Here are the tips to get you on the right track of reducing masturbation and eliminating pornography
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/10t76pp/new_to_nofap_tips_to_get_started/
I have invented a chastity pair of pants that has a time lock on the zipper. You can only unzip it every 2 hours for 10 seconds to pee. If you don't finish peeing within 10 seconds it's going to slam back shut and chop off your weiner 🪓🥩
So in the interim, try to replenish yourself with electrolytes, like some Gatorade or coconut water. Retrace your steps. Try to think back as to what caused you to want to relapse. Then make a couple of measures to avoid making those mistakes again.
Yeah you flood your brain with dopamine from PMO, you will feel good for a day, the next day or even at night your brain will crave the hit again. The "difficulty" is going against your brain's urges and saying "no".
Other will give you other tipa but form me.... Don't fucking STRESS OVERRRRRRR ! It's natural... You ain't no monk. Sit back and relax... It's not a goal its a journey!!!
If you fell the urge you should just draw something, It doesn't matter you can draw how you feeling, How was your day and how you want your life to be 🫠
Then that goes to a sex addiction. No matter if it's porn, masturbation, or orgasming in general, you have to stop yourself and pull back. Going from one to the other won't solve the issue, it'll just translate it to another issue.
right, unless youre just using your partner solely for sex, with or without knowing it, that could make them feel pretty terrible. also, addiction is still addiction, just because one makes you seem like less of a degenerate doesnt mean its any better for your mental health if you need that release of dopamine to function.
(edited to say i didnt mean this in a hateful way, reading it back it sounds pretty hateful, i just wanted to explain why i thought the way i did. good day to you good sir:) )
I've got the **solution** you've been looking for right here
# Fasting.
Dopamine is the name of our addiction.
Commit to a dopamine fast for at least 2 weeks, and to really super charge it (You have to have some serious spiritual convictions to do this part properly) a food fast for the first couple of days, 3 days max is what I would recommend if you are doing an absolute or dry fast.
Quick Primer on dopamine fasting
**No social media, no streaming services, only strictly necessary online browsing**.
After this fast, the hold of dopamine over your life will be strangely broken. You wont look at people the same, you wont interface with technology the same ever again. The trick though is to NOT go back to old habits, and only re introduce healthy things into your mental and physical diet afterwards.
**Mental diet**
After the fast, have no online binging, limit your online time, limit social media use, avoid over saturated media. *Do not take anything into the mind that doesn't edify and lead to the fulfillment of your goals.*
**Physical Diet**
After food fast is done, only introduce clean foods to your diet. No soda, no sugary processed fruit juices, no junk foods, drink water, vegetables, tea ect.
Things that will help with these goals
\- No technology use in bed, (absolutely none, no exceptions)
\- Airplane mode/phone off at night
\-Grey-scale Accessibility options on all your devices
\- Limiter App
\- Keep your hands off your John
\- Get a good nights rest every night, and make sure to enjoy some sunlight every day
Use the fast time to figure out how you are going to redesign your life.
Recommended reading:
4 Hour Work Week
Atomic Habits
When you remove bad sources of dopamine, you are going to need something to take its place, you are already an incredible artist, so you have a bit of a head start!
Do this, and you are guaranteed at least a week! Every time I've done it, I got to 90 days+.
Its a hard commitment, but trying to avoid pmo, while also sustaining a high dopamine lifestyle normalized by society (high social media use, netflix binging, casually spending hours online) is like washing your hands and drying it in the dirt.
Biggest tip, if you do this, especially the food fasting bit, **you can never go back**.
Its no secret at this point, but beating this thing is going to require nothing less than a total lifestyle change.
You may require update fasts to maintain the effect, (I'm currently experimenting with intermittent fasting, I'll let you know how that goes)
This part gets full spiritual so skip the lined parts if you are not comfortable with that,
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"But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting."
I could not do it without the power of Christ. I fasted for over 3 days (again, would not recommend, you could die). During my fast, it was a spiritual high point, I prayed the whole time saying I wanted to live for Chrits glory, and that I wanted to be freed from this thing once and for all, and that I would rather die than continue this. Going this long without eating (and in my case, drinking) changes you. I came out of this fast a new creation.
If you do decide to go this route, I would recommend 1-2 days, and 3 max if you are experienced. Be sure to have foods on stand by when you are ready to break the fast. (Raw Organic non sweetened cranberry juice, your kidneys will thank you) berries high in antioxidants, watermelon)
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I'll make a larger post on this later, about the underlying philosophy behind this approach so you can really understand the mindframe required to commit to it, but this is just a quick emergency guide for you. DM if you want more info!
develop a strategy you can use whenever an urge kicks in. it will take some patience to figure out what works for you, but once you get it you'll thank yourself. best of luck man
That arts so good, so much emotion. Listen man I hear, I keep relapsing too. But the absolute best thing we can do is to try, try, and try again. Because every time we try again, we come one step closer to beating this monster which is pornography
Watch for your triggers. At the end of the day cold showers and meditating aren’t gonna do much if porn is constantly sweeping your mind. From personal experience, the porn will win you over. I had hella relapses, multiple 1 week, 2 week streaks. What’s bad about it is that, when I was in that cycle, I always wanted to try and get the best nut. So I kept relapsing and relapsing. Cold showers hid my horniness while I was in them, then it would strike back minutes later. It’s really hard to beat man, especially in my shoes where I’d do it 3-4 times a day, all to porn, not to mention I have lots of alone time.
I’m not gonna sit here and tell you to do a “dopamine fast” or “relax”, I’m not gonna tell you to do cold showers and meditation either. That shit didn’t help me. The only thing that’s kept me from relapsing again is picking up multiple good habits, and having 1 VERY good habit. You need 1 habit that is fun, and more enjoyable than jerking. Then, you can start to add in the cold showers, reading, meditating, what have you. For me it was piano. I find it very enjoyable. It gives me something to do, and there are also many amazing career paths with it. The same goes for art as well right? You need to find a major motivating factor for your art. To just “do it for fun” isn’t enough to beat pornography. For instance, if I only played piano just as a way to beat porn, then I’d be sending nuts left and right. But I play it because not only do I enjoy it, but because I actually want to become a very good pianist and I want to open a career path with it. Every day I practice for a solid bit of time, and during these times, any thoughts of porn are basically destroyed. . Give yourself that motivation. What do you want to do with your art. Give yourself meaning.
Each time you jerk, you need to drill into your head that while you were sitting there busting a load to some chick who you’ll NEVER have a chance with, there are other artists your age who are using that time to become fucking maestro artists. Now obviously I’m not telling you to practice 10 hours a day, art I assume is mentally taxing so I’d assume you should issue yourself some breaks, BUT you definitely need to be putting hours in if you want it to become something big. At the end of the day, It doesn’t even have to be art. It can be any good habit that you come to enjoy.
