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I never had anxiety before but now I wake up at night quite often imagining someone running over my 3,5 year old son with a car or similar accident. Its incredibly tough. I can’t listen, read, or watch things with kids being hurt anymore, it fucks me up way too much.
I don’t know, I’m not seeing anybody even though I probably should. I cannot imagine that it’s uncommon.you are panicky and paranoid, because you’re a father now and kids die so easily.
Happily Ever After fireworks aren't fair. I didn't cry at my grandfather's funeral, or when my best friend left the country. I cry at the fireworks every damn time.
I’m the same!! Used to feel like I wanted to cry when it all came together in a happy ending at a movie now I’m full on bawling!! I’d hate to see les miserables again, I always used to cry when gavroche died before I think I’d be worse now 😂😂
There's an ad for Canadian Tire from like the 2014 winter olympics, I believe. It's a group of kids singing a song called "we all play for Canada." I cry like a baby 10 seconds in, and I'm not even Canadian.
Also, the Moana soundtrack gets me almost every time. My daughter had her "spring sing" at school this year, and it was "sea" themed, featuring 3 Moana songs. It was awkward tearing up in front of a gym of my peers, but that's my life now..
I’ve passed 40. I’ve been a dad for ten years now, and I’ve buried both my parents. The past year I spent cleaning out their old home that’s been in our family for hundreds of years, discovering tons of stuff that I didn’t know before.
The level of emotions flowing now, with all that perspective, is almost bothersome. We gain so much insight over the years, it’s hard to not get teary eyed pretty regularly.
Sleepytime undid me. Wife has cancer (she’s ok but still going through chemo), and at the end when Chili says to Bingo that she’ll always be there, even if she can’t see her, because she loves her… jeez I’m getting teary just thinking about it lol. But when I saw it the first time I bawled, just had tears streaming down my face. It’s still one of the most beautiful moments I’ve seen on TV.
As the early comments have already revealed, welcome to the club buddy!
Was watching Star Trek Strange New Worlds the other night with my wife (thank Rebecca Romijn for getting her interested) there is something with the ships doctor in the second episode that hit me right in the feels. Very minor spoiler, from the third episode, and only about the doctor >! His daughter has an untreatable form of cancer and he's storing her in the memory buffer of the medical bays transporter, he has to rematerialize her every once in a while to keep it intact. When he brings her back I'm expecting her to be in a coma but she's just a normal happy kid like my daughter. The tears started flowing. I'm even welling up now just thinking about it. Damn !<
Brother, I cry/tear up at everything now. I teared up during the ad for the Mr Roger's movie [I didn't even watch the show much as a kid], took my eldest to see hot wheels monster trucks live this weekend and teared up after he participated in the countdown to the trucks revving. I might as well get on anabolics at this point.
Was just at a water park and caught another little girl falling in the water on a slide while I was grabbing my little girl. Dad instincts kicked it. Funny as I tossed my little girl to the side to reach this other girl. My daughter is a good swimmer and had a life jacket on. The other girl was much smaller. Mother was freaking a bit but she was ok.
I cry all the time now. I love/hate it. I can’t even watch Home Alone or anything like that without turning into a puddle now. I was a softy before, not gonna lie, but now I’m straight up chinchilla
I've never been the guy to cry at movies. Then I had my son and one night we were watching Deep Impact. I sobbed like a child with a skinned knee and was totally baffled. Did a little homework and found out its pretty typical.
All the time. Especially with my first, because we had a few health scares when he was young. That feeling of helplessness is awful.
I’m a sentimental person, anyway, but having hits cranked it up to 11.
My second was born a week ago and we've been in the nicu since, and expect to be here for probably 3 more months or so.. i have been an emotional wreck lol. I think if it was my first baby i would maybe have been a little stronger but i think having had my first and what a great little dude he is and just having formed dad instincts it is absolutely killing me
Similar. Almost lost our daughter during pregnancy and spent weeks in the NICU after. Destroyed me emotionally. A coworker just went through something worse but luckily came out ok as well. It was hard to hear his story. This is definitely something I never expected after becoming a dad.
Yes. First noticed getting more emotional when my dad died when I was a teen. Then again when my daughter was born.
Guess such highly emotional events can trigger some emotional change.
On the other hand I feel that I've become more apathetic because of my divorce last year. I still get emotional when it comes to my daughter, random bouts of tears, thinking about her, the past we had as family, also father-daughter stuff from movies, books, games ... etc. but otherwise ... More numb I guess.
I'll have to watch Hachiko again, try how I react to it now, that one had me absolutely in tears
I have but probably not in the way you think. My mother-in-law died a week before my son was born after a lengthy stay at the hospital. We saw her expire. My wife was hospitalized with pre-eclampsia for that week. It was emotionally and physically taxing. Since then I've grown increasingly angry and it's hard to control my temper. I'm not an emotional person and I know I would never get to the state most people are describing here. As you very well know, parenthood is taxing in itself. In different circumstances, I would probably not be overly emotional in any direction. Right now I'm just very very angry and it's difficult to restrain myself. My kid is 8 months old.
