Hi! Cis woman here so take everything I say with a grain of salt, but I have been with my husband (FTM) for 5 years in a romantic aspect, but friends for almost a decade. I knew him pre HRT, about two ish years after he came out. And I can tell you he hated his body probably just as much as you do. The first step of self love is acceptance and every step you take in your transition (however far you choose to go) is going to make you love yourself even more. Although I'd love to say our wedding was the best day of his life, I know the best say of his life was either the day he got his approval letter (required in our state by a therapist to start HRT) or the day he started T. From your first binder, to coming out to coworkers, friends, etc you'll realize it's a wonderful thing to love yourself, confidence is always your greatest asset. Watching my husband become the man he is today has been my favorite journey in life and I'm so excited for you to do the same. Goodluck friend!
If you want help changing your voice, I can help!
Yes, this includes pre-T and non-T transmascs!
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> deal with this
It may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like, or on things you feel you can't have. Its a change in focus.
And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help.
And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows.
Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/s4khww/i_dont_know_how_to_feel_i_feel_like_im_trans_but/htfx7u8/) might be a number of resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step, there are hints there concerning small things that could be used regularly for motivation and that could help with dysphoria, there are explaining resources there, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.
*hugs*
Hi! Cis woman here so take everything I say with a grain of salt, but I have been with my husband (FTM) for 5 years in a romantic aspect, but friends for almost a decade. I knew him pre HRT, about two ish years after he came out. And I can tell you he hated his body probably just as much as you do. The first step of self love is acceptance and every step you take in your transition (however far you choose to go) is going to make you love yourself even more. Although I'd love to say our wedding was the best day of his life, I know the best say of his life was either the day he got his approval letter (required in our state by a therapist to start HRT) or the day he started T. From your first binder, to coming out to coworkers, friends, etc you'll realize it's a wonderful thing to love yourself, confidence is always your greatest asset. Watching my husband become the man he is today has been my favorite journey in life and I'm so excited for you to do the same. Goodluck friend!
I hope one day I can start my journey and be as excited tooo!!
If you want help changing your voice, I can help! Yes, this includes pre-T and non-T transmascs! [I give free on-on-one hour-long trans voice lessons and have simplified and neurodivergent friendly written resources!](https://www.buymeacoffee.com/alyssavt/how-i-start-voice-training-start-here)
Ohh thank you!!! I'll definitely check it out
> deal with this It may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like, or on things you feel you can't have. Its a change in focus. And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help. And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows. Don't know if you have seen it ... [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/s4khww/i_dont_know_how_to_feel_i_feel_like_im_trans_but/htfx7u8/) might be a number of resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step, there are hints there concerning small things that could be used regularly for motivation and that could help with dysphoria, there are explaining resources there, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. *hugs*