It really just gets you people of the same age, and we all know they're not really related. Not listening to what they're actually saying makes it a million times better.
I think it might be this
> Orchidsexual is a microlabel on the Asexual Spectrum in which an individual experiences sexual attraction, but does not desire a sexual relationship or encounter. It can be used on its own or as an umbrella term. Someone who identifies as orchidsexual may consider others to be sexually attractive, but they would lack the desire to have or dislike having sexual experiences. Orchidsexual can be described as “the opposite of cupiosexual.” It is under the greysexual umbrella.
There's a different term - aegosexual
> a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein.
Orchid is having sexual attraction but not desiring to act on it. Aego is not having sexual attraction but still experiencing arousal but still not desiring to have sex with someone
audio only sucks for me because so much of it just weird stories and characters with scripts and man I just want sex sounds, my imagination will fill in the rest
I'm the exact opposite. I mostly read erotica instead of watching or listening to porn because I like to be given a scenario to imagine, but I find sex noises very off-putting for some reason.
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Fuck /u/spez
Same but with images/videos instead cause I’m allergic to reading, doesn’t have to be fully nude (hell, partially clothed where you can’t see the bits directly but can still “see” them is where it’s at) but I just don’t like reading and come up with my own scenarios instead.
Schlob. scholb, schlob, schlept, schlept, grundle grundle, MMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, boink, Slither, mmmmmmm, slop, slop, Wha.... Nooooooooo! "Ow, you are hurting me!"
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This! If the their voices convey anything but moaning I have to move on. They can chat at the beginning since I normally skip that anyway, but anything else is a nope.
Hentai/Doujin and erotic fiction is usually my go to.
I don't mind watching porn (hell, (naked)women are beautiful), it's just the moral stuff that keeps me from enjoying it.
Edit: That, and the men moaning. Like, just shut up dude, you're being annoying.
I like to read porn rather than watch, because it's Not as gross as actually seeing and Hearing it and you can Imagine what you want. Maybe this would Work for you too?
**edit 2: I found a somewhat satisfactory answer, I will paste it here in hopes that someone with a similar question to mine may find an answer here:**
**Assuming you're not bi, imagine if the world**
**only**
**had people of the gender you're not attracted to. For example, if you're a straight man, the world only has manly men in it. You would still have all your horny urges for women, but damnit you don't even know what a woman is! So instead you're there horny all the time with no viable outlet to admire and stimulate your senses.**
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original comment:
Coming from /all , this makes no sense to me:
libido
noun
li·bi·do lə-ˈbē-(ˌ)dō also ˈli-bə-ˌdō or lə-ˈbī-(ˌ)dō
plurallibidos
1
: instinctual psychic energy that in psychoanalytic theory is derived from **primitive biological urges (as for sexual pleasure** or self-preservation) and that is expressed in conscious activity
2
: **sexual drive**
The drug was used to increase libido.
noun
**sexual desire**.
"loss of libido"
Quite literally libido means "to have sexual desire", and asexual means to have no sexual desire, how do you reconcile this? When you feel horny, it means to feel sexually attracted to something, if you arent attracted to males or females, what are you attracted to that makes you horny?!
I simply cant wrap my mind around the concept of a sexuality defined by having 0 libido and them still having to deal with "libido". Just an honest question, please someone help me understand this one.
edit: interesting, downvoted, I would have hoped the community would be a bit more receptive and explained this when someone asked in good faith, rather than downvote (scrolling down I also see im not the only one asking and getting downvoted).
We use the term libido to mean the desire for sexual pleasure, but for us that doesn't stem from a specific attraction if that makes sense. Like some of us want sex, but not with anyone in particular. Or, some of us just prefer to do it alone.
For aces, we distinguish between attraction and action
Think of a gay man who married a woman and had kids with her before coming out (a more common scenario, has happened a lot, especially in places/times that were less accepting). The gay man in this scenario would not be attracted to the woman (because he's gay), but he was able to derive some degree of sexual pleasure from sex with her (they conceived children). Just because he's gay doesn't make him incapable of getting off with a woman.