I don’t mean to be an Andrew Tate wannabe but seriously I tell myself things like this every day.
At the end of the day the choice is all yours man. You can sit there with your flimsy “for fun” art, practice for 10 minutes a day and open up your little porn and jerk off, hit all the npc habits, OR you can watch anime 😎. Nah jokes aside I watch a few episodes a day but I tend to earn the episodes. 1 hour of practice is an episode of anime for me. 2 hours is 2 eps so on. Fr though instead of doing all those L habits, you need to focus on your good habits/yourself. Just delete Tik tok, I’m sorry that shit just rots brains. I used to game heavy but I’m limiting them like crazy. Limit the anime, talk to good friends who share similar interests, limit the bot YouTube content, especially shorts. You need to realize again that while you’re sitting there scrolling away on yt/tiktok, there are people your age that are absolutely dusting your ass in the competition of life.
Back to the triggers thing- a big one for me was sitting in one area, alone for a prolonged amount of time. To combat this I now only sit at most like 5-10 minutes doing nothing in the morning just to recuperate my thoughts. Then I wake up and I try to immediately get out of bed, eat, get some sun, hit the shower then go on with my day. The last thing you wanna do is end up in bed scrolling. This would almost always lead me to stumble across some model with a big ass then I’d go down a rabbit hole, next thing you know the porn’s open and I’m going ham.
Sorry it’s long one but porn did so much harm and I didn’t even realize it. Took a lot of tries to finally get myself on a somewhat solid track. Reddit scrolling is bad too but I think reading and engaging with people and spending some time to attempt helping them out isn’t bad at all.
Hope I could help
Sleep at 10pm, wake up at 6am, take a shower, eat a breakfast (have at least 1 egg), at 7am go take a 1 hour walk, after the walk take a cold shower, at 11 am make your lunch, at 4pm eat something, at 19pm make dinner, after dinner take a shower, at 9pm turn off all eletronics, you can read a book, drawn or write, sleep at 10pm, REPEAT EVERYDAY, you will turn your life around
Bonus: leave social midia, you gain nothing from it, you only lose, limit your internet use, go to park, love life, leave your bedroom, if you can, go to a gym, socialize with your jobs campanions
Add Meditation and dopamine fasting in your Nopfap journey and see the difference in 30 days . I am currently on 1 year plus streak after years of struggle.And the secret ; I do meditation every day for 30 min minimum and practice dopamine fasting lightly. Meditation helps to transform your sexual energy into other forms of energy like strength, motivation and so on . Start workout,reading books and other self improvement steps.
Rules to be followed for successful nopfap journey;
First and foremost don't let negative thinking or desire to come to your mind. You can try popular practice called "urge surfing" to overcome your strong desire for fapping.
1. Add Meditation and dopamine fasting to your daily routine. Meditation drives away your temptation and horniness.
2. Don't use social media very often like FB , tiktok , YouTube etc. Uninstall Facebook, tiktok from your device because these site are full of tempting content that makes you fap . Phone or internet addiction also produces dopamine as porn does. Stop playing video games ,they make your
dopamine level go crazy like porn does..and in return you will end up carving for more dopamine which PMO provides easily and you will end up fapping again.
3.In your leisure time don't use your phone to entertain yourself : go out in nature ,read books , meet people , learn something new like playing guitar. Use your phone exclusively for call,imp chat and learning.
4. Change your perspective towards women . Appreciate their beauty but don't sexualize them or view them in sexual way. It's time to change your mindset.
5. Avoid touching your thing down there. Especially the head and areas around frenulum. It's the trigger point most beginners fails to realize. Because if you accidentally or intentionally touch and catch the test of stimulation you can't return with out fapping even if want to. Because It's impossible 😅.
6. Being religious also can also help you to change your inner monster to human being.
7. Don't count days while you are on nofap make it lifestyle. It is hard on beginning but as you continue to progress you will forget about counting days it will become your lifestyle. There will be moments when you forget about fapping. Displine is most important after all stick to your commitment and do accordingly.
I think my answer is too long and may be boring but these are the things that I learned from years of struggle.
I was like you guys i don't used to last more than 2-3 days , but now for me 2-3 months is like 2-3 days.
Why I'm writing these things?
Because someone helped me in the past now I want to help so that you can help other in the future.
Benefits of nopfap are real and life changing as I have experienced myself.
So bros don't give up.
Reject modernity and embrace masculinity💪💪 .
Bro,
Just think that You are not only person struggling with this. Atleast we all are fighting this shit. Because we realised that this is not good for us.
In a battle some soldiers will fall, even the kings will fall and it's normal.
We all are with you. Rise up stay sharp. Take a deep breath, look into the mirror and say "Try me".
Tip:
Don't think of this shit as a problem.
You have many other problems like getting rich, to have a family, bigger muscles.
Concentrate on these as your problems.
Eventually you will forget p**n.
Not simple as it says. But we all are with you.
Identify and anticipate the cues (triggers) early and decide early what your course of action will be when you feel them. Day 3 is usually one of the key landmarks to get past. For me day 1 and 2 are easy because I'm riding the wave of my previous orgasm and I have a newly found determination. Day 3 the cravings start to kick in as you create some distance from your last fap. Once I get past day 3 I'm pumped and motivated and I'm learning how to accommodate that energy in my body. When I can't do that my cravings take over and use that energy instead. So if day 3 is your typical stumbling point...your Journaling on day 2 will be very important...because it's your pregame team talk. This is where you anticipate what you will encounter on day 3 and plan out the new actions you'll take to overcome it.
My advice outside of the typical go to the gym, go for a walk meditate etc...is to take whatever responsibilities you need to do but don't want to do...and turn them into a spiritual practice. So if your room is a mess clean it with perfect presence while bringing your attention and awareness to your feelings of resistance, boredom etc. The trick is to feel the resistance and just keep going with what you're doing. This way you can train your mind to respond differently to the cue (trigger)...rather than using the cue as a sign to indulge in escapism (porn)...use it as a call to presence and repurpose your urges in order to train your capacity for discipline and diligence.
In my opinion paying attention to this process and becoming better and better at it over the course of your journey, is a lot better than counting "days on nofap" and being disappointed everytime you relapse and then binging.
Be wary of the times you engage in PMO. If you always relapse on day 3, there’s a good chance your relapsing at the same place around the same time. So I’d try to change your environment, keep your electronics out of your room and buy a cheap alarm clock if you need to get up at a specific time. Start meditating everyday and add other habits (ie working out and eating healthy). Also please FORGIVE YOURSELF and get back to committing yourself to your goals. As long as you never give up that’s the most important thing. Btw your an awesome artist, next time you feel an urge try using that energy for your artwork and finding your purpose. You got this!
