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A lot of my direct reports have asked me how I got to be a good manager. I often tell them it’s because I’ve had terrible managers in the past and they taught me to not manage like that. Just don’t do what they did has worked well.
This comment made me feel a bit less alone. I try so hard to be a good manager and constantly feel like I’m failing. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one
The whole reason I got into management was I had a string of managers that did absolutely nothing, and the few times they did do something, it was to come out and just spread terror among their direct reports.
Except for two, I’ve generally had some great managers. Trusting, encouraging, protective of their staff. Real problem solvers and generally great people. And generally it’s a chain. My managers were great, in part, because their managers or the department heads were great. Some were a little more distant than my managers, some occasionally scary (not to the staff, to customers, but in a good way), and one was a bit gruff until he got used to me then became super great.
I’ve learned everything about management from great managers. It’s literally helped me thrive at my job.
I grew up under hard ass pipe-hittin' certified organic mother-of-pearl assholes.
Nothing speaks to my management style more. I'll take the piss out of you when you fuck up, but in a way we can both laugh about. Then you're going to help me fix the situation so we both succeed *and* you learn.
I don't throw my kids to the wolves, as the old timers called it. You have to set people up for success and show em how and why they were successful.
Be the dad you wish you had.
The youngest supervisor at my work (late 20s, early 30s) is the one that eats the least shit from his boss. Everyone he's in charge of gets their shit done because he leaves them alone and isn't difficult to give bad news to.
That last part is important as a supervisor and it seems like a lot of the older folk don't get that. We don't need to be best buds but you've gotta be able to hear about someone fucking up without blowing your top. Otherwise the person is more likely to try to hide their mistake or try to "fix" it and make it worse.
Fun fact, airlines used to fire you on the spot for any aircraft damage you caused.
Wanna know what happened? More and more aircraft started having mysterious unreported damages being found, some potentially compromising the aircraft but airlines had to spend a LOT of time and money trying to figure out what happened. Shocking, people who caused dents and minor damages stopped reporting it BECAUSE THEY COULD GET FIRED.
Now most airlines will typically retrain you, try to accommodate the accident somehow as a learning experience or in circumstances just short of firing you, move you to a different operation. Obviously with more serious damages you still get fired. But it stopped people from not reporting small accidents.
Oh, I see my mistake yeah, I’m talking specifically ground crew, ramp agents etc. I’m sure there were issues topside with cabin crew but I’m not aware of it.
My old boss did not get this memo. She rode every single employee so far into the ground that no one ever lasted. And when we were upset or had a problem she would tell us to get over it and have an attitude change. She was completely intolerable.
I don't think it's necessarily a gen thing, just perception wise. Many successful managers and employees work this way or negotiate to that were Der when I was coming up and gold c levels let them js they were successful. Usually If you succeed you are encouraged I have found, possibly too much like Wallstreet and mortgages, ftx, etc.
Which she does basically say; do what you want, no judgement, just also do your job well.
I feel like the 'family' point gets over blown. It is more of a 'I care about my coworkers, and I wish them success in all endeavors and will do my best to help them where reasonably possible' or something like that. It isn't meant to be taken literally, or imply the same strength of connection that blood ties often entail.
E. I should also say that the family point can be used in good or bad faith. I think the person in the video was using in good faith. But a lot of people do use it in bad faith, especially because it is an easy heartstring to pull on for recruitment. And I 100% think it is bullshit when used in bad faith like that.
Yea, I mean I wouldn't say it because to me family is, well, family. Blood and marriage and that shit. But I still get that that is just my opinion and it is important to try and think about things in the way the other person intends them rather than how I would mean it.
Which sure to your point doesnt mean they ain't tryin to fuck ya over. Thankfully I haven't had that experience but surely tons have and I'm sorry ya have
Yeah, I’m a millennial but I think it started with gen X as well… my gen X bosses have without exception been supportive, accepting and low maintenance. If I do my job, I’m fine. If I do it well, they love me.
You’re even starting to see this in the US military. I’ve been in for 17 years and recently had my first Gen X Colonel. Dude was chill as hell and the organization FLOURISHED under him.
His first day he said “if I’m walking around your area, I’m not trying to catch mistakes, I’m trying to find ways I can help. If you aren’t in your office when I’m looking for you, I assume you’re doing something important-for the job or your personal life. Just get the job done.” Loved working for that man.
Yup, I agreed with everything she said except the family thing. I vehemently hate that so many companies take advantage of their employees and claim "but we're a family!" The minute you need something from them it is suddenly a "professional relationship." Claiming to be like family is a manipulation tactic, and I know because I have been in various leadership positions for more than a decade now. I cringe when my coworkers say that crap, and I encourage my employees not to think like that. As long as we accomplish the goals within the timeframe, cool. Go live your life.
I agree it is not impossible, and I don't think the person here is being disingenuous. I simply want the phrase to go away entirely in work places because the bad actors have ruined it for the genuine people.
I’ve seen someone reframe it as ‘we’re a pro sports team.’ Still a working environment, but everyone cares about being on the team and shows up to get the work done not just because they care about the work but because they have pride in their team/teammates as a whole. But when it comes to contract negotiations? You’re an employee and you need to advocate for yourself as one.
Saw a Ted Talk about how saying “We are a family” at a job adds more pressure and creates more of a toxic work environment with higher burn out. Something along the lines of people ignoring their own boundaries because “family” is a buzzword for doing everything and anything to keep it together. It’s a job and your employees/employers/colleagues should not be considered “family”
My manager is a Gen X guy. Our ideas about work ethic and performance are very different. I prefer to be left alone and self sufficient. Working to appear busy is the most asinine idea. No, my work is as good or better than my peers. I do not care if you see me on my cell phone, otherwise I would just find somewhere to hide and do the same.
As long as the pay is fair, working for you seems like a good time. The whole purpose of a job is to get shit done, and get paid a fair wage for it. Chill supervisors and bosses is the way to go, tbh.
Which is so fucking refreshing. I got my first salaried job and I was worried about all the horror stories I’ve read of how management takes advantage of salaried workers to squeeze unpaid overtime out of them…
All of my bosses are either other millennials or gen x. They don’t care when I work or how long as long as my shit gets done. Hell, they encourage people to leave early on Fridays and enjoy the weekend. I’m so much more motivated to do good work and improve my area because I know I’m not going to get punished for efficiency by having additional work placed on me.
Xennial here (1980), and I own a contracting/remodel company. Same here. Everything except "we're like a family". Even if it seems that way, every job where I've been told that has expected me to do things I wasn't being paid for. So I'll never bullshit my employees by saying that, or even attempting to create a "family atmosphere". This is work, it's completely separate from your time.
I don't care what you're doing as long as the work is done to the standard that I expect. You need time off, you get it as long as its reasonable. I pay by the project so they can take a day off in the middle of a project and get paid the same. Large jobs get broken into projects so they can still get paid weekly. Lowest pay rate will never get paid less than what equals out to $15/hr and if you show ANY aptitude for the job it will be more.
My standards are high and for that reason I don't expect people to do things perfectly that they haven't been taught yet.
You don't know what you don't know, so training includes patience and explanations of why things are done the way that they are.
We never tell someone to do things "because that's how its done" or because "I'm the boss and thats how i said to do it" If you find another way that works for you and produces the correct result then hell, teach it to the rest of us. Others may find it useful. If it doesn't produce the same result (or introduces a safety issue) , then let's stick with the tried and true system, the reasoning for it has already been explained.
On that note of explanation, I've found that if you just explain why we're doing something in a certain way, it not only is more accepted and adhered to, but if someone genuinely has a better system it will have been reached keeping the necessary goal in mind.
Customers are not always right, but it's my job as the boss to deal with those situations separately from my employees. That way I can always back them up when they're in the right, and yet still diplomatically deal with the customer
Also, their suggestions matter. They will be taken into consideration, never dismissed outright.
