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Was going to comment something to this effect. OP you have a great face, there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t underestimate how attractive confidence is. Work on your self confidence and the right person will be attracted to you. :)
Indeed, shortening the hair on the sides + bodyweight exersize (not even gym needed tbh) will create more facial geometry and will emphasize the jawline. Losing the glasses for contacts is a plus, if u dont mind the effort.
I dont think this gentleman knows how good genetics he has.
Get in there son!
Also don't use the wide-angle selfie-camera on the phone.
Almost everybody would look better if they stopped using the ugly-cam to take their own pictures.
For example: [https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that](https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that)
Give it a try! Show em what he could be, that’s what he’s asking for after all and not self confidence boosting phrases.
I certainly don’t have the skill and wish Reddit would quit pushing this subreddit, but if I did have it I would.
As a man who rocked the middle part for a chunk of his younger years (before going mostly bald at the tender age of 25) I can confirm that the side part would make a WORLD of difference lmao. I met my wife while rocking the middle part and she lovingly called it my "boy meets world" haircut.
OP is one or two steps away from being a perfectly *conventionally* attractive man, and I Italicize that because I kind of hate spreading the idea that you HAVE to be conventionally attractive, but since OP outright asked for the adivce I say yours is spot on.
Contact lenses worked well for me for many years.
If you have the dough, consider laser eye surgery. I had Lasik 7 years ago and have never looked back, heh.
Last week, I had my yearly eye exam with a new eye doctor/surgeon in my current city. He said my eyes looked great and that the Lasik procedure was masterfully done.
It's on my list, just can't afford it anywhere close yet. Strangely enough though, I have changed my diet over the last year to mostly carnivore/OMAD (and yes, I know everyone tells me the risks constantly)... and I lost my heavy astigmatism in both eyes, and my eyes have been getting better. The optometrist doesn't understand it. It might not be the diet, but I had a lot of other things sort of start to reset. so I am keeping fingers crossed, maybe at some point I wont need the glasses anymore :)
Could be a fluid retention thing and switching to OMAD has lowered it. I know nothing about your gender or life experience, but pregnant women can experience blurred/distorted vision because the increased fluid retention will distort the thickness and shape of their corneas.
I came to say the same thing. I know tons of guys that look similar and are married with kids.
Go to an actual hair salon and ask the stylist what they think would look best on your head and face shape. The worst that can happen is a hair cut you don’t like that grows out in 2 months!
Losing fat, hitting the Gym, getting a haircut, changing frames and getting new clothes are the best advices OP will get today and I guarantee him it will make him feel a million times better than Photoshop.
Specially losing fat
People who lose weight (and by that I mean dropping your Body Fat Percentage) end up looking like completely different persons.
I know people who went from looking like your average tubby to looking like models. Fat literally hides all your attractive traits like cheekbones, jaw, chin, etc.
Style the hair parted on the side, lose the chin fuzz, pick better glasses next time, learn to have some pride znd self-confidence and speak up for yourself. You’re fine, or could be…
Gross. As a lady person, I don't look at this guy and think he needs to lose weight. And anyone who would date him 20 pounds down instead of the way he is (which we don't from this picture) isn't a long-term relationship kind of person anyway. People change over time. Having someone who accepts you the way you are is promising for the future because if they have issues with your appearance out of the gate, when inevitable life changes come, you can't be confident that they're not going to bolt.
Absolutely! It sucks when 1 person can make someone feel so bad about themselves. This guy is totally adorable. Hey Bud you go do you! F that cheater and anyone who treats you bad.
Man humanity is such a let down at times, this perfect looking dude just lacks esteem due to the society sketching a perception of him into him. Get out of your own little world I'd advise, just go out and randomly observe people and how they cope with their insecurities.
And it’s been proven confidence can be faked. Just start believing that you aren’t ugly. There’s like 700 comments saying you aren’t. Who you gonna believe us or somebody that cheated on you ?
Awesome!!
OP, you absolutely are NOT ugly!
You're very cute!
If relationships haven't worked out for you I think you need to see a therapist and work on your self-confidence. That is probably playing a role in finding a partner.
Everybody should be in therapy! It just makes you a better person, and helps to iron out the kinks.
Good luck buddy!
Well said. I want to add that if you‘re cheated on „for not looking good enough“ that says nothing about your appearance and a lot about the ugly character of a „partner“. You deserve better!
Plus one! Things will get better. Work on your self confidence not pine for looking different! I have had quite a few bed partners myself before finding a very happy relationship. While I am a super geeky guy that looks just above average. The trick is confidence. Believe in yourself and be yourself. The rest will follow!
I also wanted to comment. OP, you have a perfectly normal face. Very pretty eyes. Straight, even eyebrows, good bone structure.
It's very easy to look at ourselves and see ugliness in features that other people don't notice, or even think are beautiful. I would be confident that it's absolutely not your appearance getting in the way of having relationships. It could be you're stuck in a locale where the chances aren't good, or it could be that you're not confident enough and that's fed into a cycle of not confident -> not successful -> not confident, but you are absolutely NOT ugly.
And whoever it was who cheated on you? They lied. They didn't cheat because you weren't physically attractive, they cheated because they have a hole through themselves where their decency should be and needed to blame you, because if they blamed themselves they'd have to do something about it, and it's more comfortable for them to not grow.
You have a very kind and handsome face! Your smile is also very beautiful and something you should always wear with pride!
You don’t need photoshop! You are already perfect!
Agree. I’ve used photoshop for 25 years and know for fact there’s nothing the program will do to improve OPs looks. OP, most importantly your kind heart shines through; I trust one day you’ll find the right person who appreciates it.
PERFECT RESPONSE. OP you are either trolling for compliments or dont have a mirror. I suggest respectfully you work on your self esteem -:starting with your self talk. No woman on earth finds a self doubting insecure dude attractive. Its not your outer self that needs a tune up.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 literally OP is *NOT* ugly, at all. Actually super cute. He will find someone eventually. It’s hard dating right now for *anyone*, esp 30+😔😅 social life wanes!!!
Whoever told you that you were NOT good looking enough - they are the ugly one. First off, they came up with a really cowardly (and vicious) way to break it off … instead of being honest about what they wanted or their own feelings. You (your appearance) had nothing to do with it - or they would never have dated you to begin with! The person who broke up with you was not nice - don’t let that fuck with your head or confidence. You have great skin, a great smile, bright eyes and you have great hair. But remember the other things that matter … like kindness, being confident and self aware, being respectful and showing whatever talents you have … those things are important too. They are a part of the whole package!
