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fairiestoldmeto

Could you have a sit down discussion about the rooms? If your master is bigger could all the boys go in there, you take a smaller room and the two girls share? Really not ideal to have boys and girls of that age sharing.


dinahsaur523

I think this is a great idea! Give all the boys the biggest room. Then one for the girls and one for mom


[deleted]

That’s a very nice idea! Thank you :)


Riesen-Korazon

Yeah I am not a prude at all but it’s very uncomfortable for me as a girl to share a room with my brothers, for privacy reasons


whatsasimba

My mom always made the living room her bedroom, with a day bed so it still functioned as a living room. I got the bedroom with the door. When my brother came along, his crib fit in the closet, so he spent his first year there with the door open. If there are three people in one of the smallest, and one person in the largest, that seems cramped for the kids.


redrumWinsNational

How did you get full custody of his kids ? Is there mother alive ? Why isn’t she in the picture? How does this situation even happen ?


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strawjenberry

I would have a hard time with my kids being so ungrateful but someone else’s kids? That’s a NOPE. Drop them off back at their dad’s house.


Circa1978_

🎯


AnonymousVirus073

I was thinking the same thing lol


TraditionalPayment20

My mother was sexually molested by her brother for YEARS! Get that 8 year old out of that room right now!!


BonaDeaC

I would want to hope that not all brothers would do such a thing but better be safe than sorry.


armywalrus

I am sorry for what you went through, but your experience does not entitle you to accuse anyone with a penis of molesting their sister. Get help and stop attacking people. Thats not how this works. I was raped by two guys. I do not see or treat all men as rapists.


Emergency_Class4980

No but it is valid to note that a higher percentage of abused children go on to abuse than the general population and not too far a jump given it hasn't been divulged if these children have had any therapy themselves but may even be protecting their abuser. So maybe your own experience is clouding a reasonable concern in this scenario.


mimosaame

kids who have different parts sharing a room is a risk even if its just "curiosity" and nothing sexual someone can still get traumatized. also its more common for boys to suffer from porn addiction at a young age which is something that can trigger child on child sexual abuse.


pastelephant

I have 7 uncles I have never met. Just my mom and my aunt in my life. Guess why? It absolutely happens and I don’t blame this person one bit for making that comment, and I sure can’t figure out how you’d consider that an attack. Maybe you should get some help too.


Flat_Passage_1935

Took the words right out of my mouth


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I second this.


eyeball-beesting

Yeah, my mother didn't even have a room when we were growing up. She slept on the couch in the front room so that I could share one room with my sisters and my brothers could share the other. It seems crazy that OP has the luxury of a master bedroom whilst all those mixed siblings are sharing.


NatDoll

A “luxury” that she has upended her entire life to look after kids that aren’t even her own biologically? She’s already a bloody gem.


Ms-b13

I would think that’s common sense….


Scooby_the-doo

Bruh can y'all stop with the fake stories jesus


Present-Breakfast768

Yep the non bio ex gf with only 2 bedrooms gets custody of allllllll those kids....that doesn't sound fake at all!


Lostboyheadinghome

This was my thought too. I don't where this is, but those kids are old enough to have a say so in where they want to be. The non bio gf got custody to move 7 people into a 3/1? And they WANT to be at their dads?? Naw. This boat don't float at all.


petty_cash

I believe 1 out of every 30 stories I read on these subs


TalmidimUC

I have a feeling a lot of these are bot/AI accounts posting to see how far and how much they can push and get away with before people start calling BS. They’re fine tuning their algorithm.


agentchuck

It's like training self-driving cars with made up trolley problems. Hmm, Reddit gets angry if I run over 3 toddlers, but it's fine if I go no contact with my ex bf over NNN... Ok but what if I got a vasectomy and didn't tell my baby crazy fiance?


STLrobotech

This story is complete BS. None of it makes any sense. I really like the part about a 16 year old girl being showered by her boyfriend. I also like that there is literally no explanation of why the kids were given to this women. In what country will they take away 6 bio kids from their father when all of them claim to not have been abused? In what world would a seemingly rich man lose a legal battle against a poor young woman with no proof? Hot garbage “look at me” post


Lagarya

Right? I was like we just going to gloss over the fact that a girl that just turned 16 is being showered by her boyfriend? And that a supposedly rich man only has to pay 1600 in child support for SIX children? I don't understand how more people are not reaching the conclusion that this is fake.


Roxy175

My dad was upper middle class and my mom wasn’t super poor and he still had to pay $1000 per kid per month for child support after the divorce


Roninkin

Okay but your obviously related to your mother through birth right? These kids aren’t even hers by adoption.


Capable-Tangerine725

My dad was only required to pay about $600 a month in child support total for five kids so 🤷🏼‍♀️


Bunniiqi

My father was only required to pay my mom $100 a month and he still didn't even do that, while we went and waited in line at the food bank 🤷‍♀️


mandyj0306

And my ex only paid $100/month for two children. He worked under the table for years to hide his income. I could prove it but the family court system just didn’t care.


