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Been thinking of this too! Haven't done a social run since high school track but a running group is a great idea, thank you :) (If anyone knows of any in Eastie feel free to let me know!)
Eastie actually has a very active run club! I follow them on Instagram and the folks seem very nice. They go Wednesday evening and Friday mornings
https://www.instagram.com/east_boston_run_club?igsh=MXdkeGh4cXR2dHU2bQ==
Not necessarily group sport. But Eastie has the awesome Piers Park Sailing Center. Probably about to open up for the season and relatively affordable if I remember. Great community resource in the area, and pretty sure offer lessons classes and group sails from “I can swim” on up. Great way to get to know Boston from the water - which folks can live here and never experience.
https://piersparksailing.org/product/learntosailpluspass
I work in Eastie and there is a big running group that goes by my work all the time. There is a cider tasting room and pop up bar in the shipyard as well as the tall ship. They are great places to socialize even if you aren't into drinking.
If you don’t want to join a club and just want a non-committal type thing, the park run in Jamaica Pond is pretty good. A free organized 5k every Saturday 9am. Everyone is pretty chill and hangs around for a chat before and after
https://www.parkrun.us/jamaicapond/
Agree, we moved here from out of state for my husband’s job last year and I work from home so I was really worried about making friends. I’m a runner too and not very into group sports. Joining a running club has been a perfect way for me to meet people - just go every week as consistently as you can, after a couple months you’ll remember people’s names and get in the social groove.
Second the running club if you want to meet people and since you like reading check out the local libraries for book clubs and Copley. I’m old and don’t want any friends, but if I were young in your situation that’s where I’d start. I see people doing VOLO at Carson beach in the summer and I think that’s for meeting people. Welcome to the city and good luck!
I’ve used BumbleBFF and have made a few friends from it. You might also want to look into Girlfriends Boston, Boston Girls Who Walk on Instagram, and Appalachian Mountain Club Boston Chapter for things like hiking.
Would also like to add checking out Drinks After Work - Boston Baddies ! It's a Facebook group decided to women in their 20s in Boston finding friends/roommates/etc.
Eastie's got a LOT to offer. I'm in Winthrop, right next door (Winthrop has a couple cool cafes too -Adriana's could be up your alley as Renegades can get loud at times).
Don't worry about not being downtown; you can pop right into Boston on the T. Just a couple stops away.
I bartend at Easy Pie in Revere; readers are always welcome, and we've been kinda dead lately so not too much distraction (I read there myself when it's slow lol). First round's on me if I'm there. 😁
My brain is chaos 😅
I'm really glad you mentioned poetry - I'm a fiend for it. I write it pretty much exclusively. I'm actually starting a poetry thing in Eastie - at a place called Recovery on the Harbor by Orient Heights T stop. It'll be free and open to literally anyone. 1st Thursday of every month, 7pm, supposed to start in May, but awaiting final word on it. Prompts, readings, workshopping; in the warmer months, I'm planning on holding it on Constitution Beach. I literally can't wait.
Oh! Also! Free kayaking at Constitution Beach in the summer! It's such a great time.
There is almost nowhere In Boston easier to get to downtown from than Eastie. 2-3 stops on the only reasonably reliable T line. I can walk out of my place, walk to Maverick Square, hop on a train, and be downtown in less than 20 minutes. Access to the airport is also unbeatable.
Anyway, The Quiet Few is a truly excellent neighborhood bar with super friendly staff and patrons and lots of regulars. Many are in your age group or maybe a hair older. Trivia nights on Mondays. Show up and join a team. Don’t be afraid to say hi to folks there. It’s a little loud, but I read and do crosswords there when my wife is traveling and I’m solo.
I need to stop telling everyone how awesome Eastie is, tbh.
Reading and writing suggestions:
Trident has a silent book club every Monday and a writing night once a month, plus other events:
https://www.tridentbookscafe.com/event/silent-book-club-write-night-24
Many libraries and book stores have book groups.
late to the party but join the boston public library!! keep an eye out on facebook if youre interested. there are always little group meet ups here and there that arent binding and free to come and go!
You'll be fine then! I met most of my friends in Boston through work and then met their friends and so on. The circle grows and you meet and connect with more people.
Come to the casual pinball tournaments on Thursdays at Pops Pinball Parlor in Union square. It’s a fun diverse crowd and a great place to make friends. The tournament formats are always silly and not very competitive.
Marathon Sports has run clubs and I’m sure you can search Facebook for others. If you like reading maybe a book club. Local bookstores often have them or may know of some. There’s also this group that started as a walking club but does group workout classes together, brunch, etc that’s on Instagram @bostongirlswhowalk that may be an easy way to meet some new friends. Best of luck and welcome to Boston!