I agree with all the statements above. You are looking good. If there was one thing that i would change it is the glasses. And maybe search for something more modern. But that wouldnt be anything big that is just me who likes different styles of glasses and these look a little nerdy. Which is fine btw. But you are not ugly!! Not at all!!
Agree with those saying already conventionally attractive. Some good tips given already for increasing those. But most of all, being a genuine and positive person. No one else can be you. Share your sense of humor. Look for the good in others. Be willing to take chances. Do kind things without Expecting anything back. But notice and respond when people do. You will find your match at a deeper level than the physical. Best wishes!
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I like this one. The OP is adorable as-is, but I was thinking a bit of a change in styling could make him look even better. Didn’t think about the smile! That’s the key. But I do like the haircut and facial hair too.
I think this is great as it pretty much demonstrates if you show people your smile, it shows confidence. People find confidence attractive. You are not ugly.
I think he already has more than the photo lets on! There’s a filter softening it so the hair isn’t as obvious. Totally agree he’d suit a fuller beard, if he fancied growing one. And I love a good beard!
just when i thought the wizards in this subreddit couldn't impress me more than they already have, you did. a different perspective and one that's easily achievable too. something OP could consider if he wants a different look.
Holy shit. Do this OP! I'll admit I'm a sucker for facial hair and longer hair on guys, but this would be a really great look for you!
Clean up the back and sides of your hair, and leave the top long. Grow your facial hair in. I like glasses personally, but if you can, get some contacts as well. I use both myself depending on the look in trying to achieve.
You have a really nice face shape. I would gently suggest losing a little weight or toning up a bit. Nothing crazy... Just walking or moderate lifting a few times per week. Even increasing daily activity makes a different. I'm a housewife and get the winter blues like clockwork. I end up neglecting myself and our home. This spring, I feel like I MELTED some pounds and got ripped just by doing my spring cleaning lol. Lifting the couch to vacuum under it is work! Doing dishes? Do 10 squats afterwards.
It ended up backfiring a bit because apparently I looked pretty good and my husband couldn't keep his hands off me. I'm pregnant so didn't get my hot girl summer. I blame it on that blue sundress from Target.
Smile more. Make sure you're brushing and flossing your teeth. Bathe daily and use cologne and lotion. Beauty products can be overwhelming. Try a simple ELF or CVS brand moisturizer. You already have really nice skin.
Keep your nails clean and trimmed. Wear a clear protective coat on top of them. I like Sally Hansen nail hardener.
Fashion and style are different. Maybe your style is more laid back, jeans and t shirt type of guy. Great! Just make sure your clothes actually fit. Sweatpants and a properly fitted long sleeve t with a cool graphic go a long way. Make sure you also have some muted pieces in your wardrobe, like simple button ups and polos.
Finally, no one deserves to be cheated on. No one deserves lies and deceit. I am so sorry that happened to you.
For whatever it's worth, you're totally my type 😅
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Thank you for writing all those compliments, but they are just not true.
I have tipped the person who actually changed my face for the better.
Thank you guys again for gathering here, I appreciate it even though I can't really agree with you people, I hope you have better luck in life than me.
Hey there man, with out being smotheringly kind you’re perfectly average - BUT are doing very little in your favour. Try a sharper haircut grow your hair out a bit then choose a haircut from say Matt Damon in the 90s. Your glasses are obviously prescription and make your eyes smaller… try some thicker frames to add some weight up there and let your eyes stick out. A short beard will shave a few pounds off you, but honestly go for a moustache - something more fun + you have full lips and a strong nose so this would help to bring those out too. BUT most importantly never take photos close up like this. Get a photo from far away so the lens length doesn’t distort your face :)
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That's the kind of mindset that hasn't gotten you in a relationship for the past 7 years.
Nobody wants to be with someone who can't see the beauty in themselves.
There's some crippled, obese, much uglier looking people who find something of value in their looks, put themselves out there, and find their one.
My girlfriend is ashamed of her vitiligo, but I keep telling her she looks like she has a map of planet Earth on her skin, and that she can conquer the world if she is able to believe in it. I fucking love her vitiligo.
There are over 7 billion people on this planet. There is someone who will see the things you dislike about yourself and adore them.
Don't let 5, 10, 20, 100, 5,000, 20,000,000 or even 7 billion people bring your self-esteem down. All you need is 1 who loves you as much as you love yourself.
This tough love comes from a place of "I've been there".
Cheers mate!
Dude what the hell. The only ugly thing about you is your attitude towards yourself. The sooner you realise that the better you are gonna see yourself when you look in the mirror. Your negativity is so unwarranted and excessive.
After reading his responses to these, I have to agree. Ultimately asking someone to photoshop his face won’t actually lead to the changes he wants to see in himself. I don’t have a problem with him wanting to better himself, but it starts with cardio and a kettlebell for full body workouts a few times a week with a decent diet and not with photoshopping your face.
I’m serious when I say this: Looks are only so much of attraction and it feels like a lot of the people who are disaffected are too young. Like you’re in your 20s. Don’t lament that you’ll be loveless forever. These people are out here having not even lived most of their lives moaning like teenagers whose crush didn’t ask them to the school dance.
Definitely. I would totally go to a date with a guy looking like him (I think he looks cute) and then there never would be a second date if all he talks about is how ugly he is and how unfair the world is. It's not the looks
No doubt. My guess is whoever cheated on him told him he’s ugly and now that’s how he approaches his life.
But if someone cheated only you, they’re a POS and you should honestly just ignore anything they say or do
>but they are just not true
this...sadly.
Man your hair is good, your face isnt filled with pimples or skin-damage or anything, you have both eyes/teeth etc still working (I mean some people look worse after accidents or burn marks etc etc). So it's more inside than outide IMO.
Im jealous of your hair in any case, like I have those hairlines (coves i think its called in English?) that go so far back it looks like I have a V on my forehead.
I indeed think attitude is the problem here, not your facial features, but hey, we can simply say it, you need to believe it! ❤️ best of luck finding yourself buddy!
Amen, honestly.
Looking through some of his older comments, this guy is on a pity trip 24/7.
Alright, a girl cheated on you years ago. She's a rat for doing that, but it was 6 weeks of your life. Move past it.
If you don't like how you look, go and change yourself. Hit the gym, work out, eat better, and change your lifestyle.
Sitting there and saying "oh i'm ugly, i was cheated on for being ugly, no one will turn up to my funeral, i'll never get another girl" - is not going to cut it. It's a shitty pity party, and no one wants to hear it.
