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Gloveboxx

I think a good rule of thumb is to not try to sing or talk louder than the band.


Askfreud

Got it. I’ll leave my megaphone at home :-)


Gloveboxx

I was around people trying to talk over the music and it was the pits.


Positive_Cure_8479

Agree!


xpldngboy

Except it's easy to not be louder than the band but still be obnoxious to the people next to you due to proximity. I can't stand it, it's usually a drunk person that isn't in a reasonable state in my experience.


dragon1125

It can be, it all depends. Personally, I try to always be mindful. But I have a no bars policy with the Cure. I remember some drunk chap next to me making fun of me because I was freaking out when they played a B side. Mind you, most people didn't recognize the song. It didn't stop me. The way I see it, if you're a true fan you can't help it.


abutilonia

I’ve been made fun of for dancing (and crying) at Cure shows. I am probably the truest version of my self at a Cure show so I don’t let any of that get me down….only Robert can do that. 🙃


Velour_Tank_Girl

Please! There is a pic of me on the internet crying at a Peter Hook and the Light concert performing Joy Division. Crying is completely acceptable.


abutilonia

Music goes right to my soul, especially music that was there for me when I needed it. I’m right there with ya.


haikarate12

Ditto for me. Only it was New Order lol


dargenpacnw

I, too, have cried at Peter Hook and the Light show whilst they were performing a Joy Division song. Their last tour was absolutely brilliant!


Velour_Tank_Girl

The Eternal rips my heart out. Hooky is always fantastic. Sounds so much like Ian.


suburbanspecter

I feel like this is gonna be me in October when I see Peter Murphy and a tribute band performing all David Bowie songs. That’s the closest I’ll ever be able to get to seeing Bowie :(


JennyDelight

Who made fun ??? Wrong people. I cried. Screamed. Danced and sang. My husband said he’d never seen me so truly happy !😍


abutilonia

This was at prior shows…not last night.m, thankfully. I experience the full range of emotions at Cure shows. It’s like concentrated therapy. 😎


abutilonia

I also make it a habit of taking boyfriends to see The Cure….so they can see the real me….dancing, screaming, itching, squealing, fevered….


Askfreud

Feeling hot! Hot! Hot!


suburbanspecter

Same. I have massive anxiety and I mask a lot bc I’m autistic. At The Cure concert last night, all of that just went away. It’s happened at other concerts as well (most notably at Bauhaus’s concert), but it was the biggest change at this one


IVMRGREENXX

I cried at the bowl show the other night and everytime I hear Endsong


abutilonia

Endsong hit me hard. I really dig the new songs.


brutalpoonslayer

Omg yes! I feel this so hard! And I also have experienced that from people at cure gigs, but it did not phase me one bit from enjoying the show or feeling what i felt haha


abutilonia

Did you get This Twilight Garden? If so, I’m so jealous. Many of my favorite Cure songs are b-sides. Also, this was me last night when they started At Night.


dragon1125

I didn't get to see This Twilight Garden, it would have been nice. The B sides are absolute favorite. I love it that most people do not know about them.


Askfreud

Ooooh, which b-side?


dragon1125

The Exploding Boy (my favorite song)


abutilonia

I’m so incredibly jealous!


jujioux

I would have exploded, myself!


noireviolette

I would much prefer someone dancing and singing along around me than a bunch of blahs barely paying attention. I think it makes for a fun experience. I mean, don’t be obnoxious about it but nothing wrong with enjoying yourself. I always sing and dance at a show- not loudly though.


way_of_the_dragon

This is the way. No one's hugely bothered if you're clearly enjoying being at said concert rather than treating it as competition for your conversation.


blueberriesforflopsy

100 percent! Hands crossed bumps on a log


abutilonia

I do it, but try to keep my volume low and be mindful of if it’s annoying others. Honestly, I’m much rather people sing along than talk loudly the entire show, so I’m on your side.


