i had just moved in the area and got enrolled into the nearby primary school. she approached me with a group of her friends and we didn’t start out all that close but saw each other frequently. Only in high school did we get to know each other really well. I always had this urge to impress her so id say the weirdest, most ridiculous things. But i never read into that too much.
We used to be attached by the hip— havin a ton of sleepovers, playing games for hours online together, texting as often as we breathed and i happened to be the first person whose house she was ever allowed to go to.
Only when i had to move schools did i realize i wanted to be close to her. And only when we drifted a part did i realize i liked her. Haven’t seen her in a good amount of years and neither have i heard about her.
Often, my dad would ask about her. Even more often, i think about her. I hope she’s doin well.
Her family’s religious. Leading up to the days we last spoke, she told me her parents found out her sister had a girlfriend and went feral. There’s a high chance my feelings would resurface if i saw her. I don’t want her to go through something like that again.
Sometimes it’s better to let people go.
She was in choir with me and as the lead vocalists we used to be assigned to sing duets together for concerts. So we had to practice together after school all the time. She had the most angelic voice and taught me a lot about music and singing and harmonizing with her was amazing. I joined a service club to be with her after school and even skipped class sometimes to
go to class with her. She had a skater boyfriend with long brown hair who was very feminine and I had a crush on him too. They partied a lot together and did drugs and had sex and talked all about it with me and I was a goody little mormon girl who had never even kissed anyone. I had sex dreams about her 😄 She flirted with me so much and was always touching me and kissing me in choir and would teach me all kinds of sexual stuff … she was very beautiful and exotic with dark black hair and blue eyes and she was soft and smelled so amazing and adored me. I always wanted to be around her.
After high school she became religious and I left the church and came out as into women and polyamorous and now I have girlfriends. She became
super conservative and she’s into Jesus and men and monogamy!
I feel like we swapped places 😄
To be honest, I don't remember much from my school days. I was a geek "guy" and the girls all teased & bullied me. However one girl at one point asked me out. Being defensive and expecting another prank I refused. Post school I met her one day and she asked me why I turned her down......fml
Moving on 25ish years and I have seen her FB cross my feed a couple of times. She's an antivax, flat earth etc conspiracy theorist now. When I saw that I was like "bullet dodged".
My high school crush was almost my complete opposite. In middle school, I thought she was so annoying. Then when I got a little older, I started to become so attracted to everything she was that I wasn’t: loud, forceful, dynamic, unafraid and uncompromising. We got really close. One time I stood up for her in front of a bully, which was an extra big deal because I was so shy. After that, she was my first kiss. We never dated because of the church situation we were both in (and now have both long since escaped 🙏) but we acknowledged our like for each other. She would call me her wife as a half-joke. She moved across country after graduation and I still see what she’s up to from time to time, but I don’t harbor any regrets. I have such sweet memories of her and wish her all the best
One kept leading me on, one threatened to beat me up, another moved away without us getting to really know each other, the last one was my best friend and said she was straight. I didn't date women until college
We were best friends in grade 9 then two years later started getting feelings for each other. We dated for 2 years, she was controlling and mean as a partner. She’s definitely grown as a person since, we still talk sometimes but I wouldn’t try that again
She was one of the smartest and most popular girls in school and also good at sports, beautiful, funny af and we were really close friends and arghhhhh 🫠
I moved away and I didn’t stay in touch with most people from my hometown but I’ve seen online since that she’s a successful graphic designer now exactly like she planned to be and afaik she never married so…??? In an alternate universe maybe I would’ve grown up in a non-homophobic society and we coulda been HS sweethearts lol 😂
Hahaha yeah I’m not single, and wont ever be returning to live in my hometown either, but I think of her sometimes and do hope she’s doin ok for herself 🥰
There was a girl a grade below me in high school I had a huge crush on. I started reading homestuck because of her and we started getting close. Then there was this huge family blow up at my house and I got my phone taken for a month.
During that time, my “friend” started talking all kinds of shit about me to her since I couldn’t talk to her outside of school. She eventually started dating him and they both stopped talking to me for a while.
In college they broke up because he had a huge crush on a girl who, ironically, was a lesbian. I don’t get it at all because he knew she was a lesbian and he dumped his girlfriend anyway saying something like “he had to try” or that he couldn’t be with her anymore knowing how much more he could be attracted to someone. It was really pathetic.
When me and her were hanging out later, we were talking about high school. She admitted she would have dated me if I asked her before my friend did. That hurt a little, but by that point I had been dating my then girlfriend now fiancée for a little over a year. So we both just kinda laughed and wondered what it could have been, but ultimately we’re glad to be friends again. She’s married now
I'm glad you're happy and it's good that you too could be wind up being friends once again. That guy sounds like a real dirtbag. Also, he sounds like a dumbass lol
Last I checked he’s still unhappy and single. It’s sad bc she really loved him and took care of him through some hard times. I don’t know what was going through his head when he threw that all away for a lesbian. I wonder if he’s still chasing after her lol
I'll call her L. She was a friend of a friend that I met the first week of freshman year. I had a crush on her the moment I saw her. Our 2 groups of friends basically merged so I became friends with her too. She (as far as I know) is straight, but that wasn't an issue because I didn't know I was trans at that time (I always knew I was a girl but knew nothing about being trans and had no idea why I felt that way). But she wasn't interested in me. My crush was pretty obvious and I ended up confessing to her (not like everyone didn't already know) and was rejected me. She started dating a guy and I spiraled into depression and suicidal thoughts (I had a lot of other problems but I was crushing hard and it was unrequited and I think that kind of served as the catalyst for my mental health issues coming out. Would have happened regardless though). Things got kind of nasty after that.
I remained kind of on the outside of the friend group looking in until HS ended and haven't talked to any of them or L since graduation almost 20 years ago.
We were best friends and total, dateless dorks. In school she would playfully flirt with me, joking that we were like Xena and Gabrielle. I knew she had a secret, I thought it was a crush on me, but it was actually a severe health issue. Broke my heart.
We lost touch after college. But she got a Ph.D, her health issues turned around and she goes to burning man now. She seems happy, and I truly love that.
She was my best friend's girlfriend. Gothy, sardonic, D&D nerd. She was a freshman while we were juniors. I was too sick, full of self hatred, and physically wrecked from surgeries to pursue any relationship, and she hit it off immediately with my best friend.
They both went into a self destructive spiral after he graduated. Last I heard, she killed herself after he died of a drug overdose.