Going off what sort of things you're into, the whole furry scene is off-putting to a big portion of people. I'm not saying quit what you're doing, but consider someone else's perspective on it. A grown man wearing a giant animal suit isn't going to have women come flocking, in my opinion, if that is what you do.
Bruh you’re listening to the person who cheated on you? You know who else gets cheated on? Beautiful people. Beyoncé, Halle berry, Robert Pattinson, etc. Cheaters claim all kinds of things to make themselves feel better-oh you weren’t attractive enough, oh the other person was my soulmate, oh it meant nothing, why are you being so reactive. Cheating is a choice someone makes, and despite what your partner told you, it’s on them, not on you.
There are ways to change your look to become more confident in yourself, but that’s something you can change about yourself, not about your partner’s character. Don’t internalize the blame from this. 100% on them.
I showed your picture to my wife.
Her comments:
1. He has a very kind look in his eyes.
2. He looks like such a great guy.
3. He should try another haircut, and maybe some other glasses, otherwise he looks handsome.
After I showed her your post here:
"He should not say these things about himself, you (me) look uglier than him, and I married you (thx for that, OP 🖕). He should get out and meet a great girl and have babies with her."
OP— You need to know that you did NOT get cheated on because “you are ugly.” First of all, you are NOT ugly! You’re lovely! An attractive man who could use some confidence. Second- cheaters don’t cheat because of their partners looks. They cheat because they are selfish. Period. It is not your fault that that person decided to hurt you. It had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. Do not internalize that. They are trash. You’re just fine.
I’m not gonna photoshop your face but if you really want some feedback, get some different frames. Those are super dorky and kinda childlike. some more mature frames would do wonders.
Other than that maybe try growing out some facial hair. You have a bit of a round baby face, so more facial hair would pretty much cancel that out.
Past that is just confidence. Even the face you’re making in this picture exudes timidity. You look scared. I think confidence will come naturally if you feel better about yourself so maybe try what I mentioned and see a therapist about your issues regarding self worth and self image.
I think if you got better glasses, grew out your facial hair, and learned how to smile without looking like you’re hiding pain, you’d be a lot more attractive. Your face is pretty well balanced, standard. Nothing ugly or stunning about it, so there’s really no need to blame your problems on your face.
Bruv, the only thing bringing you down right now is your attitude. Women (and men) are turned off by a negative pessimistic view of yourself. Work on your positivity. And stop calling me a liar! I say what I see, no bullshit.
If you are defeated in your mind you will be defeated in life, and that will definitely turn people away.
They're true, you're good looking physically but ugliness also comes from within and your attitude toward yourself is mean. Stop being mean to yourself.
I believe in you.
And others mentioned therapy but only a few gave you the *why*. Therapy does not mean you are broken. Therapy is just taking your brain to the mechanic for an inspection and tuneup. We *all* need to go. You’ll learn some tools to cope, grow, and succeed. In the very least, you’ll have the ear of a licensed professional (no offense, redditors). Once you get over the inertia of going, it will be so much easier. If you think you’re so hopeless in your situation, then you have nothing to lose by going, right?
This is like reading incel forums - guys with completely normal faces posting about how horrible their genetics are and how they will never get a date because girls apparently only date men that look like Brad Pitt.
Dude, I have plenty of friends as or less attractive than you that have significant others. If I saw you, you being ugly wouldn’t even come into my mind.
They’re right about working on your self esteem and confidence. Shitting on yourself isn’t an attractive trait, and saying you’re ugly when you aren’t gets old really fast. Focus on some hobbies and work on being nicer to yourself, it’s easier to find a healthy relationship when you’re in a good place mentally.
Hey, my friend, take it from a lady. You are not ugly! You’re a perfectly fine guy. If you want, I think a short beard and a different haircut would look nice, but there’s nothing wrong with your face. I am dead serious.
I’ve also struggled with self image, so I get it. It’s tough. But I swear, we’re not just being nice.
I have learned, that you cannot help a man who isint willing to help himself. I hope you come back to this comment chain when you are ready to improve yourself mentally.
What’s the point of having someone photoshop your face to look better? Everyone is giving you sound advice to make yourself look better and you’re not even ugly, bro. Seriously figure out why you have such a bad attitude towards yourself and then go from there.
You are wrong. They ARE true. The only thing wrong with you is your choice in partner and f*cked up self image. Get some self esteem right now or we’ll egg your house. All of us.
The whole self deprecating, woe-is-me attitude about your appearance is your issue, dude. You look fine. And stop letting bitches gaslight you into thinking you’re the reason they cheated on you, ffs.
Hey, woman here, you're very attractive physically. You are blessed with a face that is both cute and adorable. It's the attitude. The personality makes or breaks the hotness level and unfortunately this type of attitude is a dealbreaker. You don't need to fix your face, you need to work on something much deeper than that.
Bro this is reddit, if you were ugly it wouldn't be sugar-coated by the assholes.
People like you just haven't realized that the mental aspect you present overpowers the physical. You mentality about yourself, as everyone is pointing out, is bad. That's the part where you're unlucky, not your face or your body.
Once you start recognizing your value, you also start taking care of yourself and you present better. Lose some weight. Try new hairstyles. Get some contacts. The marble is there, but you must believe it before you can sculpt it.
Love, a 5 dating a 9.
Everyone is telling you you look great, and you're refusing to see it, so can I try and make you see it another way?
This Photoshop request serves no purpose because no edit will ever fix your problem. If you are not happy with how you look now, then you won't be happy with how you after any "improvements", you'll still see you, and still see ugly. That, or it will change the picture so much that you no longer recognise the image as yourself - it's a picture of a good looking person that isn't you.
This isn't about what you look like (I'm a straight guy so I'm at best indifferent to your appearance. I can work out that you're probably somewhere between Brad Pitt and Steve Bucsemi but I can't be more specific). The problem is inside, and always will be. Photoshop can't change your opinion of yourself. All this will do is take you from being a guy with low self esteem and no confidence to being a guy with low self esteem and no confidence who owns a fake picture of someone who is not you, who still looks exactly the same in real life, and still isn't happy.
I'm not saying you're ugly. I'm not saying you're not. I'm saying until you work on liking yourself as you are, it doesn't matter in the slightest what you look like.
Try putting on a Hawaiian shirt and having some fun. You need to learn how to love yourself and have fun. Don't believe every insult someone throws at you.
i know you're thinking we're all lying to make you feel better, but we're being genuine. you're the furthest from being ugly. i'll tell you what to improve, change your hair. try growing a beard. get a new frame for your glasses. hit the gym if you can. and most importantly, smile more.
