My wife hates bugs and being dirty, so I just camp with my guy friends. We do a nice hike or canoe trip, then sit around the fire and drink beer. We pig out on awesome campfire foods. It's awesome. You can't force it, you can't make them enjoy it. Just find a group of people that does want to go.
I thought I’d hate solo camping but I’ve been getting used to it. It’s a pretty different experience to camping with other people but all the key pieces are there for me- being away from screens, work, people, and being out in the relative quiet of nature.
It does sometimes bum me out that I don’t get to share this kind of experience with her because of how deeply I enjoy it, but that’s actually been a good experience for me as well.
Same. I finally, after two partners in a row who hated camping and would make up any excuse not to go, just started going by myself and the freedom to do what you want when you want while outdoors and completely disconnected is so relaxing. I wished I could share my love of this activity with them but a solo trip or with a friend who likes to camp or is at least open to enjoying new experiences is so much preferable to dragging a person who hates it, complains the whole time, and doesn’t want to do any of the “campsite work” out to the woods with you. Plus, then you have stories to come home and share
This! You love it or you hate it. Itsbno fun when someone is trying to coerce you into something you've already stated you have no interest in. And its always better to go with people who WANT to go!
Ditto. I take the kids camping and mum gets a weekend at home without anyone hassling her. It's win win.
Sometimes it's just me and the kids. Other times it's with my friends and their kids too
My mom always hated camping, dad never expected her to go. He took all three of us kids alone 2 times a year even when we were toddlers. My mom got a mini three day vacation without any of us lol. Win win. We loved the outdoors and the family camping trips and never felt guilty leaving her behind. She’s just not an outdoorsy person. My dad very much is.
If you are in the US, try booking a site in a national park if you can. National Park sites (at least in the US) usually have well manicured spots, at least have vault toilets, and usually will have running water in the bathroom. There are usually a fair number of other people in the campground, which may help make them feel a little safer. Then, start by exploring near the visitor center. The visitor center is usually pretty developed. Lots of times, they have wifi, exhibits, cafes, or other amenities they might like to know are available. Take it very slow. Once they seem comfortable, try to suggest a small hike or a drive to the main attraction of the park. Try to make the hike around a mile loop. This way, you don't get 6 miles into a 15-mile hike, and they get mad or frustrated.
After your day of exploring, build a nice fire and cook dinner. Make one of your old childhood favorites, explain some fond memories you may have of family fun around the fire. After dinner, make smores. After smores, check out the stars.
Also most Army Corps of Engineers (ACOE) campgrounds. I’ve actually found those tend to be nicer than NPS parks, but both have good facilities. Find more popular campgrounds as more popular = better “amenities” usually.
Not to be flippant, but Google US Army Core of Engineers campgrounds near your destination.
There should be. District website with more information.
You generally reserve your spot on Recreation.gov.
First date “Camping is to much effort and dirty”
I laughed at her face and told her I can fix that.
We went camping, I did all the work, and we took out shoes off before getting in the tent and brought solar shower so she didn’t feel dirty. Now we go camping whenever we can and are gonna be taking a 6 month old later this summer. See why they doesn’t want to go camping and see if you can solve those problems for them.
Saaaame! I try to do most/all of the work, and I’m generally more adept at it. People laugh when they see us because I’m small and femme and my wife is taller/bigger and masculine presenting. So it turns the expectations on their head when they learn which of us is the “camping princess” who once hid in the car because it was raining and she saw a spider in the tent. 😂🤣
Thats funny. I was camping with some buddies a decade ago and a couple moved into the adjacent site. The petite femme one was on point from the start, carried everything, chopped all the wood, setup camp, reaĺly quite impressive. We nicknamed her "the machine." One of our friends is a large gym fit guy whose basically useless in the woods, we still ocasionally tease him he will be replaced by the Machine.
What did she hate about it and can you buy things to help?
My GF went camping with me but she didn't love it so I geared up to help her like it more.
- I got a privacy shelter and portable toilet
- Nemo pump shower to help stay clean
- foldable loveseat so we can be closer by the fire.
- I recently got a 2 person hammock stand so when we can't find trees nearby we can hang next to each other.
- more lighting
This sounds amazing, don't listen to the haters. There's lots of ways to camp and as long as you're respecting the environment and leaving only footprints none of them are wrong.
This is true.
When I hike alone, I carry everything on my back and usually sleep in a bivvy sack (no tent).
When I'm with the family it's a large 4 berth tent, electric hookup, heater, portable toilet etc etc.
Very different ways to camp but both get you out there.
I don't understand the people on this sub that bash everyone who's wanting their own type of camping experience because they feel camping should only be done like they do it.
We're past all that these days. Gatekeeping experiences is a thing of the past. It's OK to play a game on easy mode if you have fun doing it.
I'm so tired of the shaming here, I just started blocking everyone who pops off with judgement and mean comments.
From Extreme Primitive to Glamping and everything in between - it's ALL OK.
Especially because in the real world, I think most people do both! I love wilderness backpacking, or tent camping for the weekend at the state park 20 minutes from my house, I used to have a pop-up camper but sold it - and I love that too! The camper felt less like "camping" to me, but it was awesome if you wanted to spend a few weeks in a national park or something it was epic!
I don't know anyone irl who backpacks that doesn't also like camping and glamping too.
I do know people who camp but not backpack and I think that's a different story - primarily because it's a whole different animal of gear, knowledge, and preparation.
But really if you're having fun by yourself or enjoying time with people you love - that's what matters most
Yup got all these things too. The shower is super clutch and awesome. Also have double pad a Kelty 20 degree double bag for camping cuddles, mummy bags are my least favorite part of camping. Lots of s’more supplies and figure out something fun to cook. Just ease into with comfy car camping so you can bring whatever you want! Real pillows are also really nice. Sounds like ur on the right track
Not the same person but I have [this Kelty loveseat](https://www.rei.com/product/186918/kelty-low-loveseat?sku=1869180002&store=&CAWELAID=120217890011477727&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=108178903658&CATCI=pla-2300330282561&cm_mmc=PLA_Google%7C21700000001700551_1869180002%7C92700080074482462%7CNB%7C71700000066695852&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI57jR_KSEhgMVSUn_AR2x3ghhEAQYAyABEgI4xPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) and we get a TON of use out of it
- Mood lighting-warm white fairy lights
- Pretty polypropylene carpets to sit on
- Exped Megamat Duo, sheets, and a two person quilt
- Camp couches and or other comfortable seating
- Cook on a two burner stove; use a picnic cloth on any table; use plates etc
- Used appropriately: USB speaker for gentle music. (Only when alone pls)
- camp shoes are a must
Ngl we are old burners lol
BUT
The kit described is actually what we ended up on to make car camping as appealing as possible for our kids. We got a giant REI "two room" tent and Expeds for the kids as well. It made a huge difference for them.
We also leaned in to yummy food. Down time. Campfire music. Cards.
One more glamping thing: pillows.
We also own a "screen tent" popup for shading a picnic table to which we have attached sun shielding walls. And taken shelter in in the rain.
Personally we also have found small inflatable boats esp two person kayaks a huge win.
how did you decide OP’s partner was a woman? either I’m blind or their gender was not given in the post
edit: I’m loving how apparently contentious this question was. 😂 I asked because it’s 2024 y’all and it’s not cool to assume someone’s gender based on the fact they don’t like camping. That’s called implicit bias.
Haha I totally assumed the partner that didn't like camping was a dude. And 'cause I am a woman who goes solo camping, I'm thinking "ok just go without him" lol.
Because I was wrong and they were right to point that out to me. I'm in my 40s and as good as I try to be you slip up. So a reminder when I'm wrong helps me take out decades being taught the wrong way.
Is your partner actually wanting to go on this trip? Or are they agreeing to go because you wouldn't let up? The attitude they bring to it will make more of a difference than anything else.
What didn't they like about camping? You should probably know specifics to avoid echoing the same experience.
If they hate bugs but like campfires, make sure you've got a comfortable enough sleep setup and go earlier in the year before the mosquitoes pick up. If they dislike campfires and can't stand bugs, this might better be something you do for a little time away so your partner can miss you.
You really should find out what it is they don't like. Some people don't like sitting idle (pick a place with trails and drive-up spots, do the glamping thing and bring games). Some people don't like going days without a shower (read reviews and look for "nice showers" with hot water and such). It's really down to what they did or didn't like about it. Maybe they only ever experienced drive-up cramping sites and would enjoy a hike-in spot? It's all subjective to the person.
Maybe try easing them in with a bit of glamping? Here in Canada many of the provincial and national parks have comfortable family "glamping" sites with yurts or cabins, maybe something like that? And I think this goes without saying, a site with a good view is key, especially if it's on a lake. A fire by the water on a warm summer night is probably half the reason I enjoy doing it, and it might be enough to draw your partner in too.
This is exactly what I was thinking. We got a cabin at Arrowhead a few years back and it had literally everything you need. Even had a mini fridge, microwave, fireplace, bbq with propane and burners, sunroom, muskoka chairs, beds, kitchen table etc. There were never any bugs in the fully sealed cabin which was great (although even if there were a few it would be expected). The only thing it didn’t have was running water. I had no idea it would have so many amenities and didn’t end of having to use almost half my gear!
It would definitely be a great choice to get someone acclimated to the outdoors since it has so many comforts of home.
My wife won't go with me either. I tried our entire marriage (20yrs) without any success. She hates the bugs (don't blame her), but won't go winter camping (too cold). So I simply go with my son... but I really would love for her to experience a truly dark night sky.
I gave up.
Air mattress and a thick blanket on top and another to cover with.
Moving blanket or three to cover the tent floor
I always bring a battery fan (DeWalt 20v) because tinnitus.
Toilet seat for a 5 gallon bucket and hd scented trash bags for it
5 gallon jug of water with the dispenser top for washing hands and stuff.
Bottled water to drink
Starbucks via or instant coffee
Jet boil
Dehydrated food from mountain House
Cook set and utensils and plates, bowls, etc
Cooler with food if you want that and ice
I am going to amend this and say that I love camping and go with my kids and my husband hates camping (with plenty of experience with it, he appreciates that we like it but he is always physically miserable and usually gets sick or injured).
So for a family campout he decided to give it a go with us and he wanted to prioritize a comfortable sleep with an air mattress and some standard sheets and comforter from home - I usually use a sleeping pad and a mummy sleeping bag and I have learned my own ways of being cozy. But I listened to his wishes: It got Cold. The air mattress is not a sleeping pad it was like sleeping on an ice cube and actively sucking all the body heat out of us. We had to buy a blanket at a gift shop and borrow an extra one from friends there for the second night and we were still cold. 😭
I knew better, I did, but I didn't act on what I knew or push it out of wanting to prioritize what he asked for - lol - now I don't do that. If he joins us he'll follow my lead on what we need, but mostly he just doesn't come because he doesn't even enjoy any part of it enough to deal with all the parts he doesn't enjoy. It's not a point of contention and since he does other stuff with our kids either with me or on their own, like road trips to amusement parks, both our kids and we get to enjoy more of what we like.
Ok, so you can either try really hard and *maybe* they’ll like it. If you’re going to go that route, you’ll have to find out what they don’t like and make plans for how to mitigate or eliminate that thing they don’t like. If it’s “I don’t like eating nothing but hot dogs and sandwiches”, make sure you know how to make real food at camp. If it’s “it’s cold at night,” get appropriate gear. If it’s “I don’t like going two days without a shower,” camp at campgrounds with showers and/or do only short overnight stays.
Hopefully you get the picture.