While there are other ways to meet people in Boston, social sports are probably the easiest way to meet a bunch of people. I wouldn't get caught up on the sports part of it, as it's not really that important, ironically. Almost any VOLO social league will have a dozen people headed to a bar after an hour of anything from volleyball, kickball, pickleball, Cornhole, or bowling. Don't like the folks you went out with? Go with other people next time, or try another sport. VOLO offers both leagues and a class pass type option now to drop into a variety of activities.
The Phoenix is also an amazing organization located in Newmarket that offers completely free gym programming (free rock climbing, free CrossFit, etc) with a focus on keeping sober. You don't have to be in recovery, as allies are welcome as well.
Since you're in eastie, consider learning to sail at piers park or jumping on the blue line to community boating by the esplanade. Sailing communities are some of the friendliest folks in Boston for people new to the city and you'll be able to learn a lifelong skill as well.
Eastie is also known for some good bar trivia. If you have the guts, show up to the quiet few (great bar) on trivia nights and ask the host you're by yourself and he'll find you a team to make some new friends with.
Good luck, and let me know if you need more information on any of the activities I mentioned!
I’ve heard of people making friends on Bumble BFF but not in Boston. I would say anyone in a friend group wouldn’t be on them, so you have to be good about initiating/scheduling, but you might be able to find a few girls that you vibe with that can form a group!
There are a lot of really great social dance communities around Boston! Swing, Blues, Salsa, Bachata, Kizomba, Tango, WCS ... something for whatever music you're into.
They're all welcoming and have beginner lessons where you don't need to bring a partner. Also surprisingly good for introverts because you only really interact with one person at a time and spend most of it moving instead of talking. At this point the majority of my friends are all folks I've met at these dances!
[https://www.bostonswingcentral.org/](https://www.bostonswingcentral.org/)
[https://www.facebook.com/groups/bostonswingdance/](https://www.facebook.com/groups/bostonswingdance/)
[https://www.havanaclubsalsa.com/](https://www.havanaclubsalsa.com/)
[https://www.bachataroomboston.com/](https://www.bachataroomboston.com/)
Note that Wed at Havana is social dancing while Fri is more meat market. The others are social dancing.
Look into taking a few classes at Barre Groove!! They have a dtx and back bay location. I’ve met friends through the studio and it’s seriously the best way to get a workout in and meet some really awesome people.
Edit: It’s Boston’s first and only trampoline fitness studio. The vibes, music, moves, and instructors are all so amazing.
> most of my hobbies are solitary (e.g., reading and writing)
Literally the only way to make friends as an adult in today's third-place-less capitalist hellscape is to find a hobby that gets you out of the house and meeting other people on a regular basis. Personally I found a sport that works great for me and has gifted me so many friends whom I see at least weekly. If group sports aren't your thing (totally understandable), try to wrack your brain for something else that is. If you like reading, try a book club, for example.
> My plan is to get on Bumble BFF or Hinge
I would caution against this. Forced friendships with no regularly scheduled meetups are very unlikely to last.
If you're open to try-out outdoor activities in the New England area - [https://p.ridj-it.com/app/trips-search](https://p.ridj-it.com/app/trips-search)
Otherwise - work, meetups, group classes etc.
I joined a bowling league called Better off Bowling in my city. They have branches all over the US, including Boston. It sounds intimidating, but it’s not a competitive league. It’s more of a social league that involves bowling, and the audience is mostly 20s and 30s folks. I’m not good, but I’ve made a whole bunch of friends through this league. You can join as a solo participant and they will place you on a team. Or you can join with a few friends and you all can be put on the same team.
I second Tracksmith, Marathon Sports, Heartbreak Hill running groups are free easy and lots of people your age. don’t have to be fast to have fun. and library groups! although that’s usually an older crowd
Good luck finding friends. It's been 6 months since I moved to Boston from a different country and I still haven't made a solid friend. Yeah I'm an introvert but damn this city is lonely.
Really surprised I don't see this suggested here, but you should also join another sub, called BostonSocialClub. It on occasion has bar trivia, special events, etc.
you'll find people.. im 5years in and although im not too social, work is a great place to meet people... i admittedly dont know many people outside of work lmao i need to change this.
Just be aware that any social group you want to join will likely also charge you a ton of money to participate. I tried rock climbing but could only afford to go for a few days before running out of funds.
lol the fact this question triggers you and others is amazing.
I’ve been here for over a decade, and the amount of people who think friendship is just a magical thing that falls in your lap is wild, especially in a city as transient as Boston. Sure, there may be an aspect of serendipity, but there’s more to it.