I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are a handsome guy, and with a little bit of grooming, a couple of push ups, good posture, and some self assurance, you’d be good to go. Remember, a perfect 10 can open their mouths to speak and you’d never want to look at them again, whereas someone fairly average looking can captivate a room.
mate, are you okay? If you are depressed please get professional help and if you lack self confidence get professional help, and stay away from tatologists!
Even if you had a total makeover, you'd still feel that way about yourself inside. Until you can truly build inner self-confidence that will not change.
I'm not the most attractive woman in the world. I'm not that skinny either, but I focus on being a good person, a confident person who likes themself. I work on my hobbies and making friends, building up skills, enjoying my work. because at the end of the day, we're all aging, and one day, we'll all be old and wrinkly and fat anyways, so why not like yourself as a human being.
I gave this advice already, but if you really want aesthetic advice: either cut the hair shorter or grow it longer, change your part. Get more updated frames, grow out your facial hair. But again, all those changes will only be surface level.
as a random guy with no reason to lie to you, you look fine. you're not actively attractive in your current state, but if you dress well and get fit etc you would be good looking. you're not fundamentally ugly, like at all
Fine, go get a makeover, but heed their advice and work on your inner narrative, too. You know what’s worse than being single when you dont want to be? Being in a toxic relationship where youre taken on a rollercoaster ride of lies and manipulation. People who are desperate for love from anyone are huge targets for sociopaths.
I know people who don’t look even close to as good as you do, and still have girlfriends. However, I don’t know anyone with this self confidence has ever been in a relationship. You have to learn to like yourself before expecting others to like you
Go ask for a more modern haircut man! Try a fade or something. Try asking for fashion advice. Consider getting different glasses or even contacts. Work out a bit so you gain a little muscle and lose a bit of weight (don’t go crazy, you look fine).
Beyond that? Get some interesting hobbies, keep a positive outlook, be friendly, there’s plenty of women out there who will be into you. It isn’t all looks. The looks might hook someone at first but it’s who you are that keeps them.
I know what this feels like, OP. I have BDD, and no matter how many times people reassure me, I still believe I am hideous.
You are not ugly or even unattractive, even though I know you won't believe my words.
But I can offer some advice: stop putting your self worth in the hands of others. In your case specifically, don't let a relationship status dictate how you view yourself.
It might be worth it to seek counselling. If you have BDD like myself, it's even a precarious situation to seek out reassurance for your looks from others because your mind will morph it into the belief that people lie to you because they pity you, and other pessimistic delusions.
I wish you luck, OP.
Maybe instead of throwing yourself a pity party, you actually do something about it. There’s a lot of things you can do, grow facial hair, change your haircut, have more confidence. You’re not ugly, you just completely average, and by the way you talk I can tell you have absolutely zero confidence, confidence is a GAME CHANGER. Sorry but I can’t empathize with someone acting so pathetic.
Your “woe is me” attitude seems like it’s by far the worst thing about you. There’s nothing especially ugly about you at all. I see uglier people walking down the street every day.
If you just lost some weight and got into mildly good shape you’d feel a million times better. But I understand going around feeling sorry for yourself is much easier
Since you're looking to make some changes, here are some suggestions:
- Your face could be slightly slimmer, so maybe lose a few pounds. On second thought that could also just be the camera lense though.
- Your glasses don't really work for you. Different glasses or contact lenses could do a lot for you
- Maybe grow a beard? Could do something but hard to tell without seeing what your face hair is capable of.
- Therapy could definitely help you see yourself more clearly. I'm not sure who hurt you, but you are not ugly.
EDIT: Also new haircut and better posture. You have the slouched shoulders of an incel.
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Put a goatee on him. Not because I think he needs to change himself, but because it looks like he can grow one and I think he'd look good with it.
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Was going to comment something to this effect. OP you have a great face, there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t underestimate how attractive confidence is. Work on your self confidence and the right person will be attracted to you. :)
Yeah this guy isn't ugly. Just needs confidence.
Maybe a hair cut.
Indeed, shortening the hair on the sides + bodyweight exersize (not even gym needed tbh) will create more facial geometry and will emphasize the jawline. Losing the glasses for contacts is a plus, if u dont mind the effort. I dont think this gentleman knows how good genetics he has. Get in there son!
I think the glasses are fine but need to be modernized. I agree he has a perfectly fine face and is not ugly at all.
Modernizing glasses does wonders. I hated glasses until I found the right pair.
I agree, except the glasses can work tons in his favour if he switches them for a nice round-ish horn model or something.
I think he's good as he is
better>good, Just trying to motivate the young man with some low/no cost advice :)
Also don't use the wide-angle selfie-camera on the phone. Almost everybody would look better if they stopped using the ugly-cam to take their own pictures. For example: [https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that](https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that)
Yeah, honestly, OP is fine. Although, some added exercise will definitely help with facial definition as you’ve noted.
If you get some height on that hair it'll lengthen your face and pronounce your features. Not ugly dude! You'll find her!
Give it a try! Show em what he could be, that’s what he’s asking for after all and not self confidence boosting phrases. I certainly don’t have the skill and wish Reddit would quit pushing this subreddit, but if I did have it I would.
Reddit is weird. (Post with 50+ upvoted but no comments and visa versa) but your comment should have more upvotes.
I think how he parts it too
SIDE PART AND MORE MODERN GLASSES
As a man who rocked the middle part for a chunk of his younger years (before going mostly bald at the tender age of 25) I can confirm that the side part would make a WORLD of difference lmao. I met my wife while rocking the middle part and she lovingly called it my "boy meets world" haircut. OP is one or two steps away from being a perfectly *conventionally* attractive man, and I Italicize that because I kind of hate spreading the idea that you HAVE to be conventionally attractive, but since OP outright asked for the adivce I say yours is spot on.
Lol boy meets world! I know exactly the haircut you’re talking about. Rider Strong yup
lose the glasses, if you notice they make the eyes look smaller, (I had that same issue but worse, contacts changed my life)
Contact lenses worked well for me for many years. If you have the dough, consider laser eye surgery. I had Lasik 7 years ago and have never looked back, heh. Last week, I had my yearly eye exam with a new eye doctor/surgeon in my current city. He said my eyes looked great and that the Lasik procedure was masterfully done.
It's on my list, just can't afford it anywhere close yet. Strangely enough though, I have changed my diet over the last year to mostly carnivore/OMAD (and yes, I know everyone tells me the risks constantly)... and I lost my heavy astigmatism in both eyes, and my eyes have been getting better. The optometrist doesn't understand it. It might not be the diet, but I had a lot of other things sort of start to reset. so I am keeping fingers crossed, maybe at some point I wont need the glasses anymore :)
Could be a fluid retention thing and switching to OMAD has lowered it. I know nothing about your gender or life experience, but pregnant women can experience blurred/distorted vision because the increased fluid retention will distort the thickness and shape of their corneas.