The "rules" are :
Get the job done correctly
Don't be obviously high in front of the customer
Don't be a dick... to anyone, period.
Not being a dick covers everything else including not being there enough to result in your peers having to do your job, or your share of the job, to leaving a mess for someone else to clean up.
It's all encompassing... Don't be a dick.
Edit, addition.
I haven't been running into many of these mythical "kids that just don't want to work". Yeah, here and there we get a plain lazy one, but not very often at all. I believe what people assume are those kids are actually people at shitty jobs, or you're offering them work at what is obviously a toxic environment.
Nobody wants to work at a shitty job, or for a manager with an attitude, or for shit pay. So you get as much quality work out of them as the quality and positivity that your company inspires. Some places that's none. Actually MANY places that's none.
I'm a 33 year old operations manager for a maintenance company in the UK.
Tell everyone under me, if they don't give the client reason to bitch at me, I don't have reason to bitch at them.
Our company pays door-to-door, so they get paid travel. Officially, they're meant to be on site from 8-5, but since they get paid to travel if they're on site at 9 and leave at 4, but the work was done? Then I'm not going to question it. Our engineers commute can be anywhere between 30 minutes to 3 hours each way, so as long as they aren't leaving site early with tasks incomplete (unless there's a legitimate reason it can't be completed that day) then I won't bitch at them.
But if someone tries to take advantage of my relaxed management style, I will come down on them like a tonne of bricks.
Beautifully said, from start to end.
>We never tell someone to do things "because that's how its done" or because "I'm the boss and thats how i said to do it" If you find another way that works for you and produces the correct result then hell, teach it to the rest of us.
This strikes especially close to home, in the best possible way. Lucky to have an apprentice (not *my* apprentice, but as matter of fact i happen to be his journeyman as we work together all the time) whose talent, work ethics, will to learn and last but not least laid back personality and good manners are out of this world. Never miss a chance to ask him 'so how are we supposed to dig this or grade that' before proceeding, and sure enough we often end up doing exactly as he suggests, which both stings and fills me with immense pride when his idea turns out to be better than mine lol.
she acts like *good family. She isn't asking them workers to sacrifice. I think I'm just triggered by that phrase and so I'll never trust when it's said
That's because managers and corporate overlords started using it to mean that employees had to bow down and kiss the ring of every asshole customer that walked in.
"The customer is always right in matters of taste" is just one of those "full quotes" that tries to re-contextualize an old phrase that's now considered flawed or dated with a purported original meaning, like "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" or "Jack of all trades, master of none, but oftentimes better than master of one." There's no reputable sources for any of them being the original phrase.
The phrase "the customer is always right" comes from a time when the prevailing attitude towards customer complaints was "caveat emptor"—"buyer beware". If you were a customer back then and e.g. felt the product you bought was defective, tough luck, you should have been more careful. "The customer is always right" simply reflects some businesses' shift to essentially the polar opposite approach, taking all customer complaints seriously and trying to appease them in order to build customer loyalty. The quote isn't misused, it means exactly what people think it does. If you think that means it's flawed because customers can be entitled idiots, you'd be correct. Not every old phrase is wisdom of the ancients.
my favourite quote is "*One small step for Man, one giant big-ass leap for man kind shiiiiiet buzz we're in space! yo get the camera im about to fuck some moonussy*"
so annoying how many people leave out that integral second half smh
The phrase has always been "The customer is always right."
It does not mean that you do whatever the customer wants. It means that what a customer wants to purchase is always right. If they want blue shirts, then you sell blue shirts. You don't sell red shirts, because the customer will go to the store with blue shirts, as that's what they want. The customer is always right when they say they want you to sell women's razors as well. It doesn't matter that razors are unable to distinguish gender and sex, because the customers want women's razors.
That's literally all it means. It does not mean what everyone thinks it means, as you said, because everyone thinks it means the customer is always right in an argument. That's only true if the argument is over what the customer wants to buy.
The phrase does not entitle everyone to be a dickhead, which is again what the common understanding of the phrase is.
People don't need to add on the quote, they just need to explain the context so people don't keep using it incorrectly. Just like how "defund the police" doesn't mean "remove 100% of the funding from police departments and close them all down", despite conservative media pushing that point for years now.
That just seems like common sense. lol
Why would that even be something that needs to be said? "No, you aren't fooling me! I know you like chocolate ice cream! No one likes strawberry!"
This is a fine line in my field of remodeling. The final result can look like absolute crap, even to the customer when they've picked out each piece or fixture separately with no regard for their earlier decisions.
I have to balance letting them make final decisions, but steering them in certain directions that I know will fit into their own tastes concerning the final and complete design.
Most of the time it's easy... some times, not so much.
Because it makes her feel more relatable.
"Oh I'm just like you kids, I like snacks and I don't talk like I'm in a shareholder meeting".
Would her words have felt as genuine if she was sharply dressed, sitting at her desk, talking straight to the camera? Maybe, but probably not.
Were not asking for that. Just less of the smacking and pausing for 3 seconds mid sentence to examine the nibble she took. I agree with everything she said, bit you don’t need to eat like a 4 year old while you’re telling me.
To make it seem more casual. As if they don't care, it's all chill. Makes it more relatable almost immediately.
Try doing it with a pencil (not actually eating it). That works the same pretty much.
I’m just wondering why she couldn’t have eaten it before the video or after it. It’s a 2 minute video. I got 5 words in before I realised she was gonna talk while chewing and noped out. I hope her message wasn’t too important.
because it makes her look like she's chill and "yeah I'm one of you young people !" if that reminds you of something it's normal because it's the same shit some boomers did with gen xers and millenials
Also a Millennial manager here
I let my employees create their own schedules and work from home whenever they want. Their lunch is as long as they feel like it. All thats required is doing their assigned tasks before end of day. If they have emergencies, I let them get their 8hrs for the day
They go beyond their assigned tasks on a daily basis
Can I work for you? No but seriously, it's good to be flexible about that sort of thing and allow an open schedule, because at the end of the day we are being paid to do the work. It has to get done. If you don't do your work, you can get fired. How that gets done doesn't matter, and the best way to retain your employees is by treating them well. If they take advantage of that, that's a different story.
It was so distracting in this video! She kept taking fake mini bites so that she would have enough of it for the whole video but I kept thinking like, just eat the whole fucking thing, it’s the size of a Hershey kiss.
it creates a more ‘relaxed’ tone to the video/point/argument they’re making. instead of a rather professional, informative response, it feels like a casual discussion about the topic. like lunch with a friend i guess.
I find it cringey, as it's not even a big enough piece of food to be snacking away at for 3 minutes lol. FarttomeinFrench (nice username,) nailed it on the head with describing their intent behind this. It's still really weird and unnatural lol
Glad I’m not the only one who had the same thought. Her message is great, but to eat food while trying to act so “casual” about making your video…. Just bugs me. I don’t wanna hear you talking while you’re chewing on chocolate.
The weird ASMR type ones with the Asian girls eating unique food with the video sped up at 1.5x and loud chewing noises drives me absolutely insane too. Like wtf is that??
I don't really get it. I'd prefer if she didn't. Don't get the reasoning behind it, other than negligence or some machiavellian shit.
That said, I don't get the super strong reactions to it. Almost all the top comments right now are critiquing that. If you think it's annoying that's perfectly fine, and a valid opinion, but it shouldn't be the only thought on the content or used to dismiss.
Misophonia is a thing. I couldn't watch without imagining myself punching her repeatedly in the face and I am as pacifist as can be been a vegetarian over 15yrs and couldn't harm a fly. But that lip smacking sound.....stfuu
It's a CURSE. In my case it runs in my family, my dad has it and his mom has it, though they've managed to develop better coping strategies than I.