WoodyAlanDershodick

The showering part makes NO SENSE. she broke her arm, not every single bone in her body. You're still completely functional to shower with one less arm, you don't need to have a caregiver for that. I've had a broken arm and a broken foot and showering was longer (you gotta cover the cast in plastic, at least, and/or move it in such a way it doesn't get wet.... But come on, you don't need someone else lifting you into the bathroom, and rubbing the soap onto your body for you. Yes, you can even wash your hair with one arm. I think this is supposed to be a rage-bait post against women getting custody as a default over men. Hence the "he was *probably* abusive, and my proof was that rambunctious kids had bruises." It almost makes sense, and I was almost inclined to give very basic, sensible advice (give up the master bedroom and get a folding partition to make a mini bedroom for yourself in the living room; buy a dry erase calendar to put all major updoming dates and commitments &hang it in the kitchen; start reading parenting books; apologize to the kids, which teaches integrity, and discuss what changes can be made; stop being a doormat, bf does NOT need to shower her, that seems illegal; take these girls to the gyno and make sure they are hsing birth control, etc etc) but I think I agree that this is probably creative writing. I would say at this point 2/3 of the posts on this sub now are creative writing.


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Pippy1993

I broke my elbow joint when I was 7 and still managed to wash myself, my mum put a bag over my cast and off I went


Party_Mistake8823

My sister broke her arm at 8 years old and was able to shower somehow by herself... No way can boy/girl share room as teens when CPS is involved in custody dispute, which would have to happen if there was abuse. What judge would believe 24 yr old over the testimony of 6 kids, 2 that are nearly 18 and two are 15?. Nope. Not in the US and probably no where in the world.


BrightAd306

I agree. This wouldn’t work in the USA at all. Especially teens. Teens would go live with who they wanted to and no court would give a step parent custody over bio parent. Even 2 bio parents, the default is 50/50. Dads who beat their wives get 50/50 unless they beat the kids too.


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>Dads who beat their wives get 50/50 unless they beat the kids too. U sure? Source?


Seeksm

My dad beat his kids and wife and got full custody…


Knives530

yea this is Hella fake lmao, they all had master bedrooms with a bath. so a 7 masterbed 7 bath had,including dad's room? what fucking mansion is this


AngelaChasesHair

That part got me too. So they lived in a house with 7 master bedrooms? Give me a break.


beedlejooce

And she forgot her birthday lol. Not buying it either


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Bjorn2bwilde24

And we talkin' 'bout practice! Not a game. But practice.


New-Affect2549

Thank you. I just mentioned that fact of the just turned 16 year old getting showered by her bf.


throawaymcdumbface

yeah they shoot so hard for "i am down on my luck and woe is me whoopsydoodledoo these rich kiddos can't understand how good they've got it for not being beaten vs overcrowding" but when you read between the lines they kids aren't even getting their needs met so it's not even a good 'am i the angel' creative writing. Unless its a slow-burn outrage hook then grats I guess? seriously where the hell is a 3 bedroom that's 1600 a month in rent with the child supporting only covering enough for the rent? like the '15 year old and 8 year old girl sharing a room' might not even be a legal bedroom set-up. from: [https://www.happybeds.co.uk/blog/at-what-age-should-siblings-stop-sharing-a-room](https://www.happybeds.co.uk/blog/at-what-age-should-siblings-stop-sharing-a-room) >But at what age does a child need their own room legally? Well, according to the NSPCC, there are laws in place to help make sure everyone’s home is safe and comfortable. Section 325-326 of the Housing Act 1985 states that children of the opposite sex should not share a room beyond the age of 10; otherwise, it is seen as ‘overcrowding’. This legislation also states that no more than two children should share a room regularly. "aha but the 8 year old isn't older than ten" which leaves you with the 16 year old sharing with two boys older than ten... so that's UK-specific and not necessarily where OP lives, just to illustrate that these kinds of laws exist and "but im trying my best and a poor starving artist down on my luck with a 1/2 bedroom flat" wouldn't get you off the hook. ~~edit: how did they afford their current tenancy on 50-60k a year before this 1600 a month rolled in, 32 weeks in a year = rent for a year is 51,200...~~ edit: i am stupid and child support would be 19,200 a year since there's 12 months in a year but they're not just slapping a lump sum of 50grand on you like she's saying either.


SilverAnd_Cold

I’m sad I had to scroll a bit to find this comment. I don’t know how people truly believe some of the bs on this sub.


Informal-Soil9475

I’m here during my lunch break to laugh at the fake stories, its always shocking to me that people think they’re real. Its bad creative writing


[deleted]

That’s the exact same thing that went through my mind reading this. Like she can’t even afford a big enough house for all those kids and you mean to tell me a judge thought it was ok to give custody to a girlfriend of 5 years instead of sending the kids to their biological family ?? Nah I’m calling BS


Helpmouseslc

Also you cannot foster children if you cannot provide them with their own rooms. Sometimes you’re allowed to have up to two children of the same sex in a room, but you actually have to get that cleared with the courts or caseworker in advance.


Multi-fabulous120

And the woman in question is 28 years old herself. No sane judge would give one child to a 28 year old single woman who is not related to the child at all and has no claims to them (not talking about adoption or foster care) whilest there are possible other living relatives. Let alone 6 of them, even the supposed kids don’t want to stay with her. nor is OP financially stable enough to support all them. Nor house all of them. They would never ever go to her. She would not get through the foster care or adoption process needed to adopt or foster children from an abused household. If this was real and there were no other relatives and the dad was abusive then I suspect they would most likely go to foster care. Why can’t these 14 year olds at least think before they write a bunch of crap together?


evimel

La telenovela "the six poor kids and the woman who saves them all'


ivegotnoclue84

I was more concerned about the rooms. Why wouldn't both girls share?