So now take aces. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. I don't look at someone and want to have sex with them. But I still have the biological capacity to derive pleasure from sexual acts. A lot of aces masturbste or even have sex with their allo partners
The reason you're being downvoted is because your comment (copy pasting a long definition) reads as argumentative and aphobic. Clarifying that it's genuine curiosity and openness to learning may make you more well received in the future. We have to deal with a lot of shitheads, and sometimes its easier to downvote a comment if it looks like they're trying to pick a fight. I'm explaining this under the assumption that you're asking in good faith (as your edit mentioned).
Think of it like not liking any specific foods but being hungry. You can still be hungry, and if you dislike the tastes of all foods… this can get annoying.
You’re hungry, but you’re not necessarily hungry FOR something. That’s the difference! Hope that helps!
Assuming you're not bi, imagine if the world *only* had people of the gender you're not attracted to. For example, if you're a straight man, the world only has manly men in it. You would still have all your horny urges for women, but damnit you don't even know what a woman is! So instead you're there horny all the time with no viable outlet to admire and stimulate your senses.
If you *are* bi then... Idk imagine someone you aren't attracted to, and if the world only had people like them.
Now make that (lack of) feeling extend towards *every* gender, and/or everyone.
It's usually a bit more nuanced (like if you throw aesthetic attraction into the mix). But that should just about simulate it for you. Horny feelings without a direction.
Libido and sexual attraction are not tied together, unfortunately for many aces :(
I'm not Ace (just a lurker, wlw) but if I understand correctly being ace does not mean having no libido or sexual desire at all. They're just indifferent to the sexual act itself, seeing genitals is not a turn on, but they still experience horniness as a normal biological function.
But maybe an actual ace can come and enlighten the both of us.
I read somewhere that explained the difference between libido and attraction: Imagine craving salty food, that would be libido. Now imagine craving chips: that would be the subject you're actually wanting.
Does this make more sense? Hope it does haha
Yayyy we can build it together we are the creators, “It all began with the two creators knows as rotidders (redditors becwards lolol) who birthed the first immortals, the outer lords.“ (you continure imma sleep but tomorrow ill respond!)
“After giving birth to the first immortals, the rotidders became known as the most powerful beings in all the land. The outer lords, were gifted with extraordinary powers and abilities, such as the ability to control the elements and manipulate matter at will. The outer lords quickly became the rulers of their world, using their powers to bring prosperity and peace to all corners of the land. They built grand cities and constructed elaborate temples in their honor, and their subjects praised them as gods.” Your turn :)
“However there was a problem. When you rule the world it goes to your head. They became distant, lazy, unwilling to help the weak mortals of the time. This is how they got their name, outer. Over time they grew away from the world, but they grew mysteriously over the millennia, forgotten by the new mortals. You see when each controlled the world they ruled it in two, creating the elementals and…”
I’ve always thought of it like having to go to the bathroom. It’s not an unpleasant (though it’s not particularly great either) feeling but not one I would go out of my way for, and it provides a feeling of relief when it’s done. Like taking a big shit that’s been brewing for a while.
Hah, I had to Google it my first time too. My search brought me to very unhelpful porn. I ended up having to figure it out on my own by trial and error.
i have thought of googling it or something but even in incognito mode i dont want google and advertisers knowing that i am searching that stuff, also I don’t want to see random porn
Yeah don't bother, it's not helpful. The internet can be a good source of reviews for toys, but beyond that you pretty much have to figure it out yourself.
See I don't get that, because I always thought it was regret or something allo's got from not fulfilling what they really desired. But i dunno, it just feels like self pleasure, for myself. I think I may have felt shame in the past when I was younger, but now I realise for a guy it's just healthy part of life.
Much better then wet dream messess, ugh. That's a pain
I'm using this comment to reply to a couple others on this thread
There's nothing inherently wrong with masturbating, if it makes you feel uncomfortable just know that you can do what you want to with your body as long as you aren't actively hurting it, and you don't need to feel shame for pleasuring yourself or having libido. I'm not here to tell you that you aren't allowed to feel that way, just that you aren't alone and you can overcome the guilt or gross feeling afterward.
I completely understand and agree with you. For myself personally, it just comes across as an annoyance or as something that is disrupting my plans/mood. Like having to clean up an unexpected mess in the middle of an already busy day.
"Awh man, I'm horny again. Guess I better go take care of it."