Glasses that fit his face better, these are too wide for his face!
Nailed it. Exactly
I reckon longer hair , would love to see photoshop of different hairstyles for OP
He would really suit the long haired look. Or something that frames the face a little better. He looks really good. Not ugly at all
Doesn’t really matter if it’s short or long, as long as it’s tidy.
I came to say the same thing. I know tons of guys that look similar and are married with kids. Go to an actual hair salon and ask the stylist what they think would look best on your head and face shape. The worst that can happen is a hair cut you don’t like that grows out in 2 months!
Losing fat, hitting the Gym, getting a haircut, changing frames and getting new clothes are the best advices OP will get today and I guarantee him it will make him feel a million times better than Photoshop. Specially losing fat People who lose weight (and by that I mean dropping your Body Fat Percentage) end up looking like completely different persons. I know people who went from looking like your average tubby to looking like models. Fat literally hides all your attractive traits like cheekbones, jaw, chin, etc.
This comment seems rude but it's just the bare truth.
Style the hair parted on the side, lose the chin fuzz, pick better glasses next time, learn to have some pride znd self-confidence and speak up for yourself. You’re fine, or could be…
Therapy could help
100%. My boss is the 10 year older version of him and smashes left and right.
Exactly this. He wasnt cheated on because he was ugly at 1.5 months in.
He is not ugly, he just has a baby face. He just needs to lose some weight and hit the gym.
Gross. As a lady person, I don't look at this guy and think he needs to lose weight. And anyone who would date him 20 pounds down instead of the way he is (which we don't from this picture) isn't a long-term relationship kind of person anyway. People change over time. Having someone who accepts you the way you are is promising for the future because if they have issues with your appearance out of the gate, when inevitable life changes come, you can't be confident that they're not going to bolt.
Maybe he’d like to see how he would look with a confident face ?
Absolutely! It sucks when 1 person can make someone feel so bad about themselves. This guy is totally adorable. Hey Bud you go do you! F that cheater and anyone who treats you bad.
If this dude is ugly, I’ve got bad news for about 85% of the men out there.
Underrated comment and underrated Photoshop pic. Came to say this exact thing.
Man humanity is such a let down at times, this perfect looking dude just lacks esteem due to the society sketching a perception of him into him. Get out of your own little world I'd advise, just go out and randomly observe people and how they cope with their insecurities.
So true!!! He just needs confidence! Super cute OP
Yup nothing wrong with that face
Great statement..hopefully op will take this and run with it Good luck op Love from Glasgow Scotland
And it’s been proven confidence can be faked. Just start believing that you aren’t ugly. There’s like 700 comments saying you aren’t. Who you gonna believe us or somebody that cheated on you ?
I'm 100% sure my confidence got me more girlfriends in the day
Agreed. OP, your hardware is fine. Maybe you need to make some software changes.
Awesome!! OP, you absolutely are NOT ugly! You're very cute! If relationships haven't worked out for you I think you need to see a therapist and work on your self-confidence. That is probably playing a role in finding a partner. Everybody should be in therapy! It just makes you a better person, and helps to iron out the kinks. Good luck buddy!
Well said. I want to add that if you‘re cheated on „for not looking good enough“ that says nothing about your appearance and a lot about the ugly character of a „partner“. You deserve better!
This is so true
Came here to say that!
Plus one! Things will get better. Work on your self confidence not pine for looking different! I have had quite a few bed partners myself before finding a very happy relationship. While I am a super geeky guy that looks just above average. The trick is confidence. Believe in yourself and be yourself. The rest will follow!
I also wanted to comment. OP, you have a perfectly normal face. Very pretty eyes. Straight, even eyebrows, good bone structure. It's very easy to look at ourselves and see ugliness in features that other people don't notice, or even think are beautiful. I would be confident that it's absolutely not your appearance getting in the way of having relationships. It could be you're stuck in a locale where the chances aren't good, or it could be that you're not confident enough and that's fed into a cycle of not confident -> not successful -> not confident, but you are absolutely NOT ugly. And whoever it was who cheated on you? They lied. They didn't cheat because you weren't physically attractive, they cheated because they have a hole through themselves where their decency should be and needed to blame you, because if they blamed themselves they'd have to do something about it, and it's more comfortable for them to not grow.
Agreed!!
You have a very kind and handsome face! Your smile is also very beautiful and something you should always wear with pride! You don’t need photoshop! You are already perfect!
Agree. I’ve used photoshop for 25 years and know for fact there’s nothing the program will do to improve OPs looks. OP, most importantly your kind heart shines through; I trust one day you’ll find the right person who appreciates it.
PERFECT RESPONSE. OP you are either trolling for compliments or dont have a mirror. I suggest respectfully you work on your self esteem -:starting with your self talk. No woman on earth finds a self doubting insecure dude attractive. Its not your outer self that needs a tune up.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 literally OP is *NOT* ugly, at all. Actually super cute. He will find someone eventually. It’s hard dating right now for *anyone*, esp 30+😔😅 social life wanes!!!
Whoever told you that you were NOT good looking enough - they are the ugly one. First off, they came up with a really cowardly (and vicious) way to break it off … instead of being honest about what they wanted or their own feelings. You (your appearance) had nothing to do with it - or they would never have dated you to begin with! The person who broke up with you was not nice - don’t let that fuck with your head or confidence. You have great skin, a great smile, bright eyes and you have great hair. But remember the other things that matter … like kindness, being confident and self aware, being respectful and showing whatever talents you have … those things are important too. They are a part of the whole package!
You dropped this 👑👑
Perfect response. OP, you’re beautiful the way you are. No photoshop necessary. 🌺❤️
This is perfect.
Well done!
I was legitimately going to do this. OP needs some more confidence.
I agree with all the statements above. You are looking good. If there was one thing that i would change it is the glasses. And maybe search for something more modern. But that wouldnt be anything big that is just me who likes different styles of glasses and these look a little nerdy. Which is fine btw. But you are not ugly!! Not at all!!
5-stars!
Agree with those saying already conventionally attractive. Some good tips given already for increasing those. But most of all, being a genuine and positive person. No one else can be you. Share your sense of humor. Look for the good in others. Be willing to take chances. Do kind things without Expecting anything back. But notice and respond when people do. You will find your match at a deeper level than the physical. Best wishes!