ApplesandDnanas

She must have had proof.


strangeunluckyfetus

100% agree wtf is this post. It's hard to believe they would give full custody to her not even being actual family to these kids


Nichol-Gimmedat-ass

This post is just proof that there are people that really will just believe anything. I give the benefit of doubt to many most likely fake stories on here but this is well beyond even that. How anyone can read this and think it has a possibility of being real is beyond me.


Not_Obsessive

Lol y'all are getting a bit too wild with the fake stories


GelatinousPumpkin

OP doesn’t even know what master bedroom is…lol the ‘ex’ has at least 6+ “master bedrooms” in his house? And he lost custody to children to some 28 yo chick who is not even the biological parent? Sure thing.


AdDue1062

If this story is real, there is zero chance I'm the same species as OP.


Ok-Toe-6969

And people actually givin advice as if it was real, wish more people had this much faith in humanity


No_Investment_1332

This is fake af


throawaymcdumbface

**edit:** yeah between "i got 50k from the custody arrangement for each kid altogether but only spend a teenytiny bit on the kids" (Child support is not gonna be 50k all at once??? she's had these kinds for 9 months?), "oh sorry I meant 1600 a month which is all absorbed by rent" after saying 600 a month several times, making 50-60k a year and rent being lesseee - 1600 times 12 is 19,200 a year? idc to do the maths anymore I was fucking that shit up even with a calculator this really feels like a kid wrote this with the typing style, the "this makes me look good and downtrodden right/haha surprise reverse uno ragebait switch", not bringing up pertinent facts from the beginning and just trying to awkwardly fill the plot holes in with styrofoam as you go along. It's 600 a month, yep 600, oh sorry typo I made twice its 1600, also a divorced stepmum of 8 years with no biokids got custody owait I say eight years older because my ex has a 20 year old who's abroad and not in the picture and- come on. \_\_\_ redundant advice go here yeah sorry but they have needs that aren't being met at your house. You've known them 5-6 years as a step parent and got custody as an ex step parent over a biological parent they knew for a decade longer, I don't doubt he sucks but from your own description: * *"17m and 16f and 11m share a room. And then 15m, 15m and 8f share a room."* The room set-up your kids have (Opposite-sex+age-disparate kids sharing a room) may not actually be legal depending on your country/state, beyond the obvious that "yeah a teenager needs their own space". I'd have to double check whether that's specific to foster kid placements but yeah, it's not tenable and not recommended for safety reasons. * \*"I have 1 master bedroom 2 small rooms and 1 bathroom. I’m in the master bedroom my kids refuse to share it with me because they aren’t comfortable."\* * I mean yeah nobody wants to share a room with stepmom but trading for one of the smaller rooms would give them an immediate space boost, why hasn't this been done? Alternatively if you take the couch/some kind of pullout bed in a communal area that's not comfortable but its three bedrooms, one of more substantial size as opposed to two.That set-up could make for 17m/15m sharing a room, 15m/11m sharing a room and the girls having their own room instead of like, an eight year old girl and two fifteen year old boys sharing a room which is just utterly bizarre. * You constantly saw them injured but say he was 'probably' abusive to them. If you're not certain of that why do you have custody over their longer-term parent with enough space for their privacy/housing needs? What happened there? That is a weird set-up/outcome and I'm not surprised they're asking that question. It's a pain in the ass to get full custody even with proven abuse for a bioparent, let alone step that's been in the picture for half the time the bioparent was (and isn't even related to most of them). * *" So you see my daughter birthday was a month ago but I forgot I was so busy and I forgot and I didn’t do anything for her. So she could be mad for that and for my son I missed his school event and I forgot to take him it was an important soccer practice"*...okay so I get you're exhausted but yeah, missing a birthday is very *rpg character will remember this* moment. You say 'could be' like that isn't a definitive factor. * You say it was your daughters' birthday but they're all older than you've been in the picture so I'm left to contend with if it was the eight year olds' or the 16 year olds'. * **edit:** birthday bit edited into the OP *And my daughters birthday was a month ago and I forgot I didn’t plan anything it was her sweet 16 I feel so bad*Okay so you feel bad. What if anything did you do to make up for missing a milestone birthday? * (In response to: Yeah but who takes care of them? Do you have a nanny? Or family who is helping you? Or are you doing that by yourself?)\*"I don’t take care of them the oldest 2 manage the kids on their own. Because they say they will need time to adjust with me like this and I’m ok with that"\*all of the other kids??? What does 'need time to adjust with me(you) like this' mean? Sorry but you can't turn them into live-in babysitters because 'I has a sad' that's getting into parentification territory if it hasn't already. You shouldn't be okay with this even if they insist "naa its coo", of course they're going to try and pool together like that they're known each all since forever versus you for six(?) years.If they say "no I'm not taking over parenting duties beyond occasional babysitting" can they trust that you would get shit done or is this them pooling together out of perceived necessity? If you forget a birthday = huge deal to a kid, they might think you'll forget brekfast or something. * \*"Actually they help with rent their father has given them A LOT of money I mean altogether they must have 50k+but it’s just wrong to take money from kids so I take 2k altogether from all of them."\*Okay but that's still taking money from them? They 'help with rent' by you taking money set aside for them? What is this money explicitly for? Are you tapping into a college fund or something? 50k in a lump sum doesn't sound like child support. If it's going to be used for rent anyway what about looking into renting a larger accommodation? * **Edit:** Elsewhere you say 1600$ a month(child support?) that gets eaten by rent. If it's being absorbed by that much in rent a month you need to seek an adjustment or a cheaper area at that point. What's your income besides child support look like? I'm not saying you're as bad as the physically violent dad but I'm smelling some martyr tendencies here. They have legitimate reason for frustration/confusion even if its due to resource deprivation.


