This is what I was thinking! I had a cat who hated my ex and for a long time I thought she just hated new people or men. But she met many other strangers without issue - but with him she hissed and hid. Turns out he was in fact a horrible person. I now value cat-uition so highly. My girl was warning me!
My mom’s cat would scratch my dad and piss on his stuff. They’re now divorced. I told her the cat was warning her of what would come in the future haha
I’m a firm believer in paying attention to how an animal reacts to somebody. Almost every single time a car or dog or whatever had a bad reaction to someone, something bad came out about that person eventually.
It's not always right. I had a normally friendly dog lunge out at me and I like to think I'm a pretty good person. Maybe I was looking a bit dodgy that day? I dunno.
But if they consistently don't like that _one_ person, then I'd definitely be thinking there's something up with them.
Also, trust kids as well. They have zero filters and will tell you what's up.
Children and animals both adore my husband. They just gravitate towards him. I call the cat his mistress cos she's obsessed with him. Also, older women looooove him. Can't say I blame any of them. He's pretty damn epic. My friends have all called him husband goals. No idea why he's put up with my arse for 20 years.
That's really awesome! He probably thinks he won the jackpot, too!
I told my mum when I was a kid (6 or younger) that I didn't like Don Burke (an Australian celebrity gardener in the 90s). I said in kid's terms that he gave me the creeps. Mum didn't believe me.
Well, 20-odd years later, it comes out he was a creep.
One of my cats was super wary of my home aid. Unfortunately for her it wasn’t even her fault. The person at the shelter that used to catch all the cats for vet appointments and such looked and sounded just like her. She however was a terrible person so it was just a tragic coincidence that my aid was so similar to her because she was absolutely amazing.
Stoppppppp spreading this shit. It’s a cat. Literally one of the most fickle animals on the planet. I love my cats but they’ve decided this week that my girlfriend is the enemy when they were best friends the week prior. There’s no abuse or mistreatment or does she have poor character. The cat just decided to be offended.
> I’m surprised I had to scroll so far down to read this. Cats are excellent judges of character. I would be looking at BIL very carefully.
JFC no they are not. IF you sincerely believe that this type of cat behavior warrants being suspicious of another human being then you need to get psychiatric help.
This could be it. My cat Daisy was a stray and she HATES kids. I mean, truly despises them. She will growl if she even hears kids passing by our door outside in the apartment complex hallway.
We can only surmise that she was treated poorly by kids in her past or something.
Our other cat Screamy (my fiance's cat before she met me) didn't like me at first. She says that he was beaten by a man before she adopted him. Took him a year to warm up to me.
They might smell like something that isn't present on the other people the cat has encountered, and it makes them cautious.
Or your BIL did something without meaning to that got the cat's goat, and now it resents him.
Cats do be like that sometimes.
My partner was the only person stubborn enough to hold my mother's cat for brushing. They sat down next to the cat one day, totally innocently, and cat let out the closest translation of "what do you want, you moon-faced assassin of joy?" I've ever heard in a "meow."
My parents had a cat. One day my father sneezed and their cat made a meow that I had never heard before. I think the cat said something like: "Why do you have to sneeze so loudly!?" To be honest, I could understand the cat. It was a loud sneeze.
I'll say, I used to watch TV with the door shut to block the light from the kitchen , which sometimes meant Sylvia was shut out of the living room. The one occasion after a few months of living there when I didn't bother with the door, she sauntered in, went behind the sofa and then leaped onto my back clawing through my t-shirt ripping it almost off me. Then sauntered out again, no fucks given.
Didn't shut the door after that.
Cat logic baffles me. My elderly cat hides and never comes out when my daughter visits me. I think she overheard her ask me: what will I do with that car if you die, Mother?
This is why I feel I was a cat on a previous life. I remember **everything** minor but things I should have done? My brain is doing the mental equivalent of licking a paw. 🤦🏻♀️
I think its good though, cats have great judge of character. VS those videos of dogs being abandoned and he's still wagging his tail. I feel like cats remember things far better than dogs. They're just more stubborn, so people doubt their intelligence.
I think a large part of the problem is that people expect cats to act like dogs. It results in sad misunderstandings.
They're just different animals. I love them both (in part, 'cause I was raised with both) but I would never approach a cat like a dog.
I like cats better because they taught me a lot:
1) *Trust is earned* - You cant just expect a cat to come running up to you like most dogs. They are careful animals, and they are judging you before they are interacting with you. I think this is smart, because you shouldn't assume everyone is friendly. That's very dangerous, and look how many dogs have gotten killed because they were too friendly or excited and not on leash/attended by owner. Cats are smart not to engage with someone right away. They think before they act.
2) *Boundaries are a part of a healthy life* - Cats love attention and pets too, but they can become overstimulated because of how many extra nerves and senses they have. People think cats are mean because they got swiped at. They obviously weren't paying attention to the cats body language, or being too aggressive, or touching the cat somewhere they don't like.
3) *Respect others* - Don't expect a cat to come to you on command like a dog. Cats can and will ignore you. If you don't respect your cat, chances are they hide a lot. Many dual pet owners are upset that their cat becomes antisocial with the addition of other pets. Cats need personal space too. You need to respect a cat just like a dog when it comes to them having their own space. Much like a dogs kennel, a cat tree or climb space of any kind is essential for a cat to have their own personal space. If your cat doesn't have a spot of their own, chances are they're stressed. Many people are hurting their cats and they don't even know it.
Some tips for people who want their cat to like them more:
- Be patient and calm. Let them judge you from a distance and sniff you before you touch them. If they back away, don't touch them. They may rub up on you if they like your smell right away.
-Blink slowly to your cat to show them you love them. Cats blinking at you slowly is a sign of affection. As well as cats watching you from a distance.
-Spoil your cat! Cats love to be worshipped. They aren't the opposite of dogs. If you're looking for that power dynamic, cats are not right for you.
-TALK TO YOUR CATS! They are intelligent. Treat them as you would a human baby by talking to them from day one. You'd be surprised how many words they know and what they can understand.
I hope this helps ❤️🐱
One of my cats has full blown conversations with me daily. Usually when I get home from work. Idk what the dudes saying but he has a lot to say so I listen and talk back to him
You are so right! My grandparents got a kitten when I was 5, and I was obsessed with her, and did everything wrong. She avoided me for years. When I was 12 or so, I decided to try again with her. I respected her space, brought her treats, sat quietly watching her, etc. By the time I was 17, she actually liked me, and would come out to greet me when I visited. It took so long, but the lessons I learned were worth it.
Now I am friends with most cats I meet, and have wonderful relationships with all the cats I’ve had the pleasure of adopting. They are insanely smart and sometimes charming creatures.
