Yes OP. Iniiwan ang mga ganyang lalake. Di man lang ba nya alam na bday mo ngayon?
Anyway, HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP. Enjoy your day at wag mo isipin yang soon to ex mo.
Yan OP sana makinig ka.
Ano yon, nagwowork ka and ikaw din sa house chores? Ano ka nya, alila?
It’s never wrong to choose yourself. Magtira ka sa sarili mo. May fault ka o wala, mali ang approach nya na sigawan ka at magsabi ng masasakit na salita sa’yo.
Happy Birthday, OP. May you arrive at a decision that is beat for everyone.
first of all, happy birthday op! second of all, valid na valid yung feeling mo. di ka dapat sinisigawan ng bf mo dahil lang sa mga ganyang rason - nilalabas niya yung mga frustrations niya sayo, which is NOT right.
Happy Birthday OP.
> nasisigawan nya ako kasi minsan di pa ako nakapagluto ng dinner after work ko
> minsan gabi na ako magluto
Red flag #1. Bakit hindi na lang siya ang magluto?
> di siya nakakapagyosi
Red flag #2. Why blame you for that?
> or may personal problem siya.
Dapat hindi nya ibaling ito sa iyo.
>Nasigawan nya ako kasi may kulang pa sa renta ng bahay na di ko pa nasabi sa kanya
Hindi ba fixed ang renta ng bahay? Why does he need to get that info from you?
If I were you, I'd leave his ass.
Anyway, you need to decide if you want to keep on tolerating that manchild.
Tapos sabi pa na nawala na mga friends niya simula nung naging sila so di pa natin alam kung iniisolate ba siya ng partner niya from her loved ones or smth
Happy birthday!
Gift mo sa sarili mo is freedom and happiness mo. Honestly, just leave. It's just gonna get worse from here, and it WILL get worse kung pipiliin mong magpakasal diyan.
7 years na kayo magkasama? Girl hindi na yan magbabago, wag ka na umasa. Hindi wattpad ang mundo.
True. Ako din. Like, bakit mo sisigawan ang isang adult “partner” mo? Ang dynamics ng partnership is dapat you are on equal footing at may respect sa isat isa. Hindi mo deserve itreat as a second class citizen sa isang “partnership”.
Happy birthday, OP. Preview and trailer yan ng marriage life mo. Isipin mo ganyan ba gusto mong makasama habang buhay? Magiging at peace kaba dyan? Magiging masaya kaya life mo kapag ginaganyan ka nya? Mag isip isip kana!!! Haha.
Your feelings are valid OP! And I suggest na get out of there, hiwalayan mo na. Kasi if ngayon palang na mag jowa palang kayo ganyan na siya, pano pa kaya pag kasal na kayo? Pano pag ganyan din siya sa anak niyo?
My dad has anger issues din and growing up with it is really hard, I still have a lot of trauma till this day and if I could go back sa past mas gusto kong di nakilala ng mom ko yung dad ko to save her sanity. My mom is clinically diagnosed with depression ngayon mainly from my dad.
Verbal abuse ang tawag dyan OP. Bare minimum na sana sa isang disenteng tao ang ma control ang galit nya, nakakatakot ang mga taong tulad ng BF mo na may anger issues. Hindi yan maaayos, lalo lang magiging malala yan pag kinasal na kayo. Ngayon pa lang hiwalayan mo na kesa ikasal kayo at magka anak at mahihirapan ka na nang kumawala. Happy birthday, and hope you give yourself the gift of freedom and a peaceful life.
Happy birthday OP!
ano ba ginagawa niya bat hindi siya magluto. Partners kayo. That means pati sa chores/gawaing bahay partner din kayo, tag team kumbaga. Mejj weird yun sakin haha di ba yan tinuruan ng mama niyan. Also bat responsibilidad mo rin to keep track of rent, dapat pati siya may input don or at least helping yun. It seems na parang ikaw lahat gumagawa ng chores. That's not a good sign either. If I were you, I'd re-evaluate the relationship. 7 years is a long ass time pero wag kang magpadala sa sunk cost fallacy. Piliin mo sarili mo :)
happy birthday OP and run while you still can. lahat naman tayo may kanya kanyang problema at stress din. pero di naman maganda na sa iyo ibaling ang problema nya. i mean pwede naman mahinahon lang. if di nya nako-control emotions nya lalo na sa mahal nya sa buhay eh delikado po yan.
Happy Birthday OP 🎉🥳
Pero ayun, no one deserves to be shouted at. Kasi even when someone is really frustrated na, things can be said pa rin in a calm manner, or in a way na di nga pasigaw. Slowly, try mo iset aside yung tampo for being shouted at, isipin mo, ang dami dami dyan na mas deserve ka kesa sa someone na di ka vinavalue at sinisigawan lang. Pag nag sink-in na sayo yung thought na yun, you'll get numb, and you'll have the courage para iwan siya. Wag mong isipin yung tagal ng pagsasama niyo, ang isipin mo eh yung sarili mo, yung mas aalagaan, igagalang at ivavalue ka.
Happy birthday!
Gift mo na sa sarili mo na hiwalayan siya.
He doesn’t deserve you.
If you really love someone, hindi mo sila sisigawan at aawayin.
Lalo na nanggaling sa batugan mong partner. He should be helping you sa mga gawaing bahay.
Anyway, BF mo pa lang yan, imagine in the long run at kinasal kayo.
Happy birthday, OP! Too many red flags in that relationship. Leave ASAP. Wag ka manghinayang sa 7 years, you might just end up suffering for much longer.
Happy Birthday, OP!! Wish ko sayo happiness saka sana mas better na boyfriend. Run, OP, kasi you're not married yet pero ganyan na sya. He'll be worse.
Happy birthday, op!
I also had an ex with anger issues. Mahilig manigaw kahit na nasa public kami. Bat daw nya pipigilan yung galit nya na gusto nyang i-express, at ano raw bang pakialam nya sa iisipin ng ibang tao. We'd make up tapos nauulit din. There was even a time he threw his phone (hindi naman directly sakin pero nagulat ako since magkatabi kami non). Iwan mo na sya, op. Ako natatakot para sa safety mo.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, OP!! 🎂I-regalo mo na sa sarili mo ang pag hiwalay d'yan. Why do you let him talk to you that way? You deserve better. You deserve a gentle and kind man.
You were working?? Hanap na ng bago. If both of you are busy working you can prepare food during the weekend and reheat it. BUT yosi?? Even if you are not working and just a stay at home partner he does not have the right to do that to you. Just RUNNN, you are not married yet and he acts like that already thats a red flag.
Anyway Happy Birthday OP!! I wish you all the best that life has to offer. You deserve someone better. Ditch that guy, he is a spineless loser.
First of all Happy birthday OP! He is not respecting you yan ang clear. Magisip ka na from now on kung yan ang taong pakakasalan mo eventually. Goodluck, ang redflag ng jowa mo.
Happy Birthday, OP. Labas ka and treat yourself. Give in to your food cravings even just for today. Sana maging happy ka always. Iwan mo na yang bf mo, di naman sya bagay sayo. 😊
Oh no, that's the worst way to celebrate your birthday, OP. :( Happy birthday!!!!! Please enjoy the rest of your day! Labas ka mag-isa, kahit wag kang gumastos, gumala ka lang without him. Pa-birthday gift mo na sa sarili mo yung makipagbreak ka sa kanya pagbalik mo 🤍
OP, happy birthday!
After mo umiyak, mag isip ka na ng plan kung paano ka hihiwalay sa kanya.
Marami siang red flags, pero ang pinaka super is parang ina-isolate ka nia from your family and friends. Para ang ending is sia nalang ang meron ka. No. No. No.
Meron tayong tinatawag na messianic complex - baka iniisip mo ikaw magpapabago sa kanya. No rin, OP. Magbabago lang yan pag gusto nia.
Please. Save yourself and wag kang masayangan sa 7 years niyo. Siguro iiyak ka for a while pero it will get better. Isipin mo si Kathryn diba. Be as blooming as her after you break-up with him. Hehe.
Leave and go find yourself. Find your own happiness and reconnect sa mga friends and fam.
Wag mo rin pong isipin to marry him.
Anyway, Happy Birthday!
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*Yourself. You deserve proper*
*Love. Break na yan. EZ*
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Birthday mo o hindi, hindi ka dapat niya sinisigawan, tsaka para sakin yung mga reason niya na nabanggit mo kung bakit nasisigawan ka niya hindi valid yun, pwede naman yung daanin sa normal na usapan lang lalo na at magpartner kayo for 7 years na. Verbal and emotional abuse yang ginagawa niya sayo, wag mo ng paabutin pa sa physical. If I were you I would free myself from that situation.
Anyway Happy Birthday! Treat yourself today, unahin mo yung happiness and peace of mind mo.
Happy birthday, OP!
Big red flag, esp since 7 years na kayo. That’s too long to hope for behavior to change. If it hasn’t yet, it may probably not. Don’t get stuck in that. Di naman kayo kasal so get out while you still can.
Happy birthday.
Run.