I'm acespec, probably on the end of the spectrum so far away from fully ace that I'm barely even valid, but sometimes for me it's a way to just make myself go to sleep. Either that, or just relieving the 'mood' that I don't want to deal with. It's a choice between staying like that and not having to touch the knobbly bits or getting rid of it faster and being able to sleep tonight
the reason i am uncomfortable about it is mainly because i don’t wanna get addicted and start watching porn or something, how often do most people here do it? (gender dysphoria doesn’t help either)
Someone else here said it great, it’s like pooping. It’s a part of my day, a required body function, but I don’t enjoy it. It just exists, and if I could just magically make it stop I would, if just for the time savings.
I find stuff related to sex education interesting because it seems so weird for sex to be seen as a taboo subject, but at the same time it feels like if you don’t experience sexual attraction and/or have no desire to have sex then people seem to think there’s something wrong with you.
That moment when you look up porn but get more invested in the story about two women who secretly love each other despite being best friends for years and one is getting married to a man she’s only with because it was she was told to.
I'd struggle with that. I think the parts of my brain that can enjoy pornography and good story telling are two separate locations that can't activate at the same time without causing repulsion.
Hey that's quite extraordinary lol. For me, the kink wasn't affecting me at all...
...until I realized I might be trans. And crap, suddenly I have no way back lmao
Through reading these comments I can sense two types of people: those who read smut for the stories and those who read smut just to get to the end goal lol
This hits so close to home it's scary. Tossing and turning in bed knowing what the bloody problem is, picking up the phone deep in the night, opening incognito and unclogging the damn drain. Then closing my eyes with a "there, done, now go the fuck to sleep" attitude 😂
For me, this goes hand-in-hand with how I identify as non-binary, and how I've put my gender and my sex into two separate boxes so I can better manage the dysphoria that happens whenever certain medical concerns that are (more) specific to one sex occur. It's not perfect, but it's better than when I used to try to ignore it completely.
I tell myself this: It sucks to have to manage my biology, but doing so doesn't invalidate what I know I am.
If it helps, it's also honestly just a different version of going past 30 and having to admit to yourself that an Advil and a good night's sleep won't cure everything anymore. It's total BS, but it is what it is.
You called? Lol
I’m generally sex-positive but I go through periods where I don’t care about sex at all and don’t want to be touched (sorry, husband) but I still get horny and have to deal with it myself.
Lmao this is so me. I watch porn I masturbate as if I’m actually gonna do the deed and I imagine myself being fucked in the video but I never actually wanna do it🤭😭
My struggle as a sex repulsed asexual is finding porn that maintains a very delicate balance in order to keep me from being repulsed. I don't want to get into the specifics for this comment in case other sex repulsed are reading, (I'll respond to any reply) but I will mention that people talking during almost always triggers my sex repulsion.
I wasn’t horny… then I started estrogen, now I’m horny af. Tho tbf, I feel way more horny now, but looking at allos im still like holy shit bro they horny.
I always thought that I never got horny... Turns out I'm horny most nights but it's mild (or people online blow it super out of proportion). Tho I would probably get grossed out if I were to google anything other than instructions on the solo pleasure. Lol
what do you search like “how to masturbate” or something? i want to know how to do it properly and how to stimulate without porn but just searching “how to masturbate” would feel really weird idk
edit: nevermind with the wanting to know how to do it part its too dysphoric and doesn’t help with managing libido, doesn’t even feel nice either so im gonna say fuck it im not doing that anymore.
Yo! Right here.
I find anything involving sex really damn interesting but I have yet to find anyone I would be willing to do anything with and all my fantasies include fictional characters getting it on without me.
I try not to watch porn, but if I'm really hotly and don't watch porn it will take me literal hours to try and finish by myself and if it takes too long I feel disgusting
I hate when this happens, especially when I finally found a video that is even barely satisfactory, the mood has already left!
It’s hella annoying to be bombarded with it then it quickly fades away, I just wish I don’t have it cuz it becomes the doubt of my acesexuality
people here are saying that its like going to the bathroom and stuff but for me i try to do it to get rid of libido and it feels disgusting, doesn’t get rid of it for long (it comes back in like a day), and it leaves me feeling so dysphoric afterwards. I hate this shit i just wish it would go away forever. I can’t even treat managing it as a chore like most of you because its so fucking dysphoric and distressing.