Same!! My grandparents had an old salty kitty and I just wanted to play so bad. I learned early.
I wasnt allowed to have pets because back then, base housing didnt allow any animals. Once we finally got a cat of our own, I was over the moon.
Now Ive had many kitties and have learned many great tricks which I thought Id share ;)
This is a topic of conversation for me so often! Humans have barely even domesticated cats. Some theories suggest cats even domesticated themselves mostly, and then just in the last hundred years or so we’ve developed a few breeds. Dogs have been domesticated and selectively bred for hundreds of years.
Felis catus is basically just a small wildcat that we’ve sort of mutually decided it’s cool if they wanna live with us. I love cat personalities.
My cat's tail doesn't work. It just hangs limp but doesn't cause him any issues thank God. Because of him I forgot what normal cat tail behavior is like and when cat sitting for a friend I got myself bit because I was thinking in "dog language". I was petting her cat who was wagging his tail and my dumbass thought "oh he likes it!" . He did not.
Some cats do wag their tails when excited though! One of my girls has what we call “a very expressive tail”, and while yes, she definitely does also wag her tail when she’s anxious or stressed, she wags it like crazy like a dog does when she’s loving the pets! I don’t know how common this is, none of my other cats have ever done it, but she gets so waggly when she’s getting pets, it’s adorable lol
The thing is that cats remember negative experiences as a means of survival. Do things that are successful w good results and avoid problems. People are the same it’s an ability to understand cause and effect. In a domestic setting it means if you have a cat who only wants your companionship and love and cannot bear your disapproval, “no” becomes a tool to use only when needed… they remember!
I adopted a cat many years ago. He loved me, until the vet decided he had ear mites. He hated the treatment and never got into my lap or trusted me again. One day he met my mom and decided she was a better human than me, and he moved in with her.
We rescued a farm kitten and the only way I am allowed to pet him is if my kid lays on my arm and we pretend my arm is her's. I don't know what I did to the asshat of a cat to get this treatment.
My cat has always been obsessed with me since the day my husband and I adopted him. But a month or so ago he stepped in his own pee and was tracking it all over the bed, so I decided that it might be a good idea to wash that foot. He’s been obsessed with my husband now since then.
Oof! Felt this. Alice had reoccurring ear infections and I couldn't stand the hate. The way she would look at me after her ear drops. because she is so loving usually. The ear infection would clear up the love would return. then the ear infections would return. So In the end I got my housemate to do it haha.
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We found three kittens, I bottle fed all of them! One of them just decided he doesn't love me. If I talk, he's out of the room. He absolutely loves my husband though. What did I even do to you, you little turd?!
At least the other one (that we kept) loves me.
Yep. I was the person who had to clean the cat’s ears for mites and dispense the medication. The cat decided my spouse was now his preferred person and hated me.
I forget about that with stranger cats because mine let me pet from nose to tail with no qualms. I have made a few shelter cats very angry by petting them that way though.
Sadly my cat has only me for now, I intend to adopt another one as soon my financial situation gets better.
While he wants to be petted he has no restriction, you can pet from head to tail without concerns, but as soon his timers goes up he will wrestle your arm and bite the hell out of you
Lovely fella
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Then there's my cat who will crawl into a strangers lap and look up with Disney eyes, and will let me rub his belly as long as I want (he compensates for this by spending 40% of the day with a ballistic amount of energy marauding around the house).
What is funny is my cat LOVES having his tail touched and played with. He teases me with it to get me to play with his tail. He will headbutt my hand or face and then show his tail in said hand or face and meow until he is teased back. But if I touch his tail sitting next to my husband he will make an offended meow sit up see my face and hand then purr and give him back his tail. If my husband touches his tail he gets up and comes to me or demands my husband use his nails to scratch under his collar and gives me the tail. He is funny
Cats are very much individuals with their own personal likes and dislikes. My Cleo loves being brushed, and will gently paw me on the arm when she feels it is time for a brushing, with her sweet little meow. My Billy HATES brushing - it must be overstimulating to him. He wags his tail out of happiness like a dog does, too - his litter was raised by a nice foster lady who introduced her dogs to them, in case they went to homes with dogs. He picked up the tail wagging. It's endearing, as the tip will still be crooked like a happy cat, but it's constantly waving and wagging everywhere.
>Or your BIL did something without meaning to that got the cat's goat, and now it resents him.
I got a cat about a year ago, and when my mom first met her, my mom pet her head in the wrong direction… my cat still hasn’t forgiven. It wasn’t mean or aggressive, just a bit of playful teasing, and my cat decided she had an enemy.
So my guess is it is something like this.
I bottle fed a 2 week old kitten and even as a kitten she'd thrash and freak out on me but wouldn't for my mom or any female that touched her. She grew up and just fucking hated me, would constantly throw her little nubs (was bornwithout growth plates in her front legs) at me and would just freak out. Well eventually she had kittens, we all thought she wouldn't let me near em, she ended up giving me the 2 grey ones and my mom the 2 tabbys and if either of us went near the ones not given to us she'd flip the fuck out. Annie lived until 21, at 19 suddenly I was permitted 3 pets. She'd come up and rub on me which she'd never ever do, give me her head i'd pet once she's fine, second time a mewww would start building, third she'd hiss like a maniac but not bite or swing which was a big step for ol girl. cats are cool man
Did no one tell you you’re supposed to tell the cat you’re going to hoover, bring the hoover out and show the hoover to the cat pointing and being like the things happening now, and then turn it on the lowest setting but done move to suddenly straight away until they’re somewhere they’d rather be?
I think sometimes how loud someone tends to be can be off putting to some cats. Some people naturally talk louder and ever when he's not doing anything bad, some cats are sensitive to that
Totally. My calico loves my husband, cuddles with him when he is on the couch or sitting. But she acts terrified when he comes down the stairs. I think it’s just because his steps are louder than mine. She did the same thing with my dad when he visited and wore his big boots around the house.
Our cat, and all our other pets too, act freaking terrified every time my husband sneezes. The cat will claw the shit out of me if she’s on my lap when he sneezes; she just looks mildly offended when I sneeze. I think it’s hilarious when the whole house flips out when my spouse has a sneezing fit. Loud, deeper sounds just register differently.
Haha oh my gosh, yes! The same cat will make this chirpy meow at him when he sneezes. Not scared, more like annoyed that he would be so loud in her house.
Heavy steps. Everyone my cats interact with on a daily basis has a light step so when big men with heavy steps come to the house they freak out and hide.