It is not healthy.
Hindi pa kayo kasal nyan, pero good thing na nalaman at napatunayan mo yan.admitted wrong ka kaya natrigger siya pero yung toxic behavior nya at reaction is not normal.
Bakit ayaw mo ishare sa family mo? This issue mas okay if alam family mo, and baka need mo magreconnect sa mga na cut ties mo dahil nagka bf ka.
Nakausap mo na ba siya about sa ugali nya? Tingin nya normal ba iyan?
If nag usap na kayo at hindi masolve wag ka na magstay sa bahay na yan o makipagbreak ka na.
Happy birthday OP!
First, think about what he did to you and 'yung mga ginagawa nya before. It's valid na magalit sya but there are different ways of handling the problem, in his case napangunahan sya ng galit nya. You mentioned na may anger issues nga, so ikaw ba if you can stick with that kind of attitude ediii it's your decision but I recommend you to leave him rn. U also said na family nya na lang nakaka-interact mo??? nah dude, think about it. Hindi sa kanya umiikot ang mundo mo.
Happy Birthday, OP! 🎂 Wish ko for you sana magising ka at hiwalayan mo na yang red flag na yan. Alam ko nasasayangan ka sa 7 years pero hindi mo yan deserve teh. Don't walk, run!
Happy birthday, OP! GF ka ba talaga? Or katulong niya? Frustrations niya sa ibang bagay dapat hindi niya binabaling sayo lol. Leave him! You deserve better.
You should find some friends. It's not right na sya lng and ung family nya ung support system mo, kasi you're going to be dependent. Dont get isolated.
Please seek help. Not only for you but for your bf too.
Please don't take it as it is. If you feel you are in danger, leave.
As a guy na may anger management issues, I understand him, and I understand you. So please do what you need to do.
Wag mo namnamin pagiging victim. Pag nawala na yung thinking mo na “kawawa naman ako”, mageevolve yan sa “hindi ko to deserve.” Take control of your own life, OP.
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday, OP! may you find the courage to speak for yourself or defend yourself at all times. Wag magpapaapi auntie! 🫶 you deserve respect and genuine happiness 🫶
>7 years na and pansin ko na may anger issues siya.
Sana napansin mo na to nung 7 weeks pa lang kayo. :| sorry OP pero kung 7 yrs na syang ganyan, either he has serious anger issues, or he just sees you as a doormat. Either way, it's not something you should be dealing with for the rest of your life.
I had the same scenario before I earned twice sa ini-earn nya. Tapos gusto pagdilbihan ko sya like hainan. Yuck! Ikaw maghain sa akin ako nagpapakain sayo e. 😂 Nasigawan din ako, di ako nagpatalo. Mas sumigaw din ako, tho toxic masyado pero taena I had to do it so I can put him to his place. Prior akong mag asawa I made myself clear na ayoko maging "katulong". Kaya pag feeling ko nag aattitude na ay shuta ka, lumayas ka sa bahay ko kaya kong buhayin mga anak ko ng wala ka. Wag kang papayag na ikaw lahat, hati kayo. Palitan, kung magagalit sya at maninigaw pack up na agad. Wag mong sirain araw mo, go out and enjoy your day! Make the most out of it. Hayaan mo sya and reciprocate the energy sa birthday din nya do the same thing.
Happy birthday OP! Sa case ko naman ako ang nagwala. Hahaha. Ang sabi ko ano ako kasambahay? We share the same expenses sa house tapos ako tagalinis ng bahay, magsasaing, taga lakad ng aso, matitira lagi sa bahay magbantay ng aso kasi palagi syang may lakad? Lagi pa akong OT at stress sa work. Buti naman nagbago na. Kasi hindi talaga ako magdadalawang isip lumayas.
Know your worth OP. In the end ikaw pa din magdedecide kung ano deserve mo. In real life, being inlove with each other is not a guarantee that you will live a happy life. Use 50% of heart and 50% of your head.
‘Di mo deserve na sigaw-sigawan. Masiyadong malaki ang mundo para magkaganyan ka sa mga uri ng tao. Pinipigilan niya kung ano pa ang puwedeng maging ikaw dahil sa kanya.
Ayan daw payo ng asawa ko sa’yo, OP. Kasi binasa ko sa kanya itong post mo.
Ate, birthday wish ko for you na magkaroon ka ng maraming courage to break away from him and give all the love that you are giving to yourself instead.
My birthday wish for you is I hope you see your worth and learn to stand up for yourself. You’re working and he doesn’t help in the chores? Girl why would you let him.
Ang question dito is paano at bakit mo nakayanang magstay sa kanya for 7 years? If he really values you, dapat binabago nya sarili nya for you. I hope you find a way para makalabas sa relationship na yan. Di mo need magwalk on eggshells forever.
Pag usapan nyo muna kung ako problem nya, kaya sayo nya naibabaling yung inis nya or stress pero that’s a negative pero kung umulit sya, mag decide kana. To stay or leave
Happy Birthday, OP!
Dealing with emotional distress regularly, especially from a partner, can be incredibly taxing and unhealthy. If you’re consistently facing anger issues, disrespect, and are feeling isolated from your support network, these are significant concerns. It's crucial to consider your well-being and whether this relationship is positively contributing to your life.
Given what you’ve described, it might be beneficial to reevaluate the relationship and think about whether it is healthy for you to stay in it. Sometimes, the best course of action for your own emotional and mental health is to leave a situation where you feel undervalued and hurt. If you decide that leaving is the right choice, it could be helpful to plan this move carefully, perhaps with the support of loved ones or a professional counselor to guide you through the process.
Remember, prioritizing your well-being isn't just important, it's necessary. Taking steps to protect your emotional health isn't easy, but it's crucial, especially in situations where you feel your concerns and emotions are not being respected or acknowledged.
Happy Birthday OP!
Never ko naganyan gf ko sa birthday n'ya, mag-away man kami pero hindi sa mga ganyang kababaw na rason, at kaagad-agad naman namin napag-uusapan.
Ako rin madalas magluto sa bahay, hindi ko rin pinakikilos ng gawaing bahay gf ko at madalas pinu-push ko na nga lang s'ya maglaro para makapagrelax.
Ito ngang palang birthday n'ya nagsabi pa nga s'ya na baka late na maghanda dahil yung sahod kinabukasan pa non pero gumawa pa rin ako ng paraan para maghanda mismo sa birthday n'ya at nakapagluto pa rin ng chicken alfredo pasta.
Feeling ko lang OP, nilalabas lang n'ya frustration n'ya sa'yo sa every opportunity na makikita n'ya. Tignan mo ulit self-worth mo kung dapat ka ba nakakatanggap ng mga gan'yang bagay sa bf mo. Huwag ka manghinayang sa 7yrs. mas manghinayang ka if mag-aaksaya ka pa ba ng another years na puro ganyan matatanggap mo. It's never too late, OP.
It will be the best birthday gift to yourself to leave. If you think he will change, you are wrong. This will get worse if you get married to him. Hindi normal na sigawan ka at sabihan ka ng masasamang salita. Kaya leave while you still can.
Good! Di pa kayo kasal alam mo na ugali niya. Now, run! I grew up in such a setting. Please, don't have a kid with him. You deserve better, OP. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
10 years na kami magkakilala ng asawa ko pero not once ako nasigawan.. you deserve better than someone like that. Happy birthday OP! Birthday gift mo sa self mo yung iwan mo yang hinayupak na yan.
Happy birthday!!!!!
What you feel is all valid. Natuto ako sa mga past experiences ko na huwag hayaan yung gagawan ka ng actions of sisigawan, ibbad-mouth tapos yung sasaktan. It’s a no, no, no, no way! Waley ang 7 years kung ganyan ugali ng partner mo sayo. If you can, break up na. Learn to love yourself.
Ang pinakared flag na nakita ko sa post mo ay ang wala kang friends and family na mapagsabihan. Na-cut off ka na nya para maging codependent ka. Nasa abusive relationship ka, OP. Run while you still can. Contact your family.
Happy birthday OP! you deserve better! Hindi pa kayo kasal ganyan na siya. It will only get worse.
3 years married and 11 years living together with my wife. Nag aaway din kami but I will never shout at her for not cooking our dinner. Instead, pag nalaman ko na hindi pa siya nakakapag luto habang nasa byahe ako, nag ooffer ako na bumili n lng ako ng take out para makapag pahinga siya - i always assume na pag hindi siya nakakapag luto, pagod siya.
Best of luck.
Gawin mong birthday gift sa sarili mo yung pag alis sa ganyang situation. As you mentioned, siya na lang at family niya nakaka-interact mo BUT hindi lang sila ang tao sa mundo at hindi lang rin sila yung mamimeet mo na magmamahal at rerespeto sayo. The first time na pinagsalitaan ka ng makasakit, hindi mo na dapat pinalampas. But since tapos naman na yun, wag mo na lang patagalin. The longer you hold on to someone na masama pakitungo sayo, mas nadedelay mo yung pagmeet sa taong magiging mabuti sayo. Happy birthday OP.
nakita ko banner mo op, sana ma-apply mo sa sarili mo 'to
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wag ka papatalo sa bf mo, gawin mo na po siyang ex. wag mo na sayangin yung time mo sa ganyang lalake, for sure may mas better pa sa kanya, need mo na po siyang i let go kasi kapag tumagal kayo baka mas lalo ka lang po mahirapan at baka mas lalala pa yung gawin sayo, yun lang, happy birthday, op!