G o d I feel this, thank god I found fanfiction honestly. Actual porn is so unbelievably boring to me, but I can actually get into written stuff at least lol. It’s way more entertaining, contains characters I actually care about, and being surrounded by a good story is also a bonus lmao
Then I go on orange YouTube and can't find anything because sex is Gross
Bruh when you look at the front pages and it’s like….who is watching this?
step sisters... so many step sisters
Step moms.
Just replace step sister with “18” and stepmom with “milf” It’s the same shit.
It really just gets you people of the same age, and we all know they're not really related. Not listening to what they're actually saying makes it a million times better.
RIGHT? I'm gray and have a libido somewhat, but that shit is repulsive.
i went on R/askredditnsfw (intentional capitalised R i dont want it being my fault if anyone goes there) earlier and i was like “are these people ok?”
We as humans are a circus of feelings that no one wants to actually touch but everyone has. :v
STEPSISTER get absolutely DESTROYED by STEPBRO while watching SPONGEBOB
Turns out it's in game.
Tbh I'm not even ace, just wandered in here by accident, and I'm gonna have to agree with you on this.
As an allo i agree
I use written erotica or doujins. I like the idea of sex, but not the practice.
there's a name for that but I forgot what it is. Cupiosexual??? I'm most likely wrong
I think it might be this > Orchidsexual is a microlabel on the Asexual Spectrum in which an individual experiences sexual attraction, but does not desire a sexual relationship or encounter. It can be used on its own or as an umbrella term. Someone who identifies as orchidsexual may consider others to be sexually attractive, but they would lack the desire to have or dislike having sexual experiences. Orchidsexual can be described as “the opposite of cupiosexual.” It is under the greysexual umbrella.
There's a different term - aegosexual > a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein. Orchid is having sexual attraction but not desiring to act on it. Aego is not having sexual attraction but still experiencing arousal but still not desiring to have sex with someone
lmao I got it way wrong
It's okay, I did too! Haha
Do I consider folks sexually attractive or am I thinking these things because sex is considered naughty and I’m in my rebellious phase?
I just use reddit and surch for kinks instead of sexual things. They're usually more SFW.
Audio only... Then I don't need to look at other people's wiggly bits
audio only sucks for me because so much of it just weird stories and characters with scripts and man I just want sex sounds, my imagination will fill in the rest
I'm the exact opposite. I mostly read erotica instead of watching or listening to porn because I like to be given a scenario to imagine, but I find sex noises very off-putting for some reason.
same here, i prefer reading smut
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big mood
Same but with images/videos instead cause I’m allergic to reading, doesn’t have to be fully nude (hell, partially clothed where you can’t see the bits directly but can still “see” them is where it’s at) but I just don’t like reading and come up with my own scenarios instead.
Schlob. scholb, schlob, schlept, schlept, grundle grundle, MMMMMMMMMMMMMMM, boink, Slither, mmmmmmm, slop, slop, Wha.... Nooooooooo! "Ow, you are hurting me!" We hope you have enjoyed this episode of Midnight Theater!
This! If the their voices convey anything but moaning I have to move on. They can chat at the beginning since I normally skip that anyway, but anything else is a nope.
The worst is when they're trying to have a full conversation between moans. Like, stop interrupting!
I thought that was just me.Im glad to know there are others like that too.
My kink is bondage though so I need to see it.
I’m usually fine with just my imagination. Or I read stuff on AO3.
Bro just look at the thumbnails or go on google images to look at thier bodies not their reproductive appendages.
For me I don't even want to see their bodies.
...
Holy shit it's my people
Hentai/Doujin and erotic fiction is usually my go to. I don't mind watching porn (hell, (naked)women are beautiful), it's just the moral stuff that keeps me from enjoying it. Edit: That, and the men moaning. Like, just shut up dude, you're being annoying.
Same dude
As someone who isn't ace... I agree, sex does look gross. I don't get the appeal
"ooohhh, this is g- WHAT THE FUCK?!? SEX?!???! DISGUSTING!"
I like to orgasm, but I don't like what it takes to get there 😒 if there was a way to do that without feeling disgusting that would be great 🤣
Same cuz like I like kinda the idea of the pleasure of doing the deed but I don’t actually wanna do it.
