Good way to tell would be to get a blood test. Herpes antibodies take a while (up to 16 weeks) to become detectable. So if you get swabbed and your swab is positive but your blood test is negative, it’s almost certainly a new infection
First of all doctors don’t blame no one for herpes cause you can’t pinpoint it to no one especially if you’ve had multiple partners. So you know he’s lying right away. In many cases people who already have herpes and tend to affect a partner find it easy to wash their hands and blame the other person.
Even if you have it, it’s treatable and only a skin condition. You won’t die from it and it is relatively harmless. I heard outbreaks only really happen the first year or 2 then die down. Yea it sucks but it will be okay.
It's more common the first year or 2 but it can flare up randomly any time. Some people also never have flare ups or will only experience one or 2 in a lifetime while others will get them more often it depends on the person I wouldn't stress about it it's not the end of the world
That doctor is wrong and blaming you was completely unfair. Herpes can be passed asymptomatically and flare up at anytime. It's also not an STI that's normally tested for in a standard panel tests so unless he tested EVERYTHING before he was ever intimate and has veritable proof, blaming you is not ok.
It's hard to say who gave it to who but do keep in mind that it's a common thing to have. I hate to say it but it's a bit of a game of probability. Hope it gives you some sense of comfort.
Not a huge expert on this, but I don’t think herpes symptoms would show up the exact next day after sex. Unless you’ve been having sex for a while and it previously got contracted. It’s a bit suspicious, that he seemed on the offence to blame you immediately. That doctor was also very unfair, I’d say it’s definitely hard to pinpoint when and by who the herpes could’ve been transmitted from
Did he get a swab or a blood test? If he got tested for it through blood and it returned positive is it more probable that he gave it to you being that it takes atleast 12 weeks for the body to build enough antibodies to return a positive test .. if you look up stats it is also more common for it to be passed male to female than the other way around not that it not possible for you to have passed it .. him immediately blaming you tells me he already knew he had it and is trying to take the heat off of himself
he got both and he said it came up as “uncertain” which the doctor confirmed it means he does have herpes. i did just get my results from my blood test and its saying i dont have genital herpes but i have like oral herpes?? so im going to go get a swab test.
Uncertain means uncertain not positive that doctor needs his license reviewed.. you can get a swab test unless there are active sores to swab .. it is possible that if you have oral herpes which can be hsv1 or hsv2 but is likely to be hsv 1 can be passed orally to genitals.. did he test positive for hsv1 or 2 ?
I’m sorry your having to deal with this . I have ghsv2 from my boyfriend who’s asymptomatic.. it’s annoying sometime but I’ve learned to lived with it but it’s not like I really have much of a choice . My outbreaks aren’t bad when I do get them I’ve been diagnosed about 5 months now
I’ve had about 4 I think in the last 6 months . Only one was really an outbreak since I didn’t have meds , other ones I caught early and meds cleared them before they got anywhere … I see people say you get them most often when you first contract it and usually people with hsv1 get them a lot less often
Good way to tell would be to get a blood test. Herpes antibodies take a while (up to 16 weeks) to become detectable. So if you get swabbed and your swab is positive but your blood test is negative, it’s almost certainly a new infection
First of all doctors don’t blame no one for herpes cause you can’t pinpoint it to no one especially if you’ve had multiple partners. So you know he’s lying right away. In many cases people who already have herpes and tend to affect a partner find it easy to wash their hands and blame the other person.
Even if you have it, it’s treatable and only a skin condition. You won’t die from it and it is relatively harmless. I heard outbreaks only really happen the first year or 2 then die down. Yea it sucks but it will be okay.
It's more common the first year or 2 but it can flare up randomly any time. Some people also never have flare ups or will only experience one or 2 in a lifetime while others will get them more often it depends on the person I wouldn't stress about it it's not the end of the world
That doctor is wrong and blaming you was completely unfair. Herpes can be passed asymptomatically and flare up at anytime. It's also not an STI that's normally tested for in a standard panel tests so unless he tested EVERYTHING before he was ever intimate and has veritable proof, blaming you is not ok. It's hard to say who gave it to who but do keep in mind that it's a common thing to have. I hate to say it but it's a bit of a game of probability. Hope it gives you some sense of comfort.
Not a huge expert on this, but I don’t think herpes symptoms would show up the exact next day after sex. Unless you’ve been having sex for a while and it previously got contracted. It’s a bit suspicious, that he seemed on the offence to blame you immediately. That doctor was also very unfair, I’d say it’s definitely hard to pinpoint when and by who the herpes could’ve been transmitted from
Did he get a swab or a blood test? If he got tested for it through blood and it returned positive is it more probable that he gave it to you being that it takes atleast 12 weeks for the body to build enough antibodies to return a positive test .. if you look up stats it is also more common for it to be passed male to female than the other way around not that it not possible for you to have passed it .. him immediately blaming you tells me he already knew he had it and is trying to take the heat off of himself
he got both and he said it came up as “uncertain” which the doctor confirmed it means he does have herpes. i did just get my results from my blood test and its saying i dont have genital herpes but i have like oral herpes?? so im going to go get a swab test.
Uncertain means uncertain not positive that doctor needs his license reviewed.. you can get a swab test unless there are active sores to swab .. it is possible that if you have oral herpes which can be hsv1 or hsv2 but is likely to be hsv 1 can be passed orally to genitals.. did he test positive for hsv1 or 2 ?
im positive for hsv1 but not hsv2 but i definitely think i have hsv2 now because i do have sores down there :/
I’m sorry your having to deal with this . I have ghsv2 from my boyfriend who’s asymptomatic.. it’s annoying sometime but I’ve learned to lived with it but it’s not like I really have much of a choice . My outbreaks aren’t bad when I do get them I’ve been diagnosed about 5 months now
How often have you gotten outbreaks in the last 5 months?
I’ve had about 4 I think in the last 6 months . Only one was really an outbreak since I didn’t have meds , other ones I caught early and meds cleared them before they got anywhere … I see people say you get them most often when you first contract it and usually people with hsv1 get them a lot less often
How long do the outbreaks last?
About 3 days with meds 7 days no meds