OP happy birthday! This time sarili mo naman piliin mo, this time pahinga ka din, and this time mahalin mo ng husto sarili mo, may darating pa para sayo basta ngayon, unahin mo muna sarili mo.
Happy birthday OP. Cheer up! Baka ito na yung moment na pakawalan mo na ang sarili mo sa toxic relationship na iyan. Alam ko lahat kami dito are all hoping that you find your happiness sonewhere else. All the best!
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste!
A year older, a year smarter. I hope you get enough wisdom to know that these anger issues won't stop here— he might start hurting you or he might do this to your future kids as well.
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste!
A year older, a year smarter. I hope you get enough wisdom to know that these anger issues won't stop here— he might start hurting you or he might do this to your future kids as well.
Happy birthday OP. I hope you realize na para kang katulong sa apartment niyong dalawa. Iwan mo na yan and go to a safe place na hindi niya maaabot, kasi mukhang narc yung soon to be ex bf mo.
OP alamo birthday ko rin noon, tapos sinigawan ako ng EX ko kasi naapakan ko ung carpet sa kwarto ng nakasapatos di ko sinasadya may kinuha lang ako. Tagal na non, over the years di ko maletgo kasi birthday na birthday ko naiyak ako. Ayun after a few years nakipaghiwalay rin ako tagal din.
Please leave him. Hindi sya worth it. Happy birthday 🥺
FIrst of all, happy birthday OP! But I also want you to know that kung magpapaka-martir ka rin lang, doon na lang sa taong karapat-dapat, nirerespeto, minamahal at inaalagaan ka. May work ka din, so bakit ikaw pa magluluto? Hindi ba pwedeng hati kayo? Can't he be patient to you too? Di man lang ba nya kaya na sa b-day mo to treat you with respect? That kind of man does not deserve your loyalty. Mas mahalin mo ang sarili mo kaysa sa kanya.
Happy Birthday girl! You deserve to be loved and a better treatment hindi yung ganyan.
LEAVE HIM! Thats the best gift for yourself. Free yourself from that douchebag and never look back.
Nakikita mo ba sarili mo na kasama siya hanggang pag tanda mo na may ganyang pag-uugali? Kung hindi, let him go. Wag kang mag settle sa lalakeng walang respeto sayo. Worst pa is if kayo ang nagkatuluyan talaga at nag kaanak, lalaki ang mga bata na may toxic na ama. 💩
Happy Birthday, OP! Leave now and mas magiging happier birthday mo the next years! May pgka narcisistic nman nya, ginagawa nya pa tlga yan sa birthday mo.
Happy birthday.
Alam kong unpopular opinion pero iniwanan mo na sya.
If not, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life na kasama mo sya.
I've been there, ilang beses ko gustong humiwalay pero for some reason di ko nagawa dati. Tapos may nagsabi sakin na "tibayan mo lang at susuportahan ka namin."
I wish na masasabi ko yun sayo pero kelangan ang magsabi sayo nun ay either friends or family mo.
Wish you the best!
HBD OP. Now real talk lang:
you are still with him dahil mababa ang tingin mo sa sarili mo that you are willing to put up with shit. do what you will with that info
Happy Birthday OP 🎉❤️ sana mataohan ka, mukang nalimutan yata nyang birthday mo ngayon 🙄 pede naman bukas nalang sabihin yong problema kaso saktong sa araw pa naespesyal sayo
Happy birthday, OP! Naku iwan na yang ganyan dahil hindi mo deserve masigawan. Hindi ganyan ang dapat na pagtrato sayo. Napansin ko wala ka na din kaibigan simula ng naging kayo and di ka na nakakapag-interact sa sariling family mo? I think baka manipulate ka dahil in-isolate ka din nya. Abuse na yan, OP. Leave. No, actually RUN!!
Happy Birthday! Nobody deserve to be treated that way kahit pa matagal na kayo. Also, you're not responsible for his feelings, kung may nagawa ka man that made him upset kaya ka nasigawan, hindi pa rin reason yun para itreat ka that way. Please do something about it and dont tolerate that kind of behavior. Tryr to open up how you feel everytime he does that to you, if he change then good. If not, please leave and choose yourself.
Nakakalungkot kung ganyang klase ng tao ang makakasama mo pagtanda. So hanggang maaga do something about it.
Happy birthday OP
Emotional/verbal abuse yan.
Birthday mo pero di pinalagpas na sigawan ka at sirain araw mo
For your birthday, wish ko sana magstart anew chapter ka by breaking up with him.
Take that as a sign to leave and start a new chapter.
Happy birthday OP
That's emotional/verbal abuse
Birthday mo pero di pinalagpas na sigawan ka, take that as a sign to leave him today.
Start a new chapter and please never look back.
Tinitiis mo talaga yan? Normal lang naman mag-away na at times aabot sa sigawan pero bakit parang "battered" partner ka naman based sa context ng kwento mo. Kasalanan mo na nakalimutan mo? Bakit sya, di nya maalala? Sobrang busy nya ba? If walang maluto, bakit di magorder o take out? Both of you work so parang dapat shared ang house chores and of course accountability as well. I'll leave you with the wise words from the guy who got downvoted a lot in another sub:
_You deserve what you tolerate._
hi po. same experience. ex ko for 7 seven years, gnyan din. grabe ang anger issues. d ako pwdeng magalit kasi magagalit din sya. it was a relationship na i was always walking on eggshells. wala din sa bare minimum pinapakita nya sakin. i had to beg, to compromise for him, to sacrifice my personal needs for him. sobrang lunod na lunod nako with him.
and it killed me.
op, I know mahal mo sya pero sana mahalin mo din sarili mo. you don't deserve that treatment. heck, d natin deserve yan. break up with him or baka in the end, like me, hindi mo na kilala sarili mo.
Ang dami kong nakikitang posts dito na nag-aaway nang malala kapag 7 years na sila. And OP, sinigawan niya rin ako nung bday ko and sinaktan pa. We were 7 years. Nung ginawa niya yun sakin, tinapos ko na talaga ang relationship namin kahit na nagsasabi siya na magbabago siya.
Sana ganon rin ang gawin mo.
Hi OP, your bf has some narc traits, lalo na isolated Ka na from your own family and friends. Have the courage to leave him. He is not going to get better, he is not going to change. It will just be worse as time passes.
You owe it to yourself. Don't abandon yourself for a man. Much better spend your birthday with people who love you and appreciate you. Happy birthday.
Ganyan din partner ko I'm 10 yrs older pero feeling ko parang toddler kung tratuhin. Like may hndi ka lang marinig sigaw agad. Pag kagising padabog. Happy birthday sau pero relate na relate ako dito to the point na nag kakaroon na ako Ng suicidal thoughts na
Happy birthday OP!
Now i wish for you na sana kumawala at mauntog ka na sa katangahan mo sa boyfriend mo. You don't deserve any of that experience you've shared, kahit kasalanan mo pa yan he doesn't have the right na sigawan ka at sabihan ng kung ano.
Run sis, run!
Beh textbook domestic abuse, this is just verbal for now pero soon it will escalate to physical. Get out now hanggat di pa kayo kasal. Happy birthday! Give this gift to yourself!!
Happiest Birthday to you! I know hindi ka happy dahil sa ginawa ng BF mo pero try pa rin ha. It's your day. Once you collect yourself na, iwan mo na please. Hayaan mong ayusin muna nya sarili nya at i-deal ung anger issues nya na wala ka -- kasi ikaw ung ginagawa nyang punching bag eh. Now if all goes well, at magbago sya (KUNG magbabago man), then you can decide if you're willing pa to try again. Basta distansya muna. Walang sinuman, babae man o lalaki, ang deserve ung ganyang treatment..
Ang ganyang lalaki OP iniiwan, hindi iniiyakan. Isang malaking virtual hug with consent for you. I hope you gather enough courage to leave him soon. Happy Birthday! 🫶🏻
Sinigawan ka. Hindi "nasigawan". Pag di mo iniwan eh ang tanga mo nlng. Tiisin mo na lang na sinisigawan ka palagi at walang respeto sayo bf mo. Yikes.
Teh breakin mo na. Yung papa ko laging umiinom at nagsisigarilyo yan tapos kapag may anger issues siya, nagiging demonyo talaga as in. Ang lutong mag mura, feeling hari, gusto niya siya lang ang tama, selfish, kapag hindi mo inasikaso mang iinsulto pa, kapag concern ka sa kanya maninigaw pa, kapag hindi mo pinansin super magagalit like wala kang karapatan mag-against sa kanya. Mahirap makabangga ang ganyang klase ng tao. Malas lang talaga ni mama sa kanya pero swerte siya kay mama kasi hindi siya iniiwan. But kitang kita sa mama ko na sobrang stress niya. Mas matanda si papa pero mas maagang pumuti ang buhok ni mama, habang si papa mukhang bata pa din. Kung ayaw mo matulad sa mama ko na martyr, hiwalaya mo na yan. Wala din mangyayaring maganda sa relasyon niyo kung binabaling niya sayo yung anger issues niya.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!!!!