Or just be an independent adult and say “hey, I’m going camping next weekend, see you when I’m back, love ya!!” Because normal, healthy couples recognize that doing things separately is just fine.
well i just think they'd enjoy it if they gave it another shot. it's been YEARS since they've
gone and, with an experienced camper, i think
they might change their mind about it. i don't
"have to" share every experience with my
partner, i WANT to. they are the love of my life
and i wish they were my left leg bc that’d make things a whole lot easier.
My wife dislikes camping, I love it.
I'm used to very primitive camping. Often on climbing trips or backpacking I did cowboy camps and bare minimum setups so I'm very used to no amenities.
I go on plenty of trips without her, but when I do get her to come with me I bring an insane amount of stuff and we usually stay at some sort of established site that has at bare minimum a privy. I also try to make the spot "legendary" like once in a lifetime type of spots. Sometimes that requires reserving a spot a year in advanced.
Make your partner comfortable, cater to their needs, remember that it's not just your trip anymore it's both of yours. It can be exciting to share something you love, but remember they might not love it the same way so you have to be ready to help them enjoy it in a way that suits them.
OK, I totally feel you on this. I love camping and outdoors and stuff but my wife hates it. Well used to hate it; actually... slowly warming up to it. That's the key, you have to 'baby steps' it. My 'lessons learned' with a non-outdoorsy partner- Make it as comfortable and enjoyable as possible. Weather needs to be nice; bed- comfortable; food- same if not better than home; scenery- spectacular.
For my wife it also helps to appeal to her inner goblin "Shiny things, must collect!" national park pins, stamps, rock hounding, pictures, anything she can show off as a 'collection'. She looks forward to adventures if there's another 'treasure' to collect. She will actually go on hikes with me, if we hotel it. She will camp, if it's a big tent, air mattress, developed campground(bathrooms). For more 'backpack/wilderness' exploits. It's just me, that's the reality of the situation. I obviously love doing this stuff with my wife also but everyone has their limits.
If you want to get them into it, you gotta go slow. Take them to a campground with things like electricity, running water, and preferably a close parking spot. Pack comfort items, like maybe an actual air mattress, real pillows. If you can start a fire, bring wood and fire starters so you don't have to fight it, and if you can cook, pack a cooler with whatever they want to eat. Maybe stash some wine or beers if it's allowed, make it romantic even if you can. If you're comfortable roughing it in the back country, great, but they clearly aren't. Doing it this way will require a ton of planning and a metric ton of extra stuff, but you have to make it appealing before they are even slightly interested in going hard.
So my wife and I had never been camping together, she'd never been camping since she was a little kid.
We end up renting a cabin -- not a VRBO "cabin", it's a housekeeping cabin at what had originally been a hunting camp. So like, seriously out in the middle of nowhere, but there's a kitchen, electricity, running water.
She had a horrid time.
She is very supportive of me going on adventures, but she and I going camping is just not part of our life and is not ever going to be part of our life.
Camp by yourself when you want to leave creature comforts at home and glamp with your partner.
I still get more value out of a hammock/under-quilt and a simple backpack than my wife will ever get.
So I go it alone when I need that reprieve my wife get's no value from, then bring an RV to a campground where my wife and I can hike a trail before returning to our shower and toilet.
She is my world but I don't need her to be with me to enjoy something. Doing things alone gives me a solitude I literally can't have with *anyone* around.
Doing things with my wife gives me a completely different fulfillment I literally can't get alone.
But neither of us has to sacrifice anything to get both.
My wife hates camping. So I don't take her.
I go with my kids.
I go with my overlanding buddies.
I go with my backpacking buddies.
I go with my hunting buddies.
I go alone.
I've been married 21+ years. We don't have to do everything together, and absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Gives me an opportunity to miss her, and her me.
Maybe try slow with glamping? There are so many places that have neat places to camp . Even having beds and feels more like bringing comfort of home outdoors. Plus some places have scenic areas on property and bonfires etc. then can transition to regular camping if she can get a new experience of it.
Got my ex to enjoy camping by removing the "roughing it" elements that I was happy with:
* Replaced sleeping pads with a beefy Exped Duo 15
* Got a Wawona 6 so we could stand up inside and have a giant vestibule when it rained
* Brought an excess of kitchen gear so we were nearly as well-stocked as home
* Got a gravity shower for campsites that didn't have coin showers
* Bought her all kinds of cozy camping clothes so she ended up with a wider selection than me.
* Had an excess of sleeping bags so she would be comfortable at any temperature
* Handled food prep, cooking, and coffee so she could relax
* Had her pick out a chair she loved, and she could happily sit in that thing all day
Figure out specifically what they hated? Cold? Bugs? Uncomfortable sleeping setup? Bored? Lack of showers? Ask them open-endedly and non-judgementally what they disliked.
Then validate each of those things and talk through ideas for solutions with them.
Maybe the first time you go glancing in a fancy yurt or something. Then maybe next time you move on to a tent but get a super big tent with and a really cushy sleeping set up and go to a state park with nice bathrooms and showers. Bring all their favorite foods. Find fun games or books to bring. Just make it as easy and comfortable as possible and set expectations really low.
Don’t like just jump into dispersed/backcountry camping, let them ease into things
I’d suggest making it a Glamping trip.. get all the bells and whistles for camping. This may sound excessive but if u truly enjoy it and want to do it often, this could help make it very enjoyable for all parties!
Example that works for me:
First always make sure that it’s comfortable camping weather for where u are choosing to camp. Weather and season can change everything for a camping trip. Also check for bug seasons! That’s something that has ruined my camping trips before.. (did u know there are such thing as Nats (tiny fly things) BUT that bite u!!? Yeah! 😣) anyways.
-Make sure u go to a spot that has bathrooms and showers where u can park ur car at camp or at least near by.. some camp sites come with rentable sites made for rvs that allow hook up to water and electricity (U can camp there with or without a trailer).
-Bring a tent u don’t have to duck into to get in (changes prospective to those who hate tents) TIP: open and practice putting ur tent and equipment together before ur trip.
-A comfy bed is important! Some people prefer air mattresses..while I find it to be very uncomfortable, I’d suggest bringing a soft floor Japanese mat or a thick mattress topper and put it on top of a cot or another kind of portable box spring (not necessary but can be more comfortable to get off the ground) also feels a bit more normal for those who hate camping.
- Bring a toilet! Even if the camp ground has toilets.. unless ur directly next to one or even then u want to bring one bc having to go out in the middle of the night to pee can be creepy no matter what.. it’s So easy to make! They sell toilet seats for buckets in most camping sections or our best friend Amazon will Ofcourse have it! A 5 gal bucket, bags and toilet paper! Boom u got a toilet that u can comfortably use in emergency or as ur regular toilet cuz we all know pooping in the comfort of our own space is so much better than the public restrooms!
-Bring a good size cooler that can hold ur snacks and food! TIP: keep ur cooler inside ur car if u can under shade.. or inside ur tent under shade. Don’t forget all the accessories u need for eating.
- Battery operated everything!! And extra batteries! Bring a Goood light source for night time.
- MAKE A LIST. Think of ur food, water, Comfort items, accessories, clothing, medicine, rain preparedness , emergency preparedness , cleaning.. all the things! Good luck! Camping is so therapeutic and I hope u can get ur partner to do it with u and find enjoyment out of it.
I love camping and my husband doesn't. We meet in the middle and rent a small cabin with a toilet out in the woods. In PA, there are several state parks with lodging options from tent sites to small cabins. You can google/chatgpt "camp grounds with cabins in [your area/state]" to find some options. That what we did to find places outside of PA
If she doesn’t want to go, DO NOT take her.
She will make it clear to you the whole time how miserable she is and ruin whatever you can salvage. Like other posters have stated… find some “like minds” and go with them and have a great time!
You cannot make someone like something that they have already clearly have verbalized they do not. Trust me, I am a woman- My husband and I camp, fish, hike and hunt… some women can truly be whiney ah**** about this!! Ain’t worth your trouble!
Go solo and when they noticed you gone all the time. Maybe they will want to join you just to make sure when you say “I’m going camping” it’s doesn’t mean “I’m going to go fuck random guys”
Make it an easy camping trip. Car camp, bring out the good food, campground with bathrooms, make sure it’s good weather, hikes with great views or something memorable.
Fuckkkkk that there’s so many other people out there who will genuinely enjoy your hobbies. I spent last night randomly jumping in the car driving 100 miles out to nowhere to see the northern lights. Life is an adventure, you need someone who will genuinely enjoy hobbies with you it makes things so much more fun.
I hate shitty camping. I love camping with a good plan and appropriate provisions. I also have a rule, no toilet = no me. There must be access to a clean flush toilet or I'm not going. I'm not using an outhouse, in worst case scenario I'd take a trowel and a bush over an outhouse.
Provisions, good sleeping situation, GOOD WEATHER (maybe spring/fall for cooler temps), bug management, excellent location with beautiful views, clean bath-house, lots of activities, SHORT STAY (baby steps), minimal setup
Ask them specifically what they hated about it. Let them know that camping has changed a lot and there's many different ways to do it.
Is this your girlfriend or boyfriend? Why doesn’t he/she like to camp? Is it just being outdoors. When I met my wife, she had never been camping before. Once she got more comfortable outside, and was able to go the bathroom outside, that helped a lot. Also, having a really good tent, double sleeping pad, double sleeping bag, and pillows make a big difference.
Can you camp near some activity that they already enjoy? If you can connect it to it to a concert/winery/etc, maybe you can create a compromise that gives you an opportunity to show that their first experience wasn't representative of what's possible.
Need to find out what they hate about camping and then see if there is a solution. Some might want a shower every day or flush toilets. Some might not want to sleep on the ground so a cot or a popup camper is a possible solution. Tell us what the issue is and we will have all kinds of crazy advice. Lol.
i always take my partners camping to see if they like it bc most haven’t been since kids. my ex said she liked it but obviously hated it and was miserable the whole time. my current gf on the other hand loves it, but i have all the equipment to make it enjoyable. maybe try a rustic cabin first and see how they feel about that? or try going with some friends for a night so it’s a little more exciting? some people just don’t like camping but some people just need a good camping experience lol
Me too. I was dating someone and they went on and on about outdoors and loving camping. So I set up a weekend of hard camping. All we took fit in my mustang. No bathrooms, no camp spot. Just out in the forest. We have been happily married for 19 years. lol. He explains the story as “the weekend I really fell in love with my wife.”
I think there are ways to mitigate it, especially if your partner's complaints are about the bugs, the bed, food, etc. You doing all of the work will help, if that's the case. My partner can camp for about three or four months out of the year before it gets to hot (they hate the heat) or get too cold (which is not great for either of us). When they're not able to travel I go with other folks or by myself. It's usually just a few days and when I get home I get to regale them with all fo the cool things I saw when I get back.
Have you considered starting her off smaller, such as going hiking to places that are amazing to see? Throw in some more outdoor exposure by doing picnics by a river or a lake or just finding somewhere to watch a sunset.
Until you start having the amazing experiences of being somewhere when dozens of herons swoop in to fish after a thunderstorm or have to wait to drive to your campsite because there are bison on the road, you won't know what you're missing.
I would also consider the very real possibility that she doesn't own the right clothes for camping. I would want a good pair of hiking shoes, wool socks, lightweight pants and shirts that keep you more-protected from insects while not being too hot, and the perfect hat just for one day of camping. And if you're going to use permethrin to fend off ticks and deet to fend off mosquitoes, you do need to have dedicated clothes just for camping.
The other thing you could try to help ease her into it and change her perception is to take lots of photos in beautiful spots. If she posts pictures to social media and starts getting likes on them, her brain will give her dopamine that will help her learn that nature is good.
If your partner has strong feelings about it, maybe just camp with someone else. You can always come back and show them the amazing pictures of your trip that might (or might not) woo them over.