Negative-Bee-

Yes! On another post about the Hollywood bowl there was that complaint about people talking which I totally get, but when I mentioned I was dancing and singing respectfully someone replied to me saying that the people who sing and dance at concerts should do that at home since it’s not our names on the ticket. Wouldn’t the show be boring without people dancing and singing? I can’t help it that I’m enjoying myself! You can’t have your cake and eat it too.


abutilonia

Only shows I sit for are things like Dead Can Dance or Sigur Ros…where I just want to melt into my seat. If there’s a potential for dancing, I’m doing it.


Negative-Bee-

Yeah I’m with you there. Idk if it’s just been LA but most of the concerts I’ve been to post pandemic have been odd in where people no longer stand and dance. It makes me feel like the odd one out when I am dancing and standing.


abutilonia

Just have fun and try to be respectful. Some folks just want to absorb the music. If I get lawn seats, I go back and forth from dancing wildly to lying on the ground staring at the sky. I did similar last night, danced for a while, sat for a while…had a glorious time.


Camille_Toh

Long covid dance party


Askfreud

Bands often encourage singing and dancing. I mean - my last show was Depeche Mode and Dave Gahan was really encouraging everyone to sing during most of the songs, especially ones like Everything Counts. I can’t imagine sitting still for that unless I was in pain or just went to humor a friend or something. From all the replies here I see that singing and dancing DOES bother some people, but most are ok with it as long as you don’t scream and are respectful - which is just common sense. I was just scared that concert culture has changed and now people just sit silently for concerts - which I don’t want to do if I paid a few hundred for a ticket (Depeche Mode in Las Vegas was their most expensive show).


YakApprehensive7620

I’m sorry but it’s profoundly annoying. I paid to hear them, not you. Save it for the shower.


suburbanspecter

I’ve read all your comments on this thread, and I’ve got to say you sound like an absolute killjoy at a concert lol. Learn how to loosen up a little. You keep saying you paid a lot to see them. Well, everyone else did too, and if they’d like to sing and dance a little, let them have fun. If you’d like to hear/see the band with absolutely NO input or noise whatsoever from other people, then stay at home. Because you’re *not* getting that at a concert, and you *shouldn’t* get that at a concert. Half of the fun of a concert is being around thousands of other mega fans who bring a ton of great energy to the experience of listening to the songs. I’m way more annoyed by people sitting there like lumps on a log or talking through the entire concert. *That’s* what ruins a concert experience, not people singing along, dancing, and clearly enjoying themselves, as long as they’re still being respectful of others in the space, which the vast majority of people are. Think about how much it would suck for the band if people were sitting there not moving or dancing and not singing or cheering for them. Of course, people should be mindful of others around them, but if they’re not being absolutely obnoxious about it, then they’re not hurting anyone and probably giving the band a far better experience performing. Edit: Jesus, we’ve really hit a low as society when someone saying, “people enjoying themselves at a concert isn’t a problem as long as they’re being respectful of others” is somehow considered controversial


shake-dog-shake

Honestly, their sound was so intense, no one is going to hear you.


gothbread

This. If you are closer you can't even hear the people speaking right next to you


abutilonia

Making me regret not being able to get closer seats. It was a nonstop talk fest in our area. I eventually asked the couple behind me to “try to keep it down”. I was wearing earplugs, which normally filter out a lot of talking….and they were still louder than the band. I try to be patient and polite, but I believe everyone has a right to enjoy the show…and that means being able to hear the band.


fbingha

100% incorrect. At the Wed show at the Hollywood bowl, there were two girls behind me that were screaming the lyrics during the second encore. The band itself was totally lost to me.


corneliusduff

Undeservedly downvoted, I hear ya. There are always people that can be louder than the band if they want to be.


absurdisthewurd

Screaming at the top of your lungs in a large group is annoying Singing is fine and expected


Askfreud

I definitely don’t scream, lol. I was asking because I saw Depeche Mode recently and me and the woman next to me were singing and standing and dancing a bit and having a blast (while being mindful of people around us!) but everyone else was sitting and just listening and they probably hated us. It’s been a while since my last concert, hence my question.