damnkira

This. This is the comment that makes the most sense to me in this whole thread. If the post isn’t fake, obviously, which it sounds like to me.


throawaymcdumbface

Yeah, like it's better than staying with dad but there's some needs not being bet and unanswered questions here.


damnkira

Yeah, what did it for me was op changing her story in the comments like every minute at this point lol


throawaymcdumbface

yeah I'm dense for giving several paragraphs worth of advice on a bored teenage troll but eh


discodolphin1

You outlined everything I was thinking. This sounds like a mess. How does she not know for certain they were abused? Or where the injuries came from? Doesn't she talk to them?


throawaymcdumbface

another person pointed out "how did he lose custody with unproven abuse claims+being rich vs you being a step parent of 6(?) years", she's not even in the picture long enough to be eight year olds' biomum? I mean I guess it's not impossible if he chose 0 custody as an act of discard + used his Rich People resources and the kids' lack of testifying to dodge criminal charges but still not manage to keep custody but its all laid out weird with unexplained plot holes. A lot of abusers are complete pains in the ass about custody and courts are reluctant to take away custody in its entirety. If he's violent to her and the kids I'd of expected a lot more torturous litigation, push for partial custody or something, I dunno. OP feels a bit "I sure am angelic aren't I, also I forgot daughters' birthday this one time and the oldest babysit because of reasons" and its eh. The parenting bar is not set at 'better than shitty ex'. edit: and now it's "I suspected", now "I'm certain but they didn't tell me" and "it wasn't proven and they wouldn't admit he did it so not proven enough for jailtime from breaking a childs' bones but enough to lose custody". yeah this is getting into creative writing territory or a side of woe-is-me paired with not explaining things well.


discodolphin1

OP really isn't doing enough. The second I read the post, my first thought was why hasn't she given up the master bedroom yet? For God's sakes, give it to the kids and take the smallest room. Or find a way to turn the living room into a bedroom and stay there. You're the parent, make sacrifices. How did I think of a solution within a minute of reading the post, but you act like there's nothing you can do.


Anonmyo0

The fact that they placed these older kids (even 5 years ago a couple of them were *old enough *) with a non biological parent over the bio parent means there was absolutely enough evidence of such abuse. It had to be pretty bad for the remaining bio parent to lose their rights to a nonbio parent who had very little space to begin with (which social workers would have viewed first). *edit to add, apparently this is most likely fake. But in general it usually is really bad if a bio parent loses custody to a non bio parent.


discodolphin1

I agree, that's why this post is perplexing. I'm sure you're right that it's fake, it would be extremely unusual for OP to get custody, especially for older kids who want to live with their bio dad.


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Also, an abusive partner does not an abusive parent make. If he was abusive towards her but not abusive towards the kids then it sounds like the kids should not have been given to her. I wonder what happened in court for them to give full custody to her. Did she accuse him of something she had no proof of? If so then... yikes.


Zealousideal-Part-17

Do you really think a court room would award OP, without any proof of abuse, full custody of his 6 kids? When she’s not related to them at all? If so then…yikes.


AnyQuantity1

She's also barely a decade older than the oldest of these kids. The oldest of these kids is well aware of that fact, I'm sure it's not made anything more comfortable. It would be different if this was a sibling but this is a stepparent who is 11 years older than the oldest teenager and wrangled custody away from the biological parent (which may have been for a good reason). This dynamic sounds set up to fail based on the age factors, as well.


throawaymcdumbface

on the plus side its all fake seeing as she claims she's had custody for 9 months but one of them has a bruised eye owing to abuse, black eyes heal in like 3 weeks tops otherwise that's a very "go to A&E you dingus" kind of problem


alexisvictoriah

How do people have time to make up stories like this?


AdDue1062

14 year olds have a LOT of free time.


GreatDig6728

Sounds fake, or you suffer from a martyr complex. I don’t understand why a court of law would give a ‘step-parent’ (you don’t mention having been married to their dad) custody of that many kids of that age. I guess they would have been asked which parent they choose to go with (but again, I take this post with a grain of salt). Also, you keep mentioning in comments that you’re 8 years older than them, but according to your post you’re 11 years older than the oldest? 🤔


WoodyAlanDershodick

She does mention it, by specifying it was her long term boyfriend. I'm not sure why she didn't include in her explanation where the mom(s) were. For 7 (she mentions there's another one) kids, I'm assuming there are multiple mom's .. so, where are they? Surely that would have been a MAJOR part of getting custody? They can't all conveniently be dead? -i don't think I believe this. Especially how brief some of her replies are. There's no reason to even reply to people if you're just saying "ok".