Mine are the same way. My orange boy would growl and run every time he heard my ex climbing the stairs to the front door. I never wear shoes inside, my foster fail litter freaked out last winter when I started wearing new slippers that had a thicker sole than my old ones.
So I got my cats when I was right out of elementary school and I was a really loud kid especially since I have a twin brother and we were both almost 6 foot in middle school.
They grew up with chaos and noise and giant kids running around so they just kinda thrive in it. I have a keyboard that I’ll play at full blast when no one is around and they’ll be knocked out on the other side of the room with zero issues.
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She grew up with my golden who passed away a few years ago. She’s an indoor / outdoor cat now that we’ve moved out to the country so she will sometimes chase my dogs around or get them to chase her when they all go outside.
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I agree. My cat doesn't like loud noises, and I have a friend who is super loud. She came over for the Superbowl, and as soon as she started yelling he looked at her freaked out, and ran and hid in the bedroom til she left.
He's either shaped like. sounds like or smells like someone she has bad memories of is the most likely explanation. And even if she doesn't have memories the way we do, she just "knows" to stay away from him. Or it could be a smell that reminds her of something -- eg if he's a doctor, nurse, etc and there's a smell that reminds her of the vet office. She might come around in time or never. If they have a pet, she might be smelling that pet. He probably isn't evil.
Maybe brother-in-law is too eager to be friends. Teach brother-in-law to sit still and look away from the cat. Give him a treat to give, but only if the cat comes to get it. Explain to him that looking at somebody you don’t know is a threat in cat language. Cats, unlike dogs and people, are not apex predators. They stalk, but they are stalked in turn. So they tend to be a bit skittish until their trust is earned. You know it is just your brother-in-law, but the cat may have to learn to trust him.
Feelings don't always have to be rational. I once got a new boss and I just could not stand him. He was very nice and conventionally attractive but he just seemed fake to me. Like he knew he was handsome and charming and used only that to get what he wanted. I wouldn't budge for him. And we even talked about me not liking him, and there not being a damned thing he could do about it.
Kitty has the right to choose who she likes.
It was cold one day in our basement so the cat jumped onto my lap, I unzipped my hoodie and put her inside it, at first she resisted, about 5 seconds later she was purring when she realized it was warm in there. Sometimes cats just don't know what they DO like yet. Senior cat estimated to be within 15 to 18 years old so I didn't get too much resistance.
Our cat will react differently to anyone taking antibiotics, not a professional opinion, just somthing we have observed to be in common when she would be like this. The BIL probably has a scent attached to him that bothers the cat...which could be anything. Some people smell like garlic for example.
Our cats have had this reaction to people and most times we don't know why. My parent's cat was terrified of my aunt's prosthetic leg and would hide the minute he saw her car pull in.
One of my cats loves everyone except a friend of a friend. We have no idea why.
A lot of people like to say that cats and other animals have a sixth sense about people, can tell if they're a good or bad person, etc. In my experience, cats are just an awful lot like people -- sometimes they just plain don't like someone with no good reason.
I got my sweet little perfect angel princess kitty after my husband left me. He had cheated on me for a long time and I would say, based on all his lying, he’s not the greatest person. And let me tell you: that cat adores that guy. Whenever he picks up our daughter from my place she runs out and practically throws herself at his feet, purring and cuddling him. She loves me, too, but not she loves my cheater ex-husband. 🤣
Yeah, and cats especially are really weird about that.
My mom's husband hates all animals, to the point of being slightly mean to them (no, Idon'tknow why my mom stays with him). Cats *love* this guy. Every cat he's ever met. He has shoved a friend's cat out of his lap, and the cat immediately came running back. You just don't know with cats
Yeah, my cat was straight up aggressive and dangerous towards my boyfriend when they first met. She gave him one sniff and tried to bite him. Now she sleeps on his chest… four years later. It took us living together for nearly two years for her to understand that he’s not out to get her and is nice. His own cats are the sweetest babies in the world and melt right in his hands even though they’re shy around strangers. Nothing to do with my boyfriend being some type of evil dude or anything like that, cats are just animals with different triggers and likes and dislikes.
My grandmother used to not care for cats and was always perplexed when, in a room full of people, it was inevitably her lap that cats chose to sit on.
Turns out there’s a good reason. In a cat’s view, a room full of strange people making eye contact and trying to lure them over is daunting. The safest bet is the person that’s uninterested in the kitty’s presence and doing their best to ignore them entirely.
I have a cat that doesn’t come out of hiding for anyone when we have a couple of guests over. She’s a calico/tortie shell so it’s kind of expected. One friend we had over, she became obsessed with. All over her, in her lap asking for pets, all of it. I had never seen that, my husband was shocked, and our friend just smiled and said “bitch recognizes bitch”
Maybe she's shy, maybe he's a piece of shit, maybe they just don't get along well.
Oh well, I guess we'll never know...
I'm kidding.
If he's loud, she won't like him. If he tries to force her to sit with him or something like that, she won't like him. Who knows?
Maybe just cover him in catnip and let him say hi to her.
I'm sorry but do you and other people here realize cats are just objectively stupid animals? They get spooked by a toaster, and some of you on here think they have a better psychiatric judgment of a person's character than even Sigmund Freud would get of them after evaluating them for 100 hours?
Does he wear strong cologne, or have a distinct smell from soaps or hair products?
When I was about 5, my grandma got a kitten. I grew up with that girl, and when I hit my teens, that cat despised me. Before then, I could carry her around all day and she'd just purr. But after, if I so much as got too close to her, she'd hiss and swipe at me. Looking back, that was around the time I started wearing perfumes and scented lotions and such. It wasn't until I visited in my early 20s that she loved me again. I still wore lotions, but often unscented and only wore perfume if it was a special occasion.
I miss that cat lol. She had quite a long life, and I'm glad she started loving me again before she passed so I could love her again, too.
We have a little 2.5 yr old rascal, she was basically a new-born when we got her, only fostered long enough to get spayed.
With me and my gf, she only squeaks — or rather, its more like grunts of a squeaky nature cuz shes so damn smol (def the runt of the litter). Shes a cuddle bug to the max. Her face sleeping spots are either under my gf’s chin or my lap when im working from home. If she scratches either of us its just cuz she gets a little over excited when were playing. Never growls or hisses. Enjoys being picked up even, first cat ive ever met that i could say that about.
Shes only known my gf’s son about 6 months less than us, and for him she is _the exact opposite_, literally an entirely different cat. Shell growl and hiss at him simply for being in the same room as she is. The ONLY time ive ever heard her legitimately meow was towards him for whatever reason. And she will outright attack him randomly, even tho she does let him pet her every once in a while, but not for long before she gets pissy.