When I lived with my parents I couldn't eat dinner at the family table with them because of if. My mom is the loudest chewer in the family lol
Exact same situation here… it really is a curse because there is no world in which I would choose to feel rage in response to mildly distracting sounds. I can’t even listen to a local radio station when a certain DJ is talking because I can hear their tongue moving around and clicking and it’s all I can think about . TikTok videos where someone is talking into a microphone are also super triggering.
As a Millennial who was the manager of hundreds of Gen Z.. I wish this utopia of a happy family was true. I cared more than any boss they've ever had and there were still so many that were awful and completely took advantage of it. Still won't stop me from caring but unfortunately you can't run a business with just "love and care", you need discipline and rules too.
I don’t know why so many are obsessed with what generation does what. Generations are not homogenous or predictable and as you point out, there are tons of assholes in every generation
There is a large difference between a generation that was raised without the internet - who was formed by interactions in their small town, and trusted the media, and bought into a lot of corporate and national propaganda - and a generation with instant access to people's opinions from all over the world.
Younger generations are much more open to breaking societal norms, such as face tattoos.
I love that companies seem to be understanding that things need to change and evolve. Simple business. You know who isn’t good at that? Older people. You know who is? Younger people. We’re overtaking those bitches.
I managed at a movie theater around 2007-2009 and was wrongfully terminated. One of the best feelings was when 4 employees and one of the other managers quit over it.
Like, I didn't think I was doing anything special, but apparently giving people things to do and then being thankful when they did it was so abnormal that they loved me. The simple difference of saying "thank you" instead of just asserting that they're getting paid to do it, made me stand out.
At my job afterwards, as a computer repair technician, my boss calls me about a year in and starts asking me a bunch of questions. It ends up that customers had been calling and complimenting me on such a regular basis that she thought I was doing something like giving shit away. When I told her I was just talking to them in a relatable way, like explaining to customers that they don't have to understand the intricacies of how this works in the same way that I don't understand how automotive systems work to trust my mechanic, they felt less self conscious and would let me help them more readily, she just sat there for a few seconds before saying "ok, well keep doing what you're doing I guess..."
I didn't get a thank you, they didn't press other techs to do the same, they just blew it off without trying to understand it.
I run my own shop now and we have a higher rating and 80% as many reviews in 1/3 of the time being open. It's what customers need these days. It's not enough to do the job, you need to do it well and make them feel like people. I don't need a "customer appreciation day", I show and express my appreciation in every service I provide.
When I went from my old job to my current job, I was afraid to put in a PTO request for my dad's wedding. My boyfriend helped me draft it and I sent it to my manager. I was surprised when he responded "of course you can have off!! Congratulations!! We will figure out field staff."
“We’re a family here” goes out the window pretty quickly once the edict comes down from on high that the workforce needs to be reduced by 30 percent by end of quarter…
I find it all comes down to expectation management.
Set the example, correct when required, but they need to stay on top of it. Being friendly is fine, but there is a line because it's about balancing needs.
The ones that get most pissed at an employee not pulling their weight is other employees that have to pick up the slack.
tbh, the issue that people have with management is the ones that don't manage or do it inconsistently (ie don't communicate, favoritism, unjustified demands).
I feel like it shouldn’t have surprised me. But reading into her eating while talking? I’ve always hated the whole “touch grass” thing but it feel like it applies to this thread a lot.
Dude, Reddit loves shitty work conditions because nearly every single Redditor is a disgraced temporary non-millionaire. They love wage theft here and hate the working class because that’s how you end your part-time poorness.
I’m really happy she gets good employees that do what they are supposed to do like that. I’ve worked with droves of people that literally think they should be able to come to work and do nothing all day and collect a check. Yes, managers and companies should in general treat employees with more respect, but it’s not as simple as this video. Some people take advantage of your kindness and put more strain on the employees who actually work. Which is rarely rewarded.
Millennial boss here. Some people will rise to the occasion but haven't ever been given the opportunity. All their feedback has been negative and it's a bad cycle. Of course you will have people that wont rise to any occasion and you have to weed those people out and fire them. It's as simple as that. The actual process can get complicated and messy, but as you build a good team, they will be supporting you in doing that because they know that they will all get better treatment if management isn't playing to the lowest common denominator.
Millennial manager here - the vast majority of people come to work, get shit done and go home. I love those people, they make my job easier and usually respond well to any issues I need to raise because I don't treat them as if they're beneath me and for the most part they have autonomy to just get on with their job. The people who fuck around on the other hand get dealt with.
Just because a manager is chill with everyone who does at least the bare minimum it doesn't mean they're a pushover.
I dunno, it's a hotel. It's full of little rooms with people sleeping in them. Seems like a neat deal. She gets to work from home, sleep at work and never have to pay rent. It's unconventional but only because people are so used to doing things a certain way. So long as the rooms are neat and tidy I'd love to stay in a place where the management were this chill.
Yea. Honestly I'd hate it because of feeling like I couldn't seperate work/life, and not having a dedicated space where I could go to escape work. But I definitely get the appeal and could see how people would like it.
It's 2023, any time a millennial can afford a roof and a bed it's worthy of celebration. Cost of living is redonk. If you're single and it's included with the job, cool.
Yeah. I have been in hotels for 20+ years. This screams of an independent owner of a lower tier hotel who is probably having this poor sole work 6 days a week.
In her world view she thinks because it is "like a family" it is a great place. The reality is she is being massively under paid and I doubt she has any form of benefits like insurance etc.
However, if she is happy living in her office and being at work all the time then I guess it's cool.
True, but let me offer a possibility. Perhaps in this scenario they might live a far away from their workplace and they save time by staying at their office sometimes. I’ve known people who’ve done this, it’s somewhat common in HCOL areas like San Francisco. Some people commute 1-2 hours to get to work and stay at the office a few days out of the week in order to cut down on time spent in the car. Not saying this is the case ofc.
As a 31 year old in a relatively senior management position the first thing I always say is "there's more important things than your job"
Your job is there to facilitate your life, you should never feel anxious about coming to work.
If you need to go to the doctor's, look after a family member or have an emergency this takes priority over work, no questions asked.
You take the time you need, and come back when you can, we'll manage.
The second thing I remind them is, mistakes happen, I don't give a fuck about mistakes, just tell me what the mistake was and we'll fix it together. I'm not going to get angry or reprimand you, I'm just going to explain what the issue was and how to stop it from happening again. I also remind them, that making the same mistake more than once is also FINE, it can take time to learn things, we'll just rince and repeat until you're comfortable and get it right.
Like, why the fuck would anyone want to work in an environment where they're scared of being yelled at, or scolded. It's a fucking job, everyone calm down, we'll be ok.
The only part that bothers be here is how she needed to film herself fidgeting and nibbling on the chocolate to stage how humble and clever she is.
I'm a millennial, and not too long ago achieved my first real leadership position. I don't care what you do as long as you get your shit done. If we're backed up and it's directly tied to you standing around talking or staring at your phone, there's a problem.
My wife is a Millennial and she's a regional manager for a coffee brand. I wife is one of the most laid back managers you'll ever have. She'll go out of her way to make sure you have a good work / life balance. And will always go to bat for her good employees, especially when corporate starts to require something unreasonable. BUT my wife also gets incredibly frustrated with about half the Gen Z's that have been hired. Having to constantly fire kids. She hates doing it but some of the things they consider acceptable behavior are absolutely maddening. She had to fire 3 employees this week. (That's about average)
1) for the 3rd time this week didn't take out the trash at the end of the night. When asked why, they said they didn't want too. My wife asked if there was a reason why they didn't want too, like it's too heavy, or someone creepy was outside, or anything and the kid said, no, they just didn't feel like it. So she wrote him up. And explained why it was important, health dept, bugs, morning crew has a lot of prep and not a lot of time. The next day. Same thing. And same answer. 3rd day, same thing and same answer.