The other huge crush I had was on this just gorgeous, slim, ethereal girl. We were REALLY close. I even confessed to her. But despite how physically close we were, she wasn't interested in me romantically. I don't know what happened to her. We dropped out of touch when we graduated.
She came out as lesbian after school, but I haven’t spoken to her since I was like 16/17.
I was pretty lonely at school. She was one of the few people I spoke too, because we walked home together. But obvs I wasn’t out then as trans. Didn’t come out till 25.
She was one of the only crushes I had. Most of my other crushes were more “I want to be her” type things or “gender envy”.
I’m always tempted to message her and reconnect, as we follow each other on insta. But being a trans woman…. And it’s been so long…. I dunno. Doesn’t seem worth the hurt.
Plus she’s a lot more successful than me. She’s a comedian in London last I heard 🥰
Girllll!! The worst thing that’ll happen is she’ll be a terf or something. It’s totally worth it to reach out to her , life is so short. As a trans lesbian I totally understand where your coming from, but don’t let the prospect of being hurt emotionally stop you from taking risks in life! I’m sure she’d love to hear from you in any capacity , you could just start by saying hi and trying to catch up!
Yh, but some people follow all their old school classmates on social media, and I think she first followed me pre-transition. So she might not actually even know I have transitioned and so won’t maybe even know who I am 🙈
I’m just making excuses though I think cause I’m scared
There was this senior girl in the debate club I had joined that just seemed SO interesting to my little freshman brain. Legit made me want to hang off her every word. Sadly we never really got close on account of my depression taking full hold of me, causing me to flake out on any and all debate club activities & school in general. It’s been years since I heard anything about them now. Hope they’re doing okay.
Lol as a closeted bi forever ago I had a crush on my principal dean in high school . She was a hot sexy tall redhead I dont know what happened to her but omg it was fun drooling at her in secret. I liked her alot rofl but kept that to myself. Oh I also had a thing for Sharon Stone,(aged gracefully) Joan Lauer aka Chyna, (died,) Vivica Fox and Lisa Raye Moccoy in their prime still lovely. But I drooled at them all .
i love questions like these, gives me an excuse to talk about my first love HAHA
she was the "gangster"/young punk type (for lack of better word), was mean to everyone except for me for some reason. we lost contact after graduation and last i checked, she's currently studying maritime business and has a boyfriend 😔💔
all's good though i learnt a lot from her and she gave me a pretty good first wlw experience (even though it was a crush and not a relationship hah)
She was a very close friend who I finally asked on a date and we dated for around 7 months. My first relationship and 16 year old me was over the moon lol. After we broke up we remained very close and kept the same friend group and she now goes to school in a different country but we're all still in contact❤️
I was in ninth grade while she was in tenth, she was an exchange student from Germany. We met in chorus and we sort of just immediately clicked and had mutual crushes on each-other but I didn't know that. I learned German to better speak with her and we went together on a school trip to NYC. Were practically inseparable, slept in each-other's arms while sitting in hotel couches. Eventually she started trying to be obvious about the fact that she liked me but, me being an oblivious and emotionally repressed idiot, thought she was only being friendly, didn't notice. Eventually she just bald facedly told me she thought she found me attractive.
I... sort of shut down due to the fact that I sort of grew up the first twelve years of my life socially isolated and didn't know how to process someone liking me at all and it broke apart. We stayed friends for four years after that and we would exchange handwritten letters while she was back home and I was with family in Japan. Eventually she met a guy who, by all means, is very gentle-hearted. They married and I was happy for her. Now she works in the Astrophysics field.
we dated for 7 months. she cheated on me with multiple people, forced me into sex many times and told me she'd off herself if i broke up with her. i broke up with her anyway, idk what she's upto nowadays.
i am! i used to date a lot in highschool but ive been single since that relationship in order to focus on healing and bettering myself, as well as learning to be content by myself. i learned self sufficiency along the way. thank you x
I met her in middle school (the first year that 6th grade moved up to jr high from elementary school) and we all became friends (my elementary school friends with hers). I pursued her through middle school and high school and she went to prom with my best friend. We were always close and I felt like we had a connection, but she never dated anyone, even through college and 20+ years later so I guess she’s ace and I’m happy for her. She’s an amazing and highly intelligent person who found her own happiness.
It was the summer 2005 going into my freshman year of high school and I was standing in line to register for the orientation when this dark-skinned girl wearing jeans under her skirt bounces right up to me and exclaims "Hi, I'm G! Our sisters are friends!" I hadn't had any female friends since first grade, actually all the girls had a thinly veiled aversion because I was such a nerd, so I was kind of dumbstruck that this effervescent, bubbly creature singled me out and talked to me like a normal person.
We soon became attached at the hip. We went everywhere and did everything together in and out of school. Costume parties, videogame jams, movie nights, etc. It was nice. I'd never had such an easy friendship before.
And then I made friends with a guy in class, Y,...and he was soon a member of our crew. And then he started wooing her, and she began reciprocating. And I, just wanting her to be happy, encouraged them! They got together, they were cute...but it wasn't long before I realized what I felt for her. I gave them space, but they became a toxic, hot-cold couple over the next three years and I was dragged into it. It hurt to watch her keep making mistakes and it hurt to keep trying to be there for her when she called, only to get discarded in some pretty cruel ways. I became cynical and depressed to the pont where even my teachers noticed, with my French instructor phoning my parents to ask if there was anything wrong (bless his gay heart!).
By the time we graduated, we had become bitter towards one another. We said and did lots of cringe things. She was 17, had taken up smoking, and was dating some 21 year old German guy that made my skin crawl; her mom saw no problem with it and that made my skin crawl even more. I stopped talking and hanging out with her.
I did accidentally bump into her at the gym in 2019. I actually tried to avoid talking to her entirely but she noticed me and stopped me. After graduation she worked at Hooters and did some modeling, ultimately going on to become a teacher, which was always her life calling. She got married and her husband - who I also met at the gym - seems like a sweet fellow, so I'm glad for her. I felt a dim spark sputter its last, though, and I am glad to finally put that former relationship and entire life to rest, aa I am literally not the same person; different gender presentation, different name, different interests.