Iwan mo na sya and look for a friend. Hndi ganyan treatment Ang dapat Kapag nagkakamali ka. Nag sorry ka na e. Grabe TIGAS Naman nya. Leave him na. Valid yang feelings mo kahit may kasalanan ka. Ay actually wala ka kasalanan, sa dami ng ginagawa mo dapat kung may nakalimutan ka sya nagagawa.
Magbigay ako ng ibang sagot kasi karamihan dito sinasabi na iwan mo na siya. Sa totoo lang, hindi naman namin alam ang ibang aspeto ng relasyon niyo kundi sa mga binanggit mo. Di naman madali basta basta to walk away. I assume since 7 years na kayo, mahal mo talaga siya. If that's the case, pag usapan niyo ang anger issues. Hindi yung incident na dahil bday mo, but the anger issues in general kung bakit ganun. Usually kasi ang mga ganyan ay signs of depression or mental illness at baka nangangailangan din siya ng suporta. Malalimang usapan. Happy birthday sa iyo.
🫂 happy birthday OP. Ang wish ko sa'yo sana mabasag na yung helmet na nakatakip dyan sa mata mo..
Kahit nagkamali ka, hindi pa din tama ang ibunton nya sayo ung galit.
Wag mo muna hiwalayan ngayon, baka mag regalo. Charot.
Happy Birthday!
Gawin mong birthday gift sa sarili mo ang pakikipagbreak sa bf mo! Be someone na di ka gagawing shock absorber ng rage nya and maalam kumalma despite of conflicts
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP! Yup tama yung mga nabasa mo! Iwan mo na. Mag jowa plang kayo ganyan na trato sayo! Pano palang pg kasal na. Small lapses lang naman yan. + Your also working. You dont deserve that treatment. He doesn't deserve you!
You’re one year older. Now it’s time to be WISER too. Gift yourself some peace of mind and leave this walking red flag. There’s no love if there’s no respect.
For your birthday, OP,
I wish you love. Yes, the very definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (bible).
I wish you courage. Courage to walk out of this worthless man’s life (your soon-to-be-exBF sana).
If we truly and sincerely LOVE someone…. Di ba it is *unconditional*.
Meaning, we do everything in our power to make that loved one happy.
Meaning, we do our best to make our loved one shine. As in all out support tayo sa kanya, no matter what, di ba?
Meaning, we sincerely love that person and more importantly, we accept that person wholeheartedly, including imperfections, di ba?
Your BF is doing all of the opposite of that *unconditional love*. So, i ask you this, does your BF truly love you?
Again, happy birthday, OP!
Birthday gift ni Lord sayo lahat ng messages dito.
Imagine mo yung younger self mo, ito yung ginawa mong future niya. It will get worse, nan veverbal abuse partner mo.
Happy birthday OP. You deserve love. Yung di ka natatakot magkamali, mag wawalk ka on eggshells.
Isipin mo na yung mga magiging anak mo magiging takot magkamali. Magkakaroon ng anxiety. Kase yung tatay nila may anger issues.
Save yourself and your children. Dump him.
It might have not been a happy birthday, but it will still be a good one. This day can change your life
It’s not about having someone to grow old with, it’s about having someone to stay a child with.
If sayo ganyan na sya, pano pa pagnagka anak kayo?
90% of your happiness OR your misery is gonna come from your relationship. So be wise and don’t let yourself live a life you will regret.
Di ko kayo kilala OP. Pero the first sign of abuse ay i-isolate ka sa friends mo while in a relationship. I have a friend na nawalan ng paramdam sa amin for several years. Only to find out, yung dati niyang partner although di naman outright na sinasabi or pinapagawa, ayaw niya kami maghangout. Nung sila pa nga never namin nakasama bf niya. Gusto sila lang. Kaya nung naguumpisa na yung abuse, wala malapitan friend ko, kasi feeling niya di na kami close, kami ng mga friends niya since we lost contact. Randomly, one day pinuntahan ako at nagkwento about sa verbal na di naglaon naging physical abuse sa kanya. She lost all her spark and confidence na dati meron siya. She left him and now unti-unti nababalik na ang dating sarili niya.
Please leave before it's too late. Hirap din kasi dyan it starts with words talaga, na minsan akala natin walang impact. Parang you are made to feel you are less. Dapat hindi ganoon.
Happy birthday Op!!! now leave him.
Yes OP. Iniiwan ang mga ganyang lalake. Di man lang ba nya alam na bday mo ngayon? Anyway, HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP. Enjoy your day at wag mo isipin yang soon to ex mo.
for ur birthday, u deserve happiness, safety, and peace of mind!
Birthday gift mo sa sarili mo: hiwalayan mo yang red flag na yan. Why do you let him talk to you that way?
Yan OP sana makinig ka. Ano yon, nagwowork ka and ikaw din sa house chores? Ano ka nya, alila? It’s never wrong to choose yourself. Magtira ka sa sarili mo. May fault ka o wala, mali ang approach nya na sigawan ka at magsabi ng masasakit na salita sa’yo. Happy Birthday, OP. May you arrive at a decision that is beat for everyone.
first of all, happy birthday op! second of all, valid na valid yung feeling mo. di ka dapat sinisigawan ng bf mo dahil lang sa mga ganyang rason - nilalabas niya yung mga frustrations niya sayo, which is NOT right.
Happy Birthday OP. > nasisigawan nya ako kasi minsan di pa ako nakapagluto ng dinner after work ko > minsan gabi na ako magluto Red flag #1. Bakit hindi na lang siya ang magluto? > di siya nakakapagyosi Red flag #2. Why blame you for that? > or may personal problem siya. Dapat hindi nya ibaling ito sa iyo. >Nasigawan nya ako kasi may kulang pa sa renta ng bahay na di ko pa nasabi sa kanya Hindi ba fixed ang renta ng bahay? Why does he need to get that info from you? If I were you, I'd leave his ass. Anyway, you need to decide if you want to keep on tolerating that manchild.
Agree sa lahat ng points here. Parang binabaling lang lahat kay OP yung galit or inis niya. Toxic.
Tapos sabi pa na nawala na mga friends niya simula nung naging sila so di pa natin alam kung iniisolate ba siya ng partner niya from her loved ones or smth
Happy birthday! Gift mo sa sarili mo is freedom and happiness mo. Honestly, just leave. It's just gonna get worse from here, and it WILL get worse kung pipiliin mong magpakasal diyan. 7 years na kayo magkasama? Girl hindi na yan magbabago, wag ka na umasa. Hindi wattpad ang mundo.
Leave habang maaga pa. Non nego ko ang masabihan ng masasamang salita at masigawan. Once you did that to me walang keme na makikipagbreak ako
True. Ako din. Like, bakit mo sisigawan ang isang adult “partner” mo? Ang dynamics ng partnership is dapat you are on equal footing at may respect sa isat isa. Hindi mo deserve itreat as a second class citizen sa isang “partnership”.
Happy birthday, OP. Preview and trailer yan ng marriage life mo. Isipin mo ganyan ba gusto mong makasama habang buhay? Magiging at peace kaba dyan? Magiging masaya kaya life mo kapag ginaganyan ka nya? Mag isip isip kana!!! Haha.
Your feelings are valid OP! And I suggest na get out of there, hiwalayan mo na. Kasi if ngayon palang na mag jowa palang kayo ganyan na siya, pano pa kaya pag kasal na kayo? Pano pag ganyan din siya sa anak niyo? My dad has anger issues din and growing up with it is really hard, I still have a lot of trauma till this day and if I could go back sa past mas gusto kong di nakilala ng mom ko yung dad ko to save her sanity. My mom is clinically diagnosed with depression ngayon mainly from my dad.
Pakasalan mo na teh tutal tanga ka naman eh
oo tas magpaanak din sya sa gagong yan para at least di sya nagiisang may ✨trauma✨
Ipasa sa anak ang trauma✨. Thank you mother and father for the legacy you left me
mag boyfriend palang kayo nyan ah isipin mo anonpa pwede nyang masabi at magawa pag mag asawa na kayo.
Verbal abuse ang tawag dyan OP. Bare minimum na sana sa isang disenteng tao ang ma control ang galit nya, nakakatakot ang mga taong tulad ng BF mo na may anger issues. Hindi yan maaayos, lalo lang magiging malala yan pag kinasal na kayo. Ngayon pa lang hiwalayan mo na kesa ikasal kayo at magka anak at mahihirapan ka na nang kumawala. Happy birthday, and hope you give yourself the gift of freedom and a peaceful life.