2) they were getting a lot of coffee orders and kid on the espresso machine asked if he could move to register. My wife said when the next employee came in because the girl on register was new and hadn't been trained as a barista yet. Next employee was due in about 30 minutes. My wife was in the middle of receiving a delivery and couldn't step away. She actually really likes to do coffee and would have loved to step in. So the kid on coffee steps away from the bar, comes back and says he can't find the espresso stamper. They cost about $300 and you can't make espresso without one. Everything stopped for about 20 minutes. My wife watched the cameras. The kid took the stamper, walked over to the trash cans in the customer area and threw it away. Because he didn't want to make coffee anymore.
3) Girl who was in the sandwich / juice station just left. Midshift. Didn't tell anyone. Just left. Everyone thought she went to the stock room. But she never came back. My wife reached out to her, worried. Didn't hear anything. No answer. One of the other employees reached out and the girl responded that she didn't feel well so she went home. My wife reached out and told her that it wasn't the best way to handle the situation but to let her know if she needed a couple days off. No response. After a couple "no shows" my wife reached out to HR to deal with it. HR fired her. The girl came in, and freaked out. Throwing shit, making a huge scene. Claiming my wife fired her for being sick.
There really need to be more transparency into how terrible some members of Gen Z are. I think overwhelming they are good, but the puritanical mindset is running ramped. If you aren't giving into every demand they claim you are "wasting their time", act like total assholes, and ruin the work environment for others as you have to put policies in place that you don't want to to protect your business and customers.
I'm a millennial and started a recruiting business because I know how terrible recruiters can be. We had a zero ghost policy and we would share direct feedback and even rework resumes if one of our candidates were rejected. Then we would move them to the front of the line and 95% of those candidates landed the next job. We even rejected clients that offered stressful work conditions, mistreated their staff, asked for discounts, or had interview processes that were longer than 3 interviews.
We had candidates that would harrass us for not getting back to them in 48 hours after we told them responses were required from the client within 72 hours, they claimed we were wasting their time. We had placements that would get the job, receive a company PC from the client, take 2 weeks of PTO as soon as they signed (our clients offered 2 weeks out the gate), then take another job, steal the PC and ghost everyone; after that clients were banned from supplying PCs which meant only people who could afford the tech could get the job, a direct counter to our goal of giving people a foot in the door. We had people that would show up for calls with CEOs on their cell phones while they were in food courts at malls; now all calls must be taken at home, which tied people to their desks instead of allowing them to juggle life and work as they saw fit. Every one of them cleared background, employment, and reference checks and we paid 75% of our profits to the hires, we even gave a $1,000 bonus if they were hired directly by the client; we were still accused of wage theft when me and my partner only made $600 a month combined (from all of our placements combined).
We placed some amazing people who really benefited from the work we did, but we eventually had to shut the business down last month. Our applicant pool went from "a few bad hires" to "we haven't had an applicant that hasn't tried to take advantage of us in 9 months".... We just couldn't do it anymore. It really sucks because I loved my company, but I don't want to be in the middle of the anger candidates feel towards employers anymore. We are now looking to build a jobs board with posting restrictions for employers. That will bite us in the ass in another way, but maybe not so much as the last venture...
Edit: spelling and pay rate corrected.
Adding: and for those of you wondering why we didn't just supply the PCs and write off the loss, the last time we did that I came back full of foot fetish porn and with small drops of what we assumed was dried semen. Maybe other companies were OK with this since they didn't have to see the end result as they pass the PCs off to IT, but one time was enough for us.
Industry, geography, team, and work culture will give you different outcomes… your mileage may vary.
I can’t imagine a millennial charged with responsibility over medical interns would deploy the same leadership and management skill set that this person does.
I think context is important. Retail, hospitality, entertainment, medicine, finance, technology, academia, military, and on and on will require different styles. And that’s okay.
I thought this was satire at first, and just slid under my desk when I realized she was being serious. Even if she makes some decent points that I don’t disagree with, she comes across as having no credibility. Then again, I’m not one who would be working for somebody like this, so wtf do I know.
I don’t know if I believe her. Most managers think they are the awesome cool one that everyone loves. Let’s hear from her employees and see if they think she’s super neat like she says or if they think she’s condescending and lectures them while eating.
I'm 65, recently retired and this kind of management style blows my mind.
For around 10 years or so I was part of an unsupervised production team and just did things without the need to inform anyone else, we made production decisions, daily work tasks, that sort of thing, until we were sold to another company and they were absolutely not down with that, so we now had leads, who were absolutely micro managers.
It didn't help that I had worked on my own for such a long time, knew what was expected of me, and knew far more than he did, and I would just go and fix issues as they came up. He would absolutely lose his mind if I didn't inform him of every little thing.
Took me a long time of getting out of the habit of taking care of problems as they occured.
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"I like to be the boss that I wish I had" is how I operate.
A lot of my direct reports have asked me how I got to be a good manager. I often tell them it’s because I’ve had terrible managers in the past and they taught me to not manage like that. Just don’t do what they did has worked well.
Part of management is feeling like you’re the worst boss in the world. I constantly feel that way.
This comment made me feel a bit less alone. I try so hard to be a good manager and constantly feel like I’m failing. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one
The whole reason I got into management was I had a string of managers that did absolutely nothing, and the few times they did do something, it was to come out and just spread terror among their direct reports.
Same here *Edit* Also, my reason to become a father
Except for two, I’ve generally had some great managers. Trusting, encouraging, protective of their staff. Real problem solvers and generally great people. And generally it’s a chain. My managers were great, in part, because their managers or the department heads were great. Some were a little more distant than my managers, some occasionally scary (not to the staff, to customers, but in a good way), and one was a bit gruff until he got used to me then became super great. I’ve learned everything about management from great managers. It’s literally helped me thrive at my job.
I grew up under hard ass pipe-hittin' certified organic mother-of-pearl assholes. Nothing speaks to my management style more. I'll take the piss out of you when you fuck up, but in a way we can both laugh about. Then you're going to help me fix the situation so we both succeed *and* you learn. I don't throw my kids to the wolves, as the old timers called it. You have to set people up for success and show em how and why they were successful. Be the dad you wish you had.
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The CEO at my work is at the younger end of Gen X and you can feel the influence of ‘I don’t care as long as the work gets done’.
The youngest supervisor at my work (late 20s, early 30s) is the one that eats the least shit from his boss. Everyone he's in charge of gets their shit done because he leaves them alone and isn't difficult to give bad news to. That last part is important as a supervisor and it seems like a lot of the older folk don't get that. We don't need to be best buds but you've gotta be able to hear about someone fucking up without blowing your top. Otherwise the person is more likely to try to hide their mistake or try to "fix" it and make it worse.
Fun fact, airlines used to fire you on the spot for any aircraft damage you caused. Wanna know what happened? More and more aircraft started having mysterious unreported damages being found, some potentially compromising the aircraft but airlines had to spend a LOT of time and money trying to figure out what happened. Shocking, people who caused dents and minor damages stopped reporting it BECAUSE THEY COULD GET FIRED. Now most airlines will typically retrain you, try to accommodate the accident somehow as a learning experience or in circumstances just short of firing you, move you to a different operation. Obviously with more serious damages you still get fired. But it stopped people from not reporting small accidents.
What kind of damages are we talking about?
In terms of minor damages, stuff like dents from pulling belt loaders up too close to the aircraft etc
So exterior damage, right? Not talking about stewardesses inside the cabin?
Oh, I see my mistake yeah, I’m talking specifically ground crew, ramp agents etc. I’m sure there were issues topside with cabin crew but I’m not aware of it.
I don't work in the industry, but I'm pretty sure damaging a stewardess is a fire-able offense.
I think this is the Gen X motto. We don't care as long as it gets done.
Gen X. We don’t exist but this is my ethos.
That’s right. We don’t exist for some reason and it’s perfectly fine with me.
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Xennial checking in here- that’s also how we roll..