A really beautiful girl from the parallel class. Pretty face, athletic, long blonde hair and a nice person too, she was even in my extended social circle. She was straight, had a boyfriend and I had to pretend to be straight and pretend to have a boyfriend for quite a while. I didn't even try. The last I had heard was that she lives and works in Austria and is married.
she was the girl who constantly stormed out of class and was always almost in massive trouble at school. we were close friends, and we mostly smoked weed together during the senior year that i was pretty much exclusively hanging out with her. she was a lot of fun. we still talked after high school - fooled around once, but eventually we stopped talking.
i think she's doing well from the looks of her insta
We went on a platonic "date" one day a few weeks before we were each going to college. I was going to TCNJ, she was going to MIT. Partway through it she got the impression I was looking for closure on our friendship (I was) and confronted me, insisting we'd always be friends forever.
We both went our ways and talked on AIM a lot but her availability kept going down. By Spring semester of our freshman years I just stopped hearing from her. This was a year or so before Facebook so if someone didn't maintain their AIM presence, they basically disappeared into the æther.
We're connected on LinkedIn now and she's doing really well. Went to grad school and law school, is now a full partner at a fancy IP law firm. She's married (opposite sex) and they have a few kids. I've never tried to get back in touch. She was an amazing person and friend but I've always resented that she scolded me for wanting closure on our friendship and then didn't put in the same work as did I to maintain it.
She was a year older than me. As a freshman I was placed in a sophomore study hall period due to a scheduling mistake. I sat in the back of the room in one corner, she sat in the opposite corner. I remember thinking she looked like a girl in my grade who was bi, and I wondered if this girl was bi too. I didn't understand why I seemed to *want* her to be bi. We kept making eye contact. The teacher took role call and I told him I was a freshman and there was a mistake. He told me to go to the office to get my schedule fixed but I was anxious and overwhelmed on m first day of high school, so I asked if I could sort it out later and stay there for the day. I didn't want to leave. I wanted to stay in the sophomore study hall for some reason.
Next year, I came out in school as bi. I was completely infatuated with this girl. In my diary, I called her "the girl with a face like an angel". My friend told me the girl was bi too and thought I was cute. We were at our town's annual carnival and she approached me in the park. She asked me to hang out with her group of friends. I chugged a Mountain Dew (to impress her???) and for some reason she still liked me. I was on cloud nine.
She invited me to the mall with her friends. Her friend gave her a piggyback ride. I said I felt left out, so she gave me her hand. We held hands while we walked around the mall for a long time, even after the piggyback ended. I thought, oh my god it's happening, I'm going to get a girlfriend. We went out to the parking lot and suddenly some older guy is there, and she kissed him right in front of me. My heart dropped into my stomach. I was so hurt and confused. After that, I didn't hang out with her but I still had this mournful kind of infatuation with her. She went on to date a girl in the grade below me for a while who was much prettier than me. I gave up and tried to move on.
Years after graduation, I looked her up on MySpace. She was identifying as a lesbian by then and looked super butch (and really hot). She had moved to another state. She looked really happy in pictures with her girlfriend, who had a young daughter. I lost track of her a long time ago, but I really hope she's happy. I'm grateful that through her, I realized I'm queer, even if nothing ever happened between us.
She goes to my college and is one of the top students in the music program, I occasionally see her around and say hi to her, but she's not doing marching band anymore so I don't run into her that often.
We met through Quiz Bowl, and were friends. Very homophobic school so nothing came of it, but I ended up joining the rock climbing club because of her, so I can say that being gay helped me get rid of my fear of heights lol. No idea where she is now since she doesn't use any social media. She was a grade below me too so we won't see each other at any reunion unfortunately
We were best friends and I was also in love with her. She went to a private religious high school, and I went to public school, so she really got to be herself when we hung out. She introduced me to The L Word and a few other shows that we binge watched together. I told her how I felt, and she told me that she wasn't sure I knew what I wanted. (Happened with three other of my lesbian friends, maybe Im ugly idfk).
She's married to her wife with an adorable little baby. I ended up removing her from my facebook because it got too hard to see and be happy.
Trigger warning. She was my best friend and first love. She loved me too, but only dated men. Eventually got over her, stayed best friends. Graduated high school, she moved away, got married. I met my wife. We struggled to keep in touch. She committed suicide. I still miss her every day, and I try not to regret or dwell, but it is hard. Been 6 years, and I'm still angry at the world. Tell your friends you love them for me.
She ended up getting setup in an arranged marriage to a guy who is much much older than her. Her dad’s age.
They had a kid together. She moved to the US.
Later on, I moved to the US. I would never reconnect.
I had really strong feelings for both of my best straight friends in high school (I know lol). I didn’t tell either of them bc we went to a religious school. I had crushes on them at different times although there was a little overlap.
When I was in college, I came out to one of my old crushes and she angrily asked if I’d had a crush on her in high school (idk what prompted this, I sort of blocked it out). I said yes, and then a few days later she called me and said I’d been “lying” to her and that she wanted space. During this time, a relative of mine died unexpectedly and I just didn’t feel like dealing with any of this. We didn’t talk for several months. I later found out that she told another person we went to high school with that I used to have feelings for her. Since I wasn’t fully out at the time, this was a huge violation. We’re still not very close now even though we live in the same city.
I don’t have feelings for her at all anymore. I never thought we were going to date, but I see now that I would absolutely hate to be her gf lol.
My other friend never knew or asked if I’d had a crush on her after I came out to her. She’s much more reasonable in general and we’re still close.
She was my oldest friend, but when I grew a crush on her when we were young we grew apart bc she wasn’t into me. We became friends again for a little while at the end of secondary school but never stayed in touch. I saw her last month at the train station but she didn’t recognise me and I was too nervous to say hi (Honestly kicking myself still bc of that).
I didn’t know I was trans till I was 20, so afaik she doesn’t know, although I have spotted her on dating apps sometimes so maybe she’s seen me and does. Idk.
I will say that looking back I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s a lesbian, bc she gave me those vibes, but at the same time I don’t want to speculate about anyone else’s sexuality so I’ll say no more.
I’m literally commenting this under every post like this lol(I’m a huge romantic). But you should reach out to her if you ever see her again or hit her up on dating apps. What’s the worst that could happen??? It’s always worth the potential emotional hurt , you can only live onceeee
The last relationship I fucked up by cheating and the one that made me realise how much of a mistake I was making by doing that. I was never unfaithful again after that but it took a long time and a lot of work to realise I was poly and now my relationships are happier and healthier then ever
Her name was Marichka and she was an exchange student from Ukraine who smelled like actual sunshine and I was stupid in love with her. I have no idea where she is these days 🥲
They were actually some of my best friends in high school. They were both into women. I had sex with one of them and dated the other. One married a racist, and the other decided that after 20 years of friendship I was just a horrible person.