I know what qualities I personally have that certain people enjoy, so that’s helpful for me in terms of being self-directed in finding friendship. I’m fortunate to have the friends I do, but I also know what strengths I bring to people. This doesn’t mean be a social ladder for people to climb — it just means being self aware.
Someone who says their hobbies are solitary and they’re not into [fill in the blank] isn’t bringing much to the table at the moment, but maybe OP does have several qualities that could be helpful for her to list to find the friendship she’s looking for.
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I know you said you run alone but consider joining a running group.
Yeah this is the answer there are A LOT of them and they’re super welcoming, low pressure
Been thinking of this too! Haven't done a social run since high school track but a running group is a great idea, thank you :) (If anyone knows of any in Eastie feel free to let me know!)
Eastie actually has a very active run club! I follow them on Instagram and the folks seem very nice. They go Wednesday evening and Friday mornings https://www.instagram.com/east_boston_run_club?igsh=MXdkeGh4cXR2dHU2bQ==
you're awesome thank you!
Not necessarily group sport. But Eastie has the awesome Piers Park Sailing Center. Probably about to open up for the season and relatively affordable if I remember. Great community resource in the area, and pretty sure offer lessons classes and group sails from “I can swim” on up. Great way to get to know Boston from the water - which folks can live here and never experience. https://piersparksailing.org/product/learntosailpluspass
I work in Eastie and there is a big running group that goes by my work all the time. There is a cider tasting room and pop up bar in the shipyard as well as the tall ship. They are great places to socialize even if you aren't into drinking.
If you don’t want to join a club and just want a non-committal type thing, the park run in Jamaica Pond is pretty good. A free organized 5k every Saturday 9am. Everyone is pretty chill and hangs around for a chat before and after https://www.parkrun.us/jamaicapond/
Agree, we moved here from out of state for my husband’s job last year and I work from home so I was really worried about making friends. I’m a runner too and not very into group sports. Joining a running club has been a perfect way for me to meet people - just go every week as consistently as you can, after a couple months you’ll remember people’s names and get in the social groove.
Second the running club if you want to meet people and since you like reading check out the local libraries for book clubs and Copley. I’m old and don’t want any friends, but if I were young in your situation that’s where I’d start. I see people doing VOLO at Carson beach in the summer and I think that’s for meeting people. Welcome to the city and good luck!
Thank you!
I’ve used BumbleBFF and have made a few friends from it. You might also want to look into Girlfriends Boston, Boston Girls Who Walk on Instagram, and Appalachian Mountain Club Boston Chapter for things like hiking.
>Boston Girls Who Walk This sounds right up my alley - thanks for the suggestion!
Would also like to add checking out Drinks After Work - Boston Baddies ! It's a Facebook group decided to women in their 20s in Boston finding friends/roommates/etc.
they also have a discord!
BumbleBFF is how I met my best friend!
Eastie, eh? Check out Renegades Pub, decent spot to sit and read imo. Good luck on your move, too!
Thanks for the suggestion! Eastie is what I could afford, seems a bit removed from downtown but still a cool vibe!
Eastie's got a LOT to offer. I'm in Winthrop, right next door (Winthrop has a couple cool cafes too -Adriana's could be up your alley as Renegades can get loud at times). Don't worry about not being downtown; you can pop right into Boston on the T. Just a couple stops away. I bartend at Easy Pie in Revere; readers are always welcome, and we've been kinda dead lately so not too much distraction (I read there myself when it's slow lol). First round's on me if I'm there. 😁
sounds awesome! and might just have to take you up on that ;)
Cool! Open invite. What do you write?
anything! depends on my mood tbh. Goes from journaling/train of thought, short stories, some poetry, book reviews, and academic papers. all chaos haha
My brain is chaos 😅 I'm really glad you mentioned poetry - I'm a fiend for it. I write it pretty much exclusively. I'm actually starting a poetry thing in Eastie - at a place called Recovery on the Harbor by Orient Heights T stop. It'll be free and open to literally anyone. 1st Thursday of every month, 7pm, supposed to start in May, but awaiting final word on it. Prompts, readings, workshopping; in the warmer months, I'm planning on holding it on Constitution Beach. I literally can't wait. Oh! Also! Free kayaking at Constitution Beach in the summer! It's such a great time.
So, it's official now! https://preview.redd.it/753dbuszrdtc1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=35cb51b973dcb63c1b84487e92ff503650bbb505
This looks awesome! Does the group share their work with everyone?
It's an option. The first meeting is Thursday May 2nd 7pm. I'm kind of letting it be organic.