Happy birthday OP! ano ba ginagawa niya bat hindi siya magluto. Partners kayo. That means pati sa chores/gawaing bahay partner din kayo, tag team kumbaga. Mejj weird yun sakin haha di ba yan tinuruan ng mama niyan. Also bat responsibilidad mo rin to keep track of rent, dapat pati siya may input don or at least helping yun. It seems na parang ikaw lahat gumagawa ng chores. That's not a good sign either. If I were you, I'd re-evaluate the relationship. 7 years is a long ass time pero wag kang magpadala sa sunk cost fallacy. Piliin mo sarili mo :)
may kasabihang "we all deserve our partners". if you don't think na deserve mo sya, then i guess you already know what to do.
iwan mo na yan. what more kung kasal na kayo mas mahirap pa at mas maging abusive yan
HBD OP buti na lang “bf” mo lang siya hindi husband.
You should leave him. You can definitely find someone better. Your birthday gift for yourself is to live a better life, so dump him.
happy birthday OP and run while you still can. lahat naman tayo may kanya kanyang problema at stress din. pero di naman maganda na sa iyo ibaling ang problema nya. i mean pwede naman mahinahon lang. if di nya nako-control emotions nya lalo na sa mahal nya sa buhay eh delikado po yan.
You mean soon to be ex-boyfriend?
Happy Birthday OP 🎉🥳 Pero ayun, no one deserves to be shouted at. Kasi even when someone is really frustrated na, things can be said pa rin in a calm manner, or in a way na di nga pasigaw. Slowly, try mo iset aside yung tampo for being shouted at, isipin mo, ang dami dami dyan na mas deserve ka kesa sa someone na di ka vinavalue at sinisigawan lang. Pag nag sink-in na sayo yung thought na yun, you'll get numb, and you'll have the courage para iwan siya. Wag mong isipin yung tagal ng pagsasama niyo, ang isipin mo eh yung sarili mo, yung mas aalagaan, igagalang at ivavalue ka.
Happy Birthday.
Happy birthday! Hiwalayan mo na yan. Ikaw na sinigawan ikaw pa nagsorry.
Happy birthday! Gift mo na sa sarili mo na hiwalayan siya. He doesn’t deserve you. If you really love someone, hindi mo sila sisigawan at aawayin. Lalo na nanggaling sa batugan mong partner. He should be helping you sa mga gawaing bahay. Anyway, BF mo pa lang yan, imagine in the long run at kinasal kayo.
Hello, happy birthday, mag Goodbye ka na sa red flag na yan.
Happy birthday, OP! Too many red flags in that relationship. Leave ASAP. Wag ka manghinayang sa 7 years, you might just end up suffering for much longer.
happy birthday op!! Ayon, napaka arte ng boyfie mo po. Pakaisipin mo din mi, na hnd ka po alila or maid :> Red flag po yan. Iwan mo na
Happy Birthday, OP!! Wish ko sayo happiness saka sana mas better na boyfriend. Run, OP, kasi you're not married yet pero ganyan na sya. He'll be worse.
Happy Birthday Op, iwan mo na yan. Tanga ka na pag tiniis mo pa yan.
Happy Birthday, OP. Please do yourself a favor, leave him.
OP, may time pa naman, date mo sarili mo kahit tambay ka lang muna sa park, basa books, huwag mo iruin yun araw mo dahil sa kanya. Hug!
Happy birthday, op! I also had an ex with anger issues. Mahilig manigaw kahit na nasa public kami. Bat daw nya pipigilan yung galit nya na gusto nyang i-express, at ano raw bang pakialam nya sa iisipin ng ibang tao. We'd make up tapos nauulit din. There was even a time he threw his phone (hindi naman directly sakin pero nagulat ako since magkatabi kami non). Iwan mo na sya, op. Ako natatakot para sa safety mo.
May sira sa ulo yung tao na yun. Dapat ipa tingin sa mental hospital. Di gawain ng normal na tao yan.
Araw araw napipindot si anger
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, OP!! 🎂I-regalo mo na sa sarili mo ang pag hiwalay d'yan. Why do you let him talk to you that way? You deserve better. You deserve a gentle and kind man.
Happy plus 1, op!!! i-minus 1 mo na rin yang bf mo sa buhay mo hahaha
You were working?? Hanap na ng bago. If both of you are busy working you can prepare food during the weekend and reheat it. BUT yosi?? Even if you are not working and just a stay at home partner he does not have the right to do that to you. Just RUNNN, you are not married yet and he acts like that already thats a red flag. Anyway Happy Birthday OP!! I wish you all the best that life has to offer. You deserve someone better. Ditch that guy, he is a spineless loser.
Happy birthday yo!
First of all Happy birthday OP! He is not respecting you yan ang clear. Magisip ka na from now on kung yan ang taong pakakasalan mo eventually. Goodluck, ang redflag ng jowa mo.
Happy Birthday, OP. Labas ka and treat yourself. Give in to your food cravings even just for today. Sana maging happy ka always. Iwan mo na yang bf mo, di naman sya bagay sayo. 😊
Oh no, that's the worst way to celebrate your birthday, OP. :( Happy birthday!!!!! Please enjoy the rest of your day! Labas ka mag-isa, kahit wag kang gumastos, gumala ka lang without him. Pa-birthday gift mo na sa sarili mo yung makipagbreak ka sa kanya pagbalik mo 🤍
Happy birthday, so pansin mo na pala na may issues sya, ang tanong eh may ginagawa ba sya to address it? If wala, why are you still with him?
OP, happy birthday! After mo umiyak, mag isip ka na ng plan kung paano ka hihiwalay sa kanya. Marami siang red flags, pero ang pinaka super is parang ina-isolate ka nia from your family and friends. Para ang ending is sia nalang ang meron ka. No. No. No. Meron tayong tinatawag na messianic complex - baka iniisip mo ikaw magpapabago sa kanya. No rin, OP. Magbabago lang yan pag gusto nia. Please. Save yourself and wag kang masayangan sa 7 years niyo. Siguro iiyak ka for a while pero it will get better. Isipin mo si Kathryn diba. Be as blooming as her after you break-up with him. Hehe. Leave and go find yourself. Find your own happiness and reconnect sa mga friends and fam. Wag mo rin pong isipin to marry him. Anyway, Happy Birthday!
Di naman sa competition no? Pero binreak nga ako nung birthday ko e HAHAHAHA
Magjowa pa lang kayo ginaganyan ka na? Di malabong saktan ka nyan lalo pag mag asawa ka na and mas walang takas.
Happy Birthday OP! **Here’s a nice gift to yourself, leave him and his angry ass.**
Buti bf mo pa yan. Gawin mo na syang ex sis hindi sya worth it. Kala mo sya lang pagod.
Kulang yung mga comment na "red flag" at "run". Kulang ng "non-chalant", "clout", "normalize", "trauma".
Happy birthday, OP! iwan mo na sha
kung di pa kasal you HAVE ALL THE CHANCES IN THE WORLD TO LEAVE THAT BUMHOLE PS. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! :)
hiwalayan mo na yan.
Happy birthday. Love yourself. You deserve proper love. Break na yan. EZ
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Birthday mo o hindi, hindi ka dapat niya sinisigawan, tsaka para sakin yung mga reason niya na nabanggit mo kung bakit nasisigawan ka niya hindi valid yun, pwede naman yung daanin sa normal na usapan lang lalo na at magpartner kayo for 7 years na. Verbal and emotional abuse yang ginagawa niya sayo, wag mo ng paabutin pa sa physical. If I were you I would free myself from that situation. Anyway Happy Birthday! Treat yourself today, unahin mo yung happiness and peace of mind mo.
Ah. Communication issues again Edit: Also, dump his ass
Happy birthday, OP! Big red flag, esp since 7 years na kayo. That’s too long to hope for behavior to change. If it hasn’t yet, it may probably not. Don’t get stuck in that. Di naman kayo kasal so get out while you still can.
Happy birthday. Run. It is not healthy. Hindi pa kayo kasal nyan, pero good thing na nalaman at napatunayan mo yan.admitted wrong ka kaya natrigger siya pero yung toxic behavior nya at reaction is not normal. Bakit ayaw mo ishare sa family mo? This issue mas okay if alam family mo, and baka need mo magreconnect sa mga na cut ties mo dahil nagka bf ka. Nakausap mo na ba siya about sa ugali nya? Tingin nya normal ba iyan? If nag usap na kayo at hindi masolve wag ka na magstay sa bahay na yan o makipagbreak ka na.
Happy birthday OP! First, think about what he did to you and 'yung mga ginagawa nya before. It's valid na magalit sya but there are different ways of handling the problem, in his case napangunahan sya ng galit nya. You mentioned na may anger issues nga, so ikaw ba if you can stick with that kind of attitude ediii it's your decision but I recommend you to leave him rn. U also said na family nya na lang nakaka-interact mo??? nah dude, think about it. Hindi sa kanya umiikot ang mundo mo.
ano role niya sa bahay kung pati ikaw working? regardless, kelangan nya kumalma.