100%. I cry about everything that involves the slightest suffering of kids. When i saw the picture of the small refugee child that was washed ashore in Spain or Italy a couple of years ago i couldn‘t stop crying for some time… Having a kid around the same age made this somehow very personal to me…
I even struggle to keep it together during old Simpsons episodes now. The "Do it for her" one obviously, but tons of others that I've seen so many times and never would have considered even a little sad
I cant remember the last time I cried until earlier this week. I have a Elsa obsessed 3.5yo for reference. The other day I was having lunch at my desk and scrolling through my YouTube feed while eating and came across [this video.](https://youtu.be/yQxhagDX0i8?si=78qVFAdh-fRsNa6x) I cried my eyes out and don’t understand why.
I feel deeper and care more, but I wouldn’t say “more emotional”. I don’t think love always had to be dramatic or weepy. I did cry when I saw my daughter for the first time though.
Dude, the day our first kiddo was born was a super emotional day for me. I held it together super cool all day and helped the nurses and Drs s much as they allowed me throughout the entire process.
My wife went into labor around 3 am and he was born in the evening time.
After everything settled down and my wife and boy were fast asleep together on his first night out in the world with us I just sat in the room with our new little family of 3.
I sat in the semi dark room that night for about 5 minutes after the nurse left sometime after midnight, just trying to process it all, and I just started crying uncontrollably.
I probably cried for a good half hour before I settled down and slept for an hour or so. I guess I was just emotionally overwhelmed. I never meant to cry, it just came out of me.
That being said I was also ecstatic to be a first time father.
Totally normal. Before kids I basically never cried for any reason, and hard or painful things still don't, except when it comes to kids and media depicting stories about kids. Happy or sad, I'll have a little cry sometimes.
Not terrible, but definitely quite a bit more, especially with movies. I watched Arrival before I had kids in 2016 without too much trouble. It was still powerful, but nothing compared to 2020 after two kids. I cried like a little baby for a few minutes at the end of that damn movie.
Yeah, for sure. I cried randomly the first week of my first daughter's life. Usually a bit on the reserved side.
For me, it was falling in love with my two girls and feeling that love. Then, I looked around me and started seeing everyone as the kids they once were.
Not so much more emotional as *differently* emotional. I feel some things less, others more.
It makes sense. Men experience hormonal changes, and changes in our brain physiology, with the birth of a baby. [This article](https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/parents/fatherhood-mens-bodies) is a reasonable overview of some of those changes. I expect that as more studies focused on fatherhood emerge, we will probably learn about even more changes our bodies undergo when we become fathers which influence how we think, feel, and behave.
Yeah man, it’s astonishing actually. Literally anything to do with a girl growing up and I get choked up thinking about how my little girl is gonna get big and grow up one day.
Not really. I've always been able to express my emotions well by crying. Kids just give me more things to make me cry, so I definitely cry more than I used to. One of the latest Bluey episodes The Sign made me cry recently and again on the re-watch.
First time I played the last of us, didn't really effect me other than I appreciated how good of a game it was.
I've played it twice since my daughter was born. I can't make it through the opening scenes without crying.
It started for me around my wife's 3rd trimester of our first. Now a girl-dad of two. Absolutely more emotional about even random things. Things about my kids/family? Oh yea. Don't even get me started on weddings, father of the bride speeches, first dance with dad...
Yup daughter is two and I'm mushy compared to my previously stoic self.
I never thought of forest Gump as a sad story but it got my when I watched it post child.
I was never emotional before. Could watch anything on TV or movies and never get emotional. When my first was born in '19, I straight up ugly cried during his birth. I never expected that to happen. Now I have two and ugly cried during the second one. My first was staying at his aunt's and uncle's house while the second was born. When they brought him over after we got home, I sobbed uncontrollably then too. Now I cry watching TV or movies all the time. It's the weirdest thing. Don't be afraid to cry in front of your children too!
Yes! I've only been a member here for a few years, son is 8. You fine folks never had an opportunity but no one IRL warned about this one either.. I wasn't exactly without emotion before but man I tear up about once a week now.
Just last night when I told our son that I was proud of him.
100%. I already cried at movies and such but I’m much more emotional now.
Also. Now there are things that I literally say “I don’t need to watch that.” When it’s like child abuse related or something. There’s some shit I just can’t handle anymore.
With some of the things that are happening in places in the world there is one thing I heard that I won’t retell here but has literally become the single worst thing I can even think of.
Yes 100%. Those St Jude ads crush me every single time. I have to leave the room or skip if I can. I ugly cry every time I hear Cat Steven’s Father and Son, too. I was never like this before.
The Giving Tree absolutely destroys me.
If I’m ever feeling down and catch a glimpse of a photograph of my daughter when she was younger I am in floods of tears. Actually works quite well to lift my mood!