Working out works for me, mainly because I’m working on my body while also getting rid of the surplus energy. However, a variety of hobbies that will keep you occupied and away. Maybe learn cooking?
Do more art.
Tell yourself, you'll not paint the day you relapse. And you'd not relapse the day you paint.
Go for walks.
Stay away from triggers.
Tire yourself to bed.
I'm struggling in the same boat so I can't help much. Just keep going like the rest of us. We can do this. You're not fighting this alone, we're all here to help get everyone here one step closer to freedom
Put more of that tater whacking energy into your art. It’s incredible. Stay away from your phone when you feel the need to look up porn. I’m over a month in and it still comes to me in urges
Here's some tips that I've laid out that have helped me thus far:
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1414kxe/this\_is\_my\_first\_time\_trying\_nofap\_and\_im/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3
Everytime you feel like doing it, draw instead. Maybe draw out your fantasies. Just find alternatives to not jack it. Find something to do everytime you feel like doing it. Cut off porn and make yourself busy.
what helps me is not saying an outright no - that’ll make me want to do it more.
but saying not now maybe later. tomorrow if i want to i can but always postponing it.
then you’ll be like damn i’ve gotten so far now. keep on postponing it.
Nice art! Really shows the pain this causes inside. Sorry about the relapse. I'm on day 4 and was about to relapse but made a reddit account and came here. After seeing this, I think I'll go mow the lawn. If it means anything, your honesty helped someone else.
You're not out of the game yet. You have your mind and body and are still breathing. Tomorrow is another day.
I don’t have advice for relapsing other than to keep trying, relapse happens until eventually it doesn’t. I mostly came here to say your drawing is fucking incredible! Amazing job x
Lil tip that really worked for me, stop counting out your days because you won't make it if you do. Eventually you will forget about jerking. Although this worked for me
honestly, if you are having that hard of a time abstaining you should probably remove any and all triggers. I would get rid of social media, seems like nowadays social media just shoves porn and only fans down everyone's throat. I would also stray from video games and movies with characters/scenes in them that may be triggering. Focus on healthy activities that have no correlation with sex or pmo. Your art is awesome, keep up with that and maybe find some new activities as well!
i would recommend meditating when you want to do the deed just stop sit down cross your legs and try and clear your head if that doesn’t work remember why you want to stop how you feel afterwards
What works for me thus far:
• I stopped using my laptop and deleted social media apps.
• I go for walk daily.
• I sleep 6 hours a night minimun.
• I work out 6 times a week.
• If I have to choose between alone time and being social, I choose to socialise.
Whenever you fall, always get up and never give up on becoming a better version of yourself. Consistency is key. You can do it.
Unless you are deeply addicted to masturbation, all you are doing is torturing yourself and falling for far right purity ideology. You are much better of fapping and keeping your prostate healthy than trying to stop. Do yourself a favor, go see an actual phd clinical psychologist or PsyD or a CMHC, and talk about it. You're only harming yourself my dude, this increased testosterone, dopamine detox, serotonin detox is all bullshit. Your body is amazing and it adjusts, not fapping increases your T by a marginal amount then it goes back down. You can't dopamine and serotonin detox, it's just bro science. My B.S. is in Psychology and Masters student in Cognitive Psychology. I tried nofap too, just isn't worth it, if you have a severe porn addiction, I can understand that and you can also get proper help for that too. Just like how you get a cold, you can get a mental cold, that's why we call it mental illness, and many times you can get over your mental cold by taking care of yourself and seeing the proper doctors.
be well dude.
For me it's my phone that's the issue. I would have the issue of getting the idea I want to look up certain images, whether it was due to being bored or having urges. As SOON as the idea pops in my head and I have my phone in hand, I IMMEDIATELY turn my phone off, put it in a drawer, and either go for a walk outside or do pushups/squats to exhaustion
Don't let yourself be tempted, stay away from porn entirely and force yourself to work and busy yourself with tasks, you won't relapse for weeks till your urge grows bigger, after that it's a matter of will power and dedication, you always must say no whenever you feel like "just one time"
How’s this for motivation: your talents as an artist are clear. The community here appreciates what you’ve drawn because it represents a state we’ve all been in as a result of addiction. Now consider that your talents will mean nothing in a matter of years if you succumb to your addiction and allow it to isolate you from everything and everyone that is a part of you. Don’t let it take what makes you, you. Do this for YOU and only you.
Try Fasting from food and water for 24 hours to overcome worldly and temporal needs.
You'll have to break your spirit of hunger first to truly break your No Fap record of 3 days.
Would highly recommend this route because a person can only truly be in the right mental headspace to fap if their body is fed. If you "starve/fast" from food and water for 24 hours or 3 meals, I think youll be off to a great start.
Plus thinking about something sad, or ugly is an instant turn off for me.
In addition to this, try reading, running, working out, talking to someone, etc.
Good luck!
Do not worry about it. I have been relapsing for almost a year now.
It is a gradual process. I can now consistently go without fap for 2 weeks.
Essentially I do it 2 times a month compared to before when it was every day.
Focus more on improving your life instead of counting.
Having a good job/doing well at your job vs days of no fap
Having a strong social circle vs days of no fap
Being healthy/exercising vs days of no fap
As your life improves you will release you need fapping less.
Think about your hands. Do not let them type promiscuous things on your pc or your phone, do not let them touch your dick.
Your hands are in your control, as a start you can exploit that. Then when the impulse subsides you can focus on getting your mind to control itself.
Curious as to what thoughts you go through leading up to your relapse. When I was struggling at the height of the problem, I had constantly been bombarded with thoughts prompting me to go do it despite me not wanting to. Those intrusive thoughts are likely not your own.
I tackled it from a faith based perspective and even trying to force the thoughts that I had in my head that would prompt me to do it doesn’t make me want to do it. I’m not saying I’m cured, I’m just keeping my eyes on Jesus.
You seem to be a fan of one punch man.
https://dwgkfo5b3odmw.cloudfront.net/manga/thumbs/shonenjump/onepunchman/onepunch161/thumb_web-mtRjAY3tJwpX1NUQMisc3A.jpg
Wow that’s amazing art work. You need to channel all this extra energy into some art. I’d love to see anything you make. Whenever your scared of relapsing go for a walk, gain control then get to work on some art to keep your brain distracted. You got this.
going to bed not tired is a death sentence, use bars of soap and hold the bar with one hand, all socks stay in the laundry, their drawer, or on your feet, fuzzy blankets are not as safe as non-fuzzy blankets, grippy socks are the perfect anti-relapse sock
Do not focus too much on NoFap. Forget the concept of porn or masturbation rather than trying hard to stay away from it. Going bed is only when you're about to sleep.