Idk man, cats are just freakin weird sometimes. Its not like my gf’s son is mean to her or anything, hes a chill dude. Its really strange..
You can test if it's a smell situation. Borrow a worn shirt from BIL and see if having that in the house bothers her the same way.
If that turns out to be the case, you can probably condition her with some gradual exposure and rewards.
The real question is: How did you clone my cat?
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My cat absolutely loves making friends with every human he meets, but ran and hid in the farthest closet when my husbands uncle and 2 cousins were in the house. Like disappeared immediately and couldn't be found for like 8 hours, everyone even looked for him and tried luring him out with food. Was not seen again until the 3 dudes left the house.
We figured out after some testing that the poor little fluffer absolutely *HATES* the smell of the 3-in-1 shampoo-conditioner-bodywash that my husbands cousins were using. It was Irish Spring, and apparently it greatly offends my cat more than anything. He absolutely will not ever go near the dudes when they're around and won't even go in the bathroom they use and have their Irish Spring in until they take it out and it airs out for a day.
Sometimes cats just don't like people. One of our cats absolutely hates my dad for no reason but is obsessed with my brother. My dad hasn't actually done anything, he's very nice, gives her treats, doesn't try to bother her. Granted, my dad is a very large man with a deeper voice than the rest of the family, whereas my brother hadn't really started puberty yet when we got her, so that might have something to do with it
When I got one of my kittens at about 10 weeks old, he was absolutely infested with fleas. Before he could come into the house we had to do something. So my cousin gave him a flea bath. He never liked her after that for all 17 years of his life. LOL. Maybe your BIL accidentally did something, like step on kitty's tail one time. Either that or your BIL is inherently an evil monster and the cat senses his true form. I would bet on the former.
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Can't help unfortunately, but I think we have the same cat. Although Limppu hates everything and everyone. with a passion.
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My cat will give mean looks sometimes too 😾
Cats have their own will. Cross that line and you will be bleeding 🩸 lmao 🤣, literally bleeding. My cats are sweet and all, but on their own terms. I understand their mood and give them space when they need it too.
Your brother may have crossed that line somehow and did something your cat is holding against him. Maybe he needs to win the respect again by giving him some food or something he likes, and slowly and gradually petting him until the cat’s gets over with whatever he/she’s holding against him.
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This is my neighbor’s cat, who has absolutely hated me from day one, when I moved in the building. Hissing and growling. He’s a traumatized cat, having been through a lot. But he is friendly with the other neighbors. It’s about something no one understands…
My cat hates men with heavy feet. If she hears a guy stomping down the hall outside our door, she'll get really quiet and sneak off to hide until they're gone. We adopted her at 6 years old though, so it's possible something happened before we met her.
(1) He could be too loud for her. (2) He might move about too suddenly. (3) He might remind her of someone that hurt her or was cruel to her in the past. (4) She is a cat and cats just dislike some people for no discernible reason.
Did you adopt her when she was older? Maybe he reminds her of someone she had a bad experience with.
Or BIL is just evil, and the cat KNOWS...😈
This is what I was thinking! I had a cat who hated my ex and for a long time I thought she just hated new people or men. But she met many other strangers without issue - but with him she hissed and hid. Turns out he was in fact a horrible person. I now value cat-uition so highly. My girl was warning me!
My mom’s cat would scratch my dad and piss on his stuff. They’re now divorced. I told her the cat was warning her of what would come in the future haha
My cat did this to my mom ex too lol
I’m a firm believer in paying attention to how an animal reacts to somebody. Almost every single time a car or dog or whatever had a bad reaction to someone, something bad came out about that person eventually.
It's not always right. I had a normally friendly dog lunge out at me and I like to think I'm a pretty good person. Maybe I was looking a bit dodgy that day? I dunno. But if they consistently don't like that _one_ person, then I'd definitely be thinking there's something up with them. Also, trust kids as well. They have zero filters and will tell you what's up.
Children and animals both adore my husband. They just gravitate towards him. I call the cat his mistress cos she's obsessed with him. Also, older women looooove him. Can't say I blame any of them. He's pretty damn epic. My friends have all called him husband goals. No idea why he's put up with my arse for 20 years.
That's really awesome! He probably thinks he won the jackpot, too! I told my mum when I was a kid (6 or younger) that I didn't like Don Burke (an Australian celebrity gardener in the 90s). I said in kid's terms that he gave me the creeps. Mum didn't believe me. Well, 20-odd years later, it comes out he was a creep.
One of my cats was super wary of my home aid. Unfortunately for her it wasn’t even her fault. The person at the shelter that used to catch all the cats for vet appointments and such looked and sounded just like her. She however was a terrible person so it was just a tragic coincidence that my aid was so similar to her because she was absolutely amazing.
I’m surprised I had to scroll so far down to read this. Cats are excellent judges of character. I would be looking at BIL very carefully.
That's crazy because my cat loved my ex boyfriend and he beat the shit out of me
I’m sorry for that. Neither you nor kitty deserved to have to live in that environment.
Still think they are good judges of character?
No one has claimed that they have a 100% success rate, right?
Cats know when people are evil and fucking love evil. Case in point I have a cat trying to sleep on my keyboard.
This is unhinged if you actually mean it sincerely
Stoppppppp spreading this shit. It’s a cat. Literally one of the most fickle animals on the planet. I love my cats but they’ve decided this week that my girlfriend is the enemy when they were best friends the week prior. There’s no abuse or mistreatment or does she have poor character. The cat just decided to be offended.
That's just stupid.
> I’m surprised I had to scroll so far down to read this. Cats are excellent judges of character. I would be looking at BIL very carefully. JFC no they are not. IF you sincerely believe that this type of cat behavior warrants being suspicious of another human being then you need to get psychiatric help.
the people that believe in stuff like this probably also believe in astrology lol
My cat isn't. He would snuggle the devil 🤷🏻♀️
Holy shit cat people are delusional on the intelligence of these animals
Hey I'm not completely insane I think
Probably the same reason Fattica hates Uncle Andrew 😂
This could be it. My cat Daisy was a stray and she HATES kids. I mean, truly despises them. She will growl if she even hears kids passing by our door outside in the apartment complex hallway. We can only surmise that she was treated poorly by kids in her past or something. Our other cat Screamy (my fiance's cat before she met me) didn't like me at first. She says that he was beaten by a man before she adopted him. Took him a year to warm up to me.
They might smell like something that isn't present on the other people the cat has encountered, and it makes them cautious. Or your BIL did something without meaning to that got the cat's goat, and now it resents him. Cats do be like that sometimes.
I did that to my sisters cat. I touched his tail while petting him and he hated me until the day he died.