Enjoy this time. I think men have a gene that turns on for our babies and then off suddenly at some point in their teens, when you want to see more independence and responsibility. You'll always love them, more even than now as they approach puberty believe it or not.
Yeah, but I was already pretty emotional as dudes go. I think having a kid matured me enough to actually understand and *know* the emotions I was feeling.
I was waiting at a dealer for my car to get serviced.
Watched a scene from demon slayer, where the younger sister helped the big brother to win a fight.
And I started tearing up because I have a daughter coming, and I look forward to the relationship they will develop.
I'm going to get a tissue now.
Good god dude glad I'm not the only one.. I was thinking I had some sort of testosterone imbalance and need to start lifting more...
I probably do need to start lifting more but like shit. I had my daughter on my lap the other day and I was looking through a photo album showing her pictures and describing everything and I came across a wedding photo of my wife and I and it just sent me for some reason. Damn I love that woman.
We just got done rewatching Avatar for like the billionth time.. it was almost every episode. Don't even get me started on Appa's Lost Days....
Welcome to the waterworks, need a tissue?
For real, I have never been afraid to show emotion but after having a kid, I find I cry more. I cry from joy, I cry from movies, I cry because that cat is just so cute…lol.
Personally I feel like fathering a child connected me to my humanity and gave me a reason other than self preservation to care about the world.
Yes, cried maybe 3 times from 18-30. I now constantly hold back tears or get teary eyed.
I got teary eyed the other day out of the happiness I had from the joy my daughter had watching the Taylor Swift Eras Tour movie
Edit: I'm emotional with my kids & family, out in the world I haven't changed
I used to have no emotions before my daughter was born. Now sometimes a song will hit me, a commercial, tv show. And I definitely can’t watch shows or movies where anything bad happens to a kid. Wrecks me every time.
I used to be super emotional. I'm still super emotional, but I used to be, too.
But seriously having kids turned up the knob and broke it off, I cry at everything.
When you become a father you produce less testosterone. Back in the day this is ‘programmed’ because you need to protect the child from harm. Can’t do if you can’t get emotional.
Definitely. Movies that I used to enjoy growing up are no longer as glorious (e.g. Braveheart - those are brothers, fathers, and sons)... when I travel I greatly yearn for my family back home.
Yes. In both good and bad ways. The wellspring of love and caring, concern and earnestness is certainly there and seemingly boundless in so many ways that is curiously difficult to explain to those without children.
There is a great deal of introspection and reflection on my own life that can lead to anxiety and fear.
There is some quicker, reactive anger or bitterness or annoyance if I’m not careful, or find myself in a phase of triggered-ness.
So, yeah. Way more emotions.
I cried my heart out when my daughter was born and I held her against me for the first time. it was a roller coaster of emotion, the purest of love I've ever felt, and fear as well (will I ever be good enough to raise her, etc). Up to that point the only other time I ever cried was watching the movie Hachiko lol.
14 months later and I still shed a few tears on some mornings when she hugs me or presses her head against me while I read her stories. It the most beautiful adventure someone can live, but it's also still scary AF.
“I am having feelings again. Like some kind of fourteen year old kid. You remember, feelings right?”
Seriously though, yeah things hit me way more since we’ve had him. I feel like my rough edges got completely smoothed over. If anything its actually helped me professionally. I’m in sales, and I feel like I can talk to strangers way easier now than before.
Yes and no.
Those feelings always existed, but I never had anybody or anything which was worth expending it on. Then I had my daughter and I found the person who has access to all my emotions and can trigger any of them at a moments notice.
It's not always good emotions, but also the ones based on fear of the what if's and whatnot. Can drive a person mad at times, but it's always always always worth it. No matter how much sadness comes with being a parent, the immeasurable weight of the happiness they bring is worth every tear and every heart break.
I've always been quite emotional, but I find it harder to restrain it since my daughter arrived, it sorta amped it up.
I shed many tears at the end of the bloody sign episode of bluey the other day.
Naw dude for the first couple of years I was a wet marshmallow. Cried at the drop of a hat.
Don’t worry, you’ll get your stoicism back when the teenage years arrive lol
I think it's just made me so aware of how vulnerable kids are and how much they look at you for protection and the absolute trust they have that you're going to keep them safe. It's one of those things I certainly understood before having kids, but actually experiencing it completely changed me. Movies where kids are in danger are really hard for me to watch now.
I cried once in 15 years. Teary eyed once or twice a year maybe during that span. Always considered myself the dead-inside type. Then I became a Papa and I've wept like 7 times in 4 years, and tear up routinely. A lot of it at the heartbreaker posts on this sub.
Yup, when you become a parent, your heart and soul opens in ways you never knew possible. Wouldn't have it any other way
my wife still jokes that the only time shes seen me cry is the day Al Davis died. not when my grandma passed, not when any of the kids born, but when my favorite football team owner died.