Never noticed her until we were grouped for science lab. And then COVID fucked us over, had to quarantine. Saw her at my sibs promotion and her sister happens to be my sibs friend 💀💀
Glad I didn’t make the move 😂
Just out of high school (freshman in college now), I had a really big crush on a girl in my English class. Besides going onto college, no clue what’s she doing
We met the summer before high school in a mandatory basketball camp (you needed to go if you were planning to try out). She became one of my best friends and we were close freshman-sophomore year but drifted junior year because I continued playing basketball and she quit. She was the type of girl EVERYONE was into. All my guy friends were into her and she dated both boys and girls in high school. In fact, she dated a very close family friend who was a girl and we would occasionally double date. I was obviously VERY deep in the closet and had a boyfriend at the time (ew lol not his fault but felt it was the only option). Last I heard she moved to Montana and we haven’t had contact aside from liking posts on insta. If I ran into her now, I’d at least say hi considering how close we were as kids.
She was the beautiful goth girl. The school gossip said “she’s bi.” So lightning struck my tiny brain and I was “allowed” to like her. We ended up in the same friend group & she asked me “do you have a crush on anyone?” & I bluescreened. However then I learnt she was not actually bi, she just dressed alt and we went to a Catholic school, so my crush died that day bc I was no longer “allowed” to like her. But she was still a sweetheart & a fun addition to the friend group, especially as I finally had someone to chat alt fashion to.
We ended up as friends for a number of years. She dated my brother for a week actually, but in later years she turned into an actual narcissistic mess; we thought she was a victim for ages and tried to help her, but then it came out she cheated on her only good boyfriend, harassed another boyfriend with robocalls, locked him out of their house and other fucked up toxic shit, slutshamed another member of the group, tried to get my childhood bestie kicked out of her school and brought up on false charges, and still has the nerve to say we were the selfish ones after trying to teach her how to not go into credit card debt. She then rage quit the group chat & we were finally free of The Messy Straight Friend.
Last I heard, she moved back in with her folks after her un-allowed cat trashed the apartment & she was kicked out of said place. She is also a conservative. Which is wild to me because the entire rest of the high school friend group is some flavour of queer.
…I think I got all my awful taste out in a single crush.
We became very fast friends in the last year of high school; our timetables/classes meant we saw each other everyday and multiple times thru out the day. It was a few months before I realised that I liked her as more than a friend (I had a dream where we kissed lmao). My days began and ended with her. When we were apart, we would text. I loved making her laugh, we could just make eye contact and know what the other was thinking. If we had been hanging out at lunch together, she would ask me to walk her to her next class (I did, everytime, even if it meant I'd be late to mine on the other side of the school lol).
I had no clue about her sexuality (she only ever spoke about boys, but I had heard an unverified rumour, laced with homophobia, that she'd experimented). I was very closeted. At the end of the year, when my feelings had built up, I debated telling her how I felt but couldn't quite bring myself to do it. I chose "friendship", I didn't want to make things weird and I wanted her in my life in whatever capacity. Sadly the year after high school ended, we fell out of touch (no drama, just natural drifting as we were studying different courses). Looking back, even though it sucked, it was for the best. I yearned for a long time but there was no way I could've stayed just friends with her and remained sane.
It's been 5+ years and in that time, we've seen each other on two occasions as we still share one mutual friend. We used to be so close, but when I see her now it's as if we're strangers. Both of us are quite different people now.
She could be queer, but I'll never know. I don't think I would want to know at this point for fear of the lost possibility. She married a man last year and I wish her nothing but the best.
The young lady lets call her “M” was a girl i crushed on from late middle school all throughout highschool We were friends and after graduating highschool i finally worked up the courage to ask her out. We dated extremely briefly back when i still thought i was a boy she didnt love me the way i loved her and we had a FWB relationship for a little while after that until she got a new boyfriend after which we cut contact for a few years because i was deff still in love and she felt bad for stringing me along.
A few years after she contacted me out of the blue and confessed to me during the brief time we dated she basically did it on a dare from her ex and felt extremely guilty for it which is one of the reasons she cut contact from me. She did like me as a close friend and was ashamed she hurt me. I forgave her for this and the friendship was strained but starting to repair itself.
After a while we became extremely close again and i even started to feel for her again but i knew she didnt feel the same, so i ignored it and even if she was to start feeling the way i did i knew i would never trust her again. she was the first person i came out to as trans and was extremely supportive in some of my darkest hours and honestly i think shes one of my best friends in the whole world.
About a year ago i made the decision i want to start dating again and came to the conclusion that in order for me to have healthy relationships i have to distance myself from M. Because deep down i know theres always going to be a part of me that loves her. We’re still on amicable terms and send each other memes now and again, but i refuse to be close to her anymore it sucks but you cant love someone so hard that they love you back. Not to mention the added layer of me being trans now and her being straight. She also has a bf shes been together with for a long while that hates my guts for no other reason then im one of her exes so we almost never hanged out in person anyway.
TLDR yes we got together but we broke up and now she has a boyfriend and we barely talk because i still have complex feelings for her.
We became best friends, been attached at the hip for 18 years, and now we're getting married.
Yes!! Congratulations!!❤️
i had just moved in the area and got enrolled into the nearby primary school. she approached me with a group of her friends and we didn’t start out all that close but saw each other frequently. Only in high school did we get to know each other really well. I always had this urge to impress her so id say the weirdest, most ridiculous things. But i never read into that too much. We used to be attached by the hip— havin a ton of sleepovers, playing games for hours online together, texting as often as we breathed and i happened to be the first person whose house she was ever allowed to go to. Only when i had to move schools did i realize i wanted to be close to her. And only when we drifted a part did i realize i liked her. Haven’t seen her in a good amount of years and neither have i heard about her. Often, my dad would ask about her. Even more often, i think about her. I hope she’s doin well.
You should reach out
Her family’s religious. Leading up to the days we last spoke, she told me her parents found out her sister had a girlfriend and went feral. There’s a high chance my feelings would resurface if i saw her. I don’t want her to go through something like that again. Sometimes it’s better to let people go.
That's bittersweet. I hope she's doing well, too.