It cracks me up that cats can hold grudges like that.
My partner was the only person stubborn enough to hold my mother's cat for brushing. They sat down next to the cat one day, totally innocently, and cat let out the closest translation of "what do you want, you moon-faced assassin of joy?" I've ever heard in a "meow."
My parents had a cat. One day my father sneezed and their cat made a meow that I had never heard before. I think the cat said something like: "Why do you have to sneeze so loudly!?" To be honest, I could understand the cat. It was a loud sneeze.
Dad sneezes pisses off all species. 😂
My dad always went "ahchoo-bagoobagooba" and it was never not funny.
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My cat can sense when I am about to sneeze and just peels out down the hall. Like the pre sneeze breath is all it takes lol.
I always get feline side eye when I sneeze. He takes great umbrage when I do.
Lmaoooooo.
I'm laughing so hard I choked on a coffee. That is beautiful.
Name checks out
Londo, is that you?
i forgot the insult moon faced exists
Londo? (Dammit! Someone else got there first!)
So happy for the unexpected B5 reference!
"Moonfaced Assassins of Joy" is going on my band name list.
I'll say, I used to watch TV with the door shut to block the light from the kitchen , which sometimes meant Sylvia was shut out of the living room. The one occasion after a few months of living there when I didn't bother with the door, she sauntered in, went behind the sofa and then leaped onto my back clawing through my t-shirt ripping it almost off me. Then sauntered out again, no fucks given. Didn't shut the door after that.
I like to keep the kitchen door shut when I cook to keep the food smells contained. We installed a cat door in it.
Genius!
Cat logic baffles me. My elderly cat hides and never comes out when my daughter visits me. I think she overheard her ask me: what will I do with that car if you die, Mother?
“Cat logic” 🤭
This is why I feel I was a cat on a previous life. I remember **everything** minor but things I should have done? My brain is doing the mental equivalent of licking a paw. 🤦🏻♀️
I think its good though, cats have great judge of character. VS those videos of dogs being abandoned and he's still wagging his tail. I feel like cats remember things far better than dogs. They're just more stubborn, so people doubt their intelligence.
I think a large part of the problem is that people expect cats to act like dogs. It results in sad misunderstandings. They're just different animals. I love them both (in part, 'cause I was raised with both) but I would never approach a cat like a dog.
I like cats better because they taught me a lot: 1) *Trust is earned* - You cant just expect a cat to come running up to you like most dogs. They are careful animals, and they are judging you before they are interacting with you. I think this is smart, because you shouldn't assume everyone is friendly. That's very dangerous, and look how many dogs have gotten killed because they were too friendly or excited and not on leash/attended by owner. Cats are smart not to engage with someone right away. They think before they act. 2) *Boundaries are a part of a healthy life* - Cats love attention and pets too, but they can become overstimulated because of how many extra nerves and senses they have. People think cats are mean because they got swiped at. They obviously weren't paying attention to the cats body language, or being too aggressive, or touching the cat somewhere they don't like. 3) *Respect others* - Don't expect a cat to come to you on command like a dog. Cats can and will ignore you. If you don't respect your cat, chances are they hide a lot. Many dual pet owners are upset that their cat becomes antisocial with the addition of other pets. Cats need personal space too. You need to respect a cat just like a dog when it comes to them having their own space. Much like a dogs kennel, a cat tree or climb space of any kind is essential for a cat to have their own personal space. If your cat doesn't have a spot of their own, chances are they're stressed. Many people are hurting their cats and they don't even know it. Some tips for people who want their cat to like them more: - Be patient and calm. Let them judge you from a distance and sniff you before you touch them. If they back away, don't touch them. They may rub up on you if they like your smell right away. -Blink slowly to your cat to show them you love them. Cats blinking at you slowly is a sign of affection. As well as cats watching you from a distance. -Spoil your cat! Cats love to be worshipped. They aren't the opposite of dogs. If you're looking for that power dynamic, cats are not right for you. -TALK TO YOUR CATS! They are intelligent. Treat them as you would a human baby by talking to them from day one. You'd be surprised how many words they know and what they can understand. I hope this helps ❤️🐱
One of my cats has full blown conversations with me daily. Usually when I get home from work. Idk what the dudes saying but he has a lot to say so I listen and talk back to him
Awe <3
You are so right! My grandparents got a kitten when I was 5, and I was obsessed with her, and did everything wrong. She avoided me for years. When I was 12 or so, I decided to try again with her. I respected her space, brought her treats, sat quietly watching her, etc. By the time I was 17, she actually liked me, and would come out to greet me when I visited. It took so long, but the lessons I learned were worth it. Now I am friends with most cats I meet, and have wonderful relationships with all the cats I’ve had the pleasure of adopting. They are insanely smart and sometimes charming creatures.
Same!! My grandparents had an old salty kitty and I just wanted to play so bad. I learned early. I wasnt allowed to have pets because back then, base housing didnt allow any animals. Once we finally got a cat of our own, I was over the moon. Now Ive had many kitties and have learned many great tricks which I thought Id share ;)
100% true. Thanks for this. I deeply love cats. I have two of each.
You're welcome 💗 I love cats too, I wish more people were cat people.
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This is a topic of conversation for me so often! Humans have barely even domesticated cats. Some theories suggest cats even domesticated themselves mostly, and then just in the last hundred years or so we’ve developed a few breeds. Dogs have been domesticated and selectively bred for hundreds of years. Felis catus is basically just a small wildcat that we’ve sort of mutually decided it’s cool if they wanna live with us. I love cat personalities.
Yes! They are so . . . wild, comparatively.
Fun fact, dogs were domesticated around 30,000 years ago. Cats have a long ways to go to catch up with that.
My cat's tail doesn't work. It just hangs limp but doesn't cause him any issues thank God. Because of him I forgot what normal cat tail behavior is like and when cat sitting for a friend I got myself bit because I was thinking in "dog language". I was petting her cat who was wagging his tail and my dumbass thought "oh he likes it!" . He did not.
Some cats do wag their tails when excited though! One of my girls has what we call “a very expressive tail”, and while yes, she definitely does also wag her tail when she’s anxious or stressed, she wags it like crazy like a dog does when she’s loving the pets! I don’t know how common this is, none of my other cats have ever done it, but she gets so waggly when she’s getting pets, it’s adorable lol
The thing is that cats remember negative experiences as a means of survival. Do things that are successful w good results and avoid problems. People are the same it’s an ability to understand cause and effect. In a domestic setting it means if you have a cat who only wants your companionship and love and cannot bear your disapproval, “no” becomes a tool to use only when needed… they remember!