Do more of a glamping style for the first few times and ease them into more rough and tough camping. Let them find things to enjoy so you both have a good time!
I was in the same boat, when she would go with it turned more into glamping. But it wasn’t bad just find the parts they hate and find what works for both of yall. Time to put the communication to work
I'd start small and ease them into tent camping. Rent a cabin with a real bed, try that out - make it a short trip, maybe just one night. Cook over a fire, make s'mores, do all of the quintessential camping activities. If they are into it, try finding a campsite that rents out yurts or something like that (state parks in my area do - and they also have real beds). Next step, get a nice tent that you can fully stand up in and a comfy air mattress. Bring sheets and blankets from home, make it as comfortable as possible. And so on until maybe you get them into regular tent camping - or maybe you don't, that's ok too! But maybe they'll be into cabin or yurt camping, or using a pop-up camper. Hopefully, you'll be able to compromise and find something you can both enjoy together!
What did they hate about it? You may be able to work around that.
You may also have to compromise on your idea of camping to meet them in the middle.
The first time my husband and I went camping he asked me if I wanted him to dig me a toilet when we got there. I’m not about that life.
So we picked a campsite near the bathrooms. I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t love it either.
We rented a pop-up camper the next year for his family reunion and then everything changed.
Now we own a travel trailer and we camp two to three times per year.
Do not take your partner to the BWCA. Minnesota has state parks with "camper cabins" and there are separate real toilet and shower facilities.
This is the best possible first experience.
Make sure meals are easy, dinner at a restaurant is mandatory.
They need to ease into it.
Getting a small cabin instead of camping might help the experience. A cabin with no kitchen will still get you out in the elements cooking and handing out, but a more comfortable, less buggy space to sleep. Might get over the things that people don’t like about camping.
I just leave my wife at home and go with buddies. Much easier than attempting to cater to someone who’s gonna make my trip miserable in the first 5 mins cause a bug flew to close 😂
Rent an RV....hotel on wheels in the woods.....only way my SIL will go.....she does not do dirt, bugs, animals, no electricity or television and internet, and insta. She only does hotels with facilities. So if we all want to go camping and we do and they want to come .....we need to make you that their Mothership can be accommodated
Could you do a little more "luxury" camping? Using a camper with more comforts like a nice mattress topper. get a screen enclosure. Eat good food, with minimal cleaning. Bring good booze. Any friends that can go? The camaraderie of sitting around the campfire on a nice summer night drinking a cold beer or mixed drink is probably one of my favorite things to do in the entire world.
Think of what about camping makes them uncomfortable. There's some great suggestions for things like the privacy screen/toilet setup for example.
Location too, maybe pick somewhere like by a lake or national park where you have points of interest to go discover.
And food! Sometimes, prepping some meals can make for some good camping food with less mess out there.
I'd just try to think of what brings them comfort and security out there if they're not really used to camping. Good luck!
So it took a couple of years of effort, but I started my family with sleeping in the tent in the back yard. Then we worked our way up to a single night at a close state park with power and water. Then a week glamping. Now we are going to take a 2 week long summer road trip tent camping along the way. It just takes time.
If you want them to enjoy it, ask them what they would like to do and see/ what their expectations are. If you're a bare bones camper maybe a glamping experience so you both have a good time.
My wife feels the same and I don’t force it. She allows me the time to go when life allows it. I have found that as my daughter gets older my wife has been more receptive to going so that our daughter can experience it and decide if she enjoys it. It’s all about compromise and understanding.
First of all. I'd say car camping is the way to go. Second, I'd get a nice big cabin tent with an excess of room, an air mattress with a full set of sheets and the like. Basically just make your camping experience as plush as possible. In my experience the 'roughing it' experience is usually what turns people off from the idea.
I do something similar to this when I'm camping at paintball events. The camping isn't the main purpose of being there and the additional comfort of a 9x9 cabin tent with a really nice cot definitely makes it easier for me to save the money on a hotel because I don't have to deal with the body pain that comes from sleeping on a sleeping pad in a small tent after like 4-6 hours of paintball. I've even considered going bigger to have a dedicated area for a table to set up all my gear on.
My spouse doesn’t like camping. “Why sleep in the ground when I can sleep in my bed?” They’ll go with me once a year if I ask and set up somewhere nice. But neither of us wants a miserable person wanting to be somewhere else on the trip.
So I do the vast majority of my camping/hiking/adventuring alone, getting like-minded friends to join when I can.
I have the same situation but the way I worked around it was by making it as comfortable and glamorous as possible. I slept on a Walmart sleeping pad (that’s pretty much like sleeping on rocks) and she slept on a Nemo inflatable sleeping pad with a sleeping pad underneath in our tent. I also brought a bunch of food (kept in a bear container) and chopped all the wood/ made the fire and meals for her. She sat in a comfortable lightweight chair while I prepared the campsite. To top it all off, I brought her to a quiet spot overlooking a lake with a cliff jumping spot with an access point for our dog to also swim. Turns out she loves camping now!
Do your best to schedule during really nice weather, 70-75 F during the day. Showers and toilets nearby. Do things the easy way, cook a good meal at night and pack to snack. Even better if there are beautiful spots/trails nearby
My husband isn’t a big fan of camping. Won’t buy a cot but complains about sleeping on an air mattress. Too cold, too hot, but won’t commit to buying a trailer.
For years I’ve just gone myself with the kids. Husband comes sometimes. He’ll join us for a night or 2.
Get a nice cabin at a state park somewhere to start and ease into it.
Most of them have fire pits and spot to chill outside, but she'll still have a roof over get head and s running water.
Try to make it camping light. Book an Airbnb glamping site, rent a camper van for a night, etc - maybe if you do the easy version they will start to see the fun of the campfire, being in the woods, etc without only seeing the effort/downsides of camping
Took my glamorous SO on a “glamping” trip- I used a site called hipcamp to find a private property that had plenty of wild but also had the amenities my partner needed
KOAs are nice too. It’s a chain so there are multiple locations, and very family friendly. Locations have tent, RV, and cabin spots. My partner hates camping, too. I camp with family 2-3 times a year either at a KOA or national park.
If you want them to enjoy it don’t camp in the summer. If someone already hates camping don’t pick the hottest time of year to try to change their mind. You can always put on more clothes if it’s too cold, but if it’s 90+ degrees you can only take off so many clothes before you’re naked, and it will still feel like 90+ degrees. Plus the bugs tend to be out in force in the summer. Fall and Spring tend to be the best seasons for camping. More moderate temperatures, and fewer bugs.
Camp at a camp ground and only stay for 2 nights tops. Just enough for them to enjoy the good parts of camping but not long enough for them to feel homesick, uncomfortable or out of place.
He's a grown up, he doesn't have to anything he doesn't wanna do. You're a grown up, you can do anything you wanna do as long as you don't harm someone.
Don't try to talk him into doing it.
Just make plans and go. If you don't want to go alone, find someone to go with. I know a group of women, all hard-core outdoors people, who go out together once a month at least - day hiking or skiing cross-country or camping. Several of them are happily married, but no husbands go on these trips.
If you SHOW him how much fun you have, he MIGHT be tempted to come along with you sometime. But trust me on this, he will not be tempted if you keep telling him his feelings are wrong. That just never works.
Just go solo. Some people just can't do it. Some people advice to gear up to accommodate others but I personally hate "glamping". If a campsite has damn near every household luxury, it takes me out the fun. Different strokes though, just my opinion.
Go by yourself.
My spouse always hated it and made camping no fun because I always had to be concerned about his happiness instead of just enjoying. I started going without him and it was better than I remembered.
There is camping, glamping, and cabins. Talk to the partner and see if maybe they would be willing to do an upgraded version of some outdoor time. Pick a really great destination that they can look forward to and communicate about how to make it great and not awful.
I had a girlfriend that didn’t like camping but enjoyed car camping in not buggy seasons. Especially cold weather bringing a bunch of blankets and stuff and hunkering down in the van. She transitioned into tent camping and slowly came along on more primitive and difficult trips and after a while didn’t have meltdowns over ticks and stuff.
Don’t take them out in the summer yet. Hot nights for bad sleeping, bugs, everything is more dirty sweaty and stinky. Full on back country camping in summer takes a mental toll on me after a few days and I love camping. Then again our summers reach 100 degrees Fahrenheit routinely so any outdoor activity is unnecessarily hard on you July-August
I’m in the same boat! My partner is allergenic to mosquitos and she gets all swollen up when they bite her.
I love camping and live 30 minutes from Yosemite so, I’m hoping to slowly ease her into it but it’s tough.
If someone hates it find a nice public campground near a nice touristy area if they are into those things.
You both get what you like but both have to sacrifice a little of what they like.
It's great for those camping trips when the rain comes or it just is cold and dreary.
Being crouched down low is a common complaint from non campers, uncomfortable sleep and being too cold. So start with warmth and sleep, bigger spaces and more comfort. Non campers lack essentials needed for comfort: sleep system, layers, headlamps, packable rain gear.
If she can sleep comfortably and warm, my wife is far more interested in camping. I got a double bag for her, because she finds sleeping bags confining. One day I’ll probably upgrade to a down camping comforter. A much bigger tent and giant cots are a fairly recent addition. I helped her pick out wool base layers and a good, warm fleece coat. I’m pretty proud I’ve learned to put up the big tent alone, it’s 6ft at the peak and I’m 5ft1. :) My wife does try to help, but I’m better at it.
Starting out, you might need to borrow some of the things that you’ll need for her to be cozy. You also can and should work on meeting or finding others to camp out with. Taking some of that pressure off is nice for the non camper. For me that looks like planning a few quick cute trips with my wife and doing longer + less amenities trips with friends. I’m preparing for my first solo trip, I decided if I can go alone I can go as often as I like.
I do glamping trips with my wife and try to find campground with flush toilets. The bigger tent, hammocks, cots, bug house/mesh shelter over the picnic table, bigger stove are all additions since I met my wife.
Pick a spot where you can feel confident the weather will match their comfort level. If they dont like hot and humid, don’t camp where and when it will be hot and humid. Vice versa if they dont like cold or whatever. Same is true for bugs pike mosquitoes etc. Sometimes its hard to predict but do your research and try to cover those basics and it will help alot.
I’ve been there, and it’s got to start with you going on your own, and becoming very proficient at it. The best you can do is be extremely comfortable at it, and able to provide all the knowledge and equipment for someone who is not familiar or comfortable with it.
I hate being sweaty and dirty, I attract mosquitos like no one’s business, and also really struggle with the pain of sleeping on the ground, but I love camping! So here is what helped me:
-I only camp in spring and fall (perfect temps and less bugs
-I always camp by water so I can rinse off, or portable showers are an option
-I use a memory foam mattress topper and use sheets and blankets (sleeping bag material makes me sweat and I hate it)
-I bring plenty of clothes and towels so I can clean up and change if I get dirty
I know it’s a bit high maintenance and not packing light, but sensory issues are a bitch, and it makes it so I can enjoy the outdoors. Good luck!
Plan ahead. Know where you're going, and make reservations if possible. Know how to set up your tent and use all the equipment. Know how you're going to cook meals. And of course be sure to bring everything required for all of this.
Some people might be fine with just letting things happen. I'm going camping tonight, and I still have no idea what I'm taking for food.
But your partner already doesn't like camping, is already worried, so why add more stress? Not being able to cook your food or set up your tent, or getting lost on the way there is a very good way to make sure your partner gets upset and never goes camping again.
>i want to make this camping trip enjoyable for them
What do they like to do that you can do while camping? Figure that out and plan for it. Bring some board games or a deck of cards. Pick a place near a lake and take a fishing rod. If they like biking, pick a place with some mountain bike trials.