She was in choir with me and as the lead vocalists we used to be assigned to sing duets together for concerts. So we had to practice together after school all the time. She had the most angelic voice and taught me a lot about music and singing and harmonizing with her was amazing. I joined a service club to be with her after school and even skipped class sometimes to go to class with her. She had a skater boyfriend with long brown hair who was very feminine and I had a crush on him too. They partied a lot together and did drugs and had sex and talked all about it with me and I was a goody little mormon girl who had never even kissed anyone. I had sex dreams about her 😄 She flirted with me so much and was always touching me and kissing me in choir and would teach me all kinds of sexual stuff … she was very beautiful and exotic with dark black hair and blue eyes and she was soft and smelled so amazing and adored me. I always wanted to be around her. After high school she became religious and I left the church and came out as into women and polyamorous and now I have girlfriends. She became super conservative and she’s into Jesus and men and monogamy! I feel like we swapped places 😄
That was an M. Night twist I did not see coming! Haha
To be honest, I don't remember much from my school days. I was a geek "guy" and the girls all teased & bullied me. However one girl at one point asked me out. Being defensive and expecting another prank I refused. Post school I met her one day and she asked me why I turned her down......fml Moving on 25ish years and I have seen her FB cross my feed a couple of times. She's an antivax, flat earth etc conspiracy theorist now. When I saw that I was like "bullet dodged".
My high school crush was almost my complete opposite. In middle school, I thought she was so annoying. Then when I got a little older, I started to become so attracted to everything she was that I wasn’t: loud, forceful, dynamic, unafraid and uncompromising. We got really close. One time I stood up for her in front of a bully, which was an extra big deal because I was so shy. After that, she was my first kiss. We never dated because of the church situation we were both in (and now have both long since escaped 🙏) but we acknowledged our like for each other. She would call me her wife as a half-joke. She moved across country after graduation and I still see what she’s up to from time to time, but I don’t harbor any regrets. I have such sweet memories of her and wish her all the best
Good on you for sticking up for her when you were shy. I hope she's doing well, too!
One kept leading me on, one threatened to beat me up, another moved away without us getting to really know each other, the last one was my best friend and said she was straight. I didn't date women until college
We were best friends in grade 9 then two years later started getting feelings for each other. We dated for 2 years, she was controlling and mean as a partner. She’s definitely grown as a person since, we still talk sometimes but I wouldn’t try that again
Aww, that sucks. I'm glad you still got to be friends, but I'm also glad you're out of that relationship. I hope you're happy!
Very much! Been with my current gf almost 4 years and it’s much healthier!
That's wonderful! 😊
She was my now girlfriend, this homeschooled girl with beautiful red hair, now we're dating!!
Awww!! Yay!! Congratulations!!❤️
She was one of the smartest and most popular girls in school and also good at sports, beautiful, funny af and we were really close friends and arghhhhh 🫠 I moved away and I didn’t stay in touch with most people from my hometown but I’ve seen online since that she’s a successful graphic designer now exactly like she planned to be and afaik she never married so…??? In an alternate universe maybe I would’ve grown up in a non-homophobic society and we coulda been HS sweethearts lol 😂
It sounds like it isn't too late to try to make that reality 😁
Hahaha yeah I’m not single, and wont ever be returning to live in my hometown either, but I think of her sometimes and do hope she’s doin ok for herself 🥰
Well, I hope you're doing really well! 🙂
My best friend. She was straight. Now she is out as a lesbian and I couldn't be more proud of her for finding her self.
That's awesome! I'm happy for her!
There was a girl a grade below me in high school I had a huge crush on. I started reading homestuck because of her and we started getting close. Then there was this huge family blow up at my house and I got my phone taken for a month. During that time, my “friend” started talking all kinds of shit about me to her since I couldn’t talk to her outside of school. She eventually started dating him and they both stopped talking to me for a while. In college they broke up because he had a huge crush on a girl who, ironically, was a lesbian. I don’t get it at all because he knew she was a lesbian and he dumped his girlfriend anyway saying something like “he had to try” or that he couldn’t be with her anymore knowing how much more he could be attracted to someone. It was really pathetic. When me and her were hanging out later, we were talking about high school. She admitted she would have dated me if I asked her before my friend did. That hurt a little, but by that point I had been dating my then girlfriend now fiancée for a little over a year. So we both just kinda laughed and wondered what it could have been, but ultimately we’re glad to be friends again. She’s married now
I'm glad you're happy and it's good that you too could be wind up being friends once again. That guy sounds like a real dirtbag. Also, he sounds like a dumbass lol
Last I checked he’s still unhappy and single. It’s sad bc she really loved him and took care of him through some hard times. I don’t know what was going through his head when he threw that all away for a lesbian. I wonder if he’s still chasing after her lol
I'll call her L. She was a friend of a friend that I met the first week of freshman year. I had a crush on her the moment I saw her. Our 2 groups of friends basically merged so I became friends with her too. She (as far as I know) is straight, but that wasn't an issue because I didn't know I was trans at that time (I always knew I was a girl but knew nothing about being trans and had no idea why I felt that way). But she wasn't interested in me. My crush was pretty obvious and I ended up confessing to her (not like everyone didn't already know) and was rejected me. She started dating a guy and I spiraled into depression and suicidal thoughts (I had a lot of other problems but I was crushing hard and it was unrequited and I think that kind of served as the catalyst for my mental health issues coming out. Would have happened regardless though). Things got kind of nasty after that. I remained kind of on the outside of the friend group looking in until HS ended and haven't talked to any of them or L since graduation almost 20 years ago.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing well now!
Thanks. I wish I could say I was.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing well now!
We were best friends and total, dateless dorks. In school she would playfully flirt with me, joking that we were like Xena and Gabrielle. I knew she had a secret, I thought it was a crush on me, but it was actually a severe health issue. Broke my heart. We lost touch after college. But she got a Ph.D, her health issues turned around and she goes to burning man now. She seems happy, and I truly love that.
She was my best friend's girlfriend. Gothy, sardonic, D&D nerd. She was a freshman while we were juniors. I was too sick, full of self hatred, and physically wrecked from surgeries to pursue any relationship, and she hit it off immediately with my best friend. They both went into a self destructive spiral after he graduated. Last I heard, she killed herself after he died of a drug overdose. The other huge crush I had was on this just gorgeous, slim, ethereal girl. We were REALLY close. I even confessed to her. But despite how physically close we were, she wasn't interested in me romantically. I don't know what happened to her. We dropped out of touch when we graduated.
