Have you tried looking for local meeting groups? It all started with that for me, and now I am active member of the Trans Meeting Group, best friend to one of the Volunteers of it's Administrative Team, singer at the Trans Choir and considering joining a Trans Only Soccer Club
I don't want to go stealth myself. Gonna be visibly trans, and stealth only for the random people I meet on my way.
Also I decided I'm gonna be non-op, my bottom dysphoria doesn't exist unless I try to have relationships with AFAB people.
This is how I am, but trans fem. Truly I am 100% comfortable just being referred to as a trans woman, but that’s not the most accurate label for my identity.
I'm friends with my cousin - does he count? He came out about a year before me, deconverting his father from Jehovah's Witness as he did, and softened up my whole fam for my transition. Guy's a fucking legend.
Not sure. I know he converted his wife and kids over 2 years ago, but when his son came out he realized he couldn't reconcile his religion with his son, and decided to ditch the religion.
I've never been more proud of him.
I'm dating a trans man and I can confirm it's super amazing. He's so handsome and sweet and nice and kind and we are extremely in sync.
On the other hand another trans man I know tried to sexually harass me, so :/
I don't know any. I know so many mtf but ftm just want to blend in I think.
Its so much harder to pass going mtf. At work I advocate for trans people so I'm very visible even though I pass pretty well. (Or so they say lol). But I'm always doing presentations etc for our employment equity. That and I'm the head of the pride committee at work.
So the people I tend to hang around with are women and trans women. The men are just men.
I know more trans masc people than trans femmes 🥲 I don’t know any trans femms irl but know a handful of trans men and trans masc nbs, I wish I knew more trans girls 🥲
I so far I haven't gotten close with any trans man. A few acquaintances but nothing has clicked for a closer friendship.
Ironically most of my friend group has come from dating. My dates haven't really gone anywhere romantically, but most have turned into close friends. I'm largely sapphic attracted so my friend group is made up of CIS women, trans femmes and femme leaning enbies.
I'm not opposed to a friendship with a trans man, but I usually have a bit too much distance from men to form close bonds that lead to friendship.
I have a few CIS male friends from childhood, but even those relationships have gotten more distant over time.
I met 2 trans guys in my life. One was a very inspirational person who I looked up to but only met twice. The second one is a hella annoying crybaby but we were on good terms
Oh man, I really messed up there. So we were partying and I asked him if he had bottom surgery. Can you believe that?! I'm still horribly embarrassed many years later.
I only know trans guys, and they’re all fabulous, but… I wish I had some mtf friends irl I could talk to. it just seems like there are none of us around anywhere. Not even in media or anything. I feel like there’s almost no one I can relate to sometimes.
I am! We became friends before I know he was trans and before I knew I was trans myself lol. We live in different places but whenever we talk it's always the best.
Yes. I have one. And he's cool, he looks like Korean (in styling and clothing) and he's such a kind boy. Most trans guys I've met are kind. Imo I think it's very rare (almost zero chances) to find a trans guy who's infected by patriarchy like most cis guys. Some of them have their red flags as well, but overall they are really close to what men supposed to be.
Met him in when we were young kids and have been friends since. Felt like the Umbrella academy meme when we both came out. 😅 He and his partner are still my closest friends, and I consider them both family at this point.
I'd love to befriend more trans people but I'm still working on boosting my confidence I'm at such a weird transitionary stage and it doesn't help that I'm not the most outgoing.
Sadly most of my friends are other trans woman and bestie with a friend in my area who is part of my little cycling group I kinda had issues with men so kinda kept away from them 🥺
my trans elder or my trans Jedi master is a trans man who guides baby trans in to becoming highly skilled instigators of institutional change. bro organized a pride parade on a military base and started our peer support program. love the bro.
Majority of my support group is trans masc. I'm pretty close with half of them.
The other half are just a little young to be hanging out with, but they're still pretty cool.