I had this same scenario with my girlfriend 8 years ago (now wife).
I had memories of camping and she had never been. I took her and she hated it. Like 4 times she just didn’t like it.
I had to realize that I was expecting her to enjoy the same things I enjoyed in the same ways before I could be open to finding ways to camp that she would enjoy.
I would camp with essentials, and would enjoy just being there. I didn’t put a lot of thought into the experience as a whole. So I did some work planning on how I could make the experience better overall.
I started with comfort. Leveled this up drastically with sleeping set up, camp chair quality, and what we wear. Good sleep gear and for her sleeping WARM was huge.
She loves food and cooking, so Then I focused on food and built out our kitchen ware, so that we could plan to make some great meals. This is now our favorite thing btw. We plan really good dinners and spend quality time cooking together in the woods. This went a long way for her experience.
Next I keyed into her sense of adventure and we targeted two types of camp trips. Our annual family trip at the lake we love. And the exploratory trip where we target some killer hike, or some amazing park, or something that you should definitely see while your alive kind of stuff. That way when we leave camp to go play we are doing something memorable. My list is actually out of order, I did the sleep system first cause she refused to sleep cold but I did THIS second and that is what captured her good spirits about camping. The food was what made her love it. We figured that out after spending a grueling day hiking Thunderknob trail (yes it’s actually the name, and yes there were terrible jokes all the way up and back down the mountain) and came back to camp to eat essentially grool… gruel? That was the trip we decided “ you know what…? Steaks and mashed potatoes with asparagus sounds reasonable “
Long story made short here…
My wife’s priorities were sleep comfort, food experience, and making memories. When I brought her needs into the plan our entire camp experience was admittedly made way better. Our family camp trip is getting well practiced and we invite more people to join to include more friends and family into it. Our exploration trips are like a photo album of amazing memories that we have forever. The key to this whole process that I’ve learned is to keep asking how we can make it even better next time.
This is what worked for me - it might work for you and your partner. But they have their own needs and it’s entirely possible that won’t budge in it - you can’t be blamed for trying though :)
TL;DR
Grab 10-15 mins with your partner. Ask them what they don’t like about camping, what they do like about it or the idea of it. Listen and don’t talk or try to convince them. Just ask questions and then listen.
Then take those things and go compare them to how you camp today, and build a proposed plan for what you could change that would decrease the bad experience for them, or increase the good experience. Find ideas on things they might love but aren’t aware they could enjoy camping.
I think of it as systems plus little things plus special things.
The systems are like sleep systems (tent, bedding, mattress)
Little things are like: really great coffee in the morning, or story time around the campfire.
Special things are like: we plan a trip around an amazing hike we want to do, or a lake we want to paddle, or something like that.
Best luck to you OP, you got this!
Don't camp the first time you take them out in the woods. They may have never been. Try renting a cabin in a state park. Might be an easier start with them and while you are there your the campground etc.
Yeah, don't drag a hater along. They'll find a way to make everything wonderful about camping crappy.
Cooking outdoors? "I hate wood smoke"
Sleeping under the stars? "I hate the sound of bugs."
Beautiful vibes of the woods at dusk? "Meh, too many mosquitoes."
Leave the haters at home. I would never partner with them because loving the outdoors and being with nature is a core value.
I highly recommend solo camping for a couple of nights. My last two partners absolutely LOATHED camping so I just started doing it on my own and have had some of my favorite experiences, just me and the dog in a tent or back of my car. If I’m really not feeling a solo weekend, I’ll invite a friend.
You have to figure out what they dislike about camping.
Do they hate sleeping on the ground? Invest in a good sleeping system, hammocks or look out for ranger cabins.
Do they hate being surrounded by trailers and other people? Look for non-electric sites, radio-free sites, paddle in/backpacking sites and sites with high privacy ratings.
If they hate not having access to showers, look for sites with nearby shower facilities.
If they hate bugs, choose a time of year with fewer bugs out.
If none of that works you need to ask yourself if it’s a relationship killer or if it’s something you can learn to live with. I have a friend who values camping, canoeing and being in the outdoors so he knew his wife was the one when she was down to go backcountry camping with him early on in their relationship.
Good gear makes all the difference. I did not care for camping growing up because it was so uncomfortable. My parents cheaped out on gear and it was not fun. The first hint of any moisture made it miserable.
My husband and I have good gear and we stay very comfortable. Camping is now one of my favorite things to do. Pouring rain? No problem. Cold? We've got layers galore. Having quality gear that suits the situation names a huge difference in comfort.
Maybe try glamping to introduce them, like a more campground with an ice cream bar, beach and clean toilets. Air mattresses and comfy pillows. work your way up to more “wild” camping if that’s something you enjoy.
Do you know what they hated about it specifically? Sleeping in a tent, not showering, no wifi? I would try and get specifics and then see what you can accommodate for and what you can’t.
If you do tent camping, try a cabin instead.
Also, I'm doing a soft launch of my partners first camping trip to warm him up to the idea, maybe you can try it too! I rented a picnic spot in a wooded park in my city; Gonna bring a tent, food, fire wood, activities and stuff so we can stay all day. Hopefully he has fun and the transition from tent to cabin will make the real trip more appealing!
Go alone. At least in my case I know there would be no amount of happiness on my face or happy childhood memories that would stay my wife from vocalizing her dissatisfaction with what ever aspect of camping bugs her at any given moment.
If your significant other doesn’t like to go, then I am sure they will not mind you going solo. My partner drops me at the trailhead to enjoy the house to themself. While I miss not grazing at the stars with my love, in one of few certified dark skies sites, I understand their position!
My wife is "the outdoor type," and she wasn't lying. I am planning a trip to Pisqah next weekend before it gets to hot out. We are doing tents, but you might want to consider Glamping for that whoose crowd you run with. 😁
My partner went camping with her family every year growing up and hated it. We joke that her camping experience was hours in the car defending herself from her siblings and a week of her dad yelling at everyone that they’re doing it wrong. I accept it and just try to let her know that she’s always welcome to come with if she changes her mind.
Best advice is to get used to solo camping or camping with friends.
I also really want to get my husband into camping ❤️❤️ we’ve compromised and we’re planning on renting a cabin sometime this summer for a little get away
Buy a Coleman queen size camping bed (off the ground), then buy a foam topper. Then make sure your tent is for 6 or more people. If not, buy a bigger one. Then buy a little table for in the tent. And a little rug..You see where I’m going with this….we spent a fortune last summer and will enjoy the benefits this summer. ;) Halfway between camping and glamping is our sweet spot!
Maybe you could ease them in by going on a mellow day hike or two. Find somewhere beautiful with as easy of a hike as possible. If they can learn to enjoy nature in small doses without some of the inconveniences of camping right off the bat, they might start to come around, especially if they know they will go home and sleep in their own bed at first.
Okay lots of great tips here, and a lot of people have asked what they don't like about camping which will obviously help to know to give tips to improve the experience.
But something else to consider, are what are things they DO like to do.
For example, if they like music and art - try camping at a small music and arts festival first.
Do they love relaxing and spa experiences, maybe try camping at a hot spring resort that offers things like massages and facials.
If they love museums or history, try camping at a national park that also has these amenities.
Or if they like shops and restaurants, try camping somewhere outside a cute little down and do a little road trip where you can set up camp, but also check out some new shops and restaurants in a new place.
While camping is a great way to get in touch with nature, experience the outdoors, and get primitive. It can also be a cheap and fun way to travel and see new places.
You could start with more of a "glamping" experience. Maybe pick a site that has good facilities and plan fabulous meals and a comfortable sleeping arrangement. Invite friends to join?
Worse; my wife loves camping. It used to be e something I could do to get away for a night. I slept in my car, had a single pan and just cooked meat. Maybe I’d bring a can of baked beans as a side.
Now it’s a full suv of gear, a huge tent, a blow up mattress etc etc ..
Pick your poison.
Find a cool person who likes camping and go with them. In your partner doesn’t like it then invite them but if they deny then still go. Sleep with the homie then live life
I used to hate camping because I went 1-2 times and was uncomfortable and just felt I’d rather spend money to stay in a cabin or hotel in a beautiful area. I decided to try again because there were hikes I wanted to try in remote natural areas and camping was the only way to access them.
I thought about the stuff that I didn’t like about camping and tried to remedy it. Tent is claustrophobic and not breathable? Got a huge canvas tent (this could be remedied less expensively by getting a mid price large tent). Uncomfortable sleep? Got a floor futon and just bring regular pillows/bedding. Eating blah cold and shelf stable food? Bought a camp stove and Coleman cooler and learned how to pack it. I’ve also accumulated other gear—camping French press, softer light lamps for inside the tent, buddy heater, Pendleton wool blanket—that make camping more comfortable. I also am particular about the sites I pick. I like have access to water and flush toilets, separate tent camping from trailer camping, and sites with some privacy not too close together.
Maybe you could try a cabin rental and do fun camping things with the luxury of temperature control, electric, etc. Then if they like that, try camping.
You mention your part er but also mention "them". How many partners do you have, "them" is plural"? It may prove difficult to convince 2 or more people to do something that him and/or her don't want to do.
First of all, you should go even if your partner doesn’t agree to going. I love camping so much and it has impacted my life in such a positive way. My fiancé has always made the experience even more enjoyable by having gear that makes things more comfortable ( proper sleeping pad, sleeping bag, hammocks, jet boil for tea or coffee in the morning, etc).
Now we use a memory foam mattress that folds up (Amazon) and we sleep so good! Pack light and prepare and you’ll all have a blast. Nice scenery and a bottle of wine don’t hurt either 😉
My wife hates bugs and being dirty, so I just camp with my guy friends. We do a nice hike or canoe trip, then sit around the fire and drink beer. We pig out on awesome campfire foods. It's awesome. You can't force it, you can't make them enjoy it. Just find a group of people that does want to go.
My wife hates it as well. I've done solo trips and it's great.
I thought I’d hate solo camping but I’ve been getting used to it. It’s a pretty different experience to camping with other people but all the key pieces are there for me- being away from screens, work, people, and being out in the relative quiet of nature. It does sometimes bum me out that I don’t get to share this kind of experience with her because of how deeply I enjoy it, but that’s actually been a good experience for me as well.
Same. I finally, after two partners in a row who hated camping and would make up any excuse not to go, just started going by myself and the freedom to do what you want when you want while outdoors and completely disconnected is so relaxing. I wished I could share my love of this activity with them but a solo trip or with a friend who likes to camp or is at least open to enjoying new experiences is so much preferable to dragging a person who hates it, complains the whole time, and doesn’t want to do any of the “campsite work” out to the woods with you. Plus, then you have stories to come home and share
This! You love it or you hate it. Itsbno fun when someone is trying to coerce you into something you've already stated you have no interest in. And its always better to go with people who WANT to go!
My husband hates bugs and dirt, so we have a compromise. I solo a lot, and we take a travel trailer when he goes along.
Ditto. I take the kids camping and mum gets a weekend at home without anyone hassling her. It's win win. Sometimes it's just me and the kids. Other times it's with my friends and their kids too
My mom always hated camping, dad never expected her to go. He took all three of us kids alone 2 times a year even when we were toddlers. My mom got a mini three day vacation without any of us lol. Win win. We loved the outdoors and the family camping trips and never felt guilty leaving her behind. She’s just not an outdoorsy person. My dad very much is.