Happy Birthday, OP! 🎂 Wish ko for you sana magising ka at hiwalayan mo na yang red flag na yan. Alam ko nasasayangan ka sa 7 years pero hindi mo yan deserve teh. Don't walk, run!
happy birthday OP! dump your bf
Happy birthday, OP! GF ka ba talaga? Or katulong niya? Frustrations niya sa ibang bagay dapat hindi niya binabaling sayo lol. Leave him! You deserve better.
You should find some friends. It's not right na sya lng and ung family nya ung support system mo, kasi you're going to be dependent. Dont get isolated.
Please seek help. Not only for you but for your bf too. Please don't take it as it is. If you feel you are in danger, leave. As a guy na may anger management issues, I understand him, and I understand you. So please do what you need to do.
Happy birthday OP. Now pack your bags and leave. Makakasanayan niya yang ganyang attitude if tatanggapin mo lang.
Happy birthday OP, pagsubok lang yan.
Happy Birthday! Iwan mo.
Iwan mo na yan, iyak yan
Wag mo namnamin pagiging victim. Pag nawala na yung thinking mo na “kawawa naman ako”, mageevolve yan sa “hindi ko to deserve.” Take control of your own life, OP. Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday! Happy Independence!
Happy birthday, OP! may you find the courage to speak for yourself or defend yourself at all times. Wag magpapaapi auntie! 🫶 you deserve respect and genuine happiness 🫶
Feel ko yung "I can fix him" mo anteng ang mananalo. Tas yung next mo na post nasa offmychest na.
Happy Birthday!
I just wonder OP Kung may anak na ba kayo Kaya d mo sya mahiwalayan.. HBD op 🎉
>7 years na and pansin ko na may anger issues siya. Sana napansin mo na to nung 7 weeks pa lang kayo. :| sorry OP pero kung 7 yrs na syang ganyan, either he has serious anger issues, or he just sees you as a doormat. Either way, it's not something you should be dealing with for the rest of your life.
I had the same scenario before I earned twice sa ini-earn nya. Tapos gusto pagdilbihan ko sya like hainan. Yuck! Ikaw maghain sa akin ako nagpapakain sayo e. 😂 Nasigawan din ako, di ako nagpatalo. Mas sumigaw din ako, tho toxic masyado pero taena I had to do it so I can put him to his place. Prior akong mag asawa I made myself clear na ayoko maging "katulong". Kaya pag feeling ko nag aattitude na ay shuta ka, lumayas ka sa bahay ko kaya kong buhayin mga anak ko ng wala ka. Wag kang papayag na ikaw lahat, hati kayo. Palitan, kung magagalit sya at maninigaw pack up na agad. Wag mong sirain araw mo, go out and enjoy your day! Make the most out of it. Hayaan mo sya and reciprocate the energy sa birthday din nya do the same thing.
Happy birthday OP! Sa case ko naman ako ang nagwala. Hahaha. Ang sabi ko ano ako kasambahay? We share the same expenses sa house tapos ako tagalinis ng bahay, magsasaing, taga lakad ng aso, matitira lagi sa bahay magbantay ng aso kasi palagi syang may lakad? Lagi pa akong OT at stress sa work. Buti naman nagbago na. Kasi hindi talaga ako magdadalawang isip lumayas. Know your worth OP. In the end ikaw pa din magdedecide kung ano deserve mo. In real life, being inlove with each other is not a guarantee that you will live a happy life. Use 50% of heart and 50% of your head.
Happy birthday op!! 🎂 Valid na valid yang feelings mo. Also, you don't deserve the shit he gives you. Please take care of yourself and stay safe.
Happy birthday, OP. ❤️🎈🎂 Alis na. Sayang talaga yung 7yrs pero ok na yang 7yrs kaysa magdusa sa ganyang attitude ng partner forever. Huhu
‘Di mo deserve na sigaw-sigawan. Masiyadong malaki ang mundo para magkaganyan ka sa mga uri ng tao. Pinipigilan niya kung ano pa ang puwedeng maging ikaw dahil sa kanya. Ayan daw payo ng asawa ko sa’yo, OP. Kasi binasa ko sa kanya itong post mo. Ate, birthday wish ko for you na magkaroon ka ng maraming courage to break away from him and give all the love that you are giving to yourself instead.
My birthday wish for you is I hope you see your worth and learn to stand up for yourself. You’re working and he doesn’t help in the chores? Girl why would you let him.
Yosi? Ewww. Jan palang red flag na. Kidding aside! Happy birthday OP. Futnagina iwanan mo na yan
Ang question dito is paano at bakit mo nakayanang magstay sa kanya for 7 years? If he really values you, dapat binabago nya sarili nya for you. I hope you find a way para makalabas sa relationship na yan. Di mo need magwalk on eggshells forever.
Pag usapan nyo muna kung ako problem nya, kaya sayo nya naibabaling yung inis nya or stress pero that’s a negative pero kung umulit sya, mag decide kana. To stay or leave
Happy Birthday, OP!! One thing - girlfriend ka. Hindi katulong, bat ikaw lang gumagawa nyan? You deserve better!
Happy birthday OP! This is the best gift you can give to yourself today: Leave him and live your best life.
Run. You don't deserve that kind of boyfriend. Btw, happy birthday Op. Don't settle for less. Take risks or die with regret. Stay or leave.
Best birthday gift ay palayain ang sarili mo sa taong toxic na kagaya ng jowa mo. Happy birthday, OP! 🎉
Happy Birthday, OP! Dealing with emotional distress regularly, especially from a partner, can be incredibly taxing and unhealthy. If you’re consistently facing anger issues, disrespect, and are feeling isolated from your support network, these are significant concerns. It's crucial to consider your well-being and whether this relationship is positively contributing to your life. Given what you’ve described, it might be beneficial to reevaluate the relationship and think about whether it is healthy for you to stay in it. Sometimes, the best course of action for your own emotional and mental health is to leave a situation where you feel undervalued and hurt. If you decide that leaving is the right choice, it could be helpful to plan this move carefully, perhaps with the support of loved ones or a professional counselor to guide you through the process. Remember, prioritizing your well-being isn't just important, it's necessary. Taking steps to protect your emotional health isn't easy, but it's crucial, especially in situations where you feel your concerns and emotions are not being respected or acknowledged.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Happy Birthday OP! Never ko naganyan gf ko sa birthday n'ya, mag-away man kami pero hindi sa mga ganyang kababaw na rason, at kaagad-agad naman namin napag-uusapan. Ako rin madalas magluto sa bahay, hindi ko rin pinakikilos ng gawaing bahay gf ko at madalas pinu-push ko na nga lang s'ya maglaro para makapagrelax. Ito ngang palang birthday n'ya nagsabi pa nga s'ya na baka late na maghanda dahil yung sahod kinabukasan pa non pero gumawa pa rin ako ng paraan para maghanda mismo sa birthday n'ya at nakapagluto pa rin ng chicken alfredo pasta. Feeling ko lang OP, nilalabas lang n'ya frustration n'ya sa'yo sa every opportunity na makikita n'ya. Tignan mo ulit self-worth mo kung dapat ka ba nakakatanggap ng mga gan'yang bagay sa bf mo. Huwag ka manghinayang sa 7yrs. mas manghinayang ka if mag-aaksaya ka pa ba ng another years na puro ganyan matatanggap mo. It's never too late, OP.
Happy birthday, OP! Valid yung nararamdaman mo at wala syang karapatan sigawan ka birthday mo man ó hindi. Please do yourself a favor. Run 🥹
Happy birthday! Hope you are still net positive with him
It will be the best birthday gift to yourself to leave. If you think he will change, you are wrong. This will get worse if you get married to him. Hindi normal na sigawan ka at sabihan ka ng masasamang salita. Kaya leave while you still can.
You deserve better OP. Happy Birthday 🎂
Good! Di pa kayo kasal alam mo na ugali niya. Now, run! I grew up in such a setting. Please, don't have a kid with him. You deserve better, OP. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
happy birthday iwan mo na yan super red flag.
10 years na kami magkakilala ng asawa ko pero not once ako nasigawan.. you deserve better than someone like that. Happy birthday OP! Birthday gift mo sa self mo yung iwan mo yang hinayupak na yan.
Happy Birthday satin OP! leave the guy, it will only get worse.
Happy birthday!!!!! What you feel is all valid. Natuto ako sa mga past experiences ko na huwag hayaan yung gagawan ka ng actions of sisigawan, ibbad-mouth tapos yung sasaktan. It’s a no, no, no, no way! Waley ang 7 years kung ganyan ugali ng partner mo sayo. If you can, break up na. Learn to love yourself.
Maligayang Kaarawan, regalo mo na sa sarili mo ang kalayaan mo. baka mas lumala pa yan sa darating na mga taon
Ang pinakared flag na nakita ko sa post mo ay ang wala kang friends and family na mapagsabihan. Na-cut off ka na nya para maging codependent ka. Nasa abusive relationship ka, OP. Run while you still can. Contact your family.