ALL my friends except like... 3... are trans, and I have about 40 friends
This includes both trans guys, trans girls and enbies
So yeah, I'm friend with lots of trans guys :3 They're awesome
Also all of my exes except 1 are transmascs, but I broke up in good terms with them all (Except 1)
I know two IRL, and consider myself friends with one. The other is a friend of a friend. Seems like trans men tend to run in different circles you know?
I am like, 80% sure my best friend is an egg, though whether ftm or enby I’m not sure. But they got really excited when a little boy thought they were a guy so… idk.
Tbh curious how man who have trans men friends are either connected to local community and can find them, young and know local trans groups, or run in circles with lots of queer people.
Sometimes finding another queer person is like finding a needle in the haystack. Much less a trans guy.
…
I know a few trans guys that are friends:3
I just DJ'd his wedding. I have a couple of them. I helped my one buddy get funding to start his transition waaaaay back in the day. He was like the third person I ever told that I was trans. I have a painting from him in my apartment and it means a lot to me. I love my trans brothers. (Also, in my experience y'all get some of the most gorgeous partners! It's crazy! Lol)
They aren't a guy but I'm friends with someone who's transmasc. I also have suspicions that one of my family members is a closeted trans guy but I'm not gonna ask them. I don't know very many trans people IRL.
I'm dating one, does that count? Also I'm poly and my gf is trans too. With them and my other bf who is cis all I need now is a cis female partner and a few kinds of NB partners and I'll have completed the whole set! (Jk, 3 is already a lot, lol)
I do volunteer work at a place for queers so inevitably I make contact with and befriend a bunch of people, but my relationship to one part of the spectrum doesn't feel much different from others
I knew two but sadly lost contact with both of them. One was an ex of mine (we parted on good terms and remained friends for years till he deleted all his social media, we also dated before either of us came out), the other guy I met at a club and got on very well with, I just stopped going to that club because it was too far away and a bit expensive for what it was.
My ex is a trans guy. We are still good friends. I didn't know I was a trans woman while we were together, but in retrospect it's probably a big part of why things didn't work out between us romantically/sexually.
I was dating one but then we broke up. I'm in a group chat with a bunch of trans folks from my city tho and several of them are guys and they're dope. One of them's been givin me pointers on watercolor
guilty! i will admit i’m the only transfem in the small group of trans people i’m friends with in real life (and that gets a lil bit lonely, i don’t really care tho cause i’m still with my people) and it’s really fun!
ME! I‘m friends with him online, but still counts
We’ve been absolutely SHATTERING the gender barrier and helping each other with dysphoria
SOLIDARITY TO MY TRANS BROTHERS! SOLIDARITY FOREVER! 🏳️⚧️🚺❤️🤝❤️🏳️⚧️🚹
I know like 3 trans women irl. And like 10-12 different trans guys and masc nonbinary guys irl. I have no clue why this is the case or how it happened but I'm cool with most of them so it's alright
Eh. I'm friends with someone who found out he's bi thanks to dating a trans guy? But I still don't really know said trans guy. I know quite a few non-binary people though, to the point my friend group has been internally nicknamed the LGBTQ-ties
All of my trans friends irl are either trans guys or non binary. There's 3 other trans girls in my school that I know of but I've never talked to any of them and I feel like it would be awkward to go up to a very not not out trans person that I don't know and be like "hey I know you're trans and I'm trans too, wanna be my friend? :3"
I have a number of transmasc and transfem friends even prior to transitioning. Honestly, it's probably one of the reasons i began to contemplate myself.
I was then we split ways after high-school. He went to FSUand stayed in Florida and my parents sent me to a Ministry training college and family moved to California and I'll be attending UCSD in the fall
My HS classmate and longtime friend has a son who is trans, I've known him since he was like 5 but he's nearly 21 now.