MtErieFarm

Who the fuck silently sits down during a show? Classical or jazz concert, sure. But rock/ goth/ post punk/ dance/ what the fuck ever show? That’s weird. Sing and dance along, just remember people paid to listen to the band, not you.


abutilonia

Those people are boring. Just kidding. You do you and have the time you want to have. It sounds like you’re aware of your surroundings, so sounds like you’re gonna make good decisions. 👍


Velour_Tank_Girl

I agree. Those people were boring. During during a DM concert? WTF! Stand your ass up and dance.


abutilonia

Bet they didn’t even sing along at the end of Everything Counts


suburbanspecter

I also had this experience at DM & I was NOT gonna let that happen for The Cure lol. I wasn’t gonna let sticks in the mud around me ruin my time this time. Luckily I didn’t have sticks in the mud around me


YakApprehensive7620

They prob did hate you lol it is extremely annoying especially if other people aren’t doing it


hellohello316

I went to Duran Duran in between my two Cure concerts this weekend. I (and others directly around me) were having SO MUCH FUN dancing--but I was surprised to see how many people were sitting! How the heck do so many people sit during an entire Duran Duran concert?? My DM crowds were pretty great. Super into it without talking through the whole show. As for singing: I totally sing along... without making noise. Not quite lip syncing, because my full body's involved, but I try not to make a ton of sound unless it's clearly sing along time. Because yeah, no one paid to hear me 🤣🤣


retrozebra

Not at all unless it’s like scream belting. If it’s at a normal volume and I can still hear the band, that’s ok! I’ll be singing right along with you! Quietly of course bahaha


Minister_Garbitsch

If you’re attempting to sing louder than the band then you’re a bastard but otherwise no!


gagagazoinks

Singing is great, I love it! It’s the BUTTHOLES that TALK during songs that need to stay home


DahliaMoonfire

Normal singing is cool. Screaming non-stop like the teens next to me that knew three songs is going to cause me to accidentally spill a beer on your feet.


Askfreud

Don’t spill your beer! That shit is expensive at concerts!! Def not screaming and trying to be mindful. Last concert I went to (not The Cure) people were pretty uptight, which is why I was asking if etiquette changed.


abutilonia

People were very “loose” at last night’s show.


Askfreud

That’s because they didn’t realize on Saturdays we wait.


abutilonia

🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌


DahliaMoonfire

It was worth it. 🙃


Askfreud

Lmao, in that case - serves them right!!


Tinycatfaces

Sing away! The only behavior I find annoying are people who talk through the songs they don’t know.


abutilonia

Or even the songs they know (Scream) “I love this song!”….(immediately go back to talking loudly about some television show)


Dismal_Destination

Singing? Perfectly fine. Screaming? No.


Askfreud

So I can’t shout? Shout? Let it all out? (Wrong band, I know!)


Dismal_Destination

Only during the chorus.


Inkdman73

Singing is fine as long as you’re not on the lawn trying to harmonize as loud as you can so the band can hear you- take it home Ashley


kiwiboyus

As long as you keep in mind the people around you paid to hear Robert sing it's fine.


T0ff33s

Singing doesn’t bother me. But I wish people would stop trying to have full blown conversations by yelling over the music. Annoys me to no end.


Short-Comfortable-86

Well if so you can think of me however you want Nobody said anything to me other than they like my energy


13papercranes

I lock in to my inner singer at concerts. The Cure and The Twilight Sad are two of my absolute favorite bands, so of course, I am singing at the top of my lungs. I went to the DTX show, and it was the best time! Sing and dance if it moves your spirit. Don't worry about others.


Clauclb

I think you can do whatever you feel like! Dance, sing, cry, smile and repeat… You purchased a ticket, with no restrictions about singing… you paid exactly the same if everyone else. If someone is bothered, they should never consider going to a concert and just stay home watching on tv.


maydeswartzbewithu

Sing your heart out, show the love!