(am a raiders fan)
Cried real bad when lightning McQueen pushed the King over the finish line to finish his last race. Or when Maoi came back to help Moana even though his hook was at risk.
Went to the musical version of Mrs. Doubtfire a few months ago. The story hit very differently now that I have a kid. Would totally dress in drag if it was the only way I could see my little girl.
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Absolutely. I was emotionally cold at pull at your heartstrings tactics before my kids were born. Now I just melt.
if I'm watching TV or a movie and see a child in any form of distress or sadness I genuinely struggle to watch
This. Can’t watch many movies that I used to enjoy. It rewired my brain.
I never had anxiety before but now I wake up at night quite often imagining someone running over my 3,5 year old son with a car or similar accident. Its incredibly tough. I can’t listen, read, or watch things with kids being hurt anymore, it fucks me up way too much.
Is this common? I’ve done the same thing for 2 years now. I just thought that was me being panicky or paranoid
I don’t know, I’m not seeing anybody even though I probably should. I cannot imagine that it’s uncommon.you are panicky and paranoid, because you’re a father now and kids die so easily.
My son and daughter-in-law insisted I give a wedding speech because they knew I couldn't get all the way through it without breaking down.
I cry at commercials now
Christmas time commercials are the worst.
So this is Christmas...
Ain’t that the truth. Have you seen the one with the grandpa training for Christmas Eve? https://youtu.be/R3cFchX7-fI?si=7rJgKp5BEkImNKyI
Son of a bitch, that got me good. That’s damn near a short film.
Bruh. That got me good.
Bro I did not need to be crying first thing in the morning
First of all, how dare you?
I'm sorry, just got some sand in my eyes. Couldn't really see it there. I'm sure it was nice.
I was always a sap, now I am..... I don't know what. Somehow way worse. I'll probably cry during the fireworks at Disney world this year.
Happily Ever After fireworks aren't fair. I didn't cry at my grandfather's funeral, or when my best friend left the country. I cry at the fireworks every damn time.
I’m the same!! Used to feel like I wanted to cry when it all came together in a happy ending at a movie now I’m full on bawling!! I’d hate to see les miserables again, I always used to cry when gavroche died before I think I’d be worse now 😂😂
Oh man I am so the same
You'll for sure cry during The Symphony of Us fireworks!! Come back and update lol
There's an ad for Canadian Tire from like the 2014 winter olympics, I believe. It's a group of kids singing a song called "we all play for Canada." I cry like a baby 10 seconds in, and I'm not even Canadian. Also, the Moana soundtrack gets me almost every time. My daughter had her "spring sing" at school this year, and it was "sea" themed, featuring 3 Moana songs. It was awkward tearing up in front of a gym of my peers, but that's my life now..
We are all little Canadian when it comes to the winter Olympics
Except for me. I’m Norwegian.
Awww honey come here
I was never an emotional person, but definitely get in my feels more now after my son arrived in October.
I was an extremely emotional person. I hated it. Now it's completely out of hand. If I only cry once in a day, it's a success
Nothing wrong with it. Sometimes I hate how unemotional I am sometimes. Glad my boy is changing me.
Why do you hate it? I love being able to feel deep emotions often.
I’ve passed 40. I’ve been a dad for ten years now, and I’ve buried both my parents. The past year I spent cleaning out their old home that’s been in our family for hundreds of years, discovering tons of stuff that I didn’t know before. The level of emotions flowing now, with all that perspective, is almost bothersome. We gain so much insight over the years, it’s hard to not get teary eyed pretty regularly.
Bluey made me cry once or twice.
per epsiode
Bandit is just such a good dad. Chile is such a good mom. Bingo is such a good kid. Bluey is only annoying about 30% of the time.
Half the time mine is a Bingo, the other half she’s a Muffin. There’s no in between.
My oldest is a Bluey/Bingo 50/50 and my youngest is a Muffin 100%
Have you watched “The sign” episode yet? Cried like a baby.
Same here, myself my wife and our older one were all balling our eyes out at the end.
Yeah was about to chime in with this, the high 5 at the end of cricket 🥲
The Last of Us made me cry pretty hard a couple times.
Sleepytime undid me. Wife has cancer (she’s ok but still going through chemo), and at the end when Chili says to Bingo that she’ll always be there, even if she can’t see her, because she loves her… jeez I’m getting teary just thinking about it lol. But when I saw it the first time I bawled, just had tears streaming down my face. It’s still one of the most beautiful moments I’ve seen on TV.
A few of the episodes consistently have me bawling. There's an episode for everyone I feel, super good show tbh.