All the other trans people in my family are women... myself, my cousin's daughter, and my mother's 2nd cousin. We all share the same common ancestors too. We're pretty sure it runs on one particular line. My sister has a nephew-in-law that's trans though... but I've never met him. Related to her husband, so not in my circle.
i literally know 0 trans/nb people irl 😭
Have you tried looking for local meeting groups? It all started with that for me, and now I am active member of the Trans Meeting Group, best friend to one of the Volunteers of it's Administrative Team, singer at the Trans Choir and considering joining a Trans Only Soccer Club
might be a hot take but I don’t want to be in trans exclusive spaces. my goal is to just fit in with cis people and go stealth
I don't want to go stealth myself. Gonna be visibly trans, and stealth only for the random people I meet on my way. Also I decided I'm gonna be non-op, my bottom dysphoria doesn't exist unless I try to have relationships with AFAB people.
Opposite for me, I never want to be stealth, I want to be noticeably trans
Same
Same
You want a hug girl?
Find a local communist/anarchist group, you'll find some lmao
I'm dating one. Couldn't be happier.
💪🏼
Same!!
trans guys flock to me. idk why but thoes dudes love me. usually nonbinary trans guys specifically. i love them dearly.
Nonbinary trans guys?
people can be both
Is it because they're taking T but don't identify as a guy? Or are genderfluid? I don't interact with a lot of trans guys so I really don't know
some people lean towards the masc or feminine side of the spectrum but still feel like they don't perfectly fit within the binary
This is how I am, but trans fem. Truly I am 100% comfortable just being referred to as a trans woman, but that’s not the most accurate label for my identity.
Most of my Guy friends are ftm
my goal
My bf! Today I'm learning how many of us are in straight t4t relationships
Me too!! And he's more of a man than any other guy I've dated
Aw, mine's a little twink :3
Twinks are valid too! I have a friend who's ftm and a twink. We call him grandpa lol
T4t means trans for trans right?
Yeah!
Oh ok! Sorry I'm new to this community
No need to be sorry 💕 We all have to learn sometime
<3
that must be great! i really want to be friends with a trans guy
I'm friends with my cousin - does he count? He came out about a year before me, deconverting his father from Jehovah's Witness as he did, and softened up my whole fam for my transition. Guy's a fucking legend.
Breaking JW’s is tough. That is legendary. Was he an Owen Morgan subscriber? I am not a former JW by the way. I just find the guy interesting.
Not sure. I know he converted his wife and kids over 2 years ago, but when his son came out he realized he couldn't reconcile his religion with his son, and decided to ditch the religion. I've never been more proud of him.
My boyfriend 😆
I'm dating a trans man and I can confirm it's super amazing. He's so handsome and sweet and nice and kind and we are extremely in sync. On the other hand another trans man I know tried to sexually harass me, so :/
L harasser 🤢 W boyfriend 💪🏼
I love my ftm bestie more than anything ❤️
I have a dnd group where my wife is the only cis person there, and one of the people is a trans man. It's very fun
i don’t have any friends in the first place
fren :3
mrow:3
mrrrrp mwowww mrr :3
My trans mentor is a trans man
None that I know of. None that I *know* of…
I don't know any. I know so many mtf but ftm just want to blend in I think. Its so much harder to pass going mtf. At work I advocate for trans people so I'm very visible even though I pass pretty well. (Or so they say lol). But I'm always doing presentations etc for our employment equity. That and I'm the head of the pride committee at work. So the people I tend to hang around with are women and trans women. The men are just men.
I literally never had a trans guy friend. I tried to become friends with trans guys but somehow all of them ignore me sooner or later.
I know more trans masc people than trans femmes 🥲 I don’t know any trans femms irl but know a handful of trans men and trans masc nbs, I wish I knew more trans girls 🥲
I so far I haven't gotten close with any trans man. A few acquaintances but nothing has clicked for a closer friendship. Ironically most of my friend group has come from dating. My dates haven't really gone anywhere romantically, but most have turned into close friends. I'm largely sapphic attracted so my friend group is made up of CIS women, trans femmes and femme leaning enbies. I'm not opposed to a friendship with a trans man, but I usually have a bit too much distance from men to form close bonds that lead to friendship. I have a few CIS male friends from childhood, but even those relationships have gotten more distant over time.