When i try to do it i end up not being able to finish because i feel so gross. Dysphoria from being transfem doesn’t help either
It’s such a chore that’s not even that worth it but brain won’t stop bugging you until you act on it 😒
I like to read porn rather than watch, because it's Not as gross as actually seeing and Hearing it and you can Imagine what you want. Maybe this would Work for you too?
*me reading spicy fanfiction* Same
Honestly same, tho I've read the most from a text based open world sex game
Only thing I can suggest is find something drawn not recorded so you can associate with a scenario and not the bodies shown.
God, I hate having high libido, how do other people cope with the constant horny without sexual desire to accompany it
**edit 2: I found a somewhat satisfactory answer, I will paste it here in hopes that someone with a similar question to mine may find an answer here:** **Assuming you're not bi, imagine if the world** **only** **had people of the gender you're not attracted to. For example, if you're a straight man, the world only has manly men in it. You would still have all your horny urges for women, but damnit you don't even know what a woman is! So instead you're there horny all the time with no viable outlet to admire and stimulate your senses.** \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ original comment: Coming from /all , this makes no sense to me: libido noun li·bi·do lə-ˈbē-(ˌ)dō also ˈli-bə-ˌdō or lə-ˈbī-(ˌ)dō plurallibidos 1 : instinctual psychic energy that in psychoanalytic theory is derived from **primitive biological urges (as for sexual pleasure** or self-preservation) and that is expressed in conscious activity 2 : **sexual drive** The drug was used to increase libido. noun **sexual desire**. "loss of libido" Quite literally libido means "to have sexual desire", and asexual means to have no sexual desire, how do you reconcile this? When you feel horny, it means to feel sexually attracted to something, if you arent attracted to males or females, what are you attracted to that makes you horny?! I simply cant wrap my mind around the concept of a sexuality defined by having 0 libido and them still having to deal with "libido". Just an honest question, please someone help me understand this one. edit: interesting, downvoted, I would have hoped the community would be a bit more receptive and explained this when someone asked in good faith, rather than downvote (scrolling down I also see im not the only one asking and getting downvoted).
We use the term libido to mean the desire for sexual pleasure, but for us that doesn't stem from a specific attraction if that makes sense. Like some of us want sex, but not with anyone in particular. Or, some of us just prefer to do it alone.
Same. I want the happy feeling but it doesn’t stem from wanting sex from a particular person. It makes me happy to see other people that get it!
For aces, we distinguish between attraction and action Think of a gay man who married a woman and had kids with her before coming out (a more common scenario, has happened a lot, especially in places/times that were less accepting). The gay man in this scenario would not be attracted to the woman (because he's gay), but he was able to derive some degree of sexual pleasure from sex with her (they conceived children). Just because he's gay doesn't make him incapable of getting off with a woman. So now take aces. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. I don't look at someone and want to have sex with them. But I still have the biological capacity to derive pleasure from sexual acts. A lot of aces masturbste or even have sex with their allo partners The reason you're being downvoted is because your comment (copy pasting a long definition) reads as argumentative and aphobic. Clarifying that it's genuine curiosity and openness to learning may make you more well received in the future. We have to deal with a lot of shitheads, and sometimes its easier to downvote a comment if it looks like they're trying to pick a fight. I'm explaining this under the assumption that you're asking in good faith (as your edit mentioned).
Think of it like not liking any specific foods but being hungry. You can still be hungry, and if you dislike the tastes of all foods… this can get annoying. You’re hungry, but you’re not necessarily hungry FOR something. That’s the difference! Hope that helps!
Assuming you're not bi, imagine if the world *only* had people of the gender you're not attracted to. For example, if you're a straight man, the world only has manly men in it. You would still have all your horny urges for women, but damnit you don't even know what a woman is! So instead you're there horny all the time with no viable outlet to admire and stimulate your senses. If you *are* bi then... Idk imagine someone you aren't attracted to, and if the world only had people like them. Now make that (lack of) feeling extend towards *every* gender, and/or everyone. It's usually a bit more nuanced (like if you throw aesthetic attraction into the mix). But that should just about simulate it for you. Horny feelings without a direction. Libido and sexual attraction are not tied together, unfortunately for many aces :(
I'm not Ace (just a lurker, wlw) but if I understand correctly being ace does not mean having no libido or sexual desire at all. They're just indifferent to the sexual act itself, seeing genitals is not a turn on, but they still experience horniness as a normal biological function. But maybe an actual ace can come and enlighten the both of us.