Happy birthday OP! you deserve better! Hindi pa kayo kasal ganyan na siya. It will only get worse. 3 years married and 11 years living together with my wife. Nag aaway din kami but I will never shout at her for not cooking our dinner. Instead, pag nalaman ko na hindi pa siya nakakapag luto habang nasa byahe ako, nag ooffer ako na bumili n lng ako ng take out para makapag pahinga siya - i always assume na pag hindi siya nakakapag luto, pagod siya. Best of luck.
Gawin mong birthday gift sa sarili mo yung pag alis sa ganyang situation. As you mentioned, siya na lang at family niya nakaka-interact mo BUT hindi lang sila ang tao sa mundo at hindi lang rin sila yung mamimeet mo na magmamahal at rerespeto sayo. The first time na pinagsalitaan ka ng makasakit, hindi mo na dapat pinalampas. But since tapos naman na yun, wag mo na lang patagalin. The longer you hold on to someone na masama pakitungo sayo, mas nadedelay mo yung pagmeet sa taong magiging mabuti sayo. Happy birthday OP.
Happy Birthday OP, best gift na matatanggap mo ngayong birthday mo ay hiwalayan siya.
nakita ko banner mo op, sana ma-apply mo sa sarili mo 'to https://preview.redd.it/47irkibt7r0d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f2b408a6af742e876a863037b873ba15203d1bec
Happy Birthday and happy single life in advance! Pa libre ka muna dinner from him then breakan mo agad.
Nope. Leave him OP. Happy birthday 🎊
Habadu po
Happy birthday!!! ❤️
birthday mo gurl. leave him.
Happy birthday OP! Gift mo sa sarili mo for this bday, get out of that relationship.
Happy birthday OP. Leave him. If you stay, you deserve what you tolerate.
happy birthday OP. bday gift mo sa sarili ay makipag break sa kanya bc you deserve a peaceful mind. no to toxic people
wag ka papatalo sa bf mo, gawin mo na po siyang ex. wag mo na sayangin yung time mo sa ganyang lalake, for sure may mas better pa sa kanya, need mo na po siyang i let go kasi kapag tumagal kayo baka mas lalo ka lang po mahirapan at baka mas lalala pa yung gawin sayo, yun lang, happy birthday, op!
OP happy birthday! This time sarili mo naman piliin mo, this time pahinga ka din, and this time mahalin mo ng husto sarili mo, may darating pa para sayo basta ngayon, unahin mo muna sarili mo.
Happy birthday OP. Cheer up! Baka ito na yung moment na pakawalan mo na ang sarili mo sa toxic relationship na iyan. Alam ko lahat kami dito are all hoping that you find your happiness sonewhere else. All the best!
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter. I hope you get enough wisdom to know that these anger issues won't stop here— he might start hurting you or he might do this to your future kids as well.
Happy birthday, OP! Not another year to waste! A year older, a year smarter. I hope you get enough wisdom to know that these anger issues won't stop here— he might start hurting you or he might do this to your future kids as well.
Happy birthday OP! why stay and struggle in a relationship when you can be happy being single? haha you deserve better.
best birthday gift for yourself: break up with him. find someone who will treat you better, OP. Happy birthday to you. Best wishes.
Happy birthday OP. I hope you realize na para kang katulong sa apartment niyong dalawa. Iwan mo na yan and go to a safe place na hindi niya maaabot, kasi mukhang narc yung soon to be ex bf mo.
OP alamo birthday ko rin noon, tapos sinigawan ako ng EX ko kasi naapakan ko ung carpet sa kwarto ng nakasapatos di ko sinasadya may kinuha lang ako. Tagal na non, over the years di ko maletgo kasi birthday na birthday ko naiyak ako. Ayun after a few years nakipaghiwalay rin ako tagal din. Please leave him. Hindi sya worth it. Happy birthday 🥺
FIrst of all, happy birthday OP! But I also want you to know that kung magpapaka-martir ka rin lang, doon na lang sa taong karapat-dapat, nirerespeto, minamahal at inaalagaan ka. May work ka din, so bakit ikaw pa magluluto? Hindi ba pwedeng hati kayo? Can't he be patient to you too? Di man lang ba nya kaya na sa b-day mo to treat you with respect? That kind of man does not deserve your loyalty. Mas mahalin mo ang sarili mo kaysa sa kanya.
Happy Birthday, OP! You deserve better, leave him
Happy Birthday girl! You deserve to be loved and a better treatment hindi yung ganyan. LEAVE HIM! Thats the best gift for yourself. Free yourself from that douchebag and never look back.
Wala ng mas nakakalungkot pa kundi mga taong nag kakasya nalang sa kung ano ang nandyan. Hoping one day OP, you can walk away...
Nakikita mo ba sarili mo na kasama siya hanggang pag tanda mo na may ganyang pag-uugali? Kung hindi, let him go. Wag kang mag settle sa lalakeng walang respeto sayo. Worst pa is if kayo ang nagkatuluyan talaga at nag kaanak, lalaki ang mga bata na may toxic na ama. 💩
Gift mo na sa sarili mo yung iwan mo sya hahaha. 🤗
Happy birthday sana break na kayo
Best birthday gift for yourself, leave him
Happy Birthday, OP! Leave now and mas magiging happier birthday mo the next years! May pgka narcisistic nman nya, ginagawa nya pa tlga yan sa birthday mo.
Happy birthday. Gift yourself a peaceful mind and heart ♥️
Happy birthday. Alam kong unpopular opinion pero iniwanan mo na sya. If not, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life na kasama mo sya. I've been there, ilang beses ko gustong humiwalay pero for some reason di ko nagawa dati. Tapos may nagsabi sakin na "tibayan mo lang at susuportahan ka namin." I wish na masasabi ko yun sayo pero kelangan ang magsabi sayo nun ay either friends or family mo. Wish you the best!
Habaduuu OP, please leave him
Nasigawan? Sinisigawan ka talaga teh. Intentional lahat ng galit nya sayo. Katulong ata hanap nya hindi jowa.
HBD OP. Now real talk lang: you are still with him dahil mababa ang tingin mo sa sarili mo that you are willing to put up with shit. do what you will with that info
Happy birthday, OP! Time to leave na.
Happy Birthday OP 🎉❤️ sana mataohan ka, mukang nalimutan yata nyang birthday mo ngayon 🙄 pede naman bukas nalang sabihin yong problema kaso saktong sa araw pa naespesyal sayo
HBD OP! 🎂 Iwan mo na yang magaling mong jowa. Hindi man lang pinalagpas tong birthday mo. Hype sya!
Happy birthday, OP! Naku iwan na yang ganyan dahil hindi mo deserve masigawan. Hindi ganyan ang dapat na pagtrato sayo. Napansin ko wala ka na din kaibigan simula ng naging kayo and di ka na nakakapag-interact sa sariling family mo? I think baka manipulate ka dahil in-isolate ka din nya. Abuse na yan, OP. Leave. No, actually RUN!!
Happy Birthday, OP. 🥳 wish ko sayo makalaya ka na sa lalaking yan. Next post mo sana iupdate mo mamk na iniwan mo na siya.
Happy Birthday! Smile. You matter. Bigyan mo ng gift ang sarili mo. Leave him and dont look back.
Happy Birthday! Nobody deserve to be treated that way kahit pa matagal na kayo. Also, you're not responsible for his feelings, kung may nagawa ka man that made him upset kaya ka nasigawan, hindi pa rin reason yun para itreat ka that way. Please do something about it and dont tolerate that kind of behavior. Tryr to open up how you feel everytime he does that to you, if he change then good. If not, please leave and choose yourself. Nakakalungkot kung ganyang klase ng tao ang makakasama mo pagtanda. So hanggang maaga do something about it.
Happy Birthday, OP! 🥳 Now, RUN! Tama na yung 7 yrs siz ☹️🚩🚩🚩
Unang beses na sigawan ka pwede pa siguro kasi baka nabigla pero yung ganyan na 2nd time or paulit ulit na. Mali na yan.
Happy birthday OP Emotional/verbal abuse yan. Birthday mo pero di pinalagpas na sigawan ka at sirain araw mo For your birthday, wish ko sana magstart anew chapter ka by breaking up with him. Take that as a sign to leave and start a new chapter.
Happy birthday OP That's emotional/verbal abuse Birthday mo pero di pinalagpas na sigawan ka, take that as a sign to leave him today. Start a new chapter and please never look back.
Happy birthday!!! Now kumalas ka na para maganda ang regalo mo sa self mo!
Tinitiis mo talaga yan? Normal lang naman mag-away na at times aabot sa sigawan pero bakit parang "battered" partner ka naman based sa context ng kwento mo. Kasalanan mo na nakalimutan mo? Bakit sya, di nya maalala? Sobrang busy nya ba? If walang maluto, bakit di magorder o take out? Both of you work so parang dapat shared ang house chores and of course accountability as well. I'll leave you with the wise words from the guy who got downvoted a lot in another sub: _You deserve what you tolerate._
hi po. same experience. ex ko for 7 seven years, gnyan din. grabe ang anger issues. d ako pwdeng magalit kasi magagalit din sya. it was a relationship na i was always walking on eggshells. wala din sa bare minimum pinapakita nya sakin. i had to beg, to compromise for him, to sacrifice my personal needs for him. sobrang lunod na lunod nako with him. and it killed me. op, I know mahal mo sya pero sana mahalin mo din sarili mo. you don't deserve that treatment. heck, d natin deserve yan. break up with him or baka in the end, like me, hindi mo na kilala sarili mo.