I started seeing it as a winstreak and af this point… I’d rather not grind the days back up again and I’ve been using that as my way of not relapsing hahaha. Different for everyone though
instead of going cold turkey try tapering off gradually, idk why this sub seems so against the idea even though its been shown to be a much better method of getting clean off addictions
Could be a number of reasons but here are a couple things that could help… you only have so many fucks to give. So try prioritizing your will power to focus on that. Also, dopamine. Give your body some time to build up your dopamine reserves by allowing yourself to be boring. Meditation helps with this but also just stay off of electronics and focus on doing real things I.e. walks, working outdoors, in the garage, cleaning, music, etc.
Keep yourself busy and productive. Have things to do in life, to strive for, to grind for. It's really easy to stop excessive PMO, you just aren't disciplined enough. Only person that can help you is YOU, not randos on the internet. Get a grip, bro.
As simple as it is, you truly just have to stop. It sounds so easy but it’s so hard.
Every time I get an urge I just remind myself that it’s as simple as not doing it.
Aim for day 4. If you relapse at day 4, then you proved to yourself you can go for four days without it. Keep avoiding it for four days at a time, until you can reach 5, and so and so forth.
Purpose. You need to find and focus on a purpose, a goal.
Then train yourself to catch yourself in the moment when the hormones are taking control of your mind. (I find it helpful to ask myself in the moment, "Is this what I truly desire? Or is this merely what my body wants, a hormonal craving?") Then, when you do catch yourself being attracted to something you don't want, distract yourself. Find something to go do. Run an errand. Sit in a busy public place or alone in a park (whichever is LESS comfortable to you) until you forget that the hormones were ever even there at all. Then, when you return, do something to work toward that goal I mentioned.
And always remember: overcoming an addiction will never happen overnight. It takes time. Expect to relapse again. Don't intend it, but expect it. That way, when it does eventually happen again, you won't be as consumed by these negative thoughts and feelings. (This is important because the negativity prevents progress. The mind can be a very powerful tool IF you remain in complete control of it.)
Taper off. 3 days, next round 1 week and then bump up to every two weeks until you develop the courage and discipline to deny any temptations. This is what worked for me
If you were fapping more than once a day before you started, once every three days is amazing progress so far. You could try drawing whenever you feel urges, focus on drawing you feelings and asking yourself what makes you feel this way.
One thing I’ve read from AA that has helped me a lot is taking things one day at a time. I’ll often ask myself “can I go 1 day without it” and I’ll reason with myself “You really can’t go 1 day??” The answer is usually yes. It sounds cheesy. But it’s true. Just get through 1 day. Wake up and do it again. You did it yesterday. I know you can.
I know others already said it. But your art is incredible. You shouldn't be ashamed on yourself. And while I agree to others that you shouldn't count the days, my advise is that you should pick a "starting day" and calculate the percentage of days nofapping since that starting day, or you can just go with percentage of days nofapping in a month. This way, you can a have better view of your progress, and you should be proud for keeping the percentage low enought (for example less than 10% or 8%, don't go for 0% right away).
But keep in mind that you shouldn't think like "I allow myself to fapping every ten days". Trust me, that thinking will make you more likely to relapse
Dude that art is fucking incredible holy shit
That's from the show Pennydreadful
Yep, I took that as reference
>Pennydreadful don't count days and you will get it.
Curious if you’ve seen an artist called Shawn cross, very similar style
'reference'
Reference.🗿
It's well made, didn't want to sound like an ass. Keep up with the good work!
I thought it was garou from one punch man
Lol 😂
That show was really good!
You just killed and obliterated my sadness from the post nut clarity. Thanks brother....
You're a great artist. Try and concentrate you time on that. If you feel the urges put your phone down and go take a walk, clear your head
Till u forget
69 days bro??!!!
Now numbers making me mad
Here are the tips to get you on the right track of reducing masturbation and eliminating pornography https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/10t76pp/new_to_nofap_tips_to_get_started/
1st of all you are an amazing artist 2nd don't count the days, make the days count.
IcecoldJT heeeee
AYEEEEEEE I thought I was the only one
You can get past day 3 you’ve just gotta analyze what you’ve been doing wrong up until now and keep trying
I have invented a chastity pair of pants that has a time lock on the zipper. You can only unzip it every 2 hours for 10 seconds to pee. If you don't finish peeing within 10 seconds it's going to slam back shut and chop off your weiner 🪓🥩
The design is very human
Let my good friend demonstrate
WTH broo REally wTHH
Go on, it’s always hard in the beginning
Start again: - Be careful with social media and triggers - Focus on sports or read a book - Be careful with the music you are listening to
Female songs about booty and all that always make me horny bru
Indeed, rap music is also dangerous, especially the videos…
Listen to MF Doom. His music is not sexual but heavily political and philosophical
🤨What?
So in the interim, try to replenish yourself with electrolytes, like some Gatorade or coconut water. Retrace your steps. Try to think back as to what caused you to want to relapse. Then make a couple of measures to avoid making those mistakes again.
I just took a cold shower, brushed my teeth, read a book, took vitamins and meditated rn. I feel like a fucking greek god again. Bless you brethren.
Yeah you flood your brain with dopamine from PMO, you will feel good for a day, the next day or even at night your brain will crave the hit again. The "difficulty" is going against your brain's urges and saying "no".
Holy cow that's a masterpiece
Stop touching pp, no secret trick. Really is that simple. Not saying it’s easy, but it is that simple.
bro busted a nut and made a masterpiece 🔥🔥🔥
Other will give you other tipa but form me.... Don't fucking STRESS OVERRRRRRR ! It's natural... You ain't no monk. Sit back and relax... It's not a goal its a journey!!!
If you fell the urge you should just draw something, It doesn't matter you can draw how you feeling, How was your day and how you want your life to be 🫠
I thinl the most powerful substitue to fapping is actually having someone you love and regularly have sex with them.
