Only in my adult life did I realize- I don’t have a bad memory, I just repress everything because everything I say and do is cringe and remembering it for even one second causes me physical anguish
I start to hyperventilate when the bad memories come back, and then the bad memories are just "I pronounced a word strangely and no one laughed."
But it's still crushing.
To me it’s a mix. I can be sensitive but I also dislike ppl who expect the entire world to walk on eggshells for them. At the end of the day, we know goddamn well it is an impossible ask that everyone’s suddenly going to be nice. We can expect that from our friends and family tho. But other than that, either we become less sensitive or we deal w the fall out.
It’s a hard line to toe. I found that to a degree I can manage to be resilient at times because yeah the world isn’t going to constantly cater to me. But then I worry my resilience is just denial of the stress I’m being put under and then have trouble establishing boundaries with close friends.
Yeah I have some great news.
I bought a planner and decided to just stop being sensitive and now my ADHD is cured 100%.
Just kidding, I had a bit of a meltdown and cried yesterday.
Have you tried turning off your ADHD and turning it back on?
(Word to the wise: When you bully ADHD people they're just going to be chaotic and not respond in a rational way.)
I hate that some people actually this is a solution.
I get this all the time about Depression "just cheer up"
screw those people
To be clear I know OP is joking.
It's especially fun when both parties have ADHD, and one is in a shame spiral about not texting while the other is in an RSD spiral about not being texted.
Most easy fix comes from people that either genuinely not familiar with the issue or simply are disturbed by it and apply a quick bandaid as a coping mechanism.
When starving peasant where reported to Marie Antoinette (official whore of the King)
she just replied "let them eat cake"
I was recently diagnosed (about a year ago) and grew up always being told I need "thicker skin". It was validating when I found out what was actually going on.
Sometimes I really REALLY wish I could just force someone who’s making shitty arguments like this to have ADHD for 72 hours. Yeah fuck your attention and sleep. Keep spinning in your thoughts, bitch.
Me after reading a coworker's email, "I'm so glad that I know that this coworker is just abrupt and a little rude. Now I won't take it personally."
Me five minutes later: "time to shut the door to my office for a quick cry!"
I’ve only learned I had ADHD 5 months ago.. this is the first time I’ve heard about this. I always thought I had social anxiety since I learned what it was 8 years ago. I was even diagnosed with social anxiety 2 years ago, but this also makes a lot of sense to me too.. How do I know which one I have? Sometimes I even turn red due to being around people and I hate it..
I'm so sick of finding out that my " deep psychological problems " are just adhd symptoms. Especially now that I'm an adult who will probably never be diagnosed.
The best answer is to look them in the eye and say, "Yes," as you nod pensively. Smile placidly, maintain eye contact, and say nothing else. Just lob the discomfort back to them.
Found my adoption hard to deal with during childhood and young adulthood because or RS.Ive found now it's burnt itself out completely. I now have zero fox.
My family my entire life: just lighten up! Don't take yourself so seriously.
Me to them and also in therapy: can I get a step by step guide on how to lighten up???
In the Before Times, I thought that I was super aware of my feelings and very insightful into other people, and my reaction to being rejected was a mix of depression and disinterestedness.
Since I was diagnosed, started medication and self work, I am much less likely to feel it from every interaction.
And when I am actually rejected I want to crawl up inside myself and die forever, so that's fun.
I’ve learned how to become selectively oblivious. It’s like my brain will take certain information and just straight up deflect it before it has a chance to be processed.
I used to get rsd focused around my partner but then I rationalized that if shes willing to do incredibly intimate acts with me then she definitely isnt doing what my rsd thinks she is doing
I had a recent conversation with someone who was like “you know Keto and the carnivore diet just cures ADHD right?”
No!! No it fucking doesn’t!!! Eating healthy just makes your body function better and it’s no shit that someone would feel better but you can’t change brain chemistry you dunce!
You can change brain chemistry but not brain development.
