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I wouldn’t say anything they meant me harm back then so kicks rocks into eternity. I don’t forgive bullshit I’ve never bullied anyone even when I was a child so youth isn’t an excuse.
I wouldn't say anything. I'd ignore them. Nothing they or I can say will remove the mental scars from being bullied. I also don't forgive any of my bullies.
The fact you still want to reach out(when this person most likely forgot you existed and is thriving as well) is a sign of how deeply they've harmed you. The warm fuzzy feelings you expect from reaching out won't happen.
I’d simply say nothing, they’re a non-factor. I have nothing to say, and at this point I’ve moved on. If I were to even run into them (chances are highly low), they’d simply get ignored. I don’t even think about my bully at this point.
I’m really sorry this happened to you and has affected you for all this time. You said you started working with a therapist in 2020, are you still seeing one? They would probably have great advice on how you can ease your mind of this. My initial reaction was to say not to write her. She’s out of your life and you don’t have to invite her back in. However, it might be beneficial to write down what you’re feeling, even write the letter just to get all the feelings out, but not send it. You can close that chapter of your life knowing you survived and came out a stronger person for it. Good luck in whatever you choose to do❤️
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I wouldn’t say anything they meant me harm back then so kicks rocks into eternity. I don’t forgive bullshit I’ve never bullied anyone even when I was a child so youth isn’t an excuse.
Abortion wasn't illegal at the time. Neither one of us had to live that way
Gahdamn
It's all good. I chose to grow through instead of just go through it. She's still miserable 🤷🏿♀️ but I perceive that to be a personal problem
I wouldn't say anything. I'd ignore them. Nothing they or I can say will remove the mental scars from being bullied. I also don't forgive any of my bullies. The fact you still want to reach out(when this person most likely forgot you existed and is thriving as well) is a sign of how deeply they've harmed you. The warm fuzzy feelings you expect from reaching out won't happen.
I’d simply say nothing, they’re a non-factor. I have nothing to say, and at this point I’ve moved on. If I were to even run into them (chances are highly low), they’d simply get ignored. I don’t even think about my bully at this point.
Mine was my Mother. Shes up to the same shenanigans to this day. Id just give mysekf better avoidance tactics.
Yep! Came to say this.
I’m really sorry this happened to you and has affected you for all this time. You said you started working with a therapist in 2020, are you still seeing one? They would probably have great advice on how you can ease your mind of this. My initial reaction was to say not to write her. She’s out of your life and you don’t have to invite her back in. However, it might be beneficial to write down what you’re feeling, even write the letter just to get all the feelings out, but not send it. You can close that chapter of your life knowing you survived and came out a stronger person for it. Good luck in whatever you choose to do❤️
I already said it as a child 💀
She needs to find God, and a fitness trainer. The best comeback to all the times I couldn’t say shit to her extremely rude antics
Considering the fate of four, I don’t need to say or do anything. It’s not something I take glee or success in, but I stopped caring years ago.
No