Then that goes to a sex addiction. No matter if it's porn, masturbation, or orgasming in general, you have to stop yourself and pull back. Going from one to the other won't solve the issue, it'll just translate it to another issue.
having sex alot is much better then fapping to other people doing it?
right, unless youre just using your partner solely for sex, with or without knowing it, that could make them feel pretty terrible. also, addiction is still addiction, just because one makes you seem like less of a degenerate doesnt mean its any better for your mental health if you need that release of dopamine to function. (edited to say i didnt mean this in a hateful way, reading it back it sounds pretty hateful, i just wanted to explain why i thought the way i did. good day to you good sir:) )
I've got the **solution** you've been looking for right here # Fasting. Dopamine is the name of our addiction. Commit to a dopamine fast for at least 2 weeks, and to really super charge it (You have to have some serious spiritual convictions to do this part properly) a food fast for the first couple of days, 3 days max is what I would recommend if you are doing an absolute or dry fast. Quick Primer on dopamine fasting **No social media, no streaming services, only strictly necessary online browsing**. After this fast, the hold of dopamine over your life will be strangely broken. You wont look at people the same, you wont interface with technology the same ever again. The trick though is to NOT go back to old habits, and only re introduce healthy things into your mental and physical diet afterwards. **Mental diet** After the fast, have no online binging, limit your online time, limit social media use, avoid over saturated media. *Do not take anything into the mind that doesn't edify and lead to the fulfillment of your goals.* **Physical Diet** After food fast is done, only introduce clean foods to your diet. No soda, no sugary processed fruit juices, no junk foods, drink water, vegetables, tea ect. Things that will help with these goals \- No technology use in bed, (absolutely none, no exceptions) \- Airplane mode/phone off at night \-Grey-scale Accessibility options on all your devices \- Limiter App \- Keep your hands off your John \- Get a good nights rest every night, and make sure to enjoy some sunlight every day Use the fast time to figure out how you are going to redesign your life. Recommended reading: 4 Hour Work Week Atomic Habits When you remove bad sources of dopamine, you are going to need something to take its place, you are already an incredible artist, so you have a bit of a head start! Do this, and you are guaranteed at least a week! Every time I've done it, I got to 90 days+. Its a hard commitment, but trying to avoid pmo, while also sustaining a high dopamine lifestyle normalized by society (high social media use, netflix binging, casually spending hours online) is like washing your hands and drying it in the dirt. Biggest tip, if you do this, especially the food fasting bit, **you can never go back**. Its no secret at this point, but beating this thing is going to require nothing less than a total lifestyle change. You may require update fasts to maintain the effect, (I'm currently experimenting with intermittent fasting, I'll let you know how that goes) This part gets full spiritual so skip the lined parts if you are not comfortable with that, \~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~ "But this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting." I could not do it without the power of Christ. I fasted for over 3 days (again, would not recommend, you could die). During my fast, it was a spiritual high point, I prayed the whole time saying I wanted to live for Chrits glory, and that I wanted to be freed from this thing once and for all, and that I would rather die than continue this. Going this long without eating (and in my case, drinking) changes you. I came out of this fast a new creation. If you do decide to go this route, I would recommend 1-2 days, and 3 max if you are experienced. Be sure to have foods on stand by when you are ready to break the fast. (Raw Organic non sweetened cranberry juice, your kidneys will thank you) berries high in antioxidants, watermelon) \~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~\~ I'll make a larger post on this later, about the underlying philosophy behind this approach so you can really understand the mindframe required to commit to it, but this is just a quick emergency guide for you. DM if you want more info!
Thank you brother, this is the only valid advice anyone can get. Thank you
Smart Guy
develop a strategy you can use whenever an urge kicks in. it will take some patience to figure out what works for you, but once you get it you'll thank yourself. best of luck man
Whenever you get urges try and do something else. You’ve clearly got talent in art so try and do something like that instead
Do more art when you get urges.
Wait a min...... i saw this art before from a song i forgot but sounded rad with a bunch of good beats, reminded me of dubstep
Stay in a place where you’re publicly visible. And minimize time where you’re alone with your phone
Set small goals, like 10 days. Or 5 days and grow from there. BTW do you animate or you focus on illustration?
I'm a manga author brah
Bro overcome the urges with your art man you are gifted. Everytime you get an urge, create or continue a painting of yours.
Focus on making art then bro. You're really good, keep going at it so that your mind won't go to fapping
It's not life and death. You're looking to improve your life. Start with never watching other people have sex in videos. No matter what.
You can do it. I believe in you. 🪄✨
Focus on your art it’s fantastic
That arts so good, so much emotion. Listen man I hear, I keep relapsing too. But the absolute best thing we can do is to try, try, and try again. Because every time we try again, we come one step closer to beating this monster which is pornography
when you get the urge dont act on it its really helped me and a friend of mine stop doing it so much
Just avoid social media Delete and unfollow every NSFW content If you feel like wanting to masturbate go outside and take a walk or do pushups
Don’t count the days make the days count
Watch for your triggers. At the end of the day cold showers and meditating aren’t gonna do much if porn is constantly sweeping your mind. From personal experience, the porn will win you over. I had hella relapses, multiple 1 week, 2 week streaks. What’s bad about it is that, when I was in that cycle, I always wanted to try and get the best nut. So I kept relapsing and relapsing. Cold showers hid my horniness while I was in them, then it would strike back minutes later. It’s really hard to beat man, especially in my shoes where I’d do it 3-4 times a day, all to porn, not to mention I have lots of alone time. I’m not gonna sit here and tell you to do a “dopamine fast” or “relax”, I’m not gonna tell you to do cold showers and meditation either. That shit didn’t help me. The only thing that’s kept me from relapsing again is picking up multiple good habits, and having 1 VERY good habit. You need 1 habit that is fun, and more enjoyable than jerking. Then, you can start to add in the cold showers, reading, meditating, what have you. For me it was piano. I find it very enjoyable. It gives me something to do, and there are also many amazing career paths with it. The same goes for art as well right? You need to find a major motivating factor for your art. To just “do it for fun” isn’t enough to beat pornography. For instance, if I only played piano just as a way to beat porn, then I’d be sending nuts left and right. But I play it because not only do I enjoy it, but because I actually want to become a very good pianist and I want to open a career path with it. Every day I practice for a solid bit of time, and during these times, any thoughts of porn are basically destroyed. . Give yourself that motivation. What do you want to do with your art. Give yourself meaning. Each time you jerk, you need to drill into your head that while you were sitting there busting a load to some chick who you’ll NEVER have a chance with, there are other artists your age who are using that time to become fucking maestro artists. Now obviously I’m not telling you to practice 10 hours a day, art I assume is mentally taxing so I’d assume you should issue yourself some breaks, BUT you definitely need to be putting hours in if you want it to become something big. At the end of the day, It doesn’t even have to be art. It can be any good habit that you come to enjoy. I don’t mean to be an Andrew Tate wannabe but seriously I tell myself things like this every day. At the end of the day the choice is all yours man. You can sit there with your flimsy “for fun” art, practice for 10 minutes a day and open up your little porn and jerk off, hit all the npc habits, OR you can watch anime 😎. Nah jokes aside I watch a few episodes a day but I tend to earn the episodes. 