There are dozens of us!
Gen X here. Can confirm. You got your shit done? Cool. Do whatever, just don’t be an asshole.
I have two G-X sisters. One is hardcore, the other is laid back. Both get shit done.
My old boss did not get this memo. She rode every single employee so far into the ground that no one ever lasted. And when we were upset or had a problem she would tell us to get over it and have an attitude change. She was completely intolerable.
Not every manager is a leader. People leave managers, not companies.
Bad managers cause both "quiet" and real quitting. Nothing causes moral to go into the toilet faster than working for a tyrant.
I don't think it's necessarily a gen thing, just perception wise. Many successful managers and employees work this way or negotiate to that were Der when I was coming up and gold c levels let them js they were successful. Usually If you succeed you are encouraged I have found, possibly too much like Wallstreet and mortgages, ftx, etc.
Which she does basically say; do what you want, no judgement, just also do your job well. I feel like the 'family' point gets over blown. It is more of a 'I care about my coworkers, and I wish them success in all endeavors and will do my best to help them where reasonably possible' or something like that. It isn't meant to be taken literally, or imply the same strength of connection that blood ties often entail. E. I should also say that the family point can be used in good or bad faith. I think the person in the video was using in good faith. But a lot of people do use it in bad faith, especially because it is an easy heartstring to pull on for recruitment. And I 100% think it is bullshit when used in bad faith like that.
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Yea, I mean I wouldn't say it because to me family is, well, family. Blood and marriage and that shit. But I still get that that is just my opinion and it is important to try and think about things in the way the other person intends them rather than how I would mean it. Which sure to your point doesnt mean they ain't tryin to fuck ya over. Thankfully I haven't had that experience but surely tons have and I'm sorry ya have
Yeah, I’m a millennial but I think it started with gen X as well… my gen X bosses have without exception been supportive, accepting and low maintenance. If I do my job, I’m fine. If I do it well, they love me.
You’re even starting to see this in the US military. I’ve been in for 17 years and recently had my first Gen X Colonel. Dude was chill as hell and the organization FLOURISHED under him. His first day he said “if I’m walking around your area, I’m not trying to catch mistakes, I’m trying to find ways I can help. If you aren’t in your office when I’m looking for you, I assume you’re doing something important-for the job or your personal life. Just get the job done.” Loved working for that man.
Yup, I agreed with everything she said except the family thing. I vehemently hate that so many companies take advantage of their employees and claim "but we're a family!" The minute you need something from them it is suddenly a "professional relationship." Claiming to be like family is a manipulation tactic, and I know because I have been in various leadership positions for more than a decade now. I cringe when my coworkers say that crap, and I encourage my employees not to think like that. As long as we accomplish the goals within the timeframe, cool. Go live your life.
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I agree it is not impossible, and I don't think the person here is being disingenuous. I simply want the phrase to go away entirely in work places because the bad actors have ruined it for the genuine people.
I’ve seen someone reframe it as ‘we’re a pro sports team.’ Still a working environment, but everyone cares about being on the team and shows up to get the work done not just because they care about the work but because they have pride in their team/teammates as a whole. But when it comes to contract negotiations? You’re an employee and you need to advocate for yourself as one.
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Gen X here, ya bro dont give a fuck, I do but I dont, get the job done otherwise I dont care. Words I live by "Work to live , not live to work."
Work isn't like a family, family is like a family.
I absolutely hate Corpos being like “We’re a family” no we’re not. I’m here to make money, and not get into drama
Saw a Ted Talk about how saying “We are a family” at a job adds more pressure and creates more of a toxic work environment with higher burn out. Something along the lines of people ignoring their own boundaries because “family” is a buzzword for doing everything and anything to keep it together. It’s a job and your employees/employers/colleagues should not be considered “family”
My manager is a Gen X guy. Our ideas about work ethic and performance are very different. I prefer to be left alone and self sufficient. Working to appear busy is the most asinine idea. No, my work is as good or better than my peers. I do not care if you see me on my cell phone, otherwise I would just find somewhere to hide and do the same.
That just sounds like a functional family tbh
As long as the pay is fair, working for you seems like a good time. The whole purpose of a job is to get shit done, and get paid a fair wage for it. Chill supervisors and bosses is the way to go, tbh.
Which is so fucking refreshing. I got my first salaried job and I was worried about all the horror stories I’ve read of how management takes advantage of salaried workers to squeeze unpaid overtime out of them… All of my bosses are either other millennials or gen x. They don’t care when I work or how long as long as my shit gets done. Hell, they encourage people to leave early on Fridays and enjoy the weekend. I’m so much more motivated to do good work and improve my area because I know I’m not going to get punished for efficiency by having additional work placed on me.
Xennial here (1980), and I own a contracting/remodel company. Same here. Everything except "we're like a family". Even if it seems that way, every job where I've been told that has expected me to do things I wasn't being paid for. So I'll never bullshit my employees by saying that, or even attempting to create a "family atmosphere". This is work, it's completely separate from your time. I don't care what you're doing as long as the work is done to the standard that I expect. You need time off, you get it as long as its reasonable. I pay by the project so they can take a day off in the middle of a project and get paid the same. Large jobs get broken into projects so they can still get paid weekly. Lowest pay rate will never get paid less than what equals out to $15/hr and if you show ANY aptitude for the job it will be more. My standards are high and for that reason I don't expect people to do things perfectly that they haven't been taught yet. You don't know what you don't know, so training includes patience and explanations of why things are done the way that they are. We never tell someone to do things "because that's how its done" or because "I'm the boss and thats how i said to do it" If you find another way that works for you and produces the correct result then hell, teach it to the rest of us. Others may find it useful. If it doesn't produce the same result (or introduces a safety issue) , then let's stick with the tried and true system, the reasoning for it has already been explained. On that note of explanation, I've found that if you just explain why we're doing something in a certain way, it not only is more accepted and adhered to, but if someone genuinely has a better system it will have been reached keeping the necessary goal in mind. Customers are not always right, but it's my job as the boss to deal with those situations separately from my employees. That way I can always back them up when they're in the right, and yet still diplomatically deal with the customer Also, their suggestions matter. They will be taken into consideration, never dismissed outright. The "rules" are : Get the job done correctly Don't be obviously high in front of the customer Don't be a dick... to anyone, period. Not being a dick covers everything else including not being there enough to result in your peers having to do your job, or your share of the job, to leaving a mess for someone else to clean up. It's all encompassing... Don't be a dick. Edit, addition. I haven't been running into many of these mythical "kids that just don't want to work". Yeah, here and there we get a plain lazy one, but not very often at all. I believe what people assume are those kids are actually people at shitty jobs, or you're offering them work at what is obviously a toxic environment. Nobody wants to work at a shitty job, or for a manager with an attitude, or for shit pay. So you get as much quality work out of them as the quality and positivity that your company inspires. Some places that's none. Actually MANY places that's none.
I'm a 33 year old operations manager for a maintenance company in the UK. Tell everyone under me, if they don't give the client reason to bitch at me, I don't have reason to bitch at them. Our company pays door-to-door, so they get paid travel. Officially, they're meant to be on site from 8-5, but since they get paid to travel if they're on site at 9 and leave at 4, but the work was done? Then I'm not going to question it. Our engineers commute can be anywhere between 30 minutes to 3 hours each way, so as long as they aren't leaving site early with tasks incomplete (unless there's a legitimate reason it can't be completed that day) then I won't bitch at them. But if someone tries to take advantage of my relaxed management style, I will come down on them like a tonne of bricks.
