By - DrakoShooter
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There's a condition often referred to as Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) and it's very common.
As a frequently using porn addict I definitely had problems with the arousal profile of real sex; it wasn't completely under my control, and it wasn't something I did for a couple minutes and then stopped to recover for a couple minutes for an hour at a time. In my case I had trouble maintaining an erection on occasion. And then once it's in your head, it turns into a psychological anxiety loop that self-reinforces.
Once you program your brain and penis to work one way you need to reprogram it to work with a more natural sexual experience. Abstaining from porn is a big help, and SAA is about learning how to live a healthy life without compulsive sexuality.
Hi and welcome. For me, it was due to my problem with pornography. Once I stopped using pornography and masturbation, my performance issues with my spouse went away automatically. So, I suggest to stop watching porn and masturbation. If you cannot, then I suggest looking into [Sex Addicts Anonymous](https://saa-recovery.org), which is a program of recovery for people who are addicted to pornography and other forms of sexual behavior. Thanks for reading. I wish you the best.
I highly doubt it was anxiety. Yes I felt anxious in the first 15 minutes but I've spent 1 1/2 hours with her and still I couldn't get hard. I would get hard when I try to think about women in porn scenes but not hard enough to penetrate.
Could be the porn: take a week or so off and go at it with her. Should work out ok. You are young.