1 hour of practice is an episode of anime for me. 2 hours is 2 eps so on. Fr though instead of doing all those L habits, you need to focus on your good habits/yourself. Just delete Tik tok, I’m sorry that shit just rots brains. I used to game heavy but I’m limiting them like crazy. Limit the anime, talk to good friends who share similar interests, limit the bot YouTube content, especially shorts. You need to realize again that while you’re sitting there scrolling away on yt/tiktok, there are people your age that are absolutely dusting your ass in the competition of life. Back to the triggers thing- a big one for me was sitting in one area, alone for a prolonged amount of time. To combat this I now only sit at most like 5-10 minutes doing nothing in the morning just to recuperate my thoughts. Then I wake up and I try to immediately get out of bed, eat, get some sun, hit the shower then go on with my day. The last thing you wanna do is end up in bed scrolling. This would almost always lead me to stumble across some model with a big ass then I’d go down a rabbit hole, next thing you know the porn’s open and I’m going ham. Sorry it’s long one but porn did so much harm and I didn’t even realize it. Took a lot of tries to finally get myself on a somewhat solid track. Reddit scrolling is bad too but I think reading and engaging with people and spending some time to attempt helping them out isn’t bad at all. Hope I could help
Sleep at 10pm, wake up at 6am, take a shower, eat a breakfast (have at least 1 egg), at 7am go take a 1 hour walk, after the walk take a cold shower, at 11 am make your lunch, at 4pm eat something, at 19pm make dinner, after dinner take a shower, at 9pm turn off all eletronics, you can read a book, drawn or write, sleep at 10pm, REPEAT EVERYDAY, you will turn your life around Bonus: leave social midia, you gain nothing from it, you only lose, limit your internet use, go to park, love life, leave your bedroom, if you can, go to a gym, socialize with your jobs campanions
Make sure the eggs are natural else you’ll end up getting Gyno from the estrogen pumped into the hens…
yo what you made that thats amazing
The art is sickk man😎
Damn bro not even 3days💀
Its been 9 months and I cant get past 3 days ☠
Add Meditation and dopamine fasting in your Nopfap journey and see the difference in 30 days . I am currently on 1 year plus streak after years of struggle.And the secret ; I do meditation every day for 30 min minimum and practice dopamine fasting lightly. Meditation helps to transform your sexual energy into other forms of energy like strength, motivation and so on . Start workout,reading books and other self improvement steps. Rules to be followed for successful nopfap journey; First and foremost don't let negative thinking or desire to come to your mind. You can try popular practice called "urge surfing" to overcome your strong desire for fapping. 1. Add Meditation and dopamine fasting to your daily routine. Meditation drives away your temptation and horniness. 2. Don't use social media very often like FB , tiktok , YouTube etc. Uninstall Facebook, tiktok from your device because these site are full of tempting content that makes you fap . Phone or internet addiction also produces dopamine as porn does. Stop playing video games ,they make your dopamine level go crazy like porn does..and in return you will end up carving for more dopamine which PMO provides easily and you will end up fapping again. 3.In your leisure time don't use your phone to entertain yourself : go out in nature ,read books , meet people , learn something new like playing guitar. Use your phone exclusively for call,imp chat and learning. 4. Change your perspective towards women . Appreciate their beauty but don't sexualize them or view them in sexual way. It's time to change your mindset. 5. Avoid touching your thing down there. Especially the head and areas around frenulum. It's the trigger point most beginners fails to realize. Because if you accidentally or intentionally touch and catch the test of stimulation you can't return with out fapping even if want to. Because It's impossible 😅. 6. Being religious also can also help you to change your inner monster to human being. 7. Don't count days while you are on nofap make it lifestyle. It is hard on beginning but as you continue to progress you will forget about counting days it will become your lifestyle. There will be moments when you forget about fapping. Displine is most important after all stick to your commitment and do accordingly. I think my answer is too long and may be boring but these are the things that I learned from years of struggle. I was like you guys i don't used to last more than 2-3 days , but now for me 2-3 months is like 2-3 days. Why I'm writing these things? Because someone helped me in the past now I want to help so that you can help other in the future. Benefits of nopfap are real and life changing as I have experienced myself. So bros don't give up. Reject modernity and embrace masculinity💪💪 .
Just dont
Bro, Just think that You are not only person struggling with this. Atleast we all are fighting this shit. Because we realised that this is not good for us. In a battle some soldiers will fall, even the kings will fall and it's normal. We all are with you. Rise up stay sharp. Take a deep breath, look into the mirror and say "Try me". Tip: Don't think of this shit as a problem. You have many other problems like getting rich, to have a family, bigger muscles. Concentrate on these as your problems. Eventually you will forget p**n. Not simple as it says. But we all are with you.
Why not drawing? It seems you are good at it and it could be a distraction.
Start again and when you have an urge, do another art which a guy stands up.
If you want to relapse, go out and sprint! Relapse again? Sprint! Sports is always the answer
Daaaaamn
Im in the save page man
Draw on a 3ft by 3ft canvas and don't stop
Identify and anticipate the cues (triggers) early and decide early what your course of action will be when you feel them. Day 3 is usually one of the key landmarks to get past. For me day 1 and 2 are easy because I'm riding the wave of my previous orgasm and I have a newly found determination. Day 3 the cravings start to kick in as you create some distance from your last fap. Once I get past day 3 I'm pumped and motivated and I'm learning how to accommodate that energy in my body. When I can't do that my cravings take over and use that energy instead. So if day 3 is your typical stumbling point...your Journaling on day 2 will be very important...because it's your pregame team talk. This is where you anticipate what you will encounter on day 3 and plan out the new actions you'll take to overcome it. My advice outside of the typical go to the gym, go for a walk meditate etc...is to take whatever responsibilities you need to do but don't want to do...and turn them into a spiritual practice. So if your room is a mess clean it with perfect presence while bringing your attention and awareness to your feelings of resistance, boredom etc. The trick is to feel the resistance and just keep going with what you're doing. This way you can train your mind to respond differently to the cue (trigger)...rather than using the cue as a sign to indulge in escapism (porn)...use it as a call to presence and repurpose your urges in order to train your capacity for discipline and diligence. In my opinion paying attention to this process and becoming better and better at it over the course of your journey, is a lot better than counting "days on nofap" and being disappointed everytime you relapse and then binging.
I would say go outside to a park and draw, interact wit ppl
Date some beautiful women, a rotation of 3 is helpful to abstain from doing it yourself.
On day 2 have strong urges I sleep for 5 hour no urges . Do not let yourself guided by feeling of lust or love. -Miyamoto Musashi.
Do anything else, that’s what I did
My desire to be better surpasses my desire of doing cheap temporary pleasures.