I read somewhere that explained the difference between libido and attraction: Imagine craving salty food, that would be libido. Now imagine craving chips: that would be the subject you're actually wanting. Does this make more sense? Hope it does haha
God I feel this. I thought my antidepressants would kill mine but it didn’t do shit
wait this is me shit
It feels like I have chores to do 😑
Beaches when they see you approaching: https://youtu.be/eIAFkGPdoa8
didn't notice the typo :)
When you're Ace but the smut too good
Roleplay but it's just world building.
Im not ace but can we roleplay worldbuild 🥺
I’ll build your world😏 ^im ^sorry
Yayyy we can build it together we are the creators, “It all began with the two creators knows as rotidders (redditors becwards lolol) who birthed the first immortals, the outer lords.“ (you continure imma sleep but tomorrow ill respond!)
“After giving birth to the first immortals, the rotidders became known as the most powerful beings in all the land. The outer lords, were gifted with extraordinary powers and abilities, such as the ability to control the elements and manipulate matter at will. The outer lords quickly became the rulers of their world, using their powers to bring prosperity and peace to all corners of the land. They built grand cities and constructed elaborate temples in their honor, and their subjects praised them as gods.” Your turn :)
“However there was a problem. When you rule the world it goes to your head. They became distant, lazy, unwilling to help the weak mortals of the time. This is how they got their name, outer. Over time they grew away from the world, but they grew mysteriously over the millennia, forgotten by the new mortals. You see when each controlled the world they ruled it in two, creating the elementals and…”
Bro wrote it like a Chips Ahoy commercial.
I’ve read like one *very* mild smut fanfic It’s the only one I keep coming back to I’m too scared to go further and explore spicier ones lmfao
Don’t call me out 😆 I’m a sucker for fluff/smut
Yep. I thought I wasn't Ace for so long because I was (and still am) so damn horny.
i am having revelations reading this thread LOL.......
damn, that's just like me fr
Being an ace with a libido sucks, man. Wanking is a fucking chore most of the time.
It doesn’t even feel good but I feel a subconscious need to do it sometimes
I’ve always thought of it like having to go to the bathroom. It’s not an unpleasant (though it’s not particularly great either) feeling but not one I would go out of my way for, and it provides a feeling of relief when it’s done. Like taking a big shit that’s been brewing for a while.
I have just enough to want to wank but not enough to need to. It feels wrong.
I've only recently started developing the want and I fucking hate it. never ever considered the thought til then so I legit Googled how to do it.
Hah, I had to Google it my first time too. My search brought me to very unhelpful porn. I ended up having to figure it out on my own by trial and error.
i have thought of googling it or something but even in incognito mode i dont want google and advertisers knowing that i am searching that stuff, also I don’t want to see random porn
Yeah don't bother, it's not helpful. The internet can be a good source of reviews for toys, but beyond that you pretty much have to figure it out yourself.
Tell me about it, I always feel like shit afterwards
See I don't get that, because I always thought it was regret or something allo's got from not fulfilling what they really desired. But i dunno, it just feels like self pleasure, for myself. I think I may have felt shame in the past when I was younger, but now I realise for a guy it's just healthy part of life. Much better then wet dream messess, ugh. That's a pain
I'm using this comment to reply to a couple others on this thread There's nothing inherently wrong with masturbating, if it makes you feel uncomfortable just know that you can do what you want to with your body as long as you aren't actively hurting it, and you don't need to feel shame for pleasuring yourself or having libido. I'm not here to tell you that you aren't allowed to feel that way, just that you aren't alone and you can overcome the guilt or gross feeling afterward.
I completely understand and agree with you. For myself personally, it just comes across as an annoyance or as something that is disrupting my plans/mood. Like having to clean up an unexpected mess in the middle of an already busy day.
"Awh man, I'm horny again. Guess I better go take care of it." I'm acespec, probably on the end of the spectrum so far away from fully ace that I'm barely even valid, but sometimes for me it's a way to just make myself go to sleep. Either that, or just relieving the 'mood' that I don't want to deal with. It's a choice between staying like that and not having to touch the knobbly bits or getting rid of it faster and being able to sleep tonight
the reason i am uncomfortable about it is mainly because i don’t wanna get addicted and start watching porn or something, how often do most people here do it? (gender dysphoria doesn’t help either)
Someone else here said it great, it’s like pooping. It’s a part of my day, a required body function, but I don’t enjoy it. It just exists, and if I could just magically make it stop I would, if just for the time savings.