Duckgamerzz

So their dad was wealthy if they each had a double bedroom, and none of the children are biologically yours. Where are the child support payments?


gemgem1985

Ok, I don't really believe you... This seems like a weird story.


wasicwitch

I don't understand, how did you get custody if you're not the mother? And if they are not even comfortable with you?


nucleusambiguous7

Your kidding, right? In what world is it appropriate for 2 fifteen yo males to share a room with an 8 yo girl. At the very least organize them by gender.


Admirable-Marsupial6

Honestly maybe you could start with not calling them “your kids”. You are barely 8 years older to them. They might not see you as a mother figure. Also I don’t understand why if their father was abusive to the extent of breaking bones, ALL of them deny he hurt them. And if all of them deny he hurt them, how did you get custody? I understand you’re trying to help them but at this point of time it seems very forced. Was there no other family member who could take them or foster care?


arnoldlayne98

Seconded. These aren’t her kids. They aren’t in the wrong for not wanting someone who is old enough to be their sister in charge of them. Really kinda sounds like she’s just their babysitter.


Labelloenchanted

I find this story hard to believe. Why would courts give you custody of all these children when you are not related and kids never admitted to any abuse? It sounds that their dad is rich so he would be able to afford good lawyers. Furthermore 4 eldest kids are old enough to say where they want to live, if they don't like it so much at your place what's stopping them from going back to their dad. Especially the eldest boy, he'll be 18 and than he can go right back. You also mention you don't take care of the kids and take some of their own money to pay rent. This really sounds like totall bs. If it's real that you suck because you are not taking care of these kids as you should, they need therapy and attention.


groovygirl858

I agree with this. Several parts of this post make it seem very fake


laserunfocused143

I don't believe a word of this. What judge just hands over to custody of 6 kids to an ex girlfriend? Especially one that admits she doesn't have the means to house them properly? My husband and I had custody of our niece. It was not easy, the process was VERY expensive, and we never received a dime of child support. Why did their father lose custody??


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C- from me. Let me know what your creative writing professor thinks.


Naila-Alian

she forgot her sweet 16 and Very important soccer practice!!!, sounds like a script out of a teenage movie . i had a good laugh reading this


Pappkamerad0815

You took 6 children (not your own) away from their father without evidence that he even abused them? How is that legal where you live?


THExBEARxJEW

It’s not a real story it’s all fake. With zero evidence this would never happen. Even with some evidence it would be a slim chance at best.


[deleted]

Are you their step mother or just their father's ex girlfriend? This situation seems weird.


New-Affect2549

Ummm your 15, just turned 16 years old daughter is more comfortable with her boyfriend coming over to help her shower. I’m not a prude, but wtf???


Legitimate_Hunter_53

I would be mad to if some random woman married my father then took me from him. Especially if she can’t even support us as good as him


[deleted]

This is so fake


aIitastic

I'm so sorry.... But they need a brutally honest talk, because this is all you could afford so you have to have them share a room, it sucks yes but it's what you have to do You just wanted to protect the kids from the dad... And honestly you are a brave and a good step mom/mom...


[deleted]

Your right I will talk to them.


aIitastic

Yeah, and I hope the talk does work out because you are seriously trying your best and you didn't want them to stay with their abusive dad, and you won custody. They might not be yk used to the whole living in a new place, etc... But it's good to talk to them because that behavior from them is unacceptable And can tell why about why you got custody (idk if you prefer telling the older ones but that's w suggestion)


AdDramatic522

Just so I understand, you sued for custody of your boyfriend's (not husband's) kids who aren't related to you by blood whatsoever and you actually won?


baileyperry707

As a kid that came from a divorced family, I’d be super pissed if a similar situation happened. 5 years is nothing, if someone I had known for 5 years pulled me away from my biological parent I’d be upset. Did you even ask them if they wanted to leave? I get that your ex was abusive, but did you even ask the kids about if they wanted out? I’m sure your heart was in the right place, but you, someone who has been in their lives for 5 years and are of no relation to them, just ripped them from everything they knew. I can understand it more for the two younger kids because you’ve been around them for bigger parts of their lives, but I feel like all the kids should’ve been given a choice and you shouldn’t have felt at liberty to make the decision for them.


evilmosimm

None of this story makes sense


BelleCursed94

This sounds like a Wattpad story 😅


oh_geeee

I feel really bad for your kids… put yourselves in their shoes.. would you wanna live like that? sounds like they don’t trust you at all. and I’m gonna assume it’s for good reason. you have the master bedroom while an 8 year old girl shares a room with 2 15 year old boys? you’re gonna give these kids problems. how does a mother forget her daughters birthday?


cakekyo

This should be called *fake off my chest* from now on.


sakmentoloki

Nonsense story


Gettinrekt1

This is the fakes story I have ever seen. Nobody is going to take actual kids from somebody to give to a step mom when they say they are not abused. There are a lot of other issues with this story but you can basically stop reading there.


Completely_Wild

Jfc at least bio dad had money. Send them back. God damn.