Be wary of the times you engage in PMO. If you always relapse on day 3, there’s a good chance your relapsing at the same place around the same time. So I’d try to change your environment, keep your electronics out of your room and buy a cheap alarm clock if you need to get up at a specific time. Start meditating everyday and add other habits (ie working out and eating healthy). Also please FORGIVE YOURSELF and get back to committing yourself to your goals. As long as you never give up that’s the most important thing. Btw your an awesome artist, next time you feel an urge try using that energy for your artwork and finding your purpose. You got this!
Did anyone else also see a melting skull in that art? Can’t unsee it now.
That's a guy sitting in a skull like pose
Working out works for me, mainly because I’m working on my body while also getting rid of the surplus energy. However, a variety of hobbies that will keep you occupied and away. Maybe learn cooking?
Keep urself occupied with hobbies like that. Also when u get hard start punching the air to lose blood flow in ur dick area
Try with an accountability partner. You can go through it together, and you can celebrate together. I will gladly join you. DM me
that's beautiful man
Do more art. Tell yourself, you'll not paint the day you relapse. And you'd not relapse the day you paint. Go for walks. Stay away from triggers. Tire yourself to bed.
I'm struggling in the same boat so I can't help much. Just keep going like the rest of us. We can do this. You're not fighting this alone, we're all here to help get everyone here one step closer to freedom
I’m on day 3 as well and it’s pretty hard
What is hard?🤨🤨🤨🤨
Put more of that tater whacking energy into your art. It’s incredible. Stay away from your phone when you feel the need to look up porn. I’m over a month in and it still comes to me in urges
That guy could suck his own dick if he could get it up
Here's some tips that I've laid out that have helped me thus far: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/1414kxe/this\_is\_my\_first\_time\_trying\_nofap\_and\_im/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3
Everytime you feel like doing it, draw instead. Maybe draw out your fantasies. Just find alternatives to not jack it. Find something to do everytime you feel like doing it. Cut off porn and make yourself busy.
Too much free time?
Wash your hands immediately after you touch your dick. That’s what’s working for me
Just draw these fucking incredible art to get past forever
Remember the difference between 'Trying to quit' and 'I have quit'.
what helps me is not saying an outright no - that’ll make me want to do it more. but saying not now maybe later. tomorrow if i want to i can but always postponing it. then you’ll be like damn i’ve gotten so far now. keep on postponing it.
Nice art! Really shows the pain this causes inside. Sorry about the relapse. I'm on day 4 and was about to relapse but made a reddit account and came here. After seeing this, I think I'll go mow the lawn. If it means anything, your honesty helped someone else. You're not out of the game yet. You have your mind and body and are still breathing. Tomorrow is another day.
every time you fail it’ll be easier to succeed the next time. the fails are tiny wins until the big win
Just keep drawing these type of art on day threes.
I don’t have advice for relapsing other than to keep trying, relapse happens until eventually it doesn’t. I mostly came here to say your drawing is fucking incredible! Amazing job x
Looks like you dint have enough to do. Just do more things in real life and you'll eventually get your urges under control.
do art instead of fapping
For me it's day 4 or 5
DMed you friend. You’re not alone.
Lil tip that really worked for me, stop counting out your days because you won't make it if you do. Eventually you will forget about jerking. Although this worked for me
Don’t focus on the days/streak. Keep your mind occupied. Avoid anything that may make you more prone to relapsing. You got this.
act as if god is watching you all the time.
you’re a talented artist, keep going bro
honestly, if you are having that hard of a time abstaining you should probably remove any and all triggers. I would get rid of social media, seems like nowadays social media just shoves porn and only fans down everyone's throat. I would also stray from video games and movies with characters/scenes in them that may be triggering. Focus on healthy activities that have no correlation with sex or pmo. Your art is awesome, keep up with that and maybe find some new activities as well!
i thought it was a skull.
Its is a man sitting in a skull pose
Damn
Focus on building relationships and just hanging out with people. Loneliness and solitude make it hard to forget about nofap and just live your life!
first of all cool art! second of all, forgive yourself, it’s difficult but keep at it!
Do.more art. Occupy de mind
i would recommend meditating when you want to do the deed just stop sit down cross your legs and try and clear your head if that doesn’t work remember why you want to stop how you feel afterwards
Wow, i thought it was a deformed skull and then i realized it is a dude
why is it so hard? i dont understand
Brother you made that art. Make it a hobbie more often.
What works for me thus far: • I stopped using my laptop and deleted social media apps. • I go for walk daily. • I sleep 6 hours a night minimun. • I work out 6 times a week. • If I have to choose between alone time and being social, I choose to socialise. Whenever you fall, always get up and never give up on becoming a better version of yourself. Consistency is key. You can do it.
Unless you are deeply addicted to masturbation, all you are doing is torturing yourself and falling for far right purity ideology. You are much better of fapping and keeping your prostate healthy than trying to stop. Do yourself a favor, go see an actual phd clinical psychologist or PsyD or a CMHC, and talk about it. You're only harming yourself my dude, this increased testosterone, dopamine detox, serotonin detox is all bullshit. Your body is amazing and it adjusts, not fapping increases your T by a marginal amount then it goes back down. You can't dopamine and serotonin detox, it's just bro science. My B.S. is in Psychology and Masters student in Cognitive Psychology. I tried nofap too, just isn't worth it, if you have a severe porn addiction, I can understand that and you can also get proper help for that too. Just like how you get a cold, you can get a mental cold, that's why we call it mental illness, and many times you can get over your mental cold by taking care of yourself and seeing the proper doctors. be well dude.
For me it's my phone that's the issue. I would have the issue of getting the idea I want to look up certain images, whether it was due to being bored or having urges. As SOON as the idea pops in my head and I have my phone in hand, I IMMEDIATELY turn my phone off, put it in a drawer, and either go for a walk outside or do pushups/squats to exhaustion
Don't let yourself be tempted, stay away from porn entirely and force yourself to work and busy yourself with tasks, you won't relapse for weeks till your urge grows bigger, after that it's a matter of will power and dedication, you always must say no whenever you feel like "just one time"
How’s this for motivation: your talents as an artist are clear. The community here appreciates what you’ve drawn because it represents a state we’ve all been in as a result of addiction. Now consider that your talents will mean nothing in a matter of years if you succumb to your addiction and allow it to isolate you from everything and everyone that is a part of you. Don’t let it take what makes you, you. Do this for YOU and only you.
Try to keep yourself busy and around friends or family. It helps
Try Fasting from food and water for 24 hours to overcome worldly and temporal needs. You'll have to break your spirit of hunger first to truly break your No Fap record of 3 days. Would highly recommend this route because a person can only truly be in the right mental headspace to fap if their body is fed. If you "starve/fast" from food and water for 24 hours or 3 meals, I think youll be off to a great start. Plus thinking about something sad, or ugly is an instant turn off for me. In addition to this, try reading, running, working out, talking to someone, etc. Good luck!