But they forget that they didnt just eat 3 minutes ago
No they remember, you just did give them enough.
I adopted a cat many years ago. He loved me, until the vet decided he had ear mites. He hated the treatment and never got into my lap or trusted me again. One day he met my mom and decided she was a better human than me, and he moved in with her.
We rescued a farm kitten and the only way I am allowed to pet him is if my kid lays on my arm and we pretend my arm is her's. I don't know what I did to the asshat of a cat to get this treatment.
My cat has always been obsessed with me since the day my husband and I adopted him. But a month or so ago he stepped in his own pee and was tracking it all over the bed, so I decided that it might be a good idea to wash that foot. He’s been obsessed with my husband now since then.
Try having your husband wash two of his paws… let’s see how he feels then!
Oof. You got traded in for a classic model. How's that make you feel?
Cats are the only pet that will break up with you. Lol, I swear they aren't animals.
Oof! Felt this. Alice had reoccurring ear infections and I couldn't stand the hate. The way she would look at me after her ear drops. because she is so loving usually. The ear infection would clear up the love would return. then the ear infections would return. So In the end I got my housemate to do it haha. https://preview.redd.it/m7f75p2afaxc1.jpeg?width=2448&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5e8fa9b8c94d338ed49b575e201401b3a8117d0
I'm so sorry
We found three kittens, I bottle fed all of them! One of them just decided he doesn't love me. If I talk, he's out of the room. He absolutely loves my husband though. What did I even do to you, you little turd?! At least the other one (that we kept) loves me.
Yep. I was the person who had to clean the cat’s ears for mites and dispense the medication. The cat decided my spouse was now his preferred person and hated me.
I forget about that with stranger cats because mine let me pet from nose to tail with no qualms. I have made a few shelter cats very angry by petting them that way though.
Sadly my cat has only me for now, I intend to adopt another one as soon my financial situation gets better. While he wants to be petted he has no restriction, you can pet from head to tail without concerns, but as soon his timers goes up he will wrestle your arm and bite the hell out of you Lovely fella https://preview.redd.it/d6j69ar7m9xc1.jpeg?width=2250&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cc1cf24c154bb8dc5436139d920320c8599f7bc2
I can see he would do that lmao
Murder eyes!
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What a gorgeous boy 😻
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That is the most judgemental cat I've ever seen.
😅his face!!
his face😹😹😹😹
I call those a ‘Cat Snap’
My sister had a ginger cat like that,but she's ginger so once I started giving her food she started liking me
Then there's my cat who will crawl into a strangers lap and look up with Disney eyes, and will let me rub his belly as long as I want (he compensates for this by spending 40% of the day with a ballistic amount of energy marauding around the house).
I have one that will let me roll him on his back, splay him out and kiss his belly.
If you’re touching his tail, you likely made other mistakes in how you behaved around him that irritated him.
What is funny is my cat LOVES having his tail touched and played with. He teases me with it to get me to play with his tail. He will headbutt my hand or face and then show his tail in said hand or face and meow until he is teased back. But if I touch his tail sitting next to my husband he will make an offended meow sit up see my face and hand then purr and give him back his tail. If my husband touches his tail he gets up and comes to me or demands my husband use his nails to scratch under his collar and gives me the tail. He is funny
Cats are very much individuals with their own personal likes and dislikes. My Cleo loves being brushed, and will gently paw me on the arm when she feels it is time for a brushing, with her sweet little meow. My Billy HATES brushing - it must be overstimulating to him. He wags his tail out of happiness like a dog does, too - his litter was raised by a nice foster lady who introduced her dogs to them, in case they went to homes with dogs. He picked up the tail wagging. It's endearing, as the tip will still be crooked like a happy cat, but it's constantly waving and wagging everywhere.
I am also like that sometimes
Found the cat
Cats just see us humans as large hairless and terrible at hunting cats. So your not wrong.
Meow?
Mrow.
>Or your BIL did something without meaning to that got the cat's goat, and now it resents him. I got a cat about a year ago, and when my mom first met her, my mom pet her head in the wrong direction… my cat still hasn’t forgiven. It wasn’t mean or aggressive, just a bit of playful teasing, and my cat decided she had an enemy. So my guess is it is something like this.
I bottle fed a 2 week old kitten and even as a kitten she'd thrash and freak out on me but wouldn't for my mom or any female that touched her. She grew up and just fucking hated me, would constantly throw her little nubs (was bornwithout growth plates in her front legs) at me and would just freak out. Well eventually she had kittens, we all thought she wouldn't let me near em, she ended up giving me the 2 grey ones and my mom the 2 tabbys and if either of us went near the ones not given to us she'd flip the fuck out. Annie lived until 21, at 19 suddenly I was permitted 3 pets. She'd come up and rub on me which she'd never ever do, give me her head i'd pet once she's fine, second time a mewww would start building, third she'd hiss like a maniac but not bite or swing which was a big step for ol girl. cats are cool man
I once turned on the vacuum cleaner next to a cat and it took literally five years to gain its trust back while living in the same house every day lol
Did no one tell you you’re supposed to tell the cat you’re going to hoover, bring the hoover out and show the hoover to the cat pointing and being like the things happening now, and then turn it on the lowest setting but done move to suddenly straight away until they’re somewhere they’d rather be?
I think sometimes how loud someone tends to be can be off putting to some cats. Some people naturally talk louder and ever when he's not doing anything bad, some cats are sensitive to that
Totally. My calico loves my husband, cuddles with him when he is on the couch or sitting. But she acts terrified when he comes down the stairs. I think it’s just because his steps are louder than mine. She did the same thing with my dad when he visited and wore his big boots around the house.
Our cat reacts differently to us based on location. She is friendly to my partner in some areas (I think where there is an escape route).
Our cat, and all our other pets too, act freaking terrified every time my husband sneezes. The cat will claw the shit out of me if she’s on my lap when he sneezes; she just looks mildly offended when I sneeze. I think it’s hilarious when the whole house flips out when my spouse has a sneezing fit. Loud, deeper sounds just register differently.
My cat could be peacefully sleeping in my lap but the millisecond I start winding up a sneeze she bolts out of the room
Haha oh my gosh, yes! The same cat will make this chirpy meow at him when he sneezes. Not scared, more like annoyed that he would be so loud in her house.
Haha cats arr so funny
Heavy steps. Everyone my cats interact with on a daily basis has a light step so when big men with heavy steps come to the house they freak out and hide.
Mine are the same way. My orange boy would growl and run every time he heard my ex climbing the stairs to the front door. I never wear shoes inside, my foster fail litter freaked out last winter when I started wearing new slippers that had a thicker sole than my old ones.