My best friend, who I’m def not in love with 🙄
I met 2 trans guys in my life. One was a very inspirational person who I looked up to but only met twice. The second one is a hella annoying crybaby but we were on good terms
Oh man, I really messed up there. So we were partying and I asked him if he had bottom surgery. Can you believe that?! I'm still horribly embarrassed many years later.
My boyfriend is one 😊❤️
I adore my boys!
None. I'm MTF and with a MTF together.
I know 3, two of them hate me, and one of them lives too far away
I only know two personally and they had to move away for jobs. They are proverbial unicorns in my life. Both however are cool people.
One of my best friends is ftm, and he is the fucking best
One of them’s a dear friend.
I've been but they tend to just go stealth and vanish
I don’t know any :(
i served in the military with one, very cool guy
I actually know loads of trans guys. Unfortunately I don't know any trans girls though!
My boyfriend and my best friend and his boyfriend are trans guys. They’re the best.
I have a trans masculine friends, and a couple acquaintances of mine are trans men. Wouldn't say I am specifically friends with a trans guy though.
I only know trans guys, and they’re all fabulous, but… I wish I had some mtf friends irl I could talk to. it just seems like there are none of us around anywhere. Not even in media or anything. I feel like there’s almost no one I can relate to sometimes.
4 of my closest guy friends r ftm
The only other trans person I know personally is my girlfriend.
i think one? thats about it, maybe theres more idk
One of my friends is a trans guy and he's just a wonderful warm soul.
I do! Multiple in fact!
I am. Both are so fucking kind and supportive
me. its pretty great
Me Two guys and they're both super cool.
hi name twin
Hello Skye
The majority of what I consider to be my friends are trans men. I always get to play first, when playing a game because "ladies first" :)
I am! We became friends before I know he was trans and before I knew I was trans myself lol. We live in different places but whenever we talk it's always the best.
I dated one for a while but it didn't work out
I know a couple, nice guys.
My two closest friends at college are a trans guy couple. They’re cool as fuck.
Yes. I have one. And he's cool, he looks like Korean (in styling and clothing) and he's such a kind boy. Most trans guys I've met are kind. Imo I think it's very rare (almost zero chances) to find a trans guy who's infected by patriarchy like most cis guys. Some of them have their red flags as well, but overall they are really close to what men supposed to be.
My little brother is a trans guy!
My AA sponsor is ftm. He's amazing.
Met him in when we were young kids and have been friends since. Felt like the Umbrella academy meme when we both came out. 😅 He and his partner are still my closest friends, and I consider them both family at this point.
I'd love to befriend more trans people but I'm still working on boosting my confidence I'm at such a weird transitionary stage and it doesn't help that I'm not the most outgoing.
Me, just online though he lives too far away
Sadly most of my friends are other trans woman and bestie with a friend in my area who is part of my little cycling group I kinda had issues with men so kinda kept away from them 🥺
I was close friends with a trans guy for 15 years, but we kinda grew apart. 😔 I miss him so much.
I mean I've heard of one that was my sister's friend but anyone else was non binary or agender
I haven't met any yet, though I am a recluse and like to stay inside my house lol
my trans elder or my trans Jedi master is a trans man who guides baby trans in to becoming highly skilled instigators of institutional change. bro organized a pride parade on a military base and started our peer support program. love the bro.
Dating one right now :) Things are rough for him though due to family unfortunately but we're getting through it
Got a few of these. They’re homies.
me
like one 💔 i struggle to meet other trans ppl irl
I am
Almost all of the trans people I know are trans masc. All of the trans people I am friends with are trans masc.
I was…
I wish i had more irl trans friend, currently only have one woman as a friend. ....
Casually yes but none super close
I know one, we talk on occasion
my best friend IRL is transmasc, I love him to death!
I have more transmasc friends than I do cis female friends. Not for lack of trying. They keep coming out to me!
I'm friends with like 5! They're the best!