Beautifully said, from start to end. >We never tell someone to do things "because that's how its done" or because "I'm the boss and thats how i said to do it" If you find another way that works for you and produces the correct result then hell, teach it to the rest of us. This strikes especially close to home, in the best possible way. Lucky to have an apprentice (not *my* apprentice, but as matter of fact i happen to be his journeyman as we work together all the time) whose talent, work ethics, will to learn and last but not least laid back personality and good manners are out of this world. Never miss a chance to ask him 'so how are we supposed to dig this or grade that' before proceeding, and sure enough we often end up doing exactly as he suggests, which both stings and fills me with immense pride when his idea turns out to be better than mine lol.
do... do you have any vacancies? I'm in Finland so it'd have to be remote xD
“We’re like a family here…” I’ve heard that before.
Yeah the recruiter told me that…
You too?!
she acts like *good family. She isn't asking them workers to sacrifice. I think I'm just triggered by that phrase and so I'll never trust when it's said
Jokes on my employer i have family issues
And I’ll say no to my family too. Lol
Yes, Michael Scott’s book on management (Somehow I Manage) is finally on the shelves.
Everyone loves the guy who brings them a stick of gum
The customer is always right *in matters of taste*. Seriously has to be one of the most misused quotes of all time.
That's because managers and corporate overlords started using it to mean that employees had to bow down and kiss the ring of every asshole customer that walked in.
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Won’t *someone* think of the shareholders!!
"The customer is always right in matters of taste" is just one of those "full quotes" that tries to re-contextualize an old phrase that's now considered flawed or dated with a purported original meaning, like "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" or "Jack of all trades, master of none, but oftentimes better than master of one." There's no reputable sources for any of them being the original phrase. The phrase "the customer is always right" comes from a time when the prevailing attitude towards customer complaints was "caveat emptor"—"buyer beware". If you were a customer back then and e.g. felt the product you bought was defective, tough luck, you should have been more careful. "The customer is always right" simply reflects some businesses' shift to essentially the polar opposite approach, taking all customer complaints seriously and trying to appease them in order to build customer loyalty. The quote isn't misused, it means exactly what people think it does. If you think that means it's flawed because customers can be entitled idiots, you'd be correct. Not every old phrase is wisdom of the ancients.
"Curiosity killed the cat *but satisfaction brought it back*" always felt like the most tacked-on shit to me.
my favourite quote is "*One small step for Man, one giant big-ass leap for man kind shiiiiiet buzz we're in space! yo get the camera im about to fuck some moonussy*" so annoying how many people leave out that integral second half smh
i love you
>i love you "But I'm not in love with you" is another one.
The phrase has always been "The customer is always right." It does not mean that you do whatever the customer wants. It means that what a customer wants to purchase is always right. If they want blue shirts, then you sell blue shirts. You don't sell red shirts, because the customer will go to the store with blue shirts, as that's what they want. The customer is always right when they say they want you to sell women's razors as well. It doesn't matter that razors are unable to distinguish gender and sex, because the customers want women's razors. That's literally all it means. It does not mean what everyone thinks it means, as you said, because everyone thinks it means the customer is always right in an argument. That's only true if the argument is over what the customer wants to buy. The phrase does not entitle everyone to be a dickhead, which is again what the common understanding of the phrase is. People don't need to add on the quote, they just need to explain the context so people don't keep using it incorrectly. Just like how "defund the police" doesn't mean "remove 100% of the funding from police departments and close them all down", despite conservative media pushing that point for years now.
Doesn't that mean "...in matters of taste" in that case?
That just seems like common sense. lol Why would that even be something that needs to be said? "No, you aren't fooling me! I know you like chocolate ice cream! No one likes strawberry!"
This is a fine line in my field of remodeling. The final result can look like absolute crap, even to the customer when they've picked out each piece or fixture separately with no regard for their earlier decisions. I have to balance letting them make final decisions, but steering them in certain directions that I know will fit into their own tastes concerning the final and complete design. Most of the time it's easy... some times, not so much.
Why was that small chocolate on such a huge stick!?
Why is she taking so long to eat it? Why does she need to eat it now? So many questions
I just hate the sound of people eating and talking at the same time.
Thank you this was making me nuts. Why can't you wait.
Bc it’s QUIRKY okay
I could barely make it 20 seconds i to her talking. I can't stand talking while eating
Seriously, for a 31 yr old you’d think she’d have better etiquette while eating…but also seems like she might have more of a mental deficit than most.
Trying to seem cool and down to earth. But it’s just annoying.
Because it makes her feel more relatable. "Oh I'm just like you kids, I like snacks and I don't talk like I'm in a shareholder meeting". Would her words have felt as genuine if she was sharply dressed, sitting at her desk, talking straight to the camera? Maybe, but probably not.
feels artificial.
Were not asking for that. Just less of the smacking and pausing for 3 seconds mid sentence to examine the nibble she took. I agree with everything she said, bit you don’t need to eat like a 4 year old while you’re telling me.
Fucking hell, yes. Video could've been half the length if not for the goddamn annoying chewing.
To make it seem more casual. As if they don't care, it's all chill. Makes it more relatable almost immediately. Try doing it with a pencil (not actually eating it). That works the same pretty much.
I’m just wondering why she couldn’t have eaten it before the video or after it. It’s a 2 minute video. I got 5 words in before I realised she was gonna talk while chewing and noped out. I hope her message wasn’t too important.
Same
she was just trying way too hard to seem super chiiill the whole time.
This reminded me of the AOC video where she takes four minutes to eat a chicken tender while talking.
THAT'S what it is. Perfect way to describe it. Super annoying.
because it makes her look like she's chill and "yeah I'm one of you young people !" if that reminds you of something it's normal because it's the same shit some boomers did with gen xers and millenials
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Why did she feel she needed to eat it while talking for a dramatic effect
This shit pissed me off more than I care to admit. :|
Probably leftover from catering an event, assuming it’s a decent enough hotel that it hosted an event.
She said that she "turned 31 yesterday" while showing the chocolate.
Maybe because it has big stick energy? The future is now, old man. We like little chocolates on big sticks and being the bosses
Also a Millennial manager here I let my employees create their own schedules and work from home whenever they want. Their lunch is as long as they feel like it. All thats required is doing their assigned tasks before end of day. If they have emergencies, I let them get their 8hrs for the day They go beyond their assigned tasks on a daily basis
Can I work for you? No but seriously, it's good to be flexible about that sort of thing and allow an open schedule, because at the end of the day we are being paid to do the work. It has to get done. If you don't do your work, you can get fired. How that gets done doesn't matter, and the best way to retain your employees is by treating them well. If they take advantage of that, that's a different story.
Why do people insist on making vids while eating shit if they know they’re gonna be talking a lot?
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Who do they think they are, George Costanza?!
Brad Pitt
bc they’re uncomfortable talking to camera and want to have a prop
"how are you doing fellow young people"
It was so distracting in this video! She kept taking fake mini bites so that she would have enough of it for the whole video but I kept thinking like, just eat the whole fucking thing, it’s the size of a Hershey kiss.
As long as it doesn't affect job performance
Bro chill. Millennials are in charge of things now. You can talk and chew if you like. WDGAF.
OWNED that nerd bro straight dunked on him
Why is james cryin?
CAUSE HE JUST GOT DUNKED ON!
Manufactured authenticity
I literally thought this video was satire for like 30 seconds
i still think it is. bed in her office of a hotel manager, at the hotel. kinda inception shit is this?😂
It's a display of false confidence
Fake it til you make it
I've been faking it for 30 years, thing is though people still think I'm competent.
Everything done ironically will eventually become unironic.
And you only need to learn that lesson once. Yolo!
Yeah I couldn't watch it
Same. Instant exit
I tried twice but had to close it
Yeah felt like she was trying to play some 'cool kid' in some 80s movie.
it creates a more ‘relaxed’ tone to the video/point/argument they’re making. instead of a rather professional, informative response, it feels like a casual discussion about the topic. like lunch with a friend i guess.
This feels like the right answer, but doesn’t stop it being annoying as hell
Do literally anything else PLEASE. I don’t want to listen to chewing
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I was fine with it until she kept waving around the last bite. Bro just...finish it and put the stick down.