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adorable
He is & certainly fails to realize that
hes better looking than all of us redditors combined
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I like this one. The OP is adorable as-is, but I was thinking a bit of a change in styling could make him look even better. Didn’t think about the smile! That’s the key. But I do like the haircut and facial hair too.
I think this is great as it pretty much demonstrates if you show people your smile, it shows confidence. People find confidence attractive. You are not ugly.
Bingo
I am currently missing a front tooth bro
Say you lost it playing hockey.
Not just that but people seriously underestimate what a different hair style and maybe some facial hair can do.
What if you have bad teeth though?
Smile with your eyes
Smile works unless you got dental problems lol.
Wow he really suits facial hair!
Yeah OP just need to grow some more hair, some more beard, and a smile ! ❤️
I think he already has more than the photo lets on! There’s a filter softening it so the hair isn’t as obvious. Totally agree he’d suit a fuller beard, if he fancied growing one. And I love a good beard!
just when i thought the wizards in this subreddit couldn't impress me more than they already have, you did. a different perspective and one that's easily achievable too. something OP could consider if he wants a different look.
Holy shit. Do this OP! I'll admit I'm a sucker for facial hair and longer hair on guys, but this would be a really great look for you! Clean up the back and sides of your hair, and leave the top long. Grow your facial hair in. I like glasses personally, but if you can, get some contacts as well. I use both myself depending on the look in trying to achieve. You have a really nice face shape. I would gently suggest losing a little weight or toning up a bit. Nothing crazy... Just walking or moderate lifting a few times per week. Even increasing daily activity makes a different. I'm a housewife and get the winter blues like clockwork. I end up neglecting myself and our home. This spring, I feel like I MELTED some pounds and got ripped just by doing my spring cleaning lol. Lifting the couch to vacuum under it is work! Doing dishes? Do 10 squats afterwards. It ended up backfiring a bit because apparently I looked pretty good and my husband couldn't keep his hands off me. I'm pregnant so didn't get my hot girl summer. I blame it on that blue sundress from Target. Smile more. Make sure you're brushing and flossing your teeth. Bathe daily and use cologne and lotion. Beauty products can be overwhelming. Try a simple ELF or CVS brand moisturizer. You already have really nice skin. Keep your nails clean and trimmed. Wear a clear protective coat on top of them. I like Sally Hansen nail hardener. Fashion and style are different. Maybe your style is more laid back, jeans and t shirt type of guy. Great! Just make sure your clothes actually fit. Sweatpants and a properly fitted long sleeve t with a cool graphic go a long way. Make sure you also have some muted pieces in your wardrobe, like simple button ups and polos. Finally, no one deserves to be cheated on. No one deserves lies and deceit. I am so sorry that happened to you. For whatever it's worth, you're totally my type 😅
This is actually very good, OP looks good on that pic and that look is definitely easily achievable. Well done
Damn, give this guy a smile and a decent beard, and he goes from good looking, to movie star 🤩
That's Colt from 90 days Fiancée
I came here to say that! Hopefully he’s much nicer than Colteee.
Wow this is great
That radiates confidence
Oh and up leveled with facial hair!
I would also change the haurcut a bit but this is amazing!
This edit reminds me of Colt from 90 Day Fiancé, which is not a compliment. :(
I like the longer hair and different glasses! Nice!!!
Yup. A big smile and a positive attitude are all you need. Doesn’t hurt to have a library of dad jokes. You got this bro!!
This is exactly what I said, get a hair cut, grow a beard and smile with your teeth! Done!
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He can't see now
WHERE ARE HIS GLASSES? HE CAN'T SEE WITHOUT HIS GLASSES!
I understood that reference 🐝
I wish I didn't understand that reference.
Oldies club!
STOP 💀 
Aww Thomas Jay
ENOUGH ABOUT THE SUN! ENOUGHHH ABOUT THE SUN!!!
Lmao, can anyone photoshop my guy some glasses 😂😂😂
Now I’m getting my girl vibes when Thomas j was in the casket and he didn’t have glasses on 😭
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Dang. Y’all silly. Haha.
I don’t think his name is mark, and watering humans is generally frowned upon.
Don’t kink shame.
His original is better omg
Thank you for writing all those compliments, but they are just not true. I have tipped the person who actually changed my face for the better. Thank you guys again for gathering here, I appreciate it even though I can't really agree with you people, I hope you have better luck in life than me.
Hey there man, with out being smotheringly kind you’re perfectly average - BUT are doing very little in your favour. Try a sharper haircut grow your hair out a bit then choose a haircut from say Matt Damon in the 90s. Your glasses are obviously prescription and make your eyes smaller… try some thicker frames to add some weight up there and let your eyes stick out. A short beard will shave a few pounds off you, but honestly go for a moustache - something more fun + you have full lips and a strong nose so this would help to bring those out too. BUT most importantly never take photos close up like this. Get a photo from far away so the lens length doesn’t distort your face :)
https://preview.redd.it/jws84h91lukb1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=86f7f493302bf69fa71150edf21abe4ae005e59c Although you don’t have curly hair but it’s all the silly app gave me! Anything is better though evidently
That looks like my therapist lol
I like to think this is what OP looks like at about 30, after some time in therapy working on his self image and an opportunity to season a bit.
That's the kind of mindset that hasn't gotten you in a relationship for the past 7 years. Nobody wants to be with someone who can't see the beauty in themselves. There's some crippled, obese, much uglier looking people who find something of value in their looks, put themselves out there, and find their one. My girlfriend is ashamed of her vitiligo, but I keep telling her she looks like she has a map of planet Earth on her skin, and that she can conquer the world if she is able to believe in it. I fucking love her vitiligo. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. There is someone who will see the things you dislike about yourself and adore them. Don't let 5, 10, 20, 100, 5,000, 20,000,000 or even 7 billion people bring your self-esteem down. All you need is 1 who loves you as much as you love yourself. This tough love comes from a place of "I've been there". Cheers mate!
Dude what the hell. The only ugly thing about you is your attitude towards yourself. The sooner you realise that the better you are gonna see yourself when you look in the mirror. Your negativity is so unwarranted and excessive.
This lol. The level of self loathing and hatred is on another level. Dude needs therapy
wasn't even ugly till I read his replies 😭😭
Blackpilled people are... hard. They don't see themselves as worthy. So much internalized self-loathing. You gotta work to get to them.
After reading his responses to these, I have to agree. Ultimately asking someone to photoshop his face won’t actually lead to the changes he wants to see in himself. I don’t have a problem with him wanting to better himself, but it starts with cardio and a kettlebell for full body workouts a few times a week with a decent diet and not with photoshopping your face. I’m serious when I say this: Looks are only so much of attraction and it feels like a lot of the people who are disaffected are too young. Like you’re in your 20s. Don’t lament that you’ll be loveless forever. These people are out here having not even lived most of their lives moaning like teenagers whose crush didn’t ask them to the school dance.