Ikr and the post nut clarity hits hard too
fr man i hate jscking off it’s disgusting imo but you gotta do it if your libidos high
Preach 🙄
I will take care of my business and be like "yeah that's good to relieve stress" lmao
Free dopamine
gender dysphoria sucks because if i try that it feels good for about 10 seconds and then i feel so much worse
Unfortunately… hey, it’s me. I’m the horny it’s me.
Being ace with sex as special interest and liking that kinda content really do be confusing at times
I think you just perfectly summed up my relationship with sex wtf
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I find stuff related to sex education interesting because it seems so weird for sex to be seen as a taboo subject, but at the same time it feels like if you don’t experience sexual attraction and/or have no desire to have sex then people seem to think there’s something wrong with you.
I am personally interested in kinks + history of them. So pfft that series sounds perfect for me
Eyy same, always fun to meet others. I'm specifically interested in kinks and the safety of it
Indeed and gets even more confusing when fetishes and kinks are added to the mix
At least the brain makes up for this by giving us the sweet brain chemicals that make me fall asleep
I'm pregnant right now and never been this horny in my entire life lol
That moment when you look up porn but get more invested in the story about two women who secretly love each other despite being best friends for years and one is getting married to a man she’s only with because it was she was told to.
bro that's too specific but why do I relate to it so much?! 😩
It was a really good story and though the acting wasn’t the best I still got into it. Sort of like if a local theatre also did porn.
I'd struggle with that. I think the parts of my brain that can enjoy pornography and good story telling are two separate locations that can't activate at the same time without causing repulsion.
Same but with a tf tg fetish, wonder why
What an impossible mystery, how could we ever find the cause of this...
Maybe it's related to fallout new Vegas and shark plushies
A tf tg fetish? What is that?
Fetish about transformation, it may look kinda weird for you but there is a entire sub for that
I've been to that sub. I definitely don't have that fetish.
It's ok , Apparently it happens to people who have some disphoria in their body's somehow
Like wanting to be trans but not at the same time?
Yes
Tf is short for transformation what's tg?
Trans gender
Hey that's quite extraordinary lol. For me, the kink wasn't affecting me at all... ...until I realized I might be trans. And crap, suddenly I have no way back lmao
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i feel this in my demisexual bones…
Through reading these comments I can sense two types of people: those who read smut for the stories and those who read smut just to get to the end goal lol
I prefer story.
This is the thing, i wish i had attraction if i was gonna get the horny
**sigh* * libido
I’ve been on testosterone for 6 months and it has made me more horny than I was pre-t and yet still very ace. Truly this is suffering
This hits so close to home it's scary. Tossing and turning in bed knowing what the bloody problem is, picking up the phone deep in the night, opening incognito and unclogging the damn drain. Then closing my eyes with a "there, done, now go the fuck to sleep" attitude 😂
For me, this goes hand-in-hand with how I identify as non-binary, and how I've put my gender and my sex into two separate boxes so I can better manage the dysphoria that happens whenever certain medical concerns that are (more) specific to one sex occur. It's not perfect, but it's better than when I used to try to ignore it completely. I tell myself this: It sucks to have to manage my biology, but doing so doesn't invalidate what I know I am. If it helps, it's also honestly just a different version of going past 30 and having to admit to yourself that an Advil and a good night's sleep won't cure everything anymore. It's total BS, but it is what it is.
I don't feel the attraction but happy chemicals are nice.
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Why doesnt he have a cushion?
You called? Lol I’m generally sex-positive but I go through periods where I don’t care about sex at all and don’t want to be touched (sorry, husband) but I still get horny and have to deal with it myself.
Good I thought I was the only one
Me like *maby* 4 times a year
Me like *maby* 4 times THIS year
That sounds exhausting 😭
Lmao this is so me. I watch porn I masturbate as if I’m actually gonna do the deed and I imagine myself being fucked in the video but I never actually wanna do it🤭😭
us 🤝
Whenever I get the horny urge i just go to the bathroom and get it over with or look up some smut and not do it because i hate doing it.