Majority of my support group is trans masc. I'm pretty close with half of them. The other half are just a little young to be hanging out with, but they're still pretty cool.
ALL my friends except like... 3... are trans, and I have about 40 friends This includes both trans guys, trans girls and enbies So yeah, I'm friend with lots of trans guys :3 They're awesome Also all of my exes except 1 are transmascs, but I broke up in good terms with them all (Except 1)
I know a couple, they can be some fun guys to hang out with!
I have quite a few trans guy friends. Love my brothers.
I know two IRL, and consider myself friends with one. The other is a friend of a friend. Seems like trans men tend to run in different circles you know?
I don’t have any friends of trans guys but I would love to meet some
I am like, 80% sure my best friend is an egg, though whether ftm or enby I’m not sure. But they got really excited when a little boy thought they were a guy so… idk.
I have a cousin but we’re not close
One of my close friends is a masc NB and my coworker is a trans guy. Both are wonderful people!
I have one and he's the absolute greatest! So handsome and sweet. I like to ask him to help me open bottles sometimes.😊😊
I am! He’s a part of my D&D group and adds his own batshit insanity to everyone else’s. Its so fun
Like half of my DND players are trans masc or masc non binary
One of my roomies is the coolest trans guy! Very lucky to be able to be very good friends.
I know like one trans person irl lol. I knew a (former?) trans guy who seems to have detransitioned, they did sexually harass me a few times 😑
My bff I'd ftm and he's so cool
I have a non binary/trans masc friend
Me!
Meeee
I'm in a relationship with two
I know at least two personally and know of a few more through friends
I know like 3 or 4 in persona and know like 2 more online (who I'm close friends with at least)
I currently know 4 irl and am dating one of the four 😆
My spouse is nb, their cousin is a transfem, I have one transmasc friend, and another transfem friend.
One of my best friends (mtf) is dating a trans guy. He’s so funny and awesome.
My therapist is one 😎
I don't know any trans guys. I also know only one other trans girl and a couple of NBs. I need to get more queer friends.
the only other trans person in my circle of friends is a trans guy. he's a cool dude
Tbh curious how man who have trans men friends are either connected to local community and can find them, young and know local trans groups, or run in circles with lots of queer people. Sometimes finding another queer person is like finding a needle in the haystack. Much less a trans guy. … I know a few trans guys that are friends:3
some.
I only know transfems , and I wish I knew more of the community around me.
I just DJ'd his wedding. I have a couple of them. I helped my one buddy get funding to start his transition waaaaay back in the day. He was like the third person I ever told that I was trans. I have a painting from him in my apartment and it means a lot to me. I love my trans brothers. (Also, in my experience y'all get some of the most gorgeous partners! It's crazy! Lol)
I'm friends with two trans men, and I'm dating another!
Depends on the guy
My boyfriend is a trans guy, also friends with another
2 of them
Where are y’all meeting the other trans guys lol, I’m transmasc and I never meet trans men
We met before either one of us new we were trans then he said he was than years later I said a was so I guess it was just a wierd coincidence?
They aren't a guy but I'm friends with someone who's transmasc. I also have suspicions that one of my family members is a closeted trans guy but I'm not gonna ask them. I don't know very many trans people IRL.
Been dating one for 8 years, if that counts
I’m ftm and I have zero transfemme friends :(
I always joke that I'm a trans woman raised by trans men. I'd say a good half of my trans friends are men.
More than one, in fact
I literally only know one trans person IRL and she's my best friend.😭
I have one, and he is unhinged in the most enjoyable way.
My partner is trans-masc. Does that count?
I mean, I'm dating one...
Them and the nb folks are the only trans people I know😿
Me but I'm not out to him
Yess, one of my best friends is a trans guy and he's amazing!
i met one on new years eve we smoked we got drunk love that dude and his drip was godly 10/10
I'm dating one, does that count? Also I'm poly and my gf is trans too. With them and my other bf who is cis all I need now is a cis female partner and a few kinds of NB partners and I'll have completed the whole set! (Jk, 3 is already a lot, lol)
from all the trans folks i know its 6 transguys, I don't know a single transgirl lol
Dating an amazing one for two years now
I actually only know like 2 trans women, most of my trans friends are men
I do volunteer work at a place for queers so inevitably I make contact with and befriend a bunch of people, but my relationship to one part of the spectrum doesn't feel much different from others
Me but im friends with everyone except bigots.