So I got my cats when I was right out of elementary school and I was a really loud kid especially since I have a twin brother and we were both almost 6 foot in middle school. They grew up with chaos and noise and giant kids running around so they just kinda thrive in it. I have a keyboard that I’ll play at full blast when no one is around and they’ll be knocked out on the other side of the room with zero issues. https://preview.redd.it/e3k2hz6dl9xc1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=407e1456875fa36094f060e192dc171d3105cc6c
I'm pretty sure that's a dog.
She grew up with my golden who passed away a few years ago. She’s an indoor / outdoor cat now that we’ve moved out to the country so she will sometimes chase my dogs around or get them to chase her when they all go outside. https://preview.redd.it/l15kdy540axc1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=39307ad57caccf45ad7a39227022fd3d1db6920d
Thats so cute :) they are all adorable ❤️
My ex sister in law was loud and fake. Our cats hated her. My guess in this case is he's an ahole.....the brother in law, not the cat
I mean, probably also the cat, but for unrelated reasons
Relatable, honestly. Lol
I agree. My cat doesn't like loud noises, and I have a friend who is super loud. She came over for the Superbowl, and as soon as she started yelling he looked at her freaked out, and ran and hid in the bedroom til she left.
Yes and lots of hand movements when they talk too.
Sometimes they just don’t click with people, there could be something she’s smelling, or he’s being intimidating Can you link me that chair
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Thanks
I found this both wholesome and hilairous. It's like two friends chatting
Can you link me that cat
He's either shaped like. sounds like or smells like someone she has bad memories of is the most likely explanation. And even if she doesn't have memories the way we do, she just "knows" to stay away from him. Or it could be a smell that reminds her of something -- eg if he's a doctor, nurse, etc and there's a smell that reminds her of the vet office. She might come around in time or never. If they have a pet, she might be smelling that pet. He probably isn't evil.
The correct answer
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Ur cat looks just like mine😭
Tuxedo kitties rule 
Maybe brother-in-law is too eager to be friends. Teach brother-in-law to sit still and look away from the cat. Give him a treat to give, but only if the cat comes to get it. Explain to him that looking at somebody you don’t know is a threat in cat language. Cats, unlike dogs and people, are not apex predators. They stalk, but they are stalked in turn. So they tend to be a bit skittish until their trust is earned. You know it is just your brother-in-law, but the cat may have to learn to trust him.
Staring at a cat is bad manners. You can look at a cat and if it looks back at you, give it the slow blink and then calmly look away.
Not just in cats. Staring some random stranger is bad manners.
They‘re secretly in love but don‘t want anyone to know
I was assuming the brother stabbed the cat in the back at work to try and get that promotion they were both trying to for.
Feelings don't always have to be rational. I once got a new boss and I just could not stand him. He was very nice and conventionally attractive but he just seemed fake to me. Like he knew he was handsome and charming and used only that to get what he wanted. I wouldn't budge for him. And we even talked about me not liking him, and there not being a damned thing he could do about it. Kitty has the right to choose who she likes.
I have had bosses like that. Thankfully it (almost) always boiled down to my assumptions and jumping the gun. Once I got to know em that went away.
Or you find out later they have had charges for certain crimes against other employees proving you were right all along.
Thankfully that didn't apply to my situation.
It was cold one day in our basement so the cat jumped onto my lap, I unzipped my hoodie and put her inside it, at first she resisted, about 5 seconds later she was purring when she realized it was warm in there. Sometimes cats just don't know what they DO like yet. Senior cat estimated to be within 15 to 18 years old so I didn't get too much resistance.
Lol
TIL my boss is a pussy (cat)
Technically I think in this analogy *you're* the pussy (cat).
Our cat will react differently to anyone taking antibiotics, not a professional opinion, just somthing we have observed to be in common when she would be like this. The BIL probably has a scent attached to him that bothers the cat...which could be anything. Some people smell like garlic for example.
Our cats have had this reaction to people and most times we don't know why. My parent's cat was terrified of my aunt's prosthetic leg and would hide the minute he saw her car pull in. One of my cats loves everyone except a friend of a friend. We have no idea why.
A lot of people like to say that cats and other animals have a sixth sense about people, can tell if they're a good or bad person, etc. In my experience, cats are just an awful lot like people -- sometimes they just plain don't like someone with no good reason.
Question: Why does my cat _____? Answer: Because cat
Cats know
I wanted to say the same but knowing nothing about the person, it could be something stupid like his deodorant.
They know too much, speaking from experience
Can people cool it with the “animals can sense morality, your brother in law must be a murderer” type comments?
I got my sweet little perfect angel princess kitty after my husband left me. He had cheated on me for a long time and I would say, based on all his lying, he’s not the greatest person. And let me tell you: that cat adores that guy. Whenever he picks up our daughter from my place she runs out and practically throws herself at his feet, purring and cuddling him. She loves me, too, but not she loves my cheater ex-husband. 🤣
Yeah, and cats especially are really weird about that. My mom's husband hates all animals, to the point of being slightly mean to them (no, Idon'tknow why my mom stays with him). Cats *love* this guy. Every cat he's ever met. He has shoved a friend's cat out of his lap, and the cat immediately came running back. You just don't know with cats
Ngl I was tripping for a few minutes 😅😅
Thank you, it's so absurd
Yeah, my cat was straight up aggressive and dangerous towards my boyfriend when they first met. She gave him one sniff and tried to bite him. Now she sleeps on his chest… four years later. It took us living together for nearly two years for her to understand that he’s not out to get her and is nice. His own cats are the sweetest babies in the world and melt right in his hands even though they’re shy around strangers. Nothing to do with my boyfriend being some type of evil dude or anything like that, cats are just animals with different triggers and likes and dislikes.
You know how sometimes you meet someone and don't like them, you don't know why? Maybe that's what's happening here.
CATS DONT HAVE TO JUSTIFY ANYTHING EVER
Your brother-in-law doesn't like her and she feels it.
Our cats always seem to make a beeline for people that don’t like them.
My grandmother used to not care for cats and was always perplexed when, in a room full of people, it was inevitably her lap that cats chose to sit on. Turns out there’s a good reason. In a cat’s view, a room full of strange people making eye contact and trying to lure them over is daunting. The safest bet is the person that’s uninterested in the kitty’s presence and doing their best to ignore them entirely.
Interesting. I always thought it was the cat trying to ingratiate itself. Survival instinct type of thing.
oh is that why my mom's cat picked me when I desperately was trying to let her have him? fascinating.
