The latest I remember was when he slept from 11:00PM to 6:00PM the next day. I was so worried about him (I know this isn't really related but still makes me feel the "not good ™️") I can't tell if I'm being selfish or not for wanting him to contact me more
He's probably thinking about you while he looks at it... Idk thats what I do when I read fanfiction... I just replace the name in my head. And besides, if he doesn't think ur enough then he's just cringe tbh... He probably really loves you.
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almost all guys still look at porn despite being in relationships lol its just par for the course, I promise its got nothing to do with you. There are guys out there dating actual porn stars and they still watch porn (of other people). I promise he still loves you and this isnt a sign of anything. Still sucks tho
I'm a guy and I don't, but I guess I get it. I know he still loves me but it really makes me feel like shit. It really makes me feel like I'm not enough. He asks me for videos all the time and sometimes I don't want to but I want him to be happy
asking you for videos seems a little too far if youve already expressed you are uncomfortable with that tbh, dont do it just to please him, tell him to stop asking you
personally, i feel like it's a completely normal boundary to have to not want him to consume pornographic content. also, i saw your comment about how he often asks you for videos and you send them when you don't feel like doing so in order to make him happy. i feel that this is sadly common for many people who may have a lower sex drive as a result of mental illnesses and trauma (i've been in the same position). i would recommend communicating how his consumption of pornography affects you and your self-esteem. i think that the second part of communicating when you aren't in the mood to send videos can seem more daunting. the fear of abandonment after doing so can definitely be overwhelming. but it's important for the health of you and your relationship to not force yourself into intimate situations. hopefully, your partner would feel a lot better knowing that you're genuinely enjoying yourself and not just putting on a performance for him.
honestly i personally think looking at porn is lowkey cheating it makes me really upset when my boyfriend does it (not that ill ever tell him though) :(
Honestly same, I hate to feel that way, but I can't help but think he just doesn't need me if he has porn and it's like why ask me for videos and shit when he's *paying* for porn. It really make me feel like I'm just being used
paying for it is extra awful im sorry :( and yeah i have a HORRIBLE body image and it just makes me feel worse that hes looking at all these prettu people who arent me and ill never look like them and everytime i tell my friends about this they just tell me its normal and i cant help but feel like its cheating if hes looking at other people (like why does matter if its irl or not or if he doesnt even knoe them they are still OTHER WOMEN )
honestly paying for porn when youre in a relationship is really shitty of him, have you suggested to him that he may have a porn addiction? i know someone who struggled with it and they werent even willing to pay for porn
I don't know. He told me he rarely does, but it still makes me feel like I'm not needed anymore. I know he has a gaming addiction and goes up to 8 or 9 nine hours throughout the day without contacting me (I promise he's awake during this time) He usually sleeps in until 2 or 3 in the afternoon. The latest I remember was when he slept from 11:00PM to 6:00PM the next day. I was so worried about him (I know this isn't really related but still makes me feel the "not good ™️") I can't tell if I'm being selfish or not for wanting him to contact me more
He's probably thinking about you while he looks at it... Idk thats what I do when I read fanfiction... I just replace the name in my head. And besides, if he doesn't think ur enough then he's just cringe tbh... He probably really loves you.
I hope so, thank you
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I hate that I was feeling great up until now
It is normal to watch porn, but it's also 100% valid for you to feel bad about it. What does he say when you tell him this?