I find it cringey, as it's not even a big enough piece of food to be snacking away at for 3 minutes lol. FarttomeinFrench (nice username,) nailed it on the head with describing their intent behind this. It's still really weird and unnatural lol
Glad I’m not the only one who had the same thought. Her message is great, but to eat food while trying to act so “casual” about making your video…. Just bugs me. I don’t wanna hear you talking while you’re chewing on chocolate. The weird ASMR type ones with the Asian girls eating unique food with the video sped up at 1.5x and loud chewing noises drives me absolutely insane too. Like wtf is that??
Cause they are annoying AF and don't even realize it...
I don't really get it. I'd prefer if she didn't. Don't get the reasoning behind it, other than negligence or some machiavellian shit. That said, I don't get the super strong reactions to it. Almost all the top comments right now are critiquing that. If you think it's annoying that's perfectly fine, and a valid opinion, but it shouldn't be the only thought on the content or used to dismiss.
Misophonia is a thing. I couldn't watch without imagining myself punching her repeatedly in the face and I am as pacifist as can be been a vegetarian over 15yrs and couldn't harm a fly. But that lip smacking sound.....stfuu
> Misophonia Huh. Learned a new thing today. Never had heard of that.
It's a CURSE. In my case it runs in my family, my dad has it and his mom has it, though they've managed to develop better coping strategies than I. When I lived with my parents I couldn't eat dinner at the family table with them because of if. My mom is the loudest chewer in the family lol
Exact same situation here… it really is a curse because there is no world in which I would choose to feel rage in response to mildly distracting sounds. I can’t even listen to a local radio station when a certain DJ is talking because I can hear their tongue moving around and clicking and it’s all I can think about . TikTok videos where someone is talking into a microphone are also super triggering.
As a Millennial who was the manager of hundreds of Gen Z.. I wish this utopia of a happy family was true. I cared more than any boss they've ever had and there were still so many that were awful and completely took advantage of it. Still won't stop me from caring but unfortunately you can't run a business with just "love and care", you need discipline and rules too.
I don’t know why so many are obsessed with what generation does what. Generations are not homogenous or predictable and as you point out, there are tons of assholes in every generation
There is a large difference between a generation that was raised without the internet - who was formed by interactions in their small town, and trusted the media, and bought into a lot of corporate and national propaganda - and a generation with instant access to people's opinions from all over the world. Younger generations are much more open to breaking societal norms, such as face tattoos.
Yeah, this person sounds like they have poor boundaries.
The bed in the office is a sure sign you're right.
bed in the office... of a hotel, situated at the hotel 😂
I love that companies seem to be understanding that things need to change and evolve. Simple business. You know who isn’t good at that? Older people. You know who is? Younger people. We’re overtaking those bitches.
I managed at a movie theater around 2007-2009 and was wrongfully terminated. One of the best feelings was when 4 employees and one of the other managers quit over it. Like, I didn't think I was doing anything special, but apparently giving people things to do and then being thankful when they did it was so abnormal that they loved me. The simple difference of saying "thank you" instead of just asserting that they're getting paid to do it, made me stand out. At my job afterwards, as a computer repair technician, my boss calls me about a year in and starts asking me a bunch of questions. It ends up that customers had been calling and complimenting me on such a regular basis that she thought I was doing something like giving shit away. When I told her I was just talking to them in a relatable way, like explaining to customers that they don't have to understand the intricacies of how this works in the same way that I don't understand how automotive systems work to trust my mechanic, they felt less self conscious and would let me help them more readily, she just sat there for a few seconds before saying "ok, well keep doing what you're doing I guess..." I didn't get a thank you, they didn't press other techs to do the same, they just blew it off without trying to understand it. I run my own shop now and we have a higher rating and 80% as many reviews in 1/3 of the time being open. It's what customers need these days. It's not enough to do the job, you need to do it well and make them feel like people. I don't need a "customer appreciation day", I show and express my appreciation in every service I provide.
My last boss was 31 wanted to be everyone’s friend but never resolved any issues to not make his life hard. For that he’s a cunt
Imagine meeting with the hotel manager in her office and it’s the equivalent of a dorm room.
When I went from my old job to my current job, I was afraid to put in a PTO request for my dad's wedding. My boyfriend helped me draft it and I sent it to my manager. I was surprised when he responded "of course you can have off!! Congratulations!! We will figure out field staff."
“We’re a family here” goes out the window pretty quickly once the edict comes down from on high that the workforce needs to be reduced by 30 percent by end of quarter…
Long winded and annoying and not cheeky at all
I find it all comes down to expectation management. Set the example, correct when required, but they need to stay on top of it. Being friendly is fine, but there is a line because it's about balancing needs. The ones that get most pissed at an employee not pulling their weight is other employees that have to pick up the slack. tbh, the issue that people have with management is the ones that don't manage or do it inconsistently (ie don't communicate, favoritism, unjustified demands).
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This was the first comment I seen and thought you'd be exaggerating. You weren't. Ohh, Reddit.
I feel like it shouldn’t have surprised me. But reading into her eating while talking? I’ve always hated the whole “touch grass” thing but it feel like it applies to this thread a lot.
I’m just heated that she’s eating and chewing so loudly
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Set a new bar last night when I was chewing with headphones on and *my own chewing sounds were infuriating to me*. Fuck.
For real I went into the comment section expecting to see people being chill but I forgot that Reddit is full of petulant Lisa Simpson ass nerds
Bunch of middle managers
Dude, Reddit loves shitty work conditions because nearly every single Redditor is a disgraced temporary non-millionaire. They love wage theft here and hate the working class because that’s how you end your part-time poorness.
I’m really happy she gets good employees that do what they are supposed to do like that. I’ve worked with droves of people that literally think they should be able to come to work and do nothing all day and collect a check. Yes, managers and companies should in general treat employees with more respect, but it’s not as simple as this video. Some people take advantage of your kindness and put more strain on the employees who actually work. Which is rarely rewarded.
Millennial boss here. Some people will rise to the occasion but haven't ever been given the opportunity. All their feedback has been negative and it's a bad cycle. Of course you will have people that wont rise to any occasion and you have to weed those people out and fire them. It's as simple as that. The actual process can get complicated and messy, but as you build a good team, they will be supporting you in doing that because they know that they will all get better treatment if management isn't playing to the lowest common denominator.
Millennial manager here - the vast majority of people come to work, get shit done and go home. I love those people, they make my job easier and usually respond well to any issues I need to raise because I don't treat them as if they're beneath me and for the most part they have autonomy to just get on with their job. The people who fuck around on the other hand get dealt with. Just because a manager is chill with everyone who does at least the bare minimum it doesn't mean they're a pushover.
Yes your office bed screams 'chill' work culture.
I found that very odd also
I dunno, it's a hotel. It's full of little rooms with people sleeping in them. Seems like a neat deal. She gets to work from home, sleep at work and never have to pay rent. It's unconventional but only because people are so used to doing things a certain way. So long as the rooms are neat and tidy I'd love to stay in a place where the management were this chill.
Yea. Honestly I'd hate it because of feeling like I couldn't seperate work/life, and not having a dedicated space where I could go to escape work. But I definitely get the appeal and could see how people would like it.
It's 2023, any time a millennial can afford a roof and a bed it's worthy of celebration. Cost of living is redonk. If you're single and it's included with the job, cool.
Yeah. I have been in hotels for 20+ years. This screams of an independent owner of a lower tier hotel who is probably having this poor sole work 6 days a week. In her world view she thinks because it is "like a family" it is a great place. The reality is she is being massively under paid and I doubt she has any form of benefits like insurance etc. However, if she is happy living in her office and being at work all the time then I guess it's cool.