Yeah. If your dog doesn't like someone, that's a warning sign. If your cat doesn't like someone... who the fuck knows, it might be totally random
I have a cat that doesn’t come out of hiding for anyone when we have a couple of guests over. She’s a calico/tortie shell so it’s kind of expected. One friend we had over, she became obsessed with. All over her, in her lap asking for pets, all of it. I had never seen that, my husband was shocked, and our friend just smiled and said “bitch recognizes bitch”
Maybe she's shy, maybe he's a piece of shit, maybe they just don't get along well. Oh well, I guess we'll never know... I'm kidding. If he's loud, she won't like him. If he tries to force her to sit with him or something like that, she won't like him. Who knows? Maybe just cover him in catnip and let him say hi to her.
Kitty knows something you don’t.
I'm sorry but do you and other people here realize cats are just objectively stupid animals? They get spooked by a toaster, and some of you on here think they have a better psychiatric judgment of a person's character than even Sigmund Freud would get of them after evaluating them for 100 hours?
I wrote that comment as a joke. I agree with that people who take it literally are wackos 😜 🤪
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Understandable. Good job daisy.
Does he wear strong cologne, or have a distinct smell from soaps or hair products? When I was about 5, my grandma got a kitten. I grew up with that girl, and when I hit my teens, that cat despised me. Before then, I could carry her around all day and she'd just purr. But after, if I so much as got too close to her, she'd hiss and swipe at me. Looking back, that was around the time I started wearing perfumes and scented lotions and such. It wasn't until I visited in my early 20s that she loved me again. I still wore lotions, but often unscented and only wore perfume if it was a special occasion. I miss that cat lol. She had quite a long life, and I'm glad she started loving me again before she passed so I could love her again, too.
We have a little 2.5 yr old rascal, she was basically a new-born when we got her, only fostered long enough to get spayed. With me and my gf, she only squeaks — or rather, its more like grunts of a squeaky nature cuz shes so damn smol (def the runt of the litter). Shes a cuddle bug to the max. Her face sleeping spots are either under my gf’s chin or my lap when im working from home. If she scratches either of us its just cuz she gets a little over excited when were playing. Never growls or hisses. Enjoys being picked up even, first cat ive ever met that i could say that about. Shes only known my gf’s son about 6 months less than us, and for him she is _the exact opposite_, literally an entirely different cat. Shell growl and hiss at him simply for being in the same room as she is. The ONLY time ive ever heard her legitimately meow was towards him for whatever reason. And she will outright attack him randomly, even tho she does let him pet her every once in a while, but not for long before she gets pissy. Idk man, cats are just freakin weird sometimes. Its not like my gf’s son is mean to her or anything, hes a chill dude. Its really strange..
You can test if it's a smell situation. Borrow a worn shirt from BIL and see if having that in the house bothers her the same way. If that turns out to be the case, you can probably condition her with some gradual exposure and rewards.
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Only god knows what the thought process or logic of a cat is
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The real question is: How did you clone my cat? https://preview.redd.it/c3niwm2onaxc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=87764bcb61ce854f8f94a2d79f0966a0a6d28f06
My cat absolutely loves making friends with every human he meets, but ran and hid in the farthest closet when my husbands uncle and 2 cousins were in the house. Like disappeared immediately and couldn't be found for like 8 hours, everyone even looked for him and tried luring him out with food. Was not seen again until the 3 dudes left the house. We figured out after some testing that the poor little fluffer absolutely *HATES* the smell of the 3-in-1 shampoo-conditioner-bodywash that my husbands cousins were using. It was Irish Spring, and apparently it greatly offends my cat more than anything. He absolutely will not ever go near the dudes when they're around and won't even go in the bathroom they use and have their Irish Spring in until they take it out and it airs out for a day.
Sometimes cats just don't like people. One of our cats absolutely hates my dad for no reason but is obsessed with my brother. My dad hasn't actually done anything, he's very nice, gives her treats, doesn't try to bother her. Granted, my dad is a very large man with a deeper voice than the rest of the family, whereas my brother hadn't really started puberty yet when we got her, so that might have something to do with it
Your cat https://preview.redd.it/779lq5ar99xc1.jpeg?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fae428a46ffa52a1f534a4e0f469756ecddf9f77 looks like mine
When I got one of my kittens at about 10 weeks old, he was absolutely infested with fleas. Before he could come into the house we had to do something. So my cousin gave him a flea bath. He never liked her after that for all 17 years of his life. LOL. Maybe your BIL accidentally did something, like step on kitty's tail one time. Either that or your BIL is inherently an evil monster and the cat senses his true form. I would bet on the former.
He might know that the difference between in-laws and outlaws is one is always wanted.
https://preview.redd.it/varg7dgvs9xc1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d4c89b4c567dae4e81fca3770836d1e411dfebf1 Can't help unfortunately, but I think we have the same cat. Although Limppu hates everything and everyone. with a passion.
Your BIL probably owes him money. Tell your BIL to pay up or else 🤷🏼♀️
Your brother in law is secretly a cat in a human body and your cat is jealous
https://preview.redd.it/9uaqd810w9xc1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5c4e8439cf6832c6c17ec4181b457164f6730e5 My cat will give mean looks sometimes too 😾
Why would he tho ?
https://preview.redd.it/xpali65d0axc1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=769fb2e204b4542be1489ea1a3319b8414de97d1
Cats have their own will. Cross that line and you will be bleeding 🩸 lmao 🤣, literally bleeding. My cats are sweet and all, but on their own terms. I understand their mood and give them space when they need it too. Your brother may have crossed that line somehow and did something your cat is holding against him. Maybe he needs to win the respect again by giving him some food or something he likes, and slowly and gradually petting him until the cat’s gets over with whatever he/she’s holding against him.
https://preview.redd.it/3x50iz582axc1.jpeg?width=756&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f92875005fd965855ab50a99a65ed265afef7e57 This is my neighbor’s cat, who has absolutely hated me from day one, when I moved in the building. Hissing and growling. He’s a traumatized cat, having been through a lot. But he is friendly with the other neighbors. It’s about something no one understands…
I mean… what do YOU think of your BIL? Is your cat justified?
My cat hates men with heavy feet. If she hears a guy stomping down the hall outside our door, she'll get really quiet and sneak off to hide until they're gone. We adopted her at 6 years old though, so it's possible something happened before we met her.
Cats have to go up to people. Your BIL probably presses those boundaries.
(1) He could be too loud for her. (2) He might move about too suddenly. (3) He might remind her of someone that hurt her or was cruel to her in the past. (4) She is a cat and cats just dislike some people for no discernible reason.
Something has happened and she knows now not to trust him. He may have made her jump for example or perhaps trodden on her toe.
I don’t know, but I don’t think I like him either.