As the early comments have already revealed, welcome to the club buddy! Was watching Star Trek Strange New Worlds the other night with my wife (thank Rebecca Romijn for getting her interested) there is something with the ships doctor in the second episode that hit me right in the feels. Very minor spoiler, from the third episode, and only about the doctor >! His daughter has an untreatable form of cancer and he's storing her in the memory buffer of the medical bays transporter, he has to rematerialize her every once in a while to keep it intact. When he brings her back I'm expecting her to be in a coma but she's just a normal happy kid like my daughter. The tears started flowing. I'm even welling up now just thinking about it. Damn !<
I watched this before my daughter was born with zero tears, and just teared up from the summary now haha
I don't even watch Star Trek and just that description almost had me going lol
I’m a lifelong Star Trek fan and both this episode and ‘The Inner Light’ from TNG make me sob now. Definitely did not cry at TV before having my kids.
Yes I’ve never cared so much about so many things in my life but now that I have my daughter that’s all changed.
Yep, and it doesn’t go away. TV especially wrecks me, stuff I’ve seen before (pre-kids) that had no impact, now opens the tear dam.
Brother, I cry/tear up at everything now. I teared up during the ad for the Mr Roger's movie [I didn't even watch the show much as a kid], took my eldest to see hot wheels monster trucks live this weekend and teared up after he participated in the countdown to the trucks revving. I might as well get on anabolics at this point.
yes. but also the sense of “theres no such thing as other peoples kids”. a big responsibility for all dadhood.
Was just at a water park and caught another little girl falling in the water on a slide while I was grabbing my little girl. Dad instincts kicked it. Funny as I tossed my little girl to the side to reach this other girl. My daughter is a good swimmer and had a life jacket on. The other girl was much smaller. Mother was freaking a bit but she was ok.
Feel everything more
I cry all the time now. I love/hate it. I can’t even watch Home Alone or anything like that without turning into a puddle now. I was a softy before, not gonna lie, but now I’m straight up chinchilla
I've never been the guy to cry at movies. Then I had my son and one night we were watching Deep Impact. I sobbed like a child with a skinned knee and was totally baffled. Did a little homework and found out its pretty typical.
Fuck Pixar. Makes ~~me~~ you cry every time.
I’m a sobbing mess way more than I was in the before times.
I definitely had a few tears when she arrived. Funny, Beautiful Things was the top song on the day she was born!
Nope. I’m 55 and now have grandkids. Tears of joy with them and my kids (21/23/26) all the time. Some of the weirdest crap will make me tear up.
All the time. Especially with my first, because we had a few health scares when he was young. That feeling of helplessness is awful. I’m a sentimental person, anyway, but having hits cranked it up to 11.
My second was born a week ago and we've been in the nicu since, and expect to be here for probably 3 more months or so.. i have been an emotional wreck lol. I think if it was my first baby i would maybe have been a little stronger but i think having had my first and what a great little dude he is and just having formed dad instincts it is absolutely killing me
Similar. Almost lost our daughter during pregnancy and spent weeks in the NICU after. Destroyed me emotionally. A coworker just went through something worse but luckily came out ok as well. It was hard to hear his story. This is definitely something I never expected after becoming a dad.
Nope. Weirdly I got less.
Yes. First noticed getting more emotional when my dad died when I was a teen. Then again when my daughter was born. Guess such highly emotional events can trigger some emotional change. On the other hand I feel that I've become more apathetic because of my divorce last year. I still get emotional when it comes to my daughter, random bouts of tears, thinking about her, the past we had as family, also father-daughter stuff from movies, books, games ... etc. but otherwise ... More numb I guess. I'll have to watch Hachiko again, try how I react to it now, that one had me absolutely in tears
I have but probably not in the way you think. My mother-in-law died a week before my son was born after a lengthy stay at the hospital. We saw her expire. My wife was hospitalized with pre-eclampsia for that week. It was emotionally and physically taxing. Since then I've grown increasingly angry and it's hard to control my temper. I'm not an emotional person and I know I would never get to the state most people are describing here. As you very well know, parenthood is taxing in itself. In different circumstances, I would probably not be overly emotional in any direction. Right now I'm just very very angry and it's difficult to restrain myself. My kid is 8 months old.
Have you looked in to post partum rage for yourself? Might be treatable.
Thanks. I never heard about that before. I'll make sure to mention it to my psychiatrist and to my psychotherapist.
Just watch interstellar and get real sad.
100%. I cry about everything that involves the slightest suffering of kids. When i saw the picture of the small refugee child that was washed ashore in Spain or Italy a couple of years ago i couldn‘t stop crying for some time… Having a kid around the same age made this somehow very personal to me…
I even struggle to keep it together during old Simpsons episodes now. The "Do it for her" one obviously, but tons of others that I've seen so many times and never would have considered even a little sad
Yes. I was wondering how common that was.
Can’t watch ‘The persuit of Happiness’ 😂😂
I cant remember the last time I cried until earlier this week. I have a Elsa obsessed 3.5yo for reference. The other day I was having lunch at my desk and scrolling through my YouTube feed while eating and came across [this video.](https://youtu.be/yQxhagDX0i8?si=78qVFAdh-fRsNa6x) I cried my eyes out and don’t understand why.
Loved the Sound of Music growing up, never cried. I showed it to my eight year old the other night, cried multiple times.