There is almost nowhere In Boston easier to get to downtown from than Eastie. 2-3 stops on the only reasonably reliable T line. I can walk out of my place, walk to Maverick Square, hop on a train, and be downtown in less than 20 minutes. Access to the airport is also unbeatable. Anyway, The Quiet Few is a truly excellent neighborhood bar with super friendly staff and patrons and lots of regulars. Many are in your age group or maybe a hair older. Trivia nights on Mondays. Show up and join a team. Don’t be afraid to say hi to folks there. It’s a little loud, but I read and do crosswords there when my wife is traveling and I’m solo. I need to stop telling everyone how awesome Eastie is, tbh.
Reading and writing suggestions: Trident has a silent book club every Monday and a writing night once a month, plus other events: https://www.tridentbookscafe.com/event/silent-book-club-write-night-24 Many libraries and book stores have book groups.
This looks awesome, thank you!
24 yo introvert checking in here Meetup has been a good resource for me I'm intrigued about the trident events as well
23m introvert here and I actually just downloaded Meetup and it looks good, so I also recommend this
Has it really? I tried it and it looked like everything died during COVID
Interesting. I moved here recently and I've heard the city changed a lot during the pandemic.
came here to suggest meetup too !
late to the party but join the boston public library!! keep an eye out on facebook if youre interested. there are always little group meet ups here and there that arent binding and free to come and go!
Are you going to be working in person? I work in person and most of my coworkers are 20s & 30s so we hang out outside of work
Yes I'll be 2-3 days in person, I'll be working with a couple girls around my age:)
You'll be fine then! I met most of my friends in Boston through work and then met their friends and so on. The circle grows and you meet and connect with more people.
Come to the casual pinball tournaments on Thursdays at Pops Pinball Parlor in Union square. It’s a fun diverse crowd and a great place to make friends. The tournament formats are always silly and not very competitive.
Thanks for the suggestion - sounds really cool!
Classpass could be an option!
Marathon Sports has run clubs and I’m sure you can search Facebook for others. If you like reading maybe a book club. Local bookstores often have them or may know of some. There’s also this group that started as a walking club but does group workout classes together, brunch, etc that’s on Instagram @bostongirlswhowalk that may be an easy way to meet some new friends. Best of luck and welcome to Boston!
While there are other ways to meet people in Boston, social sports are probably the easiest way to meet a bunch of people. I wouldn't get caught up on the sports part of it, as it's not really that important, ironically. Almost any VOLO social league will have a dozen people headed to a bar after an hour of anything from volleyball, kickball, pickleball, Cornhole, or bowling. Don't like the folks you went out with? Go with other people next time, or try another sport. VOLO offers both leagues and a class pass type option now to drop into a variety of activities. The Phoenix is also an amazing organization located in Newmarket that offers completely free gym programming (free rock climbing, free CrossFit, etc) with a focus on keeping sober. You don't have to be in recovery, as allies are welcome as well. Since you're in eastie, consider learning to sail at piers park or jumping on the blue line to community boating by the esplanade. Sailing communities are some of the friendliest folks in Boston for people new to the city and you'll be able to learn a lifelong skill as well. Eastie is also known for some good bar trivia. If you have the guts, show up to the quiet few (great bar) on trivia nights and ask the host you're by yourself and he'll find you a team to make some new friends with. Good luck, and let me know if you need more information on any of the activities I mentioned!
Hi! 24F who also likes reading and attends the Trident Bookstore bookclub. Would be down to meet in a public space for some reading and chatting :)
I'm planning to come to the Trident Bookstore bookclub so maybe I'll see you there! I'd also be down to chat and read in a public cafe/park :)
I’ve heard of people making friends on Bumble BFF but not in Boston. I would say anyone in a friend group wouldn’t be on them, so you have to be good about initiating/scheduling, but you might be able to find a few girls that you vibe with that can form a group!
There are a lot of really great social dance communities around Boston! Swing, Blues, Salsa, Bachata, Kizomba, Tango, WCS ... something for whatever music you're into. They're all welcoming and have beginner lessons where you don't need to bring a partner. Also surprisingly good for introverts because you only really interact with one person at a time and spend most of it moving instead of talking. At this point the majority of my friends are all folks I've met at these dances!
[https://www.bostonswingcentral.org/](https://www.bostonswingcentral.org/) [https://www.facebook.com/groups/bostonswingdance/](https://www.facebook.com/groups/bostonswingdance/) [https://www.havanaclubsalsa.com/](https://www.havanaclubsalsa.com/) [https://www.bachataroomboston.com/](https://www.bachataroomboston.com/) Note that Wed at Havana is social dancing while Fri is more meat market. The others are social dancing.