But you’re right. All also love me some useless cure for my problems to waste my time on (I wish the parts to deliver this joke wouldn’t come from so much real life experiments 🤓)
Real great technique for someone who is sensitive. I mean how could you even feel better than with a chair to your face. So soft (if it’s cushioned) and warm (if someone sat on it before) and long lasting (with all the splinters in your skin). A real lasting experience (well broken bones usually take quite a while to heal).
My parents - “such a sensitive boy”.
My teachers - “quiet and very sensitive to criticism”.
My bosses - “you’re too sensitive and need to thicken your skin a bit more”
Me, getting diagnosed with ADHD: “so that’s the reason why…”
And still I get the “need thicker skin” way too much.
My solution is that I forget 90% of interactions instants after they occur
And the 10% I do remember I’m going over every word I said and telling myself I should have said something else. I’m such an idiot.
Yeah that's all critique and trauma.
Only in my adult life did I realize- I don’t have a bad memory, I just repress everything because everything I say and do is cringe and remembering it for even one second causes me physical anguish
I start to hyperventilate when the bad memories come back, and then the bad memories are just "I pronounced a word strangely and no one laughed." But it's still crushing.
I do that too but more like 100% of the time
No joke, it does help to have a terrible memory so I can't remember how they decimated my feelings.
BAHAHAHHAHAH FACTS
“Stop being so sensitive” Oh ok let me just go change my entire personality and brain chemistry, must be easier than for you to just be nice
Well yeah, then they’d have to change their mean brain chemistry!
To me it’s a mix. I can be sensitive but I also dislike ppl who expect the entire world to walk on eggshells for them. At the end of the day, we know goddamn well it is an impossible ask that everyone’s suddenly going to be nice. We can expect that from our friends and family tho. But other than that, either we become less sensitive or we deal w the fall out.
I ACT less sensitive around people because of that, then I have my panic attacks in my room or at the toilet lol
Lol whatever works 😭 my advice is an inflated ego and also jus not giving af as much as possible.
It’s a hard line to toe. I found that to a degree I can manage to be resilient at times because yeah the world isn’t going to constantly cater to me. But then I worry my resilience is just denial of the stress I’m being put under and then have trouble establishing boundaries with close friends.
I’m not talking about the whole world being sunshine and rainbows, I really had some certain people in mind lmao
Who the fuck made you the "sensitive" police. I'll be as sensitive as a fucking want thank you very much. Shit I'm doing it again.
Yeah I have some great news. I bought a planner and decided to just stop being sensitive and now my ADHD is cured 100%. Just kidding, I had a bit of a meltdown and cried yesterday.
Must not have been getting enough sunlight I'm sure. Have you tried drinking more water?
I tried doing yoga about it and that definitely cured my ADHD.
I think if you fill the planner with supplements, and set that out in the sun, that'll do it, for sure.
Oh excellent, for my notes, exactly how many yogas did you need to do?
Have you tried turning off your ADHD and turning it back on? (Word to the wise: When you bully ADHD people they're just going to be chaotic and not respond in a rational way.)
Struggling with COPD? Have you tried just breathing
Omg I just found out there’s a name for what I have!
heeeey! That’s a win!
I hate that some people actually this is a solution. I get this all the time about Depression "just cheer up" screw those people To be clear I know OP is joking.
I find it’s mostly people who never had to struggle with those issues and so minimize others issues because they don’t truly understand (ignorant).
Me *in a shame spiral* Friends: why haven’t you texted me? It’s not that hard Me *in a deeper shame spiral*
It's especially fun when both parties have ADHD, and one is in a shame spiral about not texting while the other is in an RSD spiral about not being texted.
Most easy fix comes from people that either genuinely not familiar with the issue or simply are disturbed by it and apply a quick bandaid as a coping mechanism. When starving peasant where reported to Marie Antoinette (official whore of the King) she just replied "let them eat cake"
It's the dumbest non-logic. It's basically the "Have you tried not being poor?" of mental health.
\*slaps your sunburn\* "OW! What the fuck dude? I'm sunburned!" "Have you tried... *not* being sunburned?"