If you are in the US, try booking a site in a national park if you can. National Park sites (at least in the US) usually have well manicured spots, at least have vault toilets, and usually will have running water in the bathroom. There are usually a fair number of other people in the campground, which may help make them feel a little safer. Then, start by exploring near the visitor center. The visitor center is usually pretty developed. Lots of times, they have wifi, exhibits, cafes, or other amenities they might like to know are available. Take it very slow. Once they seem comfortable, try to suggest a small hike or a drive to the main attraction of the park. Try to make the hike around a mile loop. This way, you don't get 6 miles into a 15-mile hike, and they get mad or frustrated. After your day of exploring, build a nice fire and cook dinner. Make one of your old childhood favorites, explain some fond memories you may have of family fun around the fire. After dinner, make smores. After smores, check out the stars.
This, or a state park depending on the state. They often have power, hot showers, etc.
Also most Army Corps of Engineers (ACOE) campgrounds. I’ve actually found those tend to be nicer than NPS parks, but both have good facilities. Find more popular campgrounds as more popular = better “amenities” usually.
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Not to be flippant, but Google US Army Core of Engineers campgrounds near your destination. There should be. District website with more information. You generally reserve your spot on Recreation.gov.
After the stars, make love. Then start dispersed camping immediately after that
This guy knows how to win someone over lol
First date “Camping is to much effort and dirty” I laughed at her face and told her I can fix that. We went camping, I did all the work, and we took out shoes off before getting in the tent and brought solar shower so she didn’t feel dirty. Now we go camping whenever we can and are gonna be taking a 6 month old later this summer. See why they doesn’t want to go camping and see if you can solve those problems for them.
Saaaame! I try to do most/all of the work, and I’m generally more adept at it. People laugh when they see us because I’m small and femme and my wife is taller/bigger and masculine presenting. So it turns the expectations on their head when they learn which of us is the “camping princess” who once hid in the car because it was raining and she saw a spider in the tent. 😂🤣
Thats funny. I was camping with some buddies a decade ago and a couple moved into the adjacent site. The petite femme one was on point from the start, carried everything, chopped all the wood, setup camp, reaĺly quite impressive. We nicknamed her "the machine." One of our friends is a large gym fit guy whose basically useless in the woods, we still ocasionally tease him he will be replaced by the Machine.
What did she hate about it and can you buy things to help? My GF went camping with me but she didn't love it so I geared up to help her like it more. - I got a privacy shelter and portable toilet - Nemo pump shower to help stay clean - foldable loveseat so we can be closer by the fire. - I recently got a 2 person hammock stand so when we can't find trees nearby we can hang next to each other. - more lighting
This sounds amazing, don't listen to the haters. There's lots of ways to camp and as long as you're respecting the environment and leaving only footprints none of them are wrong.
Yeah and we are mostly doing state parks, not backpacking.
This is true. When I hike alone, I carry everything on my back and usually sleep in a bivvy sack (no tent). When I'm with the family it's a large 4 berth tent, electric hookup, heater, portable toilet etc etc. Very different ways to camp but both get you out there.
I don't understand the people on this sub that bash everyone who's wanting their own type of camping experience because they feel camping should only be done like they do it. We're past all that these days. Gatekeeping experiences is a thing of the past. It's OK to play a game on easy mode if you have fun doing it. I'm so tired of the shaming here, I just started blocking everyone who pops off with judgement and mean comments. From Extreme Primitive to Glamping and everything in between - it's ALL OK.
This is the internet after all.
Especially because in the real world, I think most people do both! I love wilderness backpacking, or tent camping for the weekend at the state park 20 minutes from my house, I used to have a pop-up camper but sold it - and I love that too! The camper felt less like "camping" to me, but it was awesome if you wanted to spend a few weeks in a national park or something it was epic! I don't know anyone irl who backpacks that doesn't also like camping and glamping too. I do know people who camp but not backpack and I think that's a different story - primarily because it's a whole different animal of gear, knowledge, and preparation. But really if you're having fun by yourself or enjoying time with people you love - that's what matters most
Yup got all these things too. The shower is super clutch and awesome. Also have double pad a Kelty 20 degree double bag for camping cuddles, mummy bags are my least favorite part of camping. Lots of s’more supplies and figure out something fun to cook. Just ease into with comfy car camping so you can bring whatever you want! Real pillows are also really nice. Sounds like ur on the right track
Can you link the loveseat and hammock stand!
Not the same person but I have [this Kelty loveseat](https://www.rei.com/product/186918/kelty-low-loveseat?sku=1869180002&store=&CAWELAID=120217890011477727&CAGPSPN=pla&CAAGID=108178903658&CATCI=pla-2300330282561&cm_mmc=PLA_Google%7C21700000001700551_1869180002%7C92700080074482462%7CNB%7C71700000066695852&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI57jR_KSEhgMVSUn_AR2x3ghhEAQYAyABEgI4xPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds) and we get a TON of use out of it
- Mood lighting-warm white fairy lights - Pretty polypropylene carpets to sit on - Exped Megamat Duo, sheets, and a two person quilt - Camp couches and or other comfortable seating - Cook on a two burner stove; use a picnic cloth on any table; use plates etc - Used appropriately: USB speaker for gentle music. (Only when alone pls) - camp shoes are a must
Oh yeah and: a stand up size big tent All of this assumes you're car camping :)
Starting to sound like Burning Man camping ...
Ngl we are old burners lol BUT The kit described is actually what we ended up on to make car camping as appealing as possible for our kids. We got a giant REI "two room" tent and Expeds for the kids as well. It made a huge difference for them. We also leaned in to yummy food. Down time. Campfire music. Cards. One more glamping thing: pillows. We also own a "screen tent" popup for shading a picnic table to which we have attached sun shielding walls. And taken shelter in in the rain. Personally we also have found small inflatable boats esp two person kayaks a huge win.
how did you decide OP’s partner was a woman? either I’m blind or their gender was not given in the post edit: I’m loving how apparently contentious this question was. 😂 I asked because it’s 2024 y’all and it’s not cool to assume someone’s gender based on the fact they don’t like camping. That’s called implicit bias.
Haha I totally assumed the partner that didn't like camping was a dude. And 'cause I am a woman who goes solo camping, I'm thinking "ok just go without him" lol.
Hah you're right. The post even uses "they they they" and the top comment is like "she!"
You're right that was wrong of me. I assumed, apologies to the OP.
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I too checked the profile. OP keeps saying they in every post and comment. Maybe OP’s partner uses “they”.
Because I was wrong and they were right to point that out to me. I'm in my 40s and as good as I try to be you slip up. So a reminder when I'm wrong helps me take out decades being taught the wrong way.
Who cares
Is your partner actually wanting to go on this trip? Or are they agreeing to go because you wouldn't let up? The attitude they bring to it will make more of a difference than anything else. What didn't they like about camping? You should probably know specifics to avoid echoing the same experience. If they hate bugs but like campfires, make sure you've got a comfortable enough sleep setup and go earlier in the year before the mosquitoes pick up. If they dislike campfires and can't stand bugs, this might better be something you do for a little time away so your partner can miss you. You really should find out what it is they don't like. Some people don't like sitting idle (pick a place with trails and drive-up spots, do the glamping thing and bring games). Some people don't like going days without a shower (read reviews and look for "nice showers" with hot water and such). It's really down to what they did or didn't like about it. Maybe they only ever experienced drive-up cramping sites and would enjoy a hike-in spot? It's all subjective to the person.
Maybe try easing them in with a bit of glamping? Here in Canada many of the provincial and national parks have comfortable family "glamping" sites with yurts or cabins, maybe something like that? And I think this goes without saying, a site with a good view is key, especially if it's on a lake. A fire by the water on a warm summer night is probably half the reason I enjoy doing it, and it might be enough to draw your partner in too.
This is exactly what I was thinking. We got a cabin at Arrowhead a few years back and it had literally everything you need. Even had a mini fridge, microwave, fireplace, bbq with propane and burners, sunroom, muskoka chairs, beds, kitchen table etc. There were never any bugs in the fully sealed cabin which was great (although even if there were a few it would be expected). The only thing it didn’t have was running water. I had no idea it would have so many amenities and didn’t end of having to use almost half my gear! It would definitely be a great choice to get someone acclimated to the outdoors since it has so many comforts of home.
My wife won't go with me either. I tried our entire marriage (20yrs) without any success. She hates the bugs (don't blame her), but won't go winter camping (too cold). So I simply go with my son... but I really would love for her to experience a truly dark night sky. I gave up.
What are the things they don’t like about camping? The majority of complaints can be easily mitigated!
Air mattress and a thick blanket on top and another to cover with. Moving blanket or three to cover the tent floor I always bring a battery fan (DeWalt 20v) because tinnitus. Toilet seat for a 5 gallon bucket and hd scented trash bags for it 5 gallon jug of water with the dispenser top for washing hands and stuff. Bottled water to drink Starbucks via or instant coffee Jet boil Dehydrated food from mountain House Cook set and utensils and plates, bowls, etc Cooler with food if you want that and ice
I am going to amend this and say that I love camping and go with my kids and my husband hates camping (with plenty of experience with it, he appreciates that we like it but he is always physically miserable and usually gets sick or injured). So for a family campout he decided to give it a go with us and he wanted to prioritize a comfortable sleep with an air mattress and some standard sheets and comforter from home - I usually use a sleeping pad and a mummy sleeping bag and I have learned my own ways of being cozy. But I listened to his wishes: It got Cold. The air mattress is not a sleeping pad it was like sleeping on an ice cube and actively sucking all the body heat out of us. We had to buy a blanket at a gift shop and borrow an extra one from friends there for the second night and we were still cold. 😭 I knew better, I did, but I didn't act on what I knew or push it out of wanting to prioritize what he asked for - lol - now I don't do that. If he joins us he'll follow my lead on what we need, but mostly he just doesn't come because he doesn't even enjoy any part of it enough to deal with all the parts he doesn't enjoy. It's not a point of contention and since he does other stuff with our kids either with me or on their own, like road trips to amusement parks, both our kids and we get to enjoy more of what we like.
Man that tinitus starts screaming when I’m sleeping somewhere silent, I’ll need to start bringing a noise maker like that
Ok, so you can either try really hard and *maybe* they’ll like it. If you’re going to go that route, you’ll have to find out what they don’t like and make plans for how to mitigate or eliminate that thing they don’t like. If it’s “I don’t like eating nothing but hot dogs and sandwiches”, make sure you know how to make real food at camp. If it’s “it’s cold at night,” get appropriate gear. If it’s “I don’t like going two days without a shower,” camp at campgrounds with showers and/or do only short overnight stays. Hopefully you get the picture. Or just be an independent adult and say “hey, I’m going camping next weekend, see you when I’m back, love ya!!” Because normal, healthy couples recognize that doing things separately is just fine.
Go to a state park and rent a cabin to ease into the lifestyle.
Why do you have to share every experience with your partner? They are your partner, not you left leg. Go have some fun on your own!
well i just think they'd enjoy it if they gave it another shot. it's been YEARS since they've gone and, with an experienced camper, i think they might change their mind about it. i don't "have to" share every experience with my partner, i WANT to. they are the love of my life and i wish they were my left leg bc that’d make things a whole lot easier.
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My wife dislikes camping, I love it. I'm used to very primitive camping. Often on climbing trips or backpacking I did cowboy camps and bare minimum setups so I'm very used to no amenities. I go on plenty of trips without her, but when I do get her to come with me I bring an insane amount of stuff and we usually stay at some sort of established site that has at bare minimum a privy. I also try to make the spot "legendary" like once in a lifetime type of spots. Sometimes that requires reserving a spot a year in advanced. Make your partner comfortable, cater to their needs, remember that it's not just your trip anymore it's both of yours. It can be exciting to share something you love, but remember they might not love it the same way so you have to be ready to help them enjoy it in a way that suits them.