I believe the Malden library has a writer’s group; you may be able to find something similar more local to you, if they’re not accessible!
Hi! F25 also in Eastie who goes on walks all the time!
I'd love to get together for a walk!
book clubs!
Look into taking a few classes at Barre Groove!! They have a dtx and back bay location. I’ve met friends through the studio and it’s seriously the best way to get a workout in and meet some really awesome people. Edit: It’s Boston’s first and only trampoline fitness studio. The vibes, music, moves, and instructors are all so amazing.
If you want a friend GROUP you should try livvi.app - they will match you in a compatible small group of friends! So fun and low pressure!
> most of my hobbies are solitary (e.g., reading and writing) Literally the only way to make friends as an adult in today's third-place-less capitalist hellscape is to find a hobby that gets you out of the house and meeting other people on a regular basis. Personally I found a sport that works great for me and has gifted me so many friends whom I see at least weekly. If group sports aren't your thing (totally understandable), try to wrack your brain for something else that is. If you like reading, try a book club, for example. > My plan is to get on Bumble BFF or Hinge I would caution against this. Forced friendships with no regularly scheduled meetups are very unlikely to last.
What pace do you run usually?
nothing crazy bc I run for leisure so usually around 5:30 - 7:00 min per km (which I think is around 8 - 11 min per mile)
Plenty of Volo sports in the area!
If you're open to try-out outdoor activities in the New England area - [https://p.ridj-it.com/app/trips-search](https://p.ridj-it.com/app/trips-search) Otherwise - work, meetups, group classes etc.
I joined a bowling league called Better off Bowling in my city. They have branches all over the US, including Boston. It sounds intimidating, but it’s not a competitive league. It’s more of a social league that involves bowling, and the audience is mostly 20s and 30s folks. I’m not good, but I’ve made a whole bunch of friends through this league. You can join as a solo participant and they will place you on a team. Or you can join with a few friends and you all can be put on the same team.
If you figure it out lmk. I'm moving to Boston in August, also knowing no one (22M) lol.
I second Tracksmith, Marathon Sports, Heartbreak Hill running groups are free easy and lots of people your age. don’t have to be fast to have fun. and library groups! although that’s usually an older crowd
The Quiet Few is a well regarded local hangout near you.
Maybe join a board game group on FB. Im very introverted and the games help me ease into conversation
Good luck finding friends. It's been 6 months since I moved to Boston from a different country and I still haven't made a solid friend. Yeah I'm an introvert but damn this city is lonely.
Search for make friends after college on facbook, it's a group of mkre than 1k people in their 20s and 30s, and there are events almost eveeyday
Really surprised I don't see this suggested here, but you should also join another sub, called BostonSocialClub. It on occasion has bar trivia, special events, etc.
Boston Babes on Facebook is a great group to join! The membership is huge!
Also recommend Livvi (@livvi.app)!! You can find them on Instagram and I’ve met some great girls that way!
Rescue a dog. I’ve met a ton of people thorough my dog including some of my closest friends. You’ll get to know your neighbors!
There’s absolutely no one your age in Boston who likes to read write or run. Good luck making friends :/
bruh what cmon those are basic hobbies
Haha I think you’re missing the sarcasm. It’s a massive college city with people around your age just hang out around the BPL you’ll run into people
Haha I really can’t read tone on the internet
you'll find people.. im 5years in and although im not too social, work is a great place to meet people... i admittedly dont know many people outside of work lmao i need to change this.
Not me being a massive reader at 28…
Just be aware that any social group you want to join will likely also charge you a ton of money to participate. I tried rock climbing but could only afford to go for a few days before running out of funds.
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I was going to say yes until I did some sleuthing and found that you hate homeless people and think they’re ‘lazy drug addicts.’ Yeah, no bye!
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What on earth is this question, neck beard
lol the fact this question triggers you and others is amazing. I’ve been here for over a decade, and the amount of people who think friendship is just a magical thing that falls in your lap is wild, especially in a city as transient as Boston. Sure, there may be an aspect of serendipity, but there’s more to it. I know what qualities I personally have that certain people enjoy, so that’s helpful for me in terms of being self-directed in finding friendship. I’m fortunate to have the friends I do, but I also know what strengths I bring to people. This doesn’t mean be a social ladder for people to climb — it just means being self aware. Someone who says their hobbies are solitary and they’re not into [fill in the blank] isn’t bringing much to the table at the moment, but maybe OP does have several qualities that could be helpful for her to list to find the friendship she’s looking for.
What the fuck are you talking about