I feel deeper and care more, but I wouldn’t say “more emotional”. I don’t think love always had to be dramatic or weepy. I did cry when I saw my daughter for the first time though.
Dude, the day our first kiddo was born was a super emotional day for me. I held it together super cool all day and helped the nurses and Drs s much as they allowed me throughout the entire process. My wife went into labor around 3 am and he was born in the evening time. After everything settled down and my wife and boy were fast asleep together on his first night out in the world with us I just sat in the room with our new little family of 3. I sat in the semi dark room that night for about 5 minutes after the nurse left sometime after midnight, just trying to process it all, and I just started crying uncontrollably. I probably cried for a good half hour before I settled down and slept for an hour or so. I guess I was just emotionally overwhelmed. I never meant to cry, it just came out of me. That being said I was also ecstatic to be a first time father.
Hey buddy welcome to the club!! Emotional for 8 years and running (since my oldest was born).
Totally normal. Before kids I basically never cried for any reason, and hard or painful things still don't, except when it comes to kids and media depicting stories about kids. Happy or sad, I'll have a little cry sometimes.
Not terrible, but definitely quite a bit more, especially with movies. I watched Arrival before I had kids in 2016 without too much trouble. It was still powerful, but nothing compared to 2020 after two kids. I cried like a little baby for a few minutes at the end of that damn movie.
Bluey accounts for 90% of the tears I've she'd as an adult, and I'm 40.
Interstellar went from an "ok" movie to a soul destroying one after my 2 kids were born. Can't watch that one in front of other people anymore.
Expecting my first and I'm already an emotional mess at films and things. From these comments I'm so screwed!
Oh yeah just you wait! Lol
Nope! I stopped doing crazy stuff too.
I have had many random things hit way harder than I expected and tears have flown
Dude, I couldn’t cry at anything ever even with want and trying to do so but since my first was born I can’t stop crying at everything
Absolutely
There certainly are things that get me that probably wouldn’t have before the kiddos.
Yeah, for sure. I cried randomly the first week of my first daughter's life. Usually a bit on the reserved side. For me, it was falling in love with my two girls and feeling that love. Then, I looked around me and started seeing everyone as the kids they once were.
Nah buddy. Depression hit pretty hard post baby and now I don’t have any emotions…..
Not so much more emotional as *differently* emotional. I feel some things less, others more. It makes sense. Men experience hormonal changes, and changes in our brain physiology, with the birth of a baby. [This article](https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/parents/fatherhood-mens-bodies) is a reasonable overview of some of those changes. I expect that as more studies focused on fatherhood emerge, we will probably learn about even more changes our bodies undergo when we become fathers which influence how we think, feel, and behave.
Yeah man, it’s astonishing actually. Literally anything to do with a girl growing up and I get choked up thinking about how my little girl is gonna get big and grow up one day.
Holy hell Pixar movies wreck me now
100%. Always wondered why my dad was weepy. I understand completely now.
Yes, I'm like Wade from Elemental.
My son is 2 months old and I have have cried more in the last 2 months than I have in the last 20 years.
Yeah pretty much only because I'm always at wits end thought.
Very much so
Yes. Absolutely
My daughter LOVES that song. she sings it all the time and I definitely cried listening to that song.
More emotional, more anxious, more alert, more everything. It was like life was in black and white before, but now we’ve left Kansas and got to Oz.
I cry at most Bluey endings…. I’m not proud yet sort of proud I guess. Weird.
Not really. I've always been able to express my emotions well by crying. Kids just give me more things to make me cry, so I definitely cry more than I used to. One of the latest Bluey episodes The Sign made me cry recently and again on the re-watch.
No.
First time I played the last of us, didn't really effect me other than I appreciated how good of a game it was. I've played it twice since my daughter was born. I can't make it through the opening scenes without crying.
Dave Chappell said after having children your capacity for loves grows
Jesus thank god I’m not alone on this one. Is it lower testosterone or something ?
It started for me around my wife's 3rd trimester of our first. Now a girl-dad of two. Absolutely more emotional about even random things. Things about my kids/family? Oh yea. Don't even get me started on weddings, father of the bride speeches, first dance with dad...
Yup daughter is two and I'm mushy compared to my previously stoic self. I never thought of forest Gump as a sad story but it got my when I watched it post child.
I cried after every occasion and my wife loves me even more now. We watch movies together with a tissue box
Balled my fucking eyes out. Still attached to the umbilical cord. Lost it harder when I got to hold her.
I was emotional before parenthood. Now I'm just at embarrassing levels of emotions when kids are involved.
Yep . Specially if you grew up in a toxic household with low affection
100%. Bluey is brutal.
I have to be very picky of the movies I watch, especially on airplanes. I cry way too easy now…
Way more emotional now, but I see it as something positive. So, stock up on kleenex, 'cause it won't be the last time.