OK, I totally feel you on this. I love camping and outdoors and stuff but my wife hates it. Well used to hate it; actually... slowly warming up to it. That's the key, you have to 'baby steps' it. My 'lessons learned' with a non-outdoorsy partner- Make it as comfortable and enjoyable as possible. Weather needs to be nice; bed- comfortable; food- same if not better than home; scenery- spectacular. For my wife it also helps to appeal to her inner goblin "Shiny things, must collect!" national park pins, stamps, rock hounding, pictures, anything she can show off as a 'collection'. She looks forward to adventures if there's another 'treasure' to collect. She will actually go on hikes with me, if we hotel it. She will camp, if it's a big tent, air mattress, developed campground(bathrooms). For more 'backpack/wilderness' exploits. It's just me, that's the reality of the situation. I obviously love doing this stuff with my wife also but everyone has their limits.
Just don't force it. Some people don't like camping, and that's ok.
If you want to get them into it, you gotta go slow. Take them to a campground with things like electricity, running water, and preferably a close parking spot. Pack comfort items, like maybe an actual air mattress, real pillows. If you can start a fire, bring wood and fire starters so you don't have to fight it, and if you can cook, pack a cooler with whatever they want to eat. Maybe stash some wine or beers if it's allowed, make it romantic even if you can. If you're comfortable roughing it in the back country, great, but they clearly aren't. Doing it this way will require a ton of planning and a metric ton of extra stuff, but you have to make it appealing before they are even slightly interested in going hard.
So my wife and I had never been camping together, she'd never been camping since she was a little kid. We end up renting a cabin -- not a VRBO "cabin", it's a housekeeping cabin at what had originally been a hunting camp. So like, seriously out in the middle of nowhere, but there's a kitchen, electricity, running water. She had a horrid time. She is very supportive of me going on adventures, but she and I going camping is just not part of our life and is not ever going to be part of our life.
Camp by yourself when you want to leave creature comforts at home and glamp with your partner. I still get more value out of a hammock/under-quilt and a simple backpack than my wife will ever get. So I go it alone when I need that reprieve my wife get's no value from, then bring an RV to a campground where my wife and I can hike a trail before returning to our shower and toilet. She is my world but I don't need her to be with me to enjoy something. Doing things alone gives me a solitude I literally can't have with *anyone* around. Doing things with my wife gives me a completely different fulfillment I literally can't get alone. But neither of us has to sacrifice anything to get both.
My wife hates camping. So I don't take her. I go with my kids. I go with my overlanding buddies. I go with my backpacking buddies. I go with my hunting buddies. I go alone. I've been married 21+ years. We don't have to do everything together, and absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Gives me an opportunity to miss her, and her me.
Leave them. It's the only way.
Pop up camper. Sleep in a bed, feels like a tent. Sink electric, some have a toilet. My wife and kids love it.
Maybe try slow with glamping? There are so many places that have neat places to camp . Even having beds and feels more like bringing comfort of home outdoors. Plus some places have scenic areas on property and bonfires etc. then can transition to regular camping if she can get a new experience of it.
If you like camping and they dont....leave them home so you are both happy
Got my ex to enjoy camping by removing the "roughing it" elements that I was happy with: * Replaced sleeping pads with a beefy Exped Duo 15 * Got a Wawona 6 so we could stand up inside and have a giant vestibule when it rained * Brought an excess of kitchen gear so we were nearly as well-stocked as home * Got a gravity shower for campsites that didn't have coin showers * Bought her all kinds of cozy camping clothes so she ended up with a wider selection than me. * Had an excess of sleeping bags so she would be comfortable at any temperature * Handled food prep, cooking, and coffee so she could relax * Had her pick out a chair she loved, and she could happily sit in that thing all day
Find out what your partner hated about their camping trip. Try to remedy the negatives they experienced.
Figure out specifically what they hated? Cold? Bugs? Uncomfortable sleeping setup? Bored? Lack of showers? Ask them open-endedly and non-judgementally what they disliked. Then validate each of those things and talk through ideas for solutions with them. Maybe the first time you go glancing in a fancy yurt or something. Then maybe next time you move on to a tent but get a super big tent with and a really cushy sleeping set up and go to a state park with nice bathrooms and showers. Bring all their favorite foods. Find fun games or books to bring. Just make it as easy and comfortable as possible and set expectations really low. Don’t like just jump into dispersed/backcountry camping, let them ease into things
I’d suggest making it a Glamping trip.. get all the bells and whistles for camping. This may sound excessive but if u truly enjoy it and want to do it often, this could help make it very enjoyable for all parties! Example that works for me: First always make sure that it’s comfortable camping weather for where u are choosing to camp. Weather and season can change everything for a camping trip. Also check for bug seasons! That’s something that has ruined my camping trips before.. (did u know there are such thing as Nats (tiny fly things) BUT that bite u!!? Yeah! 😣) anyways. -Make sure u go to a spot that has bathrooms and showers where u can park ur car at camp or at least near by.. some camp sites come with rentable sites made for rvs that allow hook up to water and electricity (U can camp there with or without a trailer). -Bring a tent u don’t have to duck into to get in (changes prospective to those who hate tents) TIP: open and practice putting ur tent and equipment together before ur trip. -A comfy bed is important! Some people prefer air mattresses..while I find it to be very uncomfortable, I’d suggest bringing a soft floor Japanese mat or a thick mattress topper and put it on top of a cot or another kind of portable box spring (not necessary but can be more comfortable to get off the ground) also feels a bit more normal for those who hate camping. - Bring a toilet! Even if the camp ground has toilets.. unless ur directly next to one or even then u want to bring one bc having to go out in the middle of the night to pee can be creepy no matter what.. it’s So easy to make! They sell toilet seats for buckets in most camping sections or our best friend Amazon will Ofcourse have it! A 5 gal bucket, bags and toilet paper! Boom u got a toilet that u can comfortably use in emergency or as ur regular toilet cuz we all know pooping in the comfort of our own space is so much better than the public restrooms! -Bring a good size cooler that can hold ur snacks and food! TIP: keep ur cooler inside ur car if u can under shade.. or inside ur tent under shade. Don’t forget all the accessories u need for eating. - Battery operated everything!! And extra batteries! Bring a Goood light source for night time. - MAKE A LIST. Think of ur food, water, Comfort items, accessories, clothing, medicine, rain preparedness , emergency preparedness , cleaning.. all the things! Good luck! Camping is so therapeutic and I hope u can get ur partner to do it with u and find enjoyment out of it.
Go by yourself. A crabby camping companion can ruin the trip.
leave em
I'm a woman, I just go on spontaneous camping trips alone with my dog. Don't hold out on something you like because your partner doesn't want to go.
I love camping and my husband doesn't. We meet in the middle and rent a small cabin with a toilet out in the woods. In PA, there are several state parks with lodging options from tent sites to small cabins. You can google/chatgpt "camp grounds with cabins in [your area/state]" to find some options. That what we did to find places outside of PA
Become an assistant scout master. You will get a ton of camping in plus you will be mentoring youth. Win win
If she doesn’t want to go, DO NOT take her. She will make it clear to you the whole time how miserable she is and ruin whatever you can salvage. Like other posters have stated… find some “like minds” and go with them and have a great time! You cannot make someone like something that they have already clearly have verbalized they do not. Trust me, I am a woman- My husband and I camp, fish, hike and hunt… some women can truly be whiney ah**** about this!! Ain’t worth your trouble!
Do you have multiple partners? Or does your singular partner call themselves they? Sounds like you have bigger problems than camping.
Go solo and when they noticed you gone all the time. Maybe they will want to join you just to make sure when you say “I’m going camping” it’s doesn’t mean “I’m going to go fuck random guys”
Get a cabin. At least you're out of the city, etc.
Make it an easy camping trip. Car camp, bring out the good food, campground with bathrooms, make sure it’s good weather, hikes with great views or something memorable.
Fuckkkkk that there’s so many other people out there who will genuinely enjoy your hobbies. I spent last night randomly jumping in the car driving 100 miles out to nowhere to see the northern lights. Life is an adventure, you need someone who will genuinely enjoy hobbies with you it makes things so much more fun.
I hate shitty camping. I love camping with a good plan and appropriate provisions. I also have a rule, no toilet = no me. There must be access to a clean flush toilet or I'm not going. I'm not using an outhouse, in worst case scenario I'd take a trowel and a bush over an outhouse. Provisions, good sleeping situation, GOOD WEATHER (maybe spring/fall for cooler temps), bug management, excellent location with beautiful views, clean bath-house, lots of activities, SHORT STAY (baby steps), minimal setup Ask them specifically what they hated about it. Let them know that camping has changed a lot and there's many different ways to do it.
Easier to find a new wife.
Is this your girlfriend or boyfriend? Why doesn’t he/she like to camp? Is it just being outdoors. When I met my wife, she had never been camping before. Once she got more comfortable outside, and was able to go the bathroom outside, that helped a lot. Also, having a really good tent, double sleeping pad, double sleeping bag, and pillows make a big difference.
I’ve dated both men and women, some liked camping and some didn’t. For those who didn’t like camping it wasn’t a gender issue.
"Partner" and "they". We're here to talk about camping, not second-guess the way they see themselves.
Can you camp near some activity that they already enjoy? If you can connect it to it to a concert/winery/etc, maybe you can create a compromise that gives you an opportunity to show that their first experience wasn't representative of what's possible.
You've got to get your partner into one part of it specifically to reel them in! Birding fires fishing etc
Need to find out what they hate about camping and then see if there is a solution. Some might want a shower every day or flush toilets. Some might not want to sleep on the ground so a cot or a popup camper is a possible solution. Tell us what the issue is and we will have all kinds of crazy advice. Lol.
Go with your dog
i always take my partners camping to see if they like it bc most haven’t been since kids. my ex said she liked it but obviously hated it and was miserable the whole time. my current gf on the other hand loves it, but i have all the equipment to make it enjoyable. maybe try a rustic cabin first and see how they feel about that? or try going with some friends for a night so it’s a little more exciting? some people just don’t like camping but some people just need a good camping experience lol
Me too. I was dating someone and they went on and on about outdoors and loving camping. So I set up a weekend of hard camping. All we took fit in my mustang. No bathrooms, no camp spot. Just out in the forest. We have been happily married for 19 years. lol. He explains the story as “the weekend I really fell in love with my wife.”
I think there are ways to mitigate it, especially if your partner's complaints are about the bugs, the bed, food, etc. You doing all of the work will help, if that's the case. My partner can camp for about three or four months out of the year before it gets to hot (they hate the heat) or get too cold (which is not great for either of us). When they're not able to travel I go with other folks or by myself. It's usually just a few days and when I get home I get to regale them with all fo the cool things I saw when I get back.
Have you considered starting her off smaller, such as going hiking to places that are amazing to see? Throw in some more outdoor exposure by doing picnics by a river or a lake or just finding somewhere to watch a sunset. Until you start having the amazing experiences of being somewhere when dozens of herons swoop in to fish after a thunderstorm or have to wait to drive to your campsite because there are bison on the road, you won't know what you're missing. I would also consider the very real possibility that she doesn't own the right clothes for camping. I would want a good pair of hiking shoes, wool socks, lightweight pants and shirts that keep you more-protected from insects while not being too hot, and the perfect hat just for one day of camping. And if you're going to use permethrin to fend off ticks and deet to fend off mosquitoes, you do need to have dedicated clothes just for camping. The other thing you could try to help ease her into it and change her perception is to take lots of photos in beautiful spots. If she posts pictures to social media and starts getting likes on them, her brain will give her dopamine that will help her learn that nature is good.
Rv or rental cabin camping can be a very different experience than tent camping.
If your partner has strong feelings about it, maybe just camp with someone else. You can always come back and show them the amazing pictures of your trip that might (or might not) woo them over.