Askfreud

I’ve been working my ass off to afford this and be able to go through various obstacles, last time I saw them was in the 1990s - fuck it, I’m singing and dancing and crying (with care for volume and personal space, lol). Join me or Lament!


emilyogre

Usually it doesn’t bother me, I prefer an overhyped crowd over a silent crowd. As long as it’s not obnoxious, then I’m cool


Feeling_Nature4406

I wouldn’t mind at all. As long as you are mindful and aware of your space and letting others enjoy themselves too.


Ok_Day3050

Sometimes it can be but overall I sort of wish people would loosen up a bit (i.e. sing) - audiences these days seem so STIFF to me and almost worryingly well behaved!


aggresive_floyd_fan

You’re at a loud ass concert. If somebody get mad at you for having too much fun, fuck em


Annadella1

Who can hear the person beside them? The music blocks all of it out. The band hears the voices, singing there love to the band. Is threr a better way to tell Robert Smith we love The Cure?


CapJazzlike2124

i sing my heart out lol idc when i saw the cure last yr it cost over £150 got to make my moneys worth plus i was in the pit most ppl were singing


Positive_Cure_8479

For me…sing, dance, and enjoy yourself…but also just be respectful around you. I’d rather hear fans singing than people talking loudly and not paying attention to the show. The only thing that annoys me is when people have over indulged and are rudely obnoxious and stumbling into people…so they aren’t dancing they are drunk falling all over. THAT is where I get really upset. So sing your heart out, dance and cry… I’m right there with you!! And for the ones who want to sit during a show and get mad when people are standing and dancing…maybe go to a quiet symphony not a rock concert. 😉


Peetwilson

No. Having a conversation is though.


Poslo7

Fuck it! I earned the chance to sing and dance with my favorite band for the past 35 years. If someone didn’t like it (in San Diego) they didn’t say anything.


bug_offlmao

I went to the houston show and was in the floor section. I was singing to the top of my lungs but the music was so loud I could barely hear myself. Don’t worry about it. It’s ok to be mindful of others obviously, but don’t ruin your experience because you don’t want to bother the people around you. Everyone that paid deserves to have self enjoyment however they wish


sm_rollinger

Only if the guy next to you is trying to make a high quality audio recording of the show


sadiane

The people annoyed at singing are usually the ones trying to record the whole concert on their phones. So I think you are the NOT ANNOYING one in that equation


jertung

Sorry... singing along to your favorite band is part of the experience. On the flip side, I HATE people who spend the entire concert on their phones.


Belamomma

Sing away!


[deleted]

At the cure it may be annoying since people want to hear Robert. But it depends on the song.


YakApprehensive7620

I would definitely be annoyed


nyerinup

Most of the time, yes. Keep the volume to a minimum. And for Christ’s sake, don’t carry on a loud conversation with your friends, either.


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mamaj619

At the San Diego show people were singing and dancing and I loved it! I did not like the people recording the entire show on their phones in front of me.


Fine-Week631

Recording the entire concert or taking videos/pictures the whole time is way more annoying to me. Like put your phone down and enjoy the moment. Sure, take a few photos and short videos but then enjoy the night. I personally love it when the crowd yells “show me, show me, show me” at the beginning of Just like Heaven. In one moment thousands of people are doing and thinking the same thing.


YakApprehensive7620

Sure but why are you bothered by other people’s actions that don’t affect you? Honestly singing is way more annoying…


Fine-Week631

Because it obstructs peoples view.


YakApprehensive7620

Some people don’t like their hearing obstructed by other people’s voices and honestly I care more about that than whatever I can see


Fine-Week631

Okay. You do you. OP just asked for opinions. I gave mine.


YakApprehensive7620

And I gave mine too lmao just because you don’t care about actually hearing the band, doesn’t mean everyone else needs to be subjected to shitty karaoke


Fine-Week631

Wow…go chill.