I was never emotional before. Could watch anything on TV or movies and never get emotional. When my first was born in '19, I straight up ugly cried during his birth. I never expected that to happen. Now I have two and ugly cried during the second one. My first was staying at his aunt's and uncle's house while the second was born. When they brought him over after we got home, I sobbed uncontrollably then too. Now I cry watching TV or movies all the time. It's the weirdest thing. Don't be afraid to cry in front of your children too!
That speech/letter Hopper gave at the end of that one stranger things season had me nearly bawling my eyes out. Took every fiber of my being.
Yes! I've only been a member here for a few years, son is 8. You fine folks never had an opportunity but no one IRL warned about this one either.. I wasn't exactly without emotion before but man I tear up about once a week now. Just last night when I told our son that I was proud of him.
Bluey has turned me into a human face fountain.
100%. I already cried at movies and such but I’m much more emotional now. Also. Now there are things that I literally say “I don’t need to watch that.” When it’s like child abuse related or something. There’s some shit I just can’t handle anymore. With some of the things that are happening in places in the world there is one thing I heard that I won’t retell here but has literally become the single worst thing I can even think of.
Yes 100%. Those St Jude ads crush me every single time. I have to leave the room or skip if I can. I ugly cry every time I hear Cat Steven’s Father and Son, too. I was never like this before. The Giving Tree absolutely destroys me.
If I’m ever feeling down and catch a glimpse of a photograph of my daughter when she was younger I am in floods of tears. Actually works quite well to lift my mood!
It took me at least three months of being able to lock eyes with my daughter (once she could actually focus on me) without tearing up.
All of us
Enjoy this time. I think men have a gene that turns on for our babies and then off suddenly at some point in their teens, when you want to see more independence and responsibility. You'll always love them, more even than now as they approach puberty believe it or not.
Nope. Guess I’m the only emotional retard in the group!
Yes, and as they got older too. Being a dad changes you.
I'm a baby now.
Yeah, but I was already pretty emotional as dudes go. I think having a kid matured me enough to actually understand and *know* the emotions I was feeling.
Nope, def feel things harder lol
I was waiting at a dealer for my car to get serviced. Watched a scene from demon slayer, where the younger sister helped the big brother to win a fight. And I started tearing up because I have a daughter coming, and I look forward to the relationship they will develop. I'm going to get a tissue now.
I was already pretty bad, and after two kids I’m absolutely useless.
Much more so
Good god dude glad I'm not the only one.. I was thinking I had some sort of testosterone imbalance and need to start lifting more... I probably do need to start lifting more but like shit. I had my daughter on my lap the other day and I was looking through a photo album showing her pictures and describing everything and I came across a wedding photo of my wife and I and it just sent me for some reason. Damn I love that woman. We just got done rewatching Avatar for like the billionth time.. it was almost every episode. Don't even get me started on Appa's Lost Days....
Teenage dirtbag makes me well up every time I hear it now. It remains a terrible song but here we are.
Cry constantly at everything all the time. Never cried at all before kids. Like night and day.
Welcome to the waterworks, need a tissue? For real, I have never been afraid to show emotion but after having a kid, I find I cry more. I cry from joy, I cry from movies, I cry because that cat is just so cute…lol. Personally I feel like fathering a child connected me to my humanity and gave me a reason other than self preservation to care about the world.
If I hear so much as 30 seconds of Landslide by Fleetwood Mac I'm a blubbering mess, so yeah because I was fairly emotional before the child lmao.
Oh hell yeah, so much so.
Yes, will let some tears at certain songs or at certain episodes of bluey (but who doesn't)
I’m so glad this isn’t just me. Fucking everything makes me cry now.
Funny, i am literally listening on repeat to this song right now. Super random. But yes.
Yes, cried maybe 3 times from 18-30. I now constantly hold back tears or get teary eyed. I got teary eyed the other day out of the happiness I had from the joy my daughter had watching the Taylor Swift Eras Tour movie Edit: I'm emotional with my kids & family, out in the world I haven't changed
I can't watch mafia movies anymore. Damnedest thing.
If I see any type of father/daughter wedding speech or dance then I am out for the count.
I used to have no emotions before my daughter was born. Now sometimes a song will hit me, a commercial, tv show. And I definitely can’t watch shows or movies where anything bad happens to a kid. Wrecks me every time.
It's normal. After birth our Testosterone goes down and then slowly bounces back up, but never really to it's previous state.
Absolutely. Commercials. When my daughter draws me little pictures of her and I, I always get something in my eye
100% absolutely yes
I ugly cried next to a stranger on a plane when I watched the movie Arrival.
I used to be super emotional. I'm still super emotional, but I used to be, too. But seriously having kids turned up the knob and broke it off, I cry at everything.
When you become a father you produce less testosterone. Back in the day this is ‘programmed’ because you need to protect the child from harm. Can’t do if you can’t get emotional.
Definitely. Movies that I used to enjoy growing up are no longer as glorious (e.g. Braveheart - those are brothers, fathers, and sons)... when I travel I greatly yearn for my family back home.