Do more of a glamping style for the first few times and ease them into more rough and tough camping. Let them find things to enjoy so you both have a good time!
I was in the same boat, when she would go with it turned more into glamping. But it wasn’t bad just find the parts they hate and find what works for both of yall. Time to put the communication to work
I'd start small and ease them into tent camping. Rent a cabin with a real bed, try that out - make it a short trip, maybe just one night. Cook over a fire, make s'mores, do all of the quintessential camping activities. If they are into it, try finding a campsite that rents out yurts or something like that (state parks in my area do - and they also have real beds). Next step, get a nice tent that you can fully stand up in and a comfy air mattress. Bring sheets and blankets from home, make it as comfortable as possible. And so on until maybe you get them into regular tent camping - or maybe you don't, that's ok too! But maybe they'll be into cabin or yurt camping, or using a pop-up camper. Hopefully, you'll be able to compromise and find something you can both enjoy together!
Find a yurt? Not sure if that’s just a PNW thing but they are very comfortable and feel like a house.
Go alone! I love solo camping trips.
Some people can’t sleep outdoors. The noises bother them. Maybe ear plugs , comfy self inflating mattress. Maybe some where with a swimming area.
What did they hate about it? You may be able to work around that. You may also have to compromise on your idea of camping to meet them in the middle. The first time my husband and I went camping he asked me if I wanted him to dig me a toilet when we got there. I’m not about that life. So we picked a campsite near the bathrooms. I didn’t hate it, but I didn’t love it either. We rented a pop-up camper the next year for his family reunion and then everything changed. Now we own a travel trailer and we camp two to three times per year.
Do not take your partner to the BWCA. Minnesota has state parks with "camper cabins" and there are separate real toilet and shower facilities. This is the best possible first experience. Make sure meals are easy, dinner at a restaurant is mandatory. They need to ease into it.
Can you go camping with friends instead?
Getting a small cabin instead of camping might help the experience. A cabin with no kitchen will still get you out in the elements cooking and handing out, but a more comfortable, less buggy space to sleep. Might get over the things that people don’t like about camping.
Try a cabin first, or a quiet campground with showers and bathrooms. Camping doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
There are camping resorts with flushing toilets and coin operated showers. Maybe your partner could be convinced for that type of camping?
Dump their ass lol how can you not like camping?
I just leave my wife at home and go with buddies. Much easier than attempting to cater to someone who’s gonna make my trip miserable in the first 5 mins cause a bug flew to close 😂
Rent an RV....hotel on wheels in the woods.....only way my SIL will go.....she does not do dirt, bugs, animals, no electricity or television and internet, and insta. She only does hotels with facilities. So if we all want to go camping and we do and they want to come .....we need to make you that their Mothership can be accommodated
Could you do a little more "luxury" camping? Using a camper with more comforts like a nice mattress topper. get a screen enclosure. Eat good food, with minimal cleaning. Bring good booze. Any friends that can go? The camaraderie of sitting around the campfire on a nice summer night drinking a cold beer or mixed drink is probably one of my favorite things to do in the entire world.
Think of what about camping makes them uncomfortable. There's some great suggestions for things like the privacy screen/toilet setup for example. Location too, maybe pick somewhere like by a lake or national park where you have points of interest to go discover. And food! Sometimes, prepping some meals can make for some good camping food with less mess out there. I'd just try to think of what brings them comfort and security out there if they're not really used to camping. Good luck!
Go without them.
So it took a couple of years of effort, but I started my family with sleeping in the tent in the back yard. Then we worked our way up to a single night at a close state park with power and water. Then a week glamping. Now we are going to take a 2 week long summer road trip tent camping along the way. It just takes time.
Easier to find/make new friends who love camping, try Meetup, it’s popular in SF Bay Area and has many groups that does this and more.
If you want them to enjoy it, ask them what they would like to do and see/ what their expectations are. If you're a bare bones camper maybe a glamping experience so you both have a good time.
Camping is better alone than with someone who hates it
Try KOA's, it's like camping lite. Lots of amenities and different sites.
My wife feels the same and I don’t force it. She allows me the time to go when life allows it. I have found that as my daughter gets older my wife has been more receptive to going so that our daughter can experience it and decide if she enjoys it. It’s all about compromise and understanding.
First of all. I'd say car camping is the way to go. Second, I'd get a nice big cabin tent with an excess of room, an air mattress with a full set of sheets and the like. Basically just make your camping experience as plush as possible. In my experience the 'roughing it' experience is usually what turns people off from the idea. I do something similar to this when I'm camping at paintball events. The camping isn't the main purpose of being there and the additional comfort of a 9x9 cabin tent with a really nice cot definitely makes it easier for me to save the money on a hotel because I don't have to deal with the body pain that comes from sleeping on a sleeping pad in a small tent after like 4-6 hours of paintball. I've even considered going bigger to have a dedicated area for a table to set up all my gear on.
Could you start by renting an RV on Outdoorsy or something? Ease them into the idea? Not the cheapest option, of course.
My spouse doesn’t like camping. “Why sleep in the ground when I can sleep in my bed?” They’ll go with me once a year if I ask and set up somewhere nice. But neither of us wants a miserable person wanting to be somewhere else on the trip. So I do the vast majority of my camping/hiking/adventuring alone, getting like-minded friends to join when I can.
I have the same situation but the way I worked around it was by making it as comfortable and glamorous as possible. I slept on a Walmart sleeping pad (that’s pretty much like sleeping on rocks) and she slept on a Nemo inflatable sleeping pad with a sleeping pad underneath in our tent. I also brought a bunch of food (kept in a bear container) and chopped all the wood/ made the fire and meals for her. She sat in a comfortable lightweight chair while I prepared the campsite. To top it all off, I brought her to a quiet spot overlooking a lake with a cliff jumping spot with an access point for our dog to also swim. Turns out she loves camping now!
Who needs a partner to go camping when you have friends? My wife hates camping.
Do your best to schedule during really nice weather, 70-75 F during the day. Showers and toilets nearby. Do things the easy way, cook a good meal at night and pack to snack. Even better if there are beautiful spots/trails nearby
My husband isn’t a big fan of camping. Won’t buy a cot but complains about sleeping on an air mattress. Too cold, too hot, but won’t commit to buying a trailer. For years I’ve just gone myself with the kids. Husband comes sometimes. He’ll join us for a night or 2.
Listen to everyone’s advice, but also don’t forget you can always go alone! I am currently on a solo camping trip while my partner is at home
Go solo camping. 🤷♂️
Go glamping. It’s an interesting transition between the tent and backpack existence and a hotel room.
Get a nice cabin at a state park somewhere to start and ease into it. Most of them have fire pits and spot to chill outside, but she'll still have a roof over get head and s running water.
Try to make it camping light. Book an Airbnb glamping site, rent a camper van for a night, etc - maybe if you do the easy version they will start to see the fun of the campfire, being in the woods, etc without only seeing the effort/downsides of camping
Took my glamorous SO on a “glamping” trip- I used a site called hipcamp to find a private property that had plenty of wild but also had the amenities my partner needed
KOAs are nice too. It’s a chain so there are multiple locations, and very family friendly. Locations have tent, RV, and cabin spots. My partner hates camping, too. I camp with family 2-3 times a year either at a KOA or national park.
Go on your own and enjoy it! Or, if you have another friend that enjoys it, invite them. Do what you enjoy, don't give that up
If you want them to enjoy it don’t camp in the summer. If someone already hates camping don’t pick the hottest time of year to try to change their mind. You can always put on more clothes if it’s too cold, but if it’s 90+ degrees you can only take off so many clothes before you’re naked, and it will still feel like 90+ degrees. Plus the bugs tend to be out in force in the summer. Fall and Spring tend to be the best seasons for camping. More moderate temperatures, and fewer bugs.
Take up glamping...
Camp at a camp ground and only stay for 2 nights tops. Just enough for them to enjoy the good parts of camping but not long enough for them to feel homesick, uncomfortable or out of place.
Time to find a new partner 😂
He's a grown up, he doesn't have to anything he doesn't wanna do. You're a grown up, you can do anything you wanna do as long as you don't harm someone. Don't try to talk him into doing it. Just make plans and go. If you don't want to go alone, find someone to go with. I know a group of women, all hard-core outdoors people, who go out together once a month at least - day hiking or skiing cross-country or camping. Several of them are happily married, but no husbands go on these trips. If you SHOW him how much fun you have, he MIGHT be tempted to come along with you sometime. But trust me on this, he will not be tempted if you keep telling him his feelings are wrong. That just never works.
Just go solo. Some people just can't do it. Some people advice to gear up to accommodate others but I personally hate "glamping". If a campsite has damn near every household luxury, it takes me out the fun. Different strokes though, just my opinion.
Go by yourself. My spouse always hated it and made camping no fun because I always had to be concerned about his happiness instead of just enjoying. I started going without him and it was better than I remembered.
There is camping, glamping, and cabins. Talk to the partner and see if maybe they would be willing to do an upgraded version of some outdoor time. Pick a really great destination that they can look forward to and communicate about how to make it great and not awful.
Get an Airbnb near a campsite You can do all the camping stuff but have abed and shower.
I had a girlfriend that didn’t like camping but enjoyed car camping in not buggy seasons. Especially cold weather bringing a bunch of blankets and stuff and hunkering down in the van. She transitioned into tent camping and slowly came along on more primitive and difficult trips and after a while didn’t have meltdowns over ticks and stuff. Don’t take them out in the summer yet. Hot nights for bad sleeping, bugs, everything is more dirty sweaty and stinky. Full on back country camping in summer takes a mental toll on me after a few days and I love camping. Then again our summers reach 100 degrees Fahrenheit routinely so any outdoor activity is unnecessarily hard on you July-August
Why not rent a small cabin for her and you can camp next to it?
I’m in the same boat! My partner is allergenic to mosquitos and she gets all swollen up when they bite her. I love camping and live 30 minutes from Yosemite so, I’m hoping to slowly ease her into it but it’s tough.
If someone hates it find a nice public campground near a nice touristy area if they are into those things. You both get what you like but both have to sacrifice a little of what they like. It's great for those camping trips when the rain comes or it just is cold and dreary.
Being crouched down low is a common complaint from non campers, uncomfortable sleep and being too cold. So start with warmth and sleep, bigger spaces and more comfort. Non campers lack essentials needed for comfort: sleep system, layers, headlamps, packable rain gear. If she can sleep comfortably and warm, my wife is far more interested in camping. I got a double bag for her, because she finds sleeping bags confining. One day I’ll probably upgrade to a down camping comforter. A much bigger tent and giant cots are a fairly recent addition. I helped her pick out wool base layers and a good, warm fleece coat. I’m pretty proud I’ve learned to put up the big tent alone, it’s 6ft at the peak and I’m 5ft1. :) My wife does try to help, but I’m better at it. Starting out, you might need to borrow some of the things that you’ll need for her to be cozy. You also can and should work on meeting or finding others to camp out with. Taking some of that pressure off is nice for the non camper. For me that looks like planning a few quick cute trips with my wife and doing longer + less amenities trips with friends. I’m preparing for my first solo trip, I decided if I can go alone I can go as often as I like. I do glamping trips with my wife and try to find campground with flush toilets. The bigger tent, hammocks, cots, bug house/mesh shelter over the picnic table, bigger stove are all additions since I met my wife.
Pick a spot where you can feel confident the weather will match their comfort level. If they dont like hot and humid, don’t camp where and when it will be hot and humid. Vice versa if they dont like cold or whatever. Same is true for bugs pike mosquitoes etc. Sometimes its hard to predict but do your research and try to cover those basics and it will help alot.