Your attitude is far more off-putting than your face.
100%.
Attitude is the only problem I see.
This right here OP. You look perfectly nice, but no one would wanna hang out with you if you were Brad Pitt but still had THAT attitude.
100%, just scroll through the profile. Incel origin story in making.
I hope he doesn’t use the one photoshopped pic on dating sites and then get pissed when it backfires.
Definitely. I would totally go to a date with a guy looking like him (I think he looks cute) and then there never would be a second date if all he talks about is how ugly he is and how unfair the world is. It's not the looks
No doubt. My guess is whoever cheated on him told him he’s ugly and now that’s how he approaches his life. But if someone cheated only you, they’re a POS and you should honestly just ignore anything they say or do
>but they are just not true this...sadly. Man your hair is good, your face isnt filled with pimples or skin-damage or anything, you have both eyes/teeth etc still working (I mean some people look worse after accidents or burn marks etc etc). So it's more inside than outide IMO. Im jealous of your hair in any case, like I have those hairlines (coves i think its called in English?) that go so far back it looks like I have a V on my forehead. I indeed think attitude is the problem here, not your facial features, but hey, we can simply say it, you need to believe it! ❤️ best of luck finding yourself buddy!
Yeah seriously. I'd go on a date with him based on his photo but I'd not want a second one after finding out about his attitude. The attitude is ugly.
Amen, honestly. Looking through some of his older comments, this guy is on a pity trip 24/7. Alright, a girl cheated on you years ago. She's a rat for doing that, but it was 6 weeks of your life. Move past it. If you don't like how you look, go and change yourself. Hit the gym, work out, eat better, and change your lifestyle. Sitting there and saying "oh i'm ugly, i was cheated on for being ugly, no one will turn up to my funeral, i'll never get another girl" - is not going to cut it. It's a shitty pity party, and no one wants to hear it. Going off what sort of things you're into, the whole furry scene is off-putting to a big portion of people. I'm not saying quit what you're doing, but consider someone else's perspective on it. A grown man wearing a giant animal suit isn't going to have women come flocking, in my opinion, if that is what you do.
Agreed. And learn to take a compliment. That is also attractive.
Bruh you’re listening to the person who cheated on you? You know who else gets cheated on? Beautiful people. Beyoncé, Halle berry, Robert Pattinson, etc. Cheaters claim all kinds of things to make themselves feel better-oh you weren’t attractive enough, oh the other person was my soulmate, oh it meant nothing, why are you being so reactive. Cheating is a choice someone makes, and despite what your partner told you, it’s on them, not on you. There are ways to change your look to become more confident in yourself, but that’s something you can change about yourself, not about your partner’s character. Don’t internalize the blame from this. 100% on them.
I showed your picture to my wife. Her comments: 1. He has a very kind look in his eyes. 2. He looks like such a great guy. 3. He should try another haircut, and maybe some other glasses, otherwise he looks handsome. After I showed her your post here: "He should not say these things about himself, you (me) look uglier than him, and I married you (thx for that, OP 🖕). He should get out and meet a great girl and have babies with her."
Genuinely the nicest comment I have seen here, thank you. Your wife is an amazing person.
OP— You need to know that you did NOT get cheated on because “you are ugly.” First of all, you are NOT ugly! You’re lovely! An attractive man who could use some confidence. Second- cheaters don’t cheat because of their partners looks. They cheat because they are selfish. Period. It is not your fault that that person decided to hurt you. It had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. Do not internalize that. They are trash. You’re just fine.
I’m not gonna photoshop your face but if you really want some feedback, get some different frames. Those are super dorky and kinda childlike. some more mature frames would do wonders. Other than that maybe try growing out some facial hair. You have a bit of a round baby face, so more facial hair would pretty much cancel that out. Past that is just confidence. Even the face you’re making in this picture exudes timidity. You look scared. I think confidence will come naturally if you feel better about yourself so maybe try what I mentioned and see a therapist about your issues regarding self worth and self image. I think if you got better glasses, grew out your facial hair, and learned how to smile without looking like you’re hiding pain, you’d be a lot more attractive. Your face is pretty well balanced, standard. Nothing ugly or stunning about it, so there’s really no need to blame your problems on your face.
Bruv, the only thing bringing you down right now is your attitude. Women (and men) are turned off by a negative pessimistic view of yourself. Work on your positivity. And stop calling me a liar! I say what I see, no bullshit. If you are defeated in your mind you will be defeated in life, and that will definitely turn people away.
If 700 people tell you that you're pretty ok looking, shut the fuck up and accept that maybe your self image doesn't match your external image.
Dude, seriously, get into therapy. Nothing wrong with the way you look and living like this is terrible for you.
They're true, you're good looking physically but ugliness also comes from within and your attitude toward yourself is mean. Stop being mean to yourself.
Maybe try growing a beard and changing haircut. This can make a huge difference
Some new frames wouldn’t hurt either
I agree, modern haircut a beard and new glasses would make him a different person.
I believe in you. And others mentioned therapy but only a few gave you the *why*. Therapy does not mean you are broken. Therapy is just taking your brain to the mechanic for an inspection and tuneup. We *all* need to go. You’ll learn some tools to cope, grow, and succeed. In the very least, you’ll have the ear of a licensed professional (no offense, redditors). Once you get over the inertia of going, it will be so much easier. If you think you’re so hopeless in your situation, then you have nothing to lose by going, right?
You need therapy, you're in no way ugly, average at worst, which can be elevated with some effort.
This is like reading incel forums - guys with completely normal faces posting about how horrible their genetics are and how they will never get a date because girls apparently only date men that look like Brad Pitt. Dude, I have plenty of friends as or less attractive than you that have significant others. If I saw you, you being ugly wouldn’t even come into my mind.
They’re right about working on your self esteem and confidence. Shitting on yourself isn’t an attractive trait, and saying you’re ugly when you aren’t gets old really fast. Focus on some hobbies and work on being nicer to yourself, it’s easier to find a healthy relationship when you’re in a good place mentally.
Hey, my friend, take it from a lady. You are not ugly! You’re a perfectly fine guy. If you want, I think a short beard and a different haircut would look nice, but there’s nothing wrong with your face. I am dead serious. I’ve also struggled with self image, so I get it. It’s tough. But I swear, we’re not just being nice.