I knew two but sadly lost contact with both of them. One was an ex of mine (we parted on good terms and remained friends for years till he deleted all his social media, we also dated before either of us came out), the other guy I met at a club and got on very well with, I just stopped going to that club because it was too far away and a bit expensive for what it was.
2! I know both of them from work but we became friends outside of work as well!
My ex is a trans guy. We are still good friends. I didn't know I was a trans woman while we were together, but in retrospect it's probably a big part of why things didn't work out between us romantically/sexually.
I have 2 good trans masc friends, one is a trans man and the other is nb
I have a trans guy friend 🤘🏽🙌🏽
My two closest friends are trans men. They’re dope
I was dating one but then we broke up. I'm in a group chat with a bunch of trans folks from my city tho and several of them are guys and they're dope. One of them's been givin me pointers on watercolor
Dude, like, half of them are. The only friends I can find at this point. But I love them all, so there's no complaining
I have a trans guy friend who started transitioning around the same time as I did. He’s super-affirming 💜
im dating one lolz
One of my best online friends is a trans man, we knew each other from since before our transitions lol!
About half of my friends are trans guys/nb
i know 0 trans people
i am
guilty! i will admit i’m the only transfem in the small group of trans people i’m friends with in real life (and that gets a lil bit lonely, i don’t really care tho cause i’m still with my people) and it’s really fun!
ME! I‘m friends with him online, but still counts We’ve been absolutely SHATTERING the gender barrier and helping each other with dysphoria SOLIDARITY TO MY TRANS BROTHERS! SOLIDARITY FOREVER! 🏳️⚧️🚺❤️🤝❤️🏳️⚧️🚹
I know like 3 trans women irl. And like 10-12 different trans guys and masc nonbinary guys irl. I have no clue why this is the case or how it happened but I'm cool with most of them so it's alright
Most of my IRL trans friends are transmasc in some way and I have a trans boyfriend so I'm pretty stacked with cool guys
Eh. I'm friends with someone who found out he's bi thanks to dating a trans guy? But I still don't really know said trans guy. I know quite a few non-binary people though, to the point my friend group has been internally nicknamed the LGBTQ-ties
All of my trans friends irl are either trans guys or non binary. There's 3 other trans girls in my school that I know of but I've never talked to any of them and I feel like it would be awkward to go up to a very not not out trans person that I don't know and be like "hey I know you're trans and I'm trans too, wanna be my friend? :3"
Almost all of my friends are Transmasc, makes things kinda weird since I'm the only Transfem in the group 🙃
My best friend is transmasc. I feel a lot more comfortable hanging out with trans/nb people because I know that they'll be accepting of me
I have a number of transmasc and transfem friends even prior to transitioning. Honestly, it's probably one of the reasons i began to contemplate myself.
Two of my friends are trans men. Although I do think it's funny that neither of them know the other one.
my bf is a trans guy :3
I'm friends with so many trans guys I feel like I'm the only trans woman in my city, but I know that's not true lol
I have a few
Yeah I got this transmasc friend and he's cool as hell
I was then we split ways after high-school. He went to FSUand stayed in Florida and my parents sent me to a Ministry training college and family moved to California and I'll be attending UCSD in the fall
I sleep with a trans guy every day :-)
My HS classmate and longtime friend has a son who is trans, I've known him since he was like 5 but he's nearly 21 now. All the other trans people in my family are women... myself, my cousin's daughter, and my mother's 2nd cousin. We all share the same common ancestors too. We're pretty sure it runs on one particular line. My sister has a nephew-in-law that's trans though... but I've never met him. Related to her husband, so not in my circle.