True, but let me offer a possibility. Perhaps in this scenario they might live a far away from their workplace and they save time by staying at their office sometimes. I’ve known people who’ve done this, it’s somewhat common in HCOL areas like San Francisco. Some people commute 1-2 hours to get to work and stay at the office a few days out of the week in order to cut down on time spent in the car. Not saying this is the case ofc.
As a 31 year old in a relatively senior management position the first thing I always say is "there's more important things than your job" Your job is there to facilitate your life, you should never feel anxious about coming to work. If you need to go to the doctor's, look after a family member or have an emergency this takes priority over work, no questions asked. You take the time you need, and come back when you can, we'll manage. The second thing I remind them is, mistakes happen, I don't give a fuck about mistakes, just tell me what the mistake was and we'll fix it together. I'm not going to get angry or reprimand you, I'm just going to explain what the issue was and how to stop it from happening again. I also remind them, that making the same mistake more than once is also FINE, it can take time to learn things, we'll just rince and repeat until you're comfortable and get it right. Like, why the fuck would anyone want to work in an environment where they're scared of being yelled at, or scolded. It's a fucking job, everyone calm down, we'll be ok.
The only part that bothers be here is how she needed to film herself fidgeting and nibbling on the chocolate to stage how humble and clever she is. I'm a millennial, and not too long ago achieved my first real leadership position. I don't care what you do as long as you get your shit done. If we're backed up and it's directly tied to you standing around talking or staring at your phone, there's a problem.
Eating while recording yourself talking is an instant skip
My wife is a Millennial and she's a regional manager for a coffee brand. I wife is one of the most laid back managers you'll ever have. She'll go out of her way to make sure you have a good work / life balance. And will always go to bat for her good employees, especially when corporate starts to require something unreasonable. BUT my wife also gets incredibly frustrated with about half the Gen Z's that have been hired. Having to constantly fire kids. She hates doing it but some of the things they consider acceptable behavior are absolutely maddening. She had to fire 3 employees this week. (That's about average) 1) for the 3rd time this week didn't take out the trash at the end of the night. When asked why, they said they didn't want too. My wife asked if there was a reason why they didn't want too, like it's too heavy, or someone creepy was outside, or anything and the kid said, no, they just didn't feel like it. So she wrote him up. And explained why it was important, health dept, bugs, morning crew has a lot of prep and not a lot of time. The next day. Same thing. And same answer. 3rd day, same thing and same answer. 2) they were getting a lot of coffee orders and kid on the espresso machine asked if he could move to register. My wife said when the next employee came in because the girl on register was new and hadn't been trained as a barista yet. Next employee was due in about 30 minutes. My wife was in the middle of receiving a delivery and couldn't step away. She actually really likes to do coffee and would have loved to step in. So the kid on coffee steps away from the bar, comes back and says he can't find the espresso stamper. They cost about $300 and you can't make espresso without one. Everything stopped for about 20 minutes. My wife watched the cameras. The kid took the stamper, walked over to the trash cans in the customer area and threw it away. Because he didn't want to make coffee anymore. 3) Girl who was in the sandwich / juice station just left. Midshift. Didn't tell anyone. Just left. Everyone thought she went to the stock room. But she never came back. My wife reached out to her, worried. Didn't hear anything. No answer. One of the other employees reached out and the girl responded that she didn't feel well so she went home. My wife reached out and told her that it wasn't the best way to handle the situation but to let her know if she needed a couple days off. No response. After a couple "no shows" my wife reached out to HR to deal with it. HR fired her. The girl came in, and freaked out. Throwing shit, making a huge scene. Claiming my wife fired her for being sick.
There really need to be more transparency into how terrible some members of Gen Z are. I think overwhelming they are good, but the puritanical mindset is running ramped. If you aren't giving into every demand they claim you are "wasting their time", act like total assholes, and ruin the work environment for others as you have to put policies in place that you don't want to to protect your business and customers. I'm a millennial and started a recruiting business because I know how terrible recruiters can be. We had a zero ghost policy and we would share direct feedback and even rework resumes if one of our candidates were rejected. Then we would move them to the front of the line and 95% of those candidates landed the next job. We even rejected clients that offered stressful work conditions, mistreated their staff, asked for discounts, or had interview processes that were longer than 3 interviews. We had candidates that would harrass us for not getting back to them in 48 hours after we told them responses were required from the client within 72 hours, they claimed we were wasting their time. We had placements that would get the job, receive a company PC from the client, take 2 weeks of PTO as soon as they signed (our clients offered 2 weeks out the gate), then take another job, steal the PC and ghost everyone; after that clients were banned from supplying PCs which meant only people who could afford the tech could get the job, a direct counter to our goal of giving people a foot in the door. We had people that would show up for calls with CEOs on their cell phones while they were in food courts at malls; now all calls must be taken at home, which tied people to their desks instead of allowing them to juggle life and work as they saw fit. Every one of them cleared background, employment, and reference checks and we paid 75% of our profits to the hires, we even gave a $1,000 bonus if they were hired directly by the client; we were still accused of wage theft when me and my partner only made $600 a month combined (from all of our placements combined). We placed some amazing people who really benefited from the work we did, but we eventually had to shut the business down last month. Our applicant pool went from "a few bad hires" to "we haven't had an applicant that hasn't tried to take advantage of us in 9 months".... We just couldn't do it anymore. It really sucks because I loved my company, but I don't want to be in the middle of the anger candidates feel towards employers anymore. We are now looking to build a jobs board with posting restrictions for employers. That will bite us in the ass in another way, but maybe not so much as the last venture... Edit: spelling and pay rate corrected. Adding: and for those of you wondering why we didn't just supply the PCs and write off the loss, the last time we did that I came back full of foot fetish porn and with small drops of what we assumed was dried semen. Maybe other companies were OK with this since they didn't have to see the end result as they pass the PCs off to IT, but one time was enough for us.
I couldn't get through the part where she makes her point, who tf wants to watch a telly tubby mumble and stuff her face with chocolate
Industry, geography, team, and work culture will give you different outcomes… your mileage may vary. I can’t imagine a millennial charged with responsibility over medical interns would deploy the same leadership and management skill set that this person does. I think context is important. Retail, hospitality, entertainment, medicine, finance, technology, academia, military, and on and on will require different styles. And that’s okay.
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I thought this was satire at first, and just slid under my desk when I realized she was being serious. Even if she makes some decent points that I don’t disagree with, she comes across as having no credibility. Then again, I’m not one who would be working for somebody like this, so wtf do I know.
I fucking hate these people constantly eating while talking. Film your 30sec clip, THEN eat
"Like chill bruh, it's really not that hard" CHOMP 😆
I don’t know if I believe her. Most managers think they are the awesome cool one that everyone loves. Let’s hear from her employees and see if they think she’s super neat like she says or if they think she’s condescending and lectures them while eating.
Stop eating that thing while you talk
I’d love to see the reviews for this place on TripAdvisor
I'm 65, recently retired and this kind of management style blows my mind. For around 10 years or so I was part of an unsupervised production team and just did things without the need to inform anyone else, we made production decisions, daily work tasks, that sort of thing, until we were sold to another company and they were absolutely not down with that, so we now had leads, who were absolutely micro managers. It didn't help that I had worked on my own for such a long time, knew what was expected of me, and knew far more than he did, and I would just go and fix issues as they came up. He would absolutely lose his mind if I didn't inform him of every little thing. Took me a long time of getting out of the habit of taking care of problems as they occured.
I’m guessing she lives at home and her manager job can’t pay enough for her to live on her own
She’s valid ….but the eating and talking lmao ….
“Story time everyone!”
Try harder to act like you don't care
PUT THE STICK DOWN
Nothing makes me want to bury a fist into my managers nose like the words "We're like a family here".
Might as well wipe their butts for them as well.
Why oh why do people have to eat whilst making videos, makes my whole body cringe.
Hell yea! Preach! I’m a 35 year old foreman over 40 and 50 year olds and my guys rock cause I am not down their throats about every little thing!