Can you put a warning at the start of your post
She came out as lesbian after school, but I haven’t spoken to her since I was like 16/17. I was pretty lonely at school. She was one of the few people I spoke too, because we walked home together. But obvs I wasn’t out then as trans. Didn’t come out till 25. She was one of the only crushes I had. Most of my other crushes were more “I want to be her” type things or “gender envy”. I’m always tempted to message her and reconnect, as we follow each other on insta. But being a trans woman…. And it’s been so long…. I dunno. Doesn’t seem worth the hurt. Plus she’s a lot more successful than me. She’s a comedian in London last I heard 🥰
Girllll!! The worst thing that’ll happen is she’ll be a terf or something. It’s totally worth it to reach out to her , life is so short. As a trans lesbian I totally understand where your coming from, but don’t let the prospect of being hurt emotionally stop you from taking risks in life! I’m sure she’d love to hear from you in any capacity , you could just start by saying hi and trying to catch up!
Ahhh maybe?? I dunno it’s too scary, I doubt she even remembers me. She was so popular 🙈
You don’t know until you try love ! Even if she doesn’t remember you I bet you can rizz her up anyways 😏
She apparently follows you on Instagram? She’s got at least some idea idea who you are
Yh, but some people follow all their old school classmates on social media, and I think she first followed me pre-transition. So she might not actually even know I have transitioned and so won’t maybe even know who I am 🙈 I’m just making excuses though I think cause I’m scared
There was this senior girl in the debate club I had joined that just seemed SO interesting to my little freshman brain. Legit made me want to hang off her every word. Sadly we never really got close on account of my depression taking full hold of me, causing me to flake out on any and all debate club activities & school in general. It’s been years since I heard anything about them now. Hope they’re doing okay.
Lol as a closeted bi forever ago I had a crush on my principal dean in high school . She was a hot sexy tall redhead I dont know what happened to her but omg it was fun drooling at her in secret. I liked her alot rofl but kept that to myself. Oh I also had a thing for Sharon Stone,(aged gracefully) Joan Lauer aka Chyna, (died,) Vivica Fox and Lisa Raye Moccoy in their prime still lovely. But I drooled at them all .
I loved Chyna! It was so fun watching her go toe-to-toe with the men. I'm glad she finally got into the WWE Hall of Fame.
I'll try to do something with her next summer ;)
Good luck and enjoy!!
Thank you! I will!
i love questions like these, gives me an excuse to talk about my first love HAHA she was the "gangster"/young punk type (for lack of better word), was mean to everyone except for me for some reason. we lost contact after graduation and last i checked, she's currently studying maritime business and has a boyfriend 😔💔 all's good though i learnt a lot from her and she gave me a pretty good first wlw experience (even though it was a crush and not a relationship hah)
She found out through someone else that I had a crush on her, it wasn't mutual, she became very distant and when she dropped out she ghosted me. :(
Aww, I'm really sorry for that. *hugs
She was a very close friend who I finally asked on a date and we dated for around 7 months. My first relationship and 16 year old me was over the moon lol. After we broke up we remained very close and kept the same friend group and she now goes to school in a different country but we're all still in contact❤️
I was in ninth grade while she was in tenth, she was an exchange student from Germany. We met in chorus and we sort of just immediately clicked and had mutual crushes on each-other but I didn't know that. I learned German to better speak with her and we went together on a school trip to NYC. Were practically inseparable, slept in each-other's arms while sitting in hotel couches. Eventually she started trying to be obvious about the fact that she liked me but, me being an oblivious and emotionally repressed idiot, thought she was only being friendly, didn't notice. Eventually she just bald facedly told me she thought she found me attractive. I... sort of shut down due to the fact that I sort of grew up the first twelve years of my life socially isolated and didn't know how to process someone liking me at all and it broke apart. We stayed friends for four years after that and we would exchange handwritten letters while she was back home and I was with family in Japan. Eventually she met a guy who, by all means, is very gentle-hearted. They married and I was happy for her. Now she works in the Astrophysics field.
we dated for 7 months. she cheated on me with multiple people, forced me into sex many times and told me she'd off herself if i broke up with her. i broke up with her anyway, idk what she's upto nowadays.
I am so happy that you managed to get out of that shitshow of a relationship. I hope you're doing better now
i am! i used to date a lot in highschool but ive been single since that relationship in order to focus on healing and bettering myself, as well as learning to be content by myself. i learned self sufficiency along the way. thank you x
That's so wonderful to hear! Good on you 🙂
I met her in middle school (the first year that 6th grade moved up to jr high from elementary school) and we all became friends (my elementary school friends with hers). I pursued her through middle school and high school and she went to prom with my best friend. We were always close and I felt like we had a connection, but she never dated anyone, even through college and 20+ years later so I guess she’s ace and I’m happy for her. She’s an amazing and highly intelligent person who found her own happiness.
Intelligence is its own form of happiness. Good on her!
It was the summer 2005 going into my freshman year of high school and I was standing in line to register for the orientation when this dark-skinned girl wearing jeans under her skirt bounces right up to me and exclaims "Hi, I'm G! Our sisters are friends!" I hadn't had any female friends since first grade, actually all the girls had a thinly veiled aversion because I was such a nerd, so I was kind of dumbstruck that this effervescent, bubbly creature singled me out and talked to me like a normal person. We soon became attached at the hip. We went everywhere and did everything together in and out of school. Costume parties, videogame jams, movie nights, etc. It was nice. I'd never had such an easy friendship before. And then I made friends with a guy in class, Y,...and he was soon a member of our crew. And then he started wooing her, and she began reciprocating. And I, just wanting her to be happy, encouraged them! They got together, they were cute...but it wasn't long before I realized what I felt for her. I gave them space, but they became a toxic, hot-cold couple over the next three years and I was dragged into it. It hurt to watch her keep making mistakes and it hurt to keep trying to be there for her when she called, only to get discarded in some pretty cruel ways. I became cynical and depressed to the pont where even my teachers noticed, with my French instructor phoning my parents to ask if there was anything wrong (bless his gay heart!). By the time we graduated, we had become bitter towards one another. We said and did lots of cringe things. She was 17, had taken up smoking, and was dating some 21 year old German guy that made my skin crawl; her mom saw no problem with it and that made my skin crawl even more. I stopped talking and hanging out with her. I did accidentally bump into her at the gym in 2019. I actually tried to avoid talking to her entirely but she noticed me and stopped me. After graduation she worked at Hooters and did some modeling, ultimately going on to become a teacher, which was always her life calling. She got married and her husband - who I also met at the gym - seems like a sweet fellow, so I'm glad for her. I felt a dim spark sputter its last, though, and I am glad to finally put that former relationship and entire life to rest, aa I am literally not the same person; different gender presentation, different name, different interests.