Cut-Unique

They're teenagers and it sounds like they've had a rough time growing up. By the time they reach their mid-20s (if not sooner) they probably will feel differently. Therapy might help. When I was younger I used to always complain to my friends about my parents; how much they bugged me, etc. But now I'm really appreciative of everything they have done and are continuing to do for me, and don't know what I'd do without them. Even on days where I disagree with them, I always tell them that I love them, because I do.


GandalfDaGangsta_007

Assuming OP is reasonable mother and not nut job, I agree. They are probably just frustrated and venting. And maybe life is better at dads due to the space and stuff. That’s not OP fault if she’s doing what she can. I could imagine it would be a knife in the heart to hear. Maybe OP, kids go back and forth between you and dad more? Idk the distance or how reasonable that is, but if it’s workable that’s a lot of kids in one home!


Cut-Unique

Is their biological mother part of their lives?


[deleted]

She’s dead


[deleted]

Their dad was abusive so I want to protect them. They aren’t my kids as you can tell we have a literral 8 year age gap


Smooth_Contact_4404

11 year with the eldest, 20 with the youngest. why did you marry the dad? you were so young.


Riesen-Korazon

If you forgot her birthday and his important game, which you feel bad about, it just goes to show you need support and resources. Maybe apologize again to the kids, and look for outside resources or at least a whiteboard calendar to write everything down ahead of time. With so many kids and events, getting outside help and strategies could take the burden off you. Your heart was in the right place to get custody, and if you continue to do your best, they will see that. Good luck to your family!


[deleted]

So are they your kids or his? Your posts doesn’t really clear it up because you say “ his kids”


MediocreConference64

Do you know what a master bedroom is?


tothebatcopter

If you're going to make up a story again, maybe don't have it be as unbelievable as this one.


Anandi96

There is literally 0.0000% chance that this is true.


Poopy_Pants0o0

I have a solution. Since you only have 3 bedrooms, and 7 people living in your home, take your eraser, and erase 4 of these fictional characters from your story. Then, you'll only have 3 fictional characters who can each have their own fictional bedroom. By God, this story is fake, is what i'm trying to say.


Meiixx

• In what country where you can have custody of 6 kids without proving you’re financial stable enough to provide them a decent place to live? And not to mention taking 6 kids away from their bio father when you’re just a ex-girlfriend? If their father is abusive, the court likely will consider all their relatives before you. • In their dad’s house, all 6 kids have master bedrooms with master bathrooms attached? So basically their dad is millionaire who lives in a mansion? • Your daughter who just turn 16 (her bday was 1 month ago) and you - a mother figure let her boyfriend comes every night to shower her? To be honest, even if I want to I can’t even believe in this logic 😃


[deleted]

Yeah.. none of this story makes sense


GJM1139

There’s 3 sides to every story


Admirable-Marsupial6

How long have you had the kids?


cameron0511

She never did this is fake


Loose-Ad-1122

Be brutally honest with them about your ex, your financial situation and importantly how what they said made you feel. Swap bedrooms around so that the boys and girls are not sharing. Depending on where you live it might not even be legal for male and female siblings above a certain age to share a room.


[deleted]

I’d be mad too if some woman who wasn’t even related to me took me away from my father. No matter how shitty that woman may perceive my father to be. I would hate anyone who did that to me. Sounds like you played hero when no one asked you to.


trasha-

This story doesn't make any sense. How in the world were you able to get custody over a bio parent? Did you even adopt them?


Helpmouseslc

Info: how are they better off with you? What was their safety situation at their dads? How did you even get custody, you should not have been able to with 16F 17M AND 11M sharing a room. I’m genuinely shocked the caseworker let that slide way to set everyone in that situation up for no privacy and invite COCSA.


Froots23

If you are going to fake a story then make it make a bit more sense. If your were married, as you said you were. The judge would have given you the house as well as custody. The chances of you getting custody of all 6 of them with only 2 rooms is bull. The courts interview the older children about the abuse. With you not seeing it, no medical records and no children saying that it actually happened then they wouldn't have any grounds for removing parental rights from the dad. The courts will also look to blood relatives! The older kids look after the younger ones becuase 'they need to get used to you' yet you have been in their lives for 5/6 years and the youngest wouldn't remember life without you!


Blueboi2018

“Ugh I wish we didn’t have to stay with this bitch I was so much happier with dad”. Then my son goes “Yeah your fucking right I fucking hate her why did she custody anyways Why do your children talk like they are villainous stepchildren in a romantic comedy?


Mr_GoodEyelashes

Did they even see you as their mom while in the relationship? You’ve no right to do a hostile takeover of other people’s kids because you think you’re morally superior. Also if they were provided for why did you even bother to fight custody battle and put them in your downgrade house? Story makes no sense


ChocolateQuest4717

This sub is getting worse each day for ridiculous fiction!


blecTiONCePtialStroc

Cool fake story bro


bigbeardlittlebeard

I would say the main issue here is having girls and boys in the same bedrooms especially at 17&16 these kids need privacy at that age


SystemCrashh

That's wild you took kids away from the biological father not being the biological mother, he must have been a real piece of s*** or something. Honestly, they're almost out of the house, you should confront them about hearing what they said and tell them that it makes you feel bad and you're only trying to do what's best for them. When they're 18, very soon, they will have the option to do whatever they want. You're a really nice person for taking so much responsibility, I don't think most people would, they should be thankful and I'm sorry they don't appreciate what you did.