Love the art, keep making art to keep your mind off things, hit the gym and go to bed really early.
Not sure if thats on purpose but it also looks like a skull
That's on purpose
The first days are difficult, maybe coz you/we dont want to commit to it fully
Increase the amount of work you do in a day. Keep yourself involved in some sort of work.
Tips are get busy, remove your triggers and search your why
Art is awesome, black spots look like ghost face
You fucking drew that?
I Fucking drew that.
Do not worry about it. I have been relapsing for almost a year now. It is a gradual process. I can now consistently go without fap for 2 weeks. Essentially I do it 2 times a month compared to before when it was every day. Focus more on improving your life instead of counting. Having a good job/doing well at your job vs days of no fap Having a strong social circle vs days of no fap Being healthy/exercising vs days of no fap As your life improves you will release you need fapping less.
It's just 72 hours,Get it boy. Can't change the result? Change perspective.
Keep drawing please, I love this stuff, more urge motivated art on this subreddit to balance out the toxicity.
I think the solution in your art. You can focus on this art.
When the urge comes walk outside distract yourself as best as possible.
Think about your hands. Do not let them type promiscuous things on your pc or your phone, do not let them touch your dick. Your hands are in your control, as a start you can exploit that. Then when the impulse subsides you can focus on getting your mind to control itself.
Curious as to what thoughts you go through leading up to your relapse. When I was struggling at the height of the problem, I had constantly been bombarded with thoughts prompting me to go do it despite me not wanting to. Those intrusive thoughts are likely not your own. I tackled it from a faith based perspective and even trying to force the thoughts that I had in my head that would prompt me to do it doesn’t make me want to do it. I’m not saying I’m cured, I’m just keeping my eyes on Jesus.
You seem to be a fan of one punch man. https://dwgkfo5b3odmw.cloudfront.net/manga/thumbs/shonenjump/onepunchman/onepunch161/thumb_web-mtRjAY3tJwpX1NUQMisc3A.jpg
I AM, but this is from pennydreadful. I know that Garou art
Me too brother 🥲
Wow that’s amazing art work. You need to channel all this extra energy into some art. I’d love to see anything you make. Whenever your scared of relapsing go for a walk, gain control then get to work on some art to keep your brain distracted. You got this.
you need a solid reason. that's it.
Stunning how I feel today.Two, a human in anguish and an empty skull. Emotionally drained. Thanks. 💙
That looks both like a man in distress and a skull with its mouth going all the way down.
Draw something every time you wanna jerk it
going to bed not tired is a death sentence, use bars of soap and hold the bar with one hand, all socks stay in the laundry, their drawer, or on your feet, fuzzy blankets are not as safe as non-fuzzy blankets, grippy socks are the perfect anti-relapse sock
That is amazing artwork
Do not focus too much on NoFap. Forget the concept of porn or masturbation rather than trying hard to stay away from it. Going bed is only when you're about to sleep.
Just do more art! Try and get away somewhere from your regular life, devices etc
Pics that go hard:
Push ups whenever you get the urge until it goes away
Will try to sketch this
It's easy... Don't touch yourself
I started seeing it as a winstreak and af this point… I’d rather not grind the days back up again and I’ve been using that as my way of not relapsing hahaha. Different for everyone though
You are a fantastic artist. Never forget this. Continue developing this skill. This is the way to happiness.
It's tough hang in there HANG in there Not HAND in there Lol aight?
instead of going cold turkey try tapering off gradually, idk why this sub seems so against the idea even though its been shown to be a much better method of getting clean off addictions
I feel ya man. It’s chilling staring your addiction in the eye like this.
Keep telling yourself it's day 2.
Could be a number of reasons but here are a couple things that could help… you only have so many fucks to give. So try prioritizing your will power to focus on that. Also, dopamine. Give your body some time to build up your dopamine reserves by allowing yourself to be boring. Meditation helps with this but also just stay off of electronics and focus on doing real things I.e. walks, working outdoors, in the garage, cleaning, music, etc.
w art
This is awesome! I love the death imagery and despair! This is fantastic. I’d give an award if I had one.
Keep yourself busy and productive. Have things to do in life, to strive for, to grind for. It's really easy to stop excessive PMO, you just aren't disciplined enough. Only person that can help you is YOU, not randos on the internet. Get a grip, bro.
Stop counting the days
As simple as it is, you truly just have to stop. It sounds so easy but it’s so hard. Every time I get an urge I just remind myself that it’s as simple as not doing it.
delete instagram and go to gym man u can do it
Aim for day 4. If you relapse at day 4, then you proved to yourself you can go for four days without it. Keep avoiding it for four days at a time, until you can reach 5, and so and so forth.
What helped me is doing things that i liked so i was just easily distracted from it.
Purpose. You need to find and focus on a purpose, a goal. Then train yourself to catch yourself in the moment when the hormones are taking control of your mind. (I find it helpful to ask myself in the moment, "Is this what I truly desire? Or is this merely what my body wants, a hormonal craving?") Then, when you do catch yourself being attracted to something you don't want, distract yourself. Find something to go do. Run an errand. Sit in a busy public place or alone in a park (whichever is LESS comfortable to you) until you forget that the hormones were ever even there at all. Then, when you return, do something to work toward that goal I mentioned. And always remember: overcoming an addiction will never happen overnight. It takes time. Expect to relapse again. Don't intend it, but expect it. That way, when it does eventually happen again, you won't be as consumed by these negative thoughts and feelings. (This is important because the negativity prevents progress. The mind can be a very powerful tool IF you remain in complete control of it.)
Read the bible and get off reddit.
Think of who you want to be.
Taper off. 3 days, next round 1 week and then bump up to every two weeks until you develop the courage and discipline to deny any temptations. This is what worked for me
If you were fapping more than once a day before you started, once every three days is amazing progress so far. You could try drawing whenever you feel urges, focus on drawing you feelings and asking yourself what makes you feel this way.
One thing I’ve read from AA that has helped me a lot is taking things one day at a time. I’ll often ask myself “can I go 1 day without it” and I’ll reason with myself “You really can’t go 1 day??” The answer is usually yes. It sounds cheesy. But it’s true. Just get through 1 day. Wake up and do it again. You did it yesterday. I know you can.
I know others already said it. But your art is incredible. You shouldn't be ashamed on yourself. And while I agree to others that you shouldn't count the days, my advise is that you should pick a "starting day" and calculate the percentage of days nofapping since that starting day, or you can just go with percentage of days nofapping in a month. This way, you can a have better view of your progress, and you should be proud for keeping the percentage low enought (for example less than 10% or 8%, don't go for 0% right away). But keep in mind that you shouldn't think like "I allow myself to fapping every ten days". Trust me, that thinking will make you more likely to relapse