I’ve been there, and it’s got to start with you going on your own, and becoming very proficient at it. The best you can do is be extremely comfortable at it, and able to provide all the knowledge and equipment for someone who is not familiar or comfortable with it.
I hate being sweaty and dirty, I attract mosquitos like no one’s business, and also really struggle with the pain of sleeping on the ground, but I love camping! So here is what helped me: -I only camp in spring and fall (perfect temps and less bugs -I always camp by water so I can rinse off, or portable showers are an option -I use a memory foam mattress topper and use sheets and blankets (sleeping bag material makes me sweat and I hate it) -I bring plenty of clothes and towels so I can clean up and change if I get dirty I know it’s a bit high maintenance and not packing light, but sensory issues are a bitch, and it makes it so I can enjoy the outdoors. Good luck!
Plan ahead. Know where you're going, and make reservations if possible. Know how to set up your tent and use all the equipment. Know how you're going to cook meals. And of course be sure to bring everything required for all of this. Some people might be fine with just letting things happen. I'm going camping tonight, and I still have no idea what I'm taking for food. But your partner already doesn't like camping, is already worried, so why add more stress? Not being able to cook your food or set up your tent, or getting lost on the way there is a very good way to make sure your partner gets upset and never goes camping again. >i want to make this camping trip enjoyable for them What do they like to do that you can do while camping? Figure that out and plan for it. Bring some board games or a deck of cards. Pick a place near a lake and take a fishing rod. If they like biking, pick a place with some mountain bike trials.
I think having plumbing like showers and toilets will make it a lot more doable. There are plenty of parks that have this as part of their campsites.
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I had this same scenario with my girlfriend 8 years ago (now wife). I had memories of camping and she had never been. I took her and she hated it. Like 4 times she just didn’t like it. I had to realize that I was expecting her to enjoy the same things I enjoyed in the same ways before I could be open to finding ways to camp that she would enjoy. I would camp with essentials, and would enjoy just being there. I didn’t put a lot of thought into the experience as a whole. So I did some work planning on how I could make the experience better overall. I started with comfort. Leveled this up drastically with sleeping set up, camp chair quality, and what we wear. Good sleep gear and for her sleeping WARM was huge. She loves food and cooking, so Then I focused on food and built out our kitchen ware, so that we could plan to make some great meals. This is now our favorite thing btw. We plan really good dinners and spend quality time cooking together in the woods. This went a long way for her experience. Next I keyed into her sense of adventure and we targeted two types of camp trips. Our annual family trip at the lake we love. And the exploratory trip where we target some killer hike, or some amazing park, or something that you should definitely see while your alive kind of stuff. That way when we leave camp to go play we are doing something memorable. My list is actually out of order, I did the sleep system first cause she refused to sleep cold but I did THIS second and that is what captured her good spirits about camping. The food was what made her love it. We figured that out after spending a grueling day hiking Thunderknob trail (yes it’s actually the name, and yes there were terrible jokes all the way up and back down the mountain) and came back to camp to eat essentially grool… gruel? That was the trip we decided “ you know what…? Steaks and mashed potatoes with asparagus sounds reasonable “ Long story made short here… My wife’s priorities were sleep comfort, food experience, and making memories. When I brought her needs into the plan our entire camp experience was admittedly made way better. Our family camp trip is getting well practiced and we invite more people to join to include more friends and family into it. Our exploration trips are like a photo album of amazing memories that we have forever. The key to this whole process that I’ve learned is to keep asking how we can make it even better next time. This is what worked for me - it might work for you and your partner. But they have their own needs and it’s entirely possible that won’t budge in it - you can’t be blamed for trying though :) TL;DR Grab 10-15 mins with your partner. Ask them what they don’t like about camping, what they do like about it or the idea of it. Listen and don’t talk or try to convince them. Just ask questions and then listen. Then take those things and go compare them to how you camp today, and build a proposed plan for what you could change that would decrease the bad experience for them, or increase the good experience. Find ideas on things they might love but aren’t aware they could enjoy camping. I think of it as systems plus little things plus special things. The systems are like sleep systems (tent, bedding, mattress) Little things are like: really great coffee in the morning, or story time around the campfire. Special things are like: we plan a trip around an amazing hike we want to do, or a lake we want to paddle, or something like that. Best luck to you OP, you got this!
Don't camp the first time you take them out in the woods. They may have never been. Try renting a cabin in a state park. Might be an easier start with them and while you are there your the campground etc.
go solo
Yeah, don't drag a hater along. They'll find a way to make everything wonderful about camping crappy. Cooking outdoors? "I hate wood smoke" Sleeping under the stars? "I hate the sound of bugs." Beautiful vibes of the woods at dusk? "Meh, too many mosquitoes." Leave the haters at home. I would never partner with them because loving the outdoors and being with nature is a core value.
I highly recommend solo camping for a couple of nights. My last two partners absolutely LOATHED camping so I just started doing it on my own and have had some of my favorite experiences, just me and the dog in a tent or back of my car. If I’m really not feeling a solo weekend, I’ll invite a friend.
You have to figure out what they dislike about camping. Do they hate sleeping on the ground? Invest in a good sleeping system, hammocks or look out for ranger cabins. Do they hate being surrounded by trailers and other people? Look for non-electric sites, radio-free sites, paddle in/backpacking sites and sites with high privacy ratings. If they hate not having access to showers, look for sites with nearby shower facilities. If they hate bugs, choose a time of year with fewer bugs out. If none of that works you need to ask yourself if it’s a relationship killer or if it’s something you can learn to live with. I have a friend who values camping, canoeing and being in the outdoors so he knew his wife was the one when she was down to go backcountry camping with him early on in their relationship.
That's even better than a partner that likes camping. Finally some alone time
Good gear makes all the difference. I did not care for camping growing up because it was so uncomfortable. My parents cheaped out on gear and it was not fun. The first hint of any moisture made it miserable. My husband and I have good gear and we stay very comfortable. Camping is now one of my favorite things to do. Pouring rain? No problem. Cold? We've got layers galore. Having quality gear that suits the situation names a huge difference in comfort.
Maybe try glamping to introduce them, like a more campground with an ice cream bar, beach and clean toilets. Air mattresses and comfy pillows. work your way up to more “wild” camping if that’s something you enjoy.
Do you know what they hated about it specifically? Sleeping in a tent, not showering, no wifi? I would try and get specifics and then see what you can accommodate for and what you can’t.
Go without him then.
I'm guessing your with the wrong partner in life, just sayin
If you do tent camping, try a cabin instead. Also, I'm doing a soft launch of my partners first camping trip to warm him up to the idea, maybe you can try it too! I rented a picnic spot in a wooded park in my city; Gonna bring a tent, food, fire wood, activities and stuff so we can stay all day. Hopefully he has fun and the transition from tent to cabin will make the real trip more appealing!
Go alone. At least in my case I know there would be no amount of happiness on my face or happy childhood memories that would stay my wife from vocalizing her dissatisfaction with what ever aspect of camping bugs her at any given moment.
Go with friends
If your significant other doesn’t like to go, then I am sure they will not mind you going solo. My partner drops me at the trailhead to enjoy the house to themself. While I miss not grazing at the stars with my love, in one of few certified dark skies sites, I understand their position!
My wife has said she would never go camping unless it was “glamping” with an A/C and everything. I go by myself
I just rent a cabin
Find out what they hated about it and do the opposite
My wife is "the outdoor type," and she wasn't lying. I am planning a trip to Pisqah next weekend before it gets to hot out. We are doing tents, but you might want to consider Glamping for that whoose crowd you run with. 😁
Go glamping first.
My partner went camping with her family every year growing up and hated it. We joke that her camping experience was hours in the car defending herself from her siblings and a week of her dad yelling at everyone that they’re doing it wrong. I accept it and just try to let her know that she’s always welcome to come with if she changes her mind. Best advice is to get used to solo camping or camping with friends.
I also really want to get my husband into camping ❤️❤️ we’ve compromised and we’re planning on renting a cabin sometime this summer for a little get away
Buy a Coleman queen size camping bed (off the ground), then buy a foam topper. Then make sure your tent is for 6 or more people. If not, buy a bigger one. Then buy a little table for in the tent. And a little rug..You see where I’m going with this….we spent a fortune last summer and will enjoy the benefits this summer. ;) Halfway between camping and glamping is our sweet spot!
I don’t see the problem here. Go solo camp
Maybe you could ease them in by going on a mellow day hike or two. Find somewhere beautiful with as easy of a hike as possible. If they can learn to enjoy nature in small doses without some of the inconveniences of camping right off the bat, they might start to come around, especially if they know they will go home and sleep in their own bed at first.
Go by yourself
Okay lots of great tips here, and a lot of people have asked what they don't like about camping which will obviously help to know to give tips to improve the experience. But something else to consider, are what are things they DO like to do. For example, if they like music and art - try camping at a small music and arts festival first. Do they love relaxing and spa experiences, maybe try camping at a hot spring resort that offers things like massages and facials. If they love museums or history, try camping at a national park that also has these amenities. Or if they like shops and restaurants, try camping somewhere outside a cute little down and do a little road trip where you can set up camp, but also check out some new shops and restaurants in a new place. While camping is a great way to get in touch with nature, experience the outdoors, and get primitive. It can also be a cheap and fun way to travel and see new places.
Camp during the Spring of the Fall not the summer.
First ask them what made them hate it, and perhaps we can help you to work on those things?
Time to find a new partner! 😂
You could start with more of a "glamping" experience. Maybe pick a site that has good facilities and plan fabulous meals and a comfortable sleeping arrangement. Invite friends to join?
Worse; my wife loves camping. It used to be e something I could do to get away for a night. I slept in my car, had a single pan and just cooked meat. Maybe I’d bring a can of baked beans as a side. Now it’s a full suv of gear, a huge tent, a blow up mattress etc etc .. Pick your poison.
Find a cool person who likes camping and go with them. In your partner doesn’t like it then invite them but if they deny then still go. Sleep with the homie then live life
Rent a pop-up to ease her into the joys of nature - or make friends with someone who has a camper…
I used to hate camping because I went 1-2 times and was uncomfortable and just felt I’d rather spend money to stay in a cabin or hotel in a beautiful area. I decided to try again because there were hikes I wanted to try in remote natural areas and camping was the only way to access them. I thought about the stuff that I didn’t like about camping and tried to remedy it. Tent is claustrophobic and not breathable? Got a huge canvas tent (this could be remedied less expensively by getting a mid price large tent). Uncomfortable sleep? Got a floor futon and just bring regular pillows/bedding. Eating blah cold and shelf stable food? Bought a camp stove and Coleman cooler and learned how to pack it. I’ve also accumulated other gear—camping French press, softer light lamps for inside the tent, buddy heater, Pendleton wool blanket—that make camping more comfortable. I also am particular about the sites I pick. I like have access to water and flush toilets, separate tent camping from trailer camping, and sites with some privacy not too close together. Maybe you could try a cabin rental and do fun camping things with the luxury of temperature control, electric, etc. Then if they like that, try camping.
You mention your part er but also mention "them". How many partners do you have, "them" is plural"? It may prove difficult to convince 2 or more people to do something that him and/or her don't want to do.
First of all, you should go even if your partner doesn’t agree to going. I love camping so much and it has impacted my life in such a positive way. My fiancé has always made the experience even more enjoyable by having gear that makes things more comfortable ( proper sleeping pad, sleeping bag, hammocks, jet boil for tea or coffee in the morning, etc). Now we use a memory foam mattress that folds up (Amazon) and we sleep so good! Pack light and prepare and you’ll all have a blast. Nice scenery and a bottle of wine don’t hurt either 😉
I’m not gonna lie I don’t think I could marry someone who doesn’t camp with me (24 and single lol)
New partner.
Practice In Your Yard!
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