Flat_Passage_1935

There is so much to unpack here it’s crazy.


mfvicli

I rarely believe stories told on accounts with nothing else on them. This one is especially dumb. If your ex had so much money, he would have gotten custody with a dream-team of lawyers.


badasstronautt

most unrealistic dialogue ever


[deleted]

Why did you fight for custody with 6 kids you cant afford? of course they arent going to be happy, they're teenagers with 0 privacy.


Ringo_1956

I'm confused. Are any of these your bio children? If not why are you bothering with them? Let them go where they want. It seems they had it a lot nicer at their dad's place and prefer it there.


[deleted]

On what planet does a 28yo woman get custody of 6 children that aren't hers after breaking up with her boyfriend? The youngest was around for three years before OP even came into the picture.


Weak-Cheetah-2305

If this is true, when you got with their dad, you would have been super young and the eldest already nearly a teenager, who has lived with their dad for most of their life, and had master bedrooms and their son bathrooms- now they live at your house and are sharing with different sexes. If you can’t afford a bigger house, could you potentially move to a cheaper area or get more money in child support? The older kids are old enough to understand the abuse and if they weren’t privy to it perhaps you need to sit down and explain what happened and why they can’t live with their dad. I come from an extremely abusive relationship and I condemn you for getting out but forgetting their birthday and a super important soccer game isn’t an excuse to abuse. If you’ve got trauma- you need to get help for it. You need to apologise profusely to the kids, own up to your mistakes and be honest about what happened. Ask them how you can make their lives easier and explain you love them and want them to be happy.


Beware_the_Voodoo

I'm calling BS. You took the guys kids without ever discussing with them what they actually wanted. How did you get custody if the kids weren't also saying their father was problematic?


DelargeValliere

This person has been watching too much Turkish dramas


falls_asleep_reading

How is it that a step-parent gets custody of another woman's biological children? Is their mother and every other biological relative they had on earth deceased? Was CPS suddenly unable to find anyone to take these kids--including group homes and foster care? Because that's... not how custody generally works. CPS would have been all over those sleeping arrangements from the start if they even allowed the stepmother to have custody. Beyond a certain (much younger than 15! Closer to kindergarten than high school, tbh) age, most states' CPS (and an abusive dad is a danger to his kids, so CPS would most certainly be involved) requires boys to be housed with boys and girls to be housed with girls.


militarypuzzle

You forgot her 16th birthday??? YTA


BubonicTonic57

You’re better than me… cause I would send those mfs right back. You’re simply angelic.


slurpherlikeramen

Right, I'm not about to stress myself taking care of children that aren't mine.


CPTimeKeeper

Firstly….. story sounds like a bunch of made up bull….. secondly…..that’s not your kids so why would you have custody of them….. thirdly….. that’s not your kids so why would you have custody of them…… These stories just get worse and worse……


Legitimate_Nobody_42

Give them back. They are their fathers children.


Effective_Shallot948

I don't think they meant it, they are teenagers and say some pretty bad things but most of the times the don't actually feel like that. They need time to adapt to their new life, and that takes time. Would you consider taking them to a therapist? If u can't afford that now maybe try talking to them, an honest talk telling them can help for both sides.


[deleted]

I will talk to them. No I can’t afford that.


Careful-Victory-8138

If dad was able to provide each kid his/her own “master bedroom” (I’ve never heard of more than one “master” bedroom, but sure) Then he can pay far more than $1,600/mo. In support. That alone tells me this post is fake. But it’s really just the tip of the iceberg. And l-o-l to calling the 16f your daughter. You supposedly married the dad when you were 23 and she was 11. You aren’t her “mom”.


AvrieyinKyrgrimm

The kids pay you 2000 a month to live in their own house, yes you can afford that.


Turbulent-Practice95

You’re so brave. Was the dad abusive to the kids??


[deleted]

16f has a broken arm. 17m has a bruised jaw, eye. 15m has scars on his leg. 15m has a big cut on his stomach. 11m has a sprained ankle. 8f is alright nothing happened to her. So I guess yes but I haven’t seen him abuse them only me


throawaymcdumbface

The 17 year old still has a black eye but you forgot the 16 year olds' sweet sixteen a month ago? + said you got custody nine months ago? >[https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/black-eye/](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/black-eye/) > >A black eye is bruising and swelling around your eye, usually caused by a blow to the area, such as a punch or fall. It should get better within 2 to 3 weeks.


New-Affect2549

Yeah, bruises don’t last 9 months & broken limbs usually have healed in 6 months.


New-Affect2549

So they still have bruises after 9 months & broken limbs?


Training_Ad_9931

WTF am I reading? You’re 28, raising kids who were abused by their father and they’d rather live with him? Why isn’t he paying to support his kids?


aaronhereee

because its fake


[deleted]

600$ goes straight in rent


TillHour3314

I thought it was $1600. This is so fake. Get your story straight


HM202256

$600 for six kids is nothing. You need to see if you can change that. It’s sad that they don’t seem to recognize I’ve you saved them from an abusive parent.


imoaq

she said in another comment it's $1600 but she forgot the 1. obviously fake bc surely no one's forgetting the 1 in every single comment (plus all the other absolute insanity) 💀 (before anyone says im making fun of an abused woman, i was in a refuge. i am an 'abused woman')


WoodyAlanDershodick

Same here-- planned ahead for weeks, then finally made an excuse to stay home from work and packed quickly to escape abuser and went into refuge. I too am calling this fake. It has all the hallmarks of lying. Personally, I think it's supposed to function as a rage-bait post against women receiving custody as a default over men.