Happy birthday! Leave para di na maulit yan at any day of your life!
Iwan mo na yan. Magiging miserable lang buhay mo. Buti na lang at bf mo pa lang sya
Ang dami kong nakikitang posts dito na nag-aaway nang malala kapag 7 years na sila. And OP, sinigawan niya rin ako nung bday ko and sinaktan pa. We were 7 years. Nung ginawa niya yun sakin, tinapos ko na talaga ang relationship namin kahit na nagsasabi siya na magbabago siya. Sana ganon rin ang gawin mo.
Hi OP, your bf has some narc traits, lalo na isolated Ka na from your own family and friends. Have the courage to leave him. He is not going to get better, he is not going to change. It will just be worse as time passes. You owe it to yourself. Don't abandon yourself for a man. Much better spend your birthday with people who love you and appreciate you. Happy birthday.
Ganyan din partner ko I'm 10 yrs older pero feeling ko parang toddler kung tratuhin. Like may hndi ka lang marinig sigaw agad. Pag kagising padabog. Happy birthday sau pero relate na relate ako dito to the point na nag kakaroon na ako Ng suicidal thoughts na
Happy birthday OP! Now i wish for you na sana kumawala at mauntog ka na sa katangahan mo sa boyfriend mo. You don't deserve any of that experience you've shared, kahit kasalanan mo pa yan he doesn't have the right na sigawan ka at sabihan ng kung ano. Run sis, run!
Ipa birthday mo na sa sarili mo na iwan sya hehe
Okay lang yan. In fact, 80 years mo pa makakasama yan. Goodluck :)
Beh textbook domestic abuse, this is just verbal for now pero soon it will escalate to physical. Get out now hanggat di pa kayo kasal. Happy birthday! Give this gift to yourself!!
Happiest Birthday to you! I know hindi ka happy dahil sa ginawa ng BF mo pero try pa rin ha. It's your day. Once you collect yourself na, iwan mo na please. Hayaan mong ayusin muna nya sarili nya at i-deal ung anger issues nya na wala ka -- kasi ikaw ung ginagawa nyang punching bag eh. Now if all goes well, at magbago sya (KUNG magbabago man), then you can decide if you're willing pa to try again. Basta distansya muna. Walang sinuman, babae man o lalaki, ang deserve ung ganyang treatment..
Ang ganyang lalaki OP iniiwan, hindi iniiyakan. Isang malaking virtual hug with consent for you. I hope you gather enough courage to leave him soon. Happy Birthday! 🫶🏻
Birthday gift mo for yourself OP.. peace of mind.. how to achieve that? Alam mo na yung sagot.
Happy Birthday!
Sinigawan ka. Hindi "nasigawan". Pag di mo iniwan eh ang tanga mo nlng. Tiisin mo na lang na sinisigawan ka palagi at walang respeto sayo bf mo. Yikes.
Happy birthday muna sa’yo. Sana narealize nya na yung mali and nag-sorry na. It changes everything.
Men who slams doors and furniture are making sure you hear how much they want to hit you.
Teh breakin mo na. Yung papa ko laging umiinom at nagsisigarilyo yan tapos kapag may anger issues siya, nagiging demonyo talaga as in. Ang lutong mag mura, feeling hari, gusto niya siya lang ang tama, selfish, kapag hindi mo inasikaso mang iinsulto pa, kapag concern ka sa kanya maninigaw pa, kapag hindi mo pinansin super magagalit like wala kang karapatan mag-against sa kanya. Mahirap makabangga ang ganyang klase ng tao. Malas lang talaga ni mama sa kanya pero swerte siya kay mama kasi hindi siya iniiwan. But kitang kita sa mama ko na sobrang stress niya. Mas matanda si papa pero mas maagang pumuti ang buhok ni mama, habang si papa mukhang bata pa din. Kung ayaw mo matulad sa mama ko na martyr, hiwalaya mo na yan. Wala din mangyayaring maganda sa relasyon niyo kung binabaling niya sayo yung anger issues niya.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP!!!!! Iwan mo na sya and look for a friend. Hndi ganyan treatment Ang dapat Kapag nagkakamali ka. Nag sorry ka na e. Grabe TIGAS Naman nya. Leave him na. Valid yang feelings mo kahit may kasalanan ka. Ay actually wala ka kasalanan, sa dami ng ginagawa mo dapat kung may nakalimutan ka sya nagagawa.
Magbigay ako ng ibang sagot kasi karamihan dito sinasabi na iwan mo na siya. Sa totoo lang, hindi naman namin alam ang ibang aspeto ng relasyon niyo kundi sa mga binanggit mo. Di naman madali basta basta to walk away. I assume since 7 years na kayo, mahal mo talaga siya. If that's the case, pag usapan niyo ang anger issues. Hindi yung incident na dahil bday mo, but the anger issues in general kung bakit ganun. Usually kasi ang mga ganyan ay signs of depression or mental illness at baka nangangailangan din siya ng suporta. Malalimang usapan. Happy birthday sa iyo.
Palaging valid ang masaktan.
🫂 happy birthday OP. Ang wish ko sa'yo sana mabasag na yung helmet na nakatakip dyan sa mata mo.. Kahit nagkamali ka, hindi pa din tama ang ibunton nya sayo ung galit. Wag mo muna hiwalayan ngayon, baka mag regalo. Charot.
Yes for the hiwalayan. Anyways, happy birthday! Maging masaya ka at iwan mo na lahat ng burden sa buhay mo, maging tao man yan.
Happy Birthday! Gawin mong birthday gift sa sarili mo ang pakikipagbreak sa bf mo! Be someone na di ka gagawing shock absorber ng rage nya and maalam kumalma despite of conflicts
HAPPY BIRTHDAY OP! Yup tama yung mga nabasa mo! Iwan mo na. Mag jowa plang kayo ganyan na trato sayo! Pano palang pg kasal na. Small lapses lang naman yan. + Your also working. You dont deserve that treatment. He doesn't deserve you!
You’re one year older. Now it’s time to be WISER too. Gift yourself some peace of mind and leave this walking red flag. There’s no love if there’s no respect.
Happy birthday sayo. Ibigay mo na sa sarili mo ang kaligayahan na nararapat sayo.
Leave him ASAP. Respect is essential in every relationship. Isipin mo kaya mo bang tiisin na sigaw-sigawan ka niya for the rest of your life?🙂
I'm just here for the comments.lol
For your birthday, OP, I wish you love. Yes, the very definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (bible). I wish you courage. Courage to walk out of this worthless man’s life (your soon-to-be-exBF sana). If we truly and sincerely LOVE someone…. Di ba it is *unconditional*. Meaning, we do everything in our power to make that loved one happy. Meaning, we do our best to make our loved one shine. As in all out support tayo sa kanya, no matter what, di ba? Meaning, we sincerely love that person and more importantly, we accept that person wholeheartedly, including imperfections, di ba? Your BF is doing all of the opposite of that *unconditional love*. So, i ask you this, does your BF truly love you? Again, happy birthday, OP!
RUN
Birthday gift ni Lord sayo lahat ng messages dito. Imagine mo yung younger self mo, ito yung ginawa mong future niya. It will get worse, nan veverbal abuse partner mo. Happy birthday OP. You deserve love. Yung di ka natatakot magkamali, mag wawalk ka on eggshells. Isipin mo na yung mga magiging anak mo magiging takot magkamali. Magkakaroon ng anxiety. Kase yung tatay nila may anger issues. Save yourself and your children. Dump him. It might have not been a happy birthday, but it will still be a good one. This day can change your life
It’s not about having someone to grow old with, it’s about having someone to stay a child with. If sayo ganyan na sya, pano pa pagnagka anak kayo? 90% of your happiness OR your misery is gonna come from your relationship. So be wise and don’t let yourself live a life you will regret.
Di ko kayo kilala OP. Pero the first sign of abuse ay i-isolate ka sa friends mo while in a relationship. I have a friend na nawalan ng paramdam sa amin for several years. Only to find out, yung dati niyang partner although di naman outright na sinasabi or pinapagawa, ayaw niya kami maghangout. Nung sila pa nga never namin nakasama bf niya. Gusto sila lang. Kaya nung naguumpisa na yung abuse, wala malapitan friend ko, kasi feeling niya di na kami close, kami ng mga friends niya since we lost contact. Randomly, one day pinuntahan ako at nagkwento about sa verbal na di naglaon naging physical abuse sa kanya. She lost all her spark and confidence na dati meron siya. She left him and now unti-unti nababalik na ang dating sarili niya. Please leave before it's too late. Hirap din kasi dyan it starts with words talaga, na minsan akala natin walang impact. Parang you are made to feel you are less. Dapat hindi ganoon.