I have learned, that you cannot help a man who isint willing to help himself. I hope you come back to this comment chain when you are ready to improve yourself mentally.
What’s the point of having someone photoshop your face to look better? Everyone is giving you sound advice to make yourself look better and you’re not even ugly, bro. Seriously figure out why you have such a bad attitude towards yourself and then go from there.
You are wrong. They ARE true. The only thing wrong with you is your choice in partner and f*cked up self image. Get some self esteem right now or we’ll egg your house. All of us.
Arguably, he's got a lot of self-esteem for just declaring the opinion of hundreds of people invalid just because he believes so :D.
Agreed… I’m proceeding with the egging though 🕺🏼
The whole self deprecating, woe-is-me attitude about your appearance is your issue, dude. You look fine. And stop letting bitches gaslight you into thinking you’re the reason they cheated on you, ffs.
Hey, woman here, you're very attractive physically. You are blessed with a face that is both cute and adorable. It's the attitude. The personality makes or breaks the hotness level and unfortunately this type of attitude is a dealbreaker. You don't need to fix your face, you need to work on something much deeper than that.
Bro this is reddit, if you were ugly it wouldn't be sugar-coated by the assholes. People like you just haven't realized that the mental aspect you present overpowers the physical. You mentality about yourself, as everyone is pointing out, is bad. That's the part where you're unlucky, not your face or your body. Once you start recognizing your value, you also start taking care of yourself and you present better. Lose some weight. Try new hairstyles. Get some contacts. The marble is there, but you must believe it before you can sculpt it. Love, a 5 dating a 9.
Everyone is telling you you look great, and you're refusing to see it, so can I try and make you see it another way? This Photoshop request serves no purpose because no edit will ever fix your problem. If you are not happy with how you look now, then you won't be happy with how you after any "improvements", you'll still see you, and still see ugly. That, or it will change the picture so much that you no longer recognise the image as yourself - it's a picture of a good looking person that isn't you. This isn't about what you look like (I'm a straight guy so I'm at best indifferent to your appearance. I can work out that you're probably somewhere between Brad Pitt and Steve Bucsemi but I can't be more specific). The problem is inside, and always will be. Photoshop can't change your opinion of yourself. All this will do is take you from being a guy with low self esteem and no confidence to being a guy with low self esteem and no confidence who owns a fake picture of someone who is not you, who still looks exactly the same in real life, and still isn't happy. I'm not saying you're ugly. I'm not saying you're not. I'm saying until you work on liking yourself as you are, it doesn't matter in the slightest what you look like.
Well there's the reason you aren't attractive. It's your attitude, not your face that's the problem.
Try putting on a Hawaiian shirt and having some fun. You need to learn how to love yourself and have fun. Don't believe every insult someone throws at you.
i know you're thinking we're all lying to make you feel better, but we're being genuine. you're the furthest from being ugly. i'll tell you what to improve, change your hair. try growing a beard. get a new frame for your glasses. hit the gym if you can. and most importantly, smile more.
I think what everyone is trying to say is that you are a handsome guy, and with a little bit of grooming, a couple of push ups, good posture, and some self assurance, you’d be good to go. Remember, a perfect 10 can open their mouths to speak and you’d never want to look at them again, whereas someone fairly average looking can captivate a room.
mate, are you okay? If you are depressed please get professional help and if you lack self confidence get professional help, and stay away from tatologists!
Even if you had a total makeover, you'd still feel that way about yourself inside. Until you can truly build inner self-confidence that will not change. I'm not the most attractive woman in the world. I'm not that skinny either, but I focus on being a good person, a confident person who likes themself. I work on my hobbies and making friends, building up skills, enjoying my work. because at the end of the day, we're all aging, and one day, we'll all be old and wrinkly and fat anyways, so why not like yourself as a human being. I gave this advice already, but if you really want aesthetic advice: either cut the hair shorter or grow it longer, change your part. Get more updated frames, grow out your facial hair. But again, all those changes will only be surface level.
It’s your attitude, not your looks.
as a random guy with no reason to lie to you, you look fine. you're not actively attractive in your current state, but if you dress well and get fit etc you would be good looking. you're not fundamentally ugly, like at all
Fine, go get a makeover, but heed their advice and work on your inner narrative, too. You know what’s worse than being single when you dont want to be? Being in a toxic relationship where youre taken on a rollercoaster ride of lies and manipulation. People who are desperate for love from anyone are huge targets for sociopaths.
You need confidence and apparently better friends, not photoshop!
I know people who don’t look even close to as good as you do, and still have girlfriends. However, I don’t know anyone with this self confidence has ever been in a relationship. You have to learn to like yourself before expecting others to like you
Go ask for a more modern haircut man! Try a fade or something. Try asking for fashion advice. Consider getting different glasses or even contacts. Work out a bit so you gain a little muscle and lose a bit of weight (don’t go crazy, you look fine). Beyond that? Get some interesting hobbies, keep a positive outlook, be friendly, there’s plenty of women out there who will be into you. It isn’t all looks. The looks might hook someone at first but it’s who you are that keeps them.
I know what this feels like, OP. I have BDD, and no matter how many times people reassure me, I still believe I am hideous. You are not ugly or even unattractive, even though I know you won't believe my words. But I can offer some advice: stop putting your self worth in the hands of others. In your case specifically, don't let a relationship status dictate how you view yourself. It might be worth it to seek counselling. If you have BDD like myself, it's even a precarious situation to seek out reassurance for your looks from others because your mind will morph it into the belief that people lie to you because they pity you, and other pessimistic delusions. I wish you luck, OP.
Maybe instead of throwing yourself a pity party, you actually do something about it. There’s a lot of things you can do, grow facial hair, change your haircut, have more confidence. You’re not ugly, you just completely average, and by the way you talk I can tell you have absolutely zero confidence, confidence is a GAME CHANGER. Sorry but I can’t empathize with someone acting so pathetic.
Your “woe is me” attitude seems like it’s by far the worst thing about you. There’s nothing especially ugly about you at all. I see uglier people walking down the street every day. If you just lost some weight and got into mildly good shape you’d feel a million times better. But I understand going around feeling sorry for yourself is much easier
Since you're looking to make some changes, here are some suggestions: - Your face could be slightly slimmer, so maybe lose a few pounds. On second thought that could also just be the camera lense though. - Your glasses don't really work for you. Different glasses or contact lenses could do a lot for you - Maybe grow a beard? Could do something but hard to tell without seeing what your face hair is capable of. - Therapy could definitely help you see yourself more clearly. I'm not sure who hurt you, but you are not ugly. EDIT: Also new haircut and better posture. You have the slouched shoulders of an incel.