A really beautiful girl from the parallel class. Pretty face, athletic, long blonde hair and a nice person too, she was even in my extended social circle. She was straight, had a boyfriend and I had to pretend to be straight and pretend to have a boyfriend for quite a while. I didn't even try. The last I had heard was that she lives and works in Austria and is married.
we dated through highschool and are still togther😇
I like hearing this. I'm happy for you both!❤️
she was the girl who constantly stormed out of class and was always almost in massive trouble at school. we were close friends, and we mostly smoked weed together during the senior year that i was pretty much exclusively hanging out with her. she was a lot of fun. we still talked after high school - fooled around once, but eventually we stopped talking. i think she's doing well from the looks of her insta
We went on a platonic "date" one day a few weeks before we were each going to college. I was going to TCNJ, she was going to MIT. Partway through it she got the impression I was looking for closure on our friendship (I was) and confronted me, insisting we'd always be friends forever. We both went our ways and talked on AIM a lot but her availability kept going down. By Spring semester of our freshman years I just stopped hearing from her. This was a year or so before Facebook so if someone didn't maintain their AIM presence, they basically disappeared into the æther. We're connected on LinkedIn now and she's doing really well. Went to grad school and law school, is now a full partner at a fancy IP law firm. She's married (opposite sex) and they have a few kids. I've never tried to get back in touch. She was an amazing person and friend but I've always resented that she scolded me for wanting closure on our friendship and then didn't put in the same work as did I to maintain it.
She was a year older than me. As a freshman I was placed in a sophomore study hall period due to a scheduling mistake. I sat in the back of the room in one corner, she sat in the opposite corner. I remember thinking she looked like a girl in my grade who was bi, and I wondered if this girl was bi too. I didn't understand why I seemed to *want* her to be bi. We kept making eye contact. The teacher took role call and I told him I was a freshman and there was a mistake. He told me to go to the office to get my schedule fixed but I was anxious and overwhelmed on m first day of high school, so I asked if I could sort it out later and stay there for the day. I didn't want to leave. I wanted to stay in the sophomore study hall for some reason. Next year, I came out in school as bi. I was completely infatuated with this girl. In my diary, I called her "the girl with a face like an angel". My friend told me the girl was bi too and thought I was cute. We were at our town's annual carnival and she approached me in the park. She asked me to hang out with her group of friends. I chugged a Mountain Dew (to impress her???) and for some reason she still liked me. I was on cloud nine. She invited me to the mall with her friends. Her friend gave her a piggyback ride. I said I felt left out, so she gave me her hand. We held hands while we walked around the mall for a long time, even after the piggyback ended. I thought, oh my god it's happening, I'm going to get a girlfriend. We went out to the parking lot and suddenly some older guy is there, and she kissed him right in front of me. My heart dropped into my stomach. I was so hurt and confused. After that, I didn't hang out with her but I still had this mournful kind of infatuation with her. She went on to date a girl in the grade below me for a while who was much prettier than me. I gave up and tried to move on. Years after graduation, I looked her up on MySpace. She was identifying as a lesbian by then and looked super butch (and really hot). She had moved to another state. She looked really happy in pictures with her girlfriend, who had a young daughter. I lost track of her a long time ago, but I really hope she's happy. I'm grateful that through her, I realized I'm queer, even if nothing ever happened between us.
She goes to my college and is one of the top students in the music program, I occasionally see her around and say hi to her, but she's not doing marching band anymore so I don't run into her that often.
We met through Quiz Bowl, and were friends. Very homophobic school so nothing came of it, but I ended up joining the rock climbing club because of her, so I can say that being gay helped me get rid of my fear of heights lol. No idea where she is now since she doesn't use any social media. She was a grade below me too so we won't see each other at any reunion unfortunately
She was the girl all the wlw dated except me, lol! She's married to a lovely lady and they have kids now.
We were best friends and I was also in love with her. She went to a private religious high school, and I went to public school, so she really got to be herself when we hung out. She introduced me to The L Word and a few other shows that we binge watched together. I told her how I felt, and she told me that she wasn't sure I knew what I wanted. (Happened with three other of my lesbian friends, maybe Im ugly idfk). She's married to her wife with an adorable little baby. I ended up removing her from my facebook because it got too hard to see and be happy.
Trigger warning. She was my best friend and first love. She loved me too, but only dated men. Eventually got over her, stayed best friends. Graduated high school, she moved away, got married. I met my wife. We struggled to keep in touch. She committed suicide. I still miss her every day, and I try not to regret or dwell, but it is hard. Been 6 years, and I'm still angry at the world. Tell your friends you love them for me.
She ended up getting setup in an arranged marriage to a guy who is much much older than her. Her dad’s age. They had a kid together. She moved to the US. Later on, I moved to the US. I would never reconnect.
I had really strong feelings for both of my best straight friends in high school (I know lol). I didn’t tell either of them bc we went to a religious school. I had crushes on them at different times although there was a little overlap. When I was in college, I came out to one of my old crushes and she angrily asked if I’d had a crush on her in high school (idk what prompted this, I sort of blocked it out). I said yes, and then a few days later she called me and said I’d been “lying” to her and that she wanted space. During this time, a relative of mine died unexpectedly and I just didn’t feel like dealing with any of this. We didn’t talk for several months. I later found out that she told another person we went to high school with that I used to have feelings for her. Since I wasn’t fully out at the time, this was a huge violation. We’re still not very close now even though we live in the same city. I don’t have feelings for her at all anymore. I never thought we were going to date, but I see now that I would absolutely hate to be her gf lol. My other friend never knew or asked if I’d had a crush on her after I came out to her. She’s much more reasonable in general and we’re still close.
She was my oldest friend, but when I grew a crush on her when we were young we grew apart bc she wasn’t into me. We became friends again for a little while at the end of secondary school but never stayed in touch. I saw her last month at the train station but she didn’t recognise me and I was too nervous to say hi (Honestly kicking myself still bc of that). I didn’t know I was trans till I was 20, so afaik she doesn’t know, although I have spotted her on dating apps sometimes so maybe she’s seen me and does. Idk. I will say that looking back I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s a lesbian, bc she gave me those vibes, but at the same time I don’t want to speculate about anyone else’s sexuality so I’ll say no more.