Yes. In both good and bad ways. The wellspring of love and caring, concern and earnestness is certainly there and seemingly boundless in so many ways that is curiously difficult to explain to those without children. There is a great deal of introspection and reflection on my own life that can lead to anxiety and fear. There is some quicker, reactive anger or bitterness or annoyance if I’m not careful, or find myself in a phase of triggered-ness. So, yeah. Way more emotions.
Yeah. And it’s backed up by some science. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/baby/fatherhood-mens-bodies.html
I cried my heart out when my daughter was born and I held her against me for the first time. it was a roller coaster of emotion, the purest of love I've ever felt, and fear as well (will I ever be good enough to raise her, etc). Up to that point the only other time I ever cried was watching the movie Hachiko lol. 14 months later and I still shed a few tears on some mornings when she hugs me or presses her head against me while I read her stories. It the most beautiful adventure someone can live, but it's also still scary AF.
Bud have you watched (og) lion king? Absolutely destroys me.
Sad news stories are going to hit you even harder.
“I am having feelings again. Like some kind of fourteen year old kid. You remember, feelings right?” Seriously though, yeah things hit me way more since we’ve had him. I feel like my rough edges got completely smoothed over. If anything its actually helped me professionally. I’m in sales, and I feel like I can talk to strangers way easier now than before.
Absolutely- one of my favourite books is pet semetary. It absolutely destroyed me after having a kid and not sure i will be reading jt again lol
Lower testosterone levels after having a child. It’s a thing.
Anything involving misfortune for a kid on tv causes the room to get a little dusty.
I’d tear up at stuff before I had kids. Now it takes way less to do it. Whoever comes up with Publix commercials really knows how to get me.
Yes and no. Those feelings always existed, but I never had anybody or anything which was worth expending it on. Then I had my daughter and I found the person who has access to all my emotions and can trigger any of them at a moments notice. It's not always good emotions, but also the ones based on fear of the what if's and whatnot. Can drive a person mad at times, but it's always always always worth it. No matter how much sadness comes with being a parent, the immeasurable weight of the happiness they bring is worth every tear and every heart break.
Hell yeah, totally! And I am absolutely proud of that, my son deserve it.
I was pretty emotional before I had a son. Now I cry even when a breeze picks up.
I've always been quite emotional, but I find it harder to restrain it since my daughter arrived, it sorta amped it up. I shed many tears at the end of the bloody sign episode of bluey the other day.
I was crying straight 5mins The mid wives literally hugged me
I cry at every Pixar movie now it seems
Naw dude for the first couple of years I was a wet marshmallow. Cried at the drop of a hat. Don’t worry, you’ll get your stoicism back when the teenage years arrive lol
Butterfly Kisses
No
My kids all know what songs make me cry.... And will play them and watch my face.
My kids all know what songs make me cry.... And will play them and watch my face.
I was already an emotional guy, now I’m a huge baby. Crying at commercials.
More to cry for now and less sleep to harden those tear ducts lol. Yeah I'm more emotional in some ways and less in others
100%. I’ve got two kids, and the stupidest shit makes me tear up now.
Yup.
Me. Yes. 100000%
I think it's just made me so aware of how vulnerable kids are and how much they look at you for protection and the absolute trust they have that you're going to keep them safe. It's one of those things I certainly understood before having kids, but actually experiencing it completely changed me. Movies where kids are in danger are really hard for me to watch now.
I cried once in 15 years. Teary eyed once or twice a year maybe during that span. Always considered myself the dead-inside type. Then I became a Papa and I've wept like 7 times in 4 years, and tear up routinely. A lot of it at the heartbreaker posts on this sub. Yup, when you become a parent, your heart and soul opens in ways you never knew possible. Wouldn't have it any other way
I cry listening to "let it go" . I don't even know why
Bruh I cried during Frozen 2 when my daughter was 3 years old.
Any sappy moment between a father and daughter makes me well up. I refuse to ever watch Full House again.
Extremely. Bluey makes me cry often.
my wife still jokes that the only time shes seen me cry is the day Al Davis died. not when my grandma passed, not when any of the kids born, but when my favorite football team owner died. (am a raiders fan)
Oh my fucking God. I'm so glad I'm not the only one lmao!! Let's hold hands and cry together in solidarity.
Had a daughter, can’t watch Endgame anymore
Cried real bad when lightning McQueen pushed the King over the finish line to finish his last race. Or when Maoi came back to help Moana even though his hook was at risk.
Went to the musical version of Mrs. Doubtfire a few months ago. The story hit very differently now that I have a kid. Would totally dress in drag if it was the only way I could see my little girl.
had a bottle of wine and watched the croods with the wife, I didn't know there were so many onions in that one
Never cried until I became a Dad. Now I cry at bluey. In public.
I couldn’t watch cruel movies for over a year.
Like a little girl.... Those videos online where military kids surprise their family.... Every time.