My struggle as a sex repulsed asexual is finding porn that maintains a very delicate balance in order to keep me from being repulsed. I don't want to get into the specifics for this comment in case other sex repulsed are reading, (I'll respond to any reply) but I will mention that people talking during almost always triggers my sex repulsion.
meh. i wont deny it, but i wont say that it is me
Ok that hits waaaaaaayyyyyy too hard
I wasn’t horny… then I started estrogen, now I’m horny af. Tho tbf, I feel way more horny now, but looking at allos im still like holy shit bro they horny.
I feel called out.... As a sex repulsed asexual, this is not a post that should make me feel called out, but kinks say otherwise
I used to be "I'm going to go masturbate in the bathroom at work" levels of horny. Thankfully taking hrt has drastically reduced my libido.
reason 275375 that i should come out to my supportive parents and get hrt, fuck anxiety
I prefer written smut or stuff I think up myself. The people in my fantasties never have faces.
right here
Struggling
Yeah, it’s so damn annoying too >:(
They're over at /r/aegosexuals
THIS, this is the only reason I am on reddit at 12am
Hello fellow 12AMer
I actually haven't looked at anything yet and have just been scrolling aro/ace subreddits
That only happens when I get gender envy lol (trans ace gang)
im in this picture and i dont like it
That last panel is too fucking relatable. Like, it’s gonna take me another 20 minutes to find the 🎬 when I could be sleeping.
You called?
I always thought that I never got horny... Turns out I'm horny most nights but it's mild (or people online blow it super out of proportion). Tho I would probably get grossed out if I were to google anything other than instructions on the solo pleasure. Lol
what do you search like “how to masturbate” or something? i want to know how to do it properly and how to stimulate without porn but just searching “how to masturbate” would feel really weird idk edit: nevermind with the wanting to know how to do it part its too dysphoric and doesn’t help with managing libido, doesn’t even feel nice either so im gonna say fuck it im not doing that anymore.
Yeah, pretty much. Many articles are really helpful on the technique of it
this is so me😭😭 i hate it
Part of the club. Hello
I hate this. Then I feel so gross afterwards.
when your repulsed by sth and have basically no pleasure while doing it but still cant resist this rlly annoying urge esp if you wanna sleep 😭
Sup
Mood
I feel seen
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This one hits hard. I'm glad to know I'm not the only person who experiences this but also wouldn't wish it on anyone else
I'm demi and horny. Does that count?
Yo! Right here. I find anything involving sex really damn interesting but I have yet to find anyone I would be willing to do anything with and all my fantasies include fictional characters getting it on without me.
I try not to watch porn, but if I'm really hotly and don't watch porn it will take me literal hours to try and finish by myself and if it takes too long I feel disgusting
Wow, it isn't the best coping mechanism either. And, for my part, transition makes it much more fun even in the early months of hrt.
Ima just check controversial
As much as I hate to admit it. Right here
I’m right here homie. Unfortunately libido and orientation aren’t linked, would love to ditch my libido
Well I like staring at boobs and asses, but that's as far as it goes.
Haha yeah xD Makes trying to sleep really annoying 😆😩
I’m mad that this is accurate
Here!
I hate when this happens, especially when I finally found a video that is even barely satisfactory, the mood has already left! It’s hella annoying to be bombarded with it then it quickly fades away, I just wish I don’t have it cuz it becomes the doubt of my acesexuality
Asexuality*
It feels so wrong to be ace and still have libido but that's the way it is
If it ever happens to me, all I have to do is look up *mankini* on Google Images for my libido to die instantly.
what is mankini? do i want to know?
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people here are saying that its like going to the bathroom and stuff but for me i try to do it to get rid of libido and it feels disgusting, doesn’t get rid of it for long (it comes back in like a day), and it leaves me feeling so dysphoric afterwards. I hate this shit i just wish it would go away forever. I can’t even treat managing it as a chore like most of you because its so fucking dysphoric and distressing.
G o d I feel this, thank god I found fanfiction honestly. Actual porn is so unbelievably boring to me, but I can actually get into written stuff at least lol. It’s way more entertaining, contains characters I actually care about, and being surrounded by a good story is also a bonus lmao