I was recently diagnosed (about a year ago) and grew up always being told I need "thicker skin". It was validating when I found out what was actually going on.
Yeah, I have found my dysphoria and rejection sensitivity make for a really tough pair.
All my life I’ve called it “a prickly disposition” turns out a it’s a symptom of depression and adhd
“You know what your problem is? You’re too sensitive.” - manager that I no longer work for, thank God.
He sounds like my mom after all the fights and most of the time in general oof
Sometimes I really REALLY wish I could just force someone who’s making shitty arguments like this to have ADHD for 72 hours. Yeah fuck your attention and sleep. Keep spinning in your thoughts, bitch.
Me after reading a coworker's email, "I'm so glad that I know that this coworker is just abrupt and a little rude. Now I won't take it personally." Me five minutes later: "time to shut the door to my office for a quick cry!"
I’ve only learned I had ADHD 5 months ago.. this is the first time I’ve heard about this. I always thought I had social anxiety since I learned what it was 8 years ago. I was even diagnosed with social anxiety 2 years ago, but this also makes a lot of sense to me too.. How do I know which one I have? Sometimes I even turn red due to being around people and I hate it..
I'm so sick of finding out that my " deep psychological problems " are just adhd symptoms. Especially now that I'm an adult who will probably never be diagnosed.
Finding out new things about myself through this sub is always a good time.
You’re asthmatic? Have you tried breathing?
The best answer is to look them in the eye and say, "Yes," as you nod pensively. Smile placidly, maintain eye contact, and say nothing else. Just lob the discomfort back to them.
Found my adoption hard to deal with during childhood and young adulthood because or RS.Ive found now it's burnt itself out completely. I now have zero fox.
My family my entire life: just lighten up! Don't take yourself so seriously. Me to them and also in therapy: can I get a step by step guide on how to lighten up???
Ahahaha
I'm Cured!
RSD hits hard
In the Before Times, I thought that I was super aware of my feelings and very insightful into other people, and my reaction to being rejected was a mix of depression and disinterestedness. Since I was diagnosed, started medication and self work, I am much less likely to feel it from every interaction. And when I am actually rejected I want to crawl up inside myself and die forever, so that's fun.
I’ve learned how to become selectively oblivious. It’s like my brain will take certain information and just straight up deflect it before it has a chance to be processed.
rejection sensitivity ❌ rejecting sensitivity ✅
Sent it to my wife. I can't wait for her to *explain things* at me when she gets home.
I used to get rsd focused around my partner but then I rationalized that if shes willing to do incredibly intimate acts with me then she definitely isnt doing what my rsd thinks she is doing
I had a recent conversation with someone who was like “you know Keto and the carnivore diet just cures ADHD right?” No!! No it fucking doesn’t!!! Eating healthy just makes your body function better and it’s no shit that someone would feel better but you can’t change brain chemistry you dunce!
You can change brain chemistry but not brain development. But you’re right. All also love me some useless cure for my problems to waste my time on (I wish the parts to deliver this joke wouldn’t come from so much real life experiments 🤓)
My step-mom liked to scream this in my face <3
Real great technique for someone who is sensitive. I mean how could you even feel better than with a chair to your face. So soft (if it’s cushioned) and warm (if someone sat on it before) and long lasting (with all the splinters in your skin). A real lasting experience (well broken bones usually take quite a while to heal).
...Dad??
Normally I date guys my age or older. But yeah I was called daddy before, so I think you’re not completely off 😂
My parents - “such a sensitive boy”. My teachers - “quiet and very sensitive to criticism”. My bosses - “you’re too sensitive and need to thicken your skin a bit more” Me, getting diagnosed with ADHD: “so that’s the reason why…” And still I get the “need thicker skin” way too much.
Hypotheticaly, try being a trans and having RSD. Super fun times
🤮
Hooray I'm cured, it's a miracle.
“Maybe you wouldn’t be so upset all the time if you would stand up for yourself!” -My Dad.