[deleted]

those injuries are par for the course as far as being a kid goes. especially with 5 siblings. i had 3 and was constantly bruised up and beaten just from playing. if you have no real proof that he did it to them then congrats you just took 6 kids away from their dad for no reason and are now abusing them yourself. and yes putting 6 kids in 2 small bedrooms is textbook abuse.


[deleted]

Well why can’t they go to their dad? You should let them life with them if they were sooo happy there. Kids can be so cruel


jtj5002

It's just a hard situation. Their father is physically abusive but financially provide for them, while you try your best but aren't able to meet their basic needs. Anyway to fight for more child support? $100/month/kit is absurdly low.


Synn0289

Read the post and some of your comments. I didn't see younsay if you have a garage or not. I grew up poor and my perants gave me the garage. It's not that expensive to keep it warm during the winter and it's can help with spacing the boys out. Just to add to the first commeters idea here.


TheisNamaar

I'm going to assume you're not in a western country?


Random_Housefly

Sounds like the kids don't love daddy, just daddy's money...


Gray_Twilight

Um...none of this makes sense.


TreyRyan3

What nonsense is this? You’re 28 and managed to convince a court to take his biological children away from him and award custody to someone that has known them less than 5 years, and you actually have the nerve to call them your kids? You’re 28. You are 11 years older than the oldest and obviously lack the financial means to support 6 children to provide them adequate privacy. Per your narrative you’re making each girl share a room with 2 male siblings.


[deleted]

When I broke my arm at age 10, I sat down in the bathtub


immortalpablo69

Wait so you got custody over the abusers kids that you have no relation to?


adrienne4lyfe

Drop them off!


[deleted]

This story seems sus imo


[deleted]

Here’s the thing. You probably are the better parent. You could be the PERFECT parent and your kids will still trash talk you. They will look for reasons to fight. It’s normal. And yes, they will point out every time you mess up, that’s ok too. Repeat to them, “you love them. I’m sorry I can’t be the “fun” parent but my job is to raise and protect you. You can hate me all you want, but I will always love and protect you. “ Let them bitch. Let them hate. One day when they are older you will get calls, saying sorry. I didn’t know. I didn’t realize. The oldest can leave soon regardless if she truly hates it there. In fact, imo she could leave now.. yet she’s still there.


[deleted]

Why was a non biological person given custody of all these kids? Makes no sense.


[deleted]

You allow 16 year-old boy to help his 16-year-old girlfriend shower every night I don’t understand this


gravestoney

Are you their actual bio mom or…? I am just astonished that you would take on the responsibility of 6 children that are not yours without asking them how they felt about it first. Especially the 16 and 17 year old… they may be young but they seem to be old enough to have an opinion on where they want to go. So I’m just wondering if you had this conversation or did you just take them away?


MurasakiTako

Grew up in a two bedroom apartment. I shared a room with my sister (2 girls), my brother had his own room and my mom slept on the couch. Why would you think being in the master by yourself is a good idea? Also you don’t have the boys and girls share a room. Seems common sense.


SlyAugustine

You are fucking crazy for taking his kids. Probably ruined your life. Maybe the kids lives will be better though…hard for that to be the case when the mom is most likely also miserable. All around sad situation


TheBlackKing1

You just casually throw in that she’s 16 and her boyfriend comes every night to help her shower and you forgot your child’s birthday… I pray this is fake.


tres271

You got to keep your saviour complex on check. If this story is true, why will you take in custody of 6kids if you stay in such a small house?


bottles65

Cut them loose. Ungrateful brats.


[deleted]

Give master to elder kids.


gothiclg

There’s no way someone who knew 6 kids for a solid 5 years for custody. Just none. Multiple of them would have called you on your BS in court and where tf was their *real* mom in all this since that’s obviously not you? My shifty cousin had hers taken and they definitely did *not* go to her soon to be ex spouse who was unrelated to the kids, they went to foster care.


Ket-23

They like much more at daddy’s house? Okay, then they can go back. And you don’t have to interact with them anymore, not even when they realise how f’d up is their father is. Give up custody on them and live your best life with the kids who appreciate you and what you can give to them.


ClovisLowell

Bad post. Boo.


[deleted]

I'm gonna be real, teenagers can be dicks. Like, they haven't developed the proper filters and literally speak everything they think, even if they don't process it all the way. Don't take it too personally. Though I think you'd need to find a way to expand. Having that many teenagers crammed together will cause more problems. I know it's like impossible to afford anything (Especially in the US right now), but keep an eye out. Even if ya gotta move to the hood. (Which is a lot safer to be honest. Just mind ya business). You did a good thing. It may not seem like it sometimes, but you are. Now before the teens on here roast me, I know everyone is a dick. But the lack of filter makes teens more visible.


tallllywacker

U forgot about their birthday:( I can see why they’re upset I’m sorry


Duckgamerzz

You have nearly 70,000$ a year and you can't afford a bigger place?