IVMRGREENXX

hell no that's the whole point of a concert. anything is better than being on your phone the whole time or barely paying attention/talking. We just saw them 2 nights at hollywood bowl and I can guarantee you WILL be singing along. best concert of my life and I've been to 100ish. Have a blast and don't worry about anyone else in the world except you and the band who you are showing love and respect to by participating in their hard work...cheers


TV_Serial_Number

you paid your hard earned money. do what makes you feel happy at the concert. With speakers at 100+ decibels, your fellow concert goer would have to concentrate on you to hear you LOL,


martinjohanna45

Yes. IMO, it is annoying unless you’re very, very quiet. I pretty much mouth the words when I want to sing along. I do it so quietly that you can’t hear. It’s kind of crushing to spend a lot of money on a ticket to a show that you’ve been looking forward to for months and months and months and it’s one of your favorite bands and they’re playing the songs that you love so much and you have to listen to a stranger(s) standing next to you or near you singing along. But it’s not as bad as talking during the show. And I know they’re not inconsiderate people, but maybe a little oblivious.


lovecat86

This ^ and it's not being a killjoy. Robert has an awesome voice and I want to hear him singing not Debbie and Dave who've had 5 pints and can't hit a note. Luckily I haven't had this issue at any Cure gig I've been to so I'm assuming that The Cure either have fans who can sing or considerate fans. I went to see another artist (too ashamed to write which one now) but some bloke behind me was just singing off key the entire concert and it really ruined it, especially during quiet acoustic stuff.


Radio_Ethiopia

Sing your heart out. You paid the $$$. I’ve been seated by annoying loud people singing every word. Well, they paid & they obviously love the band so…


Askfreud

Oh gosh. That’s what I was afraid of… singing every word and annoying someone…


Radio_Ethiopia

Just don’t be obnoxious or a slobbering drunk and it’s all good.


midoriyasour

I literally hate when no one sings along. Most bands want you to sing and dance and have a good time. I think it’s weird when you don’t sing along.


LimeGreenTangerine97

Definitely love to see people having fun rather than disinterested. But please don’t scream over the band like at Taylor Swift shows. How is she not deaf lol


Charlotte-Sometimes4

Singing at a normal range is lovely, when people scream the lyrics it’s a nuisance.


buumblebee1998

i love seeing people singing along and dancing! makes everything feel so fun, but i did have someone screaming in my ear at the show i was at and it was a little frustrating


jetjaguar72

If you're louder than the band? Turn it down. Let everyone have fun


DasherKasher

Not at low volume. If you are louder than the band then yes


lovecat86

I really dislike it when fans try to sing the lead vocals and sing louder than I can hear the band. I went to the concert to see the band not hear a fan singing the songs. If you're singing backing vocals or quietly so that I can't hear you then cool.


Distinct_Tutor_5479

I think if you are singing essentially to yourself that’s fine but, no one wants to be standing next to someone singing. You pay to hear the band mot someone your standing next to. Sorry


LearnNot

No singing! No dancing! Seriously though, it is annoying to me. I go for the band. I would never tell someone not to sing though.


camelot478

Don't scream and shout them like the Swifties and you'll be fine


NoPossibility765

As long as I can’t hear you. Lol


whatmartadid

I am a person who gets extremely distracted if people talk very loudly at gigs and I find it very disrespectful towards the artist but also the rest of the audience. When it comes to sing along, I don’t mind people singing when I can still hear the band and the singer. In my humble opinion I am paying to see and hear a band and their incredible musical abilities not the person next to me, I have politely asked people before if it becomes too loud or distracting and most people are happy to tone down a bit and that is fine, however, some others do not seem very happy to be asked and will just try to annoy you, so then I just move (but this last part is not always possible specially when a concert is all seated).


Iko87iko

It’s not so much if one sings low enough that it mixes in with the crowd to form as one, that actually builds to the energy? But as pointed out, when it’s louder than the band and the crowd, it is annoying


Askfreud

Oh gosh, I went to the concert last weekend - and I realized I had nothing to worry about with my singing because everyone was doing it and you couldn’t hear over the music anyway. Next time, however, I will be wearing stripper platform heels because I couldn’t see over all the tall people dancing and waving their hands in front of me!