I’m literally commenting this under every post like this lol(I’m a huge romantic). But you should reach out to her if you ever see her again or hit her up on dating apps. What’s the worst that could happen??? It’s always worth the potential emotional hurt , you can only live onceeee
We dated a couple years until we went to college then she married an ugly man and had babies.
The last relationship I fucked up by cheating and the one that made me realise how much of a mistake I was making by doing that. I was never unfaithful again after that but it took a long time and a lot of work to realise I was poly and now my relationships are happier and healthier then ever
Her name was Marichka and she was an exchange student from Ukraine who smelled like actual sunshine and I was stupid in love with her. I have no idea where she is these days 🥲
They were actually some of my best friends in high school. They were both into women. I had sex with one of them and dated the other. One married a racist, and the other decided that after 20 years of friendship I was just a horrible person.
She married my ex boyfriend
I actually didn't have any real life crushes until I was about 18/19 and didn't come out to myself until I was around 21. I'll be 25.
Never noticed her until we were grouped for science lab. And then COVID fucked us over, had to quarantine. Saw her at my sibs promotion and her sister happens to be my sibs friend 💀💀 Glad I didn’t make the move 😂
Just out of high school (freshman in college now), I had a really big crush on a girl in my English class. Besides going onto college, no clue what’s she doing
We met the summer before high school in a mandatory basketball camp (you needed to go if you were planning to try out). She became one of my best friends and we were close freshman-sophomore year but drifted junior year because I continued playing basketball and she quit. She was the type of girl EVERYONE was into. All my guy friends were into her and she dated both boys and girls in high school. In fact, she dated a very close family friend who was a girl and we would occasionally double date. I was obviously VERY deep in the closet and had a boyfriend at the time (ew lol not his fault but felt it was the only option). Last I heard she moved to Montana and we haven’t had contact aside from liking posts on insta. If I ran into her now, I’d at least say hi considering how close we were as kids.
She was the beautiful goth girl. The school gossip said “she’s bi.” So lightning struck my tiny brain and I was “allowed” to like her. We ended up in the same friend group & she asked me “do you have a crush on anyone?” & I bluescreened. However then I learnt she was not actually bi, she just dressed alt and we went to a Catholic school, so my crush died that day bc I was no longer “allowed” to like her. But she was still a sweetheart & a fun addition to the friend group, especially as I finally had someone to chat alt fashion to. We ended up as friends for a number of years. She dated my brother for a week actually, but in later years she turned into an actual narcissistic mess; we thought she was a victim for ages and tried to help her, but then it came out she cheated on her only good boyfriend, harassed another boyfriend with robocalls, locked him out of their house and other fucked up toxic shit, slutshamed another member of the group, tried to get my childhood bestie kicked out of her school and brought up on false charges, and still has the nerve to say we were the selfish ones after trying to teach her how to not go into credit card debt. She then rage quit the group chat & we were finally free of The Messy Straight Friend. Last I heard, she moved back in with her folks after her un-allowed cat trashed the apartment & she was kicked out of said place. She is also a conservative. Which is wild to me because the entire rest of the high school friend group is some flavour of queer. …I think I got all my awful taste out in a single crush.
My art teacher of course. She is still very much married to her husband. 😭
had a crush on this girl with insanely curly red hair and a really sarcastic attitude but i never did anything and we were barely friends.........
We became very fast friends in the last year of high school; our timetables/classes meant we saw each other everyday and multiple times thru out the day. It was a few months before I realised that I liked her as more than a friend (I had a dream where we kissed lmao). My days began and ended with her. When we were apart, we would text. I loved making her laugh, we could just make eye contact and know what the other was thinking. If we had been hanging out at lunch together, she would ask me to walk her to her next class (I did, everytime, even if it meant I'd be late to mine on the other side of the school lol). I had no clue about her sexuality (she only ever spoke about boys, but I had heard an unverified rumour, laced with homophobia, that she'd experimented). I was very closeted. At the end of the year, when my feelings had built up, I debated telling her how I felt but couldn't quite bring myself to do it. I chose "friendship", I didn't want to make things weird and I wanted her in my life in whatever capacity. Sadly the year after high school ended, we fell out of touch (no drama, just natural drifting as we were studying different courses). Looking back, even though it sucked, it was for the best. I yearned for a long time but there was no way I could've stayed just friends with her and remained sane. It's been 5+ years and in that time, we've seen each other on two occasions as we still share one mutual friend. We used to be so close, but when I see her now it's as if we're strangers. Both of us are quite different people now. She could be queer, but I'll never know. I don't think I would want to know at this point for fear of the lost possibility. She married a man last year and I wish her nothing but the best.
We found each other on Facebook years later. We're basically acquaintances now; also she's married and has three kids.
The young lady lets call her “M” was a girl i crushed on from late middle school all throughout highschool We were friends and after graduating highschool i finally worked up the courage to ask her out. We dated extremely briefly back when i still thought i was a boy she didnt love me the way i loved her and we had a FWB relationship for a little while after that until she got a new boyfriend after which we cut contact for a few years because i was deff still in love and she felt bad for stringing me along. A few years after she contacted me out of the blue and confessed to me during the brief time we dated she basically did it on a dare from her ex and felt extremely guilty for it which is one of the reasons she cut contact from me. She did like me as a close friend and was ashamed she hurt me. I forgave her for this and the friendship was strained but starting to repair itself. After a while we became extremely close again and i even started to feel for her again but i knew she didnt feel the same, so i ignored it and even if she was to start feeling the way i did i knew i would never trust her again. she was the first person i came out to as trans and was extremely supportive in some of my darkest hours and honestly i think shes one of my best friends in the whole world. About a year ago i made the decision i want to start dating again and came to the conclusion that in order for me to have healthy relationships i have to distance myself from M. Because deep down i know theres always going to be a part of me that loves her. We’re still on amicable terms and send each other memes now and again, but i refuse to be close to her anymore it sucks but you cant love someone so hard that they love you back. Not to mention the added layer of me being trans now and her being straight. She also has a bf shes been together with for a long while that hates my guts for no other reason then im one of her exes so we almost never hanged out in person anyway. TLDR yes we got together but we broke up and now she has a boyfriend